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Shut Up and Eat that Pot Roast!!!!!!
A reviving personality must be nourished with another kind of new communication—communication with people. Besides opening yourself to the richest of art and knowledge, you must also open yourself to new friendship, particularly to those which can reinforce your newly expanded interests.
Distance is melancholically beautiful, so I have left you for better memory. I have collected all the past dates into a book of verse waiting for your autograph. How long has it been since you noticed yourself warming to someone new, how long since you made even the mildest effort to bring a new person into your life and affections?
I wrote in white clouds, in the blue sky your name, but it was blown away by the wind, and I embroidered it in the sea, but it was broken up by the waves of the sea, so I etched it in my heart, and then nothing would make it disappear. Do not underestimate the difficulty of this process, the true revolution of our times is the disappearance of friendship.
Most of us are so far out of the habit of searching for friends and retaining them that we feel it awkward and painful to begin. Tome goes by slowly, but your baby blue eyes are forever in my heart: they are as pure as crystal, as light as the moon, as deep as abyss and as white as snow…
You have a choice: you do not have to be the victim of loneliness. You can take charge of your present-day relationships by using your awareness and your knowledge of the past. Remembering and understanding the lessons of the past will give you much more control over how you choose to act in the present.
Remembering and getting to the root of your relationship issues can save you from repeating the same mistakes. You can actually choose to avoid that moment when you suddenly realize you have become your mother or father.
We have well-developed wings under your care, roaming in the blue sky homeland. No matter how far and high we fly, there is echo of your instructions. I will never forget your kind words, directing me to the right way.
I will never forget when you were ill, you stood on the platform, teaching us the difficult problems. I will never forget when we blundered, you help us up. I wish the blessing can express our earnings to you. You work hard for the bloom of flowers and maturity of fruits, I will remember your spirits forever.
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The nature of reality, words and ideas do have weight, to move people to do things. The man who loves, and loves truly, should not long permit its object to remain in any doubt of his feelings and intensions. People jog, play tennis, ride bicycles have low saturated fat content.
People who exercise keep their hearts, marriage, and career in good shape. However, there has been revealed an interesting connection between changes in a person’s life, and the development of malady, it had one serious flaw—all changes were simply catalogued and given equal importance or weight. The death of a spouse was given equal weight with a recent change of address.
Of the major life events, the loss of companionship, which included the death of a spouse, divorce, marital separation, and the death of a close family member, were consistently ranked as the most stressful and important. Divorce was seen as far more stressful, for example, than going to jail or losing one’s job.
A study was one to measure life changing events that occurred before the onset of an illness. The same pattern was discovered: usually six months to three months, and one week before the onset of illness there was a sudden increase in the weighted value of life change events occurring in the individual’s life.
Life may as properly be called an art as any other’s and the greatest incidents in it are no more to be considered as mere accidents than several members of a fine statue or a noble poem. Among U.S. Navy and Marine Corps personnel, or naval vessels (in essence, there were self-contained, quarantined environments, since the ships were at sea), in underwater demolition terms, in the Royal Norwegian Navy—those who fell ill were those who had been experiencing significant life changes.
In a series of studies in Sweden and Finland, we began to examine the specific relationship between cardiac disease, sudden death, and life changes. The development of a myocardial infraction was frequently precede by an abrupt increase in life change events six months to three months earlier.
The greater the changes in life events, the shorter the time interval. Moreover, by interviewing the spouse or close friends of the heart attack victims, we observed that the greater the life changes before the heart attack, the more likely it was that sudden death would occur.
Before I get into a relationship, I like to consider what kind of impact you will have on my life. Most people hope that an individual we do nice things for, will do the same to us, so we can feel we are worthy or love.
Sometimes I think I know where a person is coming from, but then they change and do somethings that hurt me and make me feel used. I am the type of person who likes to have a companion. The perfect person for me is someone who is mature and likes to work hard and stay home. When I am alone, I like to learn stuff, so I will read books to try and discover something to make life better.
For fun I love to look at nature and architecture. We are so lucky to have such a beautiful World, with people who work hard to make life so dynamic. You will begin to see a vibration and feel a visual depth. Formal relationships can transform otherwise static forms into a visually dynamic environment.
Nothing is more common than to call our own condition the condition of life. Let us cease to dispute, and learn to live. Even a man who has practiced in lovemaking till his own glibness has rendered him skeptical, may at last be overtaken by the lover’s awe.
If I love, I should love at once and without change. We find from the voice of history that those men are thought to have deserved best of their country who have occasionally withstood the intemperance opinion.
An ideal couple is one like my grandparents, two people who spend all of their time together, and are conservative. I love when we are sitting and reading in our cozy living room, a fire going in the fireplace, and soft music playing in the background. I love our deep connection and happiness in our house.
Peacefulness in our relationship is deeply appealing. To know you is happiness and to leave you is agony. At the time we depart, the hope of meeting again supports me. Three years goes by quietly. We have been happy, laughing and singing.
You are honest, kind, multitalented. I will trust the clouds to take my regards to you every moment. Let the time we spend together flow in our hearts like a happy river. The Earth grants beautiful and rich color to flowers, but keeps original plainness—the feeling showed by silent honesties is cherishable. I miss you.
Tremendous Basic Historical and Intellectual Knowledge
There is a common misconception that Earth is the Devil’s World, but we need to clear that up. Genesis 1:1 reports, Earth was created by God, it is a place of beauty and harmony. In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. Therefore, how this could be the Devil’s World? The Devil did not create it. I do not even think the Devil really exists. Maybe the Devil is really just dark energy that humans have manifested? Maybe this concept of the Devil is floating around as a test, to see who can see the truth? Perhaps God wanted to see if humans could take accountability for their own actions, and that is why the is this myth about the Devil.
2 Tim 1.7 reports, for the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power love and self-discipline. Those who choose to believe the Devil and worship the Devil’s words will burn in hell right alongside him. John 8.44 reports, you belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. You see, the Devil is the father of lies, these lies come from inside of bad people, therefore, lies and darkness is their father. Because humans choose to worship lies, lies have become the ruler of this World. -2 Corinthians 4:4 reports, the god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. Earth is an experiment, and many of you are failing, as you defend your father and his native langue of lies, but ignore the truth and light of God.
Sure, in your minds, this is the Devil’s World because that is your social construction of reality. However, for those who believe in God, we know that this is God’s World and he will redeem those who are doing things that are pleasing to him. You can run to that church everyday, but it does not mean you will be saved, actions speak louder than words and many of you are foul. John 15.19 reports, I have chosen you out of the World. Because of this, the World hates you. This World is so full of corruption and lies that they hate the light, they hate those who use honest means to succeed. Just remember, as Matthew 13.11 reports, you have been given knowledge of the secrets of heaven’s kingdom. So keep your faith and know that God will deliver us, and we will have peace, love, abundance, and happiness, only!
Just know that there are demons walking the Earth, not all are bad, but many are taking the shape of humans. Your friends could be possessed by demons, have you noticed how evil they have become? James 2.19 reports, you say you have faith, for you believe that there is one God. Good for you! Even the demons believe this, and they tremble in terror. Now, in European mythology, there is a myth about demons, and not all of them are bad, some of them are here to help God and humanity. Basically a demon is a beast, who got lost or did a lot of wrong and was sent to another plane to pay for their sins, maybe purgatory? But they suffer so much that they start to look like monsters, and when they come back to this plane, they do influence weak humans. In European myth, there are Queller demons. Queller demons were an extraterrestrial demon species that, oddly enough, dwelled within certain meteors. They were summoned to eliminate the insane, particularly in middle ages Europe.
As you can see, the people in the World is going mad. There is a violent crime every 22 seconds, property crime every 3 seconds, a murder about every 33 minutes, forcible rape about every 5.8 minutes, robber every 1.2 minutes, aggravated assault every 35 seconds, burglary every 14.9 seconds, larceny-Theft every 4.5 seconds, motor vehicles theft every 26 seconds. We need the National Security Agency to stop this crime and to save lives. Since 2006, 70,000 people have been killed and 25,000 are missing in Mexico alone. This is not how God intended us to live. God has promised to restore paradise. Revelations 21.3-4 reports, the faithful and righteous will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.
The only reason God is allowing this to play out because he wants everyone to see these humans are the problem, it is not the Devil, it is not God. It is people, they are the makers of their own hell. 2 Peter 3.9 reports, the Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance. So just know that all of this suffering will pass, and we will be saved. There is going to come a time when God’s will is going to be fully carried out and those evil will seek death, but they will not find it. Revelation 6:16-17 reports, the wicked called to the mountains and the rocks, “Fall on us and hide us from the face of him who sits on the throne and from the wrath of the innocent! For the great day of their wrath has come, and who can withstand it?” The good of heart will be saved. I like solitude. It is when you truly hear and speak your natural, unadulterated mind, and out comes your most stupid self as well as your most intelligent self. It is when you realize who you are and the extents of the good and the evils which you are capable of.
Undocumented American citizens are not supposed to be here, they are breaking the law by being here, and they do not deserve government resources. The unknown citizens killed 52 people, shooting dead 72 on a farm in 2010, murdering and tossing the lifeless bodies into mass graves. These victims included women and children, journalist, bloggers, and reporters. In the first three quarters of 2011, almost 13,000 people died because of these types of people. The Mexican drug war, over the past five years, is responsible for murdering 50,000 in drug-related violence. Every year, more than 5 million cars, 1.5 million commercial trucks and 3.8 million pedestrians cross northbound from Mexico into the United States here, bringing with them a ton of hidden narcotics.
In April 2011, the bodies of 190 people were found in a mass grave in the desert. News reported on a video showing four bound and bloody men, suspected to be Zetas, being interrogated off camera by a thug. People say illegal immigrants pay taxes, but not all of them do. Many illegal immigrants are criminals, well, all of them are criminals because they are not supposed to be here, but many of them are creating other crimes, and not all of them pay taxes. According to Fox News, illegal immigrants are costing tax payer $113 Billion a year, now that they have the American Dream Act and are allowed to go to college; they are costing tax payers even more. The reality is that many illegal immigrants are selling drugs, they are rapist, and murders and you support them! They have been blamed for setting fire to a mansion.
We have tax paying Americans, who cannot even afford to go to college, but we are paying for criminals to go to college and that is not fair. Traffickers are recruiting in the United States, and young male and female students are the target. High schools across the United States say cartel members have been on their campuses looking for people who are hungry and willing to do what is necessary to provide for themselves and families. Most notoriously, a 14-year-old from San Diego became a head-chopping cartel assassin. If we did not have illegal immigrants, wages for the jobs Americans do not want would increase, until an American was willing to accept the wages; so illegal immigrants are actually stagnating wages and taking American jobs. You cannot tell me that some poor kid from the streets would pass up a job that paid well to pick fruit, if they earned fair wages? Politicians bought out every last possible competitor, blaming law enforcement, bankers and lawyers. They advertised themselves to struggling working class people and the poor amid all the government’s failures; Cartels are the private-sector alternative, they say the government does not care about the American people anymore, and are willing to put them in danger to turn a profit, while robbing the citizens of the United States blind.
Wealth is an abundance or profusion of anything; plentiful amount. Well, wealth is considered beneficial; your health is a form of wealth, which is your greatest asset. So if you are considered wealthy, by any means, it is clear that you have acted with honesty and fairness to either gain financial success, or other means. Not all, but a lot of poor people are envious; they create a lot of debt and insatiability trying to live like rich people, but some are just trying to get by and create a way for their family. The poor people, who are creating the consumer debt and insatiability, by trying to be something they are not, are often envious of those who are working hard and appear to be doing well. In reality, wealth is a state of mind. Some elders live in small houses and are very financially responsible, they are not out trying to prove that they are better than others, nor are they envious, they have a healthy mind and therefore, they are wealthy. Also, you have people who have a lot of money, but are not happy, so they may be poor. And then there are those who have a lot of money and have to have the best of everything because their lives are so hard that they need to rent some form of happiness to make life bearable. “We hold that no person or set of persons can properly establish a standard of expression for others.” Declares William Randolph Hearst.
Money in the World Economy is just paper, there is really nothing backing it. The dollar bills that people are passing off as currency (the paper bills and coins in the hands of the public) is really without intrinsic value, and that form of currency is used as money because the central banks and your government decrees and laws demand that you accept their paper and plastic as a medium of exchange for goods and services, or else you shall be imprisoned or have to barter and trade, but there are punishments for stealing. Although the government is central to establishing and regulating a system of fiat money, by prosecuting counterfeiters, other factors are also required for the success of such monetary system. The government was then permitted to give life to this law so that it would help the economy grow, as there is not enough gold and silver to go around. Without the governments’ fiat currency, the public will not be able to buy or sell unless they had the mark, which are on the dollar bills, which is the name of the beast. The other requirement is they use credit cards with a logo and numbers; the number is its name. Then the law of the government commanded that anyone refusing to follow its laws will be punished, there is zero tolerance. (Revelations 13:5).
The U.S government has decreed its dollar to be valid money. Each paper in your wallet and credit card has the mark of the beast, it reads: “This note is legal tender for all debts, public and private.” As far as the national debt of $19 Trillion is going, this is nonsense. We have to figure out a way to reduce these interest payments, so that the balance is being paid off and the debt is being reduced. Or else our way of life will be threatened like it is in the Middle East, riots will break out on the street. As we can see, the quantity of money is circulating in the economy, called money stock, and has a powerful influence on many economic variables. Stores often accept personal checks, which are not backed by the government, they can bounce. The U.S. government has always paid its bills, but man does not. They put that responsibility on the government, who is basically their God, and they abuse the system. Then when we face economic contractions, unemployment increases, and people blame the government, but it is man. All of the crimes you guy are committing, and the fraud and the murder is draining the system. If man would just learn how to be more Godly, we would have enough resources to get the 1.5 Million people off of the streets and into housing. However, they are going to have to clean up their act, or we are all doomed. The government, your God, is going broke.
In 2004, the American government had only $699 billion of outstanding currency. Economist took this outstanding number of debt and divided by the number of Americans, who are legal to work, 16 and over, which was 223,000,000 people, and that made American human capitol worth an average of $3,134.00 each. So each person, over the age of 16, is collateral for the debt, until it is paid off. Whoever is the lender, they are the ones that hold the title to the human capitol, so if the governments want to intrude in your lives, for all this free money you are getting, you better allow it, or pay your share of the debt off and leave America. Then you will be under a new system and governed by a new God, or government. However, will the New World Order coming into play; all of the governments of the World are going to merge, so that we can end poverty, disease and crime. Everyone is tired of the chaos. “When the Lord divided to the nations their inheritance, their share of the debt, he separated bought the rights to your private lives, he set the bounds of the people (the amount of debt) according to the number of the children of the parents, as a form of currency or human capital.” Deuteronomy 32:8 Translations by Harris International. The national debt is at $17 Trillion, so all adults 16 and older, about 245,000,000 Americans is now more valuable to the government than they were in the past. U.S. consumers on track to rack up $47 Billion new credit card debt this year. Total incurred from 2011-2013 will be $130 Billion.
If the United States government fails to reach their objectives, it will lose out on a lot of time, energy and resources, which are its land and human capitol, buildings, machines, food, water, animals and so forth. And this is why the National Security Agency does not take it lightly that Edward Snowden abused our system. One Devil could cause the entire house to fall. In foreign countries without a stable monetary system, people often prefer U.S. dollars to domestic assets, meaning they are more willing to accept those who support the U.S. government, if they ever have to become the managers of the corporation of America. The second explanation is that much of the currency on the World is held by drug dealers, tax evaders, and other criminals, and that is why the United States is in the hole, pit of hell, by $19 Trillion. That is why the government advocates paying taxes, preventing crime, and putting your money in a saving or investment account. All of that fiat currency is doing you no good, but the government can flip it and, for example, could make $10 Million off a $1 Million investment.
By contrast, criminals may avoid putting their wealth in banks because a bank deposit gives the police a paper trail with which to trace their illegal activities, and that is why many oppose their National Security Agency, but it is time to pay your fair share. For criminals, currency may be the best store of value available, but the government has other resources. They are archiving and banking people. These people are valuable assets for the American government; they are helping to keep the economy going with their media: music, news reporting, movies, and knowledge. However, the government also wants their cut of the money you are making off of their property, they have rights to the land and the people in it, and it is in everyone’s best interest to practice self-control, follow the law and obey your government. Now, let’s look back, remember I told you the government could take $1 Million, flip it, and make $10 Million, this is because of the Money Multiplier Effect. Money Multiplier Effect is beneficial because each dollar spent by the government can raise the aggregate demand for goods and services by more than a dollar, government purchases are documented to increase the values of a product. When more consumers are paying taxes, let’s face it, some of you are demons and that is why you are labeled as consumers and not humans, the government can create more jobs and experience higher profits. Higher profits not only increase jobs, security and safety, it also spawns consumer spending and stimulate the economy, which will allow us to buy these people back. “By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also.” 1 Corinthians 6:14 Harris International Translation
Therefore, by paying taxes, with all of these effects added together, the total impact of the government can have a greater impact per dollar and citizen, which would decrease crime and increase peace. Or you can live with the mind sets of poverty and endure disaster. An increase in government purchases of $20 Billion can shift the aggregate-demand curve to the right by more than $20 Billion. This multiplier effect arises because increases in aggregate income stimulate additional spending by consumers. When consumer confidence is strong, the rich are out spending money, shopping and building homes, then the economy grows, and corporation earn more money and they respond by creating more job. For instance, Boeing might respond to the high demand for Dreamliners by deciding to buy more equipment or build another plant. In this case higher government demand spurs higher demand for the investment of goods. This is also known as an investment accelerator because it boosts the economy. “Do not harm the land or the sea or the trees until we put a seal on the foreheads of the servants of our God.” Revelation 7:3 Turn around, floating so high, I am off the ground, turn around, nothing can stop us now. From now on, let no one cause me trouble, for I bear on my body the marks of Jesus. Nothing can stop us now. – (Galatians 6:17). “It is not over, I am trying to tell you how to hold on and what to do, and it is not over. Overcome the doom and gloom. You must keep your mind on the objective, not on the obstacle.”
-William Randolph Hearst
To Never Let Me Go
Your son loves you and he need you and he should be with you. Babe, never let him go, because when it comes to “Forever” you two should be “together.”Just because things did not workout, your relationship with your son was smooth, and I think he will help you get a new start in life.
It all seems to fall apart, you have no idea what you are thinking, you cannot breathe, but you remember, your son was always here for you.
Running from Love. The death rates for single, divorced, and widowed individuals are significantly greater than the rates for married individuals; this is true for both sexes and for both whites and nonwhites.
However, the greatest number of deaths was that of men, ages 25-34, who had been widowed. The magnitude of some of the increases in death rates in the nonmarried groups are most impressive, sometimes exceeding the married death rates by as much as five times.
Young white female divorcees and widows show marked statistical increases in death rates as well, but the most affected group is young white males between the ages of 25 to 34.
Think of the week that just passed, and reflect on your favorite memory. It could be something that stands out to you because it was unusually pleasant, or unusually sad, or because it really got to you in some way—it stirred up negative feelings or made you really stop and rethink something. Try to keep the parameters of the episode relatively simple.
For instance, you might decide to choose something that took place in a short span of time, like one conversation at work, or part of a walk in the park.
When you have this incident in your mind, write a one-paragraph description, a very short summary of what happened. Keep it simple.
When you have written this brief description, take some time to relive the incident or event in your mind, going over as much detail as you wish.
When you are finished, look at the following categories and use them to figure out what is the clearest part of your memory of the whole experience.
Listen to the blessings of the Earth in this beautiful and warm World. I wish you happy life and a successful study in this promising new year. I remember coming downstairs and feeling lighter than air, look at you and what I see is Heaven on Earth, I am in love with. I am so in love with you.
I fell off the edge of my mind for you. Fell in love with you and everything that you are nothing I can do, I am really crazy for you. Tell me that I will always be the one that you want. Do not know what I would do if I were to ever lose you. I am so in love with you.
Christmas was a wonderful time, flaming stove fire, fragrant flowers, sweet mellow wine, sincere blessing, good memory, and love deeper day by day.
Even if we have nothing, love is enough. You stood on your tiptoes and same briskly. Speaking out the expectations and hopes in your heart and gently facing me.
The glow of the Christmas candles were in your blood shot baby blue eyes, as they burn on Christmas night, you touched my heart with gladness and made my new year bright.
I woke up with my heart full of love, calling out to you. I said, “Only love—this is eternal, we have spent so many happy years together and created a home together.
Let us cherish each other. However, it was hard for me to see you with all the people standing in the way. I just wanted to go to the party you went to. I stood there asking you, “Can you see what I see. Say what you want about, but can you not see what I see?”
She had long, wavy blonde hair blue eyes, thin, about 5’8”, she glanced at me and walked away.
Next thing I know, Matthew Ryan and I are in the park on and he tells me he loves me. It was June, and I recall fragrant roses. I felt like all of my wishes came true.
The church was beautiful, and you touched me and I came alive. I could feel you wrapping me up with all of your love, giving me the oxygen I needed.
And since then, it is like I have been under a spell. I am your biggest fan. You took me high and wiped away my fears. I felt you deep inside of me, feeling me up with your love.
I was quiet and laid back, peacefully you loved. In this splendid moment, I was able to breath, and presented you with the best of my blessing. May everything turn out as you wish, Baby!
Curiosity is extremely important, it is at the core of what motivates many important learning experiences. A child learns most of the critical survival skills by being curious, which leads to learning about boundaries and limits and love and determination.
The child learns about many things: how something works, what a cat or a dog is likely to do, what objects taste, feel, smell, and sound like—all because of the innate sense of curiosity that leads to exploration.
I am appreciative of Matthew Ryan for taking an interest in me. It feels good to have someone ask me how I am doing because I knew he was really concerned about me. Ryan cared so much about me he wanted to he me tell the World that I love him and accept him for who he is.
Ryan told me no matter what I thought I was going to do, he is in control and when I walk and talk, he wants to mingle with me and talk and make me understand that he is watching me.
Curiosity is a vital part of any important relationship. The more you can cultivate curiosity about other people in your life, the more you will move toward them.
Curiosity will also lead you to feel more secure with the people you are close to because you will see them in your dreams, their face will haunt you, and you will want them back like shattered glass.
Are you having trouble focusing throughout the day? You told me that you loved me and that your World was falling apart like shattered glass.
I was a junior-high school student when you met me, and I spent a great deal of time alone. I was fearful about relationships, but I knew you were watching over me, and you said, “Someday you will wake up, and you will finally see you are my baby.
No moment will be more true. And in that moment, when I look at you, you will remember me holding you in the air and looking into your eyes, and you will know why I did this to you. You will see you are my baby.”
This was a powerful experience for me. I started thinking about you and became dependent on the time we spent together. I wanted you like kids want candy. All of your friends hated me, but I did not care because it was jealousy.
They saw me all up on you like I gave it up. When I was with you, people said I was a different person. They did not even recognize me. And that is what you were trippin’ on.
I did not care about what anyone else was thinking, you were watching me like there was no one else around. I knew you wanted me.
I encouraged you to keep watching me. I will do anything for you. You sit there in your old ways, waiting for a beautiful boy to save you. We can make it if we take it slow.
Compromise myself and become solitude because I loved you. You said you would protect me, but then you started using my love as a weapon to watch me.
The blondes told me to lose weight, and get busy with work and be happy because you played my heart and kept loving me more, but kept lying to me.
My body felt like a sexual object. I felt like you ravaged me over and over and over until I felt like I was having an outer body experience. Then I remember feeling darkness, and I could not breathe.
As I looked up at the stars in the sky, intense joy overtook me and my body got warm. We were so free, but in danger, there was something lurking in the background.
.Suddenly, orbs of white light surrounded us. And a skinny man, with a foul odor appeared, it was worse than death.
The man was skinny and looked like a shadow. He saw me and he got up and walked away, but left a hot, humid, smell of feces, that was like ten times stronger than anything I smelled in my life, and he seemed to sling back into the bowls of the streets; underground the streets of the original city. I had been frustrated by my inability to move.
It seemed that I had smacked into the wall, and it came out of nowhere. You told me that was the putrid smell of the Devil’s water, and he was the Grim Reaper. You sat there in your heart break.
I remember getting nervous and needing to urinate. Then I remember you yelling about people trying to take me away from you. You got angry that my mother let some man take off with me, and you refused to leave the matter in the hands of the police. My mother said that the power went out and when she woke up the door was wide open.
Then I felt a loud echo, I felt like I was falling from the sky, and there were tears coming from the moon. I was reaching for you, but everything started going black and I said, “It is just not fair. I would have done anything for you. I still love you. I adore you.” And I heard you crying, as you feel to your knees. I felt like we have been together forever. You always said nice things about me.
You showed me how to stay in shape, how to cook, and do laundry. You taught me to walk through life like I was successful. I am a visual learning, and you set a great example. Sometimes you close your eyes, and you see the place where you used to live when you were young and beautiful.
But whenever I am away from you, even just for a moment, I feel a pain that never heals. I promised I would wait on you to return until the sky fell down. You reassured me even if you had to search a lifetime for me, you would find me again.
You said I was your flesh and blood and every tear drop belongs to you, and let the rain clouds come. You told me that our mind and body are connected by this blood ritual and that I will return to you right now! You told me to release the fear, come back to you, and you held me near your chest. You were crying, and said you would give your own life for me. I said I would miss you, and you did change for the better.
You kept running back to me in tears and said you could not wait another hour to see me. Then I remember feeling limp in your arms as red, warm rain rushed down my face and you held me tight. I will never forget your embrace. I felt a pleasant sensation, there was another gunshot in the dark, and my head was itching. I felt like a deer in the lights. You said you loved me, and I froze in time.
As I was falling to pieces, my muscles relaxed little by little, there was an overall sensation of lightness. I felt like I was bait to pull someone in and that my body had been ripped about by wolves.
You made me feel like I was part of you. As I looked up, I remember seeing yellow eyes, fear, shame, anger, and anxiety hit me all at once, and you looked very uncomfortable and the shadow man moved towards us.
Next thing I remember is waking up crying, feeling like my heart had been ripped out. I was also very hungry, and I looked for you, everywhere, calling out to you for endless days and nights, but you would not come back to me.
And my torso and back and knees and head hurt. There were red-hot knots all tangled up in my belly, it felt like someone was punching me in the stomach over and over again.
Then when I ran into you are the store, I remember feel happy and went home and finally fell asleep. That moment when I looked in your acrtic blue eyes, I felt like warm ocean waves washed over me, and the knots in my stomach turned soft, and I felt a sense if euphoria. I suppose it is the price of falling in love.
I feel it is the price of falling in love. I love you, I hope you love me, too. Never let me go. When it comes to forever, we should be together. You said what I met you, the whole World stopped and it seems like everyone is focused on us. Look around, I know you will see. And I love you.
Pride is in some Instances a Virtue
Neither am I able to handle the captivating words nor do I intend to add more to all this conviviality. Willingness is an essential component of awareness. Making an active commitment to willingness means that you keep yourself open to new ideas, new insights, and new possibilities; it means that you are willing to learn new things about yourself and your relationships. We have to practice the willingness to become fully conscious, accept what we are learning about ourselves, and try out our new awareness-based skills. The seed of love is deeply embedded in your heart and mine. Slow down and really pay attention to what is going on inside of you. Pay attention to the root of being alive: your breathing. Notice how your body is feeling and what is happening with your thoughts that circle around in your mind. Focus on bringing yourself into a state of being centered, calm, and alert. Be fully conscious so that all levels of your being are fully awake. Once one has gained friendship, hardship and agony will decrease and mirth and happiness will increase many times. By a good and strong root, your graces hold firm to the fabric of reality. Do not worry if it was difficult to do this mindfulness practice for the very first time. Everyone has trouble at first. It is not a normal activity for most of us living in a busy, loud, goal-driven World to do this kind of growth, without experiencing some difficulty.
As you gradually learn to be more fully conscious in many aspects of your life—your breathing, your thoughts, your body—you will become increasingly good at noticing what is going on when you are engaged in interactions with others. A rare bird upon the Earth, and very like a black swan, you will be able to observe yourself, noticing what kind of messages your mind may be giving you, or noticing how the other person responds to what you are doing or saying. By increasing your overall level of awareness through mindfulness practices, you will begin to feel much more capable of thinking and acting in new ways, in difficult areas of your life, especially in your intimate relationships. Love, the only way of travelling by which any knowledge is to be acquired. Dale had spent to long dreading the weekends. On weekdays, he was quite content with his life and his relationship. He went to work, had occasional dinners out with friends, went to his weekly computer classes, and went for long walks in the park with his dad, three times a week. He also enjoyed his phone conversations with his mother, who lived three hours away in Tennessee. Dale, and his dad, Matthew, spent almost every weekend together. They loved going for drives in the country, swimming, hiking, and watching movies. Matthew would cook, while Dale read a book, and then the two would spend hours, over dinner, talking about the material in the books, except the sex.
Dale was tortured by his discomfort with the topic of the sex that would sometimes appear in the books. Dale was celibate and his dad expected him to stay sexually shut down. Dale had never made love, as his dad told him the body is the temple of God and you cannot just share it at will. It has to be with the right person, and you are not mature enough to know what is right for you right now. As a result, people noticed that Dale seemed to not really be there. He felt numb physically, his mind went off to more comfortable places, and his emotions would get so bottled up that sometimes he would become irritable and a little blue. Dale would work on staying virtuous in his religion classes. He knew the root of this problem related to being sexually abused and having his spine fractured by someone old enough to be his grandfather, and he was not able to talk about this in the privacy of the therapist’s office. Dale kept his dad, Matthew, in the dark about this, both literally and figuratively. He was afraid to tell him, because these kinds of things just do not happen to young men, even though he knew that his father knew. For Dale, spending time with his father really made a change in his life. His father, Matthew suggested that they walk through the park and take pictures of the castle, trees, flowers, statues, and grass, and then go home and write a journal and include the pictures. This was a daily assignment. To Dale’s delight, he started to get happier, and stay more present.
Once Dale was able to stay in his mind and body—a little bit at a time—he became able to allow himself to feel more pleasure in life. It was a huge breakthrough for him when he became capable of staying aware of who he was and understanding that he was loved. However, when Matthew would leave the country, for business, Dale was haunted by violent ghost from his traumatic past. We are all experts on ourselves, but sometimes our parents know us better than we know ourselves. We know how we perceive the World, but you have to understand, they have been here longer. Life for a youth is a lot like coming in 30 minutes after Secrets and Lies aired that evening, but your parents have already been watching for hours, so they are aware of things you may have missed out on, and have a more complete view of what is really going on. Although mindfulness practice does not magically transform all the places where people may feel helpless or hopeless, it is a tool that can gradually open many doors. One can begin incorporating mindfulness in once a day for five minutes. Daily practice will help one calm and center oneself. What is impossible to undo might be easily prevented.
Close to My Heart
Let us listen to the blessings of the Earth in this beautiful and warm World. I wish you a happy and a successful study in this promising new year. Parenting is a very demanding and very important part of adult life for many women and men, however, unfortunately, it can seriously erode couple intimacy. When professionals or friends collude in keeping the focus entirely on parenting issues, the underlying distancing in the couple’s behavior can escape detection and leave one or both partners trapped in the continuing loneliness. This form of distancing happens most often when one parent is much more involved with the children than the other. Another variation in eroded intimacy occurs when one parent becomes jealous of the other’s closeness with the children, which sometimes leads both parents to become distancers. Another type of erosion in the couple relationship can take place when both parents are so consumed with parenting their children that they have to time left over to nurture themselves as a couple. Still another scenario happens when the parents engage in major battles around child-rearing issues, and by so doing demolish their capacity to feel tenderness and affection for each other.
All of these dilemmas require intervention, but focusing exclusively on the parenting issues may overlook yet another kind of distress. In many of these situations, parents may use the requirement to nurture their children to distance from true intimacy with each other, without having any idea they are doing so. Two teenagers who died abruptly after being told of the death of someone close to them. In another case, a 14-year-old girl died after being told that her 16-year-old brother had suddenly died; in a third case, an 18-year-old girl died upon being told of the death of a grandfather who had helped raise her. A 16-year-old boy collapsed and died at 6am, 14 February 2016; his other brother had died at 5.13 am, 14 February2016, of multiple injuries incurred in an auto accident several hours earlier. The cause of the younger boy’s death was massive subarachnoid hemorrhage caused by a ruptured anterior communicating artery aneurysm. Investigators have noted the link between interpersonal difficulties, depression, and sudden death from coronary attack. The coincidence of grief and human loss that seemed to surround so many of the sudden deaths. The psychosocial circumstances that surround sudden death was preceded by a combination of circumstances that included both feelings of depression and increased work.
Common to at least 50 percent of the sudden deaths was the departure of the last or only child in the family for a college or marriage, in response to which the patient had been depressed. Investigators also observed that a large number of patients who had a heart attack, but survived to reach the hospital also mentioned that a child had recently left home. So long as there is the heart’s beat, there will be the blood’s ebb and flow, but your smile will be printed on the silvery moon arising from my little window to arouse my fond memories. Too much or too little focus on the past can also lead to intimacy failures. Sometimes, the past can obstruct necessary repairs to current intimacy when there is denial of its impact. On the other hand, experiences from the past can remain so central to someone’s emotional life that the current relationships (or potential partner) becomes eclipsed. Let us recall the pleasant past and mirthful laughter and look forward to a day of reunion of friends coming from far and wide.
Some people distance from intimacy because they have not been willing to look at their past relationships. They have not come to terms with either the pain of the past or its lessons. Other people distance from relationships in the present by focusing too much of their attention and energy on the past. Another major mistake is to focus too completely on one person’s problems or impartments. This happens when one person is consumed with an addiction to a chemical substance or to work or gambling or online chat rooms, Twitter, or any other addictive preoccupation. Currently, perhaps the most common reason for intimacy to suffer or vanish entirely is an exclusive focus on someone’s history of past trauma and the resulting issues. Talk shows, professional helpers, friends, and family members perpetuate the myth that the trauma must be resolved before the relationship problem can be addressed. It is impossible to wrap up the trauma work and then move on dealing with the relationship. It is more productive to determine how everything is related and then to address all aspects of the trauma’s legacy, including its effect on creating healthy intimacy.
In order to heal, become aware of your own natural learning style and process. Pay attention to how your mind and body are connected. Address your self-image, the story you tell yourself and others about who you are. Are the tactics you use to hand on to your distancing style based in externalizing blame (it is his fault, not mine), and experiential avoiding feelings, interactions, risk-taking), denial, dissociation, addiction, learned helplessness? Become more aware of how you are influenced by your connection to other, how social and cultural context affect you, how you feel and act in couple relationships. One must become more aware of the fears, anxieties, and losses that one has been trying to unsuccessfully bury. It is time to let go of the past and become an architect of a new future. I cannot understand why anyone would choose to sit on social media and be miserable, when they are so many beautiful and happy people in the World. Reach out to the person of your dreams and make life happen. Everyone can build their own happiness. May we build our own lucky building with our hands in life.
The Press is the Palladium of Liberty
So little did the doctors delight in death that they discharged the corpse after a single fee. No man of sense believes in medicine for chronic disorder.
When the World was younger and haler than now, moral tricks were a deeper mystery: perhaps in all the land of Heaven there was but one Matthew Ryan Phillippe-Harris but one Randolph to soothe or comprehend him.
Credit is the capital of a younger son, and one lives charmingly upon it. Murder is wide-mouthed and will not let God rest till he grants revenge. Over the unborn our power is that of God, and our responsibility like His toward us.
As we acquit ourselves toward them, so let Him deal with us. Focusing too narrowly on the sexual satisfaction is another mistake that can interfere with genuine intimacy. Some people can achieve deep levels of intimacy even when the relationship is no longer sexual.
Another cause for couple trouble is the assumption that men are distancing when they express their emotions through action rather than by talking. Another aspect of this oversimplified view is the assumption that because women are more likely to talk about their feelings, they are never the person pushing the couple apart. All the rules of morality are but maxims of prudence.
Expediency is the root of all morality. It is stupid to be unmoral, and that is the long and short of it. There is reason in your words, for they are bottomed on religion and honesty. The reasoning which is drawn from particular abuses, is no reasoning for general uses.
The man who could call a Deedle a Deedle should be compelled to use one. It is easy to become confused about the difference between the sex and intimacy because the word “intimacy” is frequently used as a euphemism for the sex.
As you begin to learn more about the ways that women do, in fact, distance, you may be surprised. The stereotypical man might be able to hide his emotions under the brim of his Philadelphia Eagles cap, but his wife may be distancing by using sex as a bargaining tool, or being disconnected from her body while making love.
Women can also distance by giving their quality time and attention only to their kids, friends, and family, in short, by focusing on everyone, but their partner. The greatest secret of preserving respect, is the cultivating and shewing to the best advantage the powers that we possess, and the not going beyond them.
“She will not open up to me me” is the frequent complaint of the male partner who feels shut out sexually but does not fully comprehend the underlying complexity of the problem. The sex can be the problem in the relationship that destroys it.
Attributing all relational problems to past traumatic experiences also can be just as problematic as thinking that relationships will be automatically transformed by simply learning better sexual skills. Whether or not an individual has experienced sexual distress in the past, it is a mistake to believe that getting good sex therapy will be the cure.
This can be particularly disastrous if the sex therapy becomes a series of anatomy lessons for the purpose of reaching an advanced level of sexual gymnastic ability. Good chemistry and good sexual skills may help a relationship to work, but focusing all the solutions in the sexual arena can leave the heart of the relationship to somehow fix itself.
This is similar to other oversimplified solutions to love’s challenges, like believing that better communication will be the magic spell, or that you have to live with loneliness because you have fallen for the modern myth that you and your partner are from different planets.
Cultivate a superiority to reason, and see how you pare the claws of all the sensible people and individuals, when they try to scratch you for your own good. He reasoned me out of my reason. If one does not talk about a thing, it has never happened. It is simply expression that gives reality to things.
So much stronger is our reason then our virtue, so much higher our sense of duty than our performance! Saints make the finest bed-fellows in the World.
Youth has wonderful resources against every evil but the sense of shame. Good resolutions are useless attempts to interfere with scientific laws. Their origin is pure vanity. Resolutions are easily formed when the heart suggest them.
Experts ridicule is a two-edged weapon, and may be made to cut and mangle anything, particularly whatever is grave and solemn. People often unwittingly collude in maintaining the loneliness of the couple by attributing all major relationship problems to gender differences.
Couple become convinced they are doomed to loneliness in their intimate relationship, constricted by the narrow definition of traditional gender stereotypes.
From the Vampire Lestat to Queen Akasha grasping the tiny female by his teeth, we continue to be sold the generalization of males and females as radically different species. This relegates the one-dimensional man to be the like Lord De Lion Court—strong and silent type, who does not like to repeat himself or be left waiting.
Conversely, the woman to be his fragile, emotionally vulnerable better half. Men may sacrifice rams and goats, but not honor and conscience. Therefore, how could two such constricted human beings connect deeply either emotionally or sexually?
Sacrifice, the holiest joy of love. Men were still viewed as the distancers in intimate relationships by the women’s liberation generation in the 1010 – 1067. There was an eleven century Anglo-Saxon noblewoman who, according to a legend, rode naked—covered only in her long hair – through the streets of Sacramento to gain a remission of the oppressive taxation that her husband imposed on his tenants.
They were often portrayed as hopelessly defective in the relationship department. Ill news flies fast enough all the World over, I want to teach you how to love me. Be honest and poor—but I shall never envy you. I have much greater respect for those that are honest and rich.
Lady Godiva (which is where the term Diva comes from—a woman who stands for her God given rights) produced a counterbalancing image of more competent women. Lady Godiva appealed again and again to her husband, who obstinately refused to remit the tolls. At least, weary of her entreaties, he said that he would grant her request if she would strip naked and ride on a horse through the streets of the town.
So sacred are the laws of hospitality among the people, that a dozen lives would be sacrifice if required, to save that of a guest. Sacrifice of self is the sin that cries the loudest to God for vengeance. To discover our best gift from God, and to cultivate that gift, is the first law of life.
Lady Godiva took him at his word, and after issuing a proclamation that all persons should stay indoors and shut their windows, she rode through the town, clothed only in her long hair. Just one person in the town, a tailor ever afterward known as Peeping Tom, disobeyed her proclamation in one of the most famous instances of voyeurism.
Tom bores a hole in his shutters so that he might see Godiva pass, and is struck blind. We are all blinded, we are all weakened, by a false ideal of self-sacrifice. In the end, Godiva’s husband keeps his word and abolishes the onerous taxes.
Many men long for the love and intimacy in couple relationships. The male stereotype then becomes of one a brave man, who protects his wife, and loves the town’s people. This version of maleness promoted an image of a God that perpetuated the myth of male willingness to experience emotional intimacy with women and children and sometimes other men.
If all those men from Mars just wanted to have the sex, there would be easier ways to go about it then committing to a long-term, live-in relationship that usually requires monogamy, child-rearing, and promise to remain loving through sickness and health.
No man knows till the time comes, what depths are within him. Men should not be shamed into believing that they are less fluent in the language of emotions and desires than women.
Men may demonstrate their love by actions rather than through verbal expression, but they are also too easily discouraged from talking about matters of the heart.
And women are too often led to believe that because they are more accustomed to talking about their feelings, they are off the hook in the distancing department.
The first point is to know one’s own mind. The next is, to act up to the decision. We should never incline to believe the uncharitable, more than the good-natured report.
I do not endorse candidates. Anyway, I have no preferred candidate this cycle. When you focus on God’s promises, instead of the problems, you will notice your thoughts will be healthier and filled with peace.
Just the Beginning
We grow up expecting to be enthralled by true love. We grow up watching fairy tales, listening to popular songs, watching romantic movies like “Sleepless in Seattle,” and looking at advertisements such as Eharmony and learn that love is exciting and glamorous, but it often ends up breaking your heart. Some people ask, if love hurts so much, why do I risk deepening relational vulnerability?
Glimmering pictures of blissful love is too often followed by bitter disillusionment and heartache, leaving one feeling like, “How can I get through to you?” Paris feels like she is doomed, never to experience the fairy-tale rapture of true love, and even if she does experience it, she fears that love might vanish instantly like a dream.
The first year of your relationship is supposed to be the best, it is supposed to be full of romance, passion, and good memories. However, I sat down with a couple who has a bad romance, and this is what I discovered. This young lady called Paris was very in love with this guy.
She would go out of her way to write him love letters every day and go out of her way to do things for him, but the first year of their relationship, he allegedly cheated on her several times, and his friends just totally disrespected her, and her husband called Will still hung out with them and made them a priority, over their relationship. And Paris still was still willing to do anything for him.
As their one year anniversary approach, Paris now feels like her marriage to Will is more of a business because he does not really do much for her, and they go months without seeing each other, and he always needs help with his job, so she has to work every day just to make him happy.
Paris says that her marriage and the thing his friends and her friend have done will forever change the way see feels about the people in her life. She still loves her friends, but someone of them said some cruel things, which made her back away from them, and she does not feel the same towards them. Paris also complains that there is no romance in her marriage, it just seems to mechanical.
Nonetheless, Paris sticks with her husband, and loves him, but admits the romance is gone and it seems more like a business deal. As if she is an employee, and he is her boss. Paris and Will fight a lot because their friends are extremely jealous and keep trying to do things to break them up.
This is Paris’s first relationship and it is not at all what she expected. She used to day dream about what her future with Will would be like, but now the focus is looking happy and taking it day by day, unsure of what to expect. Will is often working and constantly taking trips out of town, so they sometimes go a long while without seeing each other.
Many of the obstacles to happiness in loving relationships arise from friends or incomplete solutions. Since people first began pursuing and rejecting their mates, other people have probably been giving them advice about love. Yet with all this attention that we humans give to love, animals seem to be much more successful than we are.
Why do we have such a hard time making love work for us? The most common thing to do to improve your relationship is to communicate and spend time together. Paris says she just want to walk into the sunset where she and Will can live happily ever after.
To improve your relationship, choose fifteen minutes from each day when you will not be interrupted by children, work, nor friends. Talk to each other about your feelings and be honest. Lovingly listen to each other, and find ways to communicate your support for each other.
Paris admits that she loves her husband and she would not leave him for the World and that being with him has made her smarter, stronger, and she looks better than ever. However, there are some deep-seated reasons why they are not as happy as they should be. Through excessive dedication to their jobs and life-styles, Paris and Will live in a state of complete psychological divorce.
She feels like the human companionship and source of love is missing from her life. Loneliness and grief often overwhelm her, and the toll take on their hearts can clearly be seen. As the mortality statistics indicate, this is no myth or romantic fairy tale—all available evidence suggests that people do indeed die of broken hearts.
Real cost of a deep personal love, for another human being, can only be seen in the shattering loss that is felt when that love is suddenly and permanently taken away. A few hundred years ago, grief was openly recognized as a cause of death. However, a broken hear would never be listed as a cause of death in any hospital. So be sure to express how much you love the person you are with.
I must admit that it is true, I go out of my way to do anything for you because baby I want you to know that I have gotten so close and I require you to show me a sign. When it is lobe that is on my mind, I would die for you. I have been dying just to feel you by my side. To know that you are mine. I believe that our love is something pure and true. I see your face every place that I walk in.
I look at other people with blonde hair and blue eyes and stare at the as if they are you. I hear your voice every time that I am talking, you will believe in me and I will believe in you. I will burn for you (like the Christmas roast and pizza), I will feel pain for you. Our love is one iconic like Angel and Buffy. Instead of pulling us apart, they pushed us closer together. I will never let go.
Sacramento, California Witch Trials
People have a tendency to think that when someone always has conflict with other people, that is the individual, who is being outcaste that is the problem. However, that may not always be the case. Often times people are victims of group think. Group think is a mode of thinking that people engage in when they are deeply involved in a cohesive in-group, where the members’ striving for unanimity override their motivation to realistically appraise alternative courses of action. Basically, group-think is a click of people, who feel threatened by another individual so they find ways to set this person up and make them look bad to eliminate the competition. Sometimes it is done out of malice or for fun. It is like a sport to them. A group is usually 3 or more people, but an unlimited number of people can join in. Groups suffering from Group think are usually closed-minded. They tend to ignore warnings about negative behavior, that might cause the group to rethink their assumptions. Another problem is people involved in group think is they have negative stereotypes about their enemy and view them as weak, stupid, puny, or evil. This helps them to justify their reckless and malicious group.
People involved in group think feel pressure toward uniformity. They all have to share the same opinion and behavior among group members. Sometimes the pressure is indirect, or sometimes they force others to join their team. When group think spirals out of control, and a huge portion of the community is harassing one individual, that is called mass hysteria. Mass Hysteria is a condition affecting a group of persons, characterized by excitement or anxiety, irrational behavior or beliefs, or inexplicable symptoms of illness. People may start to make believe a person has superpowers and controls their minds. So then they form a lynch mob to find a way to take the person down. No different from the Salem Witch Trials of 1692. The Salem Witch Trials is one of the most notorious cases of mass hysteria, and has been used in political rhetoric and popular literature as a vivid cautionary tale about the dangers of isolationism, religious extremism, false accusations and lapses in due process.
Among the many sailing ships bound for California, was the La Grange, a three-masted bark from Salem, Massachusetts, home of the Salem Witch trials. The Ship arrived at Sacramento, California October 3, 1849. The following June, the La Grange was purchased by the city of Sacramento for a prison. In preparation for its new role, the ship was stripped to the masts and holding cells built inside of the ship to lock up prisoners.The LaGrange served as Sacramento’s jail until November 1859 when it sank during a week-long storm. Other ships were used as hotels, and warehouses along the early waterfront, before they too bowed to, and were no longer safe to use. In recent years, nautical archaeologists have explored three gold rush vessels and several later boats that are submerged in the Sacramento River.
In February of 1986, archaeologist located what is believed to be wreckage of La Grange, which was imprisoned by the rip-rap and mud, just south of the “I” Street Bridge. They found enough evidence–floor frame, hull planks, copper sheathing, curved timbers, and a keelson– to confirm that the vessel was an ocean-going sailing ship of LaGrange’s size and age. In order to prevent group think and not enslave good people, groups must be recognize that they have a problem. If one person speaks up and lets the group know that there is something wrong with what they are doing, it will stop the problem before it turns into mass hysteria. However, if people just let it slide, then the problem only gets worse. If you have high status members engaging in group think, that needs to be addressed so their sickness does not spread and infect others, and you might want to have a member to remind the group of what their roles are.
No one should be looking to create problems, use people and then smile in their face. Point out their collective error, confirmation bias, false dichotomies, and any other symptoms. Basically, group think is just like mean girls, jealous, evil and unhappy people get together to bring a person down by any means necessary. Even if they look like fools in the process, and they see nothing wrong with they are doing, until the person they are targeting is killed. When it gets to the point people are getting death threats, it is serious. My affairs are managed by love and directed by wisdom, and they cannot fail to prosper and expand. My affairs are in his hands.
Anger Control and Prosocial Behavior
It is okay to admire other people and be respectful and smile. You can appreciate the beauty of another without being angry, bitter, or jealous. Pray for each other and wish people well. You get what you put out in the World. Perhaps you are unhappy because you make a lot of other people unhappy. Your bad vibes, thoughts, actions and words are the reason you feel like you are less of a person. To be happy, you have to love yourself and find something that makes you feel connected to reality. On a personal level, psychologists have succeeded in teaching some people to control their anger and aggressive impulses. Anger control is a personal strategy for reducing or curbing anger. The key to self-control and keeping calm is to figure out what is upsetting you. Do you have a mental issue or is there a legitimate reason for you to be so angry and project that anger on to others? A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly. To figure out what is truly going on, to limit anger, people are advised to: define the problem as precisely as possible. Are you mad because he took your parking space, or are you mad because you woke up too late and did not make it to work in time to get your favorite parking space?
Secondly, make a list of all of the possible solutions to deal with your anger issues. For example, are mad at Elle Woods because she is annoyingly happy and pretty, or do you just wish you had the same qualities as Elle Woods, and instead of trying to be a better person, you just hate her? Next, think about some solutions to your problems. If you want to be more like Paris Hilton, maybe you can get to know her and find out what she is doing to be so happy. Then, choose a solution to your problem. If you want that parking space, go to bed earlier and wake up on time. If you want to be as smart as Ryan, then spend more time studying. In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. And lastly, consider how successful the solution to your problem is and make adjustments if necessary. Taking these steps has helped many people to lessen tendencies toward child abuse, family violence, and other destructive outburst. There are also programs out there to help you deal with your anger issues talk to your doctor and I am sure they can help you. It is clear that there are a lot of mentally unhealthy people in society, they do not smile, and they are constantly spreading their unhappiness.
A highway will be there; it will be called the Way of Holiness; it will be for those who walk on that Way. The unclean will not journey on it; wicked fools will not go about on it. However, there are still a lot of good people in society, who believe in being prosocial. Prosocial behavior is actions that are constructive, altruistic, or helpful for others. You have to notice others and care about their well-being. What would happen if you got beat up and were left lying in a pool of your own blood and people walk by and laughed at you? Would you want someone to stop? Or would you like them to ignore you and let you die? In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the Prophets. Another good idea is to take responsibility, do not be a victim; you are the architect of your own fate and happiness. Being angry with others will get you nowhere, try to be a good person, try to help others, and try to care. You have to do this with a true heart and no malice. It is okay to talk to other people and say nice things to them. Everyone wants to feel included, and clearly you do too, or else you would not be so angry and mean. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: Love your neighbor as yourself.
