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A Charm against Yielding to Temptation
Things perceived as real are real in their effects. As from the direct light of the Sun to the borrowed light of the moon, we pass from the immediate idea of perception, which stands by itself and is its own warrant, to reflection, to the abstract, discursive concepts of the reason, which obtain their whole content from knowledge of perception, and in relation to it. As long as we continue simply to perceive, all is clear, firm, and certain. There are neither questions nor doubts nor errors; we desire to go no further, can go no further; we find rest in perceiving, and satisfaction in the present. Perception suffices for itself, and therefore what springs purely from it, and remains true to it, for example, a genuine work of art, can never be false, nor can it be discredited through a lapse of time, for it does not present an opinion but the thing itself. However, with abstract knowledge, with reason, doubt and error appearing in the theoretical, care and sorrow in the practical, illusion may at moments take the place of the real. Chance actions differ from erroneously carried-out actions only in that they disdain the support of a conscious intention and really need no pretext. They appear independently and are accepted because one does not credit them with any aim or purpose. #RandolphHarris 1 of 11
In the sphere of abstract thought, error may reign for a thousand years, impose its yoke upon whole nations, extend to the noblest impulses of humanity, and, by the help of its slaves and its dupes, may chain and fetter those whom it cannot deceive. We execute them without thinking anything of them, by mere chance, just to keep the hands busy, and we feel confident that such information will be quite sufficient should one inquire as to their significance. In order to enjoy the advantage of this exception position, these actions which no longer claim awkwardness as an excuse must fulfill certain conditions: they must not be striking, and their effects must be insignificant. It is the enemy against which the wisest people of all times have waged unequal war, and only what they have won from it has become the possession of humankind. Culture is constantly threatened by a relapse into barbarism and disorder that would make history sheer meaningless succession. Against perpetual decadence people struggles heroically to establish limited zones of law, order, and cultural significance. To succeed is this for a time, they must do violence to their own natures by imposing on themselves a hard discipline and accepting moral isolation amid their mediocre fellows. #RandolphHarris 2 of 11
This means living in conformity to the ethic of the producers and seeing the good life to be a cooperative creative enterprise carried on in a self-reliant spirit. Against the good things to be obtained rather than a way of acting. In the consumers’ view typical goods are welfare, prosperity, distributive justice, and the classless society, things to be aimed at for the future and enjoyed if secured. Enterprises undertaken in that spirit were based on envy and inevitably fell under the control of adventure (usually intellectuals) who duped the masses. Such instances are citizens revolting, peasant wars, anti-Semitism, and contemporary welfare-state socialism. It has often been said that we ought to follow the truth even although no utility can be seen in it, because it may have indirect utility which may appear when it is least expected; and I would add to this, that we ought to be just as anxious to discover and to root out all error even when no harm is anticipated from it, because its mischief may be very indirect, and may suddenly appear when we do not expect it, for all error has poison at its heart. #RandolphHarris 3 of 11
The symbolism in the infantile life of the normal plays a greater role than was expected psychoanalytic experiences. A doctor, on rearranging his furniture in a new house, came across a straight, wooden stethoscope, and, after pausing to decide where he should put it, was impelled to place it on the side of his writing-desk in such a position that it stood exactly between his chair and the one reserved for his patients. This act in itself was certainly odd, for in the place, the straight stethoscope served no purpose as he invariably used a binaural one; and in the second place, all his medical apparatus and instruments were always kept in drawers, with the sole exception of this one. However, he gave no thought to the matter until one day, it was brought to his notice by a patient who had never seen a wooden stethoscope, asking him what it was. On being told, she asked him why he kept it there. He answered in an offhand way that that place was good as any other. This, however, started him thinking, and he wondered whether there had been an unconscious motive in this action. Being interested in the psychanalytic method, he asked me to investigate the matter. #RandolphHarris 4 of 11
The first memory that occurred to him was the fact when a medical student, he has been struck by the habit his hospital interne had of always carrying a wooden stethoscope in his hand on his ward visits, although he never used it. He greatly admired this interne, and was much attached to him. Later on, when he himself became an interne, he contracted the same habit, and would feel very uncomfortable if by mistake he left the room without having the instrument to swing in his hand. The aimless of the habit was shown, not only by the fact that the only stethoscope he every used was a binaural one, which he carried in his pocket, but also in that it was continued when he was a surgical interne and never needed the stethoscope at all. From this, it was evident that the idea of the instrument in question had in some way or other become invested with a greater psychic significance than normally belonged to it—in other words, that to the subject it stood for more than it does for other people. The idea must have become unconsciously associated with some other one which it symbolized, and from which it derived its additional fullness of meaning. #RandolphHarris 5 of 11
I will forestall the rest of the analysis by saying what this secondary idea was—namely, a phallic one; the way in which this curious association had been formed will presently be related. The discomfort he experienced in hospital on missing the instrument, and the relief and assurance the presence of it gave him, was related to what is known as a castration complex—namely, a childhood fear, often continued in a disguise form into adult life, lest a private part of his body should be taken away from him, just as playthings so often were. The fear was due to paternal threats that it would be cut off if he were not a good boy, particularly in a certain direction. This is a very common complex, and accounts for a great deal of general nervousness ad lack of confidence in later years. The stethoscope association was formed through many connections. In the first place, the physical appearance of the instrument—a straight, rigid, hollow tube, having a small bulbous summit at one extremity and a broad base at the other—and the fact of its being the essential part of the medical paraphernalia, the instrument with which the doctor performed his magical and interesting feats, were matters that attached his boyish attention. #RandolphHarris 6 of 11
He had had his chest repeatedly examined by the doctor at the age of six, and distinctly recollected the voluptuous sensation of feeling the latter’s head near him pressing the wooden stethoscope into his hat; he found it interesting that the doctor should carry his chief instrument concealed about his person, always handy when he went to see patients, and that he only had to take off his hat (i.e., a part of his clothing) and pull it out. At the age of eight, he was impressed by being told by an older boy that it was the doctor, who was young and handsome, was extremely popular among the women of the neighborhood, including the subject’s own mother. The doctor and his instrument were therefore the objects of great interest throughout his boyhood. Probably because the boy also wanted to be popular as an adult. It is probable that, as in many other cases, unconscious identification with the family doctor had been a main motive in determining the subject’s choice of profession. It was here doubly conditioned by the superiority on certain interesting occasions of the doctor to the father, of whom the subject was very jealous, and by the doctor’s knowledge of forbidden topics and his opportunity for illicit indulgence. #RandolphHarris 7 of 11
The subject admitted that he had on several occasions experienced erotic temptations in regard to his women patients; he had twice fallen in love with one, and finally had married one. This shows that the way a lot of adults act and the things they do, are behaviors they learned in their childhood, which appear to be enjoyable or pleasurable to them and they want to do these things to others when adults. For me as a boy, when I would visit my doctor, Dr. Ezekiel, would have Gold Dial soap in his office and when I would wash my hands I remembered how good it smelled, and if a doctor used it, it must be good stuff. So, that Gold Dial is the only hand and bath soap I used because I want to smell good like Dr. Ezekiel. Also, as a child growing up, we lived in a nice suburban community where everything was new and clean and nice and quiet, and everyone had jobs, and so that is what kind of life style I want for my adult life. When people ask me about what I like most about being a son, I always reply, “Everything.” And even when talking to my parents now I try to conceal my true feelings at times and say something pleasant. #RandolphHarris 8 of 11
Like, if I do not like someone and do not want to go to their party and my parents ask me about it, I will say something like, “I am very excited about the party, but I am busy that day. I am sure they will have good company and food as always.” Sometimes, however, I feel like I try too hard to be nice and pleasant and it really takes a lot of energy. I am more of a person who likes to be quiet, mind my own business and keep to myself, but when living in a city and not the suburbs, it requires one to be more social. Now back to the subject, the next memory he has was of a dream, plainly of a homosexual-masochistic nature; in it a man, who proved to be a replacement figure of the family doctor, attacked the subject with a sword. The idea of a sword, as is so frequently the case in dreams, represented the same idea as mentioned above to be associated with that of a wooden stethoscope. The thought of a sword reminded the subject of the passage in the Nibelung Saga, where Sigurd sleeps with his naked sword (Gram) between him and Brunilda, an incident that had always greatly struck his imagination. #RandolphHarris 9 of 11
The meaning of the symptomatic act now at last become clear. The subject had placed his wooden stethoscope between him and his patients, just as Sigurd had placed his sword (an equivalent symbol) between him and the maiden he was not to touch. The great act was a compromise-formation; it served both to gratify in his imagination the repressed wish to enter into nearer relations with an attractive patient (interposition of phallus), and at the same time, to remind him that this wish was not to become a reality (interposition of sword). It was, so to speak, a charm against yielding to temptation. I might add that the following passage from Lord Lytton’s Richelieu made a great impression on the boy: “Beneath the rule of men entirely great, the pen is mightier than the sword. I wear my pen as others do their sword,” and that he became a prolific writer and uses an unusually large fountain pen. When I asked him what need he had of this pen, he replied in a characteristic manner, “I have so much to express.” We all live in different psychological Worlds, there is no correct view of a life situation. #RandolphHarris 10 of 11
A person who feels that his or her view of a life situation has been understood feels freer to examine it objectively and to question it. (Accepting and understanding the perspective of another person can be especially difficult when cultural differences exist.) Heavenly Father, you have filled the World with beauty: Open our eyes to behold your gracious hands in all your works; that rejoicing in your whole creation, we may learn to serve you with gladness; for the sake of the one through whom all things were made. May we commend to your fatherly goodness all those who are in any ways afflicted or distressed, in mind, body, or estate; [especially those whom our prayers are desired]; that it may please you to comfort and relieve them according to their several necessities, giving them patience under their sufferings, and a happy issue out of their afflictions. God, you made us in your own image and redeemed us through Jesus Christ, your Son: Look with compassion on the whole human family; take away the ignorance and arrogance and hatred which infects our hearts; break down the walls that separate us; unite us in bonds of love; and work through our struggle and confusion to accomplish your purpose on Earth. #RandolphHarris 11 of 11
The Victorian Love
Love is a language that informs the audience emotionally and intellectually as the heart beats. Love may be one of the most abstract art forms, it is so remarkable that there is not a living being on the planet that does not know how to show compassion for others.
Blessings in the bottom of my heart come to you when I look back on our many times; I wish you happy and pray that everything will turn out the way you wish.
Be thankful that you have the spirit of God, when you wake up in the morning, you want to feel happiness and make other people happy and that is a blessing in adapting to the puzzling real-World challenges.
I am thinking of asking if you are feeling good in the distance and listening to your heart? I wish you happy forever! I will not change too much in the new year and the years ahead.
It is a blessing to radiate with vigor and kindness, people love you because you make them feel that they are the most interesting thing in the Universe and that there are so many fascinating things to observe.
It is an immoral waste of time to indulge in gossip or trivial discussion. The festive seas is with us once again, and I would like to wish you a very happy and prosperous day.
Wondering to you is a wonderful passion. You have an extraordinary capacity of strength. The brain of a person who loves is remarkable like a kaleidoscope where all of these beautiful concepts, ideas and productions come out.
Our friendship is eternal, open your mind to be filled with my sincere love, I wish you happy and well. Life is a love that no one regrets. You are a ray of warm light, and lively are your angelic eyes. I hope frolic songs are always round you and bring you endless happiness.
Successful people are always looking to find new and good meanings in things. Creativity presents us with flashes of insight almost like they were manufactured on an assembly line.
Even the humblest insights can help people improve their lives. The World likes a tender angel that carries love, truth, kindness and beauty to life. Embrace the World that belongs to you. May you be young and beautiful forever!
When you feel sad, just imagine being in the arms of someone you love and how warm and safe you feel. Also, sometimes we do not live in places that we want to be, but stay focused on how you want your house and imagine yourself in it.
However, no matter where we live and how far away we are apart from each other, may the moonlight carry my everlasting love and respect, to you, across mountains and waters!
A glorious, softly glorious, and most gracious evening, which seemed plainly a tongue to all humanity, saying: I go down in beauty to rise in joy; love reigns throughout all Worlds that sunsets visit; it is a white squall; there is so much mystery.
With love, life will bloom. This castle will have joy. With potential love, life will have momentum and will not wither. Congratulations to you on a beautiful love.
Would love, which is omnipotent, have misery in his domain? Would the God of Sunlight decree gloom? It is a flawless, speckles, fleckless, beautiful World throughout; joy now, and joy forever!
As long as you are around me, everything will be just fine, I wish that we could take sometime. Let the sun and blue sky and clouds wake up hidden memories that are good; several words in the letter bring my regards to a faraway loved one.
Those whose actions are forever before our eyes, whose words are ever in our ears, will naturally lead us, albeit against our will, slowly, gradually, imperceptibly, perhaps, to act and speak as they do. Oh soul of mine, look out and see; look up and know thy freedom.
May illusions of dreams be in your eyes and heart. Your face expresses my fantastic ideal, with your love and affection, we will build an impeccably happy life.
Success can be ensured only when we turn our complaints of environment into the strength to strive for more better. Be not cast down nor dismayed; be uplifted within me and exult, for thy salvation has come.
Behold the wonders of the great Universe and the marvels in your life. Hope is like the Sun, when you march towards it, the shadow you are burdened with will be left behind. Rejoice that you are alive and well. Merry Christmas, wherever you are.
Sensory Rejuvenation Chamber
The World, being earnest itself, likes an earnest scene, and an earnest man, very well, but only in their place—the stage. Some people find it unbelievable that I have been celibate for my entire life, I have not had coitus, and do not even really date. The last time I even kissed someone was at a club back in 2009, and I came to and said to myself, “What am I doing?” The last time I went on a date was back in 2010, with a journalist or a doctor, I am not really sure who he is, and there is a long story behind that.
Every man loves in his soul to play the part of the stage deity. My friend and I had been drinking and we were wondering around midtown, and somehow who I ended up talk to this guy, he told me all about his new BMW 7 series, and I love BMWs. I knew it was like a $125,000.00 car and I did not want him to drive home. I ended up ditching my friend, and this guy and I got into his BMW, and he threw money at me, but I just let it fall on the floor. We listened pop music in the sensory rejuvenation chamber of the BMW, and then went to the burger joint and had a snack. It was about 2am, on a Saturday morning when we left, and he slept over.
We came back to my apartment, and I was a little embarrassed because there had recently been a major fire in the lobby, and there was black smoke on the walls and electrical wires hanging from the ceiling and some of the doors had been kicked down, by the fire department, to make sure there was no fire inside. My door to my apartment was one of them, and it did not even have a bottom door handle, just a lock and a cloth in the door to cover the hole where the door handle was supposed to go. So I knew this guy, because he was rich, would think this place was really weird and that it would reflect on me and would never want to see me again.
Anyway, as we were getting in bed, I turned on the radio, and he made me turn it off, he said, “People are trying to sleep.” He stripped down to his expensive tighty whities, I could tell they were expensive because they material was nice and thick, and laid in my bed on his back. I was so impressed with this guy because he was so clean. It was like he had just got out of the shower and knew he would see me. So anyway, he was about 5’9”, 135 pounds, blonde hair, blue eyes (if I am not mistaken), and it very good shape. I put on my pajamas and laid on his chest and hugged him all night, which felt really good.
Being celibate, I do not have much contact with people, and hugging this guy was like hugging a teddy bear, it made me feel good. The next morning, I gave him my number, walked him to his car, which he pretended he thought he left at the bar, but I am sure he remembered we parked in back, he said that he had “a screaming headache,” it was rainy, my hair was a mess, he got into his car, backed out, we waved and he drove away. I was sure I would never see him again because my apartment might not be up to his standards.
I am not sure if he ever called because the building was undergoing renovations, and my phone number changed, and I could not call him because I did not ask for his number. Months and possibly years went by, and I was in the supermarket, and this guy comes in and starts talking to this lady next to me (it was like one of those conversations where someone is trying to get your attention), but I ignored him. Then later on I realized it was the guy with the BMW and he was trying to get my attention.
So after a while, it dawned on me that I went on a date with a reporter because I saw him on the local TV news, and had kind of started dating one of his coworkers, which probably bothered him, but that did not work out anyway. We never even held hands. So anyway, I recently went to the doctor and my doctor also looks like the reporter that I went on a date with and I cannot figure out if they are the same person, but they are so similar.
So, this reporter and/or doctor, I have been talking to online and I save many of the news articles he writes—we are interested in a lot of the same subjects, and we connect online. However, I am kind of in love with someone else, and me and this reporter have not been interacting as much. Just a few days ago, I was wondering how he feels about that? And if he feels like I am manipulating him? And then I started getting that feeling like we broke up or something, but we are not even dating.
So basically, I am single and this person I am “in love with” seems to be getting kind of distant. And I am not really sure what I want? I would love to actually spend time with one of them and get to know them as friends. However, the guy with the BMW, I have never forgot about and I really like him because he seems honorable, whereas the other person kind of visits me, but is always out with other guys and women, and they take some very suggestive pictures. Like holding hands with other women, or taking pictures in a hotel room with another guy talking about they are “buckin.” So things are uncertain.
I confess, I seldom listen to the players on stage: one has so much to do, in looking about and finding out one’s acquaintances, that, really, one has no time to mind the stage. Some people think celibacy is bloody honorable. I have all of my parts and they function properly, but I decided I wanted I wanted to be fresh, not passed around, and wanted to wait to have sex until I was in a committed relationship. However, as I get older, I have desires, and while I am not desperate, I do want companionship and want to enjoy the company of another person.
The best actors cannot act well before empty benches. Because of religion reasons, I am not really even allowed to touch my own body, so if I masturbate, I cannot touch myself at all. And that is kind of sad because I put in a lot of work on my body and I really like the way it looks and feels. Men are faithful for so long only as temptations pass them by. Everybody like to be tempted. And, after all, it is very easy to resist temptation, if one wishes. And I am pretty sure it is the reporter who slept over because some of his coworkers have called me a journ-ho (because it seems to some that I only date reporters, and have been accused of sleeping with everyone in one newsroom). While some think celibacy is honorable, I am ready to have new experiences.
Some interesting things about celibacy, it is about going a prolonged time frame without sex, not just days, weeks, or months, but years, and possibly a lifetimes. I do not plan on being celibate a lifetime, but celibacy does have some benefits. For instance, you do not get any sexually transmitted infections. You are not exposed to bad sex or smelly people. There are not accidental pregnancies. And celibacy is reversible, you can choose to have sex whenever you want to. However, there are some downsides to being celibate also.
Most men think about sex 18 times a day, and women 9 times a day. The average adult has sex twice a week. So the issue with celibacy is your relationships are not real and you know the person you are interested in is actually having intercourse while you hold out. So celibacy kind of allows people to take advantage of you for you are not having sex, but may have feelings for a person, and they may have feelings for you, but since you are not sexually active, they can date you and other people and leave you on the side, while they have serial relationships. And they know you are not going anywhere because you have feelings for them.
Nonetheless, being that I have been celibate for so long and as corny as it sounds wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, as I get older my motivations change. I can say that I am more open to the idea of a casual relationship. I really would not mind just hooking up with a particular person just for a sexual relationship, no strings attached, until I meet someone I want to be with and someone who wants to be with me. The only reason I have not joined a dating website and hooked up with someone is because my parents will not allow it, it would deeply embarrass them.
Also, because I do not go out often and rarely go to nightclubs nor bars, I am not meeting anyone nor hooking up with any one. So being celibate means once you decide to break your celibacy, sexually, you are tainted, so people may lose interest in you. The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it, not everyone wants to feel sexless and isolated all of their lifetime, and if you are leaving someone who is celibate on hold, when you know they are waiting on, they may end up just indulging. A people think, well, this person is celibate or a virgin, they will wait on me as long as I want them to, but sometimes might find themselves been hurt.
For instance, a reference from popular culture is One Tree Hill, one of the characters was a virgin and in her early or late 20s, and she was dating this guy, Marvin, they were engaged to be married, and were waiting to have sex until their wedding day. However, Marvin could not wait and cheating on his fiance. She found out and went to a bar, got really drunk and had sex with another guy. Marvin found out and was hurt, not only because his future wife cheated on him, but also because she lost her virginity and he wanted to be her first.
What is a tender heart good for? Who can be happy that has a feeling heart? Personally, a lot of time has passed and I am tired of my heart being attached to people who seem to be enjoying themselves, and I think it would be so empowering to simply have a friend with benefits and no strings attached. So, that way, I can be out enjoying myself. Let us thank our lowliness, since it secures us from temptation. Scarcely any virtue is found to resist the power of long and pleasing lust.
Relationships are going to always be more difficult for someone who is celibate and less intimate. Sex is a way that couples feel closer to each other, and can bond themselves emotionally. Some people choose to be celibate so they do not mix love and friendship. However, after a young lifetime of celibacy, and heart break, your emotions change. And so, if you are loosely dating someone who is celibate, I hope you keep in mind that they want to be with you because they love you and are ready for intimacy. However, if you still want to play the field, realize you may lose them?
Who knows what will happen when that person is in a sexual relationship? If a person decided that they just want to have a relations specifically for intercourse, they may like it and decide to take on multiple partners, and may decide that love is not for them because their was no real connection when they were in love. The devil is an adversary, whom if we resist, he will fly far from us. However, I seldom resist him at all, from a terror that though I may conquer, I may still get a hurt in the combat–so I give up the triumph for security; and instead of thinking to make him fly, I generally fly myself. “Monogamy is the way to go, just put your lips together and blow.” -Britney Spears
It is a Wonderful Life
Early love is frequently ambitious in choosing its object. People may love you for your body or name, but your face and eyes are the beautiful talents that brought you to fame. You are thunder and lightning before the rainstorm. Although it is a glimmer, it arouses my courage to wrestle with wind and rain. Glorious histories do not limit you today. Ages do not become your constraint for your aims for the far future. We are not wise in the contempt of others, but in calm approbation of ourselves–it shows the wisdom and tolerance of the star. The most perfect being, you are, and with love life will bloom. Never judge the heart of a wit by the tongue. Be wise, and that wisdom shall be a God unto thee; be contented, and that is thy Heaven. I see a crystal-like heart through your blue eyes and blonde hair. When I stumbled and required supporting, who told me beautiful stories and walked me through the park, kissing my hurt—you. It takes years and maturity to make the discovery that the power of faith is nobler than the power of doubt; and that there is a celestial wisdom in the ingenuous propensity to trust, which belongs to honest and noble natures.
May my blessing be your clean spring for your thirsty heart on this voyage, sweet comfort when you have trouble and beautiful flowers at your victory meeting. With your love and my affection, we will build an impeccably happy life. There is still beauty in the World. What you do not see in yourself, others see in you, you do matter. You will remember today as your darkest day, and tomorrow better, and the day after better still, you will go on. Let the Sun and blue Sky, clouds wake up the hidden memory, several words in the letter bring my regards to the faraway lover. In this silvery World, the white snowflakes are my missing and blessing for you, the angels of the snow. How brilliant and tender is the moon on the night when you bid the moon a goodnight. Only someone with a tender heart would say such a kind thing to the diamond in the sky. May your life be filled with happiness and ecstasy. The World was made for you. In this society, we must have something to endure, as well as to enjoy. My affairs are in the hands of him who guides the planets in their course, and who causes the Sun to shine.
They first think of the Sun when the people surprise at bright color of rainbow. I first think of you when I open my eyes. Divine understanding attends me on the way, and I shall not be hindered in my work. My affairs are controlled by perfect intelligence, and cannot be hindered from expression. I know that all that I do is done from the one motive: to express life; and love will be expressed in and through me. I cannot hinder it. I am controlled by intelligence. We are all very much alike when we are in our first love. Perfect love has a breath of poetry which can exalt the relations of the least-instructed human beings. Love is a stronger passion than vanity. I am inspired in my work from on high with lofty ideals, and my thought is illumined by the all-knowing one. May your Christmas be filled with special moment, warmth and happiness, the joy of loved ones near, and may the blessing of the day last throughout the year. Love dissolves all fear, casts out all doubt and sets the captive free. The poems are the words I want to speak to you. I am missing you silently. Keep the best things in memory and give you my blessings. I wish you a happy New Year and a merry Christmas. Love is in all things a most wonderful teacher. We have been so blinded by thinking and feeling that we have never seen the World. The purer the beauty, the more it will be out of the World. Endless love and blessing for you. You are the most cherishable Christmas present and everything to me forever.
I Know what you did Last Summer with those Secrets and Lies!
I know what you did last Summer is a cautionary urban legend that take place in North Carolina and is about what happened to four high school seniors, after they violated the Ten Commandments in the Bible. Berry Cox, Helen, Julie, and her boyfriend Ray go to a beach to celebrate the 4 July, in 1996. Helen was just crowned as she won a beauty pageant. As Julie, Ray, and Barry watch her get her crown, Ray comments on how big her breast are, and Barry tells him, “She does exercises to pump them up.” Ray and Julie are in a relationship, and Helen and Barry are in a relationship, and by talking about another man’s woman, Ray is committing adultery, which is a violation of the seventh commandment. Barry is a rich kid and has a brand new 1996 BMW 328i sedan, with factory chrome rims, leather, and tinted windows. The car is on fleek! While at the beach, Barry has a few drinks. This particular 4th of July is supposed to represent the Sabbath, although it takes place on Thursday, 4th July 1996, in the film. They are having fun and telling horror stories about a man being decapitated, and ended up with a bloody hook for a hand. Ray thinks these are true stories and explains that, “Urban legends are American folk lore, they all usually originate from some real incident!” The teens blow him off and Julie decided to lose her virginity to Ray. This is a violation of the fourth commandment of God, which states, “Honor the Sabbath day, and keep it holy” premarital sex is considered a sin.
After the night presses on, everyone is ready to leave, Barry’s friends do not want him to drive home, so his girlfriend Helen convinces him to let Ray, who has not been drinking, drive his brand-new BMW. However, Barry knows he is not supposed to let anyone drive his car, he even replies, “Nobody drives my car, but me.” The BMW is a phallic symbol and by letting Ray drive it, he is symbolically allowing himself to be castrated. Barry is also disrespecting his father, by allowing Ray to drive his car, which is a violation of the fifth commandment, which states, “Honor thy father and mother, and your days on this Earth will be long.” The teens should have called someone to pick them and the car up, as it was about a $60,000.00 car. As Ray is driving, Barry pops his head out of the sunroof, and they hit a man crossing the road, Barry gets blood all over his face. By driving Barry’s BMW, Ray, who is from a humble background, violates the second commandment, which states, “Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image.” In this commandment, the Lord condemns the worship of idols Ray is worshipping Barry’s phallic symbol by driving a car that was not meant for him, and that is why he accidentally hits the man who was crossing the road.
The teens then get out of the car, Barry screams, “Jesus Christ, my fucking car! My dad is going to kill my ass.” Julie takes a few steps away from the car, finds a man’s rain boot, black in color, on the side of the road, she screams, “Oh my God! Oh my God! This isn’t happening!” Just then, Barry and Julie violate Commandment three, which states, “Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord, thy God, in vain.” As the teens are in a panic, Ray walks over the to the body and looks at his face, “I think he’s dead. His face is all messed up. What was he doing out here?” The teens drag what they think is a lifeless body down the pier, they have just violated the sixth commandment, “Thou shalt now kill.” As the teens are trying to figure out what to do about the body, another teenager Maxx comes along the road driving his truck. Maxx, however, does not see the man Ray hit with Barry’s BMW and Maxx comments on how the car, “Don’t look so new anymore” and tells Ray, “You almost got that rich boy act down.” Ray also broke a commandment in the Bible, he drove Barry’s BMW and this violates the tenth commandment, “Thou shalt not covert—envying something that belongs to another.”
After Maxx drives away, everyone convinces Barry that he will be charged with murder because it is his car that hit the man, even though he was not driving. Ray tells Barry, “There is liquor all over the car, no one will believe I was driving. You will go to jail for manslaughter.” The entire group just violated the ninth amendment to the ten commandments, which states, “Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.” No one wants to dump the body in the ocean, and Ray says, “Pretend it is an escaped lunatic with a hook hand, and we are doing everyone a favor. Helen is the only one brave enough to push the body in the ocean, as she does, the man comes back to life, for a moment, and grabs the homecoming crown off of her head. Barry has to jump in the water in retrieve the crown. The man the teens hits violates the eighth commandments by stealing Helen’s crown off of her head, “Thou shalt not steal,” and he pays for this sin later in the movie. After the body is dumped in the ocean, everyone, but Julie agrees not to mention the crime ever again. However, because Julie is tripping and acting skittish, Barry grabs Julie by the arms and makes her promise to take the secret and lies to the grave with her. Ray convinced Barry he was going to be charged with a crime because Ray is poor and did not have family or money to get out of it. Julie was worried that she would lose her scholarship. Helen is also rich, like Barry, but was trying to look out for him.
The friends all lose touch, Julie goes away to college and does poorly. A year later, when she returns home, she finds a letter, when she opens it, the letter says, “I Know What You Did Last Summer.” Then Maxx, the nosy teen, is the first to be killed by the serial killer. Not only did the group violate the ten commandments, but by losing her virginity on the beach, Julie opens up Pandora’s box, which releases evil unto them. It is so secret or lie that Helen loves her hair, after the teens know someone is stalking them and knows what they did, she returns home. While she is pouring herself a soda, someone sneaks into her house, and she unknowingly follows him up the stairs, as her sister, Elsa is talking to her and asking her to come to work to help open the store, Helen refuses and sits on her bad and keeps brushing her long golden locks. Elsa tells Helen, “You and your hair—just so pathetic. So very pathetic.” Helen violates commandment one, “Thou shalt have no other gods before me.” When she wakes up the next day, someone cut her highly coveted hair off, and when she looks in the mirror, the word “Soon,” is written across it. While at the gym, Barry takes a shower, then he gets out of the shower to find his jacket has been stolen out of a locker, and that there is a picture of his car with the words “I Know,” written on it. As he tries to find out who is stalking him, Barry goes outside, and someone gets in his BMW and hits he with it, Barry flies through a wall, blacks out and wakes up in the hospital. The movie goes on to detail how these teens are all tormented and murdered by a fearsome creature. “Children should be here having fun, partying, running people over, and getting away with murder.”
Love Yourself!
Sorry, we have to abandon Ben Crawford, he was too destructive and abusive to keep using as an enduring character, I do not support Ryan Phillippe, nor any of his work. If you knew what Ryan Phillippe was involved in, you would not be a fan of his. Sometimes we hear about blood sacrifices and celebrities setting others up to die to gain fame and fortune. Sometimes celebrities make a lot of money, and buy mansions they cannot afford and party like they have an unlimited supply of money, but as they get older, and their fame and fortune decline, they become desperate and will do some strange things for some change. Aaliyah Haughton was a rising star and very beautiful. She got involved with some dangerous people, she thought that this man really loved her, but he may have simply sacrificed her to gain fame and notoriety. Sometimes fame makes you a target, sometimes the images and words you are saying is something someone does not want to hear, or maybe you are part of a bloodline that someone wants to end. So there is a group out there that will tear your life apart and give people money to play with your heart strings and end your life for the promise that there will be financial gains for them. My message to you, even if you are not rich nor famous, you know what is right and wrong. If you are in a relationship with someone who is either physically or emotionally abusing you, let go of them. Your life is so very important. There are other people in the World who want to love you, so give them a chance. Once a person is gone from this earth, we cannot bring them back. So save yourself. Especially if you notice that they are involved with people who wish you harm, but then pretend to care, they do not. If someone really loved you, they would put your first, before money and fame.
Secrets and Lies—the First Gay Teenager
Father and son myths attract huge audiences, the story of God, the creator of Earth and the Milky Way Galaxy, the Father of Christ is one of the World’s most ancient tales know to humans. God wanted desperately to bond with a son he did not know, who was taken away from him. Join me and we will have peace on Earth is what God told his son. The most magnificent and beautiful flowers in the World is youth and life. Dear son, may our youth and life glow as splendid light, and God created and Sun and the Moon. In this World, successful people are those who strive for the opportunity they want. If we cannot find any opportunity, we will create them for ourselves. You have infinite wisdom like spring and industrious hands. Dear son, luck and happiness will accompany you no matter where you are. Let us open the door of puzzles with the golden key of wisdom, and force our way into the palace of creation. The prowess of a sail shows all the more in storms and waves and the fun of life in ups and downs. May you sail through storms and waves and blaze a trail up to the summit! It is not the setback that is dreadful but the despair in failure and repentance. All can start a new, and hope lies just ahead. On the voyage of our life, everything will be old expect time. There is a red Sun greeting you everyday.
It is another promising day, please cherish it! On the long voyage of our life, every step is a test. However, making clear of one’s direction and aim, knowing one’s potentiality and stepping forward resolutely are more important. A river consists of many brooks and a high mountain piles up by thousands of tons of stone. Absorb nutrition from knowledge extensively. May we be as grand mansions as high as a mountain and as deep as a big river. Viewing Secrets and Lies for the first time was and is for many people a life-changing experience. Without a word, Ben Crawford’s mere presence bleeds ultimate power and fear. The moment you see his golden blonde hair and blue eyes, you knew you liked Ben Crawford. Ben Crawford is aspirational in his goal of community stability and peace. As the miniseries progressed, he went from being a God, to being more and more human. As a little boy, I could not understand what I was sensing about Ben. As my dad and I left the mansion that night in March of 2014, he held my hand. Squeezing it, he looked down and me and said, “You know that Ben Crawford was pretty cool.” I looked into his eyes, and hugged him, and agreed. Ben was cool. The actor, Ryan Phillippe, was in a movie called 54, and he inhabits my apartment sometimes as a testament to that coolness. One night he left his underwear.
How cool is it a murdering, planet-creating, prince-torturing (his son, I might add) machine of a man be cool? Cool is probably not the right word, but more important, I do not believe Ryan Phillippe was evil. Ryan Phillippe was not a bad guy. He was just very scared. Living under Hollywood rule has to be stressful. Freedoms are being undermined, the public is frantic, the existential threat of death is unleashed, and the knowledge that his character’s son has been killed or expelled offers little to no hope. The tiny rebellion has little chance against the Ryan Phillippe or the regional governors who holds his son captive in the basis of fear. Other threats are ever present from the community, bounty hunters, slavery, and bribery. Stress is omnipresent under the law. As Ryan Phillippe tells Randolph, there had been a sense of safety and hope when he was considered his guardian, they had peace and justice in the old days, before dark times…before they moved to Sacramento. In the present day, we may not be living in castle, but we could be living under another, more sinister menace that is walking among us every day. I require you to live with me so we can protect and support each other. In my private life, as a psychologist, I see a lot of scared kids and parents. More accurately, I sever the requirements of a lot of anxious people. As a community, we are working harder in our jobs now than at any other time in history. Levels of anxiety are the highest every reported. Individuals are reporting that 40 percent more stress is a reality in their households, and you worry and panic now more than when you had me in your life.
With me being under such intensive pressure and stress, the life of you—my son—is similarly under mounting pressure. Living in such conditions on an ongoing basis raises levels of anxiety to dangerous levels. People are simply trying to upset you to channel your anger so they can insult you. You are required to experience deeper human emotions like love and hugging, you must not always have been alone, you require my attention, the love awaits. You do not have to worry about it, I will never leave you alone. Chasity is a great virtue in a man. Last week, I went with you to the Tower, to see the crowns, and wild beastis; and there was a monstracious lion, with teeth half a quarter long; and a gentleman bid me not go near him, if I was not with my son; being as how he would roar, and tear, and play the dickens. Now I had no mind to go near him; for I cannot abide such dangerous honeymils, not I—but, you would go; and the beast kept such a roaring and bouncing, that I thought he would have broke his cage and devoured us all; and the gentleman tittered forsooth; but I will go to the ends of the Earth upon it, I will, that my son is as good a firchin, as the child unborn; and, therefore, either the gentleman told a fib, or the lion ought to be set in the stocks for bearing false witness against his neighbor.
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is an approach to psychological treatment that alters thinking patters and often times behavior as well, in people’s lives. CBT is used in an attempt to reduce anxiety-based negative thoughts and behaviours that interfere with successful living. CBT is the state-of-the-art tool for anxiety reduction. Anxiety can be paralyzing. It can make you feel that you are under an existential threat, but CBT can help. Then Ryan Phillippe tells me that he is my father, he created, and Secrets and Lies was about how he thought he lost me forever. Before beginning CBT session, my most frequently used too was an introduction to the true nature of Ben Crawford. As he is one of the best-known characters in World history, the majority of his followers, even little five-year-olds suffering from head trauma, have a good understanding of his story. The first episode of Secrets and Lies, anxious and fearful viewers being with a foundational question: “There is only one difference between Ben Crawford and Tom Murphy. What is it?” The most common answer to the question is, “Ben Crawford is God and Tom Murphy is his son.” However, I argue the point that Ben Crawford really loves this boy. His actions are clearly those of a father and he should be characterized as such, and those actions are motivated by something else. He is driven by a magnified emotion we all experience to one degree or another. Ryan Phillippe plays the role of Ben Crawford so well because he is motivated as he believes this is art imitating a portion of his life when he allegedly had a son while he was playing Billy Douglas on One Life to Live, in 1992.
Therefore, the correct answer to the question about Ben Crawford and Tom Murphy is where they place their sense of control. Ben Crawford attempts to control everything external to him, whereas Tom Murphy strives to demonstrate self-control and allow for humans to have free will. Ben Crawford wants peace and justice throughout the community and Milky Way Galaxy. He aspires to an admirable goal for sure. Ben Crawford so much desires and believes in a peaceful family and galactic future that he implores his son to join him on his quest to heal the Earth. Ben Crawford actually wants the same goal as Tom Murphy, but he pursues that goal in a manner that leads him down a frustrating, failure-ridden, and dark path. Ryan Phillippe, loved playing the role of Billy Douglas on One Life to Live. He said in real life when he tried to come out to his father about being gay, that his dad told him, “How could I understand something that is not possible, someone made you think you’re gay, where did you get this crazy idea? You aren’t gay, you can’t be, do you understand?” There is also claim made by Brandon Voss the guy who played Ryan’s boyfriend held his hand once or twice, and he felt lucky to play the first gay teenager on television, period. He and his mother used to get fan letters and read them together. People said they found Ryan Phillippe to be a gay icon, and one young man said that he had considered suicide before seeing a character like him and being accepted.
In his own words Ryan Phillippe says, “I also heard from a father, a mechanic, who hadn’t spoken to his son since he came out. When our show came on in his shop, it gave him some insight and understanding as to who his son was, so it opened up communication between them. As much as you can write off how silly the entertainment industry can be, it can affect change and make people see things differently. That’s beautiful. I’m aware of my gay following and I thank God for that. I’m very aware and appreciative because I started my career playing a gay teenager on One Life to Live when I was very young, I’ve always had a heightened sensitivity to that response, and I’m definitely considerate of the audience. That’s a beautiful creation; he’s mine.” Experiencing so many early life stressors must be very hard on young Ryan. His time on One Life to Live probably reinforces within him a deep-seeded sense that he is controlled by life circumstances. His Ultimate Phillippe unconscious conclusion could be that he has little control of his own destiny, and may reinforce his desire to seek control of his own destiny. Control of future events drives him. In its response to being controlled by so many factors, Ryan Phillippe’s nature is to attempt to control as much as possible, even things far outside his ability to control. When under stress, people tend to seek ways of gaining control, sometimes even using magical thinking. Before he leaves his mother to train as an actor, we get a clear glimpse into Ryan Phillippe’s heart, as he says, “I will come back and free you…I promise. If the heart is near, a long journey will be shortened; if you can free a heart from grief, your life will be well worthwhile.” Although the sentiment is beautiful, we are able to see the pressure this 16-year-old child places on himself. No child should feel that he is responsible for saving a little boy.
Perfectionism has been described as a kind of neurosis that pushes someone to achieve severe and exacting goals. A subtype of perfectionism in teenage boys has been identifies as “pervasive perfectionism.” Such individuals are very well organized and tend to set incredibly high personal standards. However, these individuals often react strongly and very negatively to mistakes in a way that results in angry outbursts or meltdowns. Pervasively perfectionistic teenage boys, like Ryan Phillippe, tend to have parents who have high expectations of them or are often very critical (think about Billy Douglas’s father with unreasonably high expectations). Having such a perfectionist manner of thinking leaves a person with unavoidable failure as nobody can be perfect, not even one who expected to bring balance to the life force. Having repeated experiences of failure and never feeling a sense of perfect completion can manifest and leave one feeling defeated, shameful, and guilty. Ryan Phillippe, as he turns to the dark side, surmises his dichotomous manner of thinking by saying, “I just thought about the gay friends I have and how potentially offensive that whole direction would be to them. I don’t feel there was any malice behind it, though, and I know Jay regrets it. We ended up going to a gay bar there, but I don’t even think anyone noticed me, I was kind of shocked. Maybe my gay fans are just better behaved than my straight fans. Who cares about being consider gay, man, in this day and age? Not like I’m going to fall in love with my son at a gay bar!” I am not math major, but what is Ryan Phillippe hiding from us and where is it? Ryan tells us for Christmas, he does plan to Reclaim what was taken from him so many years ago.
The Country Upstairs Prevents Massacres and Mass Shootings!
It is better to hear a lark sing than the rat speaking. Psychologists have always been fascinated by humanity’s spiritual nature. The forces in the Universe cannot be reversed. As the shift of dimensions continues, only natural forces of reality will prevail. All manifested forms of illusion created by the altered-Ego will crumble within the next few years. All synthesized items that are a part of this altered consciousness will actually vanish from this plane. Therefore, those who might not have your best interest at heart are themselves governed by the window. Great polarities will become more and more apparent, as the World observes, through the eyes of the media, the crumbling of social structures, religious groups, and sciences.
Humans are apparently a unique species in that they possess the advanced neurological mind program and cognitive structure necessary to reflect on their own existence and consider: Why are we here? What happens when this lifeline ends? Is there more to the World than what our sense can detect? Is there are grander meaning to our lives? Do what have an immaterial essence—a soul that transcends the material body? You are learning through experience to become a forever being, which is your natural state. It will not be uncommon for people to live for thousands of years, if they choose to do so upon this plane. For the great mystery of death will be no longer necessary for the sake of the experience.
There will be more than one pathway into the future existence. Many will have the knowledge to expand their molecular structure through conscious vibratory shifting of their new energy fields. One way humans grapple with these kinds of existential questions is by subscribing to and investing in religious faiths, or what psychologist refer to as cultural Worldviews. Religious pursuits are not exclusively tied to activities like attending church services, praying, or studying sacred texts. Our species also explores religions and spirituality through storytelling. Our ancestors told stories of mythical creatures, supernatural agents, and gods with different powers and motives. We are not so different.
As humans, we are motivated by the goal of eternal life, but we know that we are mortal. However, the prospect of death is scary so we want to believe in an afterlife because that reduces anxiety surrounding death. Anxiety compromises mental health, so beliefs that help people cope with fear of the future prove to be beneficial. Belief in God is the belief in supernatural, and this system paves a way to immortality to those who believe in God. John 3.16 reports, for God loved the World, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Temper your anger, your rage. This is quintessential at this time. The time of that experience is over now. It will only solidify that other reality. Stop your judgment of those all around you; learn to allow the differences.
Be your own truth. Religious beliefs involve supernatural thinking: thoughts and attitudes that relate to entities, events, or actions that are at odds with our understanding of the laws of physics. Cognitive and developmental psychologist have confirmed that supernatural thinking is a normal part of human development, which can help children what they see around them. Long before humans came up with scientific explanations for natural phenomena, supernatural thinking helped our ancestors make sense of the World. To some in developing counties, concepts like WiFi (wireless internet) and airplanes are still considered supernatural forces, as they cannot explain how they work. In 1995, if you heard about someone investing in wireless internet, you would have thought that that were foolish, and now it is a reality. In the 17th century, someone speaking of a flying machines would have been called a witch. And if you could produce such a machines, you may have been burned at the stake.
In the same sense, spirituality is still considered supernatural to others because it is something they cannot explain, nor can they prove it right now, as most human minds are not advanced enough. Therefore, supernatural thinking is not confined to childhood or the ancestral World, people believe in God, people believe they have souls, but they cannot necessarily prove that. Many 21st century adults subscribe to supernatural beliefs. Psychological research indicates that religious supernatural thinking serves psychological functions and actually keeps people safe. To further illustrate this point, religion increases people’s sense of control when they feel stressed out or uncertain. People who believe in God know not to cause harm to others because it is against God’s law. However, because supernatural beliefs are at odds with a scientific understanding of the World, tension may arise between religious individuals who hold such beliefs and nonreligious people who reject God.
Some people argue that a religious belief in a supernatural force is antiquated and inferior to a more scientific, technological Worldview. However, you notice since prayer has been taken out of school, and children no longer fear their parents, the World has become increasingly violent. As details surrounding the San Bernardino, California, USA shooting gradually emerge, President Obama reports a pattern of mass shootings in America has no parallel anywhere else in the World. 14 people were killed and 17 others where injured on 2 December 2015 by a mass shooter. In the year of 2015, in America, there were 355 mass shootings, and we have only had 336 days this year. So there are more mass shootings than days in the year. People who believe in religion acknowledge that there are forces beyond science at work in the Universe, and also believe that science and technology have limits and therefore embrace the supernatural, religious qualities of the World.
Self-control is a lifestyle. Psychologists have also noticed that religious-inspire practices can benefit mental and physical healthy by helping people exercise self-control. People who have self-control can regulate their emotions and behavior. Religion teaches humans that our body is the temple of God and that we should treat our body with care, and practice humility, patience, mindfulness, and compassion. And medication and prayer help to regulate human behavior because they feel these methods release their frustrations, dreams, thoughts, prayers, and goals and that God will protect them and provide a way for them. When people are exposed to religion, they are better able to endure discomfort, criticism, and delay gratification, and are able to better handle challenging tasks. Religion also provides a sense of meaning in life, and because people think their lives are meaningful, they tend to be healthier and live longer because they love and have something to live for. When people are angry and want to hurt others, their level of self-control determines whether or not they act on these urges. Adam Lanza, Dylan Storm Roof, and Syed Rizwan Farook, and Tashfeen Malik would not have massacred people if they believed in God. Do to others as you would have them do to you.
Call Me When the Cross Turns Over
Love and friendship know nothing of justice. The value of love is that it overlooks faults, and forgives even crimes. The World imagines those to be at our nature’s depths who are impudent enough to expose its muddy shallows. The dredging of natures is the miry form of art. Analytical psychology is an approach to studying mental health and personality development by investigating consciousness and unconscious processes. Personal development involves a process of individuation, growth as an individual, in which each person can better understand both themselves and aspects of a universal level of the subliminal cognitive state. Many of us are on a noble quest. We spend each moment of every waking hour focused and reflecting on mystery we are trying to solve. Life is about trying to protect the peace the community after an intrusion by outside forces, which we are not akin to. The person who is very determined and on a righteous journey, in the midst of the chaos and deceptions around one is a person who is connected with God, and this allows us to remain strong and peaceful.
Individuation refers to the effort to become a fully human person and to grow into full consciousness. The process of becoming fully human and totally conscious is to understand the good, bad, light and darkness, and it is not an easy choice. The journey to individuation is a lifetime journey. Some people choose to protect their compassion nature with cynicism and apathy because they do not want to feel vulnerable nor uncertain. It is by far more easy for people to pretend like they do not care than to face heartbreak or disappointment. Some people put up barriers because they feel threatened by potential rejection and want to live a painless life. However, by blocking people out who care about you, not only are you hurting them, but you are also hurting yourself. No matter what, life is fluid and while you may think you have a person where you want them, you may lose them while you are not looking. A lot like parking your car in a lot and leaving it unattended. You think it is secure because it has an alarm system, you are constantly watching it, but if someone wants it, they will find a way to get it from you.
When people lose things they care about because they did not cherish them, a feeling of revenge starts to brew, and while they thought they were protecting themselves, they really start to feel the pain of loss, and this can turn into a vengeful rage. Your shadow represents the individual’s discordant desires, instincts, or shortcomings. This is why we are facing so many shootings and violence, people are living fake lives and hurting inside. On Wednesday, 2 December 2015, in San Bernardino, California, USA one to three suspects committed a massacre, killing more than 20 people at the Inland Regional Center, a facility that cares for people with developmental disabilities. This shows you that no targets are off limits, people are killing anyone they want without any regard. Because the conscious ego can only know itself, the contents of the mind and the dark shadows residing inside are unknown to others. Mass shooters are no longer adapting to the outer reality that we all share, but rather to an inner reality. They have a split with reality because there are elements of themselves that are forgotten, repressed, or ignored. To avoid these type of situations, we need to be kind to people and accept others for who they are. We have to learn to surrender, relinquishing part of our own desires and be guided by God to care for others who are having hard times.
We have to learn to train our mind, body, and spirit to be disciplined. In life, everyone faces trials, and just because some are smiling and happy, it does not mean that their life is better than yours, it simply means they are better able to control their emotions. While some people take relationships for granted and are running around trying to get attention and be popular, their loved ones may be in the process of letting going and moving on. A person should contemplative as the spirit converse and assimilates with the unconscious. As one progresses through individuation, actions may change, as the body now acts in congruence with the mind and spirit. When you recognize distressing feelings, the first step is to acknowledge them. If you remain in denial or in a one sided relationship, you will remain discontented and ignorant for the rest of your life. Being alone and uncertain of your future can be a painful and frightening experience, but remember to walk in faith and not by sight. Before examining our own hidden qualities, we may be in complete denial of our shadow elements, yet what we deny in ourselves can often easily be spotted in others. A person may despise another’s quick temper while at the same time fervently suppressing a wish to respond with anger.
The first step in making the acquaintance of a person’s own shadow is admitting that the scary, annoying, or irritating qualities found in others are often the qualities in that individual that evoke the very same responses. For example, if you are dating someone who is in their 40s, who is still going out to nightclubs and trying to be hip, you may despise that aspect of them and you need to eradicate that person from your life. Staying in unhealthy situations disavowals one’s own characteristics and it may be dangerous. The more you suppress yourself, the more darkness and unhappiness grows inside of you, and it will take over your life entirely. The goal in life is to develop a reciprocal relationship. Everyone knows when you are in your 40s, you are too old to be going to nightclubs and trying to look cool. So if you are dating someone, who is older than you, and this is how they behave, break it off and enjoy life so you do not end up like them. Art may disguise complexions, but never improve them. Sometimes people are placed in our lives so we can see what we do not want to become. This shadow holds a message that it may be wise for you to heed. These are messages that may come from your subconscious content, particularly if the vision includes a character that is the same gender as the person with the vision. By paying attention to the message, or the vision, the encounter with the shadow becomes collaborative, rather than hostile in nature.
As unbelievable as it may sound, this shadow is still part of you. You should accept it, attune to it, guide it, and control it. Be mindful, strive to stay mindful and aware of anger and other shadowy feelings, as well as paying attention to your thoughts. Sometimes you go through a lot of the same type of relationships to help you grow. On the path to individuation, a person examines events are meaningful expressions of the collective unconscious. So, let me take that back, if you are dating someone who is immature, as long as they are not harming you or taking anything from you, allow them to be in your life. This could be your spirit testing you to see if you can hang on when things get rough. Let them think they are still the love of your life, and when someone else comes on, they will realize you have left them in the shadows. We have the innate capacity to walk a path through the park that leads us to our true selves. We gather strength from every situation, and allow this to bring you peace, balance, and wholeness, but to benefit from this wisdom, we must first learn to feel the variety of emotions. It is amazing, when you change the way you look at people, and start looking out for them, it is impressive how much better they treat you.
Fire on the Wind–Classic White Man
The World’s greatest need is mutual confidence. No human being knows all the secrets of another’s heart. Yet, we all have some relationships with others, from a passing acquaintance to others we feel a deep kindred bond for, and this makes social life a practical possibility. These relations manifest over time, and friendship, like love, is the child of sympathy, not of complaint. Most people like intense and strong relationships because you form trust, but some relationships are weak. Friendships makes us warmly espouse the interest of others; but it is very cold to the gratification of their passions. Whatever the number of a person’s friends, there will be times in our lives when we have few; but if we have only one enemy, we are lucky indeed if we have not one too many. The beauty and loveliness of friendship is too strong for dim eyes. We all know that we are loved, but some people go through a period of isolation, and it makes them feel unloved, and it is not the type of void that can be filled with the sex, it is a yearning that only warm tender arms can embrace.
The way to strengthen a friendship is through spending time with a person, having emotional intensity, intimacy, and reciprocal services. There are attributes in the in the architecture and conservation of relationships. Perhaps the most delightful friendships are those in which there is much agreement, much disputation, and yet more personal liking. Exalted minds enter more rapidly and closely into the connection of friendship than those of a vulgar stamp. Friendship is a passion. It entrances the being; it tears the soul. All loves of after life can never bring its rapture, or its wretchedness; no bliss so absorbing, no pangs of jealousy or despair so crushing and so keen! The more time you put into relationship, the stronger it will become. This entails the how long you have known each other, how often you see each other, and how much time you spend together. The more time you put into your relation, the stronger it will become. If your relationship is new, it can grow strong if you spend a lot of time together. Time is the foundation of all relationships, and out of love to oneself, one must speak better of a friend than an enemy.
Love is nothing in comparison with the intimacy of two congenial friends. When two people share an intense emotional experience, it strengthens the relationship between them. People often go through intense and dangerous events together, and these experiences foster emotional intensity. If a good face is a letter of recommendation, a good heart is a letter of credit. Intimacy can many forms. While physical and sexual intimacy certainly counts, any instance where a person makes oneself vulnerable to another is an intimate moment. Virtue is so dear to the human heart, that when its form forsakes us, we pursue its shadow. Successful moments of intimacy build trust and build strong bonds. As relationships grow sometimes, they become physical, this usually happens when a guy stops trying to be tough and shows the object of his affection that he is caring and loves them.
There be grains of sense in a simpleton, so long as he be natural. Sometimes people feel stupid when they believe they are giving so much, but not getting much in return, and this is not all directed at one person. In life sometimes we give so much of ourselves and want someone to be there for us, but trust me, even just a walk in the park with a good friend warms the heart. The favors and help that people give one another is called benevolence. Benevolence is the duty of one who aspires to wisdom. When people do things for each other, they tend to feel closer to each other. However, in covert military style situations, people find other ways to demonstrate many dramatic examples of reciprocal services. Sometimes people do work for each other. Someone might promote you if you help them, and emotional intimacy develops. After a while a person might feel like you all are family and expect certain things and feel let down if the services you provide are lacking or missing. They may also feel downtrodden if it is suspected that you are fond of another person or organization. That is because you have an exchange of trust, warmth, intimacy, reciprocal services, emotional intensity, and a long history together. And clearly your bond is still strong through all the ups and downs.
However, sometimes situations go one so long, and they have to do with critics attack the person you care about, while you are trying to maintain a professional relationship, and it becomes frustrating, and one might feel bad or stupid when they reply in the same manner, and it is like how long is this foolishness going to keep going on? A person might even want to leave the environment because of the circumstance of which they cannot seem to control no matter how hard they try. Imagine two people you are very close with whom you spend a lot of time with, have intense emotional experiences, share intimacy, and for whom you do favors. It is very unlikely that those two people do not have at least a passing acquaintance. They do not need to have a strong relationship, but we would expect them to have some connection to one another. It is so unlikely that this situation occurs that it is termed forbidden. These situations will eventually resolve themselves when a tie forms between the two previous strangers. The only certain as well as laudable way of setting ourselves above another person: by becoming their benefactor. People develop stronger relationships by spending time together, sharing intense emotional experiences, and intimacies, and doing things for one another. Some relationships that develop are destined to be. You are the most excellent of people and your lips have been anointed with grace, since God has blessed you for every.
Randolph Harris II International Institute 