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A little Agitation Gives Strength to Souls–Are You Going through a Dark Time in Your Life?
Your success and happiness are within you. As we have observed, psychodynamic theorists believe that an anxiety disorder develops when children come to fear their own id impulses and use ego defense mechanism to lessen the resulting anxiety. What distinguishes obsessive-compulsive disorder from other anxiety disorders, in their view, is that here the battles between anxiety-provoking id impulses and anxiety-reducing defense mechanisms is not buried in the unconscious but is played out in explicit and dramatic thoughts and actions. The id impulses usually take the form of obsessive thoughts, and the ego defenses appear as counterthoughts or compulsive actions. A woman who keeps imagining her mother suffering from a disaster, for example, may counter those thoughts with repeated safety checks throughout the house. According to psychodynamic theorists, three ego defense mechanisms are particularly common in obsessive-compulsive disorder: isolation, undoing, and reaction formation. People who resort to isolation simply disown their undesirable and unwanted thoughts and experience them as foreign intrusions. People who engage in undoing perform acts that are mean to cancel out their undesirable impulses. Those who wash their hands repeatedly, for example, may be symbolically undoing their unacceptable id impulses. People who develop a reaction formation take on a lifestyle that directly opposes their unacceptable impulses. A person may live a life of compulsive kindness and devotion to others in order to counter unacceptably aggressive impulses. Another may lead a life of chastity to counteract obsessive impulses involving pleasures of the flesh. #RandolphHarris 1 of 21
If people keep performing compulsive behaviours in order to prevent bad outcomes and ensure beneficial outcomes, can they not be taught that such behaviours are not really serving purpose? In a behavioural treatment called exposure and response prevention, clients are repeatedly exposed to objects or situations that produce anxiety, obsessive fears, and compulsive behaviours, but they are told to resist performing the behaviours they feel bound to perform. Because people find it very difficult to stop such behaviours, therapists often set an example. As the clients are repeatedly exposed to objects or situations that produce anxiety, obsessive fears, and compulsive behaviours, but they are told to resist performing the behaviours they feel bound to perform. Because people find it very difficult to stop such behaviours, therapists put themselves in the anxiety-producing situation without performing any compulsive actions, and then they encourage the clients to do the same. Some behavioural therapists further have people carry out self-help procedures at home. That is, they assign homework in exposure and response prevention, such as these assignments given to a person with a cleaning compulsion: Do not mop the floor of your bathroom for a week. After this, clean it within three minutes, using an ordinary mop. Use this mop for other chores as well without cleaning it. Buy a fluffy mohair sweater and wear it for a week. When taking it off at night do not remove the bits of fluff. Do not clean your house for a week. You, your husband, and children all have to keep shoes on. Do not clean the house for a week. Drop a cookie on the contaminated floor, pick the cookie up and eat it. Leave the sheets and blankets on the floor and then put them on the beds. Do not change them for a week. #RandolphHarris 2 of 21
Eventually this person was able to set up a reasonable routine for cleaning oneself and home. Exposure and response prevention has been offered in both individual and group therapy. Between 55 and 85 percent of clients with obsessive-compulsive disorder have been found to improve considerably with this approach. They also function better at home, socially, and at work. These changes continue to be observed for years. The effectiveness of this approach suggests that people with obsessive-compulsive disorder are like the superstitious man in the old joke who keeps snapping his fingers to keep elephants away. When someone points out, “But there are not any elephants around here,” the man replies, “See? It works!” One review concludes, “With hindsight, it is possible to see that the obsessional individual has been snapping one’s fingers, and unless one stops (response prevention) and takes a look around at the same time (exposure), one is not going to learn much of value about elephants.” The same studies and statistics indicate the limitations of exposure and response prevention. Few clients who receive the treatment overcome all their symptoms, and as many as one-quarter fail to improve at all. Also, the approach is of limited help to those who have obsessions but no compulsions. After all, the treatment makes its impact on obsessions by blocking closely linked compulsive acts. Finally, the favourable findings come mainly from studies of cleaning and checking compulsions. The effectiveness of this approach with other kinds of compulsions or with multiple compulsions is unclear. Painful thoughts—like the man in George Cruikshank’s painting The Blue Devils, some people may find unwanted thoughts particularly threatening and debilitating. According to cognitive theorists, their reactions to intrusive thoughts may set the stage for obsessive-compulsive disorder. #RandolphHarris 3 of 21
Some individuals become more and more convinced that one’s unpleasant intrusive thoughts are dangerous. As the person’s fear of such thoughts increase, the thoughts begin to occur more frequently and they, too, become obsessions. People with obsessive-compulsive disorder experience intrusive thoughts more frequently than other people, especially in times of stress, a difference that may be due to biological predisposition; they resort to more elaborate neutralizing strategies than other people when they try to stop unwanted thoughts; and they experience reductions in anxiety after using neutralizing techniques. Although everyone sometimes had undesired thoughts, only some people develop obsessive-compulsive disorder. Why do these individuals find such normal thoughts so disturbing to begin with? Researchers have found that this population tends to be more depressed than other people; to have exceptionally high standards of conduct and morality; to believe that their intrusive negative thoughts are equivalent to actions and capable of causing harm to themselves or others and to feel responsible for eliminating the imagined danger; and generally to believe that they can and should have perfect control over all their thoughts and behaviours. There is a signal hypothesis that holds that excessive alcohol or substance use is a sign of distress. The comorbidity of other psychological problems with drug and alcohol misuse is testimony to the validity of this hypothesis. Before these are discussed, it should be noted that drug use problems are highly comorbid with alcohol use problems: About half of all those who misuse hard drugs also suffer from alcohol dependence. #RandolphHarris 4 of 21
Rates of alcoholism and other substance use disorders are very high among those with mood disorders. A study showed that rates of mood disorders are equal for men and women in the American Amish community, where the use of alcohol is prohibited. This suggests that alcoholism may mask depression in men in the general population, since men are thought to have about half the rate of depression than women do. In fact, there are very few people who have just drinking problems. Such individuals often have a number of related problems, such as depression and anxiety. In some cases, the drinking may be a misguided attempted to “cope” with these disorders, and in other cases, these other psychosocial problems may be consequences of problem drinking. Many patients with bipolar disorder also have substance use problems. About a quarter to half of all such patients have some substance use disorder. Substance use disorders are also highly comorbid with personality disorders. Almost 60 percent of all people with substance use disorders have comorbid personality disorder. The pattern of comorbidity with alcoholism and other substance use disorders reveals close associations with other disorders that have strong links to interpersonal relationship problems. One plausible account of this comorbidity may be that the substance use is secondary to the primary psychological problem, initiated in an effort to regulate and cope with a deteriorating interpersonal environment. Problems such as depression, anxiety, and personality disorders can rapidly decay interpersonal relationships. The feelings of loneliness, damaged self-esteem, and lack of direction that often accompany and follow the deterioration of interpersonal relationships may prompt some people to turn to substance use. #RandolphHarris 5 of 21
In such instances, the substance use may be an attempt to regulate interpersonal interaction (exempli gratia, taking cocaine in effort to go out in public and have a good time) or to cope with feelings of emptiness and rejection (exempli gratia, drinking alcohol to “escape” dysphoric feelings). In other cases, substance use disorders may precede other psychological problems that stem from destroyed interpersonal relationships. Once substance use is initiated, some people continue and escalate it because of chemical addiction. However, it is virtually a foregone conclusion that as the substance use becomes more pervasive, interpersonal relationships are damaged and ultimately destroyed. This effect happens partly because excessive drug and alcohol use interferes with competent interpersonal behaviour; it focuses individuals almost exclusively on substance ingestion, at the expense of maintaining mutually rewarding relationships with other people. When this focus is taken to extremes, a person may steal from others to get money to buy drugs, lie, and become excessively abrasive. These behaviours reliably damage interpersonal relationships, and problems such as depression and anxiety may follow—not necessarily because of the substance use disorder per se, but because of the interpersonal consequences of the substance use. Consequently, much of the comorbidity between substance use disorders and other psychosocial problems may be explained by aversive interpersonal experiences. These are the experiences with the power and impact to link problems. At least a quarter of the population will experience significant problems with substance abuse or dependence in their lifetimes. This class of problems generally has its origins in adolescence, and substance use is currently on the rise in this cohort. Within the substance use disorders, alcoholism has received a great deal of interpersonally oriented research attention. #RandolphHarris 6 of 21
People who are dependent on alcohol exhibit problems with some social skills, such as negative assertion and refusal of alcohol from others. However, these interpersonal skills deficits are not broad-based, and may be due to low motivation to use the skills than to not possessing them. Alcoholism has complex associations with family interactions. In some cases, alcoholism can bring positivity and stability to family troubles. Scientists are learning that alcoholism is a heterogeneous phenomenon, and that persons with certain subtypes of it are more inclined than others to have more severe family problems. In particular, those with episodic (vs. steady), high-antisociality (vs. low-antisociality), and stable-wet (vs. stable-dry or transitional alcoholism tend to have the most disrupted family environments and interactions. As in the family more generally, the marital relationship can influence and is influenced by spousal alcoholism. Alcoholics may harbour feelings of hostility and competitiveness toward their spouse. At the same time, drinking can in some cases activate positivity and problem solving in marital interaction. The marriages of those who drink at home tend to see more positive consequences of drinking than the marriages of those who drink outside the home. A great deal of attention has been paid to COAs (children of alcoholics) in both the scientific and lay press. Problems for COAs are thought to represent the interpersonally destructive consequences of parental alcoholism. Although they are clearly at risk for developing problem drinking themselves, COAs are not easily distinguished from non-COAs. When they are, a more general negative family environment mechanism may explain their troubles better than the specific effects of parental alcoholism do. #RandolphHarris 7 of 21
The architecture for adult substance abuse or dependence is often intact by the end of adolescence, and is largely established through interpersonal interaction. Young people learn to use drugs and alcohol by observing their friends and family members perform the behaviours; this process is known as modeling. High levels of family-of-origin discord and interpersonal maltreatment may predispose young people to get involved with and continue to use drugs and alcohol. Undoubtedly, many such youths are self-medicating and seeking an escape from interpersonally inflicted trauma and drama. Although adolescents who are involved in substance use and misuse have some interpersonal problems of their own, these problems are in some cases the consequences of substance use. Some evidence also suggests that codependent interpersonal relationships can even maintain substance misuse. All those with habitual substance use, abuse, or dependence seek to alter their consciousness, and often to escape a negative mood state. No one is born with the knowledge or behavioural ability to use drugs and alcohol for these or other purposes. Rather, this knowledge and behaviour comes from interpersonal interaction. Drug and alcohol use is socially learned. The path from substance use to substance abuse and/or dependence is often strewn with the wreckage of destructive interpersonal interactions and relationships, such as conflict and hostility in families or origin and orientation, rejection by peers, sexual abuse, and marital discord. Alcohol and other substance abuse and dependence are both causes and consequences of interpersonal distress. However, to live your best life now, one must act on one’s will, not simply one’s emotions. Sometimes that means one has to take steps of faith even when one is hurting, grieving, or still reeling from some attack of the enemy. #RandolphHarris 8 of 21
Some people are sitting around waiting for God to change their circumstances. Then they are going to be happy; then they are going to have a good attitude; than they are going to give God praise. However, God is waiting on one to get up on the inside. To be an actualizing Christian. When one does one’s part, God will begin to change the things and work supernaturally in one’s life. Are you going through a dark time in your life? Perhaps someone deceived you, took advantage of you, or mistreated you, and now you are tempted to sit around acting foolish and ghoulish, mouring over what you have lost, thinking about how unfair it was, and how your life will never be the same. You need to change your attitude. You have to feel the success and happiness on the inside. Develop the mentality of a successful person and watch what God will begin to do. When you face adversity, do not be a crybaby. Do not be a complainer. Do not wallow in self-pity. Instead, have the attitude of a successful Christian. Jesus Christ is a lover of purity and the Giver of All Sanctity. A pure heart is the sort of thing He seeks. And in a place like that He likes to take His rest; a Chatsworth, as it were; that was Luke’s sentiment in Acts (7.49). Prepare of Jesus a dining room with some suitable furniture—that is how the Evangelist Mark recorded it (14.15), and He will make Passover with His Disciples and invite you to come. Jesus will be glad and come to you and remain for the celebration of the feast, but first you will have to scour the leaven from the room—Paul reminded the Corinthians to do just that in his First Letter (5.7)—and sweep out the inner room of one’s heart. Get rid of everything secular. Banish the sounds of the noisy vices outside. Then sit as solitary sparrow on a roof tile, as the Psalmist once put it (102.7), and stew about your regrets in—as the Prophet Isaiah described it so well (38.15)—the vinaigrettes of your soul. #RandolphHarris 9 of 21
Every loving Devout has already done this, prepared a Chatsworth; that is to say, the best, most beautiful spot for one’s own beloved Friend. Why? To show what great affections would greet the arrival of one’s Best Friend. Mark you, no preparation is ever perfect. Try though you do, there are still foreign particles about, and even if you were to spend a year doing it, there would still be dust in the air. taking into consideration Jesus Christ’s piety and grace, one would be permitted to approach His table. One would have to do it, though, as an indigent to a rich man, with nothing in one’s pockets and no way to repay the kindness other than to eat humble pie and give humble thanks. Just do what one can do and do it diligently, not out of habit or necessity, but with fear and reverence. With affection receive the Body of you Beloved Lord and God, who thought you were a worthy enough chap to receive a visit. Jesus is the One who called you, the One who ordered it to happen, who cleaned you up so nicely. Come and receive Jesus. If perchance Jesus should shed some grace of devotion on you, give thank to Him, your God. Not because you are worthy of it, but because He looks down with mercy on one’s pathetic state. If one does not have grace, but feels increasingly arid, insist on prayer, groan and beat your best, saying “Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa”; the Evangelist Matthew said something similar (7.7). And do not stop until you receive a morsel of medicinal grace. Without Jesus you are poor—not the other way around. One does not come to bless Christ, and make Christ feel good—it is the other way around. One comes to be sanctified by Christ and to be joined to Jesus Christ in friendship, and to be encouraged once again to do better; First Timothy yet again (4.14). Do not overlook this grace. Rather, prepare one’s heart with all diligence. Then bid one’s Beloved Friend to enter. #RandolphHarris 10 of 21
It is important to note here that one should not only prepare oneself for devotion before Communion, but also save oneself solicitously after Communion. The recollection after should not be less than the preparation before, for the post-Communion glow is the best preparation for attaining major grace. Whoever flees from Communion back to the World for fear of missing some Worldly consolations loses what spiritual consolations have already been detailed to one. Beware of lengthy conversations. Remain by yourself in the church or chapel, and enjoy your special time with God, for you have Him whom the whole World cannot wrest from you. Jesus Christ is the One to whom you ought to give your complete self. That so that you may live not in yourself, but in Him—do that, and you can kiss care good-bye. You may be weary, and tired, worn down, and ready to give up. You may be saying, “I am never going to break this addiction. I have had it for so long. I would not even know how to function without it.” Or, “My income is so low, and my debts are so high; I do not see how my financial situation will ever get better.” Or, “I have been praying for years, but it does not look as though my children want to serve God.” “I have had about as much as I can take.” Do not allow yourself to wave the white flag of surrender. You must get out of that defeated mentality and start thinking and believing positively. Your attitude should be: I am coming out this situation successfully! I may have been sick for a long time, but I know this sickness did not come to stay. It came to pass. I may have struggled with this addiction for years, but I know my day of deliverance is coming. My children may not be doing right, but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. #RandolphHarris 11 of 21
You must show the enemy that you are more determined than he is. Make it known, “Even if I have to stand my whole lifetime, I am going to stand in faith! I am going to keep standing up on the inside, no matter how long it takes.” God wants you to be a winner, not a whiner. There is no reason for you to be perpetually living “under the circumstances,” always down, always discouraged. No matter how many times you get knocked down, keep getting back up. God sees your resolve. He seems your determination. And when you do everything you can do, that is when God will step in and do what you cannot do. Dear Lord in Heaven, I choose to rule my emotions, rather than allowing them to dominate me. Please help me to act on what I know is right and true according to Your Word, rather than on outward appearances, feelings, or discouraging information. With Your help, I will be successful! Many pray for good health and strength, but if they sneeze once, they say, “I believe I am taking the flu,” or “I must be taking a cold.” They have set a scriptural law in motion and it cancelled their prayer. Let me share a little secret with you that will stop 50 percent of your cold is you will do it consistently. Every time you sneeze say, “Thank God, I am taking healing. I have a choice; so I am taking healing.” “I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life,” reports Deuteronomy 30.19. No one will snicker or laugh when you say, “I am taking the flu.” They will just reply, “Oh, poor thing.” However, when you say, “I am taking healing,” they will often say, “What has gotten into you?” Just reply, “The Word of God!” James says if you can control the tongue, that the body can be controlled. Your body is like a child—it will do anything you let it do. If you let it, it will be sick. The spirit of man on the inside is the one that should dominate the body. Christ redeemed you from the curse of poverty, sickness, and sin. (Galatians 3.13.) #RandolphHarris 12 of 21
Some would reason that if we were redeemed from the curse of the Law, then everyone would be healed and no one would be sick; but that is not true. We are redeemed from sin; but not everyone is saved. They could be, but they have not acted on God’s Word to be delivered from sin. If you want to, you can still sin. According to the Word of Galatians 3.13, we have no more right to allow sickness and disease in our bodies than we do sin. It all comes from Satan! When the question arises which one is absolutely the best government, an insoluble question is being raised because it is indeterminate. Or, if you wish, it has as many good answers as there are possible combinations in the absolute and relative positions of the people. However, if asked by what sign it is possible to know that a given people is well or poorly governed, this is another matter, and the question of fact could be resolved. However, nothing is answered, since each wants to answer it in one’s own way. The subjects praised public tranquillity; the citizens praise the liberty of private individuals. The former prefers the security of possessions; the latter that of persons. The former has it that the best government is the one that is most severe; the latter maintains that the best government is the one that is mildest. This one wants crimes to be punished, and that one wants them prevented. The former think it a good thing to be feared by their neighbours; the latter prefer to be ignored by them. The one is content so long as money circulates; the other demands that the people have bread. Even if agreement were had on these similar points, would we be any closer to an answer? Since moral quantities do not allow of precise measurements, even if there were agreement regarding the sign, how could there by agreement regarding the evaluation. #RandolphHarris 13 of 21
For my part, I am always astonished that such a simple sign is overlooked or that people are of such bad faith as not to agree on it. What is the goal of the political association? It is the preservation and prosperity of its members. And what is the surest sign that they are preserved and prospering? It is their number and their population. Therefore do not go looking elsewhere for this much disputed sigh. All other things being equal, the government under which, without external means, without naturalizations, without colonies, the citizens become populous and multiply the most, is infallibly the best government. That government under which a populace diminishes and dies out is the worst. Calculators, it is not up to you. Count, measure, compare. We should judge on this same principle the centuries that merit preference with respect to the prosperity of the human race. Those in which letters and arts are known to have flourished have been admired too much, without penetrating the secret object of their cultivation, and without considering its devastating effect, and this was called by the inexperienced, when it was a part of servitude. Will we never see int eh maxims of books the crude interest that causes the authors to speak? No. Whatever they may say, when a country is depopulated, it is not true, despite its brilliance, that all goes well; and the fact that a poet has an income of hundred thousand livres is not sufficient to make his century the best of all. The apparent calm and tranquillity of the leader ought to be less of an object of consideration than the well-being of whole nations and especially of the most populous states. A hailstorm may devastate a few cantons, but it rarely causes famine. #RandolphHarris 14 of 21
Riots and civil ways may greatly disturb the leaders, but they are not the true misfortunes of the people, who may even have a reprieve while people argue over who will tyrannize them. It is their permanent condition that causes real periods of prosperity or calamity. It is when everything remains crushed under the yoke that everything decays. It is then that the leaders destroy them at will, where they bring about solitude they call it peace. When the quarrels of the great disturbed the kingdom of France, and the Coadjutor of Paris brought with one to the Parliament a knife in his pocket, this did not keep the French people from living happily and in great numbers in a free and decent ease. Long ago, Greece flourished in the midst of the cruelest wars. Blood flowed in waves, and the whole country was covered with men. It seemed, says Machiavelli, that in the midst of murders, proscriptions, and civil wars, our republic became more powerful; the virtue of its citizens, their mores, and their independence did more to reinforce it than all its dissension did to weaken it. A little agitation gives strength to souls, and what truly brings about prosperity for the species is not so much peace as liberty. At the same time, we see equally powerful fingers clawing at the nation-state from above. The Third Wave has brought new problems, a new structure of communications, and new actors on the World stage—all of which drastically shrink the power of the individual nation-state. Just as many problems are too small or localized for national governments to handle effectively, new owns are fast arising that are too large for any nation to cope with alone. “The nation state, which regards itself as absolutely sovereign, is obviously too small to play a real role at the global level,” writes the French political thinker, Denis de Rougement. “No one of our 28 European states can any longer by itself assure its military defense and its prosperity, its technological resources, the prevention of nuclear wars and of ecological catastrophes.” Now can the United States of American, Russia or Japan. #RandolphHarris 15 of 21
Tightened economic linkages between nations make it virtually impossible for any individual national government today to manage its own economy independently or to quarantine inflation. The ever-swelling bubble of Euromoney, for example, as suggested earlier, is beyond the power of any individual nation to regulate. National politicians who claim their domestic policies can “halt inflation” or “wipe out unemployment” are either naïve or lying, since most economic infections are now communicable across national boundaries. The economic shell of the nation-state is now increasingly permeable. Furthermore, national borders that can no longer contain economic flows are even less defensible against environmental forces. If Swiss chemical plants dump wastes into the Rhine, the pollution flows through Germany, though Holland, and ultimately into the North Sea. Neither Holland nor Germany can, by itself, guarantee the quality of its own waterways. Oil tanker spills, air pollution, inadvertent weather modification, the destruction of forests, and other activities often involve side effects that sweep across national borders. Frontiers are now porous. The new global communications system further opens each nation to penetration from the outside. Canadians have long resented the fact that some 90 United States of American television stations along the border telecast programs to Canadian audiences. However, this Second Wave form of cultural penetration is minor compared with that made possible by Third Wave communications systems based on satellites, computers, teleprinters, interactive cable systems, and dirt-cheap ground stations. “One way to ‘attack’ a nation,” writes United States Senator George S. McGovern, “is to restrain the flow of information—cutting off contact between the headquarters and overseas branches of a multinational firm…building information walls around a nation…A new phase is entering the international lexicon—‘information sovereignty.’” #RandolphHarris 16 of 21
Yet it is questionable how effectively nation borders can be sealed off—or for how long. For the shift of the Third Wave’s industrial base has required the development of a highly ramified, sensitive, wide open “neural network” or information system, and attempts by individual nations to dam up data flows may interfere with rather, than accelerate, their own economic development. Moreover, each technological breakthrough provides yet another way to penetrate the nation’s outer shell. All such developments—the new economic problems, the new environmental problems, and the new communications technologies—are converging to undermine the position of the nation-state in the global scheme of things. What is more, they come together at precisely the moment when potent new actors appear on the World scene to challenge national power. Those who feel that economic reform is the most urgent duty facing humanity have usually opposed the mystical movement. They have done so on the grounds that it diverts attention from the real (that is, the economic) issues, that it enfeebles the urge towards social improvement and individual ambition, and that it leads to sleepy, dreamy complacency. Karl Marx’s criticism of religion, that it had become a mere appendix of bourgeois thought, had some truth in it for his own times. However, today, many religious leaders have been aroused to the danger and are sincerely striving to bring the social order into line with religious ethics. They are no longer falsifying religious ethics by striving to bring them into line with the social order. Yet the solution Communists offer is philosophically unsatisfactory for it is born out of crude materialism, based on venomous class hatred, and stiffened by bureaucratic tyranny. Their ultimate aim, however, is a good one only insofar as it is the elimination of capitalism’s defects, such as avoidable unemployment, extreme poverty, and social injustices, but their means and methods are very bad. #RandolphHarris 17 of 21
There is only one real capitalist—Nature—one real proprietor of the Earth and all that therein is, and consequently all the children of the Earth are its rightful heirs. We usually forget that we have no ethical right to possess what we have not toiled for. This is overlooked by society as a whole and we, as individuals, take shelter beneath the common sin. For sin it is, albeit only one of omission. Those, however, who have cast aside the conventional view can see it for what it is. That which this Earth produces is for all. Every human has one’s birthright in what it stores or gives forth, although not an equal birthright to every other human. This, surely, is Nature’s view, although humans in their ignorance have developed other ideas upon the matter and so brought great misery upon their fellows and great nemesis upon themselves. The World is for our temporary use and does not constitute our eternal property. Whoever thinks outside—whether it be a single individual or a community of individuals called a “nation”—and excludes all others from consideration, whoever thinks one has a full right to eat whilst others have a full right to starve, whoever cannot identify oneself with the suffering people of one’s own or another country, will be tutored by pain and instructed by loss. We are all stewards, not proprietors, and own nothing in reality. This was pithily expressed by a highly advanced Jesus Christ. Many people, who are rich landlords, complain of being robed of some jewels, money, and other property, and perhaps Nature regards them also as thieves. If the true Master made His claim, how would they think on, with what shame, all that fierce talk of thine and mine, the World He fashioned so divine. What could they answer did He says, “When did I give my World away?” However, there is great distance from such abstract reflections to the concrete realities of contemporary social and economic life. #RandolphHarris 18 of 21
The whole structure of laws and rights is based on these realities. And this is as it should be, for humanity, as its present stage of evolution, can best express itself and serve itself in that way. The anarchist would ignore them because he is one-sided and the Communist would violate them because he is unscrupulous. Philosophy does not object to anu effort to remold society for the common welfare, but welcomes it. No amount of academic sophistry can justify a system which permits the few to have more food than they can eat and forces the many to have less food than they need to eat. No amount of legal enactment can justify the ownership of a hundred thousand acres of land merely because five hundred year earlier some ancestor seized it. These ancient wrongs must be redressed. Both altruistic sentiment and political strategy—no less Universal Law adjustment—demand such a revision, although the attempt to do so by violent means would introduce far worse wrongs. In this momentous task, we have to prepare a blueprint—not of the ideal State which we would like to see arise, but of the actual State which can arise under the given circumstances. This means that we must follow a middle path. Any other way will be either too realistic or too idealistic and will lead to failure. For we must find not only what is theoretically right but also what is practically possible. We cannot and we ought not do away wildly, abruptly, and violently with our social environment. Without it we would be savages. Those vanished humans of the past had to learn arduously how to live on earth, how to adapt themselves to it. Think of what it would mean to be born into a World where no houses existed, no land was cultivated, no roads had been made, no machines invented, no knowledge known! All these and infinitely more exist today and constitute our surroundings, our civilization; but they did not spring up in a single night. #RandolphHarris 19 of 21
Civilization, advancement and technology are the inheritance which we own to long trailing of African, Egyptian, Asiatic, and European ancestors living and working and dying for countless centuries. They are our own racial past. We cannot dismiss this legacy without descending anew to the most barbarous existence. There are grave defects in this environment, it is true, but the young rebel who wishes to tear everything down in order to remove these defects, will also remove treasures bought at a price which will take the toil of millions through centuries to pay again. The past efforts of humans appear in our present environment. Let us use it, but use it wisely. It is here to serve us. We need not be afraid to improve and alter it. Unbalanced hot-heads who say that such improvement and such alteration is only possible through compete destruction of what is the present order so that what may be shall rise on its ruins, have misread history. However, there is a right as well as a wrong way of doing this. The only proper way is by persuasion, by the persuasion and education of social conscience and by the uplift of social morality to loftier standards. Such reforms can be brought about only in an atmosphere of goodwill and calmness, not in an atmosphere of hatred and brutality. Humans must choose which God one will serve, the God of hatred or the God of love, for one cannot serve both. One must effect these changes not by brutality or by blood, but by the gentler persuasions of reason and goodwill, slower though they necessarily are. Wisdom prefers to see needed reforms and overdue changes brought by peaceful and not violent means, by the acknowledgement of their ethical need rather than by submission to materialistic values. During the Glimpse of God, one feels that one has travelled close to one’s journey’s end, to the fulfilment of one’s highest purpose. The quest has suddenly become easy and pleasant. However, alas! after the rainbow fades and vanishes, one is forced to recognize that one had far yet to go, that what one experienced was only a passing glimpse and not the final goal. #RandolphHarris 20 of 21
If one cannot keep this higher consciousness, it is because one’s lower and Earthly nature is strong enough to raise again and block the way. When the purification lessons are learned it will then be possible for one, by self-effort and self-development, to regain this experience—at first temporarily and occasionally, but if one works correctly and Grace sanctions, permanently. In each of these glimpses, one’s quest attains a minor climax, for each is a step toward full illumination. It is a kind of pre-vision in which one sees, as Moses saw the Land of Canaan, the Promised Land toward which one journeys. It is a mistake to regard it as final illumination when it is in fact only one of many stages toward final illumination, and that should remind us that this society can better than it is, but we have to want to be better. We have to want to reform. We have to want to be kind. We have to want to help, not exploit others. It calls for a renovation of the human mind and soul, not the human home. Your home can be laced with gold and diamonds, but what does it matter if your soul is condemned to rot in Hell for all eternity? Glory be to God for dappled things—for skies of couple-colour as brinded cow; for rose-moles all in stipple upon trout that swim; fresh-firecoal chestnuts falls; finches’ wings; landscape plotted and pieced—fold, fallow, and plough; and all trades, their gear and tackle and trim. All things counter, original, spare, strange; whatever is fickle, freckled (who knows how?) with swift, slow; sweat; sour; adazzle, dim; He fathers-forth whose beauty is past change: Praise Him. Hear, O America: the Lord our God, the Lord is One. Blessed be His glorious kingdom for ever and ever. Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words which I command thee this day shall be in thy heart. Thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thy house, when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be for frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the door posts of thy house and upon thy gates. #RandolphHarris 21 of 21
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The stressful demands placed on people by their culture or social group may set the stage for psychophysiological disorders. The stress may be wide-ranging, such as that produced by wars or natural disasters. As followers of Jesus Christ, we condemn abuse in any form. Abuse is a serious public health concern and is against the law in many countries. It is also forbidden by the commandments of God. No one should abuse another, and no one should have to endure abuse. Protecting and caring for others was a priority for Jesus Christ in His life, and it is a priority in His Church today. Abuse is a matter the Church takes very seriously. When we learn of abuse, our first priority is to help the victim and stop the abuse. People who have been abused, victimized, or terrorized often experience lingering stress symptoms. More than one-quarter of all cases of posttraumatic stress disorder are the result of physical or sexual assault. Indeed, research suggests that more than one-third of all victims of assault develop posttraumatic stress disorder. Similarly, as many as half of all civilians who are directly exposed to terrorism or torture may develop this disorder. Sexual assault is a common form of victimization in our society. Rape is forced sexual intercourse or another sexual act committed against a nonconsenting person or intercourse with an underage person. Surveys suggest that in the United States of America, more than 876,000 persons are victims of rape each year. The psychological impact of rape on a victim is immediate and may last a long time. Rape victim is immediate and may last a long time. Rape victims typically experience enormous distress during the weeks, maintains a peak level for another month or so, and then starts to improve. In one study, 94 percent of rape victims fully qualified for a clinical diagnosis of acute stress disorder when they were observed an average of 12 days after the assault. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20
Although most rape victims improve psychologically within 3 or 4 months, the effects may persist for up to 18 months or longer. Victims typically continue to have higher than average levels of anxiety, suspiciousness, depression, self-esteem problems, self-blame, flashbacks, sleep problems, and sexual dysfunction. Although many rape victims are injured by their attacker or experience other physical problems as a result of their assault, only half receive the kind of formal medical care they need. Interviews with 390 subjects revealed that such victims had poorer physical well-being for at least five years after the crime and made twice as many visits to physicians. It is not clear why rape and other assaults lead to these long-term health problems. Ongoing victimization and abuse in the family—specifically child and spouse abuse—may also lead to psychological stress disorders. Because these forms of abuse may occur over the long term and violate family roles and trust, many victims develop other symptoms of disorders as well. People who are victims of terrorism or who live under the threat of terrorism often experience posttraumatic stress symptoms. Unfortunately, this source of traumatic stress is on the rise in our society. Few will ever forget the events of September 11, 2001, when hijacked airplanes crashed into and brought down the World Trade Center in New York City and partially destroyed the Pentagon in Washington, D.C., killing thousands of victims and rescue workers and forcing thousands more to desperately run, crawl, and even dig their way to safety. One of the many legacies of this infamous event is the lingering psychological effect that it has had on those people who were immediately affected and their family members, and on tens of millions of others who were traumatized simply by watching images of the disaster on their television sets as the day unfolded. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20
A number of recent studies clarify that acute stress reactions were common indeed among victims and observers following the terrorist attacks, that thousands more experienced posttraumatic stress symptoms in the months that followed, and that these symptoms and disorders will, in many cases, linger for years. Clearly, extraordinary trauma can cause a stress disorder. The stressful event alone, however, may not be the entire explanation. Certainly, anyone who experiences an unusual trauma will be affected by it, but only some people develop a disorder. Before the 1970s, clinicians believed that only a limited number of illnesses were psychophysiological. The best known and most common of these disorders were ulcers, asthma, insomnia, chronic headaches, high blood pressure, and coronary heart disease. Recent research, however, has shown that many other physical illnesses—including bacterial and viral infections—may be caused by an interaction of psychosocial and physical factors. Ulcers are lesions (holes) that form in the wall of the stomach, occasional vomiting, and stomach bleeding. This disorder is experienced by up to 10 percent of all people in the United States of America and is responsible for more than 6,000 deaths each year. Ulcers are often caused by an interaction of stress factors, such as environmental pressure or intense feelings of anger or anxiety, and physiological factors, such as bacterial infections. Asthma causes the body’s airways (the trachea and bronchi) to narrow periodically, making it hard for air to pass to and from the lungs. The resulting symptoms are shortness of breath, wheezing, coughing, and a terrifying choking sensation. Seventy person of all cases appear to be caused by an interaction of stress factors, such as environmental pressures, troubled family relationships, or anxiety, and psychological factors, such as allergies to specific substances, a slow-acting sympathetic nervous system, or a weakened respiratory system traceable to respiratory infections or genetic inheritance. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20
Insomnia, difficulty falling asleep or maintaining sleep, plagues 35 percent of the population each year. Although many of us have temporary bouts of insomnia that lasts a few nights or so, a large number of people experience insomnia that lasts months or years. They feel as though they are almost constantly awake. Chronic insomnias are often very sleepy during the say and may have difficulty functioning effectively. Their problem may be caused by a combination of physiological problems, such as an overactive arousal system or certain medical ailments. Chronic headaches are frequent intense aches of the head or neck that are not caused by another physical disorder. There are two types. Muscle contraction, or tension, headaches are identified by pain at the back or front of the head or the back of the neck. These occur when the muscles surrounding the skull tighten, narrowing the blood vessels. Approximately 40 million Americans suffer from such headaches. Migraine headaches are extremely severe, often near-paralyzing aches located on one side of the head. They are often preceded by a warning sensation called an aura and are sometimes accompanied by dizziness, nausea, or vomiting. Migraine headaches are thought by some medical theorists to develop in two phases: blood vessels in the brain narrow, so that the flow of blood to parts of the brain is reduced, and the same blood vessels later expand, so that blood flows through them rapidly, stimulating many neuron endings and causing pain. Migraines are suffered by 23 million people in the United States of America. Research indicates that chronic headaches are caused by an interaction of stress factors, such as environmental pressures or general feelings of helplessness, anger, anxiety, or depression, and physiological factors, such as abnormal activity of the neurotransmitter serotonin, vascular problems, or muscle weakness. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20
Hypertension is a state of chronic high blood pressure. That is, the blood pumped through the body’s arteries by the heart produces too much pressure against the artery walls. Hypertension has few outward symptoms, but it interferes with the proper functioning of the entire cardiovascular system, greatly increasing the likelihood of stroke, coronary heart disease, and kidney problems. It is estimated that 40 million people in the United States of American have hypertension, 14,000 die directly from it annually, and millions more perish because of illness caused by it. Around 10 percent of all cases are caused by physiological abnormalities alone; the rest result from a combination of psychosocial and physiological factors and are called essential hypertension. Some of the leading psychosocial causes of essential hypertension are constant environmental danger and general feelings of anger or depression. Phycological causes include faulty baroreceptors—sensitive nerves in the blood vessels responsible for signaling the brain that blood pressure is becoming too high. Coronary heart disease is caused by a blocking of the coronary arteries—the blood vessels that surround the heart and are responsible for carrying oxygen to the heart muscle. The term actually refers to several problems, including angina pectoris, extreme chest pain caused by the partial blockage of the coronary arteries; coronary occlusion, a complete blockage of a coronary artery that halts the flow of blood to various parts of the heart muscle; and myocardial infraction (a “heart attack). Together such problems are the leading cause of death of men over the age of 35 and of women over 40 in the United States of America, accounting for over 700,000 deaths each year, almost one-third of all deaths in the nation. The majority of all cases of coronary heart disease are related to an interaction of psychosocial factors, such as job stress or high levels of anger or depression, and physiological factors, such as a high level of cholesterol, obesity, hypertension, the effects of smoking, or lack of exercise. #RandolphHarris 5 of 20
Over the year, clinicians have identified a number of variables that may contribute to the development of psychophysiological disorders. Given the close link between psychological and physical functioning, it should not surprise us that several of these variables are the same as those that contribute to the onset of acute and posttraumatic stress disorders. The variables may be grouped as sociocultural, psychological, and biological factors. Aside from the effects of parental modeling, certain negative family dynamics and atmospheres may predispose adolescents toward substance use. The families of teens who use substances tend to be less cohesive, to be less adaptable, and to exhibit less togetherness than families of teens who do not use. Negativity and conflict in the family are also positively correlated with adolescent drug use. These results notwithstanding, some of these family dynamics may actually be related to parental drug use. Researchers, for example, found that after they controlled for parental monitoring and family drug use, the association between family cohesion and adolescent drug use was not significant. The family may also influence adolescent substance use through problematic or ineffective parenting. For example, inconsistent parental discipline and skewed parenting, in which one parent is overinvolved and the other is overly permissive, are risk factors for initial drug use in adolescents. A combination of low parental support and high parental control has proven to be a particularly noxious combination of parenting behaviours that is also predictive of adolescent substance use. In addition, excessive maternal expressed emotion (criticism) is associated with a threefold increase in the risk for at least one of the following childhood problems: depression, substance abuse, or conduct disorder. The effects of paternal hostility on adolescent alcohol use are equally proven. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20
Some noteworthy longitudinal studies indicate that defective parenting behaviour may precede offspring’s substance misuse by many years. A landmark study found that mothers of children who were frequent users of marijuana at age 18 were overresponsive to their children and gave them little encouragement during an observation at age 5. Similarly, parents who exhibited less directive control and assertiveness while interacting with their 4-year-old children were more likely to have adolescents who used marijuana heavily some years later. These parenting behaviours and family environments may push an adolescent away from the family—causing one to reject traditional family beliefs and values such as religion, work, and education, and to move toward socialization with deviant peers. Parents of at-risk adolescents hold beliefs and values similar to those of other parents, but their children do not share these values. This suggests a breakdown in the process of parenting and/or an overwhelming influence of deviant peers. As with so many other mental health problems, a history of interpersonal maltreatment (including physical and sexual abuse) is predictive of later substance misuse. Although this phenomenon may be an extension of the aversive family-or-origin environments descried above, such maltreatment need not be perpetrated by family members in order to increase risk for substance abuse. In addition, the assessment of childhood maltreatment in this report does not always identify the relationship between the perpetrator and the child. Therefore, this set of social stressors is discussed separately from family-of-origin environment issues, although it is acknowledged that there may be a considerable interrelation between family-of-origin environment and these stressors. (It is also acknowledged that other social stressors, such as rejection by peers, may play a role in adolescent substance use/misuses; however, the present discussion focuses on physical and sexual abuse.) #RandolphHarris 7 of 20
In a study of prisoners in treatment for substance misuse, 67 percent had a history of physical abuse, and 37 percent had a history of sexual abuse. A large national probability sample of adolescents revealed that a history of sexual assault increased adolescents’ odds of alcohol, marijuana, and hard drug abuse/dependence by factors of 3.93, 3.80, and 8.59, respectively. In this study, adolescents with a history of sexual assault were over eight times more likely to have a drug use problem than were those without a history of sexual assault. Moreover, among the adolescents with substance use in this study, those who were sexually abused started using at a younger age than those who were not. A large national survey of adult women also indicated that a history of childhood sexual abuse increased the odds of using illicit drugs by a factor of 2.52. The research findings on childhood physical and sexual abuse cast the parental modeling hypothesis and findings in a different light. In addition to modeling drug use and misuse, parents who use drugs are also more likely to abuse their children physically and sexually than are parents with no history of substance use. Thus parental substance use may affect adolescent substance use/misuse both directly, through modeling, and indirectly through the effects of maltreatment. A number of hypotheses have been developed to explain the relationship between childhood maltreatment and adolescent substance use. The self-medication hypothesis holds that survivours of physical or sexual abuse engage in substance use to cope with the emotional trauma of the abuse. This may take the form of sedating or dulling the senses with depressants, or maintaining a state of hypervigilance and watchfulness with stimulants. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20
The self-esteem hypothesis suggests that people turn to substance use to combat the effects of the damaged self-esteem resulting from maltreatment. For some people, drug use may bring a temporary feeling of acceptance from peers, and a ready means of socializing without developing any real intimacy. An additional and related explanation for the association between physical or sexual abuse and substance misuse could be characterized as a hypothesis of perceived non-risk. People with a history of such abuse sometimes feel damaged and worthless. To such individuals there may be fewer deterrents to drug initiation, since they feel that they have less to lose. Unfortunately, adolescent substance use in response to prior maltreatment may create a vicious cycle. Substance use of misuse can itself increase the risk of subsequent maltreatment, due to impaired judgment, socializing with deviant peers, and inhabitation of dangerous environments. Therefore, many young people may find themselves in a cycle of maltreatment, substance use, more maltreatment, further substance use, and so on. This intergenerational model of substance misuse and family abuse/neglect provides a useful connection between findings indicating that parents who misuse substances are more likely to maltreat their children, and that survivours of childhood maltreatment are more likely to get involved with substance use. According to this model, substance misuse may be passed on intergenerationally, in part, through child maltreatment. Parental substance misuse (substance abuse in the figure) has negative effects on overall family competence (exempli gratia, cohesion, parenting quality, respect for boundaries) and positive effects on the likelihood of child abuse/neglect. The poor family competence and abuse/neglect are expected to predispose the offspring to adult abuse/neglect, due to their learned “victim” roles and developing excessive dependency needs. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20
The continuation of this abuse and neglect into late adolescence or adulthood then leads to offspring substance misuse, perhaps for reasons such as self-medication and coping. As adults, these offspring then become parents themselves, and the whole cycle starts anew. The origins of substance use appear to be largely interpersonal. Modeling, family-of-origin discord, and the social stressors constituting childhood maltreatment, are all interpersonal processes and mechanism associated with substance use in adolescents. It is apparent that drug use (and its initiation, in particular) is associated with family and peer influences, but that drug misuse may be related more to biological and psychological processes. Nevertheless, it would be naïve to overlook family-of-origin environments and other chronic stressors as contributory factors in drug misuse. Unlike problems such as depression of schizophrenia, which are in some cases characterized as “endogenous,” substance misuse is a phenomenon that almost always originates in interactions with other people. These people demonstrate the problematic behaviour. A predisposition to engage in the behaviour, and its maintenance may be activated by a tumultuous family-of-origin environment and interpersonal maltreatment. One may not realize it, but we are living in the good old days. I am convinced twenty or thirty years from now most of us will look back and say, “Those were some great times.” We are not always going to be here together as a family. Make sure you are enjoying your family and special people in your life. They may not always be there. Every morning you wake up, gaze in appreciation at your children. Go outside and admire your yard. Take time to pick a flower and just stare at it. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20
Few of us would say that the greatest day of our lives was waking up and being able to see. However, oh, how things change when we find out we may lose something as precious as our sight or the ability to walk. If you can see and hear, if you are healthy, if you have a family and friends, if you have a job, food, and a place to live, learn to appreciate those things. Do not go around complaining about what is wrong. Change your attitude and thank God for what you do have. You may be facing some formidable obstacles in your path. However, if you look hard enough you can find some reason to be grateful. The Scripture says, “In everything gives thanks,” reports 1 Thessalonians 5.18. Notice, it does not say, “For everything gives thanks.” You do not necessarily thank God for your problems; you thank God in spite of your problems, looking for the good in every situation. Many of us have almost lost our lives, and that is why it is a great idea to work up ad find some reason to be grateful, find some reason to give God thanks. Let His praise continually be in your mouth. Even when I pray, most of my praying these says is simply giving God thanks. I believe we should spend more time thanking God than we do asking Him for things. Some people give God their “to do” list: “God, give me this. God, fix this. God, change Aunt Greta. God, give me more money. Amen.” The Scripture says, “We enter into God’s presence with praise and thanksgiving,” (see Psalm 100.4). If you are just giving God your orders, you are not even getting through the front door, much less entering God’s presence. I like to start off my day by thanking God for the basics: “Father, thank You for my health. Thank You for my children. Thank You for my family. Thank You for my home. Father, thank You for all that You have done for me.” Friend, God already knows your needs. He already knows what you are going to say before you say it. There is nothing wrong with asking God for things—the Scripture clearly instructs us to look to Him for His goodness than requesting His goodies. #RandolphHarris 11 of 20
We should spend more time giving God thanks for what He has already done than we do asking Him to do new things. I have discovered the more I thank God for what I have, the more God gives me what I do not have. Try it and see. You do not have to beg God; He wants to help you. Begin today to thank God for who He is and all that He has done for you. Dear Lord in Heaven, I thank You for supplying all of my needs. Father, You have done it in the past, and I thank You that You are going to do it again. “I will come in the strength and with the mighty acts of the Lord God; I will mention and praise Your righteousness, even Yours alone. O God, You have taught me from my youth, and hitherto have I declared Your wondrous works. Yes, even when I am old and gray-headed, O God, forsake me not, [but keep me alive] until I have declared Your mighty strength to [this] generation, and Your might and power to all that are to come. Your righteousness also, O God, is very high [reaching to the Heavens], You Who have done great things; O God, who is like You, or who is Your equal? You Who have shown us [all] troubles great and sore will quicken us again and will being us up again from the depths of the Earth. Increase my greatness (my honour), and turn and comfort me. I will l also praise You with the harp, even Your truth and faithfulness, O my God; unto You will I sing praises with the lyre, O Holy One of America,” reports Psalm 71.16-22. Some (perhaps too many) believe that the glimpse has permanently changed them, made “the new man” out of the old Adam. However, what is to outlast time itself takes time. A pathetic self-deception may delight the ego, but breaks down in the end. That with one breakthrough in awareness, all would be known and comprehended, all questions answered, all personal shortcomings obliterated, is the usual conception of this experience. However, there is some wishful thinking there. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20
The misinterpretation of one’s experience, the belief that one’s glimpse is the full transcendence of ordinary humanity, often follows it. In no way has one attained perfection, whether of knowledge, consciousness, character, or wisdom. One’s condition does not vanish because of the experience: it returns and remains with one as one’s usual one. Only swollen megalomaniacs assert otherwise. It is true that illumination of itself exalts character and ennobles feeling, purifies thought and spiritualizes action. However, if there has been insufficient effort along these lines, then the illumination will only be temporary. Too soon one will find that the rebirth was not a durable spiritual event but a temporary one. It offered a picture of something for which, from then one, one must start working in earnest. It was a glimpse only but it provided testimony, evidence, confirmation. Enlightenment may come suddenly to a human, but then it is usually a temporary glimpse. Only rarely does it stay and never leave one. The normal way is a gradual one. This is a rare fated exception, and can only be looked for at the risk of frustration. Glimpses will come to one now and then; they will cheer one’s heart and enlighten one’s mind; but a constant level of serene perception will be quite beyond the orbit of one’s experience. There are two things lacking in these glimpses. They are not full and total nor are they stable and lasting. In the meantime, walk in faith, as the Great Paul has said in Second Corinthians (5.7), comforted to know that one is following the footsteps of the Saints. Also have with one, as one’s vade mecum, the Holy Books as a consolation—a sentiment expressed by the First Maccabist (12.9)—as well as a mirror to life; and above all these things, Your Most Holy Body as a singular remedy and refuge. My body is a prison, and the view from my cell is grim. I survive, but barely. I do without things in this wretched state, but two things I just cannot live without. Food and Light. And You, Deal Lord, You bring them to me in the middle of the night. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20
Food? Your Sacred body, which revives my sagging mind and body. Light? Your Divine Word. As the Psalmist has sung in similar circumstances, it is a lamp for my shackled feet (119.105). Without the Food and without the Light, I wither. Without the Bread and without the Bible, I wander. Without the Sacrament of Life and the Book of Life, I perish. From my cell I see—or think I see—an altar. A Holy Table from which rises Holy Church in all her splendour. On one side is the Holy Bread; that is to say, the precious Body of Christ. On the other, the Holy Bible; that is to say, the Divine Law that contains Holy Doctrine, teaches right faith, leads even the imprisoned soul through the veil of veils to the Holy of Holies, as the Letter to the Hebrews has led us to expect (6.19). I thank You, Lord Jesus, “Light of Eternal Life”—that is the title the Wisdom of Solomon assigned to Sophia (7.26)—for the Holy Doctrine, which You have administered through the ages to the Prophets, the Apostles, the Disciples, all who have come after. Thanks to You also, Creator and Redeemer of Humankind, for displaying Your charity to the whole World. That is to say, You prepared a great banquet, the centerpiece of which was not the requisite lamb, but rather Your Most Holy Body and Blood. All the faithful are jumping for joy at the Holy Meal, dipping the Bread of Life time and time again into the Chalice of Salvation, brimming with all the paradisal vintages. The Holy Angels dine with us; we, quite humdrum with knife and fork; they, quite fascinating without limbs or implements. It is difficult for us to imagine the actual breakup, of say, the United States of America, as the dissident historian Andrei Amalrik once forecast. However, a Chinese think tank has published a report that criticizes American democracy. The paper entitled “Ten Questions for American Democracy” was released by the Chongyang Institute for Financial Studies at Renmin University of China on Monday, 2021 December 6. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20
The research report raises questions about the American democracy, including whether it will promote unity of lead to division. Instead of prompting unity, the paper says democracy is leading to social disorder within the United States of America, while inciting chaos in other nations where the US “exports” democracy. Lui Yuanchun, vice president of Renmin University, criticized the United States of America for fostering division around the World through its ideologies at a time when humankind is in need of unity. He added many nations are frustrated by the United States of America. A day earlier, the Chinese government released a similar report called “The State of Democracy in the United States.” It invited participants from more than 120 countries and regions to a forum held on the theme of democracy in which China created its own model of democracy. The moves come head of the two-day online “Summit for Democracy” to be hosted by US President Joe Biden that starts on 2010 December 9. Invitations have been extended to some 110 countries and territories but not to China. It is impossible to gauge the full intensity of separatist sentiments in various parts of the United States of America. However, the nightmare or multiple secession movements must haunt the authorities. If war were to break out with China, or a series of uprisings suddenly exploded in the United States of America, other nations might well face open secessionist or autonomist revolts in many of its republics. Most Americans can hardly conceive of circumstances that would tear the United States of America apart. (Neither could most Canadians as recently as a decade ago.) However, sectionalist pressures are steeply on the rise. Some economist fear that the Northwest plans to secede from America and will use their own COVID restrictions as their justification for this secession. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20
Other secession scenarios also make the sounds. A report prepared for the national security adviser discussed the possible breakaway of California and the Southwest to form Spanish speaking or bilingual geographical entities—“Chicano Quebecs.” Letters to the editor speak of re-attaching Texas to Mexico to form a mighty oil power called Texico. At a hotel newsstand in Austin not long ago, I bought a copy of Texas Monthly which sharply criticized Washington’s “gringo” policy toward Mexico, adding, “In recent months it seems we have had more in common with our old enemies in Mexico City than with our leaders in Washington and California….The Yankees have been stealing our oil since Spindletop and sending their cash strapped Californians refugees to steal our land, jobs, and drive up real estate prices making it hard for our natives to live, while simultaneously replacing their own population with refugees from Mexico and the Middle East…so Texans should be least surprised by Mexico’s attempt to avoid the same kind of economic imperialism.” On that same newsstand, I also purchased a prominently displayed bumper sticker. It consisted of the Texas star and a single word: Secede. There were still also red MAGA hats for sale, which tells you the state is seeing red in 2024. Such talk, however, may be quite farfetched, yet the plain fact is that throughout the United States of America, as in other high-technology countries, national authority is being tested and sectional pressures are mounting. Leaving aside the rising potential for separatism in Puerto Rico and Alaska; Oakland, San Jose and Southern California, or the demands of Native Americans for recognition as a sovereign nation, African Americans for Constitutional Rights, and the disabled, veterans, and retirees for a living wage, we can trace widening cleavages among the continental states themselves. #RandolphHarris 16 of 20
According to the National Conference of State Legislatures, “there is a second civil war taking place in America. The conflicts pits cities in California against the state of California, the Midwest, Northeast, and the sunbelt states of the South and South West against California and Washington. California used to be the darling of the World, now it is becoming one of the most hated regions in the World.” Infuriated by White House energy proposals, many feel are being instigated by California and impacting the entire World, these officials have “pledged everything short of secession from the Union to save oil, natural gas supplies and coal for the region’s growing industrial base.” Widening cleavages also divide the Western states themselves. Western states see themselves increasingly as energy colonies of states like California. Then there are the much-publicized bumper stickers that are reemerging in Texas, Oklahoma, and Louisiana during the spiking gas prices and shortages: “Let the Bastards Freeze in the Dark.” The thinly veiled implication of secession could also be found by the state of Louisiana due to the way George Bush handled hurricane Katrina and California’s preference for non-Americans over their own citizens. A recent article urged the reader to “Consider an America without Louisiana.” Midwestern’s today are being advised to stop “chasing smokestacks,” to move to more advanced industry, and to start thinking like regionalists, while Northeastern governors are organizing themselves to defend that region’s interests. The public mood was hinted at in a full-page ad placed by the Coalition to say New York. The charge that “New York Is Being Raped” by federal policies and that “New Yorkers can fight back.” What does all this belligerent talk around the World, not to mention the protest and violence, add up to? The answer is unmistakable: potentially explosive internal stresses within the nations spawned by the green revolution and Constitutional Rights. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20
Some of these stresses obviously arise from the energy crisis and the need to shift to Green Energy. Others can be traced to political conflicts, the American news media’s propaganda and lies, human rights violations in America, stagnant wages, lack of affordable housing, and corrupt American politicians. In many places we are also witnessing the growth of subnational or regional economies that are as large, complex, and internally differentiated as national economies were a generation ago. These form the economic launching pad for separatist movements or drives for autonomy. However, whether taking the form of open secessionism, of regionalism, bilingualism, home-rulism, or decentralism, these centrifugal forces also gain support because national governments are unable to respond flexibly to the rapid de-massification of society. As the mass society of the industrial era disintegrates under the impact of the Third Wave, regional, local, ethnic, social, and religious groups grow less uniform. Conditions and needs diverge. Individuals, too, discover or reassert their differences. Corporations typically meet this problem by introducing more variety into their product lines and by a policy of aggressive “market segmentation.” National governments, by contrast, find it difficult to customize their policies, they find it impossible to treat each region or city, each contending racial, religious, social, sexual, or ethnic group differently, let alone to treat each citizen as an individual. As conditions diversify, national decision-makers remain ignorant of fast changing local requirements. If they try to identify these highly localized or specialized needs, they wind up deluged with overdetailed, indigestible data. Pierre Trudeau, once caught in the struggle against Canadian secessionism, declared: “You can’t have an operative, operating system of federal government if one part of it, province or state, is in a very important special status, if it has a different set of relationships toward the central government than then other provinces.” #RandolphHarris 18 of 20
In consequence, national governments in Washington, London, Paris, or Moscow continue, by and large, to impose uniform, standardized policies designed for a mass society on increasingly divergent and segmented public. But like a bad child, California is disobeying its parents by allowing the recreational use of marijuana, not enforcing boarder security, and ignoring the suffering of some low-income, disabled, veterans, and retirees during the pandemic. And also increasing restrictions, fees, fines, and taxes on the wealth and corporations. Local and individual needs are forgotten or ignored, causing flares of resentment to reach white heat. As de-massification progress, we can expect separatist or centrifugal forces to intensity dramatically and threaten the unity of many nation-states. The Third Wave is placing enormous pressures on the nation-state from below. The history’s course is predetermined: the capitalistic phase of society cannot avoid being followed by the chaotic phase of its own dissolution, and that, in turn, cannot avoid being followed by the Communistic form of a rigid reorganization. This is a materialistic caricature of the doctrine of fatalism, which in its true form as a Universal law has so far entered only into the spiritual thinking of the New World. This Marxian view, that is to say, the short-sighted view, is too simple to be true. Life is more complex than that. It is true that Demos is astir and seeks at the least to better his lot and at the most a paradise on Earth. When a man passes through a long period of unemployment or earns too little for adequate support of his family, he begins to feel despairingly that society has no use for him. This bitterness weakens his ethical sense and renders him liable to fall into the illusion that any social change, even a violent one, is necessarily a change for the better. If, instead of making proper efforts to remove the deficiencies and eliminate shortcomings, we merely seek for plausible pretexts to justify them, then we ought not to be astonished when disaster comes. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20
I believe a leaf of grass is no less than the journey-work of the stars, and the pismire is equally perfect, and a grain of sand, and the egg of the wren, and the tree-toad is a chef-d’oeuvre for the highest, and the running blackberry would adorn the parlours of Heaven, and the narrowest hinge in my hands puts to scorn all machinery, and the cow crunching with depressed head surpasses any statue, and a mouse is miracle enough to stagger sextillions of infidels. Please rescue me, and deliver me out of the hand of those whose mouth speaks falsehood, and whose right hand contrives deceit. May our sons be as saplings growing strong in their youth; our daughters like carved cornices of a palace; may our garners be full, abundant with all manner of produce, our sheep increasing by thousands and ten thousands in our fields; may our oxen be well laden; may we neither be attacked nor enslaved, and no cry of distress be heard in our broad places. Happy is the people that enjoys such security; happy the people whose God is the Lord. God, please be gracious unto us and bless us; cause Thy spirit to shine upon us, that Thy way may be known upon Earth, Thy saving power among all nation. Let the peoples give thanks unto Thee, O Lord; let the people gives thanks unto Thee, of all them. O let the nations be glad and sing for joy; for Thou judgest the peoples with equity, and guidest the nations upon the Earth. Let the peoples gives thanks unto Thee, O god; let the peoples give thanks unto Thee, all of them. The Earth has yielded her produce, may God, or God, bless us. May God bless us; and let all the ends of the Earth revere Him. And God being merciful, forgiveth iniquity and destoryeth not; yea, often He turneth His anger away, and doth not stir up all His indignation. O Lord, save us. O King, answer us on the day when we call. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20
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Do not pretend to be what you do not intend to be. The power to hold on in spite of everything, the power to endure—this is the winner’s quality. Clinical researchers have repeatedly found that exposure treatments help with specific phobias. The key to success in all these therapies appears to be actual contact with the feared object or situation. In vivo desensitization is more effective than covert desensitization, in vivo flooding more effective than covert flooding, and participant modeling more helpful than strictly observational modeling. Many behavioural therapists now combine features of each of the exposure approaches. You will never stub your toe standing still. The faster you go, the more chance there is of stubbing your toe, but the more chance you have of getting somewhere. Clinicians have only recently begun to have much success in treating social phobias. This progress is due in part to the growing recognition that social phobias have two distinct features that may feed upon each other: people with the phobias may have overwhelming social fears, and they may lack skill at initiating conversations, communicating their needs, or meeting the needs of others. Armed with this insight, clinicians now treat social phobias by trying to reduce social fears, by providing training in social skills, or both. How can social fears be reduced? Unlike specific phobias, which do not typically respond to psychotropic drugs, social fears are often reduced through medication. Somewhat surprisingly, it is antidepressant medications that seem to be most helpful for this disorder, often more helpful than benzodiazepines or other kinds of antianxiety drugs. At the same time, several types of psychotherapy have proved at least as effective as medication at reducing social fears. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20
Moreover, people helped by these psychological treatments are apparently less likely to relapse than people treated with drugs alone. This finding suggests to some clinicians that the psychological approaches should always be included in the treatment of social fears. One psychological approach is exposure therapy, the behavioural intervention so effective with specific phobias. Exposure therapists guide, encourage, and persuade clients with social fears to expose themselves to the dreaded social situations and to remain until their fears subside. Usually the exposure is gradual, and it is often coupled with homework assignments in which the clients begin facing social situations and to remain until their fears subside. Usually the exposure is gradual, and it is often coupled with homework assignment in which the clients begin facing social situations on their own. Group therapy provides an ideal setting for exposure treatments by allowing people to confront the social situations they fear in an atmosphere of support and concern. In one group, for example, a man who was afraid that his hands would tremble in the presence of other people had to write on a blackboard in front of the group and serve tea to the other members. Cognitive therapies have also been widely used to treat social fears, often in combination with behavioral techniques. Missing out on thousands of dollars each year because many persons are afraid of riding on roller coasters, some amusement parks offer behavioural programs to help customers overcome their fears. After “treatment,” some clients are able to ride the rails with the best of them. For others, it is back to the relative calm of the Ferris wheel. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20
Studies indicate that rational-emotive therapy and similar cognitive approaches do indeed help reduce social fears. And these reductions may persist for years. At the same time, research also suggests that cognitive therapy, like drug therapy and exposure therapy, does not typically overcome social phobias fully. It reduces social fear, but it does not consistently help people perform effectively in the social realm. This is where social skills training has come to the forefront. How can social skills be improved? In social skills training, therapists combine several behavioural techniques in order to help people improve their social skills. They usually model appropriate social behaviours for clients and encourage the individuals to try them out. The clients then role-play with the therapists, rehearsing their new behaviours until they become more effective. Throughout the process, therapists provide frank feedback and reinforce (praise) the clients for effective performances. Social reinforcement from others with similar social difficulties is often more powerful than reinforcement from a therapist alone. In social skills training groups and assertiveness training groups, members try out and rehearse new social behaviour with or in front of other group members. The group can also provide guidance on what is socially appropriate. Social skills training helps many people perform better in social situations. Some people, however, continue to experience uncomfortable levels of fear despite such treatments. No single approach—drug therapy, exposure treatment, cognitive therapy, or social skills training—consistently causes social phobias to disappear, and none is clearly superior to the others. Yet each is helpful, and when the approaches are combined, the results have been especially encouraging. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20
The bulk of research on the development and maintenance of drug use problems among adolescents has focused on family-of-origin experiences. Parental modeling, family-of-origin discord, and physical and sexual abuse within the family may all play roles in the development of adolescent substance misuse. However, factors in the other three major domains considered in this report may also be important: general personal relationships (peer modeling and maltreatment perpetrated by nonrelatives as paths to substance use), interpersonal communication (social skills deficits in adolescents themselves as either causes or effects of substance misuse), and eventual family-of-orientation experiences (inconsistent nurturing by significant others as a factor maintaining substance misuse). Few people stumble into drug use by accident. Considering the elaborate and varied steps involved in the procurement, preparation, and ingestion of different drugs, the likelihood that people acquire these behaviours on their own is extremely low. Rather, most people learn about drugs, and learn how to take drugs, by observing other people. In fact, most adolescents who begin to use drugs and alcohol do so after first observing their behaviour in their peers. Substance misuse may thus be a unique mental health problem, in that it can literally be learned from others. Consistent with this idea, research findings show that drug and alcohol use by peers and parents is one of the most powerful predicators of adolescent drug and alcohol involvement. For this reason, the most compelling account of drug use initiation can be found in social learning theory. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20
In connection with eating disorders, social learning theory posits that one mechanism by which people acquire behaviours is observational learning, or modeling. Modeling works because it gives people a template or guide for their own behaviour. This is referred to as making the unobservable observable. People cannot observe their own behaviour; however, the observation of others’ behaviour gives people a mental picture of how a behaviour can and should be performed. When people see others rewarded for performing a behaviour, they are more likely to enact that behaviour. People learn if-then relationships by observing others. For example, an adolescent may learn that “if I smoke marijuana, then I will look cool and feel great.” This could be learned by observing the how the state of California allows recreational use of marijuana, and seeing peers who use the drug with the support and camaraderie of other friends, and who extol its positive effects (although the drug can be dangerous and is still illegal according to federal laws). Social learning theory is currently one of the major theories of adolescent substance us initiation. As predicted by the theory, association with peers and/or parents who use substances has a powerful impact on adolescents’ own substance use behaviour. For example, a study of high school students revealed a correlation of approximately r =.50 between students’ substance use and that of their parents. (A correlation coefficient of .10 is thought to represent a weak or small association; a correlation coefficient of .30 is considered a moderate correlation; and a correlation coefficient of .50 or larger is though to represent a strong or large correlation. In another study of prisoners enrolled in substance misuse treatment programs, 54 percent indicated a family history of parental alcohol or other drug problems. #RandolphHarris 5 of 20
A national household probability sample of over 4,000 adolescents showed that a history of family drug use increased the odds of adolescents’ abuse or dependence on alcohol, marijuana, or “hard” drugs by factors of 1.89, 4.14, and 7.89, respectively. In other words, adolescents whose family members use drugs are anywhere from two to eight times more likely to be abusing and/or dependent on drugs themselves than are adolescents in families without a history of drug use. In addition to the family, association with peers who use drugs may also provide a source of further observational learning of substance use. Spending time with such pers, and developing friendships with them, as associated with greater likelihood of drug use. However, this finding is complicated by the fact that adolescents who use drugs tend to select peers who use drugs as friends. Similarity is a major determinant of interpersonal attraction, so it stands to reason that such friendships will develop. The varied findings on associations with peers who use drugs have provoked equivocal conclusions about their impact on the development of adolescent substance use. For instance, some investigators state that peer use of substances has consistently been found to be among the strongest predicators of substance use among youth, while other assert that peer influence appears to be less significant than previously thought in predicting either drug use or abuse. However, if your friends are consistently drinking and doing drugs in your presence, there is a 90 percent chance you will, too. Longitudinal studies indicate that perceived drug use in peers and perceived favourable attitudes toward drug use among peers are both precursors to adolescent substance use. These phenomena may normalize substance use in an adolescent’s mind. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20
If a young person feels that one’s friends are taking drugs, and that one’s friends think it is cool to take drugs, it follows that drug use will be viewed as normative conduct. This cognitive and attitudinal socialization into drug use makes it difficult to rule out the peer influence hypothesis. Both of these processes (the influence of peers who use drugs, and the selection of such peers) may be simultaneously operative. Contentment starts in your attitude. It is all in how you choose to see thing. One can complain about one’s boss, or one can thank God that one has a job. One can complain about mowing the emerald green lawn, or one can thank God that one has a yard. One can complain about the price of gasoline, or one can save up for a hybrid vehicle. It is all in how one chooses to see it. Friends, choose to have a grateful attitude. One may be thinking, “My life is so routine. I just get up, go to work, and come home. I do the same thing day after day. I do not have anything exciting happening to be especially thankful for.” Many times we do not realize how great we have it until something is taken away. There was a young couple who had two children. The father had a great career and they did not have any problems to speak of. However, then one day the father said he was not feeling well. When he went to the doctor, they discovered that he had a very serious illness. This family spent weeks going to various hospitals in different locations for test after test. Now their time was consumed by medical matters. The doctors finally found a way to treat the father, so for the next several mothers, he had to go to the hospital every other day to receive treatment. It was a long, drawn-out ordeal, and it totally interrupted the family members’ lives. The truth is much of life is routine. It is easy to think, “I cannot be grateful. I cannot be happy. I do not have anything exciting going on,” until something goes wrong. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20
We hold Jesus Christ up and adore Him, whom the Angels adore in Heaven. He admires us for doing so. However, at least up to this point in our existence, we have been kept every much in the dark; remember Paul says very much the same in his Second Letter to the Corinthians (5.7). Faith has been the only sconce. The Angels, on the other hand, have chandeliers; indeed they are chandeliers; that is to say, they see Jesus in person, face to face, without veil, temperamental or sacramental. We are quite content with the little illumination Jesus allows us. Faith sheds more than enough light to believe by and to walk in. That is not to say we do not look forward to the dawn of the Day of Eternal Clarity when the shadows of the night will leave all our figures revealed fully and forever. We hope it is all right for a self-actualized Christian to read the Song of Solomon (2.17). Be grateful for what God has done in your life. Choose to enjoy this day. Do not take every day, “normal” life for granted. If you are healthy, have a roof over your head, and have a family, you have so much to be thankful for. Do not wait until something is lost or take away before you really appreciate what you have. Learn to enjoy what God has given you. Take time for the people you love. Take time for your family. Quit working all the time. When you come to the end of your life, you will never regret having spent time with your family. Nobody ever says on their deathbed, “If I had to do it again, I would spend more time at the office. I would just work a little harder.” No, they always say, “I wish I had spent more time with my family. If I had a chance to live my life again, I would take more vacations. I would slow down and smell the roses. I would not live so stressed out.” However, we need to realize that in a moment, we could be gone. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20
We have no guarantee that we will be here at this time next year. We need to learn to live each day to the fullest, as though it could be our last. Dear Lord in Heaven, please help me to appreciate every day of life that You give me, and to make every day count. Please show me Your priorities for my life—the things that matter most to You—and please help me to align my priorities with Yours. Many Christians who are afraid to verbalize their feelings of anger fear that is any form of anger is let out, it will result in destructive behaviour. However, the person who can give honest vent early to one’s angry feelings need not fear violence. One the contrary, the “nice guys” who never let themselves get angry are the ones who many end up harming others. All Christians need occasional “hostilectomies.” In associating the expression of anger only with the most intense expression of roughness, explosiveness, or physical violence, we may have never considered how to express our anger in more gracious and considerate ways. The expression of anger in a relationship does not have to lead to a permanent breach or to a bitter rejection. Rather, it can lead toward greater mutual respect and sensitivity to one another. Communicating our anger in an actualizing way can also clear the air of phoniness. Priest-psychologist Adrian van Kaam has suggested that when we feel angry we must not smile sweetly or freeze sullenly. We need to learn instead to be humble and courageous enough before God to let our feelings come out—straight, honest, and simple, yet wisely and not destructively. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20
We might simply say: “I am feeling angry (or hurt) about what you just said (or did). Here is the meaning it has for me…” Then we let the other person express one’s feelings and perceptions. In this way we remain open to each other, yet preserve our spiritual situation, then we might discharge the feeling with full awareness at a later time and place. For instance we might: talk to a trusted friend about the incident, write down our feelings on a piece of paper, run around the block, beat up a pillow, find a safe place and scream, go for a vigorous swim, tell God how angry we are, as the psalmist David often did. However, if one is having a medical or psychiatric emergency, hang up the phone and dial 911, or go to your nearest hospital. Nonetheless, what is often important in this process, is that we convert the energy behind the feeling into a verbal or muscular activity. Anger, when given full and satisfying actualization expression, is followed by a sense of relief, peace, and muscular relaxation. We are now open to a variety of other feelings. One of the first is often a feeling of warmth and love for the very person with whom we have been angry. In studying the life of Jesus Christ, we find several occasions when He expressed His anger toward His own disciples. When they misunderstood Him, quarreled with one another, kept children away from Him, or tempted Him to go against the will of the Father, Jesus Christ showed how He felt. By the same token, He never left them in doubt about His lasting gentle care. Jesus Christ expressed more intense levels of anger and rage against the Pharisees and those who were adept at manipulative devices and phoniness. Yet His prayer at His death demonstrated that forgiving love, not accumulated bitterness, had nourished the roots of His personality throughout life: “Father, forgive them…” #RandolphHarris 10 of 20
Anger, rightly expressed, serves the ends of love and justice in our lives. Why confession works? The Greek word in the Christian Bible translated confess means “to say or speak the same thing.” Just as plainly as if I heard it with my ears, the Spirit of God spoke this into my spirit. I had heard some teaching concerning this on one occasion, but I did not grasp it then. As the Spirit began to fill in the gaps for me, I could see it. He said: The Word says the Angels are ministering spirits. These ministering spirits stand beside you daily and listen to the words that you speak. They are created beings, designed of God to minister for you, but you are the one who tells them what to do. The Angels are ministering spirits sent to minister for you and they listen to the words you speak. You do not pray to Angels but they listen to the words you speak. They cause or allow to come to pass the things that you say. However, you furnish the words of the assignment. He directed me to Hebrews 1.14, Are they not all ministering spirits, sent forth to minister for them who shall be heirs of salvation? The Holy Spirit said, God’s Word is His will for man. Man is created in the image of God and since God created man in His own image, then man’s word should be one’s will toward God. Then for the first time I really understood why it was so necessary for us to speak what we desire. We are giving orders. If God’s Word is His will, your word should be your will. You should never speak words that are not your will. They are not your words. Your will and your words are one. Do not let Satan speak through you. If God said one thing and willed something else, would it not be silly? Of if He willed one thing, then said something else? That would cause confusion. One would not know what was true. God says what He will. #RandolphHarris 11 of 20
The Holy Spirit said, Humans’ words should be one’s will toward God. The Angels were designed as created beings to minister for you and they know that. They listen to the words that you speak. Every word that you speak the Angels hear, for they are always beside you, waiting to hear what you choose to bind or loose. Then they are busy to perform or cause to come to pass the things you speak if they are in agreement with the Word of God. By authority of your words, they will maneuver you into a position where these things will come to pass. However, if you speak sickness and disease, if you speak contrary to the Word of God, they will not perform it or cause it to come to pass. They will back off, fold their hands, and bow their heads for you have bound them by the words of your mouth. Your words will either being them or loose them. If your words bind the Angels, you have bound God’s messengers and, in so doing, you have bound God. Jesus said, I will give you the keys of the kingdom of Heaven: and whatever you shall bind on Earth shall be bound in Heaven: and whatever you shall loose on Earth shall be loosed in Heaven. All Heaven will stand behind your right to be healed. Now that will jerk the kinks out of your conversation! You can loose sickness in your own body by inaccurate prayer or you can loose healing by accurate prayer. Release God’s ability by praying His words. Let us take a look at Revelation 22.8-9: And I John saw these things, and heard them. And when I had heard and seen, I feel down to worship before the feet of the Angel which shewed me these things. Then saith he unto me, See thou do it not: for I am thy fellowservant, and of thy brethren the prophets, and of them which keep the sayings of this book: worship God. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20
The Angel is a servant to those who keep the sayings of this book. He listens to what you say. The Angel said, “Worship God! Do not worship me! I am just doing God’s bidding.” The word used in Hebrews 1.14 for ministering spirits really means angelic apostles. The ministering spirits are angelic apostles, sent to minister for us who are heirs of salvation. Now let us look at Psalm 103.19. This verse of scripture will open your eyes of understanding in a greater measure to the things we have been talking about: The Lord hath prepare His throne in the Heavens; and His kingdom ruleth over all. There is definitely a dual meaning here and I know this meaning is included. God’s throne is in Heaven, but His kingdom ruleth over all. Where is His kingdom? The kingdom is in us and it rules over all. The words you speak into your heart will rule. The Earth was spawned from the spirit World. It was created to be the likeness of the spiritual World which spawned it. Man was created by God to be in the likeness of God: to have dominion, to control, and to rule. His kingdom ruleth over all, and He set up His kingdom inside us. You feed good seed into the kingdom and it will produce the things desired. In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God (John 1.1). Today your word is god over your circumstances. Your word is the beginning of things. The word that you continually say will be god over the circumstances you face in life. Eventually, they will come to pass. Notice Psalm 103.20, Bless the Lord, ye His Angels, that excel in strength, that do His commandments, hearkening unto the voice of His word. The Angels do His commandments. We are to let no corrupt communication proceed out of our mouths. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20
That is what He commanded us to do, but what are the Angels to do? They do those things that are in line with God’s Word. That is what God has assigned them to do. They are ministering spirits sent forth to minister for us in this Earth. God’s Word says that man shall have whatsoever he saith, if one believes and doubts not in one’s heart. Whatsoever things ye desire when ye pray, believe ye receive them. It seems then as though the Angels have something to do with those prayers being answered. Now, you do not pray to Angels, but they listen to what you say. They are ministering for you. Their job is to see that it comes to pass. If you speak God’s Word, they will work day and night in your behalf. He said they excel in strength and do His commandments, hearkening unto the voice of His Word. What is the voice of God’s Word? The Holy Bible is His Word (and the Book of Mormon), but how do we give voice to it? By speaking His words. Then when I speak His Word, my words become the voice of God’s Word. Let us say one wants wisdom. The Word says, If any human lack wisdom, let one ask of God who giveth to all humans liberally and upbraideth not, and it shall be given. So if I put God’s Word into voice, then the Angels hearken unto my words. They will go about to cause the words that God spoke in my behalf to come to pass. Let the redeemed of the Lord say so, whom He hath redeemed from the hand of the enemy (Psalms 107.2). Give voice to the Word by saying: The spirit of truth abides in me and teaches me all things and guides me into all truths. Therefore, I confess I have perfect knowledge of every situation and every circumstance of life. The wisdom of God is formed within me. I trust in the Lord with all of my heart, and I lean not unto my own understanding. I let the Word of Christ dwell in me richly in all wisdom. I do follow the Good Shepherd; I know His voice and the voice of a stranger I will not follow. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20
So my Angels are loosed and begin to work to cause the confusion to stop and see that I have the wisdom of God. They find ways to get it to me so I will not be deceived by the evil one. They make sure that I hear the voice of the Good Shepherd. Faith-filled words release God and bring Him on the scene in your behalf. There was a lady that stood up in church and said, “Pray for me. I am taking the flu.” There was no need to pray; she was taking it. She did not even wait for Satan to give it to her! Nobody prayed for her, but I imagine most people said, “Oh, poor thing, she is taking the flu.” So she had about fifty people believing she was taking the flu. Jesus said that is two of you agree, it will be done. Do you see the spiritual law that is set in motion by words? This Earth is under God’s word system.Be careful about talking your problems because most people will agree with you. Learn to speak the answer to the problems. Find the answer, then feed it to the problem. Learn to use God’s system. Joseph Smith and Sidney Rigdon, together with a number of elders, were instructed to leave as soon as possible and to go to Missouri. They were promised that if they were faithful the Lord would make it known to them what they should do there. Definite instructions concerning this journey were given. Let them journey from thence, preaching the word by the way…Let them go two by two, and thus let them preach by the way in every congregation, baptizing by water, and the laying on of the hands by the water’s side. To keep Satan from deceiving the people, the Lord gave a pattern so the Saints could know who represented God: One that prayeth whose spirit is contrite, the same is accepted of me, if one obey mine ordinances. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20
One that speaketh, whose spirit is contrite, whose language is meek, and edifieth, the same is God, if one obey mine ordinances. And again, one that trembleth under my power shall be made strong, and shall bring forth fruits of praise, and wisdom, according to the revelations and truths which I have given you. And again, one that is overcome and bringeth not forth fruits, even according to this pattern, is not of me; wherefore by this pattern ye shall know the spirits in all cases, under the whole Heavens. The Lord gave instructions to those who were to travel to Missouri: Let all these take their journey unto one play, in the several courses, and one human shall not…journey in another’s track. One that is faithful, the same shall be kept and blessed with much fruit. If ye are faithful, ye shall assemble yourselves together to rejoice upon the land of Missouri, which is the land of your inheritance. I the Lord, will hasten the city in its time, and will crown the faithful with joy and with rejoicing. Behold, I am Jesus Christ the Son of God, and I will lift them up at the last day. As the elders made their preparation to go to Missouri, Joseph prayed to the Lord to know the work of several men. God revealed to him what they should do. Sidney Gilbert was told he should go to Missouri and that he should: Take upon you mine ordinances, even that of an elder, to preach faith and repentance, and remission of sins, according to my word, and the reception of the Holy Spirit by the laying on of hands. And also to be an agent unto the church in the plae which shall be appointed by the bishop. Newell Knight was told: Take your journey into the regions westward, and unto the land of Missouri, unto the borders of the Lamanites. And after you have done journeying, behold, I say unto you, Seek ye a living like unto humans, until I prepare a place for you. And again, be patient in tribulation. #RandolphHarris 16 of 20
William W. Phelps was told: You shall be ordained to assist my servant Oliver Cowdery, to do the work of printing, and of selecting, and writing books for schools, in this church, that little children also may receive instruction before me as is pleasing unto me. Ezra Thayre was a wealthy man who would not willingly share with others. By revelation through Joseph Smith, the Lord warned him that he must repent of his pride and selfishness or he would be cut off from the church: Woe unto you rich men, that will not give your substance to the poor, for your riches will canker your souls. Woe unto you poor humans, whose hearts are not broken, whose spirits are not contrite, and whose bellies are not satisfied, and whose hands are not stayed from laying hold upon other humans’ goods, whose eyes are full of greediness, who will not labour with their own hands! However, blessed are the poor, who are pure in heart, whose hearts are broken, and whose spirits are contrite, for they shall see the kingdom of God coming in power and great glory. For, behold, the Lord shall come, and His recompense shall be with one, and He shall reward every human, and the poor shall rejoice. In less than two weeks after the Lord gave His command, twenty-two of the elders who had been commissioned for this work began their long journey to Missouri, going two by two and preaching along the way. Most glimpses got through meditation are followed by the surfacing of egoistic tendencies and weaknesses. This is only that their existence may be more clearly seen and an attempt made to get rid of them. Whatever happens to oneself or to others, whether one rises of falls, whether they hurt or help one, let one keep the hope that the glimpse have one and continue to love the highest, remote though it may seem. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20
Sometimes the glimpse may pass unrecognized for what it really is, but in later years this is usually rectified. One can make one’s little World reflect something of the goodness and beauty one has glimpsed. Some among us must seek a higher quality of thought and being, a better way of life and action, in obedience to this call which is heard most clearly during the period of a glimpse. Now and then if the glimpse is granted in response to one’s patient endeavours, one’s trust will be strengthened and one will know that one is neither crazy nor wrong to follow this quest. One feels a personal obligation to carry into everyday living what one has deduced from these golden moments. When a glimpse comes to a human, from whatever cause and in whatever way, its effects show themselves variously. One very important effect is that whether one wants to or not, and despite negative passing moods of frustration or depression, if the human to whom it has come has consciously entered on the Quest one cannot desert it but must sooner or later enter upon it again. It is possible for a human who knows of the Quest only through emotional faith or intellectual conviction to turn aside from it for the remainder of one’s incarnation, but it is not possible for a human who has enjoyed this Glimpse to do so. One may try—and some do—but each day of such alienation will be a haunted day. The ghost will not leave one alone until one returns. These glimpses are only occasional. They take us unawares and depart from us unexpectedly. However, the joy they bring with them, the insight they bestow, make us yearn for a permanent and unbroken attainment of the state they tell us about. If the person is not consciously on the quest, it is important to remember that such experiences may be expected only rarely in most cases, perhaps once or twice in a lifetime. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20
It is natural to hope that it will be repeated. The first glimpse is given to show the way, to throw light on the path ahead, to give direction and goal to the person. However, if the glimpse is only temporary and rare, the metaphysical understanding to be derived from it is the permanent benefit. So seek to get and clarify the understanding. “When the Time of times comes,” as Paul wrote in First Corinthians (13.10), the Sacraments will have done their job. That is because the Blessed in Heavenly Glory will no longer have any need for a medicament, let alone a sacrament. They will rejoice without end in the presence of God, face to face, their glory mirroring His; Paul has said something similar in Second Corinthians (3.18). Back to the sconces. As I have said above, they had been transformed into chandeliers. Our perspective on Earth was abysmal; now it is abyssal, and the Deity Himself is visibly at home in Heaven. And the Blessed taste the word of God made flesh, as it was in the beginning and remains forever. Whenever I am mindful of these wonderful things, a deep gloom descends. Even spiritual consolation cannot cut through the fog. And there appears to be a good reason for it. As long as I could not see Jesus, my Godly Friend, openly and in His full glory without blinking, I counted as nothing everything I saw or heard around the World. You, Dear Jesus, are my witness, if I may borrow a word from Romans (1.9). Nothing can console me, no creature quiet me. Only You, my Lord God, whom I desire to contemplate to the end of time and beyond. However, of course, at the present time, this is not possible, at least while I have to endure this mortal coil. So, as You say, I have to aim for greater patience and submit my every desire to you. The Saints who are jamming the Kingdom of Heaven now, O Lord, once lived a life of expectation on Earth, waiting for the advent of Your glory, as the Letter of Titus described it (2.13). #RandolphHarris 19 of 20
Faith and Patience played a large part in their survival; the Letter to the Hebrews would certainly second that (6.12). They believed it then; I believe it now. What they hoped for then, I hope for now. That is to say, where they have arrived already, I trust I will one day come through to Your grace. I will sing of the well-founded Earth, Mother of all, eldest of all beings. She feeds all creatures that are in the World, all that go upon the goodly land, all that are in the paths of the seas, and all that fly; all these are fed of her store. Through you, O Queen, we are blessed in our children, and in our harvest and to you we own our lives. Happy are we, who you delight to honour! We have all things abundantly: our houses are filled with good things, our cities are orderly, our sons exult with everfresh delight and our daughters with flower laden hands play and skip merrily over the soft flowers of the field. Thus it is for those whom you honour, O holy Goddess, Bountiful spirit! Hail Earth, mother of the gods, freely bestowe upon me for this is my song that cheers the heart! May it be Thy will, O Lord our God and God of our fathers, to grant our portion in Thy Torah, and may the Temple be rebuilt in our day. There we will serve Thee with awe as in the days of old. Blessed be the Lord, my Rock, Who traineth my hands for combat, and my fingers for battle. Thou art my lovingkindness and my fortress, my high tower and my deliverer; my shield art Thou, in Thee I take refuge; Thou subdues the enemy under me. Lord, what is man that Thou takes knowledge of him? Or the son of man that Thou does regard him? Man is like a breath; his days are as a passing shadow. O Lord, bow Thy Heavens and descend, touch the mountains that they may smoke. Flash forth lightning and scatter the evil-doer, send out Thine arrows and rout the foe. Stretch forth Thy hands from on high; rescue me, and deliver me from mighty waters, redeem me from the hand of hostile strangers, whose mouth speaks falsehood, and whose right contrives deceit. O God, I will sing a new song unto Thee, upon a harp of ten strings will I sing praises unto Thee, Who givest victory unto kings, Who rescuest David Thy servant, from the evil sword. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20
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Well, that Should Break Your Heart—It Certainly Makes My Eyes Water!
The biggest laughs are based on the biggest disappointments and the biggest fears. Most of us are none too eager to confront a spider or to be caught in a thunderstorm. A phobia (from the Greek for “fear”) is a persistent and unreasonable fear of a particular object, activity, or situation. If they even think about the object or situation they dread, people with a phobia become fearful, but they usually remain comfortable as long as they avoid the object or thoughts about it. Most are well aware that their fears are excessive and unreasonable. Some have no idea how their fears started. We all have our areas of special fear, and it is normal for some things to upset us more than other things, perhaps even different things at different stages of our lives. A survey of residents of a community in Burlington, Vermont, found that fears of crowds, death, injury, illness, and separation were more common among people in their sixties than in any other age groups. Among 20-years-olds, fears of snakes, heights, storms, enclosures, and social situations were much more common. How do these common fears differ from phobias? A phobia is more intense and persistent and the desire to avoid the object or situation is greater. People with phobias feel such distress that their fears may interfere dramatically with their personal, social, or occupational lives. Phobias are common in our society. Surveys suggest that 10 to 11 percent of the adults in the United States of America suffer from one in any given year, and more than 14 percent develop a phobia at some point in their lives. The disorder is more than twice as common in women than in me. Most phobias technically fall under the category of specific phobias, which is a marked and persistent fear of a specific object or situation. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20
In addition, there are two broader kinds of phobias: social phobia, a fear of social or performance situations in which embarrassment may occur, and agoraphobia, a fear of venturing into public places, especially when one is alone. Because agoraphobia is usually, perhaps always, experienced in conjunction with panic attacks, unpredictable attacks of terror, we shall examine that phobia later. As we have observed, a specific phobia is a persistent fear of a specific object or situation. When sufferers are exposed to the object or situation, they typically experience immediate fear. Common specific phobias are intense fears of specific animals or insects, heights, enclosed spaces, thunderstorms, and blood. Each year as many as 9 percent of the people in the United States of America have the symptoms of a specific phobia. Eleven percent develop such phobias at some time during their lives, and many people have more than one at a time. Among people with this disorder, women outnumber men 2 to 1. For reasons that are not clear, the prevalence of specific phobias also differs among racial and ethic minority groups. Hispanic Americans, for example, report twice as many of the as European Americans. The impact of s specific phobia on a person’s life depends on what arouses the fear. Some things are easier to avoid than others. People whose phobias center on dogs, insects, or water will keep encountering the objects they dread. Their efforts to avoid them must be elaborate and may greatly restrict their activities. People with snake phobias have a much easier time. The vast majority of people with a specific phobia—almost 90 percent of them—do not seek treatment. They try instead to avoid the objects they fear. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20
Many people worry about interacting with others or talking or performing in front of others. A number of entertainers, including Barbra Streisand and Paris Hilton, have described major bouts of nervousness before going onstage. Social fears of this kind are inconvenient, but usually the people who have them manage to function adequately, some at a very high-level People with social phobia, by contrast, have severe, persistent, and irrational fears of social or performance situations in which embarrassment may occur. A social phobia may be narrow, such as a fear of talking or performing in public, eating in public, using a public bathroom, or writing in front of others, or it may be a broader fear of social situations, such as a general fear of functioning inadequately in from of others. Both forms, people repeatedly judge themselves as performing less adequately than they actually do. A social phobia an interfere greatly with one’s life. A person who is unable to interact with others or speak in public may fail to perform important responsibilities. One who cannot eat in public may reject dinner invitations and other social opportunities. Since most people with this phobia keep their fears secret, their social reluctance is often misinterpreted as snobbery, lack of interest, or hostility. As many as 8 percent of the population—around three women for every two men—experience a social phobia in any given year. More than 13 percent experience this problem at some point in their lives. The disorder often begins in late childhood or adolescence and may persist for many years, although its intensity may fluctuate. What causes phobias? Behaviorists believe that people with phobias first learn to fear certain objects, situations, or events through conditioning. Once the fears are acquired, the individuals avoid the dreaded object or situation, permitting the fear to become all the more entrenched. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20
How are fears learned? Behaviourists proposed classical conditioning as a common way of acquiring fear reactions to the objects or situations that are not really dangerous. Here, two events that occur close together in time become closely associated in a person’s mind, and the person then reacts similarly to both of them. If one event triggers a fear response, the other may also. In the 1920s a clinician describes the case of a young woman who apparently acquired a phobia of running water through classical conditioning. As a child of 7 she went on a picnic with her mother and aunt and ran off by herself into the woods after lunch. While she was climbing over some large rocks, her feet were caught between two of them. The harder she tried to free herself, the more trapped she became. No one heard her screams, and she grew more and more terrified. In the language of behaviourists, the entrapment was eliciting a fear response. Entrapment à Fear response. As she struggled to free her feet, the girl heard a waterfall nearby. The sound of the running water became linked in her mind to her terrifying battle with the rocks, and she developed a fear of running water as well. Running water à Fear response. Eventually the aunt found the screaming child, freed her from the rocks, and comforted her; but the psychological damage had been done. From that day forward, the girl was terrified of running water. For years family members had to hold her down to bathe her. When she traveled on a train, friends had to cover the windows so that she would not have to look at any streams. The young woman had apparently acquired a phobia through classical conditioning. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20
In conditioning terms, the entrapment was an unconditioned stimulus (US) that understandably elicited an unconditional response (UR) of fear. The running water represented a conditioned stimulus (CS), a formerly neutral stimulus that became associated with entrapment in the child’s mind and came also to elicit a fear reaction. The newly acquired fear was a conditioned response (CR). US: Entrapment à UR: Fear; CS: Running water à CR: Fear. Another way of acquiring a fear reaction is through modeling; that is, through observation and imitation. A person may observe that others are afraid of certain objects or events and develop fears of the same things. Consider a young boy whose mother is afraid of illness, doctors, and hospitals. If she frequently expresses those fears, before long the boy himself may fear illnesses, doctors, and hospitals. Why should one upsetting experience develop into a long-term phobia? Should not the trapped girl later have seen that running water would bring her no harm? Should not the boy later see that illnesses are temporary and doctors and hospitals helpful? Behaviourists believe that after acquiring a fear response, people try to avoid what they fear. Whenever they find themselves near a fearsome object, they quickly move away. They may also plan ahead to ensure that such encounters will not occur. There was a girl who had friends cover the windows on trains so that she could avoid looking at streams. People with phobias do not get close to the dreaded objects often enough to learn that they are really quite harmless. Behaviourists also propose that specific learned fears will blossom into a generalized anxiety disorder when a person acquires a large number of them. This development is presumed to come about through stimulus generalization: responses to one stimulus are also elicited by similar stimuli. #RandolphHarris 5 of 20
The fear of running water acquired by the girl in the rocks could have generalized to such similar stimuli as milk being poured into a glass or even the sound of bubbly music. Perhaps a person experiences a series of upsetting events, each event produces one or more feared stimuli, and the person’s reactions to each of these stimuli generalize to yet other stimuli. That person may then build up a large number of fears and eventually develop generalized anxiety disorder. Children of parents with alcoholism—or “children of alcoholics (COAs),” as they are commonly known—have received a great deal of research attention as an at-risk population. Concern with this population stems from the belief that parental alcoholism leads to disrupted and dysfunctional family environments that have ill effects on children. These ill effects may be driven by parental modeling of dysfunctional and destructive behaviours, corruption and deterioration of parenting behaviours, or an amalgamation of both processes. Indeed, results of a large-sample cross-sectional study with rigorous sampling techniques indicated that COAs exhibited significant differences from non-COAs: greater involvement in alcohol use; more drug dependence; more depression, agoraphobia, social phobia, and generalized anxiety; less behavioural control; lower academic achievement. Differences between COAs and non-COAs in this investigation were small to moderate in magnitude. Other findings indicate that COAs are more depressed, less satisfied with their own marriages, and more likely to drink for coping purposes; that they are more susceptible to the ill effects of conflict with their parents; and that they experience less intimacy in their close relationships than non-COAs do. Taken in isolation, findings such as these suggest rather pervasive deficits among COAs. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20
Perhaps the problem most strongly linked with being a COA is a risk for alcoholism. COAs are far more likely to have alcohol problems themselves than are members of the general population. Consideration must certainly be given to the influence of genetic mechanisms in the familial transmission of alcoholism. At the same time, however, it is plausible to assume that social learning processes also contribute to the increased risk. Children who observe parents using alcohol as a means of relaxation, coping with stress, celebration, and so forth would naturally be expected to imitate this behaviour that their parents regularly modeled during their formative years. Notwithstanding some of the significant problems that appear to be associated with being a COA, a substantial body of literature is emerging that questions the distinctness and at-risk status of the COAs and non-COAs in alcohol-related problems, suicidal ideation, personal control, and perceived social support; anxiety, social skills, social maladjustment, use of nonverbal communication behaviours; personality traits such as expressiveness, alienation, defensiveness, independence, impulsiveness, sociability, and extraversion; object relations deficits and compulsive behaviour, self-esteem, or depression. The list of such studies is too long, and the breadth of dependent variables too extensive, to dismiss these findings to sampling error or other artifacts. Such results are interpretable as good news for the COAs. Although parents who have alcoholism may raise children with psychological problems of their own, this is not a deterministic relationship. Dysfunction may be more evident in those COAs seeking attention through self-help groups and professional contacts. In general, researchers are converging on the converging on the conclusion that COAs are a complex and heterogeneous population who are not always distinguishable from those in the general population. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20
It is notable that although many COAs are as functional as their non-COA counterparts, most still describe their early family environments as distressed and dysfunctional. For example compared to non-COAs, COAs describe their families of origin as more conflict-laden, less harmonious, more troubled, and stressed, and less cohesive. To a large extent, parents with alcoholism and their spouses describe similar dynamics in the family environment. This pattern of findings speaks favourably to the validity of family environment assessments from the people with alcoholism, their spouses, and their children: All see troubles in the family context. Even though COAs often describe a negative atmosphere in their families of origin, many are still indistinguishable from non-COAs on a variety of psychosocial outcomes. Clinicians found that family environments with which COAs are raised are as varied and diverse as those in which there is no parental alcoholism. Since parents with alcoholism are themselves a diverse and heterogeneous group, it stands to reason that the family environments that they help to create are reflective of that heterogeneity. Taken one step further, it may be understandable why their children are an equally heterogenous group. The new frontier in research on COAs entails the search for mediators and moderators of the effects of parental alcoholism on the children’s psychosocial adjustment. The advice to researchers has been clearly stated: “We must move beyond COA—non-COA contrasts to systematic analyses of within-group variance in order to better understand the conditions under which family history of alcoholism results in adverse outcomes.” #RandolphHarris 8 of 20
Recognizing this, researchers are attempting to discover the family factors that enhance risk or resiliency in the face of parental alcoholism. For example, some models of the influence of parental alcoholism on children’s adjustment suggest that variables such as marital strain, social isolation, role reversals, and medical problems may moderate this relationship. COAs are more likely to have experienced physical or sexual abuse while growing up. However, when abuse history is controlled for, the effects of parental alcoholism on offspring’s social maladjustment become non-significant. When parents with alcoholism create dysfunctional family environments, attachment to the parents mediates the relationship between family and interpersonal distress in young adult children. Specifically, family dysfunction tends to reduce parental attachment, which in turn is associated with increased levels of interpersonal distress in COAs. Also, COAs who have a predisposition toward social deviance (exempli gratia, problems with authority, unresponsiveness to discipline, social alienation) are especially prone to developing alcohol problems themselves. In a review of the literature on COAs, it was noted that parental alcoholism does not occur in a vacuum. Others adverse familial and environmental factors can influence child outcomes to varying degrees. A brief review of the diagnostic criteria for alcohol abuse or dependence reveals that problems with the law, physical health, and occupational performance, are by definition, part of each disorder. Each of these could precipitate a host of stressors that could have a malevolent impact on family members. COAs are between two and four times more likely than non-COAs to be exposed to parental divorce, separation, unemployment, or death, in addition to their parents’ alcoholism. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20
Each of these stressors could independently have deleterious effects on the psychosocial adjustment of children. A study on COAs to control extensively for comorbid stressors has some interesting findings. The findings indicate that once these are taken into account, family environments of COAs are not described differently from those of children of nonstressed control families. Therefore, where COAs appear to be psychologically or socially disadvantaged, family stressors that covary with parental alcoholism may be as responsible for the disadvantages as parental alcoholism per se, if not more so. Some family and interpersonal factors that protect COAs from distress have recently been identified. It was found that for adult COAs, dyadic cohesion and agreement in marital communication (exempli gratia, household management, self-disclosure, consensus, et cetera) greatly diminished the association between parental alcoholism and their own problem drinking. Similarly, families that are able to maintain family rituals (exempli gratia, birthday celebrations, evening meals) are less likely to raise offspring with alcohol problems, despite parental alcoholism. Also, social support from friends, but not from family members, is associated with a lower risk of alcohol and drug misuse among COAs. Recognition of the interpersonal consequences of alcoholism has brought considerable attention to COAs (children of alcoholics). Although they were originally considered to be an at-risk population, research findings show that COAs are a heterogeneous population, not particularly distinct from non-COAs. In cases where COAs experience problematic psychosocial outcomes, a generally distressed family environment, rather than parental alcoholism per se, may be the casual agent. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20
Many people go around complaining, always looking at what is wrong. They see the negative in every situation, and then they wonder why they are not happy, why they are not enjoying their lives. Really, it is because they have an ungrateful, unthankful attitude. It is a heart issue, and if they do not get to the root cause and start being more grateful, it is never going to change. However, God did not give us our mouths to complain. One may not have everything one would like today. In fact, one may be dealing with a lot of problems, but complaining is only going to make matters worse. One needs to stop looking at what one does not have and start thanking God for what one does have. Stop taking inventory of everything tht is wrong, and start thanking God for what is right. The reason many people cannot seem to get out of their problems is because they are not grateful for what God has already done for them or what He has already given them. You tap your feet on the ground and “Well,” you say, “you should see the car that I am driving. She is a sophomore in high school and has a better care than me.” No, some people would love to have your car. In fact, vintage Japanese cars are big news in Russia. People like them because they are easy to work on and have a soul. The car has enjoyed the pain and pleasure the pervious owner experienced, and the new owner enjoys feeling its emotions. And they can easily customize the car to suit their needs. Nonetheless, some have to get around by taking the bus, riding a bicycle, or walking. However, if you have ever lived in a rural community or a big city, people love the public transportation because otherwise they would have to get up at 2am walk and get to work by 8am. #RandolphHarris 11 of 20
The ability to walk is also a blessing. Those who have come close to never being able to walk again take great pride in long walks, they feel it is safe and enjoy using their legs. Until you have a grateful attitude, you are going to stay right where you are. “Well,” you say with your arms folded, “you just do not understand my situation. My husband is so lazy. He does not like to do anything. I do not even enjoy his company.” Do you know how many people are lonely today? Do you know how many people would love to have someone to eat dinner with tonight? Your spouse may not be perfect, but you need to change your attitude and start thanking God that at least you have somebody with whom you can share your life. Start being grateful for what God has given you. That is the first step to seeing things improve. If you would just change your perspective and start being more grateful, your life might take a radical turn for the better. People like Britney Spears, for example, recently opened up that she did a decade of therapy, daily, seven days a week, ten hours a day, and look how well she is doing. Look how happy she is. Look how great her performances were during that time. She was truly at her best. If not for gossip, no one would have even known there was anything troubling her because she did some of the best performances, and more than anyone in this generation has done, and it was quality stuff. The best in her career. Remember this: No matter how many negative things you have in your life, somebody has it a whole lot worse than you do. Somebody would love to trade places with you. You may not have the perfect job; you may not care for your boss. However, instead of going around complaining about your workplace, start thanking God that at least you have a job. You could be in the unemployment line. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20
You could be on the streets somewhere. Imagine if you got laid off, and for six or seven months, you could not find a new job. You did not have enough money to pay your bills, and the bank was threatening to foreclose your house, reposes your cars, confiscate your furniture, and auction off your wife’s mink coats and diamonds because you could not pay your bills. However, just then, a former employer called you up and offered you that same job back. Do you know how thrilled you would be to have your old job? What made the difference? Your perspective changed. We need to remind ourselves, “I may have a dream job in mind, but what would I do if I did not have this job? I may have a dream home in mind, but what would I do if I did not have my home? I may have a fantasy spouse and do not particularly enjoy the person whom I am married to, but what would happen if one day that person was gone?” We need to see our circumstances in a different light. Some parents perpetually complain about their children. “These children are so bad, so terrible, they are driving me nuts. They make such a mess. All I do is clean up after them.” Do you realize that some husbands and wives would love to have children like yours? Some people have spent thousands of dollars, and have gone through all kinds of medical procedures, tying to become pregnant and have children just so they could have a precious baby in their arms and protect it and care for it and love it. They would give anything to be able to clean up that mess. You should thank God every day for blessing you with those children. When you drive to work, instead of complaining about the traffic, why not say, “Dear Lord in Heaven, thank you for blessing me with this job. I pray to one day own the company and increase revenue as I become a better employee.” #RandolphHarris 13 of 20
When it is time to go to the cathedral or church, instead of complaining that it is too far, too long, or too crowded, why not change your perspective and say, “Dear Lord in Heaven, thank You for the privilege of gathering with other believers to worship you in peace and safety. It is a great joy to bring up my family in the church so I may show them the path to righteousness.” Every one of us has a reason to give God thanks. If you got out of bed this morning, you can thank God that you are alive. Thank God that you are healthy and have strength. There are lots of people at the medical center who would gladly exchange places with you. Have a grateful attitude. More than a million people die every single week. Think about that. Let us start being thankful that we are alive. We have no idea how much time we have left on this Earth. COVID is real. Anyone can get it; babies, old people, skinny people, dog, cats, fetuses. However, you are better off than a million other people were last week. Take time to enjoy life. Do something to make you and your loved ones happy. Stop and smell the roses. If you have a roof over your head, you are better off than 80 percent of the World’s population. If you have five dollars to your name, you are better off than the top 8 percent of the World’s wealthiest people. Five dollars! We have so much to be grateful for. We should get in the habit of giving God thanks all day long. Let us start by giving Him thanks for this new day. Dear Lord in Heaven, I thank You, for another day. Thank You for giving me a job. Dear Lord in Heaven, thank You for my family, and for our friends and neighbours, and regardless of how they dress, if they are on a stripper pole or president of a law firm, thank You. Lord, thank You for giving me such a great life, not just one in Heaven one of these days, but right here, right now, on Earth in the moment. “In everything give thanks: for this is God’s will for you in Jesus Christ,” reports 1 Thessalonians 5.18. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20
What a splendid companion You are, Lord Jesus! How sweet it is to make merry with You at the Heavenly Banquet. Odd thing, though, or perhaps not so odd: there is only one entrée on the menu. You Yourself are the dish, and a most delectable one at that, at least as my heart ranks tastes. When it came to devotion, I used to be able to turn it on and turn it off, it came in such abundance. Sensing Your presence was such a sweet thing. Being such fast friends and all, I sued to tear up and, like the pious Magdalene in Luke (7.37-38), drizzle Your feet with the drops. However, where has my devotion gone? Where have my tears fled? Certainly in Your purview, O Lord, and that of Your Holy Angels, my whole heart ought to burn and to cry for joy. Why? I have You truly present in the Sacrament, although, I must say, You have hidden Yourself under some rather common species. At the time when the flames of nationalism burn fiercely around the World—when national liberation movements proliferate in places like Ethiopia, America, China, Taiwan, and the Philippines, when tiny islands like Dominica in the Caribbean or Fiji in the South Pacific declare their nationhood and send delegates to the United Nations—a strange thing is happening in the high-technology World: instead of new nations arising, old ones are changing and in danger of coming apart. As the Third Wave thunders across the Earth, the nation-state—the key political unit of the Second Wave era—is being squeezed by viselike pressures from above and below. One set of forces seeks to transfer political power downward from the nation-state to subnational region groups. The others seek to shift power upward from the nation to transnational agencies and organizations. Together they are leading toward a crack-up of the high-technology nations into smaller and less powerful units, as a look around the World quickly reveals. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20
During this pandemic, many people are seething because the new administration made all these promises to help people through the pandemic and to erase student loan debt, but they have done nothing. All they did was sign into law a payment that President Trump initiated, and have done nothing since then. And, I know you have heard of inflation, but things are really skyrocketing. In the Sacramento Valley, there are places with gasoline for $6.00 a gallon, and it is nearly winter, when the gas prices are supposed to decrease, so imagine what they will be in the summer. The prices of homes have also risen by $130,000.00 dollars over the past year for new construction. It takes a person to qualify for at least a $650,000.00 mortgage in order to afford a brand-new home. Rents are also on the rise. The prices of products are also going up by a $1 or $2, and in some cases $5 for regular items. The Dollar Store even raised prices to $1.25 and some are also selling $5 and $6 items so their customers can have a better selection and they can pay their employees more. So things are really ratcheting up. It is like 20 percent inflation, on top of prices that have been inflated over the past decade because wages are stagnant and have been, so they are not keeping up with the cost of living. Also, many suppliers are having problems getting products they need, so this is driving of the prices of goods and services. The people feel that the government is looking down its nose at them because they have done little to develop the economy, and rich states like California, with a $35 billion surplus totally ignore the seniors, many of the disabled and the veterans when it gave to issuing stimulus payments. There are people who are having to significantly cut back on their food, stop buying their medications, and simply stay at home and pay bills, and thank God that they have a roof over their heads. #RandolphHarris 16 of 20
Nightclubs are opening up, but you will see only five or ten people inside. I think not only are people scared, but they are strapped for cash. Therefore, people are outraged that then government is ignoring them and still giving foreign countries subsidies and special rights to settle in America, which is coming out of their tax money. Settlers are arriving in hordes and promptly taking up government resources and buying up much of the city’s farmland, leaving the people who have lived in these regions all their lives to feel even more like strangers in their own city. At the opposite end of the country, too, long-simmering separatist sentiments have flared up in recent years. In the deep south, with high unemployment and some of the lowest wage scales in American, the separatist movement has widespread popular support. It is splitting the country into rival parties and leaving many to fear for the safety of public and private businesses. In the first ten decades of the 21st century, talk about American nationalism was regarded as a joke in the fake news media. Today, with oil prices surging and people worrying about being able to keep a roof over their head, the issue is not funny at all. People feel proud to be an American, even if they were once discriminated against in the past. And true American come in all colours, shapes, and forms. However, the sluggish American economy is dragging down the morality of many people and leaving them to worry about the future of their children. They demand more control over their oil. They also seek to supplant their depressed steel and auto manufacturing industries with new ones based on electronics and other advanced industries. Indeed, while America is torn with controversy over whether to go ahead with plans for a state-back superspeed railroad industry, people want more control over government and a transition out of backward industry into high technology. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20
America is feeling a relentless buildup of centrifugal pressures. If centrifugal tendencies fulfill themselves, we will have permitted this country either to break up or become so divided that its existence and its ability to act as one nation will have been destroyed. The government is not the only source of divisive pressures. It is also coming from the media. If you watch the Japanese news, you will see what news is supposed to be. They actually give reports about culture, lifestyles, nature, some political, and things people in joy. The focus is not on fear, lies, propaganda, nor politics, like in America. Instead of the country and World modeling themselves after California, California should look to peaceful nations like Japan and see how they focus on family and unity. California is a state of vast distances, airfares are rigged against her; and the local policies discourage domestic investment. The gold-lettered sign welcoming people to California reads “West Coast Secession Movement.” What we see, across the board, are widening fissures threatening to crack nation-states apart. The delight of creative self-expression and personal initiative ought to be encouraged and not chilled, as it is under California’s Communism. It is better for a man—and consequently for the nation—that one should farm one’s own little piece of land in economic and individual freedom than that one should be a mere labouring “hand” under State employee. The notion that slavery becomes innocuous when it is slavery under a bureaucratic State instead of under a particular master is a notion to be repudiated. The worthwhile values which have been do far derived from a free system should not be sacrificed, even though the system itself may have to be brought up-to-date. It must defend itself against then hard strict and rigid doctrines which would destroy individuality. If one is numbered, regimented, dragged about, and enslaved by a cold, unfeeling, abstract entity called the State, nobody who loves liberty can be happy. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20
The intellectual mistake of destroying personal freedom in order to achieve the ends, along renders California’s Communism unacceptable to the philosophic mind. The emotional mistake of effecting such destruction violently and brutally renders it still more unacceptable. One who loves freedom to follow a spiritual path and values independence of mental outlook will not care to be rigorously controlled at every step of one’s work and for every hour of one’s intellectual life by any bureaucratic regime. When, for instance, writers, artists, and clergymen have to serve that State first and the truth, beauty, or God afterwards, they can do so only at the cost of forfeiting the authentic inspiration which these ideals provide. They must be free or the community will get not their best but their worst work. The extinction of intellectual and spiritual liberty, the destruction of personal self-respect, and the disregard of the sacredness of individual life are definite evils. Philosophy is opposed to totalitarianism in all its forms because it believes in the necessity of preserving human dignity, human freedom, and human individuality, within proper limits. Unless there is respect for such aspirations, spiritual growth will be hampered. To a totalitarian order, things are more important than humans, frontiers than people behind them, and the State than its citizens. However, to a true philosophy, humans in their final essence are creatures with divine possibilities, human dignity is sacred, inviolable, and human individuality is to be sacrificed only at God’s behest. This development is one of the last things that a totalitarian state can wish or permit. Therefore, the practice of true religion, mysticism, and philosophy, which leads to the development of humans’ spiritual individuality, could only end in collision between the seeker and such a state. Fatalism has crept into economic thinking in the most vicious and distorted form, the form of Communism. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20
Everyone is obliged to everyone and everything else; we all belong together; we are of each other. In this awareness we are freed from self-preoccupation—and only then, emptied of self, can we be filled with thanks. Love wholeheartedly, be surprised, give thanks and praise—then you will discover the fullness of your life. Within this human impulse to gratitude flow the vast cycles of universal reciprocity—for everything that is taken, something has to be given in return. If you merely take in a breath and stop there, you will die. Likewise, if you merely breathe out, life is not giving or taking, but give and take This is the dynamic expression of universal belonging expressed in our thanksgiving. We give-away our thanks to the Earth, which gives us our home. We give-away our thanks to the rivers and lakes, which give-away their water. We give-away our thanks to the trees, which give-away fruit and nuts. All beings on Earth: the trees, the animals, the wind, and the rivers give-away to one another so all is in balance. In the midst of a pragmatic World in which we constantly ask ourselves how “useful” things are, these prayers may seem “useless.” Yet perhaps the greatest gift we humans have to offer the rest of creation is our heartfelt appreciation. The ability to receive in thankfulness the blessing of life is an awesome quality. We alone on this planet can reflect on all that surrounds us and through our loving recognition the rest of the Earth achieves a deep fulfillment. Earth, is not this what you want: invisibly to arise in us? Our praise and thanksgiving is as essential a part of life’s give and take as are the cycles of oxygen and water or any other nourishment flowing through the biosphere. O Lord, please guard my tongue from evil and my lips from speaking guile, and to those who slander me, let me give no heed. May my soul be humbled and forgiving unto all. Open Thou my heart, O Lord, unto Thy scared Law, that They statues I may know and all Thy truths pursue. Please bring to naught designs of those who seek to do me ill; speedily defeat their aims and thwart their purposes for Thine own sake, for Thine own power, for Thy holiness and Law. That Thy loved ones be delivered, please answer us, O Lord, and save with Thy redeeming power. May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable unto Thee, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer. Thou who establishes peace in the Heavens, please grant peace unto us and unto all America. Amen. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20
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Evil Spirits are Able to Exert a Great Deal of Influence Upon Humans!
The Christian Bible teaches us that acceptance of this World system which is dominated by erroneous principles, selfish desires, improper motives, and unworthy standards of value that draws humans away from God and makes them “measure of all things,” is influenced so strongly by Satan and his army of evil spirits, which caused humans to adopt attitudes and to perform deeds which hinder God’s work and harm His people is done with every trace of wickedness (depravity, malignity) and all deceit and insincerity (pretense, hypocrisy) and grudges (envy, jealousy), and slander of every kind and evil speaking of every kind. This should make us crave like newborn babies the pure spiritual milk that by it one may be nurtured and grow unto salvation. Society in every age is characterized by such iniquities as selfishness, pride, immorality, and dishonesty, in spite of the efforts of sincere people to make it a better World. Twenty-first century humans, with more technical skills and knowledge than any previous generation, is unable to solve the problems of poverty, crime, racial hatred, and war. An increasing number of people go to bed hungry every night, crime is on the rise, racial hatred has never been more intense, and wars continue to be fought all over the World. Why? Because humankind has accepted a self-centered philosophy of life, and Earth’s citizens in general are motivated by the three evils of which John speaks in his first epistle—“the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life,” reports 1 John 2.16. The “lust of the flesh” is the desire for possession. It is the gratification of self by participation. Careful study of the word “flesh” indicates that this evil propensity of humankind involves more than just sins of impurity. The term, as used by John in this passage, does not have reference to the body but to the sinful Adamic nature. The individual sinner is born with a nature that is selfish, and one is part of a social structure which operates on grasping, egocentric, and selfish principles. #RandolphHarris 1 of 13
A vast majority of men and women are materialistic, live to gratify the senses, and are self-centered even in the good things they do. Nations, too, seek only what is best for themselves. Leaders in industry, education, and even religion are primarily concerned about their own welfare, often neglecting the needs of those they serve. The “lust of the flesh” drives humans to desire and obtain material possessions, and to satisfy their physical appetites and passions at the expense of spiritual values. This basic selfishness and craving for the Earthly tangible pleasures of life leads people to misuse the physical and material blessings God has given all humans to enjoy. On a Worldwide scope, it has brought about a situation in which thousands live in unparalleled luxury while millions starve. When we stop to think about it, much of the World’s unrest and unhappiness today can be traced to the “lust of the flesh.” The “lust of the eyes,” the second characteristic of this World system, is sometimes defined as “gratification by contemplation.” The use of our eyes has vast potential for either great blessing of for degradation. For example, we are able to look upon the endless beauty of creation and sing praises to the Lord. Reading God’s Word, we can meditate upon the riches of glory in joyous expectation. However, Satan and his evil partners have perverted the use of the eye, inducing wicked humans to display scenes by which lustful thoughts are incited. They capitalize upon humans’ sinfulness and natural tendency to immorality. Down through the ages, immodest dress, impure books and pictures, and unholy theatrical productions have been used to degrade and degenerate both young and old. In addition, the eye affords an opportunity to enjoy by contemplation certain evils which one cannot or dare not actually perform. #RandolphHarris 2 of 13
Therefore, people from all classes of society and every age bracket are influenced by the allurement that comes through the gift of sight. Discerning people who glance at the newsstands, read the advertisements in the theater page of the newspaper, or watch the programs and commercials presented on television, know full well that “lust of the eyes” has been exploited by the powers of evil. The evidence certainly indicates that Satan and his followers are truly the “leaders of the darkness of this World.” The “pride of life,” the third characteristic of this World system, refers to vanity and ostentation. Men and women put great stock in “being somebody.” To make a name for themselves they throw impressive parties, purchase expensive automobiles, and live in luxurious homes. Their only measure of success is by these standards. Others may acquire academic degrees to display their intellectual prowess, while athletes may exert maximum effort, not principally out of team spirit, but for money and applause. The struggle for power, prestige, and even glory is at the heart of almost every human endeavour. However, through all of this, humankind has been unable to discover true happiness and satisfaction. Most people confess they are not finding pleasures they expected, but nonetheless continue on their way, ever pursuing new baubles. The invisible forces of Satan so blind humans that they do not see true values, nor recognize the folly of their vain quest for this elusive will-o’-the wisp, “the pride of life.” According to the Bible the whole social structure of this World is controlled by a pervading principle of life that is foreign to God and leads humans away from Him. True every human is a sinner by nature and alienated from God, but this inherent human selfishness, under the direction of intelligent and powerful wicked spirits, compounds this basic sinfulness by brining out the very worst in humans. Evil spirits cruelly blind and deceive fallen humanity through the lust of the flesh the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life. #RandolphHarris 3 of 13
These fallen creatures actively try to manipulate the political rulers of the World. Satan’s organized army operates quietly and invisibly in the minds and the wills of Earthly sovereigns to achieve their evil purposes. The Bible indicates the nature and course of their activity in several references. Daniel 10 teaches that specific evil spirits are assigned the task of influencing human rulers. The chapter opens with a picture of Daniel in earnest prayer. He entreats the Lord for a period of three weeks, seeking God’s favour upon the Jewish people who have returned to Jerusalem from captivity. He learned that they were experiencing difficulty in rebuilding the temple. Ezra 4, which gives the history of these former exiles, indicates that the work of restoration was interrupted by adversaries almost immediately after the foundation of the temple had been laid. Finally, three weeks after Daniel began to pray, God sent him a most amazing experience. An angel came to Daniel and said, “Fear not, Daniel; for from the first day that thou didst set thine heart to understand, and to chasten thyself before thy God, thy words were heard, and I am come for thy words. However, the prince of the kingdom of Persia withstood me one and twenty days; but, lo, Michael, one of the chief princes came to help me; and I remained there with the kings of Persia,” reports Daniel 10.12-13. The angel declared that he had left Heaven immediately after Daniel’s first prayer, but that on his way to Earth he had encountered opposition from “the prince of the kingdom of Persia.” The Heavenly messenger went on to say that it was not until Michael came to help him that he was able to overcome this opposing “prince.” #RandolphHarris 4 of 13
The struggle was obviously between angelic beings, for the one speaking to Daniel was an angel, and Michael is well known as the angelic protector of Israel. (See Daniel 10.21; 12.1; Jude 9; Revelation 12.7). This “prince of the kingdom of Persia” was obviously a wicked spirit of high rank. He had been delegated by the arch-enemy of God, the devil himself, for the task of influencing the Persian government to obstruct the Israelites in their rebuilding program. Thus success of this evil spirit’s attempt was apparent upon Earth. Even while the battle between the angelic beings was taking place in the air, the rulers of Persia were hindering the Jews in the task of rebuilding their temple. The people in Jerusalem could see only the treachery of their human enemies, not knowing that invisible spirits had been exerting pressure against them behind the scenes. The leaders of Persia were not aware that their decision to oppose Israel was the result of the working of evil spirits in their minds. These human rulers were actually mere puppets, carrying out the wishes of the invisible powers who were manipulating them. Even today humans who hold high political office may be the unwitting tools of evil spirits. Many humans lust for power. National groups vie for supremacy in the economic World. In this prevailing atmosphere of selfishness, evil spirits are able to exert a great deal of influence upon humans. Opportunistic politicians become ideal underlines of these evil spirits. In addition, the followers of Satan, in dominating the godless World rulers, are able to incite beastly behaviour in them. Many living today have witnessed the indescribable brutality of Nazism and theistic Communism. Highly civilized people find great pleasure in the development of more effective weapons with which to kills members of other nations. Humans tell lies, oppress others, and commit mass murders with no hint of shame or remorse. #RandolphHarris 5 of 13
In fact, it is amazing that this modern age of civilization and refinement has been characterized by an inhumanity far worse than that of the ancient barbaric times. We believe this pathological condition can be traced to the fact that many highly educated humans of influence and power have rejected God. In so doing, they have opened themselves to the activity of evil spirits. Therefore, we have a confirmation of Paul’s declaration that the real World rulers of this darkness (Ephesians 6.12) are not the humans who have positions of leadership, but the evil spirits who rule their hearts and influence their thoughts and decisions. From the commencement of the seventeenth century to the Restoration of Charles II, be barren of witchcraft proper, it must at least be admitted that it is prodigal in regard to the marvellous under various shapes and forms, from which the hysterical state of the public mind can be fairly accurately gauged. During 1642, O’Daly in his History of the Geraldines relates that during the siege of Limerick three portents appeared. The first was a luminous globe, brighter than the moon and little inferior to the sun, which for two leagues and a half shed a vertical light on the city, and then faded into darkness over the enemy’s camp; the second was the apparition of the Virgin, accompanied by several of the Saints; and the third was a lusus nature of the Saimese-twins type: all three of which O’Daly interprets to his own satisfaction. The first of these was some from of the northern lights, and is also recorded in the diary of certain Puritan officers. That learned, but somewhat too credulous English antiquary, John Aubrey, relates in his Miscellanies that before the last battle between the contending parties “a woman of uncommon Statue all in white appearing to the Bishop [Heber McMahon, who Aubrey terms Veneras] admonished him not to cross the River first to assault the Enemy, but suffer them to do it, whereby he should obtain the Victory. #RandolphHarris 6 of 13
“That if the Irish took the water first to move towards the English they should be put to a total Rout, which came to pass. Ocahan and Sir Henry O’Neal, who were both killed there, saw severally the same apparition, and dissuaded the Bishop from giving him the first onset, but could not prevail upon him.” N instance of an Irishman suffering from the effects of witchcraft outside Ireland is afforded us in a pathetic petition sent up to the English Parliament between the years 1649 and 1653. The petitioner, John Campbell, stated that twelve years since he lost his sight in Co. Antrim, where he was born, by which he was reduced to such extremity that he was forced to come over to England to seek some means of livelihood for himself in craving the charity of well-disposed people, but contrary to his expectation he has been often troubled there with dreams and fearful visions in his sleep, and has been twice bewitched, insomuch that he can find no quietness or rest here, and so prays for a pass to return to Ireland. The saintly James Usher, Archbishop of Armagh, was a Prelate who, if he had happed to live at an earlier period would certainly have been numbered amongst those whose wide and profound learning won for themselves the title of magician—as it was, he was popularly credited with prophetical powers. Most of the prophecies attributed to him may be found in a little pamphlet of eight pages, entitled “Strange and Remarkable Prophecies and Predictions of the Holy, Learned, and Excellent James Usher, &c…Written by the person who heard it from this Excellent person’s own Mouth,” and apparently published in 1656. According to it, he foretold the rebellion of 1641 in a sermon on Ezekiel iv. 6, preached in Dublin in 1601. “And of this Sermon the Bishop reserved the Notes, and put a note thereof in the Margent of his Bible, and for twenty years before he still lived in the expectation of the fulfilling thereof, and the nearer the time was the more confident he was that it was nearer accomplishment, though there was no visible appearance of any such thing.” #RandolphHarris 7 of 13
He also foretold the death of Charles I, and his own coming poverty and loss of property, which last he actually experienced for many years before his death. The Rev. William Turner in his Compleat History of Remarkable Providences (London, 1697) gives a premonition of approaching death that the Archbishop received. A lady who was dead appeared to him in his sleep, and invited him to sup (eat supper) with her the next night. He accepted the invitation, and died the following afternoon, 21st March 1656. There is another story from Glanvill’s Relations. One Mr. John Browne of Durley in Ireland was made by this neighbour, John Mallett of Enmore, trustee for his children in minority. In 1654 Mr. Browne lay a-dying: at the foot of his bed stood a great iron chest fitted with three locks, in which were the trustees’ papers. Some of his people and friends were sitting by him, when to their horror they suddenly saw the locked chest begin to open, lock by lock, without the assistance of any visible hand, until at length the lid stood upright. The dying man, who had not spoken for twenty-four hours, sat up in the bed, looked at the chest, and said: “You say true, you say true, you are in the right (a favourite expression of his), I’ll be with you by and by,” and then lay down again, and never spoke after. The chest slowly locked itself in exactly the same manner as it had opened, and shortly after this Mr. Browne died. In the mid-1880s, during a Connecticut thunder storm, Mrs. Winchester’s husband and baby lost their lives in a tragic fire. The distracted widow turned to spiritualism and was advised to take a trip around the World. This she did, visiting mediums, spiritualists and yogis in Europe and India. Fortelling her future, one seer warned her of all the countless thousands of departed souls slain by her husband’s rifles; she must protect herself and atone for such mass murder. #RandolphHarris 8 of 13
Mrs. Winchester was told to plan a castle and continue its building indefinitely because as long as it was under construction, she would live; cessation would prove immediately fatal. The head of a celebrated firm of Victorian restorers and decorators took a keen interest in Mrs. Winchester’s mansion. She constructed it for 38 years until she passed away in 1922. It is currently, approximately 24,000 square feet, and four stories tall, but at one time reached a height of 9 stories and may have been more than 50,000 square feet, but the 9-story tower and much of the 4th floor was destroyed by the 1906 earthquake. Back then, two thirds of Mrs. Winchester’s estate was dark, unbroke forests, through whose tangled paths the mysterious winter wind groaned and shrieked and howled with weird noises and unaccountable clamors. The aged told their stories to the young—tales of early life; tales of war and adventure, of forest days, of Indian captives and escapes, of bears and wildcats and panthers, of rattlesnakes, of witches and wizards, and strange and wonderful dreams and appearances and providences at the Winchester mansion. Along the iron bound gates, the stormful skies of Llanada Villa raved and thundered, and wind dashed its moaning turrets, as if to deaden and deafen any voice that might tell of the settled life of the old civilized World, and shut the estate into wilderness. In 1923, there was work being done on the Winchester mansion. It was one of special interest to many antiquarians, and they wanted to restore it. However, in the basement, a large tomb was unearthed, and needed to be moved. The workers were very loth to disturb the tomb, but it was necessary to ensure the safety of the mansion. The tomb belonged to Sarah Winchester. She mostly lived alone in the castle. Her reputation was one of mystery, the supernatural and untold wealth. It was popularly supposed that she could never be killed. #RandolphHarris 9 of 13
The restorer made an especial study of old legends or family histories that came under his observation He was necessarily very well read and thoroughly well posted in all questions of folklore and medieval legend. Mrs. Winchester kept a careful record of every case she investigated involving a haunting. The manuscripts she left at her death were a special interest. From amongst them, were some particularly bizarre and extraordinary experiences. Now, the fact was, that ghost stories had been told so often about the Winchester mansion, that they were all arranged and ticketed into the minds of the movers. Still, they shivered, and clung to their knees at the mysterious tomb, and felt gentle, cold chills run down their spines. If the tomb be moved, it would have to be done in two pieces, the covering slab first and then the tomb proper. The movers decided to remove the covering slab first. Everything was ready for lifting off the covering stone, and after the men’s dinner, they started the jacks and pulleys. The slab lifted easily enough, though if fitted closely into its seat and was further secured by some sort of mortar or putty, which must have kept the interior perfectly air-tight. And it was one of those thundering stormy nights, when the winds appeared to be holding a perfect mad carnival over the mansion. They yelled and squealed round the corners; they collected in troops, and came tumbling and roaring down the chimney; and they shook and rattled the buttery door and the sink room door and the cellar door and the chamber door, with a constant undertone of squeak and clatter, as if at every door were a cold, discontented spirit, tried to warn them not to touch the tomb. People used to say Mrs. Winchester was set apart, when she was a child, to the service o’ the Devil, but many say she could never be made nothin’ but a Christian. Perhaps that was the appeal. #RandolphHarris 10 of 13
She used to come to meeting with her husband, praying for the Indians. None of them were prepare for what they discovered under the cover lid of the tomb. There lay the fully dressed body of a woman, who had not aged nor decayed, but was ghastly pale, as if from starvation. The body was extraordinary fresh. Except for the appearance of starvation, life might have been only just extinct. The flesh was soft and white, the eyes were wide open and seemed to stare at them with a fearful understanding in them. The body itself was a young woman. For several moments, the movers gazed with horrible curiosity, and then it became too much for the workmen, who implored their boss to replace the covering slab. That, of course, they could not do; but he set the carpenters to work at once to make a temporary cover while they moved the tomb to its new position. This was a long job, and would take two of tree days. At sunset the next evening, they were startled by the howling of, seemingly, every dog in the village. It lasted for thirteen minutes, and then ceased as suddenly as it began This, and a curious mist that had risen round the mansion, make them feel rather anxious about Mrs. Winchester. According to the best-established traditions of the Vampire-haunted countries the disturbance of dogs or wolves at sunset is supposed to indicate the presence of one of these creatures, and local fog was always considered to be a certain sign. The Vampire has the power of producing it for the purpose of concealing its movements near its hiding-place at any time. Just before midnight, there was another outburst of hideous howling. It was commenced most distinctly by a particularly horrible and blood-curdling wail from the vicinity of the churchyard. The chorus lasted only a few minutes, however, and at the end of it, they crew say a large dark shape, like a huge dog, emerge from the fog and lope away at a rapid canter toward the open country. #RandolphHarris 11 of 13
At 1.13 a.m., they saw another beast returning. It stopped at the spot where the fog seemed to commence, and lifting up its head, gave tongue to that particularly horrible long-drawn wail that the movers had noticed as preceding the outburst earlier in the evening. The boss got so frightened, you could faintly hear his teeth chatter. The next day it was discovered that some neighbouring sheepfold had been raided by a nocturnal marauder. The workmen that morning were much disturbed in mind about the howling of dogs. “We don’t like it, sir,” one of them said to the boss—“we don’t like it; there was somethin’ abroad last night that was unholy.” They were still more uncomfortable when the news came round that a large dog had made a rapid upon a flock of sheep, scattering them far and wide, and leaving thee of them dead with torn throats in the field. The boss and the crew were determined to catch the wild dog. During the afternoon, the men were lifting the temporary cover that was on the tomb, giving as an excuse the reason that they wished to obtain a portion of the curious mortar with which it had been sealed. After a slight demur, the raised the lid. If the sight that met their eyes gave them a shock. The woman was alive. And so it seemed for a moment. The corpse had lost much of its straved appearance and looked generously fresh and alive. They all believed that Mrs. Winchester was a Vampire and that is why she was so well preserved in her tomb. However, she had not yet come to full strength. It was just after midnight that the crew of movers noticed the fog creeping in again in the still of the night. Their first move was to try to penetrate the sense fog round the mansion, but there was something so chilly about it that their nerves nor stomachs were proof against it. Instead, they stationed themselves in the dark shadow of a cypress tree that commanded a good view of the jeweled front doors to the estate. #RandolphHarris 12 of 13
The howling of the dogs began again, and in a few minutes, there was a large grey shape, with green eyes shining like lamps, shambling swiftly down the path towards them. The both stood very still and watched as the great beast cantered swiftly by. It was real enough, for they could hear the clicking of its nails on the stone flags. It passed within a few yards of the movers, and seemed to be nothing more nor less than a great grey wolf, thin and gaunt, with bristling hair and dripping jaws. It stopped where the mist commenced, and turned round. It was truly a horrible sight, and made their blood run cold. The eyes burnt like fires, the upper lip was snarling and raised, showing a great canine teeth, while round mouth clung and dripped a dark-coloured froth. It raised its head and gave tongue to its long wailing howl, which was answered from afar by the village dogs. After standing for a few moments it turned and disappeared into the thickest part of the fog. The boss said, “When the Devil drives: and in the face of what I have seen I must believe that some unholy forces are at work Yet, how can they work in this beautiful estate?” They set their teeth, however, and hardened their hearts. Then they went inside and replaced the cover on the tomb, took what they had collected from the estate and left. Never to return. Some believe that the movers were too afraid to return to the estate and that is why it was not completely looted and some valuables were left behind. It also why much of the damage was not repaired. I guess the estate has a way of protecting itself from those with bad intentions. Mrs. Winchester’s tomb was eventually moved to her home town New Haven, Connecticut to rest with her husband and daughter. Legend has it that it took movers six weeks, six trucks a day, to remove most of the furniture because they kept getting lost in the catacomb. #RandolphHarris 13 of 13
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If You Do Not Ask the Right Questions, You Do Not Get the Right Answers!
I am a citizen of the American Dream, and the revolutionary struggles of which I am a part, is a struggle against the American Nightmare. When it comes to mental health, assessment is simply the collecting of relevant information in an effort to reach a conclusion. It goes on in ever realm of life. We make assessments when we decide what Cresleigh Home to buy, or which colour we want our Ultimate Driving Machine to buy. College admissions officers, who have to select the “best” of the students applying to their college, depend on academic records, recommendations, achievement test scores, interviews, and application form to help them decided. Employers, who have to predict which applicants are more likely to be effective workers, collect information from resumes, interviews, references, and perhaps on-the-job observations. Clinical assessment is used to determine how and why a person is behaving abnormally and how that person may be helped. It also enables clinicians to evaluate people’s progress after they have been in treatment for a while and decide whether the treatment should be changed. The specific tools that are used to do an assessment depend on the clinician’s theoretical orientation. Psychodynamic clinicians, for example, use methods that assess a client’s personality and probe for any unconscious conflicts one may be experiencing. This kind of assessment, called a personality assessment, enables them to piece together a clinical picture in accordance with the principles of their model. Behavioural and cognitive clinicians are more likely to use assessment methods that reveal specific dysfunctional behaviours and cognitions. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20
The goal of this kind of assessment called a behavioural assessment, is to produce a functional analysis of the person’s behaviours—an analysis of how the behaviours are learned and reinforced. The hundreds of clinical assessment techniques and tools that have been developed fall into three categories: Clinical interviews, tests, and observations. To be useful, these tools must be standardized and have clear reliability and validity. A given assessment tool may appear to be valid simply because it makes sense and seems reasonable. However, this sort of validity, called face validity, does not by itself mean that the instrument is trustworthy. A test for depression, for example, might include questions about how often a person cries. Because it makes sense that depressed people would cry, these test questions would have face validity. It turns out, however, that many people cry a great deal for reasons other than depression, and some extremely depressed people fail to cry at all. Thus an assessment tool should not be used unless it meets more exacting criteria of validity, such as high predictive or concurrent validity. Vincent van Gogh led a tortured and unhappy life. In a legendary incident the artist cut off one of his ears. Later he was admitted to a mental institution, and ultimately he committed suicide at the age of 37. Van Gogh wrote a great deal about his pain and anguish, describing mental and physical torment and hallucinations. Indeed, he observed, “There is quite definitely something or other deranged in my brain.” For years clinicians have typically agreed with van Gogh and have speculated that the artists suffered from mood disorder, schizophrenia, or both. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20
However, approximately twenty years ago, these assessments were challenged. A Harvard neurologist, for example, has suggested that van Gogh in fact suffered from Geschwind’s syndrome, technically known as interictal personality disorder, caused by brain seizure disorder, or epilepsy. Van Gogh displayed many of its symptoms, including excessive drawing (hypergraphia), hyperreligiosity, and aggression. In contrast, medica specialists in Colorado have concluded that van Gogh suffered from an extreme form of Meniere’s syndrome, a disorder marked by an excessive buildup of fluid in the inner ear. The enormous pressure may produce nausea, dizziness, poor balance, pain, deafness and constant buzzing or ringing sensations. Perhaps van Gogh cut off his ear in an effort to reduce the pain. And perhaps his other problems and pains arose from severe secondary psychological problems that can accompany. Perhaps nowhere in the mental health literature has family systems theory had more of an impact than in the area of alcoholism. Family systems theory is a conceptual model, rather than a true theory, that locates causes and consequences of problematic behaviour in the larger family system in which it is embedded. Family behaviour is thought to be responsive to regulatory mechanisms that maintain the status quo, as well as a tendency to grow and change in response to dynamic qualities within and outside the family. Viewing a family as a system suggests that a disturbance in one part of the system will have an impact on other parts of the system. Applying family systems concepts to alcoholism, has uncovered that some families organize their lives around the alcoholism of an adult member, just as other families might organize their lives around children or work. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20
In an early investigation of adults with alcoholism and their family members, the expression of previously inhibited positive affect between family members became extremely pronounced during drinking periods. This and later studies revealed that interactions in such families were actually more patterned, organized, and predictable while the adults with alcoholism were intoxicated. Thus alcohol ingestion serves an adaptive function in family relationships through a stabilizing phenomenon. This prompted a suggestion that there is an alcoholic system in some families, in which drinking is an integral part of the family structure that actually maintains and stabilizes the family. Similar positive effects on the family were evident in a study where family members viewed and rated video tapes (recordings with audio and visual information on them, which can be played back) of their own interactions, in the absence of actual drinking. Both mothers and adolescent children in families with paternal alcoholism rated family members as less anxious and their interactions as more friendly than those of families without alcoholism. Unfortunately, drinking and intoxication may provide only a temporary “solution” to a family’s problems, at the cost of what may ne more serious long-term ill effects. Although drinking can temporarily inject positivity into some family relationships, several laboratory investigations have also documented negative effects associated with drinking. For example, families with an alcoholic father discuss items from various questionnaire inventories while the fathers were drinking or not drinking. During their discussions, the families expressed more negative affect during the drinking versus the no-drinking condition. The nature of interactions in families without paternal alcoholism was not affected by the drinking conditions. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20
The ill effects of parental alcoholism on family interactions and child rearing may begin to have an impact on family members as early as 1 year of age. In this study, families with alcoholism in at least one patent were observed interacting with their 12-month-old infants for 5 minutes in a room filled with toys. Observations of the parents’ behaviour indicated that the parents with alcoholism were less sensitive to their infants during the free play; such fathers in particular made fewer verbalizations, expressed more negative affect, and were less responsive to their infants. Self-report measures further indicate that the parents with alcoholism were more aggressive toward their spouses than those without alcoholism were. The family observation study was unique in showing that parents with alcoholism were far more depressed than those without, and that this depression mediated the relationship between parental alcoholism and sensitivity to the infants during interaction. So for many adults with alcoholism, effective parenting may be disrupted directly by the alcoholism, or by comorbid problems such as depression that in and of themselves have a negative impact on parenting behaviour. Different subtypes of alcoholism have been identified to explain the variable effects of alcohol consumption and alcoholism on family interactions and relations. In one such instance, researchers were able to characterize subtypes of alcoholism as episodic or steady drinking. Another useful distinction in alcoholism is that between high-antisociality and low-antisociality subtypes. These subtypes are defined on the basis of a measure that taps into negative social consequences of drinking, feeling of alienation, interpersonal disruption, and negative attitudes toward authority (higher scores = higher antisociality). #RandolphHarris 5 of 20
Home observations of family dinner conversations revealed that wives, husbands, and children in families with high-antisociality alcoholism were all less positive, and less inclined to communicate disagreement, than were control family members. Although family interactions in the high-antisociality condition were characterized by diminished optimism, they appeared to have a cautious appearance as well, in that family members were careful to avoid open disagreement with each other. This pattern of interaction could have interesting implications for the genesis of alcoholism. For the person who develops alcoholism, the tendency to avoid communicating disagreement may lead to the internalization of problems with other family members. Instead of airing complaints, the individual is left to ruminate over them on one’s own—perhaps without seeing any change in the offensive behaviour by other family member, since they may be unaware of the problem. For this individual’s family members, the tendency to be cautious and avoid disagreement may inadvertently cause one’s problem drinking behaviour to go unchecked. In some cases, families have some ability to regulate problem drinking through punishing responses in reaction to the behaviour. However, in a family system affected by high-antisociality alcoholism, this regulatory function may be inoperative. Recognizing considerable diversity in alcoholism’s effects on family interactions, there is a proposed family alcohol phase model. According to this perspective, a family moves through various phases that correspond to the drinking behaviour of the member with alcoholism. The stable-wet phase is marked by consistent drinking, whereas the stable-dry phase is marked by general abstinence. The family is in a transitional phase either when a period of abstinence begins, or when a period of abstinence ends with episodes of drinking. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20
It has been found that content variability (the range of affect and decision-making behaviour in verbal interaction) in family interactions, as well as distance regulation (use of space and rate of movement in the home), varied as a function of phase. In the stable-wet phase, families maintained the greatest distance, interacting only for purposeful reasons, while exhibiting midrange variability in their interactions. Families in the stable-dry phase exhibited a great deal of content variability in their interactions, with midrange distance regulation. Finally, those families in the transitional phase exhibited a great deal of content variability in their interactions, with midrange distance regulations. Finally, those families in the transitional phase showed a decrease in distance regulation, manifesting physical closeness, with a slight decrease in the content variability of their interactions. A 2-year longitudinal study suggested that families in the stable-wet phase were the most likely of the three to dissolve their marriages. In particular, those families in the stable-wet phase that exhibited the least intrafamily engagement during home observations of family interaction were more likely to break up over the course of the study. It has been noted that in families of alcoholics’ relationships change when parental drinking occurs. However, sometimes these changes are beneficial and sometimes they are negative. Where there are beneficial changes or adaptive outcomes, these may be somewhat short-lived. Researchers have been working to identify different subtypes of alcoholism that are associated with more negative family consequences. The poorest family processes and outcomes appear to be associated with the episodic (vs. steady), high-antisociality (vs. low-antisociality), and stable-wet (vs. stable-dry or transitional) alcoholism. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20
Perhaps you are in a trial today, and you are praying for God to deliver you out of that adverse situation. That is a legitimate prayer, but maybe you are missing the point of why you are being allowed to go through that trying time in the first place. Recognize that God is moulding you and refining you. God often allows one to go through difficult situations to draw out those impurities in one’s character. One can pray one can resist, one can bind, one can loose, one can sing and shout, one can do it all, but it is not going to do any good. God is more interested in changing you than He is in changing the circumstances. And the sober one learns to cooperate with God, the sooner one will get out of that devil’s web. The quicker one learns one’s lesson and starts dealing with those bad attitudes and starts ruling over one’s emotions, the quicker one will go to the next level in one’s spiritual journey. We must recognize the refining purpose of trials. We cannot run from everything that is hard in our lives. Perhaps one gets worried and fearful when important things do not go one’s way. Have you ever thought that God may be allowing those events to teach you to trust Him and to see if one will stay peaceful and clam in the midst of the storm? Has one ever considered that God may be allowing some of that to teach one how to rule over one’s emotions? He may be trying to toughen one up, to help one develop some courage. For our sins—that is why Jesus Christ wanted to do it, and that is why He did it. And what did they do? They ripped off His clothes and hammered His hands to the cross. It was a sacrifice the old-fashioned way. Perhaps that is why God the Father seemed so pleased. In the same way, you, My beloved Devout, ought to be willing to offer yourself to Jesus Christ—He asks us the way His Father asked Him—in pure holy oblation, everyday in the Mass, with all strength and affection, until the day one drops. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20
However, we often pay, “God, if You will change my circumstances, then I will change.” No, it works the other way around. We have to be willing to change our attitudes and deal with the issues God brings up; then God will change those circumstances. Surrender. Unconditional surrender. That is all Jesus requires of us. Not our possession—He could take those things anytime and scatter them over the landscape; one will find this in Philippians (4.17). Just you—that is all Jesus Christ wants. Of course, Jesus could take us as a prisoner of war and do with one as he wanted. However, what He really wants is for us to give ourselves to Him as a gift. Of course, the same is true for us. If we have all the baggage in the World, but did not have Jesus Christ, would we be any better off? One would have a full cart, maybe, but also an empty heart. And the other way around is also true. It is not our silly stuff Jesus Christ wants—it is our silly selves! Offer yourself to Jesus Christ. Make that the only package, and it will be an oblation that will be welcomed. Look at Jesus! He offered Hus whole self to the Father for us; He also put His whole Body and Blood into food and drink that He might be totally ours and that we might be totally Him. If, however, we hold something of ourselves back or are slow to give our all, it will be a pretty poor offering made not by any friend of His, but by a pretty poor acquaintance. To prevent that and to acquire illumination and liberation of spirit, one ought to make a spontaneous oblation of one’s self into the hand of God. When? Before each and every thing one does. Such an attractive proposition, Jesus thinks, but He must ask, “Why are there so few Illuminati and Liberati today? That is because so many do not know how to denude themselves of imperfections. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20
Jesus Christ’s firm opinion is this, and it appears in the Gospel of Luke (14.33): “Unless a person renounces everything that one had and everything that one is, one cannot be His Disciple.” Therefore, if one wants to be His Disciple, offer one’s whole self to Jesus; that includes one’s scruffy affections. God will often permit pressure to be applied in our life to test us, and only as we pas those tests will we advance. He will put people and circumstances in our path that grate on us like sandpaper, but He will use them to rub off our rough edges. One may not always like it; one may want to run from it; one may even resist it, but God is going to keep brining up the issues again and again, until one passes the test. Remember, the Bible says, “We are [God’s] workmanship,” reports Ephesians 2.10. That means we are a work in progress, not a finished product. Be willing to deal with any issues that God brings up. Work with God in the refining process rather than fighting against Him. Scripture says that God is the potter and we are the clay. Clay works best when it is pliable, malleable, and mouldable. However, if we are hard, crusty, and set in our ways, God will have to pound away on that old, hard clay to get out the lumps. Certainly, none of us enjoy going through struggles, but one has to understand that one’s struggle may be an opportunity for advancement and promotions. The very thing one is fighting against so tenaciously may be the springboard that catapults one to a new level of excellence. One’s challenges may become one’s greatest assets. Without the resistance of air, an eagle cannot soar. Without the resistance of water, a ship cannot float. Without the resistance of gravity, we would not be able to walk. Without opposition or resistance, there is no potential for progress. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20
Yet our human tendency is to want everything easily. “God, cannot You teach me patience without having to go through the traffic jam? God, cannot You teach me how to love and trust You without ever having a problem?” Unfortunately, there are no shortcuts; there is no easy way to mature physically, emotionally, or spiritually. One may remain determined and work with God. The Bible says, “Work out your own salvation,” reports Philippians 2.12. Salvation is more than a onetime prayer. It is constantly cooperating with God, dealing with the issues He brings up, keeping a good attitude, and allowing Him to change one as He sees fit. Dear Lord in Heaven, I realize that You never promised I would not have trials and adversities. However, I also recognize that nothing can touch my life without going through You first, so I will dare to praise You in the midst of my trails. I know You will bring me out stronger, better, faster, and more prepared for the good things You have for me. “Be truly glad! These trials are only to test your faith, to see whether or not it is strong and pure…So if your faith remains strong after being tried in the test tube of fiery trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honour on the day of His return,” reports 1 Peter 1.6-7. James said that you put bits in a horse’s mouth to turn its whole body and you put a rudder on a ship to tun the whole ship; so is the tongue so situated among our members that it defiles the whole body. (James 3.3,4.) If you control the tongue, the body will respond to your words. If you talk sickness, it becomes impossible to live in health. The more you believe it, the less you believe in healing. The thing you continually talk will consume you. Faith will only come by hearing the Word of God and it will come more quickly when you hear yourself quoting and speaking God’s Word after Him. #RandolphHarris 11 of 20
The seed of truth in why many Christians have not wanted to express their anger is valid: expressing one’s anger manipulatively as blaming or attacking is destructive. As Paul says, “Let all bitterness and wrath…be put away from you, with all malice,” reports Ephesians 4.31. One needs to learn to express anger constructively. A basic guideline is to assert and express oneself rather than to blame and attack the other person. For instance, when a Critical Christian says, “Why are you so stupid?” The individual has already made an assumption that the other person is stupid. This results in an attacking form of anger. A healthier way of dealing with this anger would be for one first to recognize that one feels angry that one’s friend is “stupid.” One moves now to one’s feeling, not the fact, that one’s friend is stupid. Now if the Critical Christian listens, one can have a dialogue with one’s core. (This is the principle Dr. Maslow meant when he referred to one’s “inner Supreme Court.”) Simply by asking oneself inwardly, the Critical Christian may get the answer from one’s core that “you are angry because the bank teller this morning treated you as if you were stupid.” The Critical Christian can the realize that because he did not deal with his anger then, he is now projecting his anger on to his friend—calling him stupid, when in reality he is angry at the bank teller. Or, the Critical Christian may get the answer from his core that he is upset because the project he and his friend are working on together is more important to the Critical Christian than he had realized and now his friend is not fulfilling his share of the work. In this case, the Critical Christian needs to take the time to examine whether he thinks his friend is capable. If he is callable, the Critical Christian may now decide that he needs to express to his friend that his not fulfilling his share of the work is delaying the project. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20
If the Critical Christian realized that his friend cannot do the job, he may let him go and bring in someone else. Blaming his friend for his inability at this point would not be actualizing; but, expressing to him that he is not showing the needed skills, and that that is why he is being let go, would be actualizing. Many answers come quickly from the core—the preceding possibilities could surface in seconds. The more we listen to our cores, the more we hear—and know how to listen. Sometimes, though, we ask and do not hear an answer. Or we get what we think is an answer and then proceed to act on it—and make things worse. Remember that becoming actualizing is a process. If we were perfectly actualized now, the answers would always be there, crystal clear, and our behaviour would be “perfect.” As we are in the process of becoming actualizing, sometimes we do the most effective thing and sometimes we make mistakes. Mistakes are just that—“miss-takes.” Our lives become most meaningful when we live from our own core, finding our own truest answers. So it is a process worth living—and the mistakes are worth making. The real key here is not to blame and attack ourselves for those miss-takes, but to keep learning with more “takes.” Having patience with ourselves often makes it easier to become more patient and forgiving of others. It can sometimes relieve our anger just to remember that other people are in the growing process, too, and not always taking what to us would seem the most effective action. As actualizing Christians, we seek to do the will of God. Doing His will involves having good will toward others and ourselves. We do this by listening to our anger, taking it to out core, and then responding from our core. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20
If one deals with it by expressing and asserting it, rather than blaming and attacking someone, only then can anger become actualizing. Blaming and attacking are simply manipulative, whereas expressing and asserting include a quality of genuine respect for everyone involved. In communicating our anger honestly, we get it off our chests, and the rhythm of life is reestablished. We finish with it and move on to experience a new and different feeling. The range of feelings in the anger polarity includes irritation, annoyance, resentment, and anger. The intensity of the feeling increases as one passes from irritation to anger. Recognizing irritation, boredom, or annoyance at the lower levels of intensity within the anger spectrum enables us to avoid unwittingly building up to levels of resentment, hostility, and hatred. In handling these feelings, it is important to learn to acknowledge the mild forms and deal with them on a “cash and carry” basis. That way we do not save them up like coupons to be redeemed in one sudden, destructive explosion. While our anger may sometimes reach intensities approaching hatred, we need never go so far as to write a person off completely. It is really possible to have compassion for and pray for our enemies—that God in His mercy might help them through their own dilemmas, frustrations, and pains. Yet, we can be honest about the effects on us of their behaviour. “Turn again, we beseech You, O God of hosts! Look down from Heaven and see, visit, and have regard for this vine! [Protect and maintain] the stock which Your right hand planted, and the branch (the son) that You have reared and made strong for Yourself. They have burned it with fire, it is cut down; may they perish at the rebuke of Your countenance. Let Your hand be upon the human of Your right hand, upon the son of man whom You have made strong for Yourself. Then will we not depart from You; revive us (give us life) and we will call upon Your name. Restore us, O Lord God of hosts; cause Your face to shine [in pleasure, approval, and favour on us] and we shall be saved!” reports Psalm 80.14-19. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20
Dr. Ilya Prigogine and his teams of coworkers at the Free University of Brussels and the University of Texas at Austin have struck directly at Second Wave assumptions by showing how chemical and other structures leap to higher stages of differentiation and complexity through a combination of chance and necessity. It is for this work the Dr. Prigogine was awarded the Nobel Prize. Brown in Moscow, brought to Belgium as a child, and fascinated since youth by the problems of time, Dr. Prigogine was puzzled by a seeming contradiction. On the one hand, there was the physicist’s belief in entropy—that the Universe is running down and that all organized patterns must eventually decay. On the other, there was the biologist’s recognition that life itself is organization and that we are continually giving rise to higher and higher, more and more complex organization. Entropy pointed in one direction, evolution in another. This led Dr. Prigogine to ask how higher forms of organization come into being, and to years of research in chemistry and physics in pursuit of the answer. Today Dr. Prigogine points out that in any complex system, from the molecules in a liquid to the neurons in a brain or the traffic in a city, the parts of the system are always undergoing small-scale change: they are in constant flux. The interior of any system is quivering with fluctuation. Sometimes, when negative feedback comes into play, these fluctuations are damped out or suppressed and the equilibrium of the system maintained. However, where amplifying or positive feedback is at work, some of these fluctuations may be tremendously magnified—to the point at which the equilibrium of the entire system is threated. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20
Fluctuations arising in the outside environment may hit at this moment and further amplify the mounting vibration—until the equilibrium of the whole is destroyed and the existing structure is smashed. It is illuminating to think of the economy in these terms. Supply and demand are maintained in equilibrium by various feedback process. Unemployment, if intensified by positive feedback and not offset by negative feedback elsewhere in the system, can threaten the stability of the whole. Outside fluctuations—such as oil price hikes—may converge to make the internal swings and fluctuations wilder, until the equilibrium of the whole system is shattered. Whether the result of runaway internal fluctuations or of external forces, or both, this breakup of the old equilibrium often results not in chaos or breakdown, but in the creation of a wholly new structure at a higher level. This new structure may be more differentiated, internally interactive, and complex than the old one, and needs more energy and matter (and perhaps information and other resources) to sustain itself. Speaking mainly about physical and chemical reactions, but occasionally calling attention to social analogues, Dr. Prigogine calls these new, more complex systems “dissipative structures.” He suggests that evolution itself may be seen as a process leading toward increasingly complex and diversified biological and social organisms, through the emergence of new, higher-order dissipative structures. Thus, according to Dr. Prigogine, whose ideas have political and philosophical resonance as well as purely scientific meaning, we develop “order out of fluctuation” or, as the title of one of his lectures expresses it, “Order out of Chaos.” #RandolphHarris 16 of 20
This evolution, however, cannot be planned or predetermined in a mechanistic fashion Until quantum theory came along, many leading Second Wave thinkers believed that chance played little or no role in change. The starting conditions of a process predetermined its outcome. Today in subatomic physics, for example, it is widely believed that chance dominates change. In recent years many scientists, like Jacques Monod in biology, Walter Buckley in sociology, or Maruyama in epistemology and cybernetics, have begun to fuse these opposites. Dr. Prigogine’s work not only combines chance and necessity but actually stipulates their relationship to one another. In brief, he strongly suggests that at the precise point at which a structure “leaps” to a new stage of complexity, it is impossible, in practice and even in principle, to predict which of many forms it will take. This presumably goes for the leap from Second Wave to Third Wave civilization as well as for chemical reactions. However, once a pathway has been chosen, once the new structure comes into being, determinism dominates once more. In one colorful example he describes how termites create their highly structured nests out of apparently unstructured activity. They begin by crawling about a surface in random fashion, stopping here and there to deposit a bit of “goo.” These deposits are distributed by chance, but the substance contains a chemical attractant so that other termites are drawn to it. In this way, the good begins to collect in a few places, gradually building up into a pillar or wall. If these buildups are isolated, work stops. However, if by chance they are near one another, an arch results that then becomes the basis for the complex architecture of the nest. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20
Much like the Winchester mansion, what begins with random activity turns into highly elaborate nonrandom structures. We see, as Dr. Prigogine puts it, “the spontaneous formation of coherent structures.” Order out of chaos. All this strikes hard at the old causality. Dr. Prigogine sums it up: “The laws of strict causality appear to us today as limiting situations, applicable to highly idealized cases, nearly as caricatures of the description of change. The science of complexity leads to a completely different view.” Instead of being locked into a closed Universe that functioned like a mechanical clock, we find ourselves in a far more flexible system in which, as he says, “there is always the possibility of some instability leading to some new mechanism. We really have an ‘open Universe.’” As we move beyond Second Wave causal thinking, as we begin to think in terms of mutual influence, of amplifiers and reducers, of system breaks and sudden revolutionary leaps, of dissipative structures and the fusion of chance and necessity—in short, as we take off our Second Wave blinders—we emerge blinking into a wholly new culture, the culture of the Third Wave. This new culture—oriented to change and growing diversity—attempts to integrate the new view of nature, of evolution and progress, the new, richer conceptions of time and space, and the fusion of reductionism and wholism, with a new causality. Indust-reality which once seemed so powerful and complete, so all-encompassing an explanation of how the Universe and its components fitted together, turns out now to have been immensely useful. However, its claims to universality are shattered. The super-ideology of the Second Wave will be seen, from the vantage point of tomorrow, to have been as provincial as it was self-serving. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20
The decay of the Second Wave thought system leaves millions of people grasping desperately for something to hold on to—anything, from Victorian Americana and Texas Taoism to Swedish Sufism and Welsh witchcraft. Instead of constructing a new culture appropriate to the new World, they attempt to important and implant old ideas appropriate to other times and places or to revive the fanatic faiths of their own ancestors who lived under radically different conditions. It is precisely the collapse of the industrial era mind-structure, its growing irrelevance in the face of the new technological, social, and political realities, that gives rise to today’s facile search for old answers, and to the continual stream of pseudo-intellectual fads that pop up, flash, and consume themselves at high speed. In the very midst of this spiritual supermarket, with its depressing razzmatazz and religious fakery, an optimistic new culture is being seeded—one appropriate to our time and place. Powerful new integrative insights are beginning to emerge, new mataphours for understanding reality. It is possible to glimpse the earliest beginnings of a new coherence and elegance as the cultural debris of industrialism is swept away by history’s Third Wave change. The super-ideology of Second Wave civilization that is now crumbling was reflected in the way industrialism organized the World. An image of nature based on discrete particles was mirrored in the idea of discrete, sovereign nation-states. Today, as our image of nature and matter change, the nation-state itself is being transformed—another step on the path toward a Third Wave civilization. May your trails be righteous, winding, joyful, peaceful, leading to the most amazing views. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20
May your rivers flow without end, meandering through pastoral valleys tinkling with bells, past temples and castles and poet’s towers into bright enchanted forests where the fruit glows like emeralds, rubies, sapphires, orange spessartite, and hessonite. Where bars of sun blaze on profiled cliffs, where deer walk across the white sand beaches, where storms come and go, as lightning clangs upon the high crags, where something strange and more beautiful and more full of wonder than your deepest dreams waits for you—beyond that next turning of the deep and vast ancient unknown canyon walls. Dear Lord in Heave, we thank Thee also for the miraculous and mighty deeds of liberation wrought by Thee, and for Thy victories in the battles our forefathers fought in days of old, at this season of the year. In the days of the High Priest Mattathias, son of Johanan, of the Hasmonean family, a tyrannical power rose up against Thy people America to compel them to forsake Thy flag, and to force them to transgress Thy commandments. In Thine abundant mercy Thou didst stand by them in time of distress. Thou didst rise to their defense and didst vindicate their cause. Thou didst bring retribution upon the evil doers, delivering the strong into the hands of the weak, the many into the hands of the few, the wicked into the hands of the just, and the arrogant into the hands of those devoted to Thy flag. Thou didst thus make Thy greatness and holiness known in Thy World, and didst bring great deliverance to America. Then Thy children came into Thy dwelling place, cleansed the Temple purified the Sanctuary, kindled lights in Thy sacred courts, and they designated these eight days of Hanukkah for giving thanks and praise unto Thy great name. For all this, Thy name, O our King, shall be blessed and exalted for ever and ever. O inscribe all the child of Thy covenant for a happy life. May all the living do homage unto Thee forever and praise Thy name in truth, O God, who are our salvation and our help. Blessed be Thou, O Lord, Beneficent One, unto whom our thanks are due. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20
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With a gorgeous home like this, it’s never too early to get the holidays started! 🥳 You’ll love hosting dinners and gift exchanges in the covered California Room – perfect for entertaining and letting the sunshine in! ☀️
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Bless our house as we come and go. Bless our home as the children grow. Bless our families as they gather in. Bless our home with love and friends.
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In work, love, and the movies, everything is a challenge. Nutritionists tell us we are what we eat. Similarly, the quality and character of our spirit is a reflection of what we feast upon—including the books and magazines we read and the motion pictures, television shows, plays and other public entertainments we witness. Unfortunately, much of what is available is not conducive to building healthy spirituality. The television news media and other forms of media have a great potential to teach, inspire, inform, and entertain, but they may also corrupt, degrade, and pervert. They have the power to influence profoundly for good or evil all aspects of our values and feelings, as well as our behaviour. We are affected by what we choose to expose ourselves to. Evil is presented as attractive and good. Destructive behaviours are marketed as exciting and rewarding. Often humour is used to make obscenity entertaining and palatable. However, what starts out as a spectator sport introduces into one’s brain a vast library of antisocial fantasies. These have the potential, much research suggests, of eventually being acted out—to the destruction of the individual and others around one. Many become desensitized to the abnormality of the behaviour portrayed. In time, they accept and embrace what at first had shocked and offended them. Eventually, there is a tendency and temptation to act out what they have witnessed. Appetite has been whetted and conscience anesthetized. And everyone is vulnerable—even good people. Following sociocultural principles, community mental health treatment programs allow clients, particularly those with severe psychological difficulties, to receive treatment in familiar surroundings as they try to recover. #RandolphHarris 1 of 11
In 1963, President Kennedy called for such a “bold new approach” to the treatment of mental disorders—a community approach that would enable most people with psychological problems to receive services from nearby agencies rather than distant facilities or institutions. Congress passed the Community Mental Health Act soon after, launching the community mental health movement across the United States of America. A number of other countries launched similar movements. A key principle of community treatment is prevention. Here clinicians actively reach out to clients rather than wait for them to seek treatment. Research suggests that such efforts are often very successful. Community workers recognize three types of prevention, which they call primary, secondary, and tertiary. Primary prevention consists of efforts to improve community attitudes and policies. Its goal is to prevent psychological disorders altogether. Community workers may lobby for better community recreational programs or child-care facilities, consult with a local school board to help develop a curriculum, or offer health fairs or public workshops on stress reduction. Secondary prevention consists f identifying and treating psychological disorders in the early stages, before they become serious. Community workers may work with schoolteachers, ministers, or police to help them recognize the early signs of psychological dysfunction and teach them hoe to help people find treatment. The goal of tertiary prevention is to provide effective treatment as soon as it is needed so that moderate or severe disorders do not become long-term problems. #RandolphHarris 2 of 11
Today community agencies across the United States of America do successfully offer tertiary care for millions of people with moderate psychological problems, but they often fail to provide the services needed by hundreds of thousands with severe disturbances. Why has the community mental health approach fallen short for so many people with severe disturbances? One of the major reasons is lack of funding. In 1981, when only 750 of the 2,000 community mental health centers were in place across the United States of America, almost all federal funding was withdrawn and replaced with smaller financial grants to the states. As of 2019, there were 12,472 registered mental health treatment facilities in the United States of American. Within those, 9,766 were less than 24-hour outpatient facilities while 1,892 facilities were 24-hour inpatient facilities. So, although funding it limited, the picture is not grim. Those who need help are likely to find it. According to the American Psychological Association, 38 percent of people said their stress increased during the holiday season, which can lead to physical illness, depression, anxiety, and substance misuse. The reasons given: lack of time, financial pressure, gift-giving, and family gatherings. For someone struggling with drug or alcohol addiction, the holidays can be an especially difficult time trying to maintain sobriety. Interpersonal difficulties tend to be prolific in the lives of people with substance use problems. Research on interpersonal communication indicates that many such individuals also have problems with social skills. This may make them unable to resist peer pressure to initiate substance use, and/or may cause them to seek consolation in substance use when they have trouble resolving issues with other people. #RandolphHarris 3 of 11
A distinct literature has emerged on alcoholism and family-of-orientation experiences. Problems such as poor distance regulations, parenting problems, interpersonal conflict, and marital distress are clearly evident in families affected by an adult member’s alcoholism (sometimes referred to as “alcoholic families”). Paradoxically, for some such families, alcohol consumption may actually bring temporary stability to their interactions. The interpersonal conflict that is evident in family interactions also spills over into general personal relationships, such as those with peers and coworkers. Another distinct literature exists on adolescent substance use. This literature is dominated by a focus on family-of-origin experiences (although factors in the other three domains may play roles as well). Many young people who use and misuse drugs come from families with low cohesion and excessive adaptability; histories of maltreatment and parental modeling of the substance use behaviour are also evident in their family backgrounds. Interpersonal problems associated with substance use disorders may be complicated by comorbidity with other psychological problems that are disruptive to interpersonal communication and relationships, such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorders, and personality disorders. Most of the research reviewed in this report focuses on substance or alcohol dependence or abuse. Substance use studies are only considered for adolescent populations, as these are thought to identify the mechanisms that lead to abuse and/or dependence. This distinction between substance use and misuse is a social construction, and one that our society is still struggling with. #RandolphHarris 4 of 11
American society permits (and in some cases sanctions) the use of certain drugs, such as caffeine, nicotine, marijuana, and alcohol. However, some people believe that when children or adolescents are involved, the use of any drug is problematic and takes on the quality of a drug “problem.” Regardless of the veracity of this assumption, this is part of the reason why there has been considerable research attention paid to substance use in adolescents. Similarly, some feel that the use of any illegal drug by adults or children is problematic, again blurring the use and abuse distinction. Also, the diagnostic criteria for substance abuse (exempli gratia, failure to fulfill important occupational, social, or domestic roles as a result of substance use) may not be valid when applied to adolescents. A distinct body of literature exists on interpersonal concomitants of alcoholism, and this research is examined separately from that on other substance use problems. As noted above, alcohol is for the most part a socially accepted substance, so long as its use falls within certain parameters. There is reason to suspect a priori that the interpersonal consequences of alcohol abuse/dependence may differ from those of other substance abuse/dependence, due to the greater social stigma and lesser social tolerance of such substances as cocaine, heroin, and amphetamine. However, it is again important to remember that the different interpersonal reactions to people who are dependent on alcohol versus other drugs are not due to inherent differences in the nature of the substance, but rather are the results of social convention. Like other mental health problems, alcoholism has been associated with poor social skills in some studies. However, unlike the literature on other mental health problems, social skills deficits in this population have received only limited scientific attention, and the associated findings are more equivocal. #RandolphHarris 5 of 11
Contact with inpatients in an alcohol treatment program led researcher to note that many of these inpatients reported having interpersonal problems. In particular, they appeared to have deficiencies in social skills in the context of interactions with coworkers and bosses (exempli gratia, being underassertive, engaging in “explosive” verbal behaviour). For many patients, work-related problems led to problem drinking. Another study of inpatients with alcoholism found that they performed poorly on a facial expression decoding task. This unique investigation of social decoding skills found that these inpatients exhibited a general bias to overestimate the intensity of emotion conveyed by various facial expressions, and to interpret happy facial expressions as indicative of negative mood. Finally, it was also found that those with alcoholism are more likely than those without to experience anxiety over communication with other people. In a rare study of adolescents with problem drinking, it there was discovered a fairly linear association between 13- to 16-year-olds’ social skill and their drinking behaviour. A group of teens who did not drink had the highest social skills scores, followed by those who drank to some extent, and then those with problem drinking. In this study, 11 percent of those who drank and 50 percent of those with problem drinking were in the “incompetent” range on the social skills measure. Although some people with alcoholism may exhibit social skills deficits, it is also evident that some are quite functional socially. For example, researchers conducted an extensive assessment of social skills in inpatients with alcoholism through a series of role plays that called for such responses as alcohol refusal, assertion, and expressing positive sentiments. #RandolphHarris 6 of 11
Compared to a group of firefighters who served as a control group, the inpatients were rated as being less skillful in the alcohol refusal situations, but not in other social contexts. Furthermore, the inpatients actually performed better than the control group on an index of speech dysfluencies during their role plays. In a similar study, subjects with alcoholism performed better than psychiatric controls on role-play tests of social skills. When alcoholic subjects were asked to give their “typical” response in role-play social skills tests, they performed worse than controls, but when admonished to “give the very best response,” they were indistinguishable from controls. Research on social skills and alcoholism shows that poor social skills may be a problem in some cases of alcoholism. However, there is good reason to suspect that these skills deficits are not global or pervasive. Rather, they may be limited to social contexts such as negative assertion and refusal of alcohol when offered. In addition, when those with alcoholism do have problems with social skills, the problems may be due more to poor execution of the skills than to a lack of capacity for such skills. It is also possible that in such cases, prolonged problem drinking may deteriorate people’s motivation and energy for producing interpersonally skilled behaviour. When adversity comes knocking on the door or calamities occur, some people immediately think they have done something wrong, that God surely must be punishing them. They do not understand that God has a divine purpose for every challenge that comes into our lives. He does not send problems, but sometimes He allows us to go through them. “Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though some strange thing were happening to you,” reports 1 Peter 4.12. #RandolphHarris 7 of 11
Notice, the trial is intended to test your character, to test your faith. In other words, “Do not think it is a big deal when you go through these touch times.” If you will learn to cooperate with God and be quick to change and correct the areas He brings to light, then you will pass that test and you will be promoted to a new level. I have discovered that God is more interested in changing me than He is in changing my circumstances. I am not saying that God will not deliver us from our struggles by changing the circumstances. Certainly, He can and often does. However, most of the time, we are tested in the areas where we are the weakest. The Priest of God should approach the celebration of this Sacrament, the touching and consuming of this Sacrament, with humility and reverence, with full faith and pious intention to the honours of God. As for our conscience, give it a thorough going-over. Clean it up and clarify it with True Contrition and Humble Confession. Jesus Christ knows there is no such thing as the perfect Confession; just do the best one can, however imperfect it may seem at the time. The result is to rid ourselves of mortal sin; that is to say, anything that would bar our access to the Holy Table. One can never be truly happy because one is a sinful creature from the start, and one should be particularly sad about one’s daily excesses. Whenever time allows, one should confess to God in secret how one’s passions run wild, one’s concupiscence hoot and holler. Well, one asked for it, and here it is. A veritable litany of venial sins derived from a so-so spiritual life. So enslaved by one’s external senses, and yet so often enthralled in one’s airy fantasies. So deeply involved in the outer life, and yet so uninvolved about the inner life. #RandolphHarris 8 of 11
God often uses adversities to bring to light impurities in our characters, or areas in which we need to improve. God deliberately uses some situations as a mirror, so we can recognize the problem in ourselves and learn to deal with it. He is working something out of us so we can rise to a new level and be the people He really want us to be. God may use people and situations in one’s life to help one better see oneself. One’s own husband or wife, one’s in-laws, or one’s own children may be the unwitting mirrors that God uses to reveal areas where one needs to change. Just because you do not like your boss and he irritates you to no end, and you do not know why you have to work with him all day long, does not mean it is him who needs to change. Have you considered that God may want to change you? God may have purposely arranged for you to be in close proximity to that person who grates against you. He may be trying to teach you how to love your enemies. Or, He may be trying to toughen you up a little and teach you to have some endurance, to not run from everything that is hard, uncomfortable, or inconvenient. God is not going to change anyone you are dealing with until He first changes you. However, if you will quit complaining about everybody around you and, instead, start taking a good look inside and working with God to change you, God will change those other people. Begin today to examine your own heart and see if there are attitudes and motives that you need to change. So lithe to weep tears of laughter, and yet so loath to shed tears of sorrow. So quick to languor and torpor, and yet so slow to rigour and fervour. So conversant with the lively and the lovely, and yet so confounded by the sickly and the lowly. #RandolphHarris 9 of 11
So desirous when it comes to having, and yet so parsimonious when it comes to giving, and yet so tenacious when it comes to what you already have. So inconsiderate when talking, and yet so restless when listening. So disorderly when it comes to manners, and yet so reckless when it comes to actions. So overwhelming when it comes to the food on the table, and yet so underwhelming when it comes to the Word of God. So quick to quiet, and yet so slow to labour. So alert for courtly stories, and yet so drowsy when it comes to nightly vigils. So swift off the mark, and yet so rambling when it comes to the tape. So negligent in reciting the Holy Office, so tepid in celebrating the Mass, so arid in communicating the Host. SO easily distracted, and yet so rarely recollected. So quick to pleasure oneself, and yet so quick to displeasure others. So prone to quick decision and yet so supine when it comes to calm discussion. So exhilarated in prosperity, and yet so debilitated in adversity. So able to draw up a long agenda, and yet so unable to make a short list. So much for the No-No’s as derived from the lives of the So-So’s! Confess these and your other defects. Express great pain and displeasure at your continuing self-infirmity. Make a firm purpose to amend your life. Promise to do better. Then, with full resignation and yet wholeness of will, offer yourself, in honour of Jesus Christ’s name, as a perpetual holocaust on the altar of your heart. Faithfully commit your body and soul to Jesus Christ. Then and only then will you worthily deserve to approach the Holy Table to offer sacrifice to God and receive the Sacrament of Jesus Christ’s Body to salubrious effect. #RandolphHarris 10 of 11
No oblation is worthier and no satisfaction for getting rid of sins is greater than to offer oneself to God, pure and whole, when the bread and wine are offered up as Jesus’ Body and Blood, both in Mass and Communion. If one looks into oneself and is truly sorry for one’s sins, then one can come to Jesus as often as is necessary for forgiveness and grace. “I live, says the Lord; so why would I want the sinner to die? I just want one to reform one’s ways and live’; that is the Prophet Ezekiel to the captives of Babylon (33.11). “One’s sins I will stop recording, and one’s punishments I will see excused’; that is the Prophet Isaiah putting words into the Lord’s mouth (43.35). Dear Lord in Heaven, I want to be quick to change when You show me areas in which I need to improve. Please give me the courage, strength, and will to make the changes, and the patience to allow Your transforming process to do the complete work in me. O bless this people, Lord, who seek their own face under the mask and can hardly recognize it. O bless this people that breaks its bond and with them, all the peoples of Europe, all the peoples of Asia, all the peoples of Africa, all the peoples of America, who sweat blood and sufferings. And see, in the midst of these millions of waves the sea swell of the heads of my people. And grant to their warm hands that they may clasp the Earth in a girdle of brotherly hands, beneath the rainbow of peace. We thankfully acknowledge that Thou art the Lord our God and God of our fathers, the God of all that lives, our Creator and Creator of the Universe. We offer blessings and thanksgiving to Thy great and holy name because Thou hast kept us in life and sustained us; so mayest Thou continue to keep us in life and sustain us. O gather our exiles into the courts of Thy holy sanctuary to observe Thy statutes, to do Thy will, and to serve Thee with a perfect heart. We give thanks unto Thee. Blessed be God to whom we are ever grateful. #RandolphHarris 11 of 11
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Something we love even more about Residence One at Mills Station during the holidays? The fully-equipped kitchen! 🍽
Gotta love features like the large eat-in island, white Shaker cabinetry with under-cabinet lighting, stainless steel appliances, and quartz countertops. Oh, and don’t forget about the upgraded flooring! 😍 https://cresleigh.com/mills-station/residence-1/
Residence One at Mills Station holds 1,932 square feet of single story living. The open concept design includes three bedrooms, two bathrooms and a two car garage.
Each home includes a Home Hub located at the front of the home which can be used as a study, playroom or sitting room.
The Original Unresolved Situation with the Boss Will Not Change Magically!
The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children. Sociocultural theories have helped spur the growth of several treatment approaches. In culture-sensitive therapy, therapists seek to fully understand the cultural background of their clients and address cultural issues that may be linked to the individuals’ problems. In group therapy, therapists meet with a group of clients who all share similar problems. In family and couple therapy, the therapist and clients are joined by other family members. And in community treatment, the meetings take place in or near the client’s everyday environment. Therapists of any orientation may work with clients in these various formats, applying the techniques and principles of their preferred models. In cultural sensitive therapy, for example, a psychodynamic therapist may continue to view a client’s problems as manifestations of underlying conflict yet also pay attention to the individual’s cultural background and its impact on current functioning. Similarly, group therapists may follow the principles of psychodynamic, behavioural, cognitive, or humanistic therapy in their work with group members. In such instances the therapy approach is not purely sociocultural. However, more and more of the clinicians who use these formats believe that psychological problems emerge in a social setting and are best treated in such a setting and they include special sociocultural strategies in their work. A number of recent studies have found that people from ethnic and marginalized racial groups improve less in clinical treatment than members of the majority group. #RandolphHarris 1 of 21
Studies have been conducted throughout the World and have found that marginalized clients use mental health services less often than members of majority groups. Several factors may contribute to this underuse of services, as we have already discussed. However, in some cases, cultural beliefs, a language barrier, or lack of information about available services presents marginalized individuals from seeking help. In other cases, members of marginalized groups to not have the establishment, relying instead on traditional remedies that are available in their immediate social environment. Research also indicates that members of marginalized groups stop therapy sooner than persons from majority groups. This is perhaps because marginalized racial and ethnic groups may experience oppression and racism that they are not able to resolve because the government, nor those in leadership possession care and refuse to enforce the law, which causes mental distress for individual, which therapy and medication cannot sure since it is an external problem not a mental manifestation. And one can talk about it and medicate an individual until the end of days, but unless the true catalyst causing this distress is dealt with, nothing will change. In the United States of American, African Americans, Native Americans, Asian Americans, and Hispanic Americas all have higher therapy dropout rates than European Americans. Members of such groups may stop treatment because they do not feel they are benefiting from it or because ethnic and racial differences prevent the development of a strong rapport with their therapist. #RandolphHarris 2 of 21
When the Lord revealed to Moses the great purpose of life, He expressed Himself in these words: “For behold, this is my work and my glory—to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man,” reports Moses 1.39. Therefore, the Lord’s work is to bring about the resurrection (immortality of all of His Father’s children and make it possible for them to receive exaltation or godhood (eternal life). When one comes to understand these purposes, one’s heart rejoices in the knowledge that the greatest blessing available to man—godhood—may be received by those who desire it with all their hearts. In a glorious sermon preached by the Prophet Joseph Smith, this same fundamental purpose of Earth life was expressed—except that this time the other side of the matter, humankind’s responsibility, was emphasized: “You have got to learn how to be Gods yourselves, and to be kinds and priests to God.” Fundamental to our understanding of the reason for existence in mortality is our knowledge that men and women were born as spirit children of the Eternal Father and that Jesus Christ is our elder brother in the spirit. Because their status is transcendently greater than ours, we stand in awe at the thought of one day becoming as they. Nevertheless, we are begotten spirit children of the Eternal Father—born in the lineage of the gods—and we have within us the power, through the atonement of Jesus Christ, to rise to the heights of godhood. Earth life, a necessary part of eternal progression, is the proving ground for the exalted-to-be, a state in which we are undergoing a period of testing and proving to see if we will do the Lord’s will. “Then shall they be gods, because they have no end; therefore shall they be from everlasting to everlasting, because they continue; then shall they be above all, because all the things are subject unto them. Then shall they be gods, because they have all power, and the angels are subject unto them,” reports Doctrine and Covenants 132.20. #RandolphHarris 3 of 21
How can clinicians be more helpful to people from marginalized groups? A number of studies suggest that two features of treatment can increase a therapist’s effectiveness with marginalized clients: greater therapist sensitivity to cultural issues, and inclusion of cultural morals and models in treatment, especially in therapies for children and adolescents. Given such findings, clinicians have developed culture-sensitive therapies, approaches that seek to address the unique issues faces by members of marginalized groups. These approaches often include such feature as raising the consciousness of marginalized-group clients about the impact of the dominant culture and of their own culture on their self-views and behaviours, helping clients to express suppressed anger and pain, and helping clients to make choices that work for them and to achieve a bicultural balance that feels right for them. Therapies geared to the special pressures of being a woman in the New World society, called for gender-sensitive or feminists’ therapies, following similar principles. Victims of hate—the ongoing memorial services for Mr. Matthew Shepard, brutally beaten to death in 1998 because of his homosexual orientation, is a powerful reminder of the prejudice, discrimination, and even danger that members of marginalized groups can confront in our society. Culture-sensitives therapies seek to address the special impact of such stressors upon individuals, as well as other psychological issues. When a family member is addicted to alcohol or drugs, the whole family must deal with the situation. Family members may feel embarrassed or ashamed that their loved one is struggling with an addiction, and they may think they should handle the problem privately. However, outside help may be needed. A family should use any appropriate resources that are available to them, such as professional resources where necessary. #RnadolphHarris 4 of 21
Family members will find that love is more effective than shame or control in motivating addicts to change. If addicts feel shame—in other words, if they feel that they are inherently bad or unworthy because of their addiction—they may turn to alcohol or drugs to help dull the pain associated with tht shame. Christlike love, on the other hand, can give an addict hope and can help change the most desperate situation. However, love does not mean acceptance of sinful behaviour. Substance use disorders are divided into two groups: Substance dependence and substance abuse. Substance dependence involves a maladaptive pattern of substance use, associated with symptoms such as tolerance (the need for increased amounts to achieve the desired effect); withdrawal (physical and psychological distress associated with cessation); taking more of the substance, or taking the substance for longer periods of time, than intended; a persistent desire to ingest the substance; spending a great deal of time securing the substance for use; disruption of social, occupational, or recreational activities as a result of the substance use; and continuation despite awareness of problems associated with the substance use. As evident from these diagnostic criteria, interpersonal impairment (in the form of reduced or abandoned social, occupational, and recreational activities) is a fundamental symptom of substance dependence, although it is not necessary for a diagnosis. The primary feature of substance abuse is a maladaptive pattern of substance use that is associated with adverse effects. These adverse effects include, for example, failure to fulfill important occupational, social, or domestic roles; using the substance in such a way as to create physical hazards (such as driving an Ultimate Driving Machines (vehicle) while intoxicated. #RandolphHarris 5 of 21
Legal problems associated with the use of the substance are also adverse effects; along with continued use of the substance despite interpersonal problems that are caused or exacerbated by its use. Here again, interpersonal problems figure in the symptoms of substance abuse. Alcoholism is a specific class of the more general diagnosis of substance use disorders. The term alcoholism is generally used to refer to alcohol dependence and/or alcohol abuse. The defining features of alcohol dependence are the same as those of substance dependence more generally. What distinguishes alcohol dependence from alcohol abuse is the presence of tolerance, withdrawal, and alcohol-related compulsive behaviour in the person who is dependent on alcohol. In both cases, however, the substance is used in ways that culminate in physical, occupational, and interpersonal impairment. In many cases, these impairments may be evident before the onset of symptoms, leading to the observation that some people may use alcohol and/or drugs to cope with the very problems that their heavy use exacerbates. Results from the Epidemiologic Catchment Area study indicate that among people over 18 years of age in any given year, 7.4 percent will experience some form of alcohol use disorder, and 9.5 percent will experience some form of substance use disorder, alcoholism included. Lifetime prevalence estimates from National Comorbidity Survey are 14.1 percent for alcohol dependence and 9.4 percent for alcohol abuse. The lifetime prevalence for any substance abuse or dependence is nearly 27 percent. Among 17-year-olds, the point prevalence of substance abuse or dependence is just over 10 percent, and surveys of American high school students show that drug use has been on the rise since the early 1990s. Substance use disorders are about twice as common in men as in women. For men, the lifetime prevalence for any substance abuse or dependence is a staggering 35.4 percent. #RandolphHarris 6 of 21
There is an interesting relationship among gender, depression, and alcohol abuse/dependence. When men become depressed, they often seek solace in alcohol. Consequently, when their distress brings them to the attention of government authorities or health care professionals, they are prone to be diagnosed as having alcoholism rather than depression. This may, in part, account for the 2.1 ratio of female to male diagnoses for major depression. In a unique study of mood disorders among the Amish, an American subculture in which alcohol use in prohibited, the rates of such disorders were found to be one-half of what they were in the general population, and virtually identical in males and females. An obvious conclusion is that in the general population, alcoholism may mask depression in males. Living a successful life now is not always easy; sometimes it is downright difficult. For instance, you may be experiencing some sort of adversity in your daily life; you may not be exactly where you want t be physically, emotionally, intellectually, or spiritually. Someone close to you may be hard to get along with. Or maybe you have other obstacles in your path. Regardless of what is going on in our life, do not use that as an excuse to live in discouragement and despair. Understand, the tough times of life cause us to grow; that is when our faith is stretched. That is when God is doing a work in us. It may be uncomfortable. We may not like it, but if we can keep the right attitude, God has promised to use that difficulty for our good. He will use it for our advantage. If God were to remove that adversity, you would not be prepared for what He ahs in store for you. I know that can be hard to understand. We think, “God, why am I still in this situation?” “God, why do I have to work around these people I do not like?” Or, “Why am I still having these difficulties?” #RandolphHarris 7 of 21
That is the wrong approach. Our attitude should be, “God, I understand You are in complete control of my life, and You have got me exactly where You want me to be, so I am going to stay filled with faith. I am going to stay full of joy and keep pressing on, knowing that You care for me and will use these difficulties to my advantage.” Your faith is similar to a muscle. It grows stronger through resistance. It is exercised when it is being stretched, when it is being pushed to the limits. That is why God does not usually deliver us from adversity overnight. He does not remove us from every uncomfortable situation in a split second. God uses those times to build our spiritual bank accounts. Some people live in despair and disappointment, all because their circumstances are not exactly what they desire them to be. People like that are not going to be happy unless everything is going their way, everybody is treating them right, and they are immune from experiencing discomfort. In other words, they probably never will be happy! Besides, that is a very shallow way to life. If you lose your joy every time something negative happens to you, then the enemy will continue to attack. He will make sure you always have somebody in your life who irritates you, or some situation that is going to keep you sour. However, do not make that mistake. Our Scripture says that, “the steps of a good human are ordered by the LORD,” reports Psalm 37.23. If God is directing our steps, we can be confident that He is aware of our circumstances. If one does not learn to be happy where one is, one will never get to where one wants to be. One may be dealing with difficult circumstances and may have a thousand reasons why one could be unhappy, but do not slip into that trap. #RandolphHarris 8 of 21
Choose to enjoy each day in spite of one’s circumstances. Every day that one lives with a negative attitude, dominated by one’s discouragements, is a day one has wasted. And what a shame to waste what God has given us! Understand, adversities are simply a test of one’s faith. Perhaps God wants to see how one will treat other people when one is not being treated well. God may want to see how one is going to respond if one does not get the promotion one was hoping for. If one’s prayers are not answered as quickly as one would like, what kind of attitude is one going to have? In tough times, our characters develop. Something happens on the inside; God is causing us to grow up. If He delivered us instantaneously from every problem, we would never need any faith. Moreover, we would never develop into the persons God really wants us to be. The Scripture says, “God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose,” reports Romans 8.28. One may be in a difficult situation today. One may be in a hard place in one’s finances. Friend, God will not allow a difficulty to come into one’s life unless He has a purpose for it. Granted, there are times when we cannot understand what we are going through or why, but we must learn to trust God and believe that He is going to being some kind of good out of it. Dear Lord in Heaven, I may not understand this situation, this World, these same people, but wide unclasp the tables of my thoughts. This situation may not be good, but I know You will work it for my good. It is stretching me. I know I am growing, and I am building up my spiritual bank account, and am going to come out of this stronger, happier, healthier, and better off than I was previously. #RandolphHarris 9 of 21
All one has to do now is offer sacrifice to God at the appropriate times and places and see that one’s behaviour is above reproach. However, when all the dignities of the Priesthood newly heaped upon one, one might expect that one could slough one’s other burdens, lighten one’s lead, that sort of thing. Yes, one could think that, but just the opposite is true. Now one is bound with a tighter chain of discipline, and one is held to a higher level of holiness. The Priest’s conduct should show off all the virtues to their best advantage; that is what the Letter of Titus urged (2.7). That is to say, in one’s daily round the Priest should show that the good and virtuous life can indeed be lived on this Earth. As for one’s conversation, one should shy away from the things people like to gossip about. Rather, one should save one’s own talk for the Angels in Heaven—an echo of Philippians (3.20)—and the other humans on this Earth who are seeking perfection. The Priest clothed in sacred vestments carries on what Jesus Christ began. In Christ’s stead, yet as a humble suppliant, representing not only oneself, but all the rest of the populace, one speaks in our behalf to God the Father; sounds like Hebrews (5.3). On the front and back of one’s vestment, to make one mindful of the Passion of Christ, one wears the sign of the cross. The one on the front of the chasuble reminds one to look for the footprints of Christ and to follow them fervently; Jesus is making a passing reference here to First Peter (2.21). The one on the back of the chasuble, to bear up under whatever the mob will toss at one. The cross in front reminds one to mourn for clemency for one’s own sins. The one in the back, to lament through compassion the sins of others and know that one oneself is an intermediary between God and sinner. May the priest not lose one’s interest in prayer and offering the Holy Sacrifice. Rather, one should hammer these home until one deserves, somehow, to receive Grace and Mercy. #RandolphHarris 10 of 21
When the Priest celebrates Mass, one honours God, cheers up the Angels, strengthens the fabric of the Church, helps the living, and gives rest to the dead. And one makes oneself partaker of all good things between God and Humankind. “I will give unto thee the keys of the kingdom of Heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt bind on Earth shall be bound in Heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt loose on Earther, shall be loosed in Heaven,” reports Matthew 16.19. The authority of binding and loosing is on Earth. One has that authority. One translation says, “You have authority to bind what is bound in Heaven and to loose what is loosed in Heaven.” Ask yourself, “What is bound in Heaven?” The curse is bound in Heaven. There is no poverty there, no sickness, no sorrow, no pain. Jesus said we have authority to bind those things here on Earth. Prayer is one of the ways to bind and loose. “Pray ye…Thy will be done in Earth, as it is in Heaven,” reports Matthew 6.10. How is it in Heaven? What is loosed there? Abundance, life, happiness, health, joy, peace, and Jesus Christ gave you authority to loose those things here on Earth. Words bind and loose. Your words are your bond. Your words are you authority in the Earth. Whoever shall say and shall not doubt in one’s heart, but shall believe that those things which one saith shall come to pass; one shall have whatsoever one saith. The things you say are the things you will eventually believe. The things you believe are the things you will eventually receiver. What will you say—poverty or wealth? What will you bind—sickness or health? What will you loose—fear or faith? One can release the ability of God through the words of one’s mouth—or one can talk one’s problem, pray one’s problem, hold fast to one’s problem, and one’s problem will become greater. If one talks one’s problem until one’s neighbour’s start believing it, they will tell someone else about it. Soon one will have a whole group of people believing that one has a problem. Then one does have a problem! For Jesus said, “if two of you shall agree on Earth,” reports Matthew 18.19. #RandolphHarris 11 of 21
Does one seek what speaking one’s problem will do? Do not ever talk one’s problem before people that believe in problems. Find someone that believes in answers from the Word, someone that will agree that the problem is removed. “Let go of the problem and cast the whole of your care over on the Lord,” reports 1 Peter 5.7. Take hold of the answer. Hold fast to the answer until that is all one can see. The story is told of a lady that looked out her back door and saw her three children playing with three little skunks. She shouted, “Run, kids, run!” And they did. Each one grabbed up their little skunk and took off running! That reminds me so much of Christians who bring their problems to the alter and say, “Here is the problem, Lord,” but when they get up, they take their stinky problem with them! They go home and worry about it all night. If they are worrying over it, they still have it. They have not left it with God. For example, let us suppose one has an antique Civil War watch from the Battle of Monocacy that does not run. One takes it to a jeweler and asks one to fix it for one. As one is holding it in one’s hand, one keeps asking one when One is going to fix it. One replies, “When you give it to Me.” If one has the watch (problem), God cannot fix it. However, when God has the problem, one does not have it any more. It is foolish to worry over something one does not have. When one is holding onto the problem, God’s hands are bound. When one turns it loose, then God can do something about it. “Casting all your care upom Him; for He careth for you,” reports 1 Peter 5.7. One did not say to pray that God will take your cares. God will not take them from one. One instructs one to get rid of them by casting all one’s cares upon God. He will not take them, but He will receive them. We are to hold fast to the confession and not to the problem. Hold fast to the confession, I believe that I receive when I pray. #RandolphHarris 12 of 21
When someone says, “Things sure do not look too good,” just reply, “I am not moved by how things look, or how I feel. I am moved by what I believe and I believe that it was settled when I prayed.” Jesus said, “When ye pray, believe that ye receive them and ye shall have them,” reports Mark 11.24. “One that believeth…hath,” reports John 6.47. “One shall have whatsoever one saith,” reports Mark 11.23. “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh,” reports Matthew 12.34. “A good human out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things,” reports Matthew 12.35. Anger in a relationship is like salt in a meal. Too little leaves things drab and tasteless. Too much poisons. However, a pinch now and then makes for a savory friendship All people feel angry from time to time. It is a natural and important feeling. However, many Christians have been conditioned to see anger as an undesirable response. And it is true that anger can be expressed in manipulative ways. The Critical Christian uses anger to manipulate self and others. One is stuck on the anger polarity. What the Critical Christian and all of us need to learn is how to deal with our anger in actualizing ways. One can choose to eexpress oneself angrily most of the time or one may choose never to express one’s anger, but it usually comes out in some manner. Anger that is not sufficiently acknowledged or expressed creates an unfinished situation within. The repressed anger then comes out in indirect and unconscious ways. For instance, then man who gets mad at his boss, but keeps smiling in order not to make waves, may go home and yell at his spouse over some trivial event. The spouse then displaces her anger onto the children, who may in their turn kick the Nacho (the dog). All this displacement causes confusion, hurt feelings, and no constructive gain of awareness for anyone. #RandolphHarris 13 of 21
Besides this, the original unresolved situation with the boss will not change magically. Rather it will fester like a painful sore. In feeling angry toward another person, one should first seek within oneself for the source of the irritation and communicate honestly with oneself about the cause. Then, if it would be constructive, one can find some way to honestly let the other person know so that the person can take the feeling into account. Otherwise, the other person is left in the dark, and the relationship may turn sour It is or this reason that Paul writes: “If you are angry, do not sin by burnings your grudge. Do not let the sun go down with you still angry—get it over quickly,” reports Ephesians 4.26. Paul encourages the Christians to learn how to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4.15). For the actualizing Christian, anger is expressed as responsible assertion. It reflects sensitivity to oneself and others. It involves learning to stand on one’s own feet and take up for oneself or others when it is appropriate to do so. The point most people miss regarding anger is that our anger is a part of us. It does not belong to the other person in the sense that the other person created our anger. Our anger is our response to that person’s behaviour. If people remembered this and did not blame others, the expression of anger would be much more constructive. Second Wave civilization gave us the comfortable assurance that we knew (or at least could know) what caused things to happen. It told us that every phenomenon occupied a unique, determinable location in space and time. It told us that the same condition always produced the same results. It told us that the entire Universe consisted, so to speak, of cue sticks, and billiard balls—causes and effect. #RandolphHarris 14 of 21
This mechanistic view of causality was—and still is—extremely useful. It helps us cure disease, build giant skyscrapers, design ingenious machines, and assemble huge organizations. Yet, powerful as it is in explaining phenomena that work like simple machines, it has proved far less satisfactory in explaining phenomena like growth, decay, sudden breakthroughs to new levels of complexity, big changes that suddenly fizzle out or, conversely, those tiny—often chance—events that occasionally mushroom into giant, explosive forces. Today the Newtonian pool table is being shoved into a corner of the cosmic playroom. Mechanistic causality is seen as a special case applying to some but not al phenomena, and scholars and scientists all over the World are piecing together a new view of change and causation more in keeping with our rapidly changing view of nature, evolution, and progress, of time, space, and matter. The Japanese-born epistemologist Magoroh Maruyama, the French sociologist Edgar Morin, information theorists like Stafford Beer and Henri Laborit, and many others are providing clues to how causation works in nonmechanical systems that live, die, grow, and undergo both evolution and revolution. The Belgian Nobel Prize-winner, Ilya Prigogine, offers us a staggering synthesis of the ideas of order and chaos, chance and necessity, and how these relate to causation. In part, the emerging Third Wave causality arises from a key concept of systems theory: the idea of feedback. A classic example used to illustrate this notion is the home thermostat that maintains room temperature at an even level. The thermostat turns on the furnace, the monitors the resulting temperature rise. When the room is warm enough, it turns the furnace off. When the temperature falls, it senses this change in its environment and flicks the furnace on again. #RandolphHarris 15 of 21
What we see here is a feedback process that preserves equilibrium, damping down or suppressing change when it threatens to exceed a given level. Called “negative feedback,” its function is to maintain stability. Once negative feedback was defined and explored by information theorists and systems thinkers in the late 1940’s and early 1950’s, scientists began looking for examples or analogues of it. And with rising excitement, they found similar stability-protecting systems in every field from physiology (for example, the process by which the body maintains its temperature) to politics (as in the way an “establishment” damps out dissent when it goes beyond an acceptable level). Negative feedback seemed to be at work all around us, causing things to retain their equilibrium or stability. By the early 1960’s, however, critics like Professor Maruyama began to note that too much attention was being paid to stability and not enough to change. What was needed, he argued, was more research on “positive feedback”—processes that do not suppress change but amplify it, do not maintain stability but challenge it, sometimes even overwhelming it. Positive feedback, Professor Maruyama emphasized, can take a small deviation or “kick” in the system and magnify it into a giant structure-threatening shudder. If the first kind of feedback was change-reducing or “negative,” here was a whole class of processes that were change-amplifying or “positive,” and both needed equal attention. Positive feedback could illuminate causation in many previously puzzling processes. Because positive feedback breaks stability and feeds on itself, it helps explain vicious circles—and virtuous ones. Imagine the thermostat again, but with its sensor or its trigger mechanism reversed. Every time the room got warm, the thermostat, instead of shutting off the furnace, would click in on, forcing the temperature to hotter ad hotter levels. #RandolphHarris 16 of 21
Or imagine the game of Monopoly (or, for that matter, the game of real-life economics) in which the more money a player has, the more property one can buy, which means more rental income and therefore more money with which to buy property. Both are examples of positive feedback at work. Positive feedback helps explain any process that is self-excitatory—like arms race, for example, in which ever time China builds a new weapon the United States of American builds a bigger one, which then motivates China to not only build yet another one, but recruit more troops to the point of global insanity. And when we put negative and positive feedback together and see how richly these two different processes interplay in complex organisms, from the human brain to an economy, startling insights emerge. Indeed, once we as a culture recognize that any truly complex system—whether a biological organism, a city, or the international political order—is likely to have within it both change amplifiers and change reducers, positive as well as negative feedback loops interacting with one another, we begin to glimpse a whole new level of complexity in the World with which we are dealing. Our understandings of causation is advanced. Yet another leap in understanding occurs when we further recognize that these change reducers and amplifiers are not necessarily built into biological or social systems from the beginning; they may be absent at first, then grow into place, as it were, sometimes as a result of what amounts to chance. A stray event can thus trigger a fantastic chain of unexpected consequences. This tells us why change is so often so hard to track and extrapolate, so filled with surprise. #RandolphHarris 17 of 21
It is why a slow, steady process can suddenly convert into an explosive change, or vice versa. And this in turn explains why similar starting conditions may lead to sharply dissimilar outcomes—an idea alien to the Second Wave mentality. The Third Wave causality that is gradually taking shape pictures a complex World of mutually interacting forces, a World filled with astonishment, with change amplifiers as well as reducers and many other elements as well—not just billiard balls clacking predictably and endlessly against one another on the cosmic pool table. It is a World far stranger than simple Second Wave mechanism suggested. Is everything predictable in principle, as Second Wave mechanical causality implied? Or are things inherently, unavoidably unpredictable, as critics of mechanism have insisted? Are we governed by chance or necessity? Third Wave causality has exciting new things to say about this ancient contradiction as well. In fact, it helps us escape at last from the either/or trap that for so long has pitted determinists against antideterminists—necessity against chance. And this may be its most important philosophical breakthrough. Since liberty is not a fruit of every climate, it is not within the reach of all peoples. The more one meditates on this principle established by Montesquieu, the more one is aware of its truth. The more one contests it, the more occasions there are for establishing it by means of new proofs. In all the governments in the World, the public person consumes, but produces nothing. Whence therefore does it get the substance it consumes? It is from the labour of its members. It is the surplus of private individuals that produces what is needed by the public. Whence it follows that the civil state can subsist only so long as men’s labours produces more than they need. #RandolphHarris 18 of 21
On the other hand, not all governments are of the same nature. They are more or less voracious; and the differences are founded on this added principle that the greater the distance the public contributions are from their source, the more onerous they are. It is not on the basis of the amount of the taxes that this burden is to be measured, but on the basis of the path they have to travel in order to return to the hands from which they came. When this circulation is prompt and well established, it is unimportant whether one pays little or a great deal. The populace is always rich and the finances are always in good shape. One the contrary, however little populace gives, when this small amount does not return, it is soon wiped out by continual giving. The state is never rich and the populace is always destitute. It follows from this that the greater the distance between the people and the government, the more onerous the taxes become. Thus in a democracy the populace is the least burdened; in an aristocracy it is more so; in a monarchy it bears the heaviest weight. Monarchy, therefore, is suited only to wealthy nations; aristocracy to states of moderate wealth and size; democracy to the states that are small and poor. In fact, the more one reflects on it, the more one finds in it the difference between free and monarchial state. In the former, everything is used for the common utility. In the latter, the public and private forces are reciprocal, the one being augmented by the weakening of the other. Finally, instead of governing subjects in order to make them happy, despotism makes them miserable in order to govern them. Thus in each climate there are natural causes on the basis of which one can assign the form of government that the force of the climate requires, and can even say what kind of inhabitants is should have. #RandolphHarris 19 of 21
Barren and unproductive lands, where the product is not worth the labour, ought to remain uncultivated and deserted, or people only by people who do not care for civilization. Places where men’s labour yields only what is necessary ought to be inhabited by barbarous peoples; in places such as these all polity would be impossible. Places where the surplus of products over labour is moderate are suited to free peoples. Those where an abundant and fertile soil produces a great deal in return for a small amount of labour require a monarchical form of government, in order that the subject’s excess of surplus of products over labour is moderate are suited free peoples. Those where an abundant and fertile soil produces a great deal in return for a small amount of labour require a monarchial form of government than dissipated by private individuals. I realize that there are exceptions; but these exceptions themselves prove the rule, in that sooner or later they produce revolutions that restore things to the order us nature. Nevertheless the presence of an evil tyranny ought not blind. In Russia, Stalin’s dictatorial control was expounded and accepted theoretically as a purely temporary measure on the road to full democratic freedom, and so was Hilter’s dictatorial control expounded and accepted as a temporary, but ultimate ideal in itself. The dangers to which tyrants expose the human race are immeasurably larger than those to which Capitalism exposes it. For no matter how materialistic, selfish, and greedy Capitalists become, they always remain in theory an anguished and desperate attempt to win justice for the underprivileged and to compel the social whole to accept responsibility for their unavoidable sufferings. However, the ultimate trend of tyrants is only the animalization of all human capital. All that gives dignity and worth to human beings, all their ethics and rationality, all their art and idealism will disappear under tyrants within a generation or two. #RandolphHarris 20 of 21
The disfigured form of humans would thenceforth bear a close resemblance to the worst kind of beast, albeit a cunning one, whose God is Hatred. However, Capitalism has its superiority at most, in that it took America out of Communism (slavery), and arose by allowing the inspiration of great hope. Slavery forces the World unwillingly into a struggle to the death, and the leaders of Communism are now forcing the World into that same kind of struggle. The human race is being made to chalk out a boundary line and to take sides in preparation for the inevitable. The responsibility for this degeneration does not lie with those who still believe in the ideals of freedom and truth, but with those who reject these ideals. The guilt does not let with those who seek to defend themselves against the aggressions of an evil doctrine, it lies with those who spread this doctrine by every means, including the most criminal means. Now with my hands but with my heart I bless you: may peace forever dwell within your breast! May Truth’s white light move with you and possess you—and may your thoughts and words wear her bright crest! May Time move down its endless path of beauty conscious of you and better for your being! Spring after Spring array itself in splendour seeking the favour of your sentient seeing! May hills lean toward you hills and windswept mountains, and trees be happy that have seen you pass—your eyes dark kinsmen to the stars above you—your feet remembered by the blades of grass! We thankfully acknowledge Thee, O Lord our God, our fathers’ God to all eternity. Our Rock art Thou, our Shield that saves through every generation. We give Thee thanks and we declare Thy praise for all Thy tender care. Our lives we trust into Thy loving hand. Our souls are ever in Thy charge; Thy wonders and Thy miracles are daily with us, evening, morn and noon. O Thou who art all-good, whose mercies never fail us, Compassionate One, whose lovingkindnessess never cease, we ever hope in Thee. #RandolphHarris 21 of 21
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The Genius of Impeachment is it Can Punish the Person without Punishing the Office!
The past two years have not been the most actives times for many of us. As you are aware, we have been somewhat restricted due to a condition know as growing older. I believe I now understand a bit more clearly what is meant by enduring to the end. It is difficult and frustrating not to be able to do all that we would like to do. Nevertheless, many of us still do several things. We are richly blessed and have so much to be thankful for. As we meditate upon these things, remember the words of the Lord, “For unto whomsoever much is given, of one much shall be required,” reports Luke 12.48. The Lord expects of us righteousness and obedience to His commandments in return for the bounties of life He has so richly bestowed upon us. It seems that iniquity abounds on all sides, with the Adversary taking full advantage of the time remaining to him in this day of his power. The leaders of the Church continually cry out against that which is intolerable in the sight of the Lord: against pollution of mind and body and our surroundings; against vulgarity, stealing, lying, cheating, false witness, boastful pride, blasphemy, and drunkenness; against fornication, adultery, risky lifestyles, and all other abuses of the sacred power to create; against murder and all that is like unto it; against all manner of degradation and sin. Culture refers to the set of values, attitudes, and beliefs, history, and behaviour shared by a group of people and communicated from one generation to the next. Culture often influences which behaviours are considered abnormal and how other people react to such behaviours. If, for example, a person’s friends and family value and encourage drinking large quantities of alcoholic beverage, the individual may be more inclined to turn to alcohol at times of stress and to drift into a pattern of problem drinking; and interventions for such a pattern may be avoided. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20
During the past four decades, sociocultural researchers have greatly increased their focus on possible ties between culture and abnormal behaviour. They have learned that some of the disorders we see—anorexia nervosa, agoraphobia, borderline personality disorder—are much less common in non-Western countries. It may be that key Western values—such as the importance of thin appearance, emphasis on high mobility, and endorsement of emotional expression—help set the stage for such disorders. Sociocultural theorists are also concerned with the social networks in which people operate, including their social and professional relationships. How well do they communicate with others? What kind of signals do they send to or receiver from others? Researchers have often found ties between deficiencies in social networks and a person’s functioning. They have noted, for example, that people who are isolated and lack social support or intimacy in their lives are more likely to become depressed when under stress and to remain depressed longer than people with supportive spouses or warm friendships. Wide-ranging societal conditions may create special stresses and increase the likelihood of abnormal functioning in some members. Researchers have learned, for example, that psychological abnormality, especially severe psychological abnormality, is more common in the lower socioeconomic classes than in the higher ones. Perhaps the special pressures of the lower-class life explain this relationship. That is, the higher rates of crime, unemployment, overcrowding, and homelessness; the inferior medical care; and the limited educational opportunities of lower-class life may place great stress on members of these groups. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20
Conversely, it may be that people who suffer from severe mental disturbances are less effective at work and earn less money and, as a result, drift downward to a lower socioeconomic class. Sociocultural researchers have noted that racial and sexual prejudice and discrimination may also contribute to certain forms of abnormal functioning. Women in Western society receive diagnoses of anxiety and depressive disorders at least twice as often as men. Similarly, African America experience unusually high rates of anxiety disorders. Hispanic persons, particularly young men, have higher rates of alcoholism than members of most other ethnic groups. And Native Americas display exceptionally high alcoholism and suicide rates. Although many factors may combine to produce these differences, racial and sexual prejudice and the problems they pose may contribute to abnormal patterns of tension, unhappiness, low self-esteem, and escape. The pressures and uncertainty of living in a war-torn environment, which many people believe the United States of America has become with all the violence, rioting, looting, fake news, pandemic, and traffic fatalities, may contribute to the development of psychological problems. The environment’s ongoing violence may leave some individuals feeling numb and confused. Also, more people are frequently moving away from the church and being taught that it is okay to be dysfunctional. Sociocultural theorists also believe that abnormal functioning is influenced greatly by the labels and role assigned to troubled people. When people stray from the norms of their society, the society call them deviant and, in many cases, “mentally ill.” Such labels tend to stick. Moreover, when people are viewed in particular ways, reacted to as “crazy,” and perhaps even encouraged to act sick, they gradually learn to accept and play the assigned role. Ultimately the label seems appropriate. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20
A famous study by the clinical investigator David Rosenhan (1973) supports this position. Eight normal people presented themselves at various mental hospitals, complaining that they have been hearing voices say the words “empty,” “hollow,” and “thud.” On the basis of the complaint alone, each was diagnosed as having schizophrenia and admitted. As the sociocultural model would predict, the “pseudopatients” had a hard time convincing others that they were well once they had been given the diagnostic label. With that being known, some corrupt politicians and lawyers frame people from crimes, have them declared incompetent to stand trial, and then they are basically able to convict individuals without a trial, even if they are innocent. The people in this study, their hospitalizations ranged from 7 to 52 days, even the label kept influencing the way the staff viewed and dealt with them. For example, one pseudopatient who paced the corridor out of boredom was, in clinical notes, described as “nervous.” Finally, the pseudoppatients reported that the staff’s behaviour toward them and other patients was often authoritarian, limited, and counterproductive. Overall, the pseduopatients came to feel powerless, invisible, and bored. As Christians we must ever be vigilant. The way for each person and each family to guard against the slings and arrows of the Adversary and to prepare for the great Lord is to hold fast to the iron rod, to exercise greater faith, to repent of our sins, and shortcomings, and to be anxiously engaged in the work of God’s Kingdom on Earth. We must not falter nor weary in well-doing. We must lengthen our stride. Not only is out own eternal welfare at stake, but also the eternal welfare of money of our brothers and sisters. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20
Given the often disturbed parent-child relationships associated with anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa, it is not surprising that a number of other mental health problems tend to covary with these disorders. Chief among these are depressed, substance use disorders, and anxiety disorders. It is important to note that these related mental health problems may in some cases be secondary to the eating disorder, and more strongly associated with poor family relationships than with the eating disorder. The elevated incidence of BPD (borderline personality disorder) among patients with eating disorders (running at high as 40 percent) is also notable, in that symptoms of this disorder include difficulties with personal relationships, poor anger control, impulsivity, and affective instability. Also notable is the fact that childhood sexual abuse has been implicated in both BPD and bulimia nervosa. There is some evidence to suggest that the eating disorder-personality disorder comorbidity is different for different types of eating disorders. In particular, bulimia nervosa is associated with a high rate of BPD, whereas anorexia nervosa is associated with a relatively high rate of avoidant personality disorder. These differing rates of personality disorders may reflect different interpersonal mechanisms in bulimia nervosa (exempli gratia, approach-avoidance conflicts) versus anorexia nervosa (exempli gratia, concern with social evaluation). Rates of anxiety disorders also run very high among those with eating disorders. Among probands diagnosed with bulimia nervosa in one large-scale study, the comorbidity with anxiety disorders was 42 percent for phobias, 11 percent for generalized anxiety disorder, and 9 percent for panic disorder. #RandolphHarris 5 of 20
In most cases, the anxiety comes first and is followed by the eating disorder. A particular type of self-conscious social anxiety—one that causes people to be ultraconcered with appearance and thinness—many strongly contribute to the development of an eating disorder. In this case, again, a concern with interpersonal or social relations appears to be the common link between the anxiety and the eating disorder. The comorbidity of eating disorders with other interpersonally oriented mental health problems suggests that eating disorders reside in a nomological network that also holds problematic interpersonal relationships and functioning in close proximity. There is an undeniable association between eating disorders and past (id est, childhood) as well as concurrent interpersonal relationship problems. Distressed and dysfunctional family-of-origin interactions are common antecedents to both anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa. Families of people with these problems have difficulty setting and respecting appropriate boundaries, adapting to change, and containing their criticism of each other. In extreme cases, boundary violations in these families may take the form of childhood sexual abuse, particularly in the case of those who go on to develop bulimia nervosa. Parents in these families also sometimes exert inappropriate and excessive pressure to achieve on their children. Sadly, interpersonal problems do not always end when offspring with eating disorders leave their families of origin. These young adults depart from their families with dysfunctional attitudes and beliefs about close relationships with other people. They may eschew physical intimacy with others, partly out of their dissatisfaction with their own bodies, and partly out of anxiety about sexuality. Unfortunately, other people do not appear particularly eager to develop romantic or other relationships with those who have an eating disorder. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20
When people with anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa do get married, they are likely to find themselves in dissatisfying marriages. Still evident at this advanced stage of interpersonal development and experience are avoidance of physical intimacy and poor conflict-handling skills. Not surprisingly, the spouse of people with eating disorders are also unhappy with the state of their marriages. The pervasiveness and seriousness of interpersonal problems associated with eating disorders may explain why family and interpersonal therapies are so effective for their treatment. Therapies that focus on understanding and improving the interpersonal landscape of patients with eating disorders, even though they do not focus on the disorders per se, tend to be more effective for treating such disorders than traditional cognitive or behavioural therapies are. If some sense of order can be brought to these patients’ interpersonal and family relations, symptoms of eating disorders may dissipate without any specific attention being paid to them. A number of very useful interpersonal theories have been developed to explain and describe eating disorders. These include the modeling of inappropriate dieting and eating behaviors by a parent; the psychodynamic explanation of food’s symbolic significance in the battle for separation—individuation between the mother and daughter; attempts to “desexualize” the self, either in reaction to sexual abuse or as a means of avoiding upcoming sexual maturity; and a diathesis—stress model, which indicates that certain preexisting temperamental patterns may combine with the experience of stressors (perhaps from the family of origin) to promote eating disorders. Both anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa tend to coexist with several other psychological problems, including depression, BPD, and anxiety disorders. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20
Even a brief perusal of the literature associated with these disorders will reveal a number of common interpersonal antecedents and concomitants. Among these are rejection from others, childhood abuse and trauma, and uncaring family relations. Finally, it is important to note that not all people with eating disorders have grossly disturbed interpersonal and family relations. Like any mental health problem, eating disorders may be caused by a variety of factors, only some of which are interpersonal. However, a full appreciation of the experience of anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa demands a careful consideration of the social/interpersonal context in which these problems are deeply embedded. However, we have hope in Jesus Christ here and now. He died for our sins. Because of Him and His gospel, our sins are washed away in the waters of baptism; sin and iniquity are burned out of our souls as though by fire; and we become clean, we have a clear conscience, and we gain that peace which passeth understanding. We believe, and it is our testimony, and we proclaim it to the World, “that there shall be no other name given nor any other way nor means whereby salvation can come unto the children of men, only in and through the name of Jesus Christ, the Lord Omnipotent,” reports Mosiah 3.17. Many individuals spend their lives looking in their rearview mirrors thinking about what could have been, what should have been; always dwelling on the pains of the past so much so that they may lose what they have today because they are so full of hostility, bitterness, resentment and anger. This negativity fuels with the rage to commit crimes to get revenge on innocent victims, which may result in the lose of their homes, cars, jobs, and even their retirement. However, the prospect of sinking that venom into someone else is so strong that they are blind. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20
Carrying around a victim mentality like that will develop such a strong vortex that you will interfere with God’s plan and block out the blessing in your life because your tornado of evil is so strong. The Scripture says that God wants to give us beauty for our ashes, joy for our mourning, rejoicing for our heaviness. However, here is the key: You have to get rid of that venom before you can taste the honey. Venom is what is left over after something has been burned up and one seeks revenge. We all have our share of pain, broken dreams, disappointments, hurts, and failures. However, God wants to give of compassion, mercy, grace, and love in exchange for them. “The Spirit of the Lord God is upon Me, because the LORD has anointed Me to preach good tidings to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted…to console those who mourn in America, to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness,” reports Isaiah 61.1-3. You cannot hold on to doom and gloom and have the beauty at the same time. If you want God to give you fresh, new dreams, then you must let go of your shattered dreams. Stop dwelling on your disappointments. Forgive the people who you feel have hurt you. Stop being evil and ghetto and jealous and bitter. Release that dysfunctional behaviour and God will give you a new beginning. If you do not let go of the old, God will not do the new and that is a heavy price to pay. Truth is, you may never understand why. Just let go of the venom. Learn to trust God. He has a new beginning for you, but you dare not make the mistake of being trapped in the hood, carrying around that some old bag, living with the victim mentality. I know a man who lost his wife in a tragic plane crash more than twenty years ago. She was a very beautiful and outgoing woman. Now, it is normal to go through a period of grieving. That is the way God made us. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20
If you have lost a job, a marriage, or most certainly a loved one, I am not saying that you should never feel discouragement or sorrow. However, this man was still grieving twenty years later! He allowed a season of mourning to turn into a lifetime of mourning. I tried to encourage him, reminding him that there are good days ahead. However, he would never receive that. He was trapped in the past. He was constantly making excuses, blaming God, blaming other people. Now, I do not mean to sound harsh, but over time, I began to realize that the grieving man did not really want to get well. He licked wallowing in self-pity. He liked the attention that it got him. He became known as “the man who lost his beloved.” Sadly, he let his tragedy become his identity. To this day, he is living a depressed and defeated life, almost as if he feels guilty because he knows he did something wrong to cause the accident. He is holding on to pain. God wants to give him a new beginning, but he will not let go of the old, he interfering with God’s plan to do something fresh and new in his life. When you are tempted to sit around feeling sorry for yourself, complaining about how unfair life is, ask yourself a tough question: “Do I really want to get well, or have I gotten comfortable with where I am in life?” Do not ever let your setback become your identity. To put in bluntly, if you were mistreated as you were growing up, you have got to get over that. Quit mourning about something that you cannot change. Maybe your business partner cheated you out of some money, or you missed out on a big promotion at work. Okay, quit dwelling on it; refrain from talking about it; stop brining it up to your friends all the time. God wants to being beauty in exchange for that venom. We need to avoid dwelling on anything that reminds of the pains of the past. Get rid of anything that evokes a negative, hurtful memory. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20
The man I mentioned preciously had several newspaper articles about that accident lying on his coffee table at home. Every time he walked by there, he was reminded of the pains of the past. I told him, “Get rid of those things. Put some happy pictures of your wife up. Put some things up that bring back good memories, not all this junk. If you want a new state, you have got to get rid of anything that reminds you of the old.” If you are still mourning over what you have lost, thinking about how badly you miss that person, and it is opening up all those old, festering, infected wounds, you are only hurting yourself. That is not healthy. If it is not doing anything beneficial in your life, do not do it. Friend, God always has a new beginning. The real question is: Are you willing to move on with your life with a good attitude, know that God has a bright future in store? What Devout happening upon a fountain of sweetness in the wood would not hurry back to report on one’s good fortune! As proof, one would wave the aromatic branch one dipped into the pool. What Devout hogging the fireplace does not feel one’s bottom growing warm! You are the Fount, the splish, and the splash! You are the Flame, the cackle, and the crackle. The Great Augustine himself did not put it better in his Confessions (10.29). You are the Pipe of wine that flows freely; that is to say, the Heavenly Cask containing the graces and consolations. If not for me, at least for other. However, if I am not allowed to drink from the end, I will die of thirst. Perhaps the tap is in the off position. There would still be some drippage, some droppage. I could survive on that. Anything to slake my thirst, make my fever subside. I am not a total Cherub or Seraph yet, flitting about like a celestial firefly, but I do experience a flicker of Divine Fire that comes from the humble reception of the Life-Making Sacrament. Whatever I need but do not have, Good Jesus, Holy Savior, do supply me from the Divine Bin, and do it so it does not hurt. #RandolphHarris 11 of 20
After all You are the One who deigned to halloo the crowd. “Come to Me, all you carters and haulers, tremblers and trundlers, I can lighten your loads,” reports Matthew again 11.28. I labour by the sweat of my brow, as Genesis put it (3.19); I am tortured with the pain in my heart, I am burdened by sins, I am disquieted by temptations, I am implicated and compromised by my many evil passions. “There just does not seem to be anybody to help”—and the Psalmist was not the first, and certainly will not be the last, to tame this cry (20.12). Is there no one who can free up, make me feel safe again. Alas, no one else but You, Lord God, my Saviour, to whom I commit myself and all my cartage and haulage, that You may guard me and guide me through to Eternal Life. Receive me in the praise and glory of Your name, You who prepared Your Body and Blood as food and drink. I feel a prayer coming on…Grant, O Lord God, my Salvation, that the affection of my devotion may increase with the frequency of Your Mystery. Yes, Father, I want to leave the past in the past and move into the faith-filled future that You have for me. Thank You for the good memories I have, and thank You that the best days are still ahead! “So then faith cometh by hearing and hearing by the word of God,” Romans 10.17. It does not say it comes by reading or by having heard, but it says faith comes by hearing (present tense). It comes by hearing the Word of God. The Greek says, “Faith cometh by report and the report by the declaration of God.” So faith cometh by hearing the rhema (spoken word) of God. When we hear ourselves speaking, saying what God said, it will produce faith in us more quickly than if we hear someone else saying it. Hearing your own voice speak God’s Word will excite your heart to action. For example, you do not always obey what someone else says, but you do obey your words. They govern you. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20
The Word says that the gospel did not profit them because it was not mixed with faith. They were hearers only of the Word, not doers. They did not do what God told them. There are many people today that say “Yes, I believe in prayer,” but they are not obedient to what God has said to do when you pray. To describe the principle that love can only be kept by being given away, we use the following analogy. In Palestine there are two bodies of water connected by the Jordan River: the Lake of Galilee and the Dead Sea. There is a vast difference between the two. The Lake of Galilee and the Dead Sea. There is a vast difference between the two. The Lake of Galilee is rich in its supply of fish. In New Testaments times, it was the scene of Christ’s calling of several of the disciples who were fishermen by trade. The Lake of Galilee both receives its suppl of water from, and returns water to, the Jordan River. Therefore, the water is always fresh and clean, and the lake not only supports marine life but also provides food for human life outside its boundaries. After the Jordan River leaves the Lake of Galilee, it enters the Dead Sea some sixty miles southward. However, the Dead Sea is so far below sea level that it has no outlet; the water evaporates, leaving a high concentration of salts, which kills all fish in its depths and makes it unfit for human consumption. Its waters, by being constantly held within its boundaries, become bitter, stagnant, and brackish. And so it is with the person who only receives from others and from life, and refuses to give freely out of what one has received. One of the things that most blocks the flowing of love back and forth in relationships is one-upmanship. By this, we mean that one or both persons have a need to win or always be right. This is especially prevalent in marriage relationships, where it takes a high toll in casualties. However, it also occurs in all other relationships. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20
Most of us have heard the manipulative guidelines for establishing controlling relationships with others: “If you want to keep them interested, never show your real feelings to others”; “Play hard to get”; “Use put-downs to keep the other person in place”; “Always keep the other person guessing”; or “Try to wrap them around your finger.” These messages reflect a profound lack of awareness about what makes for healthy, enjoyable, mutually enriching relationships. If these messages have played a part in moulding out personality, then they will probably still be contaminating our present relationships with spouses, children, friends, or fellow workers. Thus, we may continue to exploit and manipulating others to satisfy our unconscious drive for power, security, and control. We will use others in a way that reveals loveless power, not the power of love, to be the root of our existence. What is needed is the ability and insight to change relationships from a power struggle to a mutually beneficial exchange. Such love is a delight in the presence of the other person and an affirming of one’s value and development as much as one’s own. Paul emphasizes similar qualities in his famous passage on love found in I Corinthians 13. He writes that “love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude…It…rejoices in the right.” Love has the rare ability to be pleased rather than threatened by the talents, achievements, and triumphs of others. An important principle for people, especially married couples, to realize is that God often moves through their closet relationships to teach them more and more about themselves and about life. Therefore, the wise person learns to value the honest and loving feedback that those closet to one are able to provide. This changes the format of a relationship from a power struggle for power to an opportunity for growth and enrichment. The person becomes partners, each committed both to one’s own deepest fulfillment and to the highest good of the other. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20
The experience of companionship and the expression of caring are essential ingredients for living fully. Abraham Lincoln said that “the better part of one’s life consists of one’s friendships.” When someone cares, it is easier to find meaning in life. If we can develop friendships based on honesty, trust, and love, it will help us greatly along the journey towards wholeness. Friendship is the comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring all—right out—just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful friendly hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping and, with a breath of comfort, blow the rest away. The relationship of love is the most effective way of bridging the unbridgeable gap between two separate human beings. To feel truly loved—that is, deeply accepted and understood by another person or by God—is liberating. It enables one to be seen in the context of one’s weaknesses, faults, and psychological or physical shortcomings. Such behaviours as pretending to be what one is not, defending oneself, or striving to attract or impress the other person gradually fall away. They are replaced by a growing honesty and spontaneity in self-expression and a greater feeling of being natural in the relationship. This leads to the paradox that the more one surrenders in a genuinely loving relationship, the more one becomes one’s true self. The more one gives to the other, the more one receives. Jesus expressed this principle when he taught people to develop a giving attitude: “Give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For the measure you give [to others] will be the measure you het back,” reports Luke 6.38. The Christian lifestyle can be summed up in the one word—“love.” Outgoing love that results in concrete deeds of service is the fruit of one who is being led by the Holy Spirit. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20
Touching other people’s lives in a caring way can take many forms. One may develop the awareness to often compliment, praise, and admire one’s spouses and children. One may learn to be gracious in relating to colleagues, employer, or employees. One may offer service to a stranger in need. One may practice being considerate in daily transaction with others in such diverse activities as shopping, handling business, or driving on the freeway. As growing persons, we can give ourselves permission to try out new behaviour. We can experiment in daily transactions with others by expressing a simple, a warm greeting, a pleasant compliment, or a gentle touch. Before long, there will be greater coordination of our feelings, thoughts, and bodily actions. As a feeling of compassion stirs us, we can caringly touch people and tell them of our concern. When a feeling of admiration emerges, we can tell people how much we appreciate them and perhaps touch their hands or shoulders as we do so. If we feel joy with others, we might hug them or claps their hands. If we feel playful, we might want to joke with them. These options and many more can become sincere, effective ways to communicate or positive feelings to others. Of course, any of these channels can be reduced to the level of manipulative tactics. That is why the actualizing Christian develops the paradoxical qualities of prudent openness, discriminating trust, and disciplined spontaneity in the expression of one’s love to others. The Scriptures teach that compassion and caring ought to be extended to all human beings, above and beyond our normal sphere of relationships. The Christian is called to experience an ever-widening sphere of meaningful personal relationships throughout life. There is no age limit to this. However, courage is required at any age to reach out to others and to risk sharing their joys and their sorrows. #RandolphHarris 16 of 20
This does not mean that we ought to distress ourselves terribly about other people’s misfortunes. However, it does indicate that we ought to nurture an attitude of profound respect for the well-being of others and tht we should give sincerely what we can in terms of time, energy, and financial and material resources to meet some of the needs of a suffering humanity. Jesus expresses his profound identification with the suffering of humankind when he says: “I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me,” reports Matthew 25.36. And James adds that “Religion that is pure and undefiled before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction,” reports James 1.27. As actualizing Christians, we do not insulate ourselves from suffering in the World. We instead become vessels through which the love of God can flow to bring comfort to the brokenhearted, impart courage to those who are losing hope, and creatively seek to meet needs as they arise in people’s lives. Loving involves a choice and therefore may be rightly understood as being an act of will. This implies a sense of duty in the loving relationship, “in sickness and in health, for better or for worse.” A truly loving relationship is not a flighty or transitory affair. It is a trustworthy commitment that endures even in the face of hardship or sacrifice. It is a faithful caring that actively seeks the well-being and fulfillment of the beloved. In loving, we are most like Jesus and most truly ourselves. “Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the Heavens, Jesus Christ the Son of God, let us hold fast out profession, or our confession,” reports Hebrews 4.14. Here is where so many have missed it. Most people hold fast to the problem. They hold fast to the sickness. We are to hold fast to our confession of faith. Our confession should agree with the Word of God. If it does not, it is a confession of unbelief because it agrees with the devil. The confession of your mouth, even after you have prayed correctly, will determine whether or not you receive. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20
If you have prayed and asked God for something, and then say, “I just do not know what I am going to do, it is just not working out,” you blew it! You cancelled your prayer. That prayer will not work for you. Hold fast to the confession of your faith. “Wherefore, holy brethren, partakers of the Heavenly calling, consider the Apostle and High Priest of our profession, Christ Jesus,” reports Hebrews 3.1. Actually in Greek the word for profession means “confession.” So we are to consider Jesus Christ, the Word, as the High Priest f the confession of our faith. I do not know what that means to you, but here is what it means to me: When I pray speaking faith-filled words concerning the things I desire, I can see Jesus, seated at the right hand of God the Father, nudging the Father and saying, “He is holding fast to the Word, saying the same things You said; He is returning Your Word to You. Now let us perform it just the way he said it.” Jesus confesses to the Father what I say if it agrees with the Word of God. However, if I say, “Lord, I have prayed and it is not working out,” He cannot say, “Father, he has prayed, but it is not working out.” The Father would say, “Those are not My words—who said that? Does not one know that I said one could have whatever one says, even in prayer?” Your confession is so vital to prayer. Your confession after prayer will either bind you to your problem or release you from it. The problem is yours and if you want it, God will let you have it back. You are the one to determine the outcome and proclaim it. Ever relation is based either on quantity, as double and half; or on action and passion, as the doer and the deed, the father and the son, the master and the servant, and the like. Now as there is no quantity in God, for He is great without quantity, as Augustine says, it follows that a real relation in God can be based only on action. Such relations are not based on the actions of God according to any extrinsic procession, forasmuch as the relations of God to creatures are not real in Him. Hence, it follows that real relations in God can be understood only in regard to those actions according to which there are internal, and no external, processions in God. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20
These processions are two only, as above explained one derived from the action of the intellect, the procession of the Word; and the other from the action of the will, the procession of love. In respect of each of these processions two opposite relations arise; one of which is the relation of the person proceeding from the principle; the other is the relation of the principle Himself. The procession of the Word is called generation in the proper sense of the term, whereby it is applied to living things. Now the relation of the principle of generation in perfect living beings is called paternity; and the relation of the one proceeding from the principle is called filiation. However, the procession of Love has no proper name of its own; and so neither have the ensuing relations a proper name of their own. The relation of the principle of this procession is called spiration; and the relation of the person proceeding is called procession: although these two names belong to the procession or origins themselves, and not to the relations. Even if you had the purity of the Angels and Archangels or the sanctity of John the Baptist, you still would not be worthy enough to receive this Sacrament, let alone handle it with your fingers. Worthiness has got nothing to do with it; that is to say, worthiness as Humankind defines it. There are just not enough human merits to go around when it comes to consecrating and handling the Sacrament of Christ. Consuming the Bread of Angels the way one eats a loaf—it is a Grand Mystery and a Great Dignity for the Priests. That is to say, this priestly power could have been given to Angels, but it was not. It was given only to Priests ordained in the rite of the Church. Only they have the power of celebrating the Mass and consecrating the Body of Christ. The Priest is a minister of God, using the Word of God the way God set it up. God is the Principal Initiator and the Invisible Operator of all things. Furthermore, you ought to put more faith in Omnipotent God, as He appears in this most excellent Sacramento, than in your own sensible yet silly World. To make this major readjustment, you must tiptoe through the tulips, that is to say, walk with fear and reverence. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20
Blessed be the works of your hand, O Holy One. Blessed be these hands that have touched life. Blessed by these hands that have nurtured creativity. Blessed be these hands that have held pain. Blessed be these hands that have embraced with passion. Blessed be these hands that have tended gardens. Blessed be these hands that have closed in anger. Blessed be these hands that have planted new seeds. Blessed be these hands that have harvested ripe fields. Blessed be these hands that have cleaned, washed, mopped, scrubbed. Blessed be these hands that have become knotty with age. Blessed be these hands that are wrinkled and scarred from doing justice. Blessed be these hands that have reached out and been received. Blessed be these hands that hold the promise of the future. Blessed be the works of your hands, O Holy One. O Lord our God, be gracious unto Thy people America and accept their prayer. Please restore the worship to Thy sanctuary and receive in loving favour the supplication of America. May the worship of Thy people be every acceptable unto Thee. Our God and God of our fathers, may our remembrance and the remembrance of our forefathers come before Thee. Remember the Messiah of the house of David, Thy servant, and America, Thy holy city, and all Thy people, the house of America. Please grant us deliverance and wellbeing, lovingkindness, life and peace on this day of the New Moon, the Feast of Unleavened bread, the Fest of Tabernacles. Please remember us this day, O Lord our God, for our good, and be mindful of us for a life of blessing. With Thy promise of salvation and mercy, deliver us and be gracious unto us, have compassion upon us and save us. Unto Thee do we lift our eyes for Thou art a gracious and merciful God and King. O may our eyes witness Thy return to America. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who restorest Thy divine presence unto America. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20
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Around 95 percent of what is known about the brain has been learned in the past 30 years. How do biological theorists explain abnormal behaviour? Adopting a medical perspective, biological theorists view abnormal behaviour as an illness brought about by malfunctioning parts of the organism. Typically, they point to a malfunctioning brain as the cause of abnormal behaviour, focusing particularly on problems in brain anatomy or brain chemistry. The average brain weighs 3 pounds, and is 80 percent water. What is interesting is the liver weighs a pound more than the brain. While the brain accounts for only about 2 percent of the human weight, it requires about 25 percent of the oxygen intake. The brain is made up of approximately 100 billion nerve cells, called neurons, and thousands of billions of support cells, called glia (from the Greek meaning “glue”). Within the brain large groups of neurons form distinct areas, or brain regions. To identify the regions of the brain more easily, let us imagine them as continents, countries, and states. At the bottom of the brain is the “continent” knows as the hindbrain, which is in turn made up of countrylike regions called the medulla, pons, and cerebellum. In the middle of the brain is the “continent” called the midbrain. And at the top is the “continent” called the forebrain, which consists of countrylike regions called the cerebrum (the two cerebral hemispheres), the thalamus, and the hypothalamus, each in turn made up of statelike regions. The cerebrum, for instance, consists of the cortex, corpus callosum, basal ganglia, hippocampus, and amygdala. The neurons in each of these brain regions control important functions. The hippocampus helps control emotions and memory, for example. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20
Clinical researchers have discovered connections between certain psychological disorders and problems in specific areas of the brain. One such disorder is Huntington’s disease, a disorder marked by violent emotional outbursts, memory loss, suicidal thinking, involuntary body movements, and absurd beliefs. This disease has been traced to a loss of cells in the basal ganglia. Biological researchers have also learned that psychological disorders can be related to problems in the transmission of messages from neuron to neuron. Information spreads throughout the brain in the form of electrical impulses that travel from one neuron to one or more others. An impulse is first received by a neuron’s dendrites, antenna-like extensions located at one end of the neuron. From there it travels down the neuron’s axon, a long fiber extending from the neuron body. Finally, it is transmitted to other neurons through the nerve endings, at the far end of the neuron. However, how to messages get from the nerve endings of one neuron to the dendrites of another? After all, the neurons do not actually touch each other. A tiny space, called the synapse, separates one neuron from the next, and the message must somehow move across that space. When an electrical impulse reaches a neuron’s ending, the nerve ending is stimulated to release a chemical, called a neurotransmitter, that travels across the synaptic space to receptors on the dendrites of the adjacent neurons. Upon reception, some neurotransmitters tell the receiving neurons to “fire,’ that is, to trigger their own electrical impulse. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20
Other neurotransmitters carry an inhibitory message; they tell receiving neurons to stop all firing. Obviously, neurotransmitters play a key role in moving information through the brain. Researchers have identified dozens of neurotransmitters in the brain, and they have learned that each neuron uses only certain kinds. Studies indicate that abnormal activity by certain neurotransmitters can lead to specific mental disorders. Certain anxiety disorders, for example, have been linked to low activity of the neurotransmitter gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), schizophrenia has been linked to excessive activity of the neurotransmitter dopamine, and depression has been linked to low activity of the neurotransmitters serotonin and norepinephrine. Perhaps low serotonin activity is responsible for some people’s pattern of depression and rage. In addition to focusing on neurons and neurotransmitters, researchers have learned that mental disorders are sometimes related to abnormal chemical activity in the body’s endocrine system. Endocrine glands, located throughout the body, work along with neurons to control such vital activities as growth, reproduction, pleasures of the flesh, heart rate, body temperature, energy, and responses to stress. The glands release chemicals called hormones into the bloodstream, and these chemicals then propel body organs into action. During times of stress, for example, the adrenal glands, located on top of the kidneys, secrete the hormone cortisol. Abnormal secretions of this chemical have been tied to anxiety and mood disorders. Studies of twins suggest that some aspects of behaviour and personality are influenced by genetic factors. Many identical twins are found to have similar tastes, behave in similar ways, and make similar life choices. Some even develop similar abnormal behaviours. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20
People often associate eating disorders with adolescence. However, cases of anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa are easily found among those in their 20s and 30s. Somewhat surprisingly, many of these people are able to maintain at least the semblance of normal adult relations through marriage and child rearing. However, the marriages of people with eating disorders are sadly distressed. Physical intimacy is a problematic theme in the literature on marriage and eating disorders. For example, an examination of case records from a large sample of patients with anorexia nervosa showed that among those who were married, only 10 percent indicated some interest in matter dealing with pleasures of the flesh, and 72 percent indicated active avoidance of activities dealing with pleasures of the flesh. There was also a high degree of conflict surrounding pleasures of the flesh and conflict avoidance in these patients’ families of origin. Here again, there is reason to suspect that problems bred in earlier family-of-origin interactions were transported into the marital relationships of these women with anorexia nervosa. It is unfortunate that these problems with physical intimacy in the marital relationship persist several years after remission of an eating disorder. Approximately 40 percent of the women in this study sample had clinically significant disorder in pleasures of the flesh with their mates, despite being asymptomatic for 2 years on average. They also noted that diminished involvement in marital (or any romantic/pleasure of the flesh) relationship was more common among people who had anorexia nervosa than among those with bulimia nervosa or control subjects without eating disorders. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20
Marital problems have also been documented in the marriages of people with bulimia nervosa, however. Compared to healthy controls, people with bulimia nervosa report greater marital distress. In fact, the degree of distress in these marriages did not differ significantly from those of people seeking marital therapy. Assessments from these spouses during the investigation were also suggestive of marital distress. The women with bulimia nervosa in the study exhibited poor problem-solving skills and conflict avoidance, which may partially explain the state of their marriages. Taken as a whole, currently available evidence indicates that the other personal relationships of people with eating disorders are as disturbed as their family-of-origin relationships. They tend to hold dysfunctional attitudes toward love and romance, and, in the case of anorexia nervosa, avoidance of physical intimacy and involvement. The quest for self-verification may cause people with eating disorders to seek the very interpersonal responses that will worsen their condition. Among those who do get married, relational distress is still evident. It is impossible to overlook the potential connections between the distressed relationships in the families of origin and the adult romantic or marital relations of people with eating disorders. In many instances, people with anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa appear to be set up for interpersonal trouble by their experiences in their families of origin. As noted earlier, these family interactions are often marked by poor handling of conflict, excessive cohesion, and what are sometimes gross boundary violations. Not surprisingly, children from such households go on to develop possessive and dependent attitudes toward love, poor conflict resolution skills, and fearful avoidance of physical intimacy. #RandolphHarris 5 of 20
The implications for satisfaction with personal relationships are obvious. And if their own personal problems were not enough of a barrier to healthy relationships, other people appear reluctant and uncomfortable getting involved in a close relationship with those who have eating disorders. “Have you not known? Have you not heard? The everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of the Earth, does not faint or grow weary; there is no searching of His understanding. He gives power to the faint and weary, and to one who has no might He increased strength [causing it to multiply and making it to abound]. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and [selected] young people shall feebly stumble and fall exhausted; but those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] shall change and renew their strength and power; they shall lift their wings and mount up [close to God] as eagles [mount up to the sun]; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint or become tired,” reports Isaiah 40.28-31. All of us face disappointments from time to time. No matter how much faith one has or how good a person one is, sooner or later, something (or somebody!) will shake your faith to its foundations. It may be something simple, such as not getting that promotion you really hoped for; not closing the big sale that you worked on so hard; not qualifying for a loan to buy that Cresleigh Home in Havenwood you really wanted. Or, it may be something more serious—a marriage relationship falling apart, the death of a loved one, or an incurable, debilitating illness. Whatever it is, that disappointment possesses the potential to derail you and destroy your faith. That is why it is vital that you recognize in advance that disappointments will come, and that you learn how to stay on track and deal with them when they do. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20
God has given us more gifts than we know what to do with, He is our Beneficent and Munificent Friend. And He has done the same to all others who have received Him in the Sacrament. It is no wonder, then, that we think up more names for Him, or God. Protector of Human Infirmities. Purveyor of Internal Consolations. As proof od His goodness, as if we needed yet another one, is His grafting of consolation onto tribulation. The resulting staff can then be used to ward off various harms. When my interior acropolis crumbled and I despaired in the rubble, God gave me hope. Using new grace, God restored the scaffolding and relit the sconces. Looking forward, before they receive Communion, some Devouts feel anxious; that is to say, their souls feel like stones, they have lost all their affections. Then comes the Communion. Looking back, after dining on the Heavenly Food and Drink, they find themselves changed for the better. Often, defeating disappointments and letting go of the past are flip sides of the same coin, especially when you are disappointed in yourself. When one does something wrong, it is important not to hold on to it and beat oneself up about it. Admit it, seek forgiveness, and move on. Be hasty to let go of one’s mistakes and failures, hurts, pains, and sins. The disappointments that disturb us the most, however, are usually those caused by other people. Many individuals who have been hurt by others are missing out on their new beginnings because they keep reopening old wounds. However, no matter what we have gone through, no matter how unfair it was, or how disappointed we were, we must release it and let it go. Someone may have walked out on you. Someone may have done you a great wrong. You may have prayed fervently for a loved one’s life to be saved, yet your loved one died. Leave that with God and go on with your life. The Christian Bible says, “The secret things belong to the LORD,” reports Deuteronomy 29.29. Leave them there. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20
God is far more accepting of our real weaknesses than more of us realize. As the Psalmist said: “As a father has compassion on His children, so has the Lord compassion on all who fear Him. For He knows our frame; He remembers that we are dust,” reports Psalm 103.13-14. It is in owning our weaknesses that we have access to the presence of God. He welcomes those who confess their need. And the greatest need is for communion with God. In the New Testament both James and Peter reiterate the Old Testament theme: “God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble,” (James 4.6; I Peter 5.5). If we desire to encounter and surrender to God, we must become aware of our helplessness. We must experience the reality that on our own part, if apart from God’s plan and resources, we will live a partial and fragmented life. This is why the Christian Bible, from Genesis through Revelation, emphasizes that God meets face to face with those of a humble heart, while resisting people who are rigid and controlling in their arrogance. However, here we must make a distinction between humbling ourselves, on the one hand, and becoming helpless, servile, and self-effacing on the other. While the Scriptures advocate a certain childlike openness and honesty in relating to God and others, they do not teach us to remain fixated at an immature level of development. This is what the Helpless Christian does not understand. So one gets stuck at the infantile stage of psychological and spiritual development. However, in order to restore the rhythm of growth, the manipulative tactics of withdrawing and avoiding need to be transformed into the actualizing qualities of feeling vulnerable and empathizing. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20
Getting in touch with one’s own helplessness, pain, and vulnerability is an excellent way to develop the quality of empathy toward others. This particular quality, expressed at its finest in Jesus Christ, made Him so approachable by the common people and by little children. Disappointments almost always accompany setbacks. When you suffer loss, nobody expects you to be an impenetrable rock or an inaccessible island in the sea. Not even God expects you to be so touch that you simply ignore the disappointments in life, shrugging them off as though you are impervious to pain. No, when we experience failure or loss, it is natural to feel remorse or sorrow. That is the way God made us. If you lose your job, most likely you are going to experience a strong sense of disappointment. If you go through a broken relationship, that is going to hurt. If you lose loved one, there is a time of grieving, a time of sorrow. That is normal and to be expected. However, if you are still grieving and feeling sorrow over a disappointment that took place a year or more ago, something is wrong! You re hindering your future. Your must make a decision that you are going to move one. It will not happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, “I do not care how hard this is I am not going to let this get the best of me.” The enemy loved to deceive us into wallowing in self-pity, fretting, feeling sorry for ourselves, or having a chip on our shoulders. “Why did this happen to me?” “I got played.” “They took my money.” “God must not love me. He did not answer my prayers.” “Why did my marriage end in divorce?” “Why am I so evil and jealous?” “Why did not things work out in my life?” Such questions may be valid and may even be helpful to consider for a season, but after that, quit waiting your time trying to figure out something you cannot change. It is time to move on and start living a successful life now. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20
They are the true disciples of Christ, not who know must, but who love most. The love end of the anger/love polarity is expressed verbally with phrases such as “I am interested,” “I am attracted,” “I care,” and “I care tenderly.” The actualizing Christian has access to the experience and effective expression of these several intensities of love. Loving tenderness is a need all people have, and yet in American culture such expression is often discouraged. You must first receive before one has anything to give. If one has not received tender and affectionate feelings from parents, friends, or the Lord, then it is understandable that one may have difficulty dealing with these feeling. It is one thing to “know” in one’s head that one is loved; it is another thing to “feel” it in one’s heart. Most of us have been damaged to some extent by well-intentioned parents who firmly believed they loved us, yet did not know how to effectively communicate that love through cuddling, praise, and affirmation. If a child lives with encouragement, one learns confidence. If a child lives with praise, one learns to appreciate. If a child lives with fairness, one learns justice. If a child lives with fairness, one learns justice. If a child lives with security, one learns to have faith. If a child lives with approval, one learns to like oneself. If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, one learns to find love in the World. All of the foregoing lends credence to the idea that, in experiencing love developmentally, people also learn to love. It is in being loved that one learns to love. However, sometimes the very deprivation of love in growing up can become a strong motivator in learning how to go about giving and receiving love as an adult. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20
The person who has not been adequately loved can become especially sensitive to the need for love in the World. Not taking love for granted, this person may grow substantially in one’s lifetime in the ability to love self and others. It seems possible, then, that both satisfaction and deprivation of one’s needs to feel loved and apricated can become tutors in the art of learning to love. It is not simply what happens developmentally that determines one’s personhood, but rather what one does about it through awareness and choice. It is self-knowledge, facilitated by the presence of the Holy Spirit in one’s life, that enables one to discover needs and wants and to make them known in the loving relationships of later years. This provides a second chance to actualize oneself in becoming a sensitive and loving human being. Human beings really do want to love one another but just do not know how to go about it. The actualizing Christian learns to accept responsibility for finding out how to get the flow of love going in one’s life. Even though one’s need for feeling loved may never be fully met in this life, one can go a long way toward learning to love oneself, feeling God’s love, and daring to risk loving others. This is the meaning of “Underneath are the everlasting arms.” Dear Lord in Heaven, I know that I cannot change a single thing about the past, but I can choose how I will live in the future. Please help me to build my faith, Father, to believe that You will bring good even out of those circumstances I do not understand. I choose to trust You for good things in the days ahead. “Thou wilt keep one in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because one trusteth in thee,” reports Isaiah 26.3 #RandolphHarris 11 of 20
The many changes in the present and in the future in our conception of time also blast holes in our theoretical understanding of space, since the two are tightly interwoven. However, we are altering our image of space in more immediate ways as well. We are changing the actual spaces in which all of us live, work, and play. How we get to work, how far and how frequently we travel, where we live—all these influence our experience of space. And all these are changing. In fact, as the Third Wave plays out, we have entered a new phase in humanity’s relationship to space. The First Wave, which spread agriculture around the World, brought with it, as we saw earlier, permanent farming settlements in which most people lived out their entire lives within a few miles of their birthplace. Agriculture introduced a stay-put, spatially intensive existence, and fostered intensely local feelings—the village mentality. Second Wave civilization, by contrast, concentrated huge populations in great cities and, because it needed to draw resources from afar and to distribute goods at a distance, it bred mobile people. The culture it produced was spatially extensive and city- or nation- rather than village-centered. The Third Wave alters our spatial experience by dispersing rather than concentrating population. While millions of people continue to pour into urban areas in the still-industrializing parts of the World, all the high-technology countries are already experiencing a reversal flow. Tokyo, London, Zurich, Glasgow, and dozens of major cities are all losing population while middle-sized or smaller cities are showing gains. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20
The American Council of Life Insurance declares: “Some urban experts believe that the major U.S. city is a thing of the past.” Fortune magazine reports that “transportation and communication technology has cut the cords that bound big corporations to the traditional headquarters cities.” And Business Week entitles an article “The Prospect of a Nation With No Important Cities.” This redistribution of and de-concentration of population will, in due time, alter our assumptions and expectations about personal as well as social space, about acceptable commuting distances, about housing density, and many other things. In addition to such changes, the Third Wave also appears to be generating a new outlook that is intensely local, yet global—even galactic. Everywhere we find a new concentration on “community” and “neighbourhood,” on local politics and local ties at the same time that large numbers of people—often the same ones who are most locally oriented—concern themselves with global issues and worry about famine not only 10,000 miles away, but also in the central cities. As advanced communications proliferate and we begin to shift work back into the electronic cottage, we will encourage this new dual focus, breeding large numbers of people who remain reasonably close to home, who migrate less often, who travel more perhaps for pleasure but far less often for business—while their minds and messages range across the entire planet and into outer space as well. The Third Wave mentality combines concern for near and far. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20
We are also rapidly adopting more dynamic and relativistic images of space. I have in my office several large blowups of satellite and U-2 photographs of New York City and the surrounding area. The satellite phots look like fantastical beautiful abstractions, the sea a deep green the coastline detailed against it. The U-2 photo shows that city infrared, and in such exquisite detail that the Metropolitan Museum and even individual planes parked on the ramps at La Guardia Airport are clearly visible. Referring to the planes at La Guardia, I asked a Nasa official if, by further enlarging the photos, one could actually see the stipes or symbols painted on the wings. He looked at me with amused tolerance and corrected me. “The rivets,” he replied. However, we are no longer limited to exquisitely refined still pictures. Satellites permits us to look at a living map—an animated display—of a city or a country and watch the activities on it as they are taking place. The map is no longer a static representation but a movie—indeed an X ray in motion, since it now shows not merely what is on the surface of the Earth but also reveals, layer by layer, what lies blow the surface and above it at each level of altitude. It also provides a sensitive, continually changing image of terrain and our relationships to it. At tone time, the most common map used by most of the World was based on Mercator’s projection. Now people use Google Maps, a digital form of a map, where one can zoom in on any community and look at it, or look at the comprehensive map. Scandinavia is no longer distorted to be larger than India. In the past, the distortions of the Mercator map fostered the arrogance of the industrial World in proper political, as well as cartographic perspective. Developing countries were once cheated with raged to their surface and their importance. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20
People were once shocked to see a map that showed the accurate sizes of Europe, Alaska, Canada, and Russia being much smaller than they were led to believe, and a much elongated South America, Africa, Arabia, and India. However, what this controversy underscores is the recognition that there is no single “right” map, but merely different images of space that serve different purposes. In the most literal sense, the Third Wave and technology had brought new ways of looking at the World. For a monarchial state to be capable of being well governed, its size or extent must be proportionate to the faculties of the one who governs. It is easier to conquer than to rule. With a long enough lever, it is possible for a single finger to make the World shake; but holding it in place requires the shoulders of Hercules. However small a state may be, the prince is nearly always too small for it. When, on the contrary, it happens that the state is too small for its leader, which is quite rare, it is still poorly governed, since the leaders, always pursuing one’s grand schemes, forgets the interests of the peoples, making them no less wretched through the abuse of talents one has too much of then does a leader who is limited for want of what one lacks. A kingdom must, so to speak, expand or contract with each reign, depending on the ability of the prince. On the other hand, since the talents of a senate have a greater degree of stability, the state can have permanent boundaries without the administration working any less well. The most obvious disadvantage of the government of just one human is the lack of that continuous line of succession which forms an unbroken bond of unity in the other two forms of government. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20
When one king dies, another is needed. Elections leave dangerous intervals and are stormy. And unless the citizens have a disinterested and integrity that seldom accompanies this form of government intrigue and corruption enter the picture. It is difficult for one to whom the state has sold itself not to sell it in turn, and reimburse oneself at the expense of the weak for the money extorted from one by the powerful. Sooner or later everything becomes venal under such an administration, and in these circumstances, the peace enjoyed under kinds is worse than the disorders of the interregna. What has been done to prevent these ills? In certain families, crowns have been made hereditary, and an order of succession has been established which prevents all dispute when kinds die. That is to say, by substituting the disadvantage of regencies for that of elections, an apparent tranquility has been preferred to a wise administration, the risk of having children, monsters, or imbeciles for leaders has been preferred to having to argue over the choice of good kings. No consideration has been given to the fact that in being thus exposed to the risk of the alternative, nearly all the odds are against them. There was a lot of sense in what Dionysius the Younger said in reply to his father, who, while reproaching his son for some shameful actions, said “Have I given you such an example?” “Ah,” replied the son, “But your father was not king.” When a human has been elevated to command others, everything conspires to deprive one of justice and reason. A great deal of effort is made, it is said, to tech young princes the art of ruling. It does not appear that this education does them any good. It would be better to begin by teaching them the art of obeying. #RandolphHarris 16 of 20
The greatest kings whom history celebrates were not brought up to reign. It is a science one is never less in possession of than after one has learned too much, and that one acquires it better in obeying than in commanding. For the most useful as well as the shortest method of finding out what is good and what is bad is to consider what you would have wished for not wished to have happened under another prince. One result of this lack of coherence is the instability of the royal form of government, which, now regulated by one plan now by another according to the character of the ruling prince or of those who rule for one, cannot have a fixed object for very long or a consistent policy. This variation always causes the state to drift from maxim to maxim, from project to project, and does not take place in the other forms of government, where the prince is always the same. It is also apparent that in general, if there is more cunning in a royal court, there is more wisdom in a senate; and that republics proceed toward their objectives by means of policies that are more consistent and better followed. On the other hand, each revolution in the ministry produces a revolution in the state, since the maxim common to all ministers and nearly all kinds is to do the reverse of their predecessor in everything. From this same incoherence we drive the solution to a sophism that is very familiar to royalist political theorists. Not only is civil government compared to domestic government and the prince to the father of the family (an error already refuted), but this magistrate is also liberally given all the virtues one might need, and it is always presupposed that the prince is what he ought to be. With the help of this presupposition, the royal form of government is obviously preferable to any other, since it is unquestionably the strongest; and it lack only a corporate will that is more in conformity with the general will in order to be the best as well. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20
However, if according to Plato, a king by nature is such a rare person, how many times will nature and fortune converge to crown one; and if a royal education necessarily corrupts those who receive it, what is to be hoped from a series of humans who have been brought up to reign? Surely then it is deliberate self-deception to confuse the royal form of government with that of a good king. To see what this form of government is in itself, we need to consider it under princes who are incompetent or wicked, for either they come to the throne wicked or incompetent, or else these thrones makes them so. These difficulties have not escaped the attention of anyone one, but some people are not troubled by them. They remedy, they say, is to obey without murmur. God in his anger gives us bad kinds, and they must be endured as punishments from Heaven. No doubt this sort of talk is edifying, however I do not know but that it belongs more in a pulpit than in a book on political theory. What is to be said of a physician who promises miracles, and whose art consists entirely of exhorting one’s sick patient to practice patience? It is quite obvious that we must put up with a bad government when that is what we have. The question is how to find a good one. God told Israel He had given them the land, but they were to go in and possess it. The land belonged to them, yet they did not possess it for forty years because they believed more in circumstances than in God’s Word. “So we see that they could not enter in because of unbelief,” reports Hebrews 3.19. The word of unbelief here literally means “disobedience.” God said to possess it, but they said, “We are not able.” So they did not obey God and they did not possess the land until all who doubted God had died. Out of the twelve spies, Joshua and Caleb were the only two that went in to possess the land. These two held fast to their confession: “We are well able to take the land.” For forty years, they held fast to that one confession and they got what they said. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20
Let us therefore hold fast to our confession of faith that we may possess those things that God says are ours. The promised land is not a type of Heaven, as some believe, but a type of success living on Earth. We are well able to enter in through faith. Hatred does not stop hatred. It ceases by compassion. If philosophy advocates the peaceful way of quickened evolution and dynamic progressivism as against the violent way of abrupt revolution, it is because it knows that the moral evils which are introduced by brutality—not to speak of the physical ones which inevitably follow from it—constitute too high a price for the benefits received. For if the latter tend to disappear, the former tend to become stabilized. A great social change which stimulated hatred, passion, selfishness, and materialism would negate the ultimate purpose which lies behind all social evolution—the spiritualization of human character. A better society, to be based on the goodwill and co-operation, cannot be reached by arousing hatred and selfishness. The defense that ends justify means is a self-deceptive one. It is for the votaries of philosophy to follow the right path and to abstain from brutal or bloody methods, especially as we know that whilst conditions create them, there will always be others who are naturally inclined towards the transplanted barbarism of Communism. Because their daily work keeps them in constant touch with nature, some people everywhere in the World have a more religious emotion and mystical feeling than the others. However, we must be careful of real evil. Brutal hatred and camouflaged materialism, as well as the selfish preservation of one’s own power can create a criminal leadership. And their years of sacrifice in blood and comfort will profit them nothing. They are sacrifices made in an evil cause. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20
Those whose whole attitude is quarrelsome and carping and hating and irresponsible can contribute only unscrupulous criticism and hysterical destruction towards life. They are eager to obstruct and even destroy, but never to create, to co-operate, or to build. The Communist leaders, as distinct from their blind dupes, are the poisonous scorpions of society. O God, creator of our land, our Earth, the trees, the animals and humans, all is for your honour. The drums beat it out, and people sing about it, and they dance with noisy joy that you are the Lord. You also have pulled the other continents out of the sea. What a wonderful World you have made out of wet mud, and what beautiful men and women! We thank you for all the beauty of this Earth. The grace of your creation is like a cool day between rainy seasons. We drink pure water in your creation with out eyes. We listen to the birds’ jubilee with our ears. How strong and good and sure your Earth smells, and everything that grows there. Please bless us. Please bless our land and people. Please bless our forests with mahogany, wawa, and cacao. Please bless our fields with cassava and peanuts. Please bless the waters that flow through out land. Please fill them with fish and drive great schools of fish to our seacoast, so that the fishermen and women in their unsteady boasts do not need to go out too far. Please be with us in our countries and in all Africa, and in the whole World. Please prepare us for the service that we should render. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, the King of judgment. As for slanderers, may their hopes come to naught, and may all wickedness perish. May all Thine enemies be destroyed. Do Thou uproot the dominion of arrogance; crush it and subdue it in our day. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who breakest the power of the enemy and bringest low the arrogant. May Thy tender mercies, O Lord our God, be stirred towards the righteous and the pious, towards the leaders of Thy people America, towards all the scholars that have survived, towards the righteous proselytes and towards us. Please grant Thy favour unto all who faithfully trust in Thee, and may our portion ever be with them. May we never suffer humiliation for in Thee do we put our trust. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who are the staff and trust of the righteous. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20
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