Children can feel, but they cannot analyze their feelings; and if the analysis is partially effected in thought, they know not how to express the result of the process in words. This is a time when personal development in one generation greatly affects development in the next. When parents fail to give the children a good start in life, everybody suffers, the child, the parents, and society as a whole. In addition to the skills needed for achievement, effective parents give children a capacity for love, joy, responsibility, and fulfillment. Most people discipline their children in the same way they were disciplined. Unfortunately, this means that many parents make the same mistakes their parents did. What can parents do to promote healthy development in their children? Two key ingredients of effect parenting are communication and discipline. In each area, parents can set an example that goes beyond merely dispensing dos and do nots. Rearing children can be a challenge, no psychologist would deny that love is essential for healthy development, but discipline (guidance regarding acceptable behavior) can be equally important. Parents with unmanageable, delinquent, or unhappy children often can honestly claim that they give them lots of love. 

Yet, when parents fail to provide guidelines for behavior, children become antisocial, aggressive, and insecure. Parents who allow themselves to be dominated or manipulated, create lifelong patterns of self-serving behavior in their children. Does this mean that discipline should be strict and unbending? No. Recall that authoritarian parenting also has undesirable effect on children. Families are not military boot camps. Children are more comfortable with autocratic commands then adults. As stated before, effective discipline is fair but loving, authoritative yet sensitive. The goal is to socialize a child without destroying the bond of love and trust between parent and child. One 22 yearlong study found that children whose parents are critical, harsh, or authoritarian often become self-absorbed adults. And these children often have higher than average record of violence and substance abuse. Creative communication between parents and children is the core of successful child management. Making a distinction between feelings and behavior is the key to clear communication. Since children (and parents, too) do not choose how they will feel, it is important to allow free expression of feelings.

 The child who learns to regard some feeling as bad or unacceptable, is being asked to deny a very real part of his or her experience, so parents are encouraged to teach their children that all feelings are appropriate, it is only actions that are subject to disapproval. Many parents are unaware of just how often they block communication and the expression of feelings in their children. Here is a conversation to illustration the issue of communication:

Grandson: I am worthless, and I know it, my dad and friends tell me all the time, look at my report card.

Grandfather: You just have to work harder, remember, Mrs. Higgins said you would be successful, and Mrs. Gaiser said you would be a great lawyer.

Grandson: I already work harder and it does not seem to help. No one likes me. They all hit me and yell at me and blame me for their problems. I have no brains.

Grandfather: You are highly intelligent and it makes others feel uncomfortable that you are so sensitive and advanced, I know.

Grandson: I am crazy and stupid, I know.

Grandfather: (loudly) You are not stupid! You are my grandson and I love you and refuse to let you hurt yourself!

Grandson: Yes, I am!

Grandfather: You are not dumb or crazy. Silly!

 By debating with the child, the grandfather misses the point that his son feels worthless, crazy, and dumb. It would be far more helpful for the grandfather to encourage the boy to talk about his feelings. How could he encourage the child to talk about his feelings? He might say, “You really feel that you are not as smart as others, do you not? Do you feel this way often? Are you feeling bad at school?” In this way, the child is given a chance to express his emotions and to feel understood. The grandfather might conclude the conversation by saying, “Look, grandson, in my eyes you are a great person and part of a great family, you will be successful. However, I understand how you feel. Everyone feels uncomfortable with their lives at some time.”

Encouragement is valuable and supportive parents encourage their children.

In terms of communication, encouragement sounds like this:

“It looks like you enjoyed that.”

“I have confidence in you; you will make it and be successful.”

“It was thoughtful of you to go to therapy.”

“Thanks. That helped a lot.”

“You really worked hard on that.”

“You are improving. Look at the progress you have made.”

 Communication with a child can also be the basis of effective discipline. Parents should send “I messages” to their children, instead of making “You” statements. What is the difference? You statements take the form of threats, name calling, accusing, bossing, lecturing, or criticizing. Generally you statements tell children what is wrong with them. An I message tells children what effect their behavior had on you. To illustrate the difference, consider this example. After a hard day’s work, Aaliyah wants to sit down and luxuriate awhile. She begins to luxuriate with a nice warm bubble bath, a glass of wine, and some soft music, dims lights, and the trade papers when her year-old son starts blasting Too $hort Married to the Game “That’s how it goes down.” Most parents would respond with you statements.

 “You go play outside this instant.” (bossing)

“Do not ever make such a racket when someone is luxuriating.” (lecturing)

“You are really acting crazy today, are you off your medication?!” (accusing)

“You are a little demon.” (name calling)

“You are going to get choked out, do not ever piss me off again!” (threatening) 

The proper way to handle the situation is to send I messages such as, “I am very tired and I want to luxuriate. I feel upset and cannot read with so much bass, it is drowning my voice out.” This forces the child to accept responsibility for the effect of his actions. To summarize, an I message states the behavior to which you object. It then clearly tells the child the consequences of his or her behavior and how that makes you feel. Here is how to fill in the blanks with I messages: “When you (state the child’s behavior), I feel (state your feelings) because (state the consequences of the child’s behavior). For example, “When you go to Kathy’s without telling me, I worry that something might have happened to you because I do not know where you are.” Natural and Logical Consequences: Sometimes events automatically discourage misbehavior. For example, the child who refuses to eat dinner will get uncomfortably hungry. A child who throws a temper tantrum may gain nothing but a sore throat and a headache if the tantrum is ignored. In such instances, a child’s actions have natural consequences (intrinsic effects). I situations that do not produce natural consequences, parents can set up logical consequences (rational and reasonable effects). For example, a parent might say, “We will go to the Wendy Shows when you have picked up all of these toys,” or “You can play with your dolls as soon as you have taken your bath,” or “You two can stop arguing or leave the table until you are ready to join us.”

 The concept of logical parent defined consequences can be combined with I messages to handle many day-to-day instances of misbehavior. The key idea is to use an I message to set up consequences and then give the child a choice to make: “Dale, we are trying to watch TV. You may settle down and watch with us or go play elsewhere. You decide which you would rather do.” How could have Aaliyah have dealt with her year old, the one who was blaring Too $hort on the stereo? A response that combines an I message with logical consequences would be, “I would like for you to stop blasting that rap music; otherwise, please take it outside.” If the child continues to blast that rap music inside the house, then he has made a decision to play the rap music in a way that causes his mother to turn it off. However, if the child takes the rap music outside, he has made a decision to play the rap music in a way that respects his mother’s wishes. In this way, both parent and child have been allowed to maintain a sense of self-respect and a needless clash has been averted. After you have stated consequences and let the child decide, be sure to respect the child’s choice. If the child repeats the misbehavior, you can let the consequences remain in effect longer. However later, give the child another chance to cooperate. The temperaments of children are often as oddly unsuited to parents as if capricious fairies had been filling cradles with changelings. With all child management techniques, remember to be firm, kind, consistent, respectful, and encouraging. And most of all, try every day to live the message you wish to communicate.

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There once was a gentle boy called Samuel. He lied at the edge of the forest with his parents and two older brothers. Samuel’s family often treated him poorly because they did not know that he was capable of much greater things, until the day he met a strange old man. That day began as Samuel’s oldest brother went to cut wood. Their mother packed a nice, sweet cake and a bottle of cider for her oldest son to take into the woods. Samuel stayed home and chopped nuts. In the woods, Samuel’s brother came upon a little gray man. The man kindly bid him good day (Sacrament), and said, “Will you share your cake and cider with a tired old man? I am very thirsty.” Samuel’s brother yelled at the man. “If I give you my food and drink, I will not have enough for myself, now get out of my way,” he replied. The brother left the man standing there and went to chop a tree. After a few strong swings, his ax slipped and hit his arm. He suffered a deep cut, and could no longer continue his work. The little man saw all this happen, and he smiled as Samuel’s oldest brother hurried home to dress his wound. When a person is aware of themselves, and the World that they live in, accord with these conditions produces harmonious parts of being alive. When, however, one distorts some of the conditions of their being, one loses that very being in the process.

Games prevent honest, intimate, and open relationships between the players. Yet people play them because the games fill up time, provoke attention, reinforce early opinions (about self and others), and fulfill a sense of destiny. Disclosure of person to person, honest, direct, uncontrived, is the necessary condition for reducing the mystery that one man is for another. Sharing and being nice is a good virtue, when possible. At times, we are not able to share. For example, it is 20 April 2015, you father buys you a pizza, for your birthday, and tells you to bring it back home to share with him. A stranger, who is with a group of people, walks up and asks you for a slice. In that case, it is not your option to share. So you have to view each situation differently. In the case of Samuel, because his first brother was injured, they had to send another brother out to chop wood. Before long, the second brother also met up with the old man in the woods. The man kindly bid him a good day and said, “Would you share your cake and cider with a tired old man? I am very hungry and thirsty.” This next brother was as selfish as the first. “If I give you my food and drink, I will not have enough for myself. Now get out of my way!” The second brother walked away, and found a tree to chop. He swung so strongly with his ax; the head of the ax dropped off. It fell firmly on the brother’s foot, and he, too, could no longer work. Again, the little gray man smiled as he watched Samuel’s brother hobbling home.

Then young Samuel said, “Let me go cut the wood, Father.” “You know nothing about it, but if you are so willing to get hurt, then go!” his father replied. Sam’s mother handed him some cake and a warm jug of water and sent him on his way. When he reached the forest, Sam met the little gray man as well. Then man kindly bid him a good day and said, “Would you share some food and drink with a tired old man? I am very hungry and thirsty.” “I only have stale cake and warm water, but if you do not mind that, we can eat together.” They sat in the woods to eat. When Sam reached for their snacks, he found magnificent slice of sweet cake and a large bottle of cider for them to share.  When they finished their tasty mean, the old man told Samuel, “You shared your goods with me, and for that I am grateful. Now you will have good luck to go with your kind heart.” The little gray man pointed at an old tree nearby. “Cut it down and you will find something special there in its roots.” Then he walked away without another word. Samuel swiftly cut down the old tress, and when it fell, he found a goose sitting among the roots. This was no ordinary goose. Its feathers were made of gold! In the end, Samuel ended up marry a princess, not because of his newly found wealth, but because of his good heart. Therefore, as Hebrews 13.2 reports, “Forget not to show love unto strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.”

The courage as well as cowardice of fools’ proceeds from not knowing what is or what is not the proper object of fear; we may account for the extreme hardiness of some people in the same manner as for the terrors of children at a bugbear. The child knows not but that the bugbear is the proper object of fear, the blockhead knows not that a cannonball is so. Fear is never more uneasy than when it doth not certainly know its object. Anger and love and the feeling of both or not operate separate compartments or in separate people. We cannot reject one and hope to experience the other. All of us have known fear. It is one emotion that seems to have real survival value. Without fear, we might walk into traffic, pick up a rattlesnake, jump off a cliff, or eat a poisonous mushroom. So, we cannot wish never to be afraid. Some people wish, however, that they did not experience fear so often or severely. Our instinctive emotions are those that we have inherited from a much more dangerous World, and contain, therefore, a larger portion of fear than they should. Instinctive responses are those which are natural or inborn, not learned. People find themselves thrown into an incomprehensible World…One lives in a whirlpool of instability, aloneness, suffering, and is haunted by the ultimate specter of death, and nothingness. One would like to escape from the burden of anxiety, but one would also like to know its meaning. Fear is a response to threat or danger. The same adrenal glands are involved, only this time the message from the pituitary is different: call out the adrenalin! Adrenalin has effects similar to those of noradrenalin, but also some additional ones.

You may have noticed that when you are frightened, you feel quite different from when you are angry. The whole body is activated now for defense or escape. If you cannot face and defend yourself against the threat, your body is ready to escape. All well and good if you were just an animal, running from a dangerous predator, because it would be just an instinctive response; however, as part of the human population, we have learned dozens of attitudes toward fear, event to the extent of prizing those people who do not seem to know the meaning of the word fear. A hero, we think, is someone who is never afraid. By this same reasoning, then, a person who feels fear is labeled a coward. And so fear goes, passed on from generation to generation. However, sometimes we have to stand firm, and face our fears, as long as there is no actual threat of violence. You never want to get hurt. Psychologically, it is nearly impossible never to feel fear. However, we have all learned society’s attitudes about it, so, in order not to appear spineless, people deny their fears, jump boldly into danger, and may die foolishly and needlessly. Stare the ugly horror right in the face; never a sidelong glance, nor half-look, for those are what show a frightful thing in its frightfullest aspect. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. The LORD is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid? For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.

 

The nobles send their servants for water; but they find no water. They return with their wells unfilled; dismayed and despairing, they cover their heads. The ground is cracked because there is no rain in the land; the farmers are dismayed and cover their heads. Even the Elk in the field deserts her newborn fawn because there is no grass.  Wild democrats (donkeys) stand on the barren heights and pant like jackals; their eyesight fails for lack of pasture. The people of Earth greatly love to wander; they do not restrain their feet or their mouths. So the LORD does not accept them; he will now remember their corruption and punish them for their sins. The year is 2015, and many people around the World are wondering if the end of the World is near. Scientific fact supports that the World is dying. The human rate is deteriorating about 10 percent, in a loss of fitness every generation. In the relatively near future, we will see significant impairment in the human geniality.  California is running out of water, prices are at an all-time high and debt is out of control. I call Heaven and Earth to witness against you today, that I have set before your life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore, choose life, that you and your offspring may live.

 Do not pray for the well-being of his people. Although they fast, I will not listen to their cry; though they offer burnt offerings and grain offerings, I will not accept them. Instead, I will destroy them with the sword, famine and plague. You will not see the sword or suffer famine. Indeed, I will give you lasting peace in this place. Let my eyes overflow with tears night and day without ceasing; for my virgin daughter—my people—has suffered a grievous wound, a crushing blow. If I go into the country, I see those slain by the sword: if I go into the city, I see the ravages of famine. Both prophet and priest have gone to a land they know not. Do any of the worthless governors or idols bring rain? Do the skies themselves send down showers? No. Because man is not in control over this Earth, only God is. These are the words of him who has the sharp, double-edged sword. I know where you live—where Satan has his throne. Yet you remain to my name. You did not renounce your faith in me. However, understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty.

 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not living good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people. However, for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murders, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all willful and disobedient liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, with the funk of 40,000 years, which is the second death. And this gospel of the Kingdom of Heaven will be proclaimed throughout the whole World as testimony to all nations, and then the end will come. Where is the promise of his coming? For ever since the fathers fell asleep, all things continuing as they were from the beginning of creation. We know that we are from God, and the whole World lies in the power of the evil one. In flaming fire, inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Christ. They will suffer the punishment of eternal destruction, away from the presence of the Lord in Heaven, and from the glory of his might.

 At that time shall arise Michael, the great prince who has charge of you people. And there shall be a time of trouble, such as never has been since there was a nation till that time. However, at that moment, your people shall be delivered, everyone whose name shall be found written in the book. He who dwells in the castle of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust, for he will deliver you from the snare of the fowler and from the deadly pestilence, he will cover you with his pinions, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness is a shield and buckler. You will not fear the terror of the night, nor the arrow that files by day. For this is the will of my Father, that everyone who looks on the Son and believes in him should have eternal life, and I will raise him up on the last day. Repent (stop being corrupt, stop lying, stop hurting people and be good) therefore, that your sins may be blotted out, and make it your ambition to lead a quiet life. You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of the outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody. Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. A mind that after a long season of oblivion in pain returns to wakefulness without a keen edge for the World is much in danger of souring permanently.

 A well—informed mind is the best security against the contagion of folly and vice. When I met the young man, he seemed to have more in his head than could come out at his mouth. Suffering minds will be partial to their own cause and merits. If the mind be not engaged, there is hardly any confinement sufficient for the body! Virtue better apparel the mind, than clothes the body. I am shocked to find people have sublime ideas in their heads, and nothing, but illiberal sentiments in their hearts.  Children, it is the last hour, and as you have heard that antichrist is coming, so now many antichrists have come. Therefore, we know that it is the last hour. I have said all these things to you to keep you from falling away. They will put you out of the synagogues. Indeed, the hour is coming when whoever kills you will think he or she is offering service to God. And they will do these things because they have not known the Father, nor me. However, I have said these things to you, that when their hour comes, you may remember that I told them to you. Your gold and silver have corroded, and their corrosion will be evidence against you and will eat your flesh like fire. You have laid up treasure in the last days. There will be signs in the Sun, Moon, and Stars.

 Immediately after the distress of those days, the Sun will be darkened, and the Moon will not give its light; the stars will fall from the sky, and the Heavenly bodies will be shaken. At that time, sign the Son of Man will appear in the sky, and all the nations of Earth will mourn. They will see the Son of Man coming on the clouds of the sky, with power and great glory. An increase in knowledge and technology and travel is a sign of the last days. Keep this prophecy a secret; seal it up so that it will not be understood until the end times, when travel and education shall be vastly increased. On Earth, Nations will be in anguish and perplexity at the roaring and tossing of the sea. Men will faint from terror, apprehensive of what is coming on the World, and for the Heavenly bodies will be shaken. Destruction will come on them suddenly, and they will not escape. Here Christ is being authorized to unleash the final events and then establish His Kingdom on Earth. Take heed to yourselves, so that your hearts be weighed down with carousing, drunkenness, and cares of this life, and that Day will come on you unexpectedly. For it will come as s snare on all those who dwell on the face of the whole Earth, so be ready and pray always that you may be counted worthy to escape all things that will come to pass (the terrible end—times events), and to stand before the Son of Man.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is the nature of that happiness which we derive from our affection to be calm; its immense influence upon outward life is not known till it is troubled or withdrawn. Nothing in this World can be truly said to be more wonderful than anything else. The caverns of my mind are open, and they will not close. However, sometimes the mind will deceive itself by its own acuteness become some are either too busy living in the past, or trying to predict the future. Nonetheless, it is best to stay in the moment. Living in the past will create fear, trying to predict the future will create anxiety. There is a World, other people, your own self, and your own body. Most of us take that for granted. However, how do you know? More, how to you know you know? What makes you sure of the truth of any of the ideas you have been reading here, and the reality of anything you have experienced in your lifetime? If an idea races through your mind, where does it go? What process is involved when you think, learn, imagine, dream or feel? Take a moment to get an idea of just how fantastic your brain is. Every second of your life, from conception to passing, 10,000 separate sensory impressions bombard your sense receptors.

All over your body, inside and out, are sensitive little nerve cells (called neurons)—in the eyes, ears, nose, on the tongue, on the skin, and on the inner surfaces of the body, as well. These are constantly being stimulated by messages from the World in which you live. That is a pretty busy body you live in. 10,000 impressions per second, 600,000 impressions per minute, and 360,000,000 impressions per hour. Just imagine what would happen if only one hundred people tried to call you on the telephone at the same time. The switchboard and all the relays in the telephone transmission system would be tremendously overworked. However, the switchboard in your nervous system is capable of handling a fantastically larger traffic load than that. A few brains short-circuit (break down), but the really amazing things is that few do so. Of course, the brain does not plug in every one of these impressions. That would be the log-jam of the century. The brain simply cannot process that much sensory input at the same time. It filters and censors, and rejects or files most of it. However, it does so at the same time that it also relaying to their appropriate destinations the few messages it does accept. As if this were not enough, the brain is also the center of emotional experiences, cognitive processes, and learning. It has other jobs to do as well, which is why we need to live in the moment.

Mental training of focusing our awareness to what is present in front of us, versus clinging to the past or fears about the future. Wake up to your life in each moment, and pay attention to your purpose. Be aware of the present instant with acceptance. Experience your mind and body more closely, focus on yourself, and be tuned in to what arises without clinging to judgement or fear. Are you focusing on others or yourself in your thought process? Many people are living outside of themselves, they have a sense of entitlement, and this makes them police other people’s lives and ignore their own flaws. When you are on the outside, looking in, your image is distorted because you are not seeing the private messages, and simply having an emotional reaction. Mindfulness is often the first step needed for effective change. We cannot change those things we are not aware of, and this is why we need to mind our own business and focus on our individual lives. Why are you criticizing his private life, when your kitchen stinks and everyone can smell it? The opposite of being mindful is being mindless and doing things without thought or awareness—like when one eats a whole bag of chips, while watching Hearst Television, and not realizing you did so. Or driving from one end of town to another, and not realizing how one got there. If this is happening to you, it is because your mind is preoccupied, you are too busy focusing on other things.  This is the pause of awareness before one reacts in one’s habitual ways.

So if you want to be aware of being mindful and paying attention to your own lives, there are techniques for that. In the moment, observe how you are feeling, describe (to yourself) what you are doing, and participate in the present activities. For example, at a holiday function, focus on the decorations, and how nice they are, the food, and how delicious it is, not Mike Brown because you do not even know him, and holiday functions are rare, and it is a time to enjoy each other, and have harmony, not political debates; so do not make people uncomfortable in their own homes. Moving on. Mindfulness can be helpful in managing anxiety in that it allows us to become more aware of the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors associated with our anxiety, which can lead us to uplifting changes in life. It can also help us to feel less overwhelmed by our internal experiences. Cognition is the word we use to describe the various mental of intellectual function of the brain—the functions that make up the mind. A similar word, probably more familiar to you, is recognition. When you see something familiar, something you have known before, you say you recognize it. That means you are doing something again. You are cognizing again. What is cognizing in the first place? It means the brain went into action and experience you had become part of the information stored in that brain.

Just notice the experience without getting caught up in the experience, experience without reacting to your experience. You see this book. Your eyes convey one set of messages to the brain, and your hands (as they hold it) send another set of nerve impulses. Both of these together give you a visual and tactile (touching) experience of this square, bound-together collection of pages with words and pictures on them. This particular book is now part of your memory. You finish reading it, put it on your bookshelf, sell it, or give it away. Maybe you lose it. Whatever happens, the book itself is no longer there for you to see or handle. Is the memory or cognitive impression also gone? Our best information tells us that it is still part of you. Time goes by. You forget about the book. Have a Teflon Mind, letting experiences, feelings, and thoughts come into your mind and then slip right back out. Control your attention, but not what you see. Push away nothing. Cling to nothing. Some thinking is involved in all cognitive processes—recall, reasoning, memory, fantasy, imagination, intuition, or believing. Be like a guard at the palace gate. Be alert, to every thought, feeling, action that comes through the gates of your mind. When we think, something goes on in the brain to link our past with our present experience.  Some sort of mediating process fills in the gaps between the cue or stimulus (the book in this case) and the response we make to it.

Step inside yourself and observe. Watch your thoughts coming and going, like the clouds in the sky. Notice each feeling, rising and falling, like waves in the ocean. Notice exactly what you are doing. A stimulus is any action, object, or energy that produces a response, or change in reaction to the stimulus. Notice what comes in your senses—your eyes, ears, nose, skin, tongue. See others’ actions and expressions. Smell the roses (and I did)! One of the most important mediators is the concept. A concept is a general principle or common characteristic of a number of related events or experiences. Suppose you look at two dozen four-legged animals grazing in a field. You will notice that they are different colors, different sizes, many face in various directions, and so on. Yet, you also notice some similarities, some common properties. Describe them. When a feeling or thought arises, or you do something, acknowledge it. For example, say in your mind, “I love the roses and dogs” or “Stomach muscles tightening up” or a thought “I can do this!” Put your experiences into words. Describe to yourself what is happening. Put a name on your feelings. Call a thought just a thought, a feeling just a feeling. Do not get caught up in the minutia (content). Participate by entering your experiences. Let yourself get involved in the moment, letting go of ruminating. Become one with your experience, completely forgetting yourself. Your mind is an unsullied book of nature.