Goodness and greatness are synonymous words. Weak men, who, meddling with things too high for them, do suddenly fall into distractions, which distractions do not only unman men, but they run upon desperate ventures to obtain they know not what. There is something almost pathetic in the humbleness of a young man’s strength before the object of his first true love. It is the abasement of the real before the ideal; but if the ideal fails, the real takes vengeance of the man for having trodden it under. Heaven always proportions our strength to the trials which it lays before us. Stress can no longer be regarded as a typical response to events or pressure from outside nor as the specific result of particular actions of our own. Instead, it is a common feature of all biological activities. The magnitude of stress can be determined by measurable effects upon the body, specifically in such functions as: adrenal stimulation, shrinkage of lymphatic organs, gastrointestinal ulcers, loss of body weight, and alterations in the chemical composition of the body. No man is strong enough to take liberties with his public. When stress is absent, life is absent. When stress is present, life is present. Stress is an essential element of all our actions, in health and in disease. Disease is not only suffering, but also toil. That is, the body fights to restore itself toward normal. Disease is not mere surrender to an ailment, but also fight for health; and unless there is a fight, there is no disease. Contrast this to the person born with a physical disability. In such a condition there is no toil; the fight was lost long ago and now there is peace in the body, although it is a scarred body. Strength is incomprehensible by weakness, and therefore more terrible. Stress equalizes bodily activities. It prevents overexertion in either work or rest. If I am carrying a heavy suitcase with one arm, fatigue sets in rapidly.

Fatigue is a sign of local stress and call for change. If there is proportionately too much stress in any one part, you require diversion. If there is too much stress in the body as a whole, you must rest. Nature likes variety…if I use the same parts of my body or mind over and over again, the only means nature has to force me out of the groove is: stress. The essence of stress may be understood as a three-stage process: the alarm that something is wrong, the resistance of the organism to that malfunctioning, and the submission of the organism to the condition. I am struck by the parallel with the process of pieces and parts transformed into peace. The initial shock of recognition comes in the alarm that something is wrong. The middle confrontation of intentions shows my resistance to what is upsetting. The final recognition of choices appears with submission to the situation. No one is blamed for suffering an evil he cannot avoid. Evocative therapies focus on general stress while minimizing specific symptoms. They are dealing with the general alarm system that alerts the whole body to the assault of stress. As the person grows more aware of influences and choices, the alarm system no longer goes off at the slightest stress. One is more oneself and so can deal with stressful situations with appropriately circumscribed discriminations. We are born to suffer—and to bear it.  Directive therapies shift the focus from the general to the specific. As a responsible individual, I have to regain control, and find healthy ways to alleviate the presenting complaints. Stress is resisted with the least expenditure of my energy. One I am freed from the specific symptoms triggering the general alarm, general stress disappears. I am more able to do what I want because appropriate energy is available. Energy is perhaps of all qualities the most valuable. It is rare to meet a man who has lived much in the World who has not persuaded himself that caution is always the result of wisdom.

Struggles with the natural character, the strong native bent of the heart, may seem futile and fruitless, but in the end they do good. They tend, however slightly, to give the actions, the conduct, that turn which Reason approves, and which Feeling, perhaps, too often opposes they certainly make a difference in the general tenor of a life, and enable it to be better regulated, more equable, quieter on the surface; and it is on the surface only the common gage will fall. As to what lies below, leave that with God.  When we utilize these techniques of relinquishing the negative and surrendering resistance to finding beneficial solutions, sooner or later we come into a sudden, comprehensive awareness of our true nature. Once this has been experienced, it will never be forgotten. The World will never intimidate us again as it once did. There may be continued compliance with the ways of the inner vulnerability, and the inner doubt is now gone. Outwardly, the behavior may appear the same, but inwardly, the causes for it are now totally different. The end result of the conscious handling of emotions is invulnerability and imperturbability. Our inner nature is now bullet proof. We are able to go through the World with balance and grace. Day after day, and almost every day, one meets censure which is felt to be unjust;–but the general result of all this injustice is increased efficiency. It is not mere industry that will produce good work, nor yet skill, nor even genius. My heart, as an artist, must be thrust with all its gushing tides into the performance of life. 

We have just enough religion to make us hate, but not enough to make us love one another. For us the meaning of taboo branches off into two opposite directions. On the one hand it means to us, sacred, consecrated: but on the other hand it means, uncanny, dangerous, forbidden, and unclean. A taboo is an expression itself of something in prohibition and restriction. Our combination of holy dread would often express the meaning of taboo. In other cases, objects of the taboo are many: direct taboos aimed at protection of important persons—chiefs, priests, etc.—and things against harm. It is also used to safeguard people of virtue and vulnerability, and protect them from initiation, marriage, and sexual functions—against interference; securing human beings against the wrath or power of gods and spirits. The taboo restrictions are different from religious or moral prohibitions. They are not traced to a commandment of a god, but really they themselves impose their own prohibitions; they are differentiated from moral prohibitions by failing to be included in a system which declares abstinences in general to be necessary and gives reason for this necessity. For instance, people may call an individual “crazy” and spread this throughout the community to place economic sanctions on a person and make their livelihood for that individual nearly impossible. The taboo prohibition lacks all justification and are of unknown origin. Though incomprehensible to us, they are taken as a matter of course by those who are under their dominance.  #RandolphHarris 1 of 3

Sometimes taboos are imposed in order to secure against thieves the property of an individual, his fields, tools, and although this is the 21^st century, even in America, some deem people as their property, and there are disputes of “ownership,” this is why some may label a person, as it is more of a ritual prohibition of a different nature. The violated taboo avenged itself. Wherever the taboo was related to ideas of gods and demons an automatic punishment was expected from the power of the godhead. In other cases, probably as a result of a further development of the idea, society took over the punishment of the offender, whose action has endangered his companions. The violation of a taboo makes the offender himself taboo. The dangers resulting from the violation of a taboo may be exercised through acts of penance and ceremonies of purification. A peculiar power inherent in persons and ghost, which can be transmitted from them to inanimate objects is regarded as a source of taboo. Persons or things which are regarded as taboo may be compared to objects charged with electricity; they are the seat of tremendous power which is transmissible by contact, and may be liberated with destructive effect if the organisms which provoke its discharge are too weak to resist it.  #RandolphHarris 2 of 3

Transgressions of taboos are usually punished automatically in the most severe manner. There are reliable reports that innocent transgressions of such prohibitions have actually been punished automatically. For instance, the innocent offender who had eaten from a forbidden animal became deeply depressed, expected his death and actually died. The prohibitions mostly concern matters which are capable of enjoyment such as freedom of movement and unrestrained intercourse; in some cases, they appear very ingenious, evidently representing obstinences, and renunciations; in other cases, their content is quite incomprehensible, they seem to concern themselves with trifles and give the impression of ceremonials.  Each of us must play a number of roles. These increase in number and complexity as a child becomes an adult, and the rules for the role may change, as well. Some roles carry more prestige than others. We are born into primary groups and choose secondary groups. Part of growing up is transference of loyalty from primary to secondary groups. How an individual reacts to authority figures is determined in large measure by his relationship to his own parents. This relationship is usually generalized to apply to other authority figures. This special place always symbolized Center. It marked the meeting point of Heaven, Earth, and Hell. Mythically, the summit of the cosmic mountain marked both the highest point on Earth and also Earth’s navel, the point at which creation originated.  Thus, the sanctuary allows passage from one realm to another, from the vibrant underground to the controlled ordinariness to the ecstatic transcendent. Here is the realm of the Real. However, the passage, the road, the way leading to the sacred place is always fraught with difficulty. Because of the transition from the profane to the sacred, from the illusion to reality, from time to eternity, from death to life, from chaos to cosmos, the way is perilous.  #RandolphHarris 3 of 3

There were several moments in our work together when there was a natural stop to our conventional thinking and feeling and we simultaneously dropped into a shared space of Being. God will wipe all tears from the eyes of people, and there will be no more death, suffering, crying, or pain. In seeking to understand persuasion and healing the basic problem is demoralization: loss of spirit, a sense of failure, a feeling of powerlessness to affect oneself and one’s World. A person experiences bewilderment, confusion, lack of courage. The demands of the World grow too much; the necessity to extricate oneself proves impossible. One no longer feels like drinking lemonade in one’s World.  A special kind of relationship with you has been formed in my life, you have enriched my spirit, developed my intelligence and ignited a ray of hope. Since the loss of significant relationships constitutes the source of demoralization, the recovery of vitality requires meaningful involvement with others. The one seeking help expects the other to be able to help. In other words, the sufferer experiences the responder as genuinely caring about his well-being. God hates suffering and injustice. When people mistreat others, God becomes distressed. God detests people who harm or kill the innocent.

When God looked out on creation one aspect alone stood out as not good. It is not good for humans to be alone. The pain of being alone can be terrible because of the loneliness. I care about you and I respond to you sensitively and clarifyingly by words and tone and intensity when in your actual presence. When I speak with you what is on the surface and what lurks in the depths are genuinely disclosed, unless it is something I would not want your mother to read. Spring rains dye the World while disappearing quietly on the Earth. We will be grateful forever. A heart lacking attention requires the most Sunshine.  How many times have you comforted me with your warm big hands? I will cherish you and treasure your love and your deep feelings forever. God cares for us as individuals. Not only does he know each and every one of us, God knows what plagues us and our pain. However, God does not cause our problem, and he feels for us when we suffer. God wants to uplift of all like brand new babies and save us and shower us with love and protection. Have hope, expectation of change, trust, an emotional relationship, the facilitation of emotional arousal, catharsis, receiving information, the social impact of the healer. 

I take you as you are where you are without qualification, deeply prizing your human potentials. The pleasure you have brought about, the assistance you have offered, the love you have showed and the life you have lived—all these make you more amiable and respectable with every passing year in my heart. You are free to remain silent or to verbalize anything that requires expression while we sustain our intimate contact with the eyes either open or closed. With me you have discovered a greater sense of freedom and authenticity. There is no longer any conflict. There is a total absence of negativity and an all-encompassing lovingness that is experienced as serenity, tranquility, timelessness, completion, fulfillment, stillness, and contentment. A pleasant mood, and the ensuing good health are the biggest capital for happiness. Wish you a cheerful mood and longevity. I am not sure if I can stall time or not, but I would like to let my greeting and blessing stay forever in your heart. There is an inner quiet and light, a feeling of oneness, unity, and total freedom. The peace is imperturbable. My blessing is out of my heart. Without thousands and thousands of words, my blessing is a silent song from my heart, wishing you safety and success. My congratulations to you, a resurrected eagle with golden feathers, on your first flight rising from the red flames. Actions become effortless, spontaneous, harmonious, and loving in their effect.  

Even when I travel to the ends of the Earth, I see your kind smiling face and loving gaze in front of my eyes. You are in my heart a monument that will never fall. There is a shift of perception of the Universe and of our relationship to it. The inner Self prevails. The personal self has been transcended, with all of its feelings, beliefs, identities, and concerns. The Sun is speechless but emits rays, you are the Earth that gave me life and has brought me up. This is the official state sought by all seekers. Love is a taciturn agreement between two hearts. A glance between a pair in love tells far more of flawless memory and a pure friendship. Give me a gentle heart and an eternal beauty. Love is a great happiness to human. Love means that a man not only depends on happiness from life, but also present happiness to the beloved.  We have moments of profound peace where time and the World seemed to stop suddenly, and it seems that we have come in contact with the Infinite. We are no longer a victim of the people in this World. We are no longer at their effect as we once were, for we have entered into the truth about who and what we really are. I see a crystal-like heart because you have given me all your love in the World.  You walk a lot accompanying with my dream and hope for a long time. Could you walk with me forever? An energy field of total peace is unassailable. We can no longer be intimidated, controlled, manipulated nor programmed.  We are invulnerable to the threats of the World and have, therefore, mastered Earthly life. Human suffering is no longer possible because the very basis of that vulnerability has been totally relinquished. In the dark night, on the sea, thank you for bringing guiding my Albatross. The love grows out of our hearts.  

I cherish your true love in my heart. I do not care is we are together as long as we have each other. May we love each other forever. Each star is bright, and each flower is fragrant, and whenever I remember you, I remember your love of me. Tears of departure comfort the pains in my heart. The best wishes you leave me with turn into bright visions in my dreams. I wish to live always in the dream, in which your image I can see. Oh, am I also in your dreams? With you in my memory, there is no end to pleasure. Memorable events cherished in heart; sweet memories will last. It is characterized by inner joy, faith, ecstasy, patience, compassion, persistence, essence, beauty, synchronicity, perfection, surrender, rapture, vision and openness. Everything happens effortlessly by synchronicity. Outside, the new moon shines bright all around, but the lonely lamp on my desk is dim. How I wish this small piece of paper would take to you my restless yearning. In my heart there is a secret. It is contained in only four words—I miss you sorely. Joy emanates from the inner subjective experience of our own existence. The power of the joy is subjective, not steaming from any source outside of oneself. We may dance with ecstasy all night in a candlelit chapel, as if being by the Source of Life Itself. In that state, the innate perfection and stunning beauty of all that exists shine forth like a luminous radiance, as the infusion of spiritual energy facilitates the perception to vision. How tranquil! How quiet! What silvery moonlight! Where are you, my dear? When can we sit together by the window enjoying this quiet, tranquil evening? 

I always say in the morning to myself that the hard weather will be over in the end and the way of melancholy will not be too long. A long night brings back the past happenings that seem to have happened yesterday, which makes my heart no longer as tender. Who will gloss over my loneliness, and I will say no more after the wind passes by. When the seed of love is sown into our hearts, you have to water it with loyalty and I have to cultivate it with sincerity, and then the fruit it bears is sure to be happiness. You are a streak of cool water that flows into my heart. The water changes into vintage wine that will intoxicate us in happiness. The miraculous is common. What is termed supernatural is seen to occur all of the time, inexplicable by reason, logic, or cause and effect. We are the channels of love. Spiritual progress is known to be the result of Grace, not the result of our personal endeavors. Gratitude for the state replaces pride of accomplishment. The process of surrender continues ever more deeply, as we let go of all doubt, all belief systems, all perceptions, all positions, all opinion, and all attachments. We become willing to surrender all attachments, even attachments, even attachment to the exquisite state of Ecstasy, which is beyond description. The clash of souls off the flashes over the summer jasmine, and we walk hand in hand into the World of youth. All opinions about others are surrendered. In a certain way, nobody can help being other than what they are. Love knows this truth and takes no position. Love focuses on the benefits about others rather than their defects.  Love focuses on life’s goodness in all of its expressions of joy. Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror? Do you believe that your beauty is matchless, and everyone is infatuated with you? However, I love your soul more than your handsome appearance. Unconditional love is a love that does not expect anything from others. When we have become loving, we have no limitations or demands on others that they should be a certain way in order to be loved. I love you no matter how you are. If you are the beautiful seashore, I will be the tidal wave at your feet. The white wave is the love song sung for your and the colorful seashells are the poetic lines composed for you. Whether on the ebb or flow, the sea and shore are always together. How many times I want to see your happy smile.

How many times I have a good time with you whispering face to face.  I have been laughing with you, full of tender feelings; I have gained your elation which only love gives you. I miss you, every second, every minute in every day. I dream of you, every second, every minute at every night. When love is unconditional, there is no hidden agenda, or bookkeeping of who gives what to whom. Our love is unconditional for whatever we are. Love illuminates the essence. Happiness is not hidden in the satiation but in the yearning. I always ask you how far it is from the eyes to the heart. Sincere love opens hearts, it gives out the sweet tenderness. The mind thinks and argues, but the heart knows and continues. Can these bright stars be your charming eyes? Your eyes are stars to me, in the vast ocean of life, navigating me to the dawn. Our love fully extends every minute of our life because every minute is full of beauty of living and life.  The most beautiful face in the World is yours, the warmest chest in the World is yours, the strongest arms in the World are your, the purest heart in the World is yours. You come to me; I feel like taking in a refreshing air; you come to me like a deep sea in whose arms I am lightly floating. Even when I make mistakes, you love me. Thoughts tells us one thing, but the heart is loving no matter what. For many days, our sensitive hearts have tried to memorize too many things, but suddenly we look back, only to find that we remember nothing but the face of a comrade-in-arms who have gone with us through months and years. You enter my life like a beautiful knight in a fairy tale, bringing Spring to my life. Pure and natural with no disguise, laughing when you are happy, crying when you are in sorrow, living a simple and free life.  

We depart each other, but your image is still in my heart like the obscure illusion of time making my melancholy heart. We say bye-bye hurrily to our respective destination. We have no words, no tears, only eternal missing and blessing resonating in our hearts. I cherish every meeting in life, every warmth in the World and every friend of mine. Even departure, I look it as the happiness for meeting again. Although the vast majority of divorce occur within the first five years of marriage, very few occur immediately. More typically the relationship erodes slowly over a period of time, an insidious process that only gradually leads to the termination of all dialogue. Let us leave our memories in the scent of the flowers…every corner of our campus keeps our friendship and our fantasy. Do you still remember the road with colorful cobble stone? Beautiful flowers and green willows are on both sides of it. On many mornings and at many nights we take a walk here…It is in my memory and your heart with our friendship. We depart silently just as we meet silently at the very beginning. May warm breeze bring you my deep feeling and wishes. While the deterioration can be precipitated by any of a large number of factors, usually the psychological state of anxiety pervades the entire period of the erosion.  

The dialogue becomes a mutual patient, in which a significant degree of growth occurs only when both individuals become aware of their anxieties. Many you in your common position make uncommon contributions until you realize your great ideal! How can the frozen World thaw overnight? May you accumulate more for some creation. May my blessing like melodious movement sound in your heart tenderly. I want to express regards to you: wish you a better life. There is a widespread illusion that “good” dialogue must always be pleasant, that you must make the other person feel good. In its most innocent form, this attitude is reflected in the behavior of adolescents, who always try to “look good” and “act well” around their boyfriends or girlfriends.   The “ugly side” that the adolescent may recognize as part of his personality is revealed only to his parents, mainly because he feels secure that his parents will still love him despite these problems. The “uglier” or “bad” sides are aspects of his personality to others, he would be rejected. Consciously putting your best behavior forward, always looking good, is an essentially adolescent attitude, yet many adults enter marriage with these adolescent attitudes and notions about dialogue. May our hearts be translucent in this translucent World. A splendid expectation appears in our bright eyes. If I am the sun, I wish I hang on the sky every day so that you will be happy no matter which season it is. 

In those poetic days, may warm and sweet feelings were around you.  Flowers ornament garden, butterfly decorates flowers. All of these is for you. May you be the most beautiful flower in the garden.  This human tendency has led many people to believe that trial periods of living together before marriage would be preferable to a lifelong commitment to another individual about whom so little is known. In a sense, this situation seems to support the position of the scientific-love-seekers, who argue that test periods or experiments in living together would help prevent many of the marriages that end so disastrously for the couples and children involved. Considering the enormous pain and trauma of divorce and situations of deteriorated dialogue, any proposal that offers the hope of reducing their prevalence holds great appeal, especially for people who “want to avoid the mistakes their parents made in getting married.” Unfortunately, the problem of making a mistake in a relationship or lifelong commitment with no preconditions cannot be simulated by a test period with such preconditions. This does not mean that marriage relationships ae always necessarily “better” in terms of human dialogue than those of couples who just live together without any formalized commitments. Clearly, many informal relationships develop spectacularly, while over 20 million formalized marriages in the United States of American ended in divorce in 2015 alone. Lustre of jewelry reflects the radiance of blue sky. Beautiful dark green reflects the holy Sun. Hot wind makes me feel the strength of your teachings. Thank you, teacher. 

Like returning from the outdoor piercing windy chill to the indoor warmth by the stove in a wintry night. My teacher, your concern for me is like the warmth from the burning charcoal. How can I abstain from expressing my gratitude for you? What is medically important is the way we live together—the dialogue. The very idea that there are no cookbook rules for human dialogue precludes the establishment of an ideal objective condition in which human dialogue can flourish. The issues boil down to one of premises about human relationships and what it is about their context that allows dialogue to develop. The only major preconditions for dialogue is trust. If trust exists between two people, then dialogue will naturally develop. We emphasized the fundamental nature of trust when I stated that the requirement to establish nonverbal dialogue, the requirement to pursue understanding without words, exists in all of us. This pursuit I traced back to the relationship a child establishes with his father, it is one of absolute trust, unimpeded by language. As we mature, language becomes part of our repertoire, but the essential cores of all dialogue—as was poignantly observed in the coronary care unit—remains nonverbal character. 

Trust between two people is gradually emerging process that involves ever greater degrees of commitment. When I fly, embracing the sky with forceful position and ardent hands, I will embrace you, my dear teacher. All dialogue involves commitment to a contract that is both implicitly understood and explicitly documented. Regardless of whether the contract is until death do us part or for a two-year trial period—Let us live together and see what happens or let us be friends—both the explicit and implicit aspects of the contract modulate the level of trust and consequently the nature of the dialogue. A lifelong commitment to another person, while no guarantee that dialogue will flourish, at least provides the framework in which trust can grow.  Since the commitment is more total than that of a mere trial period, each individual is psychologically free to make mistakes and still feel assured that the dialogue will not be lost, but if you cheat, then a financial payment of 50 percent of your assets are due to pay your spouse, and it is their choice to void the contract and no longer spend time with you, nor communicate. In addition to degree of commitment, predictability is one of the core aspects of the growth in trust. If either person becomes unpredictable in areas of behavior crucial to the other person, then trust is placed in jeopardy. This can happen if both components of the contract, the implicit commitments and the explicit commitments, are not adhere to.

Generally, in human relationships it is the violation of implicit commitments that leads to a deterioration of dialogue.  It is often mistakenly assumed in human relationships that the contracts made with other people are completely explicit. This is perhaps the central error of the scientific-love-seekers, who assume that in trail periods of living together all the commitments that people make to each other can be spelled out in a totally rational manner. However, as any lawyer, physician, psychiatrist, or psychologist realizes, even in the most clear-cut types of human interactions, there are implicit commitments struck between the consenting parties which the parties themselves may not even be aware of. The fact is that even in the most explicit dialogue there are still many hidden assumptions. Marriage is without doubt the single most important contract involving the greatest number of implicit commitments. In marriage the commitment to dialogue is generally regarded as total—for better or for worse—and for life. While the explicit commitment is indeed total, there are also a host of implicit assumptions that give marriage its special meaning. These commitments are modulated by trust, which grows as the dialogue grows. Trust sets the tone for all marital dialogue—trust in yourself as well as trust in the other person. On the level of love, we are heartfelt, generous, nurturing, affectionate, steadfast, and forgiving. Love is protective, collaborative, uplifting, holistic, and gracious. It is characterized by warmth, gratitude, appreciation, humility, completion, vision, purity of motive, and sweetness. Love is a way of being. It is the energy that radiates when the blocks to it have been surrendered. It is more than an emotion or a thought—it is a state of being.

Love is what we have become through the pathway of surrender. It is a way of being in the World that says: How can I be of help to you? How can I comfort? How can I loan you money when you are suffering financial hardship? How can I help you find a job? How can I console you when you have suffered a major loss in your family? Ryan, thank you for (your) tolerance and encouragement. When I was perplexed in mistakes, it was you who awoke my lost heart with your kind and affectionate smile. Lovingness is a way through which we light up the World. The question is frequently raised about extramarital sexual affairs: What is wrong with open sex in marriage, what is wrong with one simple interlude, one little affair of intercourse with someone other than a marital partner? Setting aside any discussion of dialogue involves the promise to be sexually faithful to one another, then intercourse with another person is a breach of those commitments. After the breach a person is left with several choices. One strategy is to cover up the violation. This strategy may even be buttressed by the unfaithful partner’s feeling that the mate would not be found out. The only problem with this strategy is that I would not understand, or better yet, that I would be hurt when I found out. The only problem with this strategy is that the commitment to total trust and complete predictability is shattered, and from here on out you are forced to live with a secret and lies that must be kept. With remarkable frequency, this strategy does not work, in spite of all the best efforts to conceal the episode, for the entire matter is communicated nonverbally. Not infrequently the act of infidelity is quickly found out by me, who, rather than challenge the integrity of our marriage, keeps all suspicious inside. This comes kind of a tragic game—if you will not tell me, I will not ask, but I saw you with that bitch at the hotel—and the victim is the dialogue.

Given these new commitments to mutual deception, a kind of pact of ignorance, the dialogue deteriorates. What I cannot forget is your love, when I was in low spirits, it is you that pushed off the black clouds overhead and brought me limitless promise. Thank you. An alternative strategy is to “confess” and own up to the act of infidelity. This strategy is also fraught with emotional difficulties even if I quickly forgive the act, rejecting you might me a response. I am injured and might consciously or, even worse, unconsciously recognize that your total commitments are not in fact total, an idea that will prompt a reciprocal withdrawal from total commitment. An insidious and vague type of distrust begins to grow between us as a couple. Whether I grow into a towering white poplar or remain strong grass, I will offer to you my deep respect with the greenness of my life.  A third option is to use the episode constructively, perhaps to help put us in touch with the requirements that we did not realize existed, perhaps to know ourselves better and move on to more intimate levels of dialogue. This is an option, but it is the one least likely to happen, since it demands the greatest degree of emotion stability and maturity from both partners. Parting is the beginning of a gradually diluted remembrance, but your image seemingly like a glittering point always twinkles in my heart. It is you who opened the window of my thought. It is you who melt the frost in the bottom of my heart. Ryan, you make me see the wide World and appreciate the Spring scenery. Life is a road without ends. I walk and walk on. When I am tired, your steadfast face, unswerving voice, tough and tensile spirit come to me from my memory.  

Everything seems the same, the faces, the clothes. Your familiar writings and voice drive us to come back in our happy days. However, extramarital sexual affairs involve issues that go to the very heart of human dialogue. The casual manner in which such issues are discussed in the press and popular books suggest that the nature of dialogue is not particularly well understood. Extramarital affairs involve highly volatile emotional issues that cannot be brushed aside lightly or dismissed by logical arguments. You hurt me more than you can ever understand. Everyone has the opportunity to contribute to the beauty and harmony of the World by showing kindness to all living things, and, thereby, supporting the human spirit.  Whatever which we freely give to life flows back to us because we are equally part of that life. Like ripples on the water, every gift returns to the giver. What we affirm in others, we actually affirm in ourselves. Once we become willing to give love, the discovery quickly follows that we are surrounded by love and merely did not know how to access it. Love is actually present everywhere; its presence only is required to be realized. Rose spouses in Spring, and without Sunshine, how can it have charming and delicate splendor? Oh, Ryan, your teachings are more than the warm Sunshine of the Spring. I am your Albatross, we are caught up in a White Squall, we must act as one to Save Gil Martin. It is you who encourage me to sail forward, I sing the song you taught me, moving bravely toward sea.  Once we become willing to give love, the discovery quickly follows that we are surrounded by White Squall of love and merely did not know how to access it. I will never forget tour love. As a little boy blue, I memorize a ditty taught to me by you, my father, and I am still able to say it eighty years later. The Navy sailor called Gil Martin steers his ship, the Albatross, through a terrible White Squall for three days. Nonstop without food and drink, when all of your shipmate were seasick.  You were also a doctor and loved and prayed for every patient without their knowing about it. And you cleared up the pissy pants of a young child saying: Honey it is not your fault; you could not help it. I used to make your koffee every morning how you liked it. And the birds wait in their cage and sing until you return.  Good men every interpret themselves too meanly. You was a good man, and did good things. 

We know a good many pretty women, but magnificent women, like Paris Hilton, are not so common. The power of beauty, when accompanied by compassion, is irresistible. Charm and tenderness show the youthful beauty; warmth and consideration win many friends. In admiring you, I see you have a good personality. The calling of hearts focuses on honesties. I am moved by your sincerity. You give me comfort and warmth which encouraged me when I was lonely and sad. I will take this as the most valuable present and treasure. Our friendships is like glittering and translucent gemstones, we wash it with painstaking effort, carve it with honesty and ornament it with wisdom. Look, it is exquisitely carved, jewelry, and priceless. May we cherish it much more. In this colorful World and among so many people like flowers, our hearts bump into each other and we have a tacit talk. So we become friends. We are two people, jumping, laughing, and running towards the place the Sun rises. Honest Spring can warm the coldness of the Earth; sincere friendship can green the desert of one’s heart.  

She has once heard an enthusiastic musician, out of patience with a gifted bungler, declare that a fine voice is really an obstacle to singing properly; and it occurred to her that it might perhaps be equally true that a beautiful face is an obstacle to the acquisition of charming manners. Human feeling is like the mighty rivers that bless the Earth: it does not wait for beauty—it flows with resistless force and brings beauty with it.  A charm must be accompanied by a strong wish on the part of the charmer that it may succeed. Life has not taken away that freshness of the spirit which is the charm of the body. Honest Spring Sun can warm the coldness of the Earth; sincere friendship can green the desert of one’s heart. If you want to forget something, it means you still remember it. I want to persuade you to forget something, that means we still remember it. Sharing the same Sun with you, I cherish a joy and an expectation with a contented heart. With a smile, I just want to say how nice it is to know you.  

We have share so many joys and sorrows during several years, the most valuable thing is youth in one’s life, let our youth hold splendid the rising Sun emitting bright rays in the sea of your life. This piece of paper is too small to hold my words; this piece of paper is so big that all good friendship is on it. The window of heart is filled with countless dreamy longings. When you seek the direction of heart, my wishes for you are the blue sky outside the window and a souvenir upon graduation. Goodness is so rare a thing among people. The World familiarly known the noun, a common one in every language.  I love friendly deeds better than fair words. Times change: but they should not change friends. Good fortune opens the hand as well as the heart wonderfully; and to give somewhat when we have largely received, is but to afford a vent to the unusual ebullition of the sensations. Generosity, the most eager and active of the virtues. Over the years, I have discovered that engaging people in a relaxed, largely silent, nonintentional eye gazing tends to welcome presence into the foreground of awareness. This quiet looking may emerge spontaneously, or by informational invitation. 

Very high mysteries may be couched under the character of beauty. In addition to inviting presence, this powerful contact inevitably brings us deeply entrenched defenses against intimacy. This friendship: it witnessed cries and laughs, quarrels and hubbubs in the past. Now I wish that only sweet memories will remain. You have been very supportive, especially over the past year. The long spirit by nature, I still very happy to have your company. After years, I can never forget your fervent heart. Because of you, I no longer feel lonely.  Good nature and generosity are always the same. You leave me a dream. Although it is mysterious, it is sweet. When I open my eyes, there is a colorful dawn before my eyes. I love your beautiful face and pure character. The beauty of both outside and inner thoughts is perfect beauty. Your careful presentation kindles my deep heart like meteors in the Autumn nights. Honesty exchanges honesty: if you speak by heart, I will respond with my heart. Dear Paris, please listen to this heartedly! The quiet forest hides two images. Spring breeze brings you this memory and deep love. 

On your birthday, you should be surrounded by family and friends and be happy. However, sometimes we just have to learn to accept things as they are and make the best of situations. As we age, on our birthday’s we tend to think about accomplishments, people in our lives that we missed or have passed on, and sometimes even problems that we have experienced in the past and are still healing from. While birthdays are supposed to happy, they are not always. Just know that being alive another year is a blessing, not everyone is so fortunate. We are always creating problems in our lives and have this never-ending set of circumstances and memories we can draw upon to construct problems.  Being together makes us remember each other forever. May the flame of strong love Spring up in our heart. Last night missing knocks at your door and window after surmounting mountains and rivers. In the morning do you often find there are dearer and more translucent tear drops on the flower petals on the window? What is significant is that we are creating problems. We are using the energy available to us, using our mind and emotions, to construct an issue. We are constructing that something is happening that should not be happening. The love course of life shines in the corner of life obscurely like leisurely clouds, which drift slowly, illuminating our hearts and warming our life. All of these remind us of the happiness, disconsolation in the past years. Once together with you, we walked through that beautiful song and that momentary magnificence is well worthy of my life-long memory. Please smile, my dear. If you weep, my face will be wetted; if you grieve, my heart will ache. 

My heart will be with you forever as long as you are honest to me, I never change my mind at the crossroad of love. We have a very real experience that there is actually nothing wrong with what is happening. We are unperturbed. There is no problem. Your name will always resound in my heart proudly; let my compatriots hear this loud and happy song and this song is your name. Love is a key to the secret of life. With love subtracted, life will become tasteless and colorless. You are a role model because you are real and true. Sweet love between us is like a song of happiness. Beautiful melody and notes fill our life with happiness. Love is a taciturn agreement between two hearts. A glance between a pair in love tells me far more love’s essence than a huge encyclopedia. In our minds sometimes questions arise such as: What is this? Where am I? Am I moving forward or backward? Am I moving at all? Is there something special I should be doing? Who am I? Each of these inquiries is a key that can unlock the conceptual mind and take us into the unknown. The gentleness of you at the time you lower your head is as charming as hibiscus rising out of water. I miss you deeply. Love is a great happiness to human. Love means that a man not only demands happiness from life, but also presents happiness to the beloved. By letting out thoughts ride, fixed ideas about who we are and what we are doing can dissolve into the infinite expanse of unconditioned awareness.  

Give me a flawless memory and a pure friendship. Give me a gentle heart and an eternal beauty. Let us pray that all corruption on Earth stops immediately. It is wrong to neglect all the other meanings of life merely for love, as the first meanings of life is to live. Man has to live, and then love will have something to fall back on. Love is calling of the heart; love is selfishless dedication. It is like Spring breeze in the World and the Spring of life. The World will turn to a happy World as long as we give our honest love out. Sometimes we have to ask questions to check the quality and purity of the unconditioned experience. We can also direct these questions to ourselves. Normally, however, we ask questions only when someone is in a fairly open and spacious state of being. These questions reveal whether a person is resting in a structured or unstructured state. An example of a checking questions: Could you enhance this experience? Enjoy the feelings of peace and serenity that arise when our thoughts dissolve. I see no more harm in killing a man than taking his property; marry, I think it the least sin of the two; for poverty is greater evil than death. We can ask: Is there anything we are required to do to be in the moment? This will give us direct feedback on where our mate is. Or we might ask if the experience is pleasurable or peaceful. On the balance of love, I prefer to be a tiny gauge graduating rather than be the heavier weight measuring the distance between heart. Your heart always comforts me and makes me feel the beauty of life and the hope for the future. My shooting stars bring my yearning to you. My heart is always concerned about you. The past ours to my mind all of a sudden with the endless yearning. When I miss you, my nights are more than days. Bright stars cover my sky many times, but I only care for the brightness silently and imagine that all of my days are full of Sunshine because of you.  

No man’s profession can exempt him from the misfortunate incident to his nature. The idea of “World pain,” I believe, can be understood more accurately as “human pain.” Of course there is physical pain. Bodily injury and biochemical disturbance can produce excruciating suffering. Psychological pain, with its locus in our sense of self and worth; sociological pain, with its locus in our sense of affiliation and alienation; spiritual pain, with its locus in our sense of power and meaning. Human pain represents the personal and social and spiritual suffering people experience in the midst of living. On the levels of community and cosmos, that pain is, indeed, World pain.  When we are experiencing any kind of pain, we are driven to understand what is happening. It our attempt to understand, we find ourselves dealing with individual as well as Universal expression of the human pilgrimage. We look to ourselves and we look to others. Even more, we look to the Universe, what it is about, how it works, what rests at its heart. Immediate concerns inevitably mere with the official distress. What happens to others happens to us; what happens to us happens to others. Human pain intensifies human meaning with special poignancy. We have to have sense of that which seems senseless. 

Such understanding requires our person participation in pain. There is continuity between ourselves and others that specific stress cannot obscure. If we are to respond helpfully, we must ourselves know of (and not merely about) pain. In this realm we cannot be too removed from reality. The difference between reality and a semblance of reality is extreme. Those are, in truth, separate realities—one immediate, vivid, substantial; the other faint, insipid, spent. The residue of others’ experience is inadequate for one’s own sustenance. If we feed our lives on the leftovers from others’ presence, the diet could leave you alienated and alone.  We who heal also require healing. The ongoing requirement for the helper to be helped is real. Our bodies and brains function on our behalf and the crucial demands we personally face when we venture to respond to pain. These demands complete the circle of caring, for having begun with ourselves and having reached out to others, we discover we are brought back to ourselves. If we are to care for others genuinely, we are forced to face openly who we are and what we want. Dependency, aging, and dying have their own specific constellations of pain. We come into this World, we pass through it, and in many cases we depart. 

No matter what we do, we risk. We risk ideas and ideals, our lives and the lives of others, we risk concerns and security and satisfaction. In no way can we avoid risk—either in life or in responding to pain. One heart beats with other hearts in the presence of human pain. We are called from beyond our own little lives to enter into the lives of others. To respond—so simple, so meaningful, so significant, so natural, so inevitable…. Of course I want to respond, I want to help, I want to heal, I want to be all that I can be with others and for others and to others. However, what sounds so right and what seems so real, upon closer examination, turns into that which is unclear and uncertain. To respond to human pain—we can too easily jump into professional performance—or at least advanced competence without initially paying the price of person discipline.  Many people only want things that benefit them. They want to come in when the cost is less and the burden light. Most would bypass the step where the cost is greater and the burden heavier. In responding to human pain, that initial cost and that first step always mean including ourselves. To give ourselves to others in ways that matter requires that we have ourselves together as ourselves in ways that matter. If we really intend to respond to human pain, then, of necessity, we have to start with ourselves.   

Most people enter helping professions—ministry, medicine, social services, teaching, psychology—out of a personal need to be needed. Some do it because others require it of them. At its core that requirement is life and health; namely, my life takes on life to the degree it is engaged with others. There can be no life without meaningful life together. However, surrounding that core of human response, we find a layer of intent: I will be needed no matter what; I will be helpful regardless; I will respond at all times to all requests as requested. It is that willful drive to respond that becomes a terrible burden upon those to whom we seek to respond. At the beginning, we cannot avoid looking at the personal cost and individual struggles which we must undertake if we are to put ourselves at the disposal of others. That is the necessary foundation if we are to have a self to give away in ways that matter. There are, however, far more subtle loneliness traps in our society. Not every lovely person is trapped by interest in career, pursuit of independence, or a love-seeking belief system. Many lonely people are not particularly hung up about these issues. Many readily admit that they would give anything if only they could find the right person with whom they could share their lives. And yet they still find themselves enmeshed in isolation. 

People seek help for unexpectedly varied expressions of pain. There are hospitalized mental patients; ambulatory neurotics often with psychosomatic complaints; those with chronic disease or disability; those in special circumstances, such as criminal offenders; those with specific stress, and those with sexual difficulties. The great majority of those seeking help are people whose adaptive capacities for coping get temporarily or periodically overtaxed. There are others who suffer from World pain. They seek help in their struggles with such problems as identity and alienation. They have a spiritual unrest or feeling that they are not getting all they should out of life. Their pain reflects the confusion of moral standards and disintegration of values in today’s World, as well as the increasing proportion of the educated and affluent who have the leisure and inclination to brood about such issues.  Many people resist the idea that there is a connection between their overeating, their lack of exercise, their smoking, their drinking, or their loneliness of their healthy. They still believe that human disease is caused by germs out there and that nothing they do matters. Very similar beliefs about mental disease dominated the nineteenth century thinking. Mental illness was thought to be caused by something foreign to the human body.  

Since it was a “mental problem,” it had to involve the human soul, and so the source of these problems was attributed to an invasion of evil spirits or possession by devils. Since the mind was a reflection of the human soul, mental disturbance could only be caused by agents which disturbed the soul, namely devils. The attitude toward human emotions followed precisely the same line of thought. Emotions were viewed as quality of the human soul; they were nonmaterial, and therefore had little to do with physical disease. Like mental disorders, emotional disorders were viewed as an indication of a disturbed soul and somehow caused by evil spirits or devils. If a person was emotionally upset, then he prayed for spiritual guidance. It is possible that demons, devils, or evil spirits are inside of some people and that is why that are so wicked and mean. “Their leader’s name is Satan, and he is the deceiver of the whole World—he was thrown down to the Earth, and his outcasts were thrown down with him,” reports Revelation 12:9. They attempt to hinder God’s people. They “devote themselves to deceitful spirits and teachings of demons, through the insincerity of liars whose consciences are seared,” reports 1 Timothy 4:1-3. So it is possible unholy spirits are on Earth creating physical, emotional, and mental problems for God’s people. 

For centuries these ideas remained firmly entrenched. While investigators probed deeper and deeper into the mysteries of chemistry, physics, physiology, astronomy, mathematics, and biology, most scientist continued to view human emotions, especially emotions like love, as something personal, internal, hidden, mystical, religious, and beyond scientific analysis. Such emotions could be described by mystics, poets, musicians, and artist, but clearly they were outside the scientific domain. Love and human companionship were not viewed as “things,” but rather as qualities of the human soul or the human spirit. Most eighteenth—and nineteenth—century scientist would have considered the idea of studying love scientifically absurd, perhaps humorous. However, physicians should carefully attend to human feelings; as human feelings are too often ignored or denied as an important emotion condition, and this is why many are unable to understand the roots of many crippling diseases. Digestive disorders are often misunderstood. For example, Ulcerative Colitis is an inflammatory bowel disease that causes inflammation in the digestive tract, namely the large intestine, also known as the colon. When the lining of the colon become inflamed and develop tiny open sores or ulcers, they can sometimes bleed. The combination of inflammation and ulceration can cause abdominal discomfort and frequent emptying of the colon.  Ulcerative colitis is the result of an abnormal response by your body’s immune system. Normally, the cells and proteins that make up the immune system, protect you from infection. In people with Ulcerative Colitis (UC), however, the immune system mistakes food, bacteria, and other materials in the intestine for foreign or invading substances.

When this happens, the body send white blood cells into the lining of the intestines, where they produce chronic inflammation and ulceration. People suffering from UC often experience loss of appetite and may lose weight as a result. People with UC also should not drink at all. In addition, a feeling of low energy and fatigue is also common with UC. Ulcerative Colitis does tend to come and go, with fairly long periods in between flare-ups in which patients may experience do distress. These periods of remission can span months or even years, although symptoms do eventually return. The unpredictable course of ulcerative colitis may make it difficult for physician to evaluate whether a particular course of treatment has been effect or not. No one knows what the cause of UC is. It could be an antigen in the environment, and stress can make symptoms worse, as it damages the intestine, and can spread to other tissues like the eyes. A type of eye inflammation called anterior uveitis can stem from ulcerative colitis. Anterior uveitis is an inflammation of the middle layer of the eye. This layer includes the iris and the adjacent tissue, knows as the ciliary body. If untreated, it can cause permanent damage and loss of vision from the development of glaucoma, cataract or retinal edema. People with anterior uveitis may experience red, sore and inflamed eye. Blurred vision, sensitivity to light, and small pupil. Also, ulcerative colitis can lead to cancer. However, good human contact and a reduction of stress seem to be very powerful healing method. Very few people want to be lonely or stressed out on purpose, and it is not good for our healthy.