Sometimes our enemies treat us like we are a physician and therapist, albeit a wrongheaded and mistaken one. This miserable affair has generated at least one desirable result for me, namely, that I would become personally aquatinted with you. Would you be kind enough to let me know when and where I might meet and talk with you, God? Heavenly Father, perhaps we could arrange this by telephone. In the pleasure of this expectations, I am your most devoted. Many of us would like to personally meet with God, and we can. When we pray with faith, we will feel God’s love as his spirit speaks to our souls. No matter how alone or uncertain one may feel, at times, we are not alone in this World. God knows us personally. As we pray, we will come to know him. As we study and ponder the scriptures, we will hear God’s voice, know his words, and come to have an intimate relationship with him. God will reveal his eternal truths to us, and his love and guidance will emanate from our very souls. On social behavior, exchange behavior should express or promote collective solidarity rather than individual benefit. We want our loved ones to learn to recognize the voice of the spirit. Our testimonies are strengthened as we talk about sacred truths.  #RandolphHarris 1 of 6

For as long as there have been households, there have been rules to direct household life. Most who are able to recall their teenage years, will remember their parents vehemently proclaiming, “As long as you live in my house, you will abide by my rules!” And the Earth is God’s household, so we must exercise proper conduct in the house of the Lord. God has taught us to give up our wicked ways and our Worldly desires and to live decent and honest lives in this World. The Holy Spirit, our comforter, helps us to behave. God’s spirit makes us loving, happy, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Whenever people encounter one another in social interaction, communication is in progress; roles are being formed, enacted, and negotiated; attributions are being made, both to other and self; and identities are being validated or revised. Our goal is comprehensive know, we hope to gain intellectual orderliness within the narrow slice of reality we have chosen to acknowledge. Beneficial events of all kinds, whether they involve spirituality, money, good, smiles, or simple social attention, are valuable in exactly the same general sense: people for whom they are beneficial act in a way that tends to produce them. Such action is often called rational behavior. #RandolphHarris 2 of 6

Worthiness is essential to becoming like God. All benefits have psychological and material properties. The capacity to provide some benefit to another is often called a resource. In generalized reciprocity, the reciprocal transaction starts with a noncontingent free-gift, and it can become one of a series of such transactions between two long-term partners. Once such an exchange relation has formed between two people, the paired contributions defining a transaction often lose their paired contingency. A helpful act is performed, not in response to any specific benefit received, but rather in honor of the social exchange relation itself, that relation being a series of reciprocating benefits extending into the experiences past and the anticipated future. Whether or not accounts are kept, in whatever form, is an empirical question given to the situation. A selfless person is one who is more concerned about the happiness and well-being of another than about his or her own convenience or comfort, and is willing to sacrifice, and purge from his or her mind and heart, personal wants, and needs, and feelings. Instead of reaching for and requiring praise and recognition for oneself, or gratification, the selfless person will meet the human needs for another person. #RandolphHarris 3 of 6

People engage one another in two qualitatively different modes, a transactional mode in which each provides the other with benefit, and a mode called incorporation in which both (or all) parties contribute to collective gain. The two modes differ both in social process and in the typical motivation of the participants. Transactions involve reciprocal, but separate, benefits performed by persons motivated to enhance their own gains, as in bargaining over the units in a trading relation. Incorporation, by contrast, is based upon a special form of exchange in which separately obtained benefit is not possible. It takes two to dance the tango. If it is done well by both parties, both parties benefit from a single socially produced event. If either one fails to perform properly, neither one will benefit. Value is produced in the social process from behavioral contributions that have little or no value take by themselves. Sometimes the benefits of social exchange are immediately appreciated by all participants (though not necessarily in equal degree), and sometimes the productive process generates a tangible new resource that can be divided through acts of distribution. #RandolphHarris 4 of 6

As a parent, can you take precious time to listen to your son or daughter tell you about what the young people are wearing, or what the teacher said? If you do, without interrupting, you may find they will talk to you even when they are really troubled because they have learned you listen. Human beings respond to principles of beneficial and negative feedback, or reinforcement. They tend to acts so as to optimize across a set valued (beneficial) inputs. What do people value? They value whatever it is they optimize. Human beings respond to principles of reinforcement. It is important to remember there can be no successful change in any of us unless we recognize a need to change. That must come first. With the recognition of the need to improve, may we now suggest as a part of the process of cultivating and nurturing the attribute of selflessness we begin to develop an attitude of service—the ongoing desire for the well-being of others. A beginning would be feeling empathy for those who need uplifting, then acting with caring thoughtfulness. Lord, please provide us with the knowledge and ability that we may see you in our fellow human beings. #RandolphHarris 5 of 6

God, please provide us with great discernment that we may have sympathy for others, and open our hearts that we may love each other as you love us. Renew in us your spirit. Free us and make us one. God has compassion on those who sin, and he desires that we have that same compassion. He wants to turn our hearts of stone—as a result of hurts, betrayal, cynicism, or selfishness—into hearts of flesh that long to love God and make his love known to the World.  As we go through our day, let us take some time to ask that God would give us a heart of compassion for the lost. Let us pray that through this heart of compassion, we will be moved to become a part of what God is doing to take the gospel to hurting people around the World. May God’s love be infused in our hearts and we spread kindness. This is the heart of God. By God’s grace, may it also be our heart. God will change our lives for the better, and make it possible for us to know him. We will discover peace with God. #RandolphHarris 6 of 6