Expressing gratitude may be the first purpose of the day, one of the best ways to be romantic is bringing your spouse a cup of coffee, while they are in bed, to wake them up in the morning. Liveliness is a pleasant thing. Such a kind gesture will make anyone feel loved. Coffee in the morning gets the gold medal, it is the perfect way to warm up the body and provide you with a source of energy. It helps me feel loved, cherished, and I see the day with fresh eyes. Happy are they who are blessed with the power of making happy. Good fortune opens the hands as well as the heart wonderfully; and to give somewhat when we have largely received, is but to afford a vent to the unusual ebullition of the sensations. Colorful spring is the most charming season. I have so many words to say, but I do not know how to start. May deep blessing be around you day after day, year after year. In the feelings of the heart there can be no dissimulation. There is a beauty in the simplicity of nature which the most accomplished works of art can but faintly imitate. Beauty comes from love. Love is not a passion that degrades but exalts our nature.

From your words, I can hear a good heart beating strongly and see your ideal is glittering. You are steady and dependable like a monument craved of marble; your love is a master-key that opens the gates of happiness and gives knowledge to your lover’s heart. The measure of love is to have no mean, the end to be everlasting. Perfection does not exist; to understand it is the triumph of human intelligence. Let us learn to have the strength of confidence, the strength that will enable us to live forever in the aspiration for the better, and to return in act from the virtual World, but still, we require that aspiration of perfection. Love: an absorbing concentration on someone object, an intense movement to a single point, a gravitation of your whole being around a solitary centre. Formed by nature for love, the human heart sympathizes instinctively in the stars in Heaven. Virtue is God’s empire. If I had a fortune as large as my heart, there should not be one distressed person in the World. I am standing at the window quietly recalling past years in the distance. I find time is solidifying, nut you are the spotlight in the scenery. I write my blessing on the pictures with my heart. The poems are the words I want to speak to you. I am missing you silently. Keep the best things in memory and I give you my blessing. 

I pray that pleasant songs are always around you and bring you endless happiness. Genius and virtue are independent of rank and fortune. Poetry is not dead, nor genius lost, it takes people a long time to learn the difference between talent and genius, especially ambitious young men and women. However, no change of condition can alter the sentiments of a generous heart. Memories bring us the past years with warmth. Year by year, trails and hardships; day by day sunrise and sunset.  How happy is the little stone that rambles in the road alone, and does not care about careers, and exigencies never fears, whose coat of elemental blue, and independent as the Sun. The people who render the World prosperous are those who are courageous in life and try to solve the new problems in life. My darling, may you be one of them.  The World likes a tender little boat, carries love, truth, kindness, youth, and beauty forever. Like the most beautiful flower in the World, love blooms in your heart and mine; may it never wither! Love is in our hearts, let us toast with a fresh cup of D’Amico coffee and wish you a healthy and happy life at Spring Festival. 

Besides work, the other major are that impact on the quality of life is the kind of relations we have. So people feel their work is so boring that it depletes their psychic energy. And there can also be conflict between work and family, so that a person who loves work or is required to work a lot may neglect family and friends, and vice versa. Matthew says: “I am so involved in an idea I am working on, I get so carried away, that I am all by myself. I am not listening to what anyone says. I am not paying attention to anybody. And I tend to drift away from people. It could be that is I were not an inventor but had a routine job, I would spend more time at home and I would pay more attention to them. So maybe people who do not like their jobs love their home more.”

There is quite a bit of truth to this remake, and the reason is simple. Given that attention is a limited resource, when one goal takes up all our psychic energy, there is none left over. Nevertheless, it is difficult to be happy if one neglects either one of these two dimensions. Many people married to their jobs are aware of it, and find ways of compensating either by choosing an understanding spouse, an understanding child for support, or by being very open about this issue: “I was very fortunate, I believe, that my son felt his duty in life and his pleasure in life would come from me. And that the way he could best contribute would be to see to it that I would not be bothered by problems involved in the household; that he would settle all of these problems in such a way that I could devote all of my time to my work.”

However, few people could call themselves as fortune as Matthew in this respect. A more realistic venue is to find ways to balance the meaningfulness of the rewards we get from work and from relationships. For despite the fact that almost everyone claims the family is the most important concern in their lives. Very few—especially few men—behave as if this were the case. True, most men are convinced that their lives are dedicated to the family, and from a material standpoint this might be true. However, it takes more than food in the icebox and two cars in the garage to keep a family going. A group of people is kept together by two kinds of energy: material energy provided by food, warmth, physical car, and money, and the psychic energy people investing attention in each other’s goals.

Unless parents and child(ren) share ideas, emotions, activities, memories, and dreams, their relationship will survive only because it satisfies material requirements. As a psychic entity, it will exist only at the most primitive level. Amazingly enough, many people refuse to see this point. The most widespread attitude seems to be that as long as material requirements are provided for, a family will take care of itself, it will be a warm, harmonious, permanent refuge in a cold and dangerous World. It is very common to meet successful men in their forties and fifties who are stunned when their wives suddenly leave or their child(ren) get into serious trouble. Did they not always love their family? Did they not invest all their energy to make them happy?

True, they used to spend hours talking each day, but now they never had more than a few minutes each day to talk, but how could they have done otherwise with all the demands from the job? The emotion of love is an exception to all the general rules—it is the strongest of all emotions, and yet it is the only one that has no peculiar means of expression. Matthew struggled to arrive at a means of describing the emotion of love, but in the end he concluded that it was: “A proper or peculiar means of expression; and it is a strong desire to touch the beloved person is commonly felt. Love is the most difficult of all emotions to study, but it is the strongest of which the mind is capable. I admire my son enormously, and his influence is what fuels me to work.”

Matthew goes on to say, “Love is a remarkable example of power, when you see someone you love, blood flow to the muscle increase, the heart beat becomes stronger and breathing improves. Most people have observed the intense bond of attachment that usually develops between a father and his child(ren), a bond that enables a father to pick up a hurt or frightened child and rapidly eliminate all external signs of pain and fear. The pain I endure in order to reach my child(ren) does nothing, but strengthen my attachment to them. Worry, fear, and pain are eliminated when I see my child(ren), and internal pain is also eliminated. I am a human being touched with the blighted hand of genius. My ultimate achievement will be surprising to everyone.”

The more empathetic you are with another, allowing yourself to truly feel or emotionally resonate with what they are feeling, the less likely it is that you will get aggressive with them. (Teaching child(ren) from a young age to “imagine how you would feel is you were treated like that, or is that happened to you” can help foster a healthy empathy. Having compassion for another individual does not mean that you do not hold them accountable, nor that you will not express any displeasure over what they are doing, but that you will not put them out of your heart. Anger and compassion can coexist, but aggression and compassion cannot. I often wonder what would happen to my kids if they were left to fend for themselves? They would die. I thought about it for a year. Take pleasure in the success of others.

Through the Middles Ages (5^th to 15^th Century), one predominant feature of the European World view was that all aspects of nature, including all forms of life and their relationships to one another, never changed. This view was partly shaped by a feudal society. Feudal society is one that was popular during Medieval Europe, and society was shaped around relationships derived from holding of land, in exchange for service or labour. Feudal society was itself a hierarchical, rigid class system that had not changed much for centuries. It was also influenced by an extremely powerful religious system where the teachings of Christianity were taken literally. Because everyone believed in God, it was generally accepted that all life on Earth had been created by God exactly as it existed in the present, and the belief that life forms could not change came to be known as fixity of species. The plan of the entire Universe was viewed as God’s design. In what is called the argument from design, anatomical structures were planned to meet the purpose for which they were required. Wings, arms, eyes, and so on, fit the function they performed, and nature was a deliberate plan of the Grand Designer. Also, pretty much everybody believed that the Grand Designer had completed his works fairly recently. 

 Matthew Harris analyzed the begat chapter of Genesis, in the Holy Bible, which is God’s Constitution, and determined that the Earth was created 4004 Before Christ. That means the Earth is only 6,020 years old. For Europeans, the discovery of the New World and circumnavigation of the globe in the fifteenth century overturned some very basic idea about the planet. As Europeans began to explore the New World, their awareness of biological diversity was greatly expanded as they saw plants and animals previously unknown to them. It was also discovered that the Sun is the center of the Universe, and without the Sun, there could be no life, not just on Earth, but the entire Universe would go pitch black and freeze.  I see life as a gorgeously ironical, beautifully indifferent, splendidly suffering bit of chaos, the tragedy of which gives Man a significance, while without his losing fight with fate he would be a tepid, silly animal. The Nephilim are the offspring of the sons of God and the daughters of men in Genesis 6:4, or giants who inhabit Canaan in Numbers 13:33. Nephilim were a race that came to dominate the antediluvian (pre-flood) World, and they were a hybrid race between two distinct beings. They were a cross between fallen Angels (Sons of God or Benei Ha’Elohim) of The Watchers and human women. They were the Sons of God, rather than of men, because they had been created, not born.  

Such a description, of course, would apply only to Adam (Luke 3:38) and to the Angels, whom God had directly crated. European scholars of the sixteenth and seventeenth centuries developed methods and theories that revolutionized scientific thought. Their technological advances permitted investigations of natural phenomena and opened up entire new Worlds for discoveries such as never before had been imagined. However, even with these advances, the idea that, over time, living forms could change simply did not occur to people. Forces as wind water, erosion, local flooding, frost, the decomposition of vegetable mater, volcanoes, earthquakes, and glacial movements had all contributed in the past to produce the geological landscape that exists in the present. Moreover, the fact that these processes could still be seen in operation indicated that geological change continued to occur and that the forces that drove such changes were consistent, or uniform, over time. In other words, while various aspects of the Earth’s surface (e.g., climate, plants, animals, and land surfaces) are variable through time, the underlying process that influences they are constant. For the Earth to rapidly change, it would have to be extremely old, but because the changes happen as a relatively slow pace, it is more than likely the Earth is very young.  

The crime of rape is committed if a person has sexual intercourse or oral sex with an individual without their consent. A person can be considered the victim of rape even if one does not resist their assailant, especially is resisting could put one in danger of physical harm or death. Conversely, a person can be found guilty of rape even if the individual did not use physical force; the mere threat of physical violence or intimidation is enough to support a rape conviction. A person is considered a rape victim is one was not able to give consent to intercourse or oral sex because one was inebriated, drugged, mentally incompetent, or a minor.Sexual intercourse is recognized by law as an essential part of marriage, and couples may divorce or have their marriages annulled when sexual relations are denied without good cause. However, a husband or wife’s right to force their spouse to have sex with them is no longer recognized, as it once was. In most states, even if you are married and you have intercourse with your spouse without their consent you can be charged with rape. #RandolphHarris 1 of 6

Crystal Harris, age 43, and her now former husband Shawn Harris, age 44, had been college sweet hearts. They were married in 1996, and the marriage started off pleasant, they had two beautiful boys, with golden hair, the color of the Sun, and dreamy blue eyes, which are the color of the Sky. However, then Shawn became violent, and started abusing his wife Crystal. In 2008, Shawn Harris sexually attacked his then wife Crystal Harris, while their two sons were upstairs. Shawn had been acting strange that night and Crystal felt that something was going to happen so she placed a tape recorder it in the draw, when he started attacking her, she reached over and pressed record. As Shawn was raping her, you could hear Crystal on the audio recording saying “I don’t want to be raped, you’re hurting my neck.” #RyanPhillippe 2 of 6

Despite Shawn Harris’ record of domestic violence and the fact that he was awaiting a separate trial for rape charges during their divorce proceedings, family court judge Gregory Pollack ordered Crystal Harris to pay her husband $1,000.00 a month, in part because she was the household manager, earning $120,000.00 a year as a financial advisor, while Shawn was a househusband, who stayed him with the kids. Before the birth of the boys Shawn was a used car salesman. Shawn Harris was convicted of forced oral sex, the other two charges he faced were spousal rape by force, and sodomy. The tape recording was key in getting this conviction. Crystal Harris was also forced to pay Shawn’s legal fees of $47,000.00. However, she believes it was worth it because she thinks he might have eventually killed her. Critics say that it was traumatizing to have Crystal Harris finically support her abuser and flat-out-wrong. #RandolphHarris 3 of 6

Most rape victims are shielded from the public spotlight, but Crystal Harris is trying to get a law passed that protects rape victims from having to pay alimony to s spouse who rapes them. “It takes a real person, a real victim to show her case, show her face and lobby and get the law passed one step at a time,” reports Crystal Harris. In every state, rape is a felony punishable by imprisonment. A rapist who causes severe physical injuries to the victim or who rapes a child can be charged with aggravated rape and receive more severe sentence for the crime. Men are also victims of rape, but often they do not report the crimes. If you are raped, report the crime to the police as soon as possible. If possible, do not shower or bathe until after you have been examined by a doctor, a physical examination can provide crucial evidence to support your contention that you have been raped and may help identify your assailant. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 6

Give the police the clothing you were wearing at the time of the rape and the bed sheets. Answer the questions from the police truthfully and carefully. However, if an officer should suggest to you that you instigated the attack, ask for a victim’s advocate or ask that the officer’s supervisor be present. Then answer no more questions until your request is granted.  Call a rape victim hotline or community health center for counseling and emotional support. It is common for rape victims to experience periods of trauma that can last for months or even years. Early counseling can help you to resume a normal life. Date rape, or acquaintance rape is the term used for rape committed by a person the victim knows socially. It also covers nondating situation, such as rape by a coworker, neighbor, or classmate. Estimates are that date rape accounts for 80 percent of all rapes–, that is only 20 percent are committed by strangers. #RandolphHarris 5 of 6

For victims of date rape, prosecutions of such rapes present a distinctive set of problems. Because the rapist knows the victim, he or she may try to coerce one into not reporting the crime. It the rapist is an intimate partner, the victim may feel guilty about subjecting him to prosecution. In addition, the victim may be afraid of the attacker and be sacred of being accused of having seduced the rapist with the allegation being that the victim consented to sexual relations and later claimed that they were raped, or bringing rape charges as a retaliation because one was jilted. Because people realize that if they are raped, their behavior will be scrutinized and their character may be questioned, many victims decide not to report the crime or do not report it right away. Because a delay in reporting the crime may also be due to psychological trauma, some courts allow the prosecution to present expert evidence to that effect in order to give the victim the opportunity to explain the delay.  #RandolphHarris 6 of 6

No one knows till the time comes, what depths are within him. Few people have learned to structure their psychic energy autonomously, from the inside. In those successful stories where adults had time on their hands, elaborate cultural practices evolved to keep the mind busy. These included complex cycles of ceremonial rituals, dancing, and competitive tournaments that occasionally lasted for days and weeks on end—such as the Olympic games that started toward the dawn of European history. There are so many who forget to think seriously until it is almost too late. The darkest and most contemptible ignorance is that of not knowing oneself. Even if lacking religious or aesthetic activities, at each village provided endless opportunities for exchanging sleazy gossip and elaborate scholarly discussions; under the largest tree of the square, men not otherwise occupied sat smoking their pipes or chewing mildly hallucinogenic leaves and nuts, and kept their minds ordered through redundant conversation. This is still the pattern followed by men at leisure in the koffee shops of the Mediterranean, or the beer halls of northern Europe.

A man can never be respectable in the eyes of the World or in his own, except so far as he stands by himself and is truly independent. Such methods of avoidance chaos in consciousness work to a certain extent, but they rarely contribute to a beneficial quality of experience. As we have seen earlier, human beings feel best in flow, when they are fully involved in meeting a challenge, solving a problem, and discovering something new. Most activities that produce flow also have clear goals, clear rules, immediate feedback—a set of external demands that focuses our attention and makes the demands on our skills. People may really have in them some vocation which is not quite plain to themselves. Now these are exactly the conditions that are most often lacking in free time. Of course, if one uses leisure to engage in a sport, an art form, or a hobby, then the requirements for flow will be present. However, just free time with nothing specific to engage one’s attention provides the opposite of flow: psychic entropy, where one feels listless and apathetic. From the last ills no being can save another; therein each man must be his own savior. The father, son, and holy ghost are one.

The danger of a little knowledge of things is disputable, but beware the little knowledge of one’s self! Not all free-time activities are the same. One major distinction is between active and passive leisure, which have quite different psychological effects. For example, U.S. teenagers experience flow (defined as high-challenge, high-skill moments) about 13 percent of the time that they spend watching television, 34 percent of the time they do hobbies, and 44 percent of the time they are involved in sports and games. When nature biddeth thee to be good and gentle to others, she commands thee not to be cruel and ungentle to thyself. This suggest that hobbies are about two and a half times more likely to produce a state of heightened enjoyment than TV does, and active games and sports about three times more. Yet these same teenagers spend at least four times more of their free hours watching TV than doing hobbies or sports. Similar ratios are also true for adults. Why would we spend four times more time doing something that has less than half the chance of making us feel good? I cannot conceive anything better calculated to excite sympathy than the spectacle of a man devoting his life to self-worship.  

When we asked participants of our studies the question, a consistent explanation begins to appear. The typical teenager admits that biking, or playing basketball, or playing the piano are more enjoyable than roaming though the mall or watching TV. However, they say, to get organized for a basketball game takes time—one has to change their clothes, make arrangements. It takes at least half an hour of dull practice each time one sits down at the piano before it begins to be enjoyable. You may cut off my existence, but you cannot disturb my serenity. In other words, each of the flow-producing activities requires an initial investment of attention before it begins to be fun. One requires such disposable activation energy to enjoy complex activities. If a person is too tired, anxious, or lacks the discipline to overcome that initial obstacle, he or she will have to settle for something that, although less enjoyable, is more accessible. Self-knowledge is thought by some not so easy. Who knows but for a time you may have taken yourself for somebody else? Stranger things have happened.

This is where passive leisure activities come in. To just hang out with friends, read an unchallenging book, or turn on the TV set does not require much in the way of an upfront energy outlay. It does not demand skills or concentration. Thus the consumption of passive leisure becomes all too often the option of choice, not only for adolescents, but for adults as well. No son of Adam ever reads his own heart at all expect by the habit acquired, and the light gained, for some years’ perusal of other hearts; and even then, with his acquired sagacity and reflected light, he can but spell and decipher his own heart, not read it fluently. Of all human dealings, satire is the very lowest, and most mean and common. It is the equivalent in words for what bullying is in deeds; and no more bespeaks a clever man, than the other does a brave one. We are not judges of our own ailments: physicians do not often prescribe for themselves.  Every man may, by examining his own mind, guess what passes in the minds of others. When you feel that your own gaiety is counterfeit, it may justly lead you to suspect that of your companions not to be sincere.