Sensible people get the greater part of their own living done during their own lifetime. A man at five and thirty should no more regret not having had a happier childhood than he should regret not having been born a prince of the blood (a person legitimately descended in dynastic line from any of a realm’s hereditary monarchs). People do not have fortunes left them nowadays; men have to work and women marry for money. It is a dreadfully unjust World. There is no doubt that the growth of urban life and the associated collectivistic activities which are for the benefit of all, but belong to no individual, demand for their full enjoyment a system of taboos, either automatic and instinctive or self-imposed by an effort of discipline. It is only so that the municipal organization of books and pictures and music and gardens and fountains, and all the privileges and the conveniences of urban life, become possible. The individual in whom the taboos necessary for such organization are not either automatic or self-imposed is an anti-social individual, and his elimination would be for our benefit. Pain of mind is relieved by an abstraction of solid thought. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 5

For a while, some of the taboos in question are objectified in rules and regulations with penalties for their violation, many could not be carried out by force, even with an army of officials, unless supported by the general taboo-observance of the community. Many skills are learned by observational learning, or modeling. Observational learning is achieved by watching and imitating the actions of another person or by noting the consequences of a person’s actions. In other words, information is imparted by example, before direct practice is allowed. The value of learning by observation is obvious: Imagine trying to tell someone how to tie a shoes, do a dance step, crochet, or play the trumpet. I believe that anything can be learned from direct experience can be learned by observation. Often, this allows a person to skip the tedious process of experimenting with various methods of doing something until one finds the most successful stage of learning. The recognition of the permanence of the unmentionable-observing impulse, and the constant tendency to develop new taboos, may enable us to face with calmness the counterbalancing fact of the falling away of anathemas which have served their purpose and are no longer required under changed social conditions.

In every life, go it fast, go it slow, there are critical pausing-place. When the journey is renewed the face of the country is changed. That process is always going on, and in some spheres, it has during recent years moved with unusual rapidity. The reality of the changes that have thus taken place, whether they are to be approved or condemned, we may thus all accept. As often happens, it is small things—small yet significant—which enable us to grasp the reality of change. When we read Ryan Phillippe’s Diary, it is the minute points which fascinate us, for they enable us to realize profound differences in the attitude of seventeenth-century people compared with modern humans; as when Ryan found lice in a strange bed he slept in, which made us merry. I always recall as significant (so that I noted it in my Impressions and Comments for 23 March 2016) the first occasion on which I observed a young woman on a street in Sacramento, CA pausing a moment to adjust her stocking without embarrassment and without going a step out of her way. I had been brought up in the Victorian period when, if a woman even of the poorest class (though, for a matter of that, it is women of low class who are most prudish) wished to pull up her stockings, she retired into the darkest alley she could find wither face to the wall. The difference is typical of a revolutionary change in the whole attitude of women.

That was wartime, and the Great War undoubtedly had its influence in the movement we are here considering, not indeed by generating but by accelerating it. All the social changes which were witnessed during the war in the belligerent countries would have taken place without it. However, they would have taken place more gradually and unevenly, not in so dramatic and spectacular a shape. Never think of anything until you have first asked yourself if there is an absolute necessity for doing it, at that particular moment. Thinking of things, when things need not be thought of, is offering an opportunity to Worry; and Worry is the favorite agent of Death when the destroyer handles his work in a lingering way, and achieves premature results. Never look back, and never look forward, as long as you can possibly help it. Looking back leads the way to sorrow. And looking forward ends in the cruelest of all delusions: it encourages hope. The present time is the precious time. Live for the passing day: the passing day is all that we can be sure of.

The whole series and changes, so far as women have been concerned—and it is in connection with women that the violated taboos have caused most uproar—were the outcome of a single movement: the movement for making women the companions of men. They were not that in mediaeval theory; women for that theory were either above an or she was below him; as Miss Eileen Power remarks, she was Janus-faced: in one of her aspects, she was Mary, the mother of God and the savior of men; in the other, Eve the seducer of man and the cause of all his woe. By the nineteenth century this theory had become reduced to an empty shell of convention, but it still retained influence, even though within the shell new conceptions were germinating and causing to crack. The woman moulded according to these new conceptions is no longer the angel-devil which her predecessor seemed to imaginative eyes, but obviously made to be—as witnessed even by her hair and her skirts and the simple fashion of her garments—the social equal and companion of man, whether in work or play, even perhaps the play of the sex. Life is so constructed that the event does not, cannot, will not match the expectation.

If the person with whom power relates causes you to sin, cut off the communication and cast them from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. We are to live and respond in the faith which is as floating on the Albatross in a White Squall. Dependency is a drag! A martyr! A disaster! This is the experience we have with a dependent personality. Every endeavor to relate seems thwarted. Every effort to respond comes to naught. Every attempt at ministry goes astray. One is bogged down, engulfed by the other’s needs. Let me put the problem differently: one does not know what the dependent person is experiencing. He or she withholds information necessary to the development of a mutually satisfying relationship. Thus, one finds oneself doing extra work. The harder the responder tried to respond, the less satisfied the other seems. A little help mysteriously expands into the demand for a lot of helping. A little care somehow gets transformed into endless caring.

What begins as meaningful support turns into an irritating Albatross, Gil Martin (played by Ryan Phillippe) engulfed in a White Squall, trapped in a room, on a skinning ship, and one cannot figure out what has gone wrong. Be patient with yourself if you are not readily curious about other people. There are powerful reasons why you have not been able to protect and develop your natural capacity for curiosity. You will be able to get to the root of some of these obstacles as you work with remembering. In the meantime, praise yourself whenever you do notice that you are questioning or wondering about other people’s lives. One possibility overlooked in our discussion of forgetting is that memories may be lost as they are being formed. For example, a head injury may cause a gap in memories preceding the accident. Retrograde amnesia, as this is called, involves forgetting events that occurred before an injury or trauma. In contrast, anterograde amnesia involves forgetting events that follow an injury or trauma.

In the film The I Inside Simon Cable (Ryan Phillippe), after a near-death experience, awakens with amnesia and the ability to travel back and forth in through time. This thriller is a lot what retrograde amnesia can be like. It takes a certain amount of time to move information from short-term to long-term memory. The forming of a long-term memory is called consolidation. Simon Cable wakes up in a hospital bed, confused and disoriented. He soon discovers from doctors that he has amnesia and is unable to remember the last two years of his life. Simon Cable investigates what has happened to him and slowly pieces together the enigmatic past. You can think of consolidation as being somewhat like writing your name in wet concrete. Once the concrete is set, the information (your name) is fairly lasting. However, while it is setting, it can be wiped out (amnesia) or scribbled over (interference). Simon Cable finds himself leaping through time between 2000 and 2002 as his past returns to him.

Recent memories are more easily disrupted than older memories. Apparently, consolidation is already complete. That is why Simon Cable, much like other people with head injuries, lost his memories before the accident. His heart stopped for two minutes and he was dead. When he came back to life, it was a puzzle and he was struggling to remember what happened. Many parts of the brain are responsible for memory, but the hippocampus is particularly important. The hippocampus seems to act as a sort of switchboard station (an apparatus for varying connections between electric circuits in other applications) between short-term and long-term memory. Humans who have had hippocampal damage show a striking inability to store new memories. Described as typical, one year after a head injury damaged his hippocampus, a 42-year-old man, continued to give his age as 41. He also reported he felt as just though the head injury had just occurred. His memory of events before the head injury remained clear, but he found forming new long-term memories almost impossible. (He suffered, in other word, from anterograde amnesia.) #RyanPhillippe 4 of 5

When his family member moved to a new apartment a few block away, a cross the park, he could not remember the new address. Month after month, he read the same magazines over and over without finding them familiar. If you were to meet this man, he would seem fairly normal, since he still has short-term memory. However, at the time, if you were to leave the room and return 15 minutes later, he would act as if he had never seen you before, and run off. Then he would see you months later, and be looking sad, but then notice you and perk up like a flower, and walk home. And people are wondering what happened to this guy, before Christmas of 2015, you guys spent every day together and he went from looking angry to happy, and then he just disappears. Then all this drama erupts in his personal life, and he totally shuts down and acts like he does not know anyone. Years ago, one of his favorite uncles passed away, but he suffers the same grief anew each time he is told of the death. Lacking the ability to form new lasting memories, he lives eternally in the present.  If you will receive yourself in the fires of sorrow, God will help you make nourishment for other people. (www.thedeedle.com)

Vengeance, bloodlust, severe dehumanization, torture, acting with extreme prejudice is irresponsible. Nationally, 70 percent agree that when a boy is growing up, it is very important for him to have a few fist fights. Violent behavior among delinquent people does not appear overnight. Usually, their capacity for violence develops slowly, as they move from minor aggression to increasingly brutal acts. Eighteen percent of the population admit to having slapped or kicked another person. Overall, aggression increases dramatically in early adolescence as boys gain physical strength and more access to weapons. Social learning theory holds that we learn to be aggressive by observing belligerence in others. Social learning theory combines learning principles with cognitive processes, socialization, and modeling to explain behavior. According to this view, there is no instinctive human programming for fist-fighting, mass injury, knife wielding, gun loading, 95-mile-an-hor bean balls, or other violent or aggressive behaviors. Hence, aggression must be learned. Violence seems to beget violence, from generation to generation. Its very long history, dating back to our origins, has a momentum that shows little indication of slowing down. It is as if we were caught in an unresolved and seemingly unresolvable blood feuds. There may be talk of honor, but it is mostly just more fuel for the fires of violence and has nothing to do with real honor. #RandolphHarris 1 of 5

A single deed of violence and cruelty affects our nerves more than when these are exercised on a more extended scale. While school violence and drugs have been perceived by the public as problems primarily for urban school districts, declining test scores and poor academic performance are a nationwide concern. Children and adults are treated to an almost nonstop parade of aggressive models, in the media as well as in actual behavior. We are without a doubt, an aggressive culture. Every day, TV provides an endless stream of bad models, especially concerning violence. In the United States of America, there are nearly 200 hours of violent programs per week. Eight-one percent of all programs contain violence, which is often quite unrealistic. For instance, an astounding 73 percent of violent character go unpunished, and 58 percent of violent acts do not lead to painful results. Only 16 percent of all program shows any realistic long-term consequences for violence. So the problem many not be the violence in the TV programs, the problem might be people think violence is acceptable because so many people on TV go unpunished and do not see to get hurt. Younger children often do not grasp the nuances of TV plots. A child may simply remember that when good guys were bothered in some way by others, they aggressed. Heroes on TV are as violent as the villains, and they usually receive praise for their violence. #RandolphHarris 2 of 5

Disinhibition (the removal of inhibition) leads to acting out behavior that normally would be restrained. For instance, many TV programs and the news may give the message that violence is acceptable behavior that leads to success and popularity. For some people the message can lowers inhibitions against action out hostile feelings. In Sacramento, California USA, three news anchors actually went on air and encouraged people to engage in violence, but where not fired for their actions. Another effect of TV violence is that it tends to lower sensitivity to violent acts. As anyone who has seen a street fight or a mugging call tell you, TV violence is sanitized and unrealistic. The real thing is gross, ugly, and gut-wrenching. Social learning theory applies that aggression begets aggression. In other words, watching a prized fight or violent television program may increase aggression, rather than drain off aggressive urges. Viewers who watch violent DVDs, news, and videotapes have more aggressive thoughts. Violent thoughts often precede violent actions. Thus, the spiral of aggression might be broken if we did not so often portrait it, reward it, and glorify it. In many cases, the products can react to re-form the original reactants. Reactions in which the products can themselves react to re-form reactants are called reversible reactions. The World’s most peaceful societies actively teach their children to be cooperative, non-violent, and helpful. #RandolphHarris 3 of 5

The process of learning violence is reversible. Anger control can be successful in teaching some people to control the rage and aggressive impulses. Anger control refers to personal strategies for reducing or cubing anger. The key to remaining calm is to define upsetting situations as problems to be solved. Therefore, to limit anger, people are taught to: Define the problem as precisely as possible. Make a list of possible solutions. Rank the likely success of each solution. Choose a solution and try it. Assess how successful the solution was, and make adjustments if necessary. The reverse reaction can occur, but at first the rate is slow because of the small concentration of options. However, as time goes on, the rate of anger decreases because it helps lessen tendencies toward violence, and other destructive outbursts. For the more immediate future, it is clear that we need more people who are willing to engage in prosocial behavior (actions that are constructive, altruistic, or helpful to others). #RandolphHarris 4 of 5

Those who have never been guilty of any indiscretion are generally people who have very little active virtue. If you feel shame over hurting another, stay with that dishonor until a feeling of remorse arises, and then make amends from your heart. If you are reluctant to do so, admit this, letting any disgrace over such reluctance further spur you into taking healing action. Turning toward your shame, feeling it fully without losing yourself in its viewpoint and contractedness is one of the biggest and most courageous steps you will ever take. Yes, doing so hurts, but such pain is secondary to the healing that you are making possible through your bravery, the healing that begins when you cease being a victim or denier of your embarrassment. Disgrace can bend and halt us, and sometimes needs to—such as when we are mistreating or are about to mistreat another—but is does not have to break us. Remember that the more compassion and vulnerability you can approach your shame with, the greater odds are that you will handle it skillfully. Virtue, soon or late, meets the good it merits. #RandolphHarris 5 of 5

Throughout history, the treatment enslaved people received and the amount of social mobility afforded them varied greatly, depending on economic and political circumstances. In some societies, enslaved people had legal rights, were fairly well treated, assumed important political positions, and could gain freedom and become respected members of society. Slavery in the United States was very different because of racism and a supposed link between biology and class position. Some sociologist maintain that when slavery was abolished in the United States of America, Southern African Americans entered the second major system of stratification—the caste system.  Not only African Americans are part of the caste system, but other cultures are well, however. Member of distinct families and lineages have restrictive sexual code that was ensured by a belief in ritual pollution, which held that even casual contact, among people from different social strata caused those of higher ranks to be contaminated. If a person from a high social hierarchy has the sex with a member of a lower caste, their defilement cannot be removed. This belief was very important in protecting the integrity of caste boundaries.

In a caste system, rank is hereditary and permanent, and marriage between members of different categories is prohibited. As an ideal type, the caste system is totally closed—status is ascribed, and no matter what they might do to change it, people inherit the social position of their parents. Power is the second dimension of class ranking. Power is the ability to realize one’s will, even against resistance and the opposition of others. There is a difference between personal power—the ability to make decision that affect one’s life—and social power—the ability to make decisions that affect the lives of others. Of course, power can refer to physical force, or the threat of violence by a person or group against others. However, authority, or legitimate power, carries far more weight in the conduct of human affairs. The difference in wealth leads to the formation of classes, which have similar lifestyles, or ways their members consumer goods and express their social worth. Differential wealth also gives social classes different life changes, or opportunities for securing such things as healthy, education, and longevity. We often use the word wealth to mean money, but it is more than just about financial standing.

In advanced industrial societies, wealth includes a person’s or family’s total economic assets. Wealth comes in the form of knowledge, human capital, stocks, real estate, trusts, yachts, and others goods and services are vitally important to class standing. For most people, however, income, which includes money earned in the form of wages and salaries, is the primary economic asset. Suppose you were given the task of helping the underprivileged in the United States of America. How would you go about identifying those are truly need financial assistance? Poverty is about the lack of food, housing, medical care, and other basic necessities. However, if you look more carefully you will see that in United States of America, poverty is also seen as failure, degradation, insecurity, and being at the very margins or even beneath mainstream society, as the term underclass clearly implies. In your assessment of who is and who is not poor, you can take either absolute or a relative approach. Absolute poverty occurs when people fall below a minimum subsistence level and are unable to function as members of society. For example, adults require at least 1,500 calories each day to function, and those who fall beneath this daily minimum may be defined as poor (and at the edge of survival) in absolute terms. Relative poverty is a lack of resources relative to others and the overall standards of a society. So, there is really nothing funny about being poor, especially when people are trying hard and being oppressed.

Since the majority of American have little contact with the poor, where do they get their opinions and “facts”? For many, the answer is that they watch television cop shows, Hollywood movies, and the evening news, or they listen to the talk radio, which daily informs millions of people about poverty and other social problems. Overwhelmingly, these mainstream media focus on inner-city ethic groups as the prototypical poor. According to the media spotlight, the vast majority of the poor are either young African American men or ghetto single moms (with many young children) who are routinely portrayed as preferring welfare to work. Examine the evening news or a Hollywood movie and its portrayal of poverty. Who are the poor and why are they poor? Are these portraits consistent with the government’s profile of the poor, which we now examine? The movie “54” with Ryan Phillippe as Shane 54 shows how a young man desires a more prestigious life, and gets in with the wrong crowd, and then loses everything. It was really sad to see him going from being a bright-eyed young man, with big dreams, to living on the streets wrapped in a trash bag because he was trying to win the affections of a young lady in a different caste.

The World has arrived at a period which renders it the part of Wisdom to pay homage to the prospective precedents of the Future in preference to those of the Past. The Past is dead, and had no resurrection; but the Future is endowed with such a life, that it lives to us even in anticipation. The Past is, in many things, the foe of mankind; the Future is, in all things, our friend. In the Past is no hope; the Future is both hope and fruition. The Past is the textbook of tyrants; the Future the Bible of the Free. Those who are solely governed by the Past stand like Lot’s wife, crystallized in the act of looking backward, and forever incapable of looking before. The future not being born; we abstain from baptizing it. For me, less privileged than my fellows, I never seen the future. I say that men who do not live in the present chiefly, but hamper themselves with giant tasks in excesses of alarm for the future, however devoted and noble they may be, reduce themselves to the dimensions of pigmies; they have the cry of infants. You reply, Foresight is an element of love of country and mankind. However, how often is not the foresight guesswork? The doubts of the past may be as nothing to the dangers of the future.

With half-baked mystical promises, every man’s work, pursued steadily, tends to become an end in itself, and so to bridge over the loveless chasms of life. Each day, the wire services that provide news capsules for all media—from radio to the Internet—detail stories of bureaucratic waste, inefficiency, and corruption. Television news magazines like 60 Minutes and Nightline virtually depend on these stories for their popularity and high ratings, as do late-night television comics, newspapers, and magazines. In terms of challenges to government and the establishment in general, however. The mass media cannot compare to the diverse voices and opinions on the Internet or those associated with interactive television, cellular phones, and other evolving media. For example, we do not have bloggers creating their own forms of news and in two short years, Randolph Harris Research and Development has written more articles than journalist, who have been in the business for 40 years, which might be generating some animosity from seasoned jerkenheads.  The news of the day is commonly a lie, and that lie a stupid one: somebody in, somebody out, a new chariot, a new play, a hand at quadrille descried to a pip.  

This is the most dangerous game. When you can turn to light, do not make this darkness your house. Do not you wander here searching and moaning.  Many media scholars believe that the techomedia are radically altering virtually all groups and organizations Worldwide. Technopagans, a term coined by Anne Rice, are creating endless clusters of new and very valuable groups with some common intense commercially exploitable interest. It is clear that the technomedia and techonopagans have enabled many marginalized groups—those based on ethnicity, gender, age, disability, religion, and sexual orientation, as well as low-income nations (the politically correct term for third World country)—to vice their perspectives, learn about the ideas and concerns of others, and instantaneously communicate with legions of people across this beautiful Earth. Some technopagans and scholars contend that the technomedia has brought even greater changes to bureaucracies. With the help of the new media, debureaucratization of the unreality that TV and newspapers play in the dissemination of fostering lies and trauma for entertainment will proceed at an accelerate rate in this century, to the point that virtually all news bureaucracies will become smaller and more manageable, and some will become obsolete because they are not providing the public with helpful information, besides the weather.  

Electronic communications have already begun to produce dramatic changes in many large corporations, as it has facilitated the removal of middle management and eliminated millions of jobs. For instance, bank tellers have been replaced by automated teller machines (ATMs), TV news anchors are expected to be replaced by robots, and cars can now even drive themselves. I used to be against the rise in technology, until I noticed how rude and sarcastic many humans are. I come from a family where you are not supposed to speak much, and if you do not have anything nice to say, do not say anything at all because not only is it improper, but being rude to the wrong person can get your wig split. However, after interacting with psychopaths who are employed, I welcome machines. I do not like unnecessary rude comments, nor assumptions. And since we cannot control people, and do not like to complain, many corporations are just finding it easier to replace them. However, it is sad because human interaction is great, but no human interaction is better than dealing with deviant people. As more people shop by computer, the number of department stores and supermarkets may decline as well, which could be a good thing because it will reduce the number of cars on the road, decrease vehicle insurance rates and the number of automobile accidents will go down, saving millions of lives.  

Inexpensive, high-quality videos and teleconferencing, like Cisco TelePresence, which is a TV that can link two physically separated rooms so they resemble a single conference room, will eliminate educational bureaucracies at all levels and even supplement the work office. Basically, it is a TV that you can watch, and the people in the TV can see you and interact with you also. If you think about it, technology wise, as a society, we are behind. We do not have many internet cafes, it is hard to find public WiFi, and there are no pay phones on the street. Not everyone has a cell phone, and what happens if your cell phone dies or gets lost and you need to make a phone call? Society is set up for the wealthy, and technology is an equalizer, making sure that everyone has access to the resources they require. We should have modern telephone booths, with an integrated computer capable of 5G internet service (5G is about 100 times faster than what you are using today), where you can pay to access the internet, make phone calls, and charge your phone on every street corner by now, it is almost 2020 and the World, technologically speaking still looks like we are stuck in 1985.  

 It has also been predicted that many of these overpriced universities and colleges will also be replaced by a small number of education centers with high-tech media capabilities and media-savvy instructors, who will teach and offer affordable and safe college degrees to students all over the globe. Again, this is good people will not have to buy school clothes, will not get bullied, nor will they get sexually assaulted like many young men and women do on college campuses. It will also reduce fraternity hazing, saves lives, and keep cars off of the road, which will save energy and the environment. Without so many people on the streets, crime will also go down because people will be tucked away safely in their houses, and when they go out, it will be for a purpose. Evening—that mystic period between the glare and gloom of the World when life is changing from one sphere or condition to another. Ah, the promise of the night. What does it not hold for the weary! What old illusion of anticipation is not here forever repeated! Moonlight is a medium the most suitable for a romance writer to get acquainted with his illusive guest.  

 Of all human dealings, satire is the very lowest, and most mean and common. It is the equivalent in words for what bullying is in deeds; and no more bespeaks a clever being, then the other does a brave one. God never speaks to us in dramatic ways, but in ways that are subtle. Symbolic interactions contend that all of social life—including social institutions—are in a constant state of flux. This is because people continually define and redefine relationships, and even those social arrangements that appear to be deeply embedded in social structure change. Interactions contend that there is more flexibility in roles and relationships and much greater possibility for change. Interactionists stress that human social structure is built of all collections of people who interact with one another according to expectations rather than certainties. This results in a constant reordering of society as people in interaction define and redefine social relationships and expect changes. Most people yearn for intimacy and deeper connections. Going back to the roots of how you have developed your beliefs, fears, and hopes about life can be very exciting and illuminating. 

 If you are regarded as a hero, it is one thing to follow God’s way of service, but quite another thing if the road marked out for you by God required becoming one who submit meekly to domination or mistreatment by others. Are you ready to be sacrificed like that? Are you willing to give and be poured out until you are used up and exhausted? Competent communication requires the ability and the willingness to adapt communication behavior to changing situations. Some individuals, however, get locked into the mindset that they must play a certain role and there are no good substitutes. Leader, information giver, feeling expresser, and tension reliever are among the most likely candidates for role fixation—the acting out of a specific role alone no matter what the situation might require. Professional comedians sometimes do not know when to be serious in social gatherings. They are always “on.” Lawyers who cross-examine their spouses as they do hostile witnesses on the stand at a criminal trial may find their role fixation is a ticket to a court of a decidedly civil sort. 

 It is fiction to think that institutional arrangements benefit all individuals and society as a whole. Instead, institutional arrangements grant a disproportionate share of wealth, power, and privilege to certain individuals and classes, and it is they who seek to maintain the existing conditions or state of affairs by defining particular institutional arrangements—whether slavery, feudalism, or capitalist system—as vitally important to society. We look for vision from Heaven and for Earthshaking events to see God’s power. Even the fact that we are dejected is proof that we do this. Yet, we never realize that all the time God is at work in our everyday events and in the people around us. If we will only obey and do the task that He has placed closet too us, we will see Him. One of the most amazing revelations of God comes to us when we learn that. It is in the everyday things of life that we realize the magnificent of Christ. Society is structured, but many use their roles, statuses, and institutions to exploit and dominate subordinates as well as to maintain and perpetuate elite wealth, power, and privilege.  

 The American institution: the economy emphasizes, however, free enterprise, and religion free will; the family system promotes high mobility and individual choice; the education system stresses competition and being first; the mass media glorify stars and heroes, and the political system, with its democratic ideology, emphasizes the personal character of political candidates, as well as universal suffrage. Review the prevailing beliefs about love and intimacy at the time you grew up, and how your cultural roots helped shaped you. That consists of your ethnicity, class, geographical location, neighborhood, religion, education, and even how the media influenced you. Also, take a good look at the relationships you have experienced in your adult life to see how your fears, hopes, longings, and even aversions have been determined. Conflict theorists’ reason that it is impossible to understand human behavior without reference to social stratification, for people’s positions in the social hierarchy influence virtually everything they think and do.

 It is important to realize at the outset that stereotypes are not simply something that only bigots have experience with. We all know about stereotypes; they are a cognitive structure that contains the perceiver’s knowledge, beliefs, and expectancies about some human group. Stereotypes clearly do not give us the whole picture of a group, as if such a thing is even possible, and they are not neutral in their evaluations. Instead, stereotypes give us highly edited and distorted images of groups that tend to support the way groups are treated in society. Cultural stereotypes of minority groups, especially, tend to reflect the biases and the histories of the majority (keep in mind majority is a relative term that could relate to a mindset, gender, age group, and may vary depending on geographical location), such that the people being stereotypes are reduced to a few characteristics that are socially relevant for understanding that group’s perceived place in society.  

 We, as individuals, may not endorse these stereotypes at all, nor have any intention of seeing the World through prejudicial lenses. However, unfortunately, a stereotype, as just another schema that helps some process the World around them, and helps them maintain a view of that World that works in favor of their majority. If they know about them, people can inhibit these tendencies, but they have to have the cognitive capacity to overcome prejudice.  The inferences many may about other people’s behavior tends to be biased in favor of their in-group. People tend to make the in-groups they identify with look good and the outgroups they do not identify with look bad. In theory, in-group members seeing someone doing something bad will be more likely to attribute that behavior to internal causes if the person is not one of their, a member of the outgroup. However, if it is an in-group member doing something awful, they will attribute the bad sinful behavior to external factors. Examine your reasons and continually look back to the foundation of your love and affection and remember where your Source of power comes from.  

Be exhausted for God (Allah, Buddha, Djevel, Goddess, Jehovah, Lord, Nature) but remember that is your supply. The real test of spiritual focus is being able to bring your mind and thoughts under control. Is your mind focused on the face of an Idol? Is the idol yourself? Is it your work? If so, then your ability to see your creator is blinded. You will be powerless when faced with difficulties and will be forced to endure in deviance. If your power to see has been blinded, do not look back on your own experiences, but look to God. It is God you require. Lift up your eyes and see who has created things. Your mind is the greatest Gift God has given you, and it ought to be devoted entirely to your savior. This will be one of the greatest assets of your faith when a time of trial comes, because then your faith and the Spirit of your Source will work together. You will begin to see that your thoughts are from your Source as well, and your mind will no longer be at the mercy of your impulsive thinking, but will always be used in the service of your creator. Therefore, be deliberate careful and thoughtful. 

Good sense will shew you the power of self-conquest, and point out its means. The symbolic interactionist perspective views social meaning as arising through the process of social interactions. Contemporary symbolic interactionism rests on three basic premises: Human beings act toward things on the basis of the meanings that they attach to them. These meanings are derived from, or arise out of, social interactions with others. These meanings may be changed or modified through the process of interaction and interpretations. Proponents of this perspective, often referred to as the interactionist perspective, engage in mircolevel analysis, which focuses on the day-to-day interactions of individuals and groups in specific social situations. Because audience members (children and adults alike) can be influenced by real people or fictional heroes, storytellers many want to consider carefully how they depict their characters. Meaningful symbols are sounds, objects, colors, and events that represent something other than themselves, and are critical for understanding social interaction. Language is one of the most important and powerful meaningful symbols humans have created, because it allows us to communicate through the shared means of words. If people define situation as real, they are real in their consequences. Simply put, people define social reality through a process of mutual concessions and compromise.

The time that people put into a relationship impacts its strength. This includes how long they have known each other, how often they see each other, and how much time they spend together. More time tends to lead to stronger relationships. Relationships that are relatively strong can grow very quickly because when two people share an intense emotional experience, it strengthens the relationship between them.  Society has a structure consisting of a variety of important components—for example, basic social institutions such as the family, religion, education, politics, and the economy. These institutions are interrelated and interdependent. Each performs an important function contributing to the overall structure of society. A problem in one area creates a problem for the entire system, and for society to function properly, all social institutions must fulfill their basic functions. When all aspects of society are functioning properly, they are in a state of equilibrium, or balance. A companionable man will put up with many inconveniences for the sake of enjoying agreeable society. The cranberry juice cannot be bad where the company is agreeable. When people are angry and passionate, one does not so much mind what they say. However, when they speak with kindness, it seems to pierce to the very heart. When you and another are truly connected, emotionally and otherwise, the arising of emotional disconnection is not a problem because there is enough trust and safety to openly communicate and explore this more deeply, which almost inevitably leads to more connection, thereby reinforcing and deepening your trust. Simply saying, “I feel sad about our disconnection, and I miss the feelings we used to share,” can help catalyze emotional reconnection.

 Communication, at its best, is communion and articulation functioning as one. It is the electricity and circuit board of relationship, optimally flowing when its emotional components are illuminated, respected, and fully connected. It is a touching thing to hear the mind reverting to the ordinary occupations and pursuits of health, when the body lies before you weak and helpless; however, when those occupations are of a character the most strongly opposed to anything we associate with grave or solemn ideas, the impression produced is infinitely more powerful. There are two sorts of great Worlds; the great vulgar World, which includes all but the very best in taste, principles, and manners, whether it be in a capitol or a country; and the great respectable World, which, infinitely less numerous, contains the judicious, the instructed, the intelligent, and, on some questions, the good. It is always best to not get in trouble and to dodge people who want to bring you trouble. A good dodger seldom gets into trouble in this World, and lives to a green antiquated age, while the noble patriot and others of his kind lie in dungeons. The man that covets good will more than money, and the praise of benevolence more than that of private gain has some soul in him; and other things equal, is to be trusted before him of a contracted spirit, and self-love, in all his actions.  

We live in a physical World whose properties are familiar, and, it is around us all the time. We cherish our own space. If you would have your son or daughter to walk honorably through the World, you must not attempt to clear the stones from his or her path, but tech your children to walk firmly over them—not insist upon leading a child by the hand, but let your child learn to go alone. Artists as reporters represent their World, and they even expect their work to have an impact on the World, to reveal hidden or universal truths. The work is about knowing and appreciating the beautiful, and that is how we can make the World a better place. Each photograph represents a particular intellectual, emotional, or expressive quality of the subject, they represent powerful emotions and feelings and passions. In 1666, Sir Isaac Newton demonstrated that objects appear to be a certain color because they absorb and reflect different parts of the visible spectrum. Obviously, not all artists are able to utilize light as fully as architects. Architects, particularly, must concern themselves with light. However, especially if artist and photographers are interested in representing the World, they must learn to imitate the effects of light in their work. There is something called the atmospheric perspective or aerial perspective, and these rules state that the quality of the atmosphere (the haze and relative humidity) between us and large objects, such as mountains, changes their appearance. Objects further away from us appear less distinct, often cooler, or bluer in color, and the contrast between light and dark is reduced. Some of these photographs throw a veil of matchless color, that lucid interval of Morning dawn and dewy light on which the Eye dwells…and it is a sacrilege to pierce the mystic shell of color in search of form.

With linear perspective one might adequately describe physical reality—a building, for instance—but through light one could reveal a greater spiritual reality. In this photograph, the light is much more expressive. It is, in large part, the dramatic play of light and dark in the photograph that contributes to this expressivity. The perspective system employed is used to focus our attention on the building, it is light that draws our attention to the grandeur and beauty. The Heavenly light surrounding the Capitol contrasts dramatically with the darkness of the rest of the composition. The building is symbolically offering you its body as nourishment. This purely spiritual act contracts with the gluttonous Worldly activity going on in the foreground, where a dog knaws at a bone, and a cat searches for leftovers. Light here symbolizes the spiritual World, and darkness our Earthly home. Light and dark have traditionally had strong symbolic meaning in Western culture. We have only to think of the Bible, and the first lines of the Book of Genesis, which very openly associates the dark with the bad and the light with good. In the beginning God created the Heaven and the Earth. And the Earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters. And God said, Let there be light: and there was light. And God saw the light, that it was good: and God divided the light from the darkness. In the history of art, this association of light or white with good and darkness or black with evil was first fully developed in the late eighteenth-and early nineteenth-century color theory of the German poet and dramatist Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.

For Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, colors were not just phenomena to be explained by scientific laws. They also had moral and religious significance, existing halfway between the goodness of pure light and the damnation of pure blackness. In Heaven, there is only pure light, but the fact that we can experience color—which, according to the laws of optics, depends upon light mixing with darkness—promises us at least the hope of salvation. In the first, the figures are all passive, sleeping, or dead. In the second, the figures are bathed in an almost pure white light and barely recognizable at the top center of the painting. Figures swirl around him as if life itself is being born out of a vortex. Although this opposition between dark and light is taken for granted in our culture, many people of color, with reason, find such thinking offensive. They are especially offended by the use of the term value to describe gradations of light and dark, so that black is low, and white is high in value.Artists and art historians alike use the term as a part of a specialized descriptive vocabulary that, in itself, would seem to be art the furthest remove from issues of race and the relative worth of human beings. Nevertheless, it is clear that since Biblical times, Western culture has tended to associate blackness with negative qualities and whiteness with positive ones, and it is understandable why people might take offense at this usage. For this reason, we use the word key instead of value, substituting the musical metaphor for the moral and economic one. If for Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, blackness is not merely the absence of color, but the absence of good, for African Americans, blackness is just the opposite. Mighty drums echoing the voices of Spirits…these sounds are rhythmic, the rhythm of vitality, the rhythm of exuberance and the rhythms of Life. These are the sounds of blackness. Blackness—the presence of all color.

When restoring some artwork, technicians found that the dull, somber hues always associated with Michelangelo were not the result of his palette, that is, the range of colors he preferred to use, but of centuries of accumulated dust, smoke, grease, and varnishes made of animal glue painted over the ceiling by earlier restorers. The colors are in fact much more saturated and intense than anyone had previously supposed. Some experts, in fact, find them so intense that they seem, beside the golden tones of the unrestored surface, almost garish. As a result, there has been some debate about the merits of the cleaning. However, it is not a controversy. It is a culture shock. Therefore, agree with your adversary quickly. Do it quickly—bring yourself to judgment now. In moral and spiritual matters, you must act immediately. God is determined to have His child as pure, clean, and white as driven snow, and as long as there is disobedience, God will allow His Spirit to use whatever process it may take to bring us to obedience. The fact that we insist on proving that we are right is almost always a clear indication that we have some point of disobedience. Assuredly, I say to you, you will by no means get out of there until you have paid the last penny.  

We set forth on Earth as architects of our soul and relationship with God, the goal is to fulfill a mission so we can return to our official house with God. The story of our relations is to open up to people and teach them compassion and love so we can help them heal and grow as beings, and what we put out there, we will get in return. I know many people feel hopeless sometime like nothing will ever change, but keep being a good person. Sir Isaac Newton’s third law of physical states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. The statement means that in every interaction, there is a pair of forces acting on the two interacting objects. The size of the force on the first object equals the size of the force on the second object. This means that if you send love out and help others, the Universe will send you love and assistance back in return. And I continue to be the excited observer of the amazing benefits to my own personal and professional growth, as well as to the accelerated healing in my life and in the lives of the people around me. 

To be empathetic is to emotionally resonate with what another is feeling—we are in their shoes, in their skin, in their position. We get them. Empathy cuts through our isolation, generating a network of interconnection and bring our heart out of the cold Winter storm, making compassion possible. On the spiritual level, I believe that as we master the psychological dynamics of our soul and our relationship with God and others, we blend emotional sensitivity, understanding, and savvy where they are intended to go and the steps and these choices move us toward the unfolding of our destiny on Earth and beyond. It means knowing what you are feeling while you are feeling, and being able to both contain and openly express it.  In my heart is the feeling of the purest love and beauty, I feel showered in light, love, amazement and wonder. This feeling of love in my heart helps to end my suffering, and allows me to get to the roots, exploring it deeply, moving through it slowly but surely. You cannot emerge from your pain unless you enter it, and this begins with turning inward. 

Have compassion for the you who fears doing this, holding him the way you would hold a frightened baby, keeping him close to you and letting him know that he is loved and protected. This blissful sense of union with you being will allow you to visit a remarkable place of Heavenly feelings, and as you go about your day and gaze into the eyes of other, an arc of light will envelope them. Each of your emotions has a purpose and is worth getting to know. When I focus on things that I love and make me happy and am around kind people, I feel like I am transported into a White Squall of tranquility, oneness, and a rapture of love far beyond anything on this Earth. In these moments, time stands still and the eternity of God’s love and my echo of that love is in my soul and spirit. The emotional intimacy of the divine love becomes a glorious sphere of light and the depths of tenderness presents an ecstasy and an inner sense of comfort.  The enchanting blue World and the profound heart and soul are an inevitable part of life, and it carries me through my days. 

I cannot wait to meet the glory of the Heaven World, where there is an inner perfection of charming love that transcends all space and time, where Heaven and Earth are truly one, and Love’s eternal promise is fulfilled. Many of the wonderful people I meet on Earth, much like myself, are trying to find a spiritual partner to share their soul, intellectual, emotional, and physical life with. We all want to create a loving hose and lasting friendships, and those already in loving relationships want a way to deepen the connection between themselves and their beloved. What I have learned is that we are required to heal and focus on the things we love. We have talked so much about trauma because I feel that we all have been hurt to the core and before we can reach a deeper level of intimacy, we are required to address our inner pain so we can let go of it and allow love to flow in our heart, minds and body. I have learned that life and relationships mirror back to us who we are and what we need to learn and perhaps I attack so much pain because I have to teach others how to love. Who we are is a combination of the magnificent soul and spirit of God. 

Life can be so confusing and it can be painful, but what you choose to do with this pain is what is important. We have to learn is to understand and appreciate ourselves spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally. Each lesson we learn helps us to accept more of our loving qualities into our being and this becomes grounded in our core. And then we find ourselves having more control over the pleasant and unkind feelings and we can recognize negative habits and patterns that sabotage our relationships. Life can be a mystical experience, we already live in the greatest and most peaceful country on Earth, so there is no need to make war with our neighbors. Our human experience is meant to embrace the mysteries of love. Love is the reality of God, and I wish to reach the starry heights with you. Each of us wants to be loved, it is how we nourish our heart, soul, and body. Love recaptures the soul’s inception with God. Each of us is granted the gift of free will and you can choose to be kind and loving towards others or not. The essence of my being is love, and it is God’s given gift for me to help you open your heart and heal. 

I remember when I was a child, and would look up at the starry sky with my father, and he would tell me stories about how beautiful and perfect Earth used to be and how people were like angels. Perfect and kind. Each of us have a special experience and we may open our hearts and ask God to helps us love others. We can be a source of inspiration, and we can cry out for God’s help when we require it. Continue to send light and love to others and think good thoughts. Love is patiently awaiting our awakening, and it seeks to heal our soul’s memory. Sometimes we feel the sense of inner peace and harmony, even when we do not know where it is coming from. This is your soul; its quest is help you realize our natural state is a pleasant one. We all seek a higher meaning of life, no matter how much money we have nor how big our house is. When life is about making our dreams come true through honest means, the American dream can come true. We love each other the perfect way, we complement one another, and it is not surprising that others love us in return.