Vengeance, bloodlust, sever dehumanization, rape, torture, acting with extreme prejudice, whatever its form, violence is aggression with no restraints, further fueled by a mindset that seems to believe these actions are acceptable. In violence, we do not just consider injuring others but also give the green light to doing so, often with forcefulness as unrestrained as it is self-justified. Some people are not much more than savages lurking beneath a flimsy veneer of socially acceptable behavior, whose inborn aggression threatened civilized society with violence, war, and disintegration. There may be talk of honor, but it is mostly just more fuel for the fires of violence and has nothing to do with real honor. When Christ said, “The Kingdom of Heaven must suffer violence,” he means not the violence of long babbling prayers, not the violence of tedious invective sermons without wit.” And how interesting is it that, as aggression begins to lose of some it popularity as a go to indicator of manliness, various qualities commonly associated with being female, vulnerability, softness, emotional literacy, are starting, however slightly, to become thought of as virtues for men, with the tacit implication being that people are required to be more civil. Whatever its negative connotations, violence cannot be condemned across the board as always a bad thing.

 A great deal of violence is abhorrent to almost all of us, like child abuse and rape, but there is plenty of violence that we are divided about. One man’s terrorist may be another man’s freedom fighter, such as in the alleged Paris, France train attack that was supposedly recently throttled by three men from Sacramento, California, when they jumped him, beat him, hog tied him, and are now being honored by Mayor Kevin Johnson, on 11 September 2015, in a parade that will take place in Sacramento, California. We may say that we regret the civilian casualties that occurred on 11 September 2001, but not let such regret prevent us from continuing to pursue our attack centered agenda. We might severely injure or kill others in order to save our child’s life. And so on. So in considering violence, we are required to take into account its prevailing context, not to excuse nor marginalize it, but to better understand it. Many view violence as a learned behavior and a learned behavior only! Winning becomes overly important.

 Cooperation becomes emphatically secondary to competition (as reflected by our economy), with the winners getting huge spoils, like parades, talks shows, and too bad for the losers. In this, however, there are no real winners. Sooner or later, everyone gets hurt, if only through being part of a damagingly divided humanity. Violence, ultraviolent video games, misogynistic programs, increasing poverty, all are expressive of a culture that rewards, glamorizes, and profits from violence, a culture that provides minimal care for those less fortunate, and marginalizes the poor, the unemployed, the disabled, the homeless, the PTSD crippled veterans, the outcasts, the unwanted, the ones most heavily burned by our collective shadow, all of whom are seeking shelter in places that foster violence, even as it preaches against violence. Violence is an innate behavior, not just learned. Ordinarily, we do not have to be encourages to be violent in order to get violent with someone who is harming our child, this usually just comes quite natural, no matter how removed from aggressiveness we have been prior to the circumstance. However, most people do not act out desires to be violent; they try to deal with things within constraints of the law.

 In the television show Secrets and Lies, starring Ryan Phillippe, we met a man, Ben, who would not harm a fly, he lives in a Norman Rockwell upper class America painting, but he was sent to jail for murdering his own son, and we are almost given no time to rest in his heroics. Our discomfort grows, as we soon realize that our hero may not be who he says he is. A good guy rising to the occasion, doing his duty, or is he something else? And if he is something else, how do we then hold him to his heroism? His relentless good guy presentation of himself start to feel like America’s mainstream presentation of itself to the World, a freedom loving, straightforward, we will protect the innocent picture of morality, when you include the fact that he may have been framed as something other than a hero. As we watch more and more of the show, Ben’s heroic exploits bring us closer to the truth, the increasingly uncomfortable truth. Do we root for him, or turn on him? Vices are the harpies that infect and foul the feast. The more violent emotions ever tend to sure themselves. If the patient survive the first paroxysm, his mind speedily begins to verge towards its natural equilibrium. He who can attest to a villainy is best qualified to punish it.

An individual who does not understand anger is an individual without supremacy; we can all have power, which will keep us from becoming a casualty. Because of the mental health crisis going on in America, many people try to make others fear people, who may have a fit of anger or may be justified in being angry. It is not until one is possessed by angry that they become a danger to themselves. Everyone handles angry different, and sometimes it become a sadness, which can lead to depression. Other let their anger turn into rage and attack others, or dominate others. They believe their strength is in hurting people, and these type of people are egocentric, lack compassion, and are not righteous, nor moral. Often times they are scared and camouflage this fear by becoming a tyrant.    Yet, some use their anger as motivation, catalysis to seek help and rectify whatever is troubling them. Therefore, the problem is not anger, but what we choose to do with it. We are not supposed to outgrow our ager, it does not just go away because we mature or become more spiritual. We are required to know our anger because it is a grotesque sense of grievance, being wronged or hurt, and it is fueled by an enthralling force to handle a situation. Anger is a feeling of vulnerability and it comes from the heart, and it is easy to express, but we just have to learn to skillfully express it so we can build more trust and safety, which will deepen our sense of well-being.

No one wants to spend their life feeling sadness, vulnerability, fear, grief, or like someone they love just died. However, that is what happens when one keeps experiencing injustice and cannot find help. And that is why we get upset, anger is central to self-protection. One can go through life masking their anger by taking Xanax, smoking marijuana, or drink copious amounts of alcohol, but that will create a vortex of trouble. There was this man named Peter who was on the verge of losing his wife because he had issues with anger. However, Peter did not physically, nor verbally abuse his wife, but he was emotionally abusive. Peter’s wife kept trying to get him to express his emotions so she could help him, but he would not. It came to light that Peter was using a lot of aggression with his wife. Aggression attacks anger does not. Peter’s wife would get upset with him because of something he did, then Peter would turn into a sweet heart and his wife could not figure out why she was taking her anger out on him, and would apologize, and tell him how great he was and how much she loved him, but almost immediately, Peter would turn sarcastic, start telling her how little she meant to him, and would even become hostile toward him, until she told him that she hated him, and got a divorce.

Aggression is denoted by harden emotions, it strips you of your heart, and you learn not to care, which makes you inhumane to the point that you disrespect, use and abuse, or violate your loved one. Aggression is not really an emotion, it is what we choose to do with an emotion. People often let anger mutate into aggression because they want to remove themselves from being vulnerable, and it is usually because they feel shame about showing love, compassion, or caring for someone, so some try to express themselves becoming sarcastic or unleashing violence on to someone. By use of aggression, the offend person reduced their target to a mere “it.” Any care they had for the person has been stripped away and they dehumanized them so they will feel comfortable making this person a target and attacking them. However, when you dehumanize people and become aggression, you are in danger of becoming violent toward them. You lose touch with yourself in attacking them because you incorrectly feel that they deserve it. Sometimes aggression is playful joking, mean comments, and violence. Anger has boundaries, but aggression disregards all boundaries. Violence is an abuse of anger, unless you are using violence to save a life or prevent more violence. And anger is actually good, as long as it does not turn into aggression, because it means you care and want change.

Aggression is devoid of all feeling, except for hate and jealousy. When people are not getting angry, but become apathetic, they let things slide and become unsurmountable problems. However, anger brings about change because your heart is connected to the greater good. We require anger to move forward and address injustice and to protect ourselves and others. Yet, when you feel aggression, which is the desire to attack and hurt others, that is when it is time to back up and turn aggression into anger, and use proper methods like communication and express your concern, but never become violent. When people do not express their anger, they will stop growing, and attack yourself to a power dynamic that does no one any real good and the anger becomes hostility, meanness, and violence. It is unhealthy to blame others, we act like it is their fault that that we are acting the way we are. It is unhealthy to lose touch with caring for the person you are angry with by shamming, dismissing or dehumanizing them. Take responsibility for what you did and the impact it is having. Learn to look at your targets perspective. It is a problem when you do not care about other’s boundaries and feel free crossing them. If you fight dirty and feel right doing so, that is a major problem. If you would rather be right than connect, that is also dangerous.

Feel the other person’s humanity. Stop playing the victim. Do not let your emotions hold you hostage, access self-reflection. Let go of the exaggerated attachment to being right. Stop overdramatizing what you are thinking and feeling. Listen to feedback your partner gives you about your behavior. Just admit, “I am being reactive.” Do not justify your behavior. Being vulnerable, transparent, open, unguarded make empathy possible, and when empathy is present, anger is far more likely to remain clean. Feel the connection with the person you are angry with and remember you care about them. Think about what impact you are having on them. When anger is left unexpressed and undigested (because its concerns have not been sufficiently addressed) it seeks an outlet somewhere, a place where a discarded can occur. It is not healthy and surely exhausting ourselves in mental loopings and reconstruction and excessive self-talk. And when we suck anger in, we may find some release of its energies through sexual discharge, perhaps assuming that we are just really feeling sexual, when in fact we may be quite angry, either masturbating away the charge of that anger, or reducing out sexual partner to little more than a doll for our accumulated frustration. Do not unload your anger without any regard for your partner. Remind yourself that expressing any anger will not help anyone. Keep telling yourself to calm down. Do your best to think good thoughts. Bring the nice person in you to the foreground. Let your anger out, but not so strongly that you forget your caring for the offending other. Anger itself it not the problem. The problem is what we are doing with our anger. The key is to wake up to our anger as soon as possible after it starts arising, stepping back just far enough from it, from its energy and prevailing viewpoint, so as to be able to relate to it rather than from it. And remember, we all want to be love, and how hard it is to find love and recover from mistakes we make.

With rough grace, he becomes increasingly alive and present, embracing his strength even as he remains in touch on his impact on others and his environment. He realizes that expressing negativity can hurt others, even if it is not directed at them. A lot of men wake up in a great deal of pain every day, but they have responsibilities like a wife, the children, the mortgages, hair appointments, and car payments to satisfy. For many of these hardworking men, it takes an hour just for them to get out of bed because they have crippling pains in their backs and hands, but several of them do not complain, they just get through it. These strong men do not abuse their families, nor do they abuse drugs or alcohol. They remain sober so they do not become addicts. Being a man means supporting whatever stands necessary to sustain integrity, depth, and love. Boys often get a bad reputation. Many accuse immature men of being boys, and not growing up. However, if you look at the average boy, he is loving, sensitive, and kind. He likes to please others and loves attention. So these men that are not growing up are not boys either, they are deviant men. Real mean know that vulnerability is a source of power. It takes strength to have your reputation damaged, to learn to become more sensitive, to make room for miscalculations is a strength truly worthy of cultivating because its presence empowers us to stand our ground when we are emotionally shaken, without placing obstacles in our lives or hardening our hearts. Men remain rationally available. 

Power is the capacity to take action, and personal integrity is something a real man possesses. If they do not bring out the best in you, stay away from them. If they do not bring out the best in you, stay away from them. If they do not bring out the best in you, stay away from them. However, deviant men, who want to be popular, only get a secondhand sense of power because they place their responsibility for themselves and their choices onto others, just as they did in childhood when they submitted to parental expectations and regulations. The difference is boys did not know better, these men know they are wrong, for being so rude and immature, but choose to remain deviant. So in becoming a deviant man, they remain fully entrenched in dysfunction and will never really be a real man because they lack heart and empathy, they are unmanly because they do not embrace their sensitivity and vulnerability. People who participate in the mistreatment of others or watch as a bystander are disgusting. Nonetheless, just like groups of men who stone bear cubs, they will incur the wrath of a much greater force, and if you are watching, you could be caught up in the rapture as well. Be careful in the presence of appalling male displays of power. We expect ourselves and others to bear these sights without showing emotions, we could laugh or joke, but only to demonstrate mastery over the situation. While you watch each other for signs of shakiness or fear, beware of the consequences. An accomplice is someone who helps another person commit a serious crime.

Many times an accomplice is considered just as accountable for the crime as the person who actually committed it. The accomplice may or may not be present at the scene of the crime, and his or her assistance may be provided before, during, or after the crime itself. This person provides assistance before the crime, but is not at the scene while it is being committed. An accomplice who is present while a crime is being committed is usually referred to as an aider and abettor. Such a person, for instance, may serve as a lookout while an assault is taking place. Additionally, he or she may assist a mugger by watching for potential victims and signaling when one is near. However, it is important to note a person is not an accomplice simply because he or she witnesses a crime. Suppose you are browsing in a jewelry store and you see a stranger steal a watch. Even if you fail to report the crime, you are not an accomplice since you do not know the thief and have gained nothing from the crime. Conversely, if you sit back and watch a sexual assault, and do nothing to stop it, nor report it, you could be charged with a crime.  And it is all fine and well to be a nice guy, but do not let people take advantage of you or those you care about. Do not allow yourself to be intimidated. There is a lot of responsibility to being a real man, and may you have a great journey.

One more thing I would like to mention is the community of Sacramento, California feels like their values and way of life is under attack by Mayor Kevin Johnson, but there is power in being vulnerable. Many people are offended because the Mayor of Sacramento is having a parade on 11 September 2015, and using tax payer money. That day is sacred to so many, it is not a day to be celebrated, thousands of Americans lost their lives, people saw body parts falling out of the, and worried if their daughter would make it home from work. What we see is a World dominated by excessive self-control, harness, and unilluminated power. Power asks only for a discerning hand, a taking of the reins that is both free and firm, both fierce and gentle, both daring and tender, both muscular and sensitive. You can be disgusted by Mayor Johnson’s behavior, and let your heart go out to him. They loiter in darkness. While we may struggle to discard him, to finish with him, even to transcend him, reclaim your more tender feelings. Our winning only makes things worse. We are literally encircled by the situation, penned in by it, break free of it, stop paying attention to Mayor Johnson, and simply become fully present, bear cubs. You see what Mayor Kevin Johnson will not, his pain, his lovelessness, his isolation, his darkness.

Happiness must be something solid and permanent, without fear and without certainty, and undeserved happiness sits very heavy upon the mind. So anyway, I have been holding out, and I kind of have deep feelings for someone, and have been waiting on this person, but I have been waiting for so long, and I recently started talk to someone that looks like the person I am in to, and we have been flirting and sharing pictures, and this person seems to have a physical attraction to me, which I like. We are separated by a few hundred miles, which is not that big of a deal, and while I have been holding on to my virtue and waiting for this other person, I totally would not object to hook up with this new person who seems to show an interest in me. After all, while I am holding out, the person I have deep feelings for, I have no idea what that individual is doing. You know what I mean, so I will keep talking to this new person and see where that goes. I need to hear you say, you love me all the way. Do not let me be the last to know. Do not hold back, just let it go. I need to hear you say, you need me all the way. Oh, if you love me so, do not let me be the last to know. I want to feel the way you feel. My friends say that you are so into me, and that you need me desperately. They say we are complete, but I want to hear it straight from you. Love is nothing in comparison with the intimacy of two congenial friends. Though my heart is not large enough to harbor more than one light love at a time, it has room for many warm friendships; and I am the warmest, most helpful, and most compassionate of friends.

In every career field, there are politics. Reporters have politics, rappers (music artist) have politics, and gamers (technology specialist) have their own set of politics also. And sometimes with a business or region, there is an organizational split. For example, music artist can tell where certain styles come from. Listening to a couple of rappers, I totally thought they were perfidious because of the subject matter they were dissecting. These two guys, G-easy and a DJ were talking about how E-40’s style of music would be big in the bay area, but they did not expect to expand to south of the Bay and the East Coast because they have different cultures. To me this sounded like some armatures just jacking their jaws because I found it unfathomable that people could think that a style of music would not go national. However, I got to listening to them and because of certain patterns and words, people can trace where one got their style from. So then I understood it is possible to limit music to one region, and then further subdivide it. However, some styles are so in vogue that they can break through barriers and become a phenomenon.

 Also, by opening my mind and listening to other sources of information, it broadened my view about parallels between certain careers. For instance, some rappers get their start by self-producing their own music and distributing, and then they are discovered and become international successes. However, they have to hone their skills and really craft their image, and adjust their attitude and give the audience what they want, while staying true to themselves. Much like the international superstar Aaliyah did. I tend to admire people, and became interested in a gamer because I really wanted to listen to him speak so we could kind of connect. Freddie Prinze Jr. recently did two interviews and I listen to one of them and am finishing up the second one. They are about an hour long each. By listening to Freddie talk about the characters in these games, I learned strategies about careers, life, politics and people. To future highlight this, the descriptions of characters reminded me of my self and people I know, and it shed some light of life, and the spunky things people do. Like ticking, where you slow a character down, and get more use out of them, which in reality represents a glass ceiling.

 Sometimes in life, people are thrusted in certain positions, which they make not expect, and while it is not something they desire, others see potential. What one might see as a hobby, some many see as a floret career in progress. And because I may see what I do as a hobby, and only associate with particular journalist, it sometimes strains relationships because others feel slighted and see that I may not take what I am doing seriously. So today, I had a bit of an edifying experience. I kind of clashed with someone’s jeering sense of humor and took it personally because it reminded me of others from the past. Now, I am not perfect, and sometimes there are going to be personality disarrangement.  However, after reflecting, I understand that I need to communicate not just with a few people, but with others also, after all, it is their career, and when you have new talent, you want them to speak to you and come to you for advice, and not just a select few. What we are experiencing is the norming periodic phase of development, and to be considered a competent communicator, I have to display sensitivity to others.

 This is my hobby, and it is technically journalist, but sometimes I say things I should not and am selective. However, I have to adapt my communication to the group so that my communication is more appropriate for the group. I might be considered rigidity because I am not conforming to their values, but I do not see myself as part of their team for some personal reasons. However, just like some rappers start distributing material autonomously, the same can be done with journalists, and when one reaches certain level of non-treaty it is best to adapt, and expect some backlash, but stay rational and this may create an opportunity for one. Like many of the eidolic reflections that are seen, a voice may simply be the result of energy recorded in the environment, and one’s presence could turn a hobby into a corporeal career. People get attached to certain mediums of information, and just because I am unaware of the existence of the interest, I should keep improving my skills and trying my best until the tide turns. So, never give up, just improve.

People of high intellectual endowments do not require similar ones in those they love. They are just the persons to appreciate the wholesome gush of natural feeling, the honest affection, the simple joy, the fullness of contentment with what they love. Altruistic love style (agape) is characterized by selflessness and caring, compassionate desire to give to another without expectation of reciprocity. Such love is patient and never demanding or jealous. Thank you for taking me in and loving me back. Sentimentalists are they who seek to enjoy reality without incurring the immense debtorship for a thing done. Men are extremely provoked by a polite serenity, where their hearts are deeply interested in the issue of debate. Who can part, forever; only when we come so close that nothing separates us can we meet again, only when what binds us is not my requirement of you or your requirement of me nor any chance circumstance, but a deep ingrained likeness of nature that cannot pass away. Just because we are separating you helped to move my soul and awaken me to a new understanding. Life is constant separation. I cannot repeat an emotion. No one can, except sentimentalist. The impulses of love are so subtle, and the influence of false reasoning, when enforced by eloquence and passion, so unbounded, that no human virtue is secure from degeneracy.

 Is virtue as inconsistent as a vice? I am on your side to pray, I am on your side to stay afloat, but when you are turning to seek, I do not know who you are. I am on your side to ride, I am on your side to fight, but when you are turning to seek, I do not know who you are. People say that is not light, it is only pain, but it is under your sun, I want to be. I am on your side to share, they are good about the red. I am on your side to live, down to sunset, the shadows, but when you are turning to seek, I do not know who you are. It requires much personal strength, standing alone against the well-armed batteries of all one’s friends. No man is strong enough to take liberties with his public. Strength is incomprehensible by weakness, and therefore the more terrible. Face it, your birthday is coming up and it is time to let you go so you do not have to hide and fake. Your friends watch as you pretend to adore me. However, I draw my Good to me as I travel along the Way of Life, and nothing can keep it from me. My Good will always follow me. I accept the Good and rejoice that it is with me. I accept the good. No one can misdirect; none can mislead me. I am free from the belief in all lies and untruths; I know and speak only the Truth, and the Truth alone can be spoken to me. I know the false can understand the Real. I cannot be fooled nor mislead; I am guided by Truth alone. There is no lie nor liar.