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We Play According to the Rules of the Game to Preserve Our Prestige and Feeling of Superiority and Merit
My mind was clouded and it was almost a nice feeling, a delicious blurring of the light and warmth in the room, and I had a swift, profound sense of love. Human beings are vastly more complex than most of us realize. The world in which all of us, including scientists, are born, work, love, hate and return to Heaven, is the primary phenomenal World as it is and always has been presented to us through our senses, a World in which the Sun moves across the Sky from east to west, the stars are hung in the vault of Heaven, the measure of magnitude is the human body, and objects are either in motion or at rest. The stomach is the only part of mortals which can be fully satisfied. The yearning of mortal’s brain for new knowledge and experience and for more pleasant and comfortable surroundings never can be fully met. It is an appetite which cannot be appeased. Our ancestors, sensing their own insignificance when compared to these mighty forces, became convinced that all that happened—including their own behavior—was the result of the will and caprice of the gods and spirits. Every society and almost every individual learns that responding as a total person in one’s encounters with life requires an intensity and disciplined openness of consciousness which is not easy to sustain. #RandolphHarris 1 of 15
What is the effect of alienation on mental health? The answer depends of course on what is meant health; if it means that mortals can fulfill one’s social function, carry on with production, and reproduce oneself, alienated mortals can quite obviously be healthy. After all, we have created the most powerful production machine which has existed so far on Earth—even though we have also created the most powerful destruction machine, accessible to the grasp of the mad person. If we look into the current psychiatric definition of mental health, then one should think that too we are healthy. Quite naturally the concepts of health and illness are the products of those people who formulate them—hence of the could in which these mortals live. Alienated psychiatrists will define mental health in terms of alienated personality, and therefore consider healthy what might be considered sick from the standpoint of normative humanism. Country of the veiled also holds true for many psychiatrists in our culture. Our current psychiatric definitions of mental health stress those qualities which are part of the alienated social character of our time: adjustment, cooperativeness, aggressiveness, tolerance, ambition, etc. #RandolphHarris 2 of 15
Alienated persons lack a feeling of selfhood and experiences oneself in terms of a response to the expectation of others, as part of human nature, just as Dr. Freud had taken the competitiveness characteristic of the beginning of the century as a natural phenomenon. There exists a unique individual self the delusion of unique individuality. Equally clear is the influence of alienated thinking on one’s formulation of the basic needs of mortals. They are the need for personal security—that is for freedom from anxiety; the need for intimacy—that is, for collaboration with at least one other person; and the need for satisfaction. A first glance, nobody will have any quarrel with the idea that love, security, and intimacy are perfectly normal goals for mental health. A critical examination of these concepts, however, shows that they mean something different in an alienated World than what they might have meant in other cultures. Perhaps the most popular modern concept in the arsenal of psychiatric formulae is that of security. There is good basis in mortal’s ancient wisdom for the urge we all feel in eros to unite with the beloved, to prolong the delight, to deepen the meaning and treasure it. #RandolphHarris 3 of 15
In recent years there is an increasing emphasis on the concept of security as the paramount aim of life, and as the essence of mental health. One reason for this attitude lies, perhaps, in the fact that the threat of war hanging over the World for many years has increased this longing for security. This hold in our relationships not only with persons but with objects, like a machine we are making or a house we are building or a vocation to which we are devoted. Another, more important reason for the need for security, lies in the fact that people feel increasingly more insecure as the result of an increasing automatization and over conformity. The problem becomes more complicated by the confusion between psychic and economic security. It is one of the fundamental changes of the last seventy years that all Western countries the principle has been adopted that every citizen must have a minimum material security in case of unexpected unemployment, infirmary, and retirement. Yet, while this principle has been adopted, there is still, among many business people intense hostility against it, and especially its widening application; they speak contemptuously of the welfare state as killing private initiative and the spirit of adventure, and in fight social security measures, they pretend to fight for the freedom and initiative of the worker. That these arguments are sheer rationalizations is evidence by the fact that the same people have no qualms about praising economic security as one of the chief aims of life. #RandolphHarris 4 of 15
One needs only to read the advertisements of insurance companies, with their promises to free their customers from insecurity which could be caused by accidents, death, infirmary, and senior years, etc., to be aware of the important role which the ideal of economic security plays for the moneyed class, and what else is the idea of saving, but practicing the aim of economic security? This contradiction between the denunciation of the striving for security among the working class, and the praise of the same aim for those in the higher income brackets is another example of mortal’s unlimited capacity for thinking contradictory thoughts, without even making a feeble attempt to become aware of the contradiction. Yet the propaganda against the welfare state and the principle of economic security is more effective than it would otherwise be, because of the widespread confusion between economic and emotional security. Increasingly, people believe that they should have no doubts, no problems, that they should have to take no risks, and that they should always feel secure. Psychiatry and psychoanalysis have lent considerable support to this aim. Many writers in the field postulate security as the main aim of psychic development and consider a sense of security more or less equivalent with mental health. #RandolphHarris 5 of 15
Thus, parents, especially those who follow this literature, get worried that their little son or daughter may, at an early age, acquire a sense of insecurity. They try to help them avoid conflicts, to make everything east, to do away with as many obstacles as they can, in order to make the child feel secure. Just as they try to inoculate the child against all illnesses, and to prevent it from getting in touch with any germ, they think they can banish insecurity by preventing any contact wit it. The result is often unfortunate as exaggerated hygiene sometimes is: once an infection occurs, the person becomes more vulnerable and helpless before it. How can a sensitive and alive person ever feel secure? Because of the very conditions of our existence, we cannot feel secure about anything. Our thoughts and insights are at best partial truths, mixed with a great deal of error, not to speak of the unnecessary misinformation about life and society to which we are exposed almost from the day of birth. Our life and health are subject to accidents beyond our control. It we make a decision, we can never be certain of the outcome; any decision implies a risk of failure, and if it does not imply it, it as not been a decision in the true sense of the word. #RandolphHarris 6 of 15
We can never be certain of the outcome of our best efforts. The result always depends on many factors which transcend our capacity of control. Just as a sensitive and alive person cannot avoid being sad, one cannot avoid feeling insecure. The psychic task which a person can and must set for oneself, is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity, without panic and undue fears. Life, in its mental and spiritual aspects, is by necessity insecure and uncertain. There is certainty only about that fact that we are born and that we shall pass into Heaven; there is complete security only in an equally complete submission to powers which are supposed to be strong and enduring, and which relieve mortals from the necessity of making decisions, taking risks, and having responsibilities. Free mortals are by necessity insecure; thinking mortal by necessity uncertain. How, then, can mortals tolerate this insecurity inherent in human existence? One way is to be rooted in the group in such a way that the feeling of identity is guaranteed by the membership to the group, be it family, clan, nation, class. As long as the process of individualism has not reached a stage where the individual emerges from these primary bonds, one is still we, and as long as the group functions one is certain of one’s own identity by one’s membership in it. #RandolphHarris 7 of 15
The development of modern society has led to the dissolution of these primary bonds. Modern mortals are essentially alone, one is put on one’s own feet, expected to stand all by oneself. One can achieve a sense of identity only by developing the unique and particular entity which is one to a point where one can truly sense I am I. This accomplishment is possible only if one develops one’s active powers to such an extent tat one can be related to the World without having to submerge in it; if one can achieve a productive orientation. The alienated person, however, tries to solve a problem in a different way, namely by conforming. One feels secure in being as similar as possible to one’s fellow mortals. One’s paramount aim is to be approved of by others’ one’s central fear, that one may not be approved of. To be different, to find oneself in a marginalized situation, are the dangers which threaten one’s sense of security; hence a craving for conformity produces in turn a continuously operating, though hidden, sense of insecurity. Any deviation from the pattern, any criticism, arouse fear and insecurity; one is always dependent on the approval of others, just as a person addicted to medication is dependent on one’s medication, and similarly, one’s own sense of self and self-reliance becomes ever increasingly weaker. #RandolphHarris 8 of 15
The sense of guilt, which some generation ago pervaded the life of mortals with reference to sin, has been replaced by a sense of uneasiness and inadequacy with regard to being different. Another goal of mental health, love, like that of security, has assumed a new meaning in the alienated situation. For some people, according to the spirit of time, love is basically a passion of the flesh. Mortals having found by experience that lust, which is mistaken for love, afforded them the greatest gratification, so that it became in fact a prototype of all happiness to him or her, and they thereby are impelled to seek their happiness further along the path of sexual relations, to make lust the central point of their lives. In doing so one becomes to a very dangerous degree dependent on a part of the outer World, namely, on one’s chosen love object, and this exposes an individual to most painful suffering if he or she is rejected by it, or loses it by death or defection. In order to protect oneself from the danger of suffering by love, mortals but only a small minority, can transform the pleasures of the flesh, which they mistake for love, by transferring the main value from the fact of being loved to their own act of loving, and by attaching their love not to individual objects, but all mortal equally. #RandolphHarris 9 of 15
Thus, by transferring these emotions, they avoid the uncertainties and disappointment of lust, for they realize it is not love, and turn away from the pleasures of the flesh and modify the instinct into an impulse with an inhibited aim…Love with an inhibited aim is indeed originally full of sensual love, and in mortal’s unconscious minds is so still. The feeling of oneness and fusion with the World (the oceanic feeling) which is the essence of religious experience and specifically of mystical experience, and the experience of oneness and union with the beloved person is interpreted as a regression to a state of an early limitless narcissism. In accordance with one’s basic concepts, mental health is full achievement of the capacity for love, which is attained if one is mature to see beyond pleasures of the flesh. Intimacy is that type of situation involving two people which permits validation of all components of personal worth. Validation of personal worth requires a type of relationship which I call collaboration, by which I mean clearly formulated adjustments to one’s behavior to the expressed needs of the person in the pursuit of increasingly identical—that is, more and more nearly mutual satisfactions, and the maintenance of increasingly similar security operations. #RandolphHarris 10 of 15
The essence of love as a situation of collaboration, in which two people feel: to preserve our prestige and feeling of superiority and merit, we play according to the rules of the game. The materialism turns the experience of love of the alienated, into a marketing personality. It is an example of an egotisme a deux, of two people pooling their common interest, and standing together against a hostile and alienated World. Actually, intimacy is in principle valid for the feeling of any cooperating team, in which everybody adjusts one’s behavior to the expressed needs of the other person in the pursuit of common aims. (It is remarkable to think about love as expressed needs, when some might say about love that in implies a reaction to unexpressed needs between two people. In more popular terms one can discover the marketing connotation of love in discussions on material love and on the need of children for love and affection. In numerous articles, in counseling, in lectures, material love is described as a state of mutual fairness and mutual manipulation, called understanding each other. The wife is supposed to consider the needs and sensibilities of the husband, and vice versa. If he comes home tired and disgruntled, she should not ask him questions—or should ask him questions—according to what the authors think is best for oiling him. #RandolphHarris 11 of 15
And the husband should say appreciative words about the wife’s cooking or her new dress—and all this in the name of love. Every day now one can hear that a child must get affection in order to feel secure, or that another child did not get enough love from his or her parents, and that is why he or she became a criminal or schizophrenic. Love and affection have assumed the same meaning as that of the formula for the baby, or the college education one should get, or the latest film one should take in. You feed love, as you feed security, knowledge and everything else—and you have a happy person. Sometimes you might meet a person and things are going exceedingly well, and you have not indulged in the pleasure of the flesh, but there is a very strong chemical bond between the two of you, but the other person is not willing to commit, nor let go and it leaves you wondering why. Well, some people believe that we are only are given a quantity of love and they feel that when they love someone else there is a depletion of the love he or she has for oneself. The state of being in love make the person think he or she is giving up one’s own personality in favor of an objective cathexis (a concentration of mental energy on one particular person, idea, or object). This is called the fear of the loss of one’s own being in falling in love. #RandolphHarris 12 of 15
The threat of the loss of one’s own being in falling in love comes from the dizziness and shock of being hurled into a new continent of experience. The World is suddenly vastly widened and confronts us with new regions we never dreamed existed. Are we capable of giving ourselves to our beloved and still preserving what center of autonomy we have? Understandably, this experience scares us; but anxiety about the vastness and dangers of the new continent—accompanied by delight and anxiety simultaneously—should not be confused with loss of self-esteem. However, some people have just the opposite experience. When some people fall in love, they feel more valuable and treat themselves with more care. We have all observed the hesitant adolescent, uncertain of oneself, who, when he or she falls in love, suddenly walks with a certain inner assuredness and confidence, a mien which seems to say, “You are looking at somebody now.” And we cannot subsume this under the rubric of pleasures of the flesh from the loved one; for this inner sense of worth that comes with being in love does not seem to depend essentially on whether the love is returned or not. We love others to the extent that we are able to love ourselves, and if we cannot esteem ourselves, we cannot esteem or love others. #RandolphHarris 13 of 15
If we understand that to be open to life, to love, to love another human being, is to trust that whatever else may come to you, mostly you will encounter good, we can cut through the confusion of love. To be open is to remove or discard defenses so that another person can have authentic access to your fullest self. And that means you allow yourself to be vulnerable: you may be hurt, but you also may be loved. You make yourself susceptible to whatever life might offer: joy and pain, love and hatred, acceptance and rejection, pleasure and agony. The reward comes not in finding balance between the agony and the ecstasy, but in knowing yourself to be a courageous, vital, person. Being a significant human being means that there is the plus of being one who dares, one who risks, one who experiments, one who invites life in. One who not only passively says “Yes” to life, but one who goes out—wide open and vulnerable—and challenges life to be interesting, to be worthwhile, to be stimulating. This is the excitement that significant selfhood brings. This is the very active element that loving can mean. We think love and live have more in common than a few similar letters and sounds. Our experience has been that loving people are living people. Thus, love is our capacity to participate in constant dialogue with our environment, the World of nature as well as persons. #RandolphHarris 14 of 15
Love means entering through a cosmic gate and forming a covenant with God. It means the giving that actually replenishes. People who live life in this way also live well, for out of basic, comfortable trust in themselves and their ability to handle life they communicate a trusting of others. Their attitude says in effect, “I believe in myself and Myself says that you are a person as worthwhile as I am. Let us exchange the gift of friendship and see what we can add to each other.” Love is fundamental in human experience, love pervades all actions, and is a deep, broad, motivating force. “Behold, I am the law, and the light. Look unto me, and endure to the end, and ye shall live; for unto one that endureth to the end will I give eternal life,” reports 3 Nephi 15.8. Overall love is the joyous, unpremeditated experience of giving and taking that means knowing, caring, respecting, and responding. “Does your life fall away from view? As the time runs away, whatever will you do? Do you want me again, my dear? I will wait for you. If your thoughts turn to prey on you, I will keep them away, so far away. Through the dark night, I will stay with you. I will comfort you. Oh, I will. Calm down your nervous state. I will sing you a lullaby. Calm down. There is no mistake to keep you up all night. Fall down here with me. Baby, we will be alright, reports Emma Hewitt and Cosmic Gate (Calm Down). #RandolphHarris 15 of 15
Effortless Learning and No More of the Old Drudgery—I have the Power to Command the World to Appear Right Before My Eyes!
I was under some sort of spell myself, looking into her eyes. Her conception of eternity was to feel whole for one blessed hour, to breathe for one blessed hour without pain. How could she make this choice? Unless mortals exploit others, they have to work to in order to live. However primitive and simple one’s method of work may be, by the very fact of production, one has risen above the animal kingdom; rightly has one been defined as the being that produces. However, work is not only an inescapable necessity for mortals. Work is also our liberator from nature, our creator as a social and independent being. In the process of work, this is, the molding and changing of nature outside of oneself, mortals mold and changes oneself. One emerges from nature by mastering her; one develops one’s powers of co-operation, of reason, one’s sense of beauty. One separates oneself from nature, from the original unity with her, but at the same times unites oneself with her again as her master and builder. The more one’s work develops, the more one’s individuality develops. In molding nature and re-creating her, one learns to make use of one’s powers, increasing one’s skill and creativeness. “There were many, exceedingly great many, who were made pure and entered into the rest of the Lord their God,” reports Alma 19.12. #RandolphHarris 1 of 19
Whether we think of the beautiful paintings in the caves of Southern France, the ornaments on weapons among primitive people, the statues and temples of Greece, the pyramids in Egypt, the cathedrals of the Middle Ages, the chairs and tables made by skilled crafts people, delicious Dutch Waffles, or the cultivation of flowers, trees or corn by farmers—all are expressions of the creative transformation of nature by mortal’s reason and skill. In Western history, expertise, especially as it developed in the thirteenth and fourteenth centuries, constitutes one of the peaks in the evolution of creative work. Work was not only a useful activity, but one which carried with it a profound satisfaction. The main features of artistry is very lucidly expressed by acknowledging there is no ulterior motive in work other than the product being made and the process of its creation. The details of daily work are meaningful because they are not detached in the worker’s mind from the product of the work. The worker is free to control his own working action. The crafter is thus able to learn from one’s work; and to use and develop one’s capacities and skills in its prosecution. There is no split of work and play, or work and culture. The craft person’s way of livelihood determines and infuses one’s entire mode of living. #RandolphHarris 2 of 19
With the collapse of the medieval structure, and the beginning of the modern mode of production, the meaning and function of work changed fundamentally, especially in the Protestant countries. Mortals, being afraid of their newly won freedom, were obsessed by the need to subdue one’s doubts and fears by developing a feverish activity. The outcome of this activity, success or failure, decided one’s salvation, indicating whether one was among the saved or the lost souls. Work, instead of being an activity satisfying in itself and pleasurable, became a duty and an obsession. The more it was possible to gain riches by work, the more it became a pure means to the aim of wealth and success. Work became the chief factor in a system of inner-Worldly asceticism, and answer to mortal’s sense of aloneness and isolation. However, work in this sense existed only for the upper and middle classes, those who could amass some capital and employ the work of others. For the vast majority of those who has only their physical energy to sell, work became nothing but forced labor. #RandolphHarris 3 of 19
The worker in the eighteenth or nineteenth century who had to work sixteen hours if one did not want to starve was not doing it because one served the Lord in this way, nor because one’s success would show that one was among the chosen ones, but because one was forced to sell one’s energy to those who had the means of exploiting it. The first centuries of the modern era find the meaning of work divided into that of duty among the middle classes, and that of forced labor among those without property. The religious attitude toward work as a duty, which was still so prevalent in the nineteenth century, has been changing considerably in the last decades. Modern mortals do not know what to do with themselves, how to spend their lifetime meaningfully, and some are driven to work in order to avoid an unbearable boredom. However, work has ceased to be a moral and religious obligation in the sense of the middle-class attitude of the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries. Something new has emerged. Ever-increasing production, the drive to make bigger and better things, have become aims in themselves, new ideas. Work has become alienated from the working person. #RandolphHarris 4 of 19
What happens to the industrial worker? One spends one’s best energy for seven to sixteen hours a day producing something. One needs one’s work in order to make a living, but one’s role is essentially a passive one. One fulfills a small isolated function in a complicated and highly organized process of production, and is never confronted with one’s product as a whole, at least not as a producer, but only as a consumer, provided one has the money to buy one’s product in a store. One is put in a certain place, has to carry out certain task, but does not participate in the organization or management of the work. One is not interested, nor does one know why one produces this, instead of another commodity—what relation it has to the needs of society as a whole. The shoes, the BMW and Buicks and Corvettes, the electric bulbs, are produced by the enterprise, using the machines. One is a part of the machine, rather than its master as an active agent. The machines, instead of being in one’s service to do work for one which once had to be performed by sheer physical energy, has become one’s master. Instead of the machine being the substitute for human energy, mortals have become a substitute for the machine. One’s work can be defined as the performance of acts which cannot yet be performed by machines. #RandolphHarris 5 of 19
Work is a means of getting money and is in itself a meaningful human activity. For the great majority of automobile workers, the meaning of the job is in the pride of the object they are producing, it is not just about the pay check. Manufactures want you to feel proud of the vehicle you are driving and feel safe in it. Work appears as something natural to people who love what they are doing, it is meaningful and a wonderful condition for a person with an abled body and mind to get a pay check, which allows them to purchase the things they need and want. Work provides a sense of dignity, as well as importance. No wonder there is a premium on work. Americans have always been known as a hardworking bunch and women seem to love a “working man.” No wonder this results in a happy and connected worker—because a pay check allows one to feel fully human. This relationship of the worker to one’s work is an outcome of the whole social organization of which one is a part. Being employed, one is an active agent, has responsibility, and proper performance insures that one will bring home enough money to support oneself and family. #RandolphHarris 6 of 19
Of course more is expected and wanted of a person who is employed than just money, people expect love, care, trust, devotion and happiness. We must experience responsibility with each other. The ability and the readiness to respond to the other person. It means to be ready, and able to meet another’s needs—not to lead one’s life for the other person, or to promise to take care of all wants and needs, but to meet most of the important emotional needs. Obviously, love as so defined is not a simple or even simply a complex emotion. It is a qualitative relationship, involving stimuli and responses, giving and taking. It also involves mutuality and reciprocity: there has to be some sort of two-way street involved. The tales told of the lovesick young man wo loves a girl from afar are very good literature sometimes. They are very poor self-actualizing experiencing! We are not just part of the equipment hired by capital, our role and function are determined by more than just our quality of being a piece of equipment. He must know her, respect her, be concerned for her, and respond to her. Then, she must go through the same things with him. If she does not know he exists, has never even seen him, how can she love him? How can he love her if whatever he is feeling is all going nowhere? More properly, he should call it fantasy, admiration, or something else. Love must be shared and returned. #RandolphHarris 7 of 19
In recent decades, increasing attention has been paid to the psychology of the worker, and to one’s attitude toward one’s work, to the human problem of industry; but this very formulation is indicative of the underlying attitude: there is a human being spending most of one’s lifetime at work, and what should be discussed is the industrial problem of human beings, rather than the human problem of industry. Most investigations in the field of industrial psychology are concerned with the question of how the productivity of the individual worker can be increased, and how one can be made to work with less friction; psychology has lent its services to human engineering, an attempt to treat the worker and employee like a machine which runs better when it is well oiled. While *Taylor was primarily concerned with a better organization of the technical use of the worker’s physical powers, most industrial psychologists are mainly concerned with the manipulation of the worker’s psyche. The underlying idea can be formulated like this: if one works better when he or she is happy, then let us make the individual happy, secure, satisfied, or anything else, provided it raises one’s output and diminishes friction. In the name of human relations, the worker is treated with all devices which suit a completely alienated person; even happiness and human values are recommended in the interest of better relations with the public. #RandolphHarris 8 of 19
Thus, for instance, according to Time magazine, one of the best-known American psychiatrists said to a group of fifteen hundred supermarket executives: “It is going to be an increased satisfaction to our customers if we are happy….It is going to pay off in cold dollars and cents to management, if we would put some of these general principles of values, human relationships, really into practice.” One speaks of human relations and one means the most in-human relations, those between alienated automations; one speaks of happiness and means the perfect routinization which has driven out the last doubt and all spontaneity. The alienated and profoundly unsatisfactory character of work results in two reactions: one, the ideal of complete laziness; the other a deep-seated, though often unconscious hostility toward work and everything and everybody connected with it. It is not difficult to recognize the widespread longing for the state of complete laziness and passivity. Our advertising appeals to it even more than to close human intimacy. There are, of course, many useful and labor saving gadgets. However, this usefulness often serves only as a rationalization for the appeal to complete passivity and receptivity. #RandolphHarris 9 of 19
A package of breakfast cereal is being advertised as “new—easier to eat.” An electric toaster is advertised with these words “the most distinctly different toaster in the World! Everything is done for you with this new toaster. You need not even bother to lower the bread. Power-action, though a unique electric motor, gently takes the bread right out of your fingers!” How many courses in languages, or other subjects, are announced with the slogan “effortless learning, no more of the old drudgery.” Everybody knows the picture of the senior couple in the advertisement of a life-insurance company, who have retired in their golden years, and spend their life in the complete bliss of having nothing to do expect just travel. Radio and television exhibit another element of this yearning for laziness: the idea of push-button power; by pushing a button, or turning a knob of my machine, I have the power to produce music, speeches, ball games, and command the World to appear right before my eyes. The pleasure of driving cars certainly rests partly upon this same satisfaction of the wish for push-button power. By the effortless pushing of a button, a powerful ultimate driving machine is set in motion; little skill and effort is needed to make the driver feel that he or she is the rulers of space. #RandolphHarris 10 of 19
However, there is far more serious and deep-seated reaction to the meaninglessness and boredom of work. It is a hostility toward work which is much less conscious than our craving for laziness and inactivity. Many a business person feels oneself the prisoner of one’s business and the commodities one sells; he or she has a feeling of fraudulency about one’s product and a secret contempt for it. One hates their customers, who forces one to put up a show in order to sell. One hates one’s competitors because they are a treat; one’s employees as well as one’s superiors, because one is in a constant competitive fight with them. Most of all, one hates oneself, because one sees one’s life passing by, without making any sense beyond the momentary intoxication of success. Of course, this hate and contempt for others and for oneself, and for the very things one produces, is mainly unconscious, and only occasionally comes up to awareness in a fleeting thought, which is sufficiently disturbing to be set aside as quickly as possible. And it generally means, it is time to move on so not to hurt yourself or others and find something you love to do. The World is a land of opportunities and no one is forcing you to stay in one place at one job for the rest of your live. You can move to another city, state, country or tribal land and do something that suits your fancy. #RandolphHarris 11 of 19
The courage to take meaninglessness into itself presupposes a relation to the ground of being which we have called absolute faith. It is without a special content, yet it is not without content. The content of absolute faith is not without content. The content of absolute faith is the God above God. Absolute faith and its consequence, the courage that takes the radical doubt, the doubt about God, into itself, transcends the theistic idea of Go. Theism can mean the unspecified affirmation of God. Theism in this sense does not say what it means if it uses the name of God. Because of the traditional and psychological connotations of the word God such an empty theism can produce a reverent mood if it speaks of God. Politicians, dictators, and other people who wish to use rhetoric to make an impression on their audience like to use the word God in this sense. It produces the feeling in their listeners that the speaker is serious and morally trustworthy. This is especially successful if they can brand their foes as atheistic. #RandolphHarris 12 of 19
On a higher level people without a definite religious commitment like to call themselves theistic, not for special purposes but because they cannot stand a World without God, whatever this God may be. They need some connotations of the word God and they are afraid of what they call atheism. On the highest level of this kind of theism the name of God is used as a poetic or practical symbol, expressing a profound emotional state or highest ethical idea. It is a theism which stand on the boundary line between the second type of theism and what we call theism transcended. However, it is still too indefinite to cross this boundary line. The atheistic negation of this whole type of theism is as vague as the theism itself. It may produce an irreverent mood and angry reaction of those who take their theistic affirmation seriously. It may even be felt as justified against the rhetorical-political abuse of the name God, but it is ultimately as irrelevant as the theism which it negates. It cannot reach the state of despair any more than the theism against which it fights can reach the state of faith. Theism can have another meaning, quite contrary to the first one: it can be the name of what we have called divine-human encounter. In this case it point to those elements in the Jewish-Christian tradition which emphasize the person-to-person relationship with God. #RandolphHarris 13 of 19
Theism in this sense emphasizes the personalistic passages in the Bible and the Protestant creeds, the personalistic image of God, the word as the tool of creation and revelation, the ethical and social character of the kingdom of God, the personal nature of human faith and divine forgiveness, the historical vision of the Universe, the idea of a divine purpose, the infinite distance between creator and creature, the absolute separation between God and the World, the conflict between holy God and sinful mortals, the person-to-person character of prayer and practical devotion. Theism in this sense is the nonmystical side of biblical religion and historical Christianity. Atheism from the point of view of this theism is the human attempt to escape the divine-human encounter. It is an existential—not a theoretical—problem. Theism has a third meaning, a strictly theological one. Theological theism is, like every theology, dependent on the religious substance which it conceptualizes. It is dependent on theism in the first sense insofar as it tries to prove the necessity of affirming God in some way; it usually develops the so-called arguments for the existence of God. However, it is more dependent on theism in the second sense insofar as it tries to establish a doctrine of God which transforms the person-to-person encounter with God into a doctrine about two person who many or may not meet but who have a reality independent of each other. #RandolphHarris 14 of 19
Now theism in the first sense must be transcended because it is irrelevant, and theism in the second sense must be transcended because it is one-sided. However, theism in the third sense must be transcended because it is wrong. It is bad theology. This can be shown by a more penetrating analysis. The God of theological theism is being beside others as such a part of the whole of reality. He certainly is considered its most important part, but as a part and therefore as subjected to the structure of the whole. He is supposed to be beyond the ontological elements and categories which constitute reality. However, every statement subjects him to them. He is seen as a self which has a World, as an ego which is related to a thou, as a cause which is separated from its effect, as having a definite space and an endless time. He is a being, not being-itself. As such he is bound to the subject-object structure of reality, he is an object for us subjects. At the same time we are objects for him as a subject. And this is decisive for the necessity of transcending theological theism. For God as a subject makes me into an object which is nothing more than an object. #RandolphHarris 15 of 19
God deprives me of my subjectivity because he is all-powerful and all-knowing. I revolt and try to make him into an object, but the revolt fails and becomes desperate. God appears as the invincible tyrant, the being in contrast with whom all other beings are without freedom and subjectivity. He is equated with the recent tyrants who with the help of terror try to transform everything into a mere object, a thing among things, a cog in the machines they control. He becomes the model of everything against which Existentialism revolted. This is the God Nietzsche said to had to be eliminated because nobody can tolerate being made into a mere object of absolute knowledge and absolute control. This is the deepest root of atheism. It is an atheism which is justified as the reaction against theological theism and its disturbing implications. It is also the deepest root of the Existentialist despair and the widespread anxiety of meaninglessness in our period. Theism in all its forms is transcended in the experience we have called absolute faith. It is the accepting of the acceptance without somebody or something that accepts it. It is the power of being-itself that accepts and gives the courage to be. This is the highest point to which our analysis as brought us. It cannot be described in the way God of all forms of theism can be descried. #RandolphHarris 16 of 19
Absolute faith cannot be described in mystical terms either. It transcends both mysticism and personal encounter, as it transcends both the courage to be as a part and the courage to be as oneself. One of the most important things about authentic love is that it feels good. It is a form of absolute faith. Love is something for you, not to you. When you love and are loved, you are added to, not taken away from; you are made better, you feel more whole, you are more complete. This is what God wants us to experience. If love is real, deep and mature, both people in a relationship experience all these good things. So often people tell us that loving someone takes everything out of them. This may not be authentic loving. When you love, you give without giving up. You give without losing. You gain from the giving. It is a shared experience, and it does not take anything away from you. Self-actualizing people report loving others makes them always feel rejuvenated, strengthened, replenished, and it is a beneficial experience. A loving person enjoys loving. One like it, and it pleasures him or her, it makes one feel good, it enlarges and broadens an individual, it creates something, and makes a person want to repeat those feelings. #RandolphHarris 17 of 19
Hair, flesh, bones, and the whole body are always changing. Which is true not only of the body, but also of the soul, whose habits, tempers, opinions, desires, pleasures, pain, fears, never remain the same in anyone of us, but are always coming and going; and equally true of knowledge, and what is still more surprising to mortals, not only do the sciences in general spring up and decay, so in that respect we are never the same. Now in all this change, what binds the diversity together? It is eros, the power in us yearning for wholeness, the drive to give meaning and pattern to our variegation, form to our otherwise impoverishing formlessness, integration to counter our disintegrative trends. Here we must have a dimension of experience which is psychological and emotional as well as biological. This is eros. It is eros which impels people toward health in psychotherapy. In contrast to our contemporary doctrines of adjustment or homeostasis or release of tension, there is in eros an eternal reaching out, a stretching of the self, a continuously replenished urge which impels the individual to dedicate oneself to seek forever higher forms of truth, beauty, and goodness. The Greeks believed that this continuous regeneration of the self is inherent in eros. Those who are with a pearl in the body only, betake themselves to women and beget children—this is the character of their love; their offspring, as they hope, will preserve their memory and give them the blessedness and immortality which they desire in the future. #RandolphHarris 18 of 19
However, souls which are full—for there certainly are women and men who are more creative in their souls than in their bodies—conceive that which is proper for the soul than in their bodies—conceive that which is proper for the soul to conceive or contain. And what are these conceptions?—wisdom and virtue in general. And such creators are poets and all artist who are deserving of the name inventor. Eros allow us to open our energies and participate, via imagination and emotional and spiritual sensitivity, in forms and meanings beyond ourselves in the interpersonal World and the World of nature around us. “Down, the water holds me down. It is like I have no weight and now, I am floating with the tide. The Sun is on my face. And I hear you talking, I hear you speak. Someone is talking, saying something, but I am on my own. There is nothing left to say, it carries me away. And you call out, I cannot hear you. No, I cannot hear nothing. And you all look the same now. You all look the same now. Now, there is nothing that I want to take me from this place. I am drifting further with the tide that carries me away. And I call out. I cannot hear you, I cannot feel you. No, I cannot feel nothing. And you call out, I cannot hear you. I know you are trying hard to reach me. You will always feel cold without me. I know you are trying hard,” reports Emma Hewitt (Carry Me Away). RandolphHarris 19 of 19
Triumph May be of Several Kinds as Long as God has Mercy on the Soul
I felt a physical push, as though she had stretched out her two hands and laid them on my chest and tried to move me back from where I stood. Her face was engraved with a hostile beauty. She tossed her hair just slightly, let it stroke her cheeks. We have avoided the concept of faith in our description of the courage to be which is based on mystical union wit the ground of being as well as in our description of the courage to be which is based on the personal encounter with God. This is partly because the concept of faith has lost its genuine meaning and has received the connotation of belief in something unbelievable. However, this is not the only reason for the use of terms other than faith. The decisive reason is that I do not think either mystical union or personal encounter fulfills the idea of faith. Certainly there is faith in the elevation of the soul above the finite to the infinite, leading to its union with the ground of being. However, more than this is included in the concept of faith. And there is faith in the personal encounter with the personal God. However, more than this is included in the concept of faith. Faith is the state of being grasped by the power of being-itself. The courage to be is an expression of faith and what faith means must be understood through the courage to be. We have defined courage as the self-affirmation of being in spite of non-being. #RandolphHarris 1 of 17
The power of this self-affirmation is the power of being which is effective in every act of courage. Faith is the experience of this power. However, it is an experience which has a paradoxical character, the character of accepting acceptance. Being-itself transcends every finite being infinitely; God in the divine-human encounter transcends mortals unconditionally. Faith bridges this finite gap by accepting the fact that in spite of it the power of being is present, that one who is separated is accepted. Faith accepts in spite of; and out of the in spite of of faith the inspire of of courage is born. Faith is not a theoretical affirmation of something uncertain, it is the existential acceptance of something transcending ordinary experience. Faith is not an opinion but a state. It is the state of being grasped by the power of being which transcends everything that is and in which everything that is participates. One who is grasped by this power is able to affirm oneself because one knows that one is affirmed by the power of being-itself. In this point mystical experience and personal encounter are identical. In both of them faith is the basis of the courage to be. This decisive for a period in which, as in our own, the anxiety of doubt and meaninglessness is dominant. Certainly the anxiety of fate and death is not lacking in our time. The anxiety of fate has increased with the degree to which the schizophrenic split of our World has removed the last remnants of former security. And the anxiety of guilt and condemnation is not lacking either. #RandolphHarris 2 of 17
It is surprising how much anxiety of guilt comes to the surface in psychoanalysis and personal counseling. The centuries of puritan and bourgeois repression of vital strivings have produced almost as many guilt feelings as the preaching of hell and purgatory in the Middle Ages. However, in spite of these restricting considerations one must say that the anxiety which determines our period is the anxiety of doubt and meaninglessness. One is afraid of having lost or of having to lose the meaning of one’s existence. The expression of this situation is the Existentialism of today. Which courage is able to take nonbeing into itself in the from of doubt and meaninglessness? This is the most important and most disturbing question in the quest for the courage to be. For the anxiety of meaninglessness undermines what is still unshaken in the anxiety of fate and death and of guilt and condemnation. In the anxiety of guilt and condemnation doubt has not yet undermined the certainty of an ultimate responsibility. We are threatened but we are not destroyed. If, however, doubt and meaninglessness prevail one experiences an abyss in which the meaning of life and the truth of ultimate responsibility disappear. #RandolphHarris 3 of 17
Both the Stoic who conquers the anxiety of fate with the Socratic courage of wisdom and the Christian who conquers the anxiety of guilt with the Protestant courage of accepting forgiveness are in a different situation. Even in the despair of having to die and the despair of self-condemnation meaning is affirmed and certitude preserved. However, in the despair of doubt and meaninglessness bot are swallowed by nonbeing. The question then is this: Is there a courage which can conquer the anxiety of meaninglessness and doubt? Or in other words, can the faith which accepts acceptance resist the power of nonbeing in its most radical form? Can faith resist meaninglessness? Is there a kind of faith which can exist together with doubt and meaninglessness? These questions lead to the last aspect of the problem discussed in these lectures and the one most relevant to our time: How is the courage to be possible if all the ways to create it are barred by the experience of their ultimate insufficiency? If life is as meaningless as death, if guilt is as questionable as perfection, if being is no more meaningful than nonbeing, on what can one base the courage to be? #RandolphHarris 4 of 17
There is an inclination in some Existentialists to answer these questions by a leap from doubt to dogmatic certitude, from meaninglessness to set of symbols in which the meaning of a special ecclesiastical or political group is embodied. This lead can be interpreted in different ways. It may be the expression of a desire for safety; it may be as arbitrary as, according to Existentialist principles, every decision is; it may be the feeling that the Christian message is the answer to the question raised by an analysis of human existence; it may be a genuine conversion, independent of the theoretical situation. In any case it is not a solution of the problem of radical doubt. It gives the courage to be to those who are converted but it does not answer the question as to how such a courage is possible in itself. The answer must accept, as its precondition, the state of meaninglessness. It is not an answer if it demands the removal of this state; for that is just what cannot be done. One who is in the grip of doubt and meaninglessness cannot liberate oneself from this grip; but one asks for an answer which is valid within and not outside the situation of one’s despair. One asks for the ultimate foundation of what we have called the courage of despair. #RandolphHarris 5 of 17
There is only one possible answer, if one does not try to escape the question: namely that the acceptance of despair is in itself faith and on the boundary line of courage to be. In this situation the meaning of life is reduced to despair about the meaning of life. However, as long as this despair is an act of life it is beneficial in its negativity. Cynically speaking, one could say that it is true to life to be cynical about it. Religiously speaking, one would say that one accepts oneself as accepted in spite of one’s despair about the meaning of this acceptance. The paradox of every radical negativity, as long as it is an active negativity, is that it must affirm itself in order to be able to negate itself. No actual negation can be without an implicit affirmation. The hidden pleasure produced by despair witnesses to the paradoxical character of self-negation. The negative lives from the benefits it negates. The faith which makes the courage of despair possible is the acceptance of the power of being, even in the grip of nonbeing. Even in the despair about meaning being affirms itself through us. The act of accepting meaninglessness is in itself a meaningful act. It is an act of faith. #RandolphHarris 6 of 17
We have seen that one who has the courage to affirm one’s being in spite of fate and guilt has not removed them. One remains threatened and hit by them. However, one accepts one’s acceptance by the power of being-itself in which one participates and which gives one the courage to take the anxieties of fate and guilt upon oneself. The same is true of doubt and meaninglessness. The faith which creates the courage to take them into itself has no special content. It is simply faith, undirected, absolute. It is undefinable, since everything defined is dissolved by doubt and meaninglessness. Nevertheless, even absolute faith is not an eruption of subjective emotions or a mood without objective foundation. An analysis of the nature of absolute faith reveals that following elements in it. The first is the experience of the power of being which is present even in face of the most radical manifestation of nonbeing. If one says that in this experience vitality resists despair one must add that vitality in mortals is proportional to intentionality. The vitality that can stand the abyss of meaninglessness is aware of a hidden meaning within the destruction of meaning. The second element in absolute faith is the dependence of the experience of nonbeing on the experience of being and the dependence of the experience of meaninglessness on the experience of meaning. #RandolphHarris 7 of 17
Even in the state of despair one has enough being to make despair possible. There is a third element in absolute faith, the acceptance of being accepted. Of course, in the state of despair there is nobody and nothing that accepts. However, there is the power of acceptance itself which is experienced. Meaninglessness, as long as it is experienced, includes an experience of the power of acceptance. To accept this power of acceptance consciously is the religious answer of absolute faith, of a faith which has been deprived by doubt of any concrete content, which nevertheless is faith and the source of the most paradoxical manifestation of the courage to be. This faith transcends both the mystical experience and the divine-human encounter. The mystical experience seems to be nearer to absolute faith but it is not. Absolute faith includes an element of skepticism which one cannot find in the mystical experience. Certainly mysticism also transcends all specific contents, but not because it doubts them or has found them meaningless; rather it seems them to be preliminary. Mysticism uses the specific contents as grades, stepping on them after having used them. The experience of meaninglessness, however, denies them (and everything that goes with them) without having used them. The experience of meaninglessness if more radical than mysticism. Therefore it transcends the mystical experience. #RandolphHarris 8 of 17
Absolute faith also transcends the divine-human encounter. In this encounter the subject-object scheme is valid: a definite subject (mortal) meets a definite object (God). One can reserve this statement and say that a definite subject (God) meets a definite object (mortal). However, in both causes the attack of doubt undercuts the subject-object structure. The theologians who speak so strongly and with such self-certainty about the divine-human encounter should be aware of a situation in which this encounter is prevented by radical doubt and nothing is left but absolute faith. The acceptance of such a situation as religiously valid has, however, the consequences that the concrete contents of ordinary faith must be subjected to criticism and transformation. The courage to be in its radical form is a key to an idea of God which transcends both mysticism and the person-to-person encounter. Dr. Freud has discovered the principle of free association. By giving up the control of your thoughts in the presence of a skilled listener, you can discover your unconscious feelings and thoughts without being asleep, or crazy, or drunk, or hypnotized. #RandolphHarris 9 of 17
The psychoanalyst reads between your lines, one is capable of understanding you better than you understand yourself because you have freed your thinking from the limitations of conventional thought control. However, free association soon deteriorated, like freedom and happiness. First it deteriorated in the orthodox psychoanalytic procedure itself. Not always, but often. Instead of giving rise to a meaningful expression of imprisoned thoughts, it became meaningless chatter. Other therapeutic schools reduced the role of the analyst to that of a sympathetic listener, who repeats in slightly different version the words of the patient, without trying to interpret or to explain. All this is done with the idea that the patient’s freedom must not be interfered with. The Freudian idea of free association has become the instrument of many psychologists who call themselves counselors, although the only thing they do not do is counsel. These counselors play an increasingly large role as private practitioners and as advisers in industry. What is the effect of the procedure? Obviously not a cure which Dr. Freud ad in mind when he devised free association as a basis for understanding the unconscious. Rather a release of tension which results from talking things out in the presence of a sympathetic listener. #RandolphHarris 10 of 17
Your thoughts, as long as you keep them within yourself, may disturb you—but something fruitful may come out of this disturbance; you mull them over, you think, you feel, you may arrive at a new thought born out of this travail. However, when you talk right away, when you do not let your thoughts and feelings build up pressure, as it were, they do not become fruitful. It is exactly the same as with unobstructed consumption. You are a system in which things go in and out continuously—and within it is nothing, no tension, no digestion, no self. Dr. Freud’s discovery of free association had the aim of finding out what went on in your underneath the surface, of discovering who you really were; the modern talking to the sympathetic listener has the opposite, although unavowed aim; its function is to make a mortal forget who one is (provided one has still some memory), to lose all tension, and with it all sense of self. Just as one oils machines, one oils people and especially those in the mass organizations of work. One oils them with pleasant slogans, material advantages, and with the sympathetic understanding of the psychologists. The talking and listening to eventually has become the indoor sport of those who cannot afford a professional listener, or prefer the layman for one reason of another. It has become fashionable, sophisticated, to talk things out. There is no inhibition, no sense of shame, no holding back. #RandolphHarris 11 of 17
When we are allowed to freely express ourselves, one speaks about the tragic occurrences of one’s life with the same ease as one would talk about another person of no particular interest, or as one would speak about the various troubles one has had with one’s video game. Indeed, psychology and psychiatry are in the process of changing their function fundamentally. From the Delphic Oracle’s “Know thyself!” to Dr. Freud’s psychoanalytic therapy, the function of psychology was to discover the self, to understand the individual, to find the truth that makes you free. Today the function of psychiatry, psychology and psychoanalysis threatens to become the tool in the manipulation of mortals. The specialists in this field tell you what the normal person is, and, correspondingly, what is wrong with you; they devise the methods to help you adjust, be happy, be normal. In the Brave New World this conditioning is done from the first month of fertilization (by chemical means), until after puberty. With us, it begins a little later. Constant repetition by newspaper, radio, television, does most of the conditioning. However, the crowning achievement of manipulation is modern psychology. #RandolphHarris 12 of 17
What the American mechanical engineer Frederick Winslow Taylor did for industrial work when he started the Efficiency Movement, the psychologist does for the whole personality—all in the name of understanding freedom. There are many exceptions to this among psychiatrists, psychologists and psychoanalysts, but it becomes increasingly clear that these professions are in the process of becoming a serious danger to the development of mortal, that their practitioners are evolving into the priests of the new religion of fun, consumption and selflessness, into the specialists of manipulation, into the spokes person for the alienated personality. One wonders whether everyone has forgotten the fact that eros, according to no less an authority than St. Augustine, is the power which drives men toward God. Eros created life on the Earth, the early Greek mythology tells us. When the World was barren and lifeless, it was Eros who seized his life-giving arrows and pierced the cold heart of the Earth, and immediately the brown surface was covered with luxuriant verdure. This is an appealing symbolic picture of how love is a creative relationship. It is creative in the sense that something new or novel or important comes out of relating. #RandolphHarris 13 of 17
Eros then breathed into the nostrils of the clay forms of man and woman and gave them the spirit of life. The relationship, not how it is expressed or consummated, is the important thing. A friendship between two people, whether of the opposite sex or the same sex, is a love relationship when certain important qualities are present. Any love relation involves four elements: Knowledge, Care, Respect, Responsibility. Eros is the kind of energy that is a desiring, longing, a forever reaching out, seeking to expand. Eros is defined as ardent desire, yearning, aspiring self-fulfilling love. For eros is the power which attracts us. The essence of eros is that it draws us from ahead. This is revealed in our day-to-day language when I saw a person allures me or entices me, or the possibilities of a new job invite me. Something in me responds to the other person, or the job, and pulls me toward the individual or career. I participate in forms, possibilities, higher levels of meaning, on neurophysiological dimensions but also on aesthetic and ethical dimensions as well. As the Greeks believed, knowledge and even ethical goodness exercise such a pull. Eros is the drive toward union with what we belong to—union with our own possibilities, union with significant other persons in our World in relation to whom we discover our own self-fulfillment. Eros is the yearning in a mortal which leads one to dedicate oneself to seek arete, the noble and good life. #RandolpHarris 14 of 17
To love, to be in a true loving relationship, the involved people must know each other. True love at first sight is possible under the rarest of circumstances and occurs only in the same kinds of ultra-sensitive people who may also be called mind-readers or superb judges of character. The common feeling of falling in love at first sight is a product of one or more things: fascination, fantasy, intimacy, admiration, appreciation, attraction, identification, or just plain good vibes. If one defines love in any of those terms, then for all intents and purposes the individual loves you. However, love, for most people, and we must say in reality, is much more. It is really knowing another individual. To know someone you must experience that person. Not just on dates, and certainly not just by seeing him or her on a two-dimensional movie screen or on social media. In the typical dating experience, even in this modern, enlightened, up-to-date, anti-establishment World, people do unreal, phony and inauthentic things in an attempt to put their best foot forward, basically to impress another person. So many things are artificially hidden—complexion flaws, food preferences, less-than-acceptable traits-that one person may require a great deal of time to penetrate the masks of another or to become acquainted with the games he or she plays. #RandolphHarris 15 of 17
Mature, deep and satisfying love comes from real, intimate, intensive and extensive knowledge. It comes from wide and profound experiencing of the fullest self possible. Eros makes one want to stay awake and think of the beloved, remembering, savoring, discovering ever-new facets of the prism of what the experience of being around them is like. It is the urge for union with the partner that is the occasion for human tenderness. The source of love is tenderness. Eros is the longing to establish union, full relationship. To know more than intellectual insight. You do not know a girl simply because you know her name is Elle Woods, that she lives on the 4900th Court of Regatta, that her phone number 817-4435, that her measurements are 35-22-36, that her age is 20, that she works at…, that her parents are…,that she has certain color eyes, hair, skin, etc. This is not the kind of knowledge we mean. This is Bureau of the Census information, almanac data. It is impressed on us that intimate, personal knowledge is fundamental and basic part of a close relationship. We must know each other—each of us must understand the other’s special uniqueness—before we consider our relationship one of love. The two persons, longing, as all individuals do, to overcome the separateness and isolation to which we all are heir as individuals, can participate in a relationship that, for the moment, is not made up of two isolated, individual experiences, but for a genuine union. #RandolphHarris 16 of 17
True respect takes place as we come to develop our ability to love our fellow mortals as ourselves. A sharing takes place which is a new being, a new field of magnetic force. This is what is called chemistry of two people in love, and without it, a relationship will not last. Chemistry shakes us, it has within it the great wonder, tremendous and tremulous as it may be, it is when we know the other individual is the mate of our soul and the feeling is mutual. Chemistry is the moment of union of souls and realization that we have won the others. This is a symbolic way of communicating a basic truth of human experience, that eros always drives us to transcend ourselves. It is a truth which obtains our relationships in the objective World. “All these faded pictures I save in the corners of my mind. They call in waves to take me away. I will not be back tonight. And I breathe the sights that we left behind. Wen I dream, those nights will always be mine. I feel as years unfold that we are still connected to those days when we were young and you were my reflect. I still come back to you,” reports Emma Hewitt and Andrew Rayel (My Reflection). Respect is also synonymous with care and concern. We respect those we care about. #RandolphHarris 17 of 17
Its Past Enlightened to Perceive New Periods of Recollect
Indeed people’s charms should not go to waste, that is my motto, may it never have dire consequences for the mortal World. As I have pointed out before, anonymous authority and automation conformity are largely the results of our mode of production, which requires quick adaptation to the machines, disciplined mass behavior, common taste and obedience without the use of force. Another facet of our economic system, the need for mass consumption, has been instrumental in creating a feature in the social character of modern mortals which constitutes one of the most striking contrasts to the social character twenty first century. I am referring to the principle that every desire must be satisfied immediately, no wish must be frustrated. The most obvious illustration of this principle is to be found in our system of buying on the installment plan. In the nineteenth century you bought what you needed, when you had saved the money for it; today you buy what you need, or do not need, on credit, and the function of advertising is largely to coax you into buying and to whet your appetite for things, so that you can be coaxed. You live in a circle. You buy on the installment plan, and about the time you have finished paying, you sell and you buy again—the latest model. #RandolphHarris 1 of 19
The principle that desires must be satisfied without much delay has also determined sexual behavior, especially since the end of the First World War. A crude form of misunderstood Freudianism used to furnish the appropriate rationalizations; the idea being that neuroses result from repressed sexual strivings, that frustrations were traumatic, and the less you repressed the healthier you were. Even parents anxious to give their children everything they wanted lest they be frustrated, acquired a complex. Unfortunately, many of these children as well as their parents landed on the analyst’s couch, provided they could afford it. The greed for things and the inability to postpone the satisfaction of wishes as characteristic of modern mortals has been stressed by thoughtful observers, such as Max Scheler and Bergson. It as been given its most poignant expression by Aldous Huxley in the Brave New World. Among the slogans by which the adolescents in the Brave New World are conditioned, one of the most important ones is “Never put off till tomorrow the fun you can have today.” It is hammered into them, “two hundred repetitions, twice a week from fourteen to sixteen and a half.” This instant realization of wishes is felt as happiness. “Everybody’s happy nowadays” is another of the Brave New World slogans; people “get what they want and they never want what they can’t get.” #RandolphHarris 2 of 19
This need for the immediate consumption of commodities and the immediate consummation of sexual desires is coupled in the Brave New World as in our own. It is considered immoral to keep one love partner beyond a relatively short time. Love is short-lived sexual desire, which must be satisfied immediately. The greatest care is taken to prevent you from loving anyone too much. There is no such thing as a divided allegiance; you are so conditioned that you cannot help doing what you ought to do. And what you out to do is on the whole so pleasant, so many of the natural impulses are allowed free play, that there really are not any temptations to resist. This lack of inhibition of desires leads to the same result as the lack of overt authority—the paralysis and eventually the destruction of the self. If I do not postpone the satisfaction of my wish (and am conditioned only to wish for what I can get), I have no conflicts, no doubts; no decision has to be made; I am never alone with myself, because I am always busy—either working, or having fun. I have no need to be aware of myself as myself because I am constantly absorbed having pleasure. #RandolphHarris 3 of 19
I am—a system of desires and satisfaction; I have to work in order to fulfill my desires—and these very desires are constantly stimulated and directed by the economic machines. Most of these appetites are synthetic; even sexual appetite is by far not as natural as it is made out to be. It is to some extent stimulated artificially. And it needs to be if we want to have people as the contemporary system needs them—people who feel happy, who have no doubts, who have no conflicts, who are guided without the use of force. Having fun consists mainly in the satisfaction of consuming and taking in; commodities, sights, food, drinks, cigarettes, people, lectures, books, movies—all are consumed, swallowed. The World is one great object for our appetite, a big apple, a big bottle, a big breast; we are the sucklers, the eternally expectant ones, the hopeful ones—and the eternally disappointed ones. How can we help being disappointed if our birth stops at the breast of the mother, if we are never weaned, if we remain overgrown babes, if we never go beyond the receptive orientation? So people do worry, feel inferior, inadequate, guilty. They sense that they live without living, that life runs through their hands like sand. How do they deal with their troubles, which stem from the passivity of constant taking in? #RandolphHarris 4 of 19
By another form of passivity, a constant spilling out, as it were: by talking. Here, as in the case of authority and consumption, an idea which once was productive has been turned into its opposite. Who we are—what our identities will be—is not a given, not fully decided at birth. Newborn infants are not miniature adults or people seeds, that only require a sprinkling of water to grow to their fullest stature. On the other hand, as unlike the adults they will become that infants are, they are not wholly, either. Just how much of our identities are we born with? How much is nurtured through processes and forces outside of ourselves? Perhaps we can most accurately say that people are born with potentials that develop as they grow into adult human beings. The terms we use to describe the life process—changing, growing, evolving, transforming, unfolding, becoming, realizing, actualizing, blooming, blossoming, flowering—reveal this belief that at birth we both are and are not all that we will become. Many theorists have tried to describe the processes through which people develop. However, these detailed systems cannot explain the study of the human life cycle with certainty to all the questions arise. #RandolphHarris 5 of 19
Too many questions of philosophy and cannot, at least now, be answered by science. They do, though, add important insight and knowledge to our study of the ways in which we grow into being. Most people live in the confidence that out technological developments have largely freed us from the risks of unchosen pregnancy and venereal disease and, therefore, ipso facto, the anxiety people used to feel about sex and love is now banished forever to the museum. The vicissitudes about which the novelists of previous centuries wrote—when a woman gave herself to a man, it meant illegitimate pregnancy and social ostracism, as in The Scarlet Letter; or the tragic break-up of the family structure and the experience of death by suicide, as in Anna Karenina; or venereal disease, as in the market place of social reality—have been outgrown. Now, thank God and science, we tell ourselves, we are rid of all that! The implication is that sex is free and that love is easy and comes in readily procurable packages like what the students call “instant Zen.” And any talk of the deeper conflicts which used to be associated with the tragic and daimonic elements is anachronistic and absurd. #RandolphHarris 6 of 19
However, I shall be impolite enough to ask, May there not be a gigantic extensive repression underlying all this? A repression not of sex, but of something underlying body chemistry, some psychic needs more vital, deeper, and more comprehensive than sex. A repression that is socially sanctioned, to be sure—but just for that reason harder to discern and more effective in its results. I am obviously not questioning contemporary medical and psychological advances as such: no one in his or her right mind would fail to be grateful for the development of contraceptives, estrogen, and cures for venereal disease. And I count it good fortune indeed to be born into this age with its freedom of possibilities rather than in the Victorian period with its rigid mores. However, that issue is fallacious and a red herring. Our problem is more profound and starkly real. We pick up the morning paper and read that there are a million illegal abortions in enlightened America each year; that premarital pregnancies are increasing on all sides. One girl out of six who is now thirteen will, according to present statistics, become illegitimately pregnant before she is twenty—two and half times the incidence of ten year ago. #RandolphHarris 7 of 19
The increase is mainly among the girls of the proletarian classes, but there is enough increase among girls of middle and upper classes to prove that this is not a problem solely of disadvantage groups. Some people believe that we are what we are at birth. Nature, through heredity, determines everything. We look, act, feel, do, and believe what we do because of our genetic makeup. Others believe that regardless of what we are born with, it is the impact of our environment, of the way we are nurtured, that really determines who and what we become. What we learn or acquire through conditioning and experience makes up what we are. Most people now believe that both nature and nurture play important roles in shaping our behavior. We are confronted by the curious situation of the more birth control, the more illegitimate pregnancies. As the reader hastens to cry that what is necessary to change barbaric abortion laws and give more sex education, I would not disagree; but I could, and should raise a caveat. The blanket advising of more sex education can act as a reassurance by means of which we escape having to ask ourselves the more frightening question. May not the real issue be not on the level of conscious, rational intentions at all? May it not be in a deeper realm of what I shall later call intentionality? #RandolphHarris 8 of 19
Some women use their sex to gain personal affirmation. They are desired, and that is almost enough…a child is a symbol that she is a woman, and she may gain from having something on her own. This struggle to prove one’s identity and personal worth may be more outspoken with less affluent young women, but it is just as present in middle-class young ladies who can cover it up better by socially skillful behavior. Let us take as an example a female patient from an upper middle-class background with whom I whom I worked. Her father had been a banker in a small city, and her mother a proper lady who has always assumed a Christian attitude toward everyone but who seemed, from the data which came up in therapy, to be usually rigid and had actually resented having this girl when she was born. My patient was well educated, already in her early thirties a successful editor in a large publishing house, and obviously was not the slightest deficient in knowledge of sex or contraception. Yet she had two illegitimate pregnancies in her mid-twenties several years before she began treatment with me. Both of these pregnancies gave her painful feelings of guilt and conflict, yet she went from one directly into another. #RandolphHarris 9 of 19
She had been married for two years in her early twenties to a man who, an intellectual like herself, was emotionally detached, and each had tried by various kinds of aggressive-dependency nagging to get the other to infuse some meaning and vitality into an empty marriage. After her divorce, while she lived alone, she volunteered to do some evening reading to those who were visually impaired. She became pregnant by the young visually impaired man to whom she read. Though this, and its subsequent abortion, upset her greatly, she became pregnant again shortly after her first abortion. Now it is absurd to think that we can understand this behavior on the basis of sexual needs. Indeed, the fact tat she did not feel sexual desire was actually more influential in leading her into the sexual relations which caused the pregnancies. We must look to her image of herself and her ways of trying to find a meaningful place for herself in her World id we are to have any hope of discovering the dynamics of the pregnancies. She was, diagnostically speaking, what is called a typically contemporary schizoid personality: intelligent, articulate, efficient, successful in work, but detached in personal intercourse and afraid of intimate relationships. #RandolphHarris 10 of 19
She had always thought of herself as an empty person who never could feel much on her own or experience anything lasting even when she took psychedelics—the kind of person who cries out to the World to give her some passion, some vitality. Attractive, she ad a number of men friends but the relationships with them also had a dried up quality and lacked the zest for which she fervently longed. She described sleeping with the one with which she was most intimate at the time as if they were two animals clinging together for warmth, her feeling being a generalized despair. She had a dream early in therapy which recurred in varying form, of herself in one room and her parents in the next room separated by a wall which went not quite up to the ceiling; and no matter how hard she knocked on the wall or cried out to them in the dream, she could not get them to hear her. She arrived for her therapy hour one day having just come from an art exhibit, to tell me she had discovered the symbol most accurately describing her feelings about herself: the lonely figures of Edward Hopper, in his paintings in which there is only one figure—a solitary girl usherette in a brightly lighted and plush but entirely empty theater; a woman sitting alone by an upper window in a Victorian house at the shore in the deserted off-season; a lone person in a rocking chair on a porch not unlike the house in the small city in which my patient grew up. #RandolphHarris 11 of 19
Edward Hopper’s paintings, indeed, give a poignant meaning to the quiet despair, the emptiness of human feeling and longing which is referred to by that cliché alienation. It is touching that her first pregnancy came in a relation with a human being who was visually impaired. We are impressed here by her elemental generosity in wanting to give him something and to prove something also to herself, but most of all we are struck by the aura of blindness surrounding the whole event of getting pregnant. She was one of the many person in our World of affluence and technological power who moved, humanly speaking, in a World of the blind, where nobody can see another and were our touching is at best a sightless fumbling, moving our fingers over the body of another trying to recognize him or her, but unable in our own self-enclosing darkness to do so. We could conclude that she became pregnant to establish her own self-esteem by proving somebody wants her—as her husband did not; to compensate for her feelings of emotional poverty—which pregnancy does quite literally by filling up the womb if we take the womb (hysteria) as a symbol of vacuum of emotions. #RandolphHarris 12 of 19
Furthermore, the young lady may have wanted to get pregnant to expression her aggression against her mother and father and their suffocating and hypocritical middle-class background. All of the which goes without saying. However, what the deeper defiance required by, and indeed built into, the self-contradiction in her and in our society which belie our rational, well-meaning intentions? It is absurd to think that this girl, or any girl, gets pregnant simply because she does not know better. This woman lives in an age where, for upper-class and middle-class girls like her, contraceptives and sex knowledge were never more available, and her society proclaims on all sides that anxiety about sex is archaic and encourages her to be free of all conflict about love. What of the anxiety which comes precisely from this new born freedom? Anxiety which places a burden on individual consciousness and capacity for personal choice which, if not insoluble, is great indeed; anxiety which in our sophisticated and enlightened day cannot be acted out like the hysterical women of Victorian times (for everyone nowadays ought to be free and uninhibited) and therefore turns inward and results in inhibiting feelings, suffocating passion in place of the inhibition of actions of the nineteenth-century woman. #RandolphHarris 13 of 19
The girls and women in this predicament are partial victims of a gigantic repression in themselves and in our society—the repression of eros and passion and the over availability of sex as a technique for repression. A corollary is that our dogmatic enlightenment contains elements within it which rob us of the very means of meeting this new and inner anxiety. We are experiencing a return of the repressed, a return of an eros which will not be denied no mater how much it is bribed on all sides by sex: a returned of the repressed in a primitive way precisely designed to mock our withdrawal of feelings. The same is found in out work with men. A young psychiatrist, in his training analysis, was preoccupied mainly with the fear that he was homosexual. Now in his middle twenties, he had never had sexual relations with a woman, and though he had not been a practicing homosexual, he had been approached by enough men to make him think that he emanated that “aura.” During his therapy, he became acquainted with a woman and in due course they begin having sexual relations. At least half the time they did not use contraceptives. Several times I brought to his attention the fact that the was fairly sure to get pregnant; he—knowing all about this from his medical training—would agree and thank me. #RandolpHarris 14 of 19
However, when he still had intercourse without contraception and once was very anxious when the woman missed her menstrual cycle, I found myself vaguely anxious, too, and irritated at how stupid her seemed to be. I caught myself up with the realization that, in my naivete, I was missing the whole point of what was going on. So I broke in, “It seems you want to make this woman pregnant.” He at first emphatically contradicted me, but then he paused to ponder the truth of my statement. All talk of methods and what they ought to do was of course irrelevant. In this man, who had never been able to feel himself masculine, some vital need was pushing him not just to prove himself a man—of which impregnating a woman is much more decisive than merely the capacity to have intercourse—but to get some hold on nature, experience a fundamental procreative process, give himself over to some primitive and powerful biological process, partake of some deeper pulsations in the cosmos. We shall not understand these problems except when we see that our patients have been robbed of precisely these deeper sources of human experience. #RandolphHarris 15 of 19
We observe in many of these illegitimate pregnancies—or their equivalent—a defiance of the very socially-ordered system which takes away affect, where technology is felt to be a substitute for feelings, a society which calls persons forth to an arid and meaningless existence and gives them, particularly the younger generation, an experience of personalization which is more painful than illegal abortion. No one who has worked with patients for a long period of time can fail to learn that the psychological and spiritual agony of depersonalization is harder to bear than physical pain. And, indeed, they often clutch at physical pain (or social ostracism or violence or delinquency) as a welcome relief. Have we become so civilized that we have forgotten that a girl can yearn to procreate, and can do so not just for psychobiological reasons but to break up the arid desert of feelingless existence, to destroy for one if not for all the repetitive pattern of fucking-to-avoid-the-emptiness-of-despair (“What shall we do tomorrow?” as T.S. Eliot has a rich courtesan cry, “What shall we ever do?”). Or that she can yearn to become pregnant because tee art is never fully converted to a passionlessness, and she is driven to an expression of that which is denied her and which she herself consciously denies in our age of the cool millennium. At least being pregnant is something real, and it proves to the girl and to the man that they are real. #RandolphHarris 16 of 19
Alienation is felt as a loss of the capacity to be intimately personal. As I hear these people, they are crying, “We yearn to talk but our dried voices are birds feet over broken glass. We go to bed because we cannot hear each other; we go to bed because we are too shy to look in each other’s eyes, and in bed one can turn away one’s head.” It should not be surprising that a revolt is occurring against the mores which people think cause alienation; a defiance of social norms which promise virtue without trying, sex without risk wisdom without struggle, luxury without effort—all provided that they agree to settle for love without passion, and soon even sex without feeling. The denial of the daimonic means only that the Earth Spirits will come back to haunt us in a new guise; Gaea will be heard, and when the darkness returns the black Madonna will be present if there is no white. The error into which we have fallen obviously consists not of our scientific advances and enlightenment as such, but the using of these for a blanket allaying of all anxiety about sex and love. Marcuse holds that in a nonrepressive society, as sex develops it tends to merge with eros. It is clear that our society has done just the opposite: we separated sex from eros and then tried to repress eros. The passion which is one element of the denied eros then comes back from its repression to upset the person’s whole existence. #RandolphHarris 17 of 19
The significant self is one who has come through the ravages of an insignificance-producing technology, has learned to accept and know oneself, has come to appreciate one’s place in the scheme of things (nature and other people), and as learned how to integrate the various sides of oneself in an authentic and honest fashion. The person who is struggling to be oneself and know oneself and enjoy being alive ever comes back, full circle, to the beginning, to that vaguest of all concepts: Love. Love, more than being a mere feeling, idea, ideal, or notion, is the most complex experience in all human life. It is the cause of more joy and also more misery than anything else we can know. What do we mean by love? Do any two people mean the same thing by it? Look at the confusion engendered by the simple expression of “I love you”: Sometimes it means: I desire you or I want you sexually. It may mean: I hope you love me or I hope that I will be able to love you. Often it means: It may be that a love relationship can develop between us or even I hate you. Often it is a wish for emotional exchange: I want your admiration in exchange for mine or I give my love in exchange for some passion or I want to feel cozy and at home wit you or I admire some of your qualities. #RandolphHarris 18 of 19
A declaration of love is mostly a request: I desire you or I want you to gratify me or I want your protection or I want to be intimate with you or I want to exploit your loveliness. Sometimes it is the need for security and tenderness, for parental treatment. It may mean: My self-love goes out to you. However, it may also express submissiveness: Please take me as I am or I feel guilty about you. I want through you to correct the mistakes I have made in human relations. It may be self-sacrifice and a masochistic wish for dependency. Saying I love you to someone may also be a way of saying good-bye to a person you have wronged, someone you have set up, when you know something is about to happen to them. However, it also may be a full affirmation of the other, taking responsibility for mutual exchange of feelings. It may be a weak feeling of friendliness, it may be the scarcely even whispered expression of ecstasy. “I love you,” wish, desire, submission, conquest: it is never the word itself that tells the real meaning here. “Wherefore, hear my voice and follow me, and you shall be a free people, and ye shall have no laws but my laws when I come, for I am your lawgiver, and what can stay my hand?” reports Doctrines and Covenants 38.22. It would be nice for people to recognize who one is and what one does, to recognize the individual as a person, and enjoy what we are sharing with them. #RandolphHarris 19 of 19
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When they come on errand, they leave behind the totality of salvation. They have to, do they not? Or every haunting would be a theophany (the winged trio is said by some to symbolize the Holy Trinity), would it not? As the symbolic figures of death and the Devil show, the anxiety of this period was not restricted to the anxiety of guilt. It was also an anxiety of death and fate. The astrological ideas of the later ancient World had been revived by the Renaissance and had influenced even those humanists who joined the Reformation. We have already referred to the Neo-Stoic courage, expressed in some Renaissance pictures, where mortals direct the vessel of one’s life although it is driven by the winds of fate. Martin Luther the anxiety of fate on another level. He experienced the connection between the anxiety of guilt and the anxiety of fate. It is uneasy conscience which produces innumerable irrational fears in daily life. The rustling of a dry leaf horrifies one who is plagued by guilt. Therefore conquest of the anxiety of guilt is also conquest of the anxiety of fate. The courage of confidence takes the anxiety of fate as well as the anxiety of guilt into itself. It says “in spite of” to both of them. This is the genuine meaning of the doctrine of providence. Providence is not a theory about some activities of God; it is the religious symbol of the courage of confidence with respect to fate and death. For the courage of confidence says “in spite of” even to death. #RandolphHarris 1 of 17
The Apostle Paul , Martin Luther was well aware of the connection of the anxiety of guilt with the anxiety of death. In Stoicism and Neo-Stoicism the essential self is not threatened by death, because it belongs to being-itself and transcends nonbeing. Socrates, who in the power of one’s essential self conquered the anxiety of death, has become the symbol for the courage to take death upon oneself. This is the true meaning of Plato’s so-called doctrine of immortality of the soul, In discussing this doctrine we should neglect the arguments for immortality, even those in Plato’s Phaedon, and concentrate on the image of the dying Socrates. All the arguments, skeptically treated by Plato himself, are attempts to interpret the courage of Socrates, the courage to take one’s death into one’s self-affirmation. Socrates is certain that the self which the executioners will destroy is not the self which affirms itself in one’s courage to be. He does not say much about the relation of the two selves, and he could not because they are not numerically two, but one in two aspects. However, he makes it clear that the courage to die is the test of the courage to be. A self-affirmation which omits taking the affirmation of one’s death into itself tries to escape the test of courage, the facing of nonbeing in the most radical way. #RandolphHarris 2 of 17
The popular belief in immortality which in the Western World has largely replaced the Christian symbol of resurrection is a mixture of courage and escape. It tries to maintain one’s self-affirmation even in the face of one’s having to die. However, it does this by continuing one’s finitude, that is one’s having to die, infinitely, so that the actual death never will occur. This, however, is an illusion and, logically speaking, a contradiction in terms. It makes endless what, by definition, must come to an end. The immortality of the soul is a poor symbol for the courage to be in the face of one’s having to die. The courage of Socrates (in Plato’s picture) was based not on a doctrine of the immortality of the soul but on the affirmation of oneself in one’s essential, indestructible being. He knows that he belongs to two orders of reality and that the one order is transtemporal. It was the courage of Socrates which more than any philosophical reflection revealed to the ancient World that everyone belongs to two orders. “Half the World is composed of people who have something to say and cannot, and the other half who have nothing to say and keep on saying it,” reports Robert Frost. #RandolphHarris 3 of 17
However, there was one presupposition in the Socratic (Stoic and Neo-Stoic) courage to take death upon oneself, namely the ability of every individual to participate in both orders, the temporal and the eternal. This presupposition is not accepted by Christianity. According to Christianity we are estranged from our essential being. We are not free to realize our essential being, we are bound to contradict it. Therefore death can be accepted only through a state of confidence in which death has ceased to be the wages of sin. This, however, is the state of being accepted in spite of being unacceptable. Here is the point in which the ancient World was transformed by Christianity and in which Martin Luther’s courage to face death was rooted. It is the being accepted into communion with God that underlies this courage, not a questionable theory of immortality. The encounter with God in Martin Luther is not merely the basis for the courage to take upon oneself sin and condemnation, it is also the basis for taking upon oneself fate and death. For encountering God means encountering transcendent security and transcendent eternity. One who participates in God participates in eternity. However, in order to participate in God one must be accepted by him and one must have accepted God’s acceptance of oneself. #RandolphHarris 4 of 17
Martin Luther has experiences which he describes as attack of utter despair (Anfechtung), as the frightful threat of a complete meaninglessness. He felt these moments as satanic attacks in which everything was menaced: his Christian faith, the confidence in his work, the Reformation, the forgiveness of sins. Everything broke down in the extreme moments of this despair, nothing was left of the courage to be. Martin Luther in these moments and in the descriptions he gives of them, anticipated the descriptions of them by modern Existentialism. However, for him this was not the last word. The last word was the first commandment, the statement that God is God. It reminded him of the unconditional element in human experience of which one can be aware even in the abyss of meaninglessness. And this awareness saved him. It should not be forgotten that the great adversary of Martin Luther, Thomas Munzer, the Anabaptist and religious socialist, describes similar experiences. He speaks of the ultimate situation in which everything finite reveals its finitude, in which the finite has come to its end, in which anxiety grips the heart and all previous meanings fall apart, and in which just for this reason the Divine Spirit can make itself felt and can turn the whole situation into a courage to be whose expression is revolutionary action. #RandolphHarris 5 of 17
While Martin Luther represents ecclesiastical Protestantism, Thomas Munzer represents evangelical radicalism. Both men have shaped history, and actually Thomas Munzer’s views had even more influence in American than Martin Luther’s. Both mortals experienced the anxiety of meaninglessness and described it in terms which had been created by Christian mystics. However, in doing so they transcended the courage of confidence which is based on a personal encounter with God. They had to receive elements from the courage to be which is based on mystical union. This leads to the question: whether the two types of the courage to accept acceptance can be united in view of the all-pervasive presence of the anxiety of doubt and meaninglessness in our own period. Certainly one of the most fascinating cults is Spiritualism. For so many years psychologist have shied away from this area because it seemed do much a part of the World of magic and fantasy. However, this area is now called parapsychology, and is getting a lot of attention. As an example, the American Association for the Advancement of Science has given birth to a department dealing with psychic research. This is status of some sort, for it means that foundations and governmental agencies can now support this kind of research. #RandolphHarris 6 of 17
We include under the general term “spiritualism” any form of experience or involvement with seemingly non-material phenomena, even those that seem to be non- or extra-sensory in the ways we perceive them. In this category are spirit- and ghost-communications, exorcisms, mediumship, and hauntings. The British Society for Psychic Research has been in existence for over one hundred and fifty years and has had a fairly high degree of respect. A. Conan Doyle, the physician and novelist who wrote the Sherlock Holmes stories, was one of its better-known members. The American Society for Psychic Research has been in existence for nearly one hundred years. Ghosts and spirits are part of the mythological and folklore of every culture. People who have had some kind of contact with ghost- or spirit-believers that they are sincere and devoted. Of course, every cult and every group has its share of eccentrics, kooks, exploiters, and hallucinators. However, brushing these aside, what of those who in dead earnest believe in and participate in such activities? We find that they are people who do not believe in death of the body as the end of existence. They are often religious people who believe in the immortality of the human soul, but, religious or not, they believe that life continues beyond the grave. #RandolphHarris 7 of 17
Ghosts are usually through to be unhappy or dissatisfied spirits. Either they left work unfinished, desired vengeance, or had to keep a particular house company even after their bodies left it. Many ghosts or spirits are attached to particular buildings or pieces of land. England has long been a country famous for its haunted houses and castles and its ancestral spirits returning to clank a chain or drive away unwelcome residents. Sometimes the spirit stays around because it was badly buried; that is, the burial did not suit the spirit. In modern, computerized America, many people wholeheartedly believe in spirits and spend much of their time and energy trying to contact them at seances, like Sarah Winchester, or in the company of professional mediums. Some people believe that writers like Anne Rice must have some contact with the spiritual World in order to be able to write such detailed Vampire and Ghost novels. Others are not ghost-hunters or spiritualists, but they have experienced situations which make it very difficult for them to disclaim the reality of spirits. In recent years, newspaper and movies and magazine accounts have told of the encounters Sarah Winchester had with house-guests of the non-material variety. Joe Hyams and his wife, actress Elke Sommer had haunting experiences. #RandolphHarris 8 of 17
Although Joe Hyams is a staunch disbeliever, he and his wife had to move from their Hollywood home because of the ruckus and tension caused by spirits. Their house has been fully examined by the Southern California Society for Psychical Research and given full scientific credence by the examiners. After three years of intensive study, this group of seventeen experts concluded that the house is truly occupied by ghosts or spirits, identity unknown. Thousands, possibly millions, of sincere and honest people have had some such experience, or are believers in spiritualism. It is a religion for many cultures in the so-called primitive World, a grown-up version of the animism that found life or essence residing in every rock, tree, gopher, and coconut. Truly, we must acknowledge that one mortal’s fancies may be another mortal’s faith. However, even acknowledging that reality is a subjective thing, is there any objective evidence that could make these things truth? The parapsychologist says yes. J.B. and Laura Rhine, Murphy, R. Johnson, and Sudre tell us that there is more than ample evidence to convince them of the objective truth of psychic phenomena, especially extrasensory perception (ESP). In the Rhines’ Parapsychology Laboratory at staid Old Duke University, they have performed countless and thousands of documented and validated experiments, using every conceivable method known. #RandolphHarris 9 of 17
Law are believed to play an important role in explanation as well as predication. One consequence which has often been thought to follow from the existence of precognition is that, sensationally, the future must somehow be already here—or at any rate there. This is usually derived from a conception of precognition as a mode of perception, of extrasensory perception (ESP). ESP includes many types of psychic phenomena. Clairvoyance is the name given to the experiences reported by many people of seeing something not present. For example, a person may be able to report exactly what is going on in a particular room which is miles away. (Often the clairvoyant is person who know that room, its occupants, or the probable occurrences in the room to a greater or lesser degree.) Precognition is the name given to the ability reported by some people to foretell a future event or occurrence. The vision may take place in a dream, or it may be the result of a premonition or hunch. Usually this ability to see into the future is based on guesswork that is pieced together from previously known or unconsciously retained bits of information. Sometimes the wishes or fears of the precogniator actually happen precisely because they are predicted: a self-fulfilling prophecy. Occasionally prophecies come true because they are staged and set up so that they do occur, thus validating the words of the precognitor—in this case usually a professional or stage psychic. #RandolphHarris 10 of 17
Telepathy is the name given to the phenomena of thought-transference, or mind-reading. Often this occurs between two people who know each other very well and can anticipate each other’s thoughts or wishes, although occasionally a person who is highly sensitive to others or highly skilled in reading gestures may have astonished success with mind reading. Of course, some telepathy is fraudulent. Stage psychics can do and do plant stooges in the audience and exchange information with them by use of prearranged signals. Telekinesis or psychokinesis is the fourth category of ESP. It involves mental influence on physical objects. Some people claim to be able to send a typewriter flying across a room, move a chair by concentrating on it, or tell dice exactly how to turn up. Although we have no authenticated cases of furniture flying, the phenomenon could be attributed to individual hallucinations or group hypnosis. And dice, of course, if not loaded, are subject to the principles of mathematical probability. ESP may be a fact of objective reality. We do not know yet, and possibly so many people accept untested evidence out of a need to believe in spirits or ESP because they have failed to find satisfactions or excitement in their own physical lives. #RandolphHarris 11 of 17
Other reasons people need to believe in the supernatural is fear of death may make them yearn for life beyond. Some people need extra stimulation, and certainly few things are as stimulating as ghost stories or psychic phenomena. We do not close our minds to the possibilities of these things, but we certainly wish to press for the alternative of realizing the fullness of personal experience. Life is so much more interesting and exciting than most people find it. Another cultic activity that has involved countless numbers of people is witchcraft. Throughout mortal’s history there has been a belief in special powers of certain people, witches and warlocks, to work wondrous deeds. Witches are now portrayed in movies and cartoons and storybooks as beautiful, enchanting women, wearing pretty gowns or regular clothes. Some of them have cats—their familiars—usually accompanying them. We find, however, that millions of people in this country, in Europe, and especially in England believe in the existence of men and women who practice good magic, beneficial cures and charms. Grouped in covens, usually made up of twelve witches and a leader—another witch, a devil, or a spirit—they often do quite ordinary work to support themselves, but spend their off hours practicing their spells and charms. #RandolphHarris 12 of 17
Good witches are wise or knowledgeable in the arts of healing and divination of water. The belief in bad witches is often tied into satanic cults which worship the devil. Cults of Satan-worship are frequently combined with nudism and sexual orgies, which represent other cultic activities. A cult has existed seemingly forever around the study of Heavenly bodies. Astrology, of course, was a science long before astronomy came into being. Ancient mortals looked to the stars and planets and thought they contained answers to life’s questions. Out of the careful plotting and mapping of the celestial bodies grew the systematic and mathematical science of astronomy. However, a large and persistent group of people were not content just to know about these bodies. They certainly could not care less about their chemical or geological composition. They had little or no interest in their size, orbital patterns, rotations, or revolutions, nor was there much concern about traveling back and forth between Earth and any of them. No, their main interest is and has always been: what do these consistent and eternal watchers have to say about my life and behavior? #RandolphHarris 13 of 17
Astrologers and their devotees firmly believe that there is something in the patterns of celestial movement that is directly related to the life of the person born in a particular “house” and under a particular sign of the zodiac. Astrology, witchcraft, and tarot cards are very big with the love generation, and there are many reasons why. First, the flower children are interested in anything mystical and esoteric. Secondly, they are disenchanted with the materialistic orientation of the Establishment and they seek better, more humanistic answers in the stars and the Universe around them. Third, they often get caught up in the past. Astrology and witchcraft are ancient and have never actually been destroyed by science or technology, thus they must have some eternal or transcendent quality. Seeking evidence of eternity is very important to those who believe that science and technology can snuff out physical life in a mere instant—which seems to be an increasing possibility! Also, because astrology and witchcraft bug the Establishment, are so nonrational, so unscientific, so other-Worldly, they are good weapons for the young to use on their elders, if weapons are needed. Well-known people are caught up in a serious relationship with astrology. #RandolphHarris 14 of 17
They often admit that they do not make a decisive move without consulting their horoscope or calling their astrologer: “Do I buy stock in Cloudera (CLDR)?” “The fed just raised interest rates, is it a good time to buy a home?” “Should I marry her? She’s a Taurus and I am a Libra.” What is the appeal? For most of us astrology is a passing interest, a charming involvement in something far-out, entertaining, esoteric, or romantic. In college, my professor was always in a bad mood, so I used to consult my horoscope to know what to expect for that day. Thankfully, I eventually graduated. Our lives often run into dry periods, dull stretches, or challenges, and we are looking for a way out, a way to know what to expect, a way to know when good times are coming. So, we look for something to grab our interest. A few people find their lives to be totally devoid of interest or charm. For them, the World of esoterica is a fascinating and stimulating retreat. However, I have learned that when Mars in in retrograde, it is good not to make any big decisions and keep some money tucked away. Many people, without any interest in psychedelic or mind-changing drugs, enjoy the vividness and stimulation of Armin van Buuren’s A State of Trance music and art. The light shows, posters, incense, underground papers, and head-comics all provide detours or enchanting colorations to your workaday existences. #RandolphHarris 15 of 17
The mass media and the advertising agencies are fully aware of the charm and fascination of these esoteric experiences and they exploit them fully. Insofar as they provide a different or novel experience for people, they are perfectly fine. Fantasy and imagination are enjoyable retreats and add immeasurably to our lives, so long as we know them for what they are. We all enjoy change and novelty; we all need something to occasionally lift us out of the ordinary. “Baby you were the perfect dream for everyone. I though it would be oh so very good to meet you. Was I mistaken? Was I the mistake? I never gave myself like that to anyone. Fool, it is over now. Foolish, I know you. All of this time you were stuck within this place, in a lonely twisted World, and I cannot believe you were so out of your mind and it was more than I could take. I could never be your girl. Still I cannot believe you were so foolish, boy. Baby’s got a new place to hide from everyone. You know that I cannot reach you where you go. And I gave all I had, but I cannot bring you back. So I will let this go tonight. Still, I cannot believe you were so foolish, boy,” reports Emma Hewitt (Foolish Boy). Adolescents explore and experiment to see “what I am made of” and “what I can do.” It is generally when identity is more firmed up that individuals are able to go outside of themselves for attachment to others. #RandolphHarris 16 of 17
Many activities during adolescence, and many social activities during this period tend to encourage curiosity, and desire for bonds. Sometimes some fleeting moments are mistaken for love during this stage. It may well be that a mature love relationship can be formed during adolescence; however, it is usually not until people are at least in their twenties that they form truly mature, intimate love relationships. Lasting growth-promoting love during adolescence is the exception, not the rule. The feelings experienced during adolescence—attraction, crushes, and infatuations—although perhaps not mature love, are nonetheless valuable. They are beneficial and of themselves, and they are also important as stepping stones toward later mature relationships. In caring for another person, we trust that individual to make mistakes and to learn from them. Trusting the other is to let go; it included an element of risk and a leap into the unknow, both of which take courage. We must protect our youth and allow them to develop and grow so they can figure out who they are and what they like. If it is unnatural, you just do not do it. That is all, and all family life should be kept clean and worthy and on a very high plane. There are some people who has said that behind the bedroom doors or in their truck anything goes. That is not true and the Lord will not condone it. #RandolphHarris 17 of 17
I Thought the Storm was Brief–They are All in the Same Boat, but where is the Boat Going?
They will never believe him, and it was the smartest thing for him to do. He can repeat the confession until doomsday, but when you know more, you will understand. Another aspect of social adjustment is the complete lack of privacy, and the indiscriminate talking about one’s problems. Here again, one sees the influence of modern psychiatry and psychoanalysis. Even the thin walls are greeted as help from feeling alone. “I never feel lonely, even when Justin is away,” goes a typical comment. “You know friends are nearby, because at night you hear the neighbors through the walls.” Marriages which might break up otherwise are saved, depressed moods are kept from becoming worse, by talking, talking, talking. “It is wonderful,” says one young wife. “You find yourself discussing all your problems with your neighbors—things that back in Canada we would have kept to ourselves.” As time goes on, this capacity for self-revelation grows; and on the most intimate details of family life, court people become amazingly frank with each other. No one, they point out, ever need face a problem alone. We may add that it would be more correct to say that never do they face a problem. Even the architecture becomes functional in the battle against loneliness. Just as doors inside houses—which are sometimes said to have marked the birth of middle class—are disappearing, so are the barriers against neighbors. #RandolphHarris 1 of 17
The picture in the picture window, for example, is what is going on inside—or, what is going on inside other people’s picture windows. The conformity pattern develops a new morality, a new kind of super-ego. However, the new morality is not the conscience of the humanistic tradition nor is the new super-ego made in the image of an authoritarian father. Virtue is so be adjusted and to be like the rest. Vice, to be different. Often this is expressed in psychiatric terms, where virtuous means being healthy, and evil, being neurotic. From the eye of the court there is no escape. Love affair are rare for that reason, rather than for moral reasons or the fact that the marriages are so satisfactory. There are feeble attempts at privacy. While the rule is that you walk into the house without knocking, or making any other sign, some people gain little privacy by moving the chair to the front, rather than the court side of the apartment, to show that they do not want to be disturbed. However, there is an important corollary of such efforts at privacy—people feel a little guilt about making them. Except very occasionally, to shut oneself off from others like this is regarded as either a childish prank or, more likely, an indication of some inner neurosis. The individual, not group, has been erred. #RandolphHarris 2 of 17
So, at any rate, many errants seem to feel, and they are often penitent about what elsewhere would be regarded as one’s own business, and rather normal business at that. “I have promised myself to make it up to them.” One court resident recently told a confidant. “I was feeling bad and just plain did not make the effort to ask the others in later. I do not blame them, really, for reacting the way they did. I will make it up to them somehow.” Indeed, privacy has become clandestine. Again the terms which are used are taken from the progressive political and philosophic tradition; what could sound finer than the sentence “Not in solitary and selfish contemplation but in doing things with other people does one fulfill oneself.” What it really means, however, is giving up oneself, becoming part and parcel of the herd, and liking it. This state is often called by another pleasant word, “togetherness.” The favorite way of expressing the same state of mind is that of putting it in psychiatric terms: “We have learned not to be so introverted,” one junior executive, and a very thoughtful and successful one, describes in the lesson. “Before we came here we used to live pretty much to ourselves. On Sundays, for instance, we used to stay in bed until around maybe two o’clock, reading the paper and listening to the symphony on the radio. Now we stop around and visit with people, or they visit with us. I really think Cresleigh Homes at Rocklin Trails has broadened us.” #RandolphHarris 3 of 17
Lack of conformity is not only punished by disapproving words like “neurotic,” but sometimes by cruel sanctions. Regatta Court is a case,” says one resident of the highly active block. “She was so excited to get in with the community when she moved in. She is a very warm-heated gal, and is always trying to help people, but she is well—sort of elaborate about it. One day she decided to win over everybody by giving an afternoon party for the gals. Poor thing, she did it all wrong. The girls turned up in their bathing suits and slacks, as usual, and here she had little dollies and silver and everything spread around. Ever sine then it has been almost like a planned campaign to keep her out of things. It is really pitiful. She sits there in her beach chair out front just dying for someone to come and kaffeeklatsch with her, right across the street four or five girls are yakking away. Every time they suddenly all laugh at some jokes she think they are laughing at her. She came over here yesterday and cried all afternoon. She told me she and her husband are thinking about inviting them over for dinner so they can make a fresh start.” Other cultures have punished deviants from the prescribed political or religious creed by prison or the stake. Here the punishment is only perceived ostracism which drives a poor woman into despair and an intense feeling of guilt. What is the crime? One act of error, one single sin toward the god of conformity. #RandolphHarris 4 of 17
It is only another aspect of the alienated kind of interpersonal relationship that friends are not formed on the basis of individual liking or attraction, but that they are determined by the location of one’s own house or apartment in relation to the others. This is the way it works. It begins with the children. The new suburbs are matriarchies, yet the children are in effect so dictatorial that a term like filiarchy would not be entirely facetious. It is the children who set the basic design; their friendships are translated into the mother’s friendships, and these, in turn, to the family’s. Fathers just tag along. It is the flow of wheeled juvenile traffic tat determines which is to be the functional door; i.e., in the homes, the front door; in the courts, the back door. It determines, further, the route one takes from the functional door; for when wives go visiting with neighbors they gravitate toward the houses within sight and hearing of their children and the telephone. This crystallizes into the court checkerboard movement (i.e., the regular kaffeeklatsch route) and this forms that basis of adult friendships. Actually, this determination of friendship goes so far that the reader of the article is invited by the author to pick out the clusters of friendship in one sector of the settlement, just from the picture of the location of the houses, their entrance and exit doors in this sector. #RandolphHarris 5 of 17
What is important is this picture is not only the fact of alienated friendships, and automaton conformity, but the reaction of people to this fact. Consciously it seems people fully accept the new form of adjustment. Once people hated to concede that their behavior was determined by anything expect their own free will. Not so with the new suburbanites; they are fully aware of the all-pervading power of the environment over them. As a matter of fact, there are few subjects they like so much to talk about; and with the increasing lay curiosity about psychology, psychiatry, and sociology, they discuss their social life in surprisingly clinical terms. However, they have no sense of plight; this, they seem to say, is the way things are, and the trick is not to fight it but to understand it. This young generation has also its philosophy to explain their way of life. Not merely as an instinctive wish, but as an articulate set of values to be passed on to one’s children, the next generation of leaders are coming to deify social utility. Does it work, not why, has become the key question. #RandolphHarris 6 of 17
With society having become so complex, the individual can have meaning only as one contributes to the harmony of the group, transients explain—and for them, constantly on the move, ever exposed to new groups, the adapting to groups has become particularly necessary. They are all, as they themselves so often put it, in the same boat. On the other hand, the value of solitary thought, the fact that conflict is sometimes necessary, and other such disturbing thoughts rarely intrude. The most important, or really the only important ting children as well as adults have to learn, is to get along with other people, which, if taught in school is called citizenship, the equivalent for outgoingness and togetherness as the adults call it. Are people really happy, are the as satisfied, unconsciously, as they believe themselves to be? Considering the nature of humanity, and the conditions for happiness, this can hardly be so. However, they even have some doubts consciously. While they feel that conformity and merging with the group is their duty, many of them sense that they are frustrating other urges. They feel that responding to the group mores is akin to a moral duty—and so they continue, hesitant and unsure, imprisoned in fraternity or sorority. When we pass beyond the range of our senses, we find evidence that both we and the World we live in have been given a specious appearance of self-completeness. #RandolphHarris 7 of 17
The feeling of self-completeness does not merely mean that the human senses are limited; it means that the practical mind has been formed in such a way that it reinforces the impression given by the senses and takes for granted the things which are not true, but which make for implicity and efficiency in practical life. The great value of psychical research is that it has begun to put perspective into the Universe and to show us that neither we nor our World come to an end where we thought they did. “Every once in a while I wonder,” says one transient in an almost furtive moment of contemplation. “I do not want to do anything to offend the people here: they are kind and decent, and I am proud we have been able to get along with each other—with all our differences so well. But then, once in a while, I think of myself and my husband and what we are not doing and I get depressed. Is it just enough not to be bad?” Indeed, this life of compromise, this outgoing life, is the life of imprisonment, selflessness and depression. They are all in the same boats, but where is the boat going? No one seems to have the faintest idea; nor, for that matter, do they see much point in even raising the question. #RandolphHarris 8 of 17
The picture of conformity as we have illustrated it with the outgoing inhabitants of Rocklin Trails is certainly not the same all over America. The reasons are obvious. These people are young, they are middle-class and upper middle-class and they move upwards, they are mostly people who in their work career manipulate symbols and people, and whose advancement depends on whether they permit themselves to be manipulated. There are undoubtedly many older people of the same occupational group, and many equally young people of different occupational groups who are less advanced, as for instance those engineers, chemists and physicists, more interested in their work than in the hope of jumping into an executive career as soon as possible; furthermore, there are millions of farmers and farm-hands, whose style of life has only been changed partly by the conditions of the twenty first century; eventually the industrial workers, whose income is not too different from the white-collar workers, but whose work situation is. #RandolphHarris 9 of 17
Although this is not the place to discuss the meaning of work for the industrial worker today, this much can be said here: there is undoubtedly a difference between people who manipulate other people and people who create things, even though their roles in the process of production is a partial and in many ways an alienated one. The worker in a big steel mill co-operates with others, and has to do so if one is to protect one’s life; one faces dangers, and shares them with others; one’s colleagues as well as the foreman can judge and appreciate one’s skill rather than one’s smile and pleasant personality; one has a considerable amount of freedom outside of work; one has paid vacations, one may be busy in one’s garden, with a hobby, with local and union politics. However, even taking into account all these factors with differentiate the industrial worker will escape being molded by the dominant conformity pattern. In the first place, even the most beneficial aspects of one’s work situation, like the ones just mentioned, do not alter the fact that one’s work is alienated and only to a limited extent a meaningful expression of one’s energy and reason; secondly, the trend for increasing automatization of industrial work diminishes this latter factor rapidly. #RandolphHarris 10 of 17
Eventually, one is under the influence of our whole cultural apparatus, the advertisements, movies, television, newspapers, just as everybody else, and can hardly escape being driven into conformity, although perhaps more slowly than other sectors of the population. What holds true for the for the industrial worker holds true also for the farmer. With the confusion of motives in sex that we have discussed in the past—almost every motive being present in the act except the desire to make love—it is no wonder that there is a diminution of feeling and that passion has lessened almost to the banishing point. This diminution of feeling often takes the form of a kind of anesthesia (now with no need of ointment) in people who can perform the mechanical aspects of the sexual act very well. We are becoming used to the plaint from the couch or patient’s chair that “We made love, but I did not feel anything.” In a World gone grey with market reports, time studies, tax regulations and path lab analyses, the rebel finds sex to be the one green thing. It is surely true that the zest, adventure, and trying out of one’s strength, the discovering of vast and exciting new areas of feeling and experience in one’s self and in one’s relations to others, and the validation of the self that foes with these are indeed frontier experiences. They are rightly and normally present in sexuality as part of the psychosocial development of every person. #RandolphHarris 11 of 17
Sex in our society did, in fact, have this power for several decades after 1920’s, when almost every other activity was becoming other-directed, jaded, emptied of zest and adventure. However, for various reasons—one of them being that sex by itself had to carry the weight for the validation of the personality in practically all other realms as well—the frontier freshness, newness, and challenge become more and more lost. For we are now living in the post-Riesman age, and are experiencing the long-run implications of Riesman’s other-directed behavior, the radar-reflected way of life. The last frontier has become a teeming Las Vegas and no frontier at all. Young people can no longer get bootlegged feeling of personal identity out of revolting in sexuality since there is nothing there to revolt against. Studies of medicine addiction among many young people report them as saying that the revolt against parents, the social kick of feeling their own oats which they used to get from sex, they now have to get from medication. One such study indicates that students express a certain boredom with sex, while certain medicines are synonymous with excitement, curiosity, forbidden adventure, and society’s abounding permissiveness. #RandolphHarris 12 of 17
It no longer sounds new when we discover that for many young people what used to be called love-making is now experiences as a futile panting palm to palm. They tell us that it is hard for them to understand what the poets were talking about, and that we should so often hear the disappointed refrain, “We went to bed but it was not any good.” Nothing to revolt against, did I say? Well, there is obviously one thing left to revolt against, and that is sex itself. The frontier, the establishing of identity, the validation of the self can be, and not infrequently does become for some people, a revolt against sexuality entirely. I am certainly not advocating this. What I wish to indicate is that the very revolt against sex—this modern Lysistrata in robot’s dress—is rumbling at the gates of our cities or, if not rumbling, at least hovering. The sexual revolution comes finally back on itself not with a bang but a whimper. Thus it is not surprising that, as sex become more machines like, with passion irrelevant and then even pleasure diminishing, the problem has come full circle. And we find, mirabile dictum, a progression from an anesthetic attitude to an antiseptic one. Sexual contact itself then tends to get put on the shelf and to be avoided. #RandolphHarris 13 of 17
This is another and surely least constructive aspect of the new puritanism: it returns, finally, to a new asceticism. This is said graphically in charming limerick that seems to have sprung up on some sophisticated campus: The word has come down from the Dean that with the assistance of the teaching machine, King Oedipus Rex could have learned about sex without every touching the Queen. Many people welcome this revolt against sex. Sex as we now think of it may soon be dead. Sexual concepts, ideas, and practices already are being altered almost beyond recognition. The foldout playmate in Playmate magazine—she of the outsize breast and buttocks, pictured in the sharp detail—signals the death of the throes of a departing age. It is predicted the eros will not be lost in the new sexless age but diffused, and that all life will be more erotic than now seems possible. This last reassurance would be comforting indeed to believe. However, as usual, it penetrates insights into present phenomena and is unfortunately placed in framework of history—pretribalism with its so-called lessened distinction between male and female—which has no factual basis at all. And we have not been given evidence whatever for this optimistic prediction that new eros, rather than apathy, will succeed the demise of vive la difference. #RandolphHarris 14 of 17
Indeed, there are amazing confusions about the worship of the new electric age. “And what does an X-ray of a woman reveal? Not a realistic picture, but a deep, involving image. Not a specialized female, but a human being.” Well! An X-ray actually reveals not a human being at all but a depersonalized, fragmentized segment of bone or tissue which can be read only by a highly specialized technician and from which we could never in a thousand years recognize a human being or any man or woman we know, let alone one we love. Such a reassuring view of the future is frightening and depressing in the extreme. Some people seem to believe that we are hurtling into, not a bisexual or multi-sexual, but an a-sexual society: the boys grow their hair and the girls wear pants. Romance will disappear; in fact, it has almost disappeared now. Given the guaranteed Annual Income and The Birth Patrol Pill, will women choose to marry? Why should they? What of the time when the fertilized ovum can be implanted in the womb of a mercenary, and one’s progeny selected from a sperm-bank? Will the lady choose to reproduce her husband, if there still are such things? No problems, no jealousy, no love-transference. And what of the children, incubated under glass? #RandolphHarris 15 of 17
In the future will communal love develop the human qualities that we assume emerge from the present rearing children? Will women under these conditions lose the survival drive and become as death-oriented as the present generation of American mortals? I do not raise the question in advocacy. I consider come of the possibilities horrifying. The real issue underlying this revolution is not what one does with sexual organs and sexual function per se, but what happens to mortal’s humanity. What disturbs me is the real possibility of the disappearance of our humane, life-giving qualities with the speed of developments in the life sciences, and the fact that no one seems to be discussing the alternative possibilities for good and evil in these developments. The purpose of this discussion is precisely to raise the questions of the alternative possibilities for good and evil—that is, the destruction or the enhancement of these qualities which constitute mortal’s humane, life-giving qualities. Our natural affections are planted in us by the Spirit of God, for a wise purpose; and the are the very main-springs of life and happiness—they are the cement of all virtuous and Heavenly society—they are the essence of charity, or love. There is not more pure and holy principle in existence than the affection which glows in the heart of a virtuous mortal for one’s companion. #RandolphHarris 16 of 17
The fact is, God made mortals, male and female; he planted in their hearts those affections which are calculated to promote their happiness and union. Your love, like a tree, must be nourished. There will come a great love and interdependence between you, for your love is a divine one. It is deep, inclusive, comprehensive. It is not like that association of the World which is misnamed love, but which is mostly physical attraction. The love which the Lord speaks of is not only physical attraction, but spiritual attraction as well. It is faith and confidence in, and understanding of, one another. It is total partnership. It is companionship with common ideals and standards. One must be unselfish toward and sacrifice for one another and display cleanliness of thought and action and faith in God and is program. “I still think about you now. You are always with me in my mind. For this time, I still dream about the day that you return the meaning to this place. The Sun will rise for you and I. The distance between us was never far through the highways and time waits for no one, but I do because it is always you and I. Do you recall the meaning in those days, before we change? And I still dream about your face, but feeling that you are just one step away. Would never fade, like you and I,” reports Emma Hewitt (You and I). #RandolphHarris 17 of 17
A soul unlike any other, tutored in courage, never looking back, lifted from misery, and seeking to marvel at all things without malice or lamenting. I saw a graduate of the school of suffering. Allport’s theory declares that people are busy living their lives forward; they are oriented toward the future, and therefore, the psychologist cannot be correct if one is totally oriented entirely in the past. Yet, there is a sense of uniqueness at every stage of being. Allport’s theory stresses the importance of forward-learning orientation in life, which he called proactivity. People are not simply made up, like block towers, out of their past experiences. They have intentions, plans, goals, dreams, visions, faith, and hopes. In addition, because people are present or future oriented, their needs and motives change throughout their lives. Many motivations that were once important purely for survival may later still serve as motivators, but for different reasons. These motives that are not strictly for survival may later still serve as motivators, but for different reasons. Thee motives that are not strictly for survival become part of the individual’s self-concept and take on meaning through personal experiences and strivings. Such needs are reported to have a functional autonomy—an independent reason for being. #RandolphHarris 1 of 11
Allport also talks about the mature personality as it must be an extension of self. It is evidenced by an ability to experience, enjoy, appreciate, and participate in a wide variety of activities and by a continual sense of planning and hoping. The individual with mature personality is comfortable with other people, emotionally secure, and self-accepting. He or she is reality oriented and has some sort of unifying philosophy of life. Basic to all else, the mature personality finds these experiences and feelings to be personally meaningful. It is very characteristic of seniors to seek a fourth stage of life which is called meaning, or liberation. The ultimate source of the courage to be is the God above God; this is the result of our demand to transcend theism. Only if the God of theism is transcended can the anxiety of doubt and meaninglessness be taken into the courage to be. The God above God is the object of all mystical longing, but mysticism also must be transcended in order to reach him. Mysticism does not take seriously the concrete and the doubt concerning the concrete. It plunges directly into the ground of being and meaning, and leaves the concrete, the World of finite values and meanings, behind. Therefore, it does not solve the problem of meaningslessness. In terms of the present religious situation this means that Eastern mysticism is not the solution of the problems of Western Existentialism, although many people attempt this solution. #RandolphHarris 2 of 11
The God above the God of theism is not the devaluation of the meanings which doubt has thrown into the abyss of meaninglessness; he is their potential restitution. Nevertheless, absolute faith agrees with the faith implied in mysticism in that both transcend the theistic objectivation of a God who is a being. For mysticism such a God is not more real than any finite being, for the courage to be such a God has disappeared in the abyss of meaninglessness with every other value. The God above the God of theism is present, although hidden, in every divine-human encounter. Biblical religion as well as Protestant theology are aware of the paradoxical character of this encounter. They are aware that if God encounters mortals, God is neither object nor subject and is therefore above the scheme into which theism has forced him. They are aware that personalism with respect to God is balanced by a transpersonal presence of the divine. They are aware that forgiveness can be accepted only if the power of acceptance is effective in mortals—biblically speaking, if the power of grace is effective in mortals. #RandolphHarris 3 of 11
They are aware of the paradoxical character of every prayer, of speaking to somebody to whom you cannot speak because he is not “somebody,” of asking somebody of whom you cannot ask anything because he gives not before you ask, of saying “thou” to somebody who is nearer to the I than the I is to self. Each of these paradoxes drives the religious consciousness toward a God above the God of theism. The courage to be which is rooted in the experience of the God above the God of theism unites and transcends the courage to be as a part and the courage to be as oneself. It avoids both the loss of oneself by participation and the loss of one’s World by individualization. The acceptance of the God above the God of theism makes us a part of that which is not also a part but is the ground of the whole. Therefore, our self is not lost in the larger whole, which submerges it in the life of a limited group. If the self participates in the power of being-itself it receives itself back. For the power of being acts through the power of the individual selves. It does not swallow them as every limited whole, every collectivism, and every conformism does. This is why the Church, which stands for the power of being-itself or for the God who transcends the God of the religious, claims to be the mediator of the courage to be. A church which is based on the authority of the God of theism cannot make such a claim. It inescapably develops into a collectivist or semicollectivist system itself. #RandolphHarris 4 of 11
However, a church which raises itself in its message and its devotion to the God above the God of theism without sacrificing its concrete symbols can mediate a courage which takes doubt and meaninglessness into itself. It is the Church under the Cross which alone can do this, the Church which preaches the Crucified who cried to God who remained one’s God after the God of confidence had left one in the darkness of doubt and meaninglessness. To be as a part in such a church is to receive a courage to be in which once cannot lose one’s self and in which one receives one’s World. Absolute faith, or the state of being grasped by the God beyond God, is not a state which appears beside other states of the mine. It never is something separated and definite, an event which could be isolated and described. It is always a movement in, with, and under other states of mine. It is the situation on the boundary of mortal’s possibilities. It is this boundary. Therefore, it is bot the courage of despair and the courage in and above every courage. It is not a place where one can live, it is without the safety of words and concepts, it is without a name, a church, a cult, a theology. However, it is moving in the depths of all of them. It is the power of being, in which they participate and of which they are fragmentary expressions. #RandolphHarris 5 of 11
One can become aware of it in the anxiety of fate and death when the traditional symbols, which enable mortals have lost their power. When providence has become a superstition and immortality something imaginary that which once was the power in these symbols can still be present and create the courage to be in spire of the experience of a chaotic World and a finite existence. The stoic courage returns but not as the faith in universal reason. It returns as the absolute faith which says Yes to being without seeing anything concrete which could conquer the nonbeing in fate and death. And one can become aware of the God above the God of theism in the anxiety of guilt and condemnation when the traditional symbols that enable mortals to withstand the anxiety of guilt and condemnation have lost their power. When divine judgment is interpreted as a psychological complex and forgiveness as a remnant of the father image, what once was the power in those symbols can still be present and create the courage to be in spite of the experience of an infinite gap between what we are and what we ought to be. #RandolphHarris 6 of 11
The Lutheran courage returns but not supported by the faith in a judging and forgiving God. It returns in terms of the absolute faith in which says Yes although there is no special power that conquers guilt. The courage to take the anxiety of meaninglessness upon oneself is the boundary line up to which the courage to be can go. Beyond its mere non-being. Within it all forms of courage are re-established in the power of the God above the God of theism. The courage to be is rooted in the God who appears when God has disappeared in the anxiety of doubt. “And what is it that ye shall hope for? Behold I say unto you that ye shall have hope through the atonement of Christ and the power of his resurrection, to be raised unto life eternal, and this because of your faith in him according to the promise. Wherefore, if a person has faith one must need have hope; for without faith there cannot be any hope,” reports Moroni 7.41-42. Basic to love relationship and life is trust. Fromm’s four-fold test of love assumes it: you must trust someone to know him or her and let that individual know you, to care and be cared for, to respect and be respected. And trust determines the quality of the responses made to another person. Yet trust is difficult to come by. We acquire it in varying degrees throughout our growth cycles. A reliance on some sort of order helps one to learn trust. The most important aspect is what is internalized. #RandolphHarris 7 of 11
Those who experience reliability, dependability, constancy in the people and objects around them tend to perceive reality in those terms, and the perception generalizes to include personal behavior—they gradually come to trust themselves. Trust is a basic prerequisite for healthy, satisfying interpersonal relations. The truster is one who continues to believe in other people in general, even when individual people let one down, do one dirty, or even try to do one harm. One maintains a generalized good feeling about people, though one often develops a cautious attitude toward particular persons. One of the key concepts in the trust necessary for love relationships is openness. Love is the binding element par excellence. It is the bridge between being and becoming, and it binds fact and value together. Love, in short, is the original creative force now transmuted into power which is both inside and outside the person. We see that love have much in common with the concept of intentionality for it presupposes that mortals yearn toward uniting oneself with the object not only of one’s desires but one’s knowledge as well. And this very process implies that a mortal already participates to some extent in the knowledge one seeks and the person one loves. Love is also seen as the power which draws one towards God. #RandolphHarris 8 of 11
Love is the yearning for the mystic union which comes out in the religious experience of union with God, or in Dr. Freud’s oceanic experience. There is also an element in life which binds one to the love of one’s fate—amor fati. By fate I do not mean the specific or accidental misfortunes which befall us, but rather fate as the acceptance and affirmation of the finite state of mortals, limited as we are in intelligence and strength, faced everlasting with weakness and death. The myth of Sisyphus presents a man’s fate in as stark a form as could be imagined; yet Camus finds in that fate, for the mortal who has courage to accept the consciousness of it, something which call forth his eros, something to love: I leave Sisyphus at the foot of the mountain! This Universe without a master seems to him neither sterile nr futile. Each atom of that stone, each mineral flake of that night-filled mountain, in itself forms a World. The struggle itself toward the heights is enough to fill a person heart. One must imagine Sisyphus happy. Eros pushes toward self-fulfillment, but it is not all the ego-centric assertion of one’s subjective whims and wises on a passive World. #RandolphHarris 9 of 11
The idea of mastering nature of reality would have horrified the Greeks and would promptly have been labelled hubris, or inordinate pride which is an affront to the gods and a sure invitation of a mortal’s doom. The Greeks always showed a respect which amounted to a reverence for the objective, given World. They delighted in their World—its beauty, it is from, its endless challenges to their curiosity, it is mysteries to be explored; and they were everlastingly attracted by this World. Not that they would have had any truck with the modern sentimental belief that life by itself is good or bad; it all depends on what mortals dedicate themselves to. Their tragic view itself enabled them to delight in life. One cannot outwit death anyway by progress or accumulating wealth; so why not accept your fate, choose values which are authentic, and let yourself delight and believe in the being you are and the Being you are part of? “Shall not loveliness be loved forever?” sings Euripides. The question is rhetorical, but the answer is not. Loveliness shall be loved because of infantile needs, or because it stands for the heart, or because it is intimacy, or because it assists adjustment or because it will make us happy—but simply because it is lovely. Loveliness exercises a pull on us; we are drawn to life by love. #RandolphHarris 10 of 11
What does all this have to do with psychotherapy? I believe a great deal. When Socrates remarks, with a deceptive simplicity, “Human nature will not easily find a helper better than eros,” we can take his words as applying to the process of psychotherapy as well as the drive within a person toward psychic healthy. Socrates himself, as we see and listen to him in the Dialogues, is perhaps history’s greatest model of the psychotherapist. His prayer at the end of Phaedo could well be inscribed on the wall of every therapist’s office: Beloved Pan, and all ye other gods who haunt this place, give me beauty in the inward soul; and may the outward and inward mortal be at one. May I reckon the wise to be the wealthy, and may I have such a quantity of gold as none but the temperate can carry. Heavenly Father guides us and gives us the experiences we need based on our strengths, weaknesses, and choices so that we might bear good products. The Father chastens us when necessary because he loves us. It is Heavenly Father who sends both the influence and the gift of the Holy Ghost into our lives. Through the gift of the Holy Ghost, the glory-or intelligence, light, and power of the Father can dwell in us. If we will strive to increase in light and truth until our eyes become single to God’s glory, Heavenly Father will send us up unto eternal life and reveal His face unto us—either in this life or the next. #RandolphHarris 11 of 11
I know you have survived centuries. You have even survived yourself. You went into a desert place like Christ. You did not die because your blood is too strong. You are afraid you cannot die. Everything you have believed in has been shattered You tell yourself you have no illusions, but that is not true. Mutuality, the giving-taking circle, replenishes and nourishes and assists the growth of each person in any relationship. What becomes of reason, conscience and religion in an alienated World? Superficially seen, they prosper. There is hardly any illiteracy to speak of in the Western countries; more and more people go to college in the United States; everybody reads the newspaper and talks reasonably about World affairs. As to conscience, most people act quite decently in their narrow personal sphere, in fact surprisingly so, considering their general confusion. As far as religion is concerned, it is well known that church affiliation is higher than ever, and the vast majority of Americans believe in God—or so they say in public-opinion polls. However, one does not need to dig too deeply to arrive at less pleasant findings. If we talk about reason, we must decide what human capacity we are referring to. As I have suggested before, we must differentiate between intelligence and reason. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20
By intelligence I mean the ability to manipulate concepts for the purpose of achieving some practical end. The chimpanzee—who puts the two sticks together in order to get to do the job—uses intelligence. So do we all when we go about our business, figuring out how to do things. Intelligence, in this sense, is taking things for granted as they are, making combinations which have the purpose of facilitating their manipulations: intelligence is thought in the service of biological survival. Reason, one the other and, aims at understanding; it tries to find out what is behind the surface, to recognize the kernel, the essence of the reality which surrounds us. Reason is not without a function, but its function is not to further physical as much as mental and spiritual existence. However, often in individual and social life, reason is required in order to predict (considering that prediction often depends on recognition of forces which operate underneath the surface), and prediction sometimes is necessary even for physical survival. “Therefore, go to your homes, and ponder upon the things which I has said, and ask the Father, in my name that you may understand, and prepare your minds for the morrow, and I come unto you again, reports 3 Nephi 17.3. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20
Reason requires relatedness and a sense of self. If I am only the passive receptor of impressions, thoughts, opinions, I can compare them, manipulate them—but I cannot penetrate them. I deduce the existence of myself as an individual from the fact that I think. I doubt, so hence I think; I think, hence I am. The reverse is true, too. Only if I am I, if I have not lost my individuality in the It, can I think, that is, can I make use of my reason. It might be maintained that the reasoning necessary for the knowledge of God is, as a matter of fact, too difficult for frail and mortal human beings to manage. Closely related to this the lacking sense of reality which is characteristic of the alienated personality. To speak of the lacking sense of reality in modern mortals is contrary to the widely held idea that we are distinguished from most periods of history by our greater realism. However, to speak of our realism is almost like a paranoid distortion. What realists, who are playing wit weapons which may lead to the destruction of all modern civilization, if not of our Earth itself! If an individual were found doing that, he or she would be locked up immediately, and if one prided oneself on one’s realism, the psychiatrists would consider this an additional and rather serious symptom of a diseased mind. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20
However, quite aside from this—the fact is that modern humans exhibit an amazing lack of realism for all that matters. For the meaning of life and death, for happiness and suffering, for feeling and serious thought. One has covered up the whole reality of human existence and replaced it with one’s artificial, prettified picture of a pseudo-reality, not too different from the savages who lost their land and freedom for glittering glass beads and paper. Indeed, one is so far away from human reality, that one can say with the inhabitants of the Brave Knew World: “When the individual feels, the community reels.” Another factor in contemporary society already mentioned is destructive to reason. Since nobody ever does the whole job, but only a fraction of it, since the dimension of things and of the organization of people is too vast to be understood as a whole, nothing can be seen in its totality. Hence the laws underlying the phenomena cannot be observed. Intelligence is sufficient to manipulate properly one sector of a larger unit, whether it is a machine or a state. However, reason can develop only if it is geared to the whole, if it deals with observable and manageable entities. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20
Just as our eyes and ears function only within certain quantitative limits of wave length, our reason too is bound by what is observable as a whole and in its functioning. To put it differently, beyond a certain order of bigness, concreteness is necessarily lost and abstractification takes place; with it, the sense for reality fades out. The first one to see this problem was Aristotle, who thought that a city which transcended in number what we would call today a small town was not livable. In observing the quality of thinking in alienated mortals, it is striking to see how one’s intelligence has developed and how one’s reason has deteriorated. Mortals take their reality for granted; they want to eat it, consumer it, touch it, manipulate it. Mortals do not even ask what is behind it, why things are as they are, and where they are going. One cannot eat the meaning, one cannot consume the sense, and as far as the future is concered—apres nous le deluge! Even from the nineteenth century to our day, there seems to have occurred an observable increase in stupidity, if by this we mean the opposite to reason, rather than to intelligence. In spite of the fact that everybody reads the daily paper religiously, there is an absence of understanding of the meaning of political events which is truly frightening, because our intelligence helps us to produce weapons which our reason is not capable of controlling. #RandolphHarris 5 of 20
Indeed, we have the know-how, but we do not have the know-why, nor the know-what-for of what we are creating. We have many persons with good and high intelligence quotients, but our intelligence tests measure the ability to memorize, to manipulate thoughts quickly—but not to reason. All this is true notwithstanding the fact that there are mortals of outstanding reason in our midst, whose thinking is as profound and vigorous as ever existed in the history of the human race. However, they think apart from the general herd thought, and they are looked upon with suspicion—even if they are needed for their extraordinary achievements in the natural sciences. The new automatic brains are indeed a good illustration of what is meant here by intelligence. They manipulate data which are fed into them; they compare, select, and eventually come out with results more quickly or more error-proof than human intelligence could. However, the condition of all this is that the basic data are fed into them beforehand. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20
What the electric brain cannot do is think creatively, even with its algorithms and predictions, the computer cannot arrive at an insight into the essence of the observed fact, to go beyond state with which it is fed. It cannot feel and ask questions for further understanding. It does not have emotions. It does not care. It cannot put itself in one’s situation and consider some circumstanced may cause some people to work ten times harder than the average person their age, or that recalling certain things can be painful. The computer does not care. The machine can duplicate or even improve on intelligence, but it cannot simulate reason, and it can be hacked and manipulated and cause great harm and bodily damage to many without being held responsible because it is not a unique biological unit. Therefore, the machine can repeat the same mistake over and over without people demanding it to be dismantled, or greater control placed over it because statistically, it proves well and is better than a human. Ethics, at least in the meaning of the Greco-Judaeo-Christian tradition, is inseparable from reason. Ethical behavior is based on the faculty of making value judgments on the basis of reason; it means deciding between good and evil, and to act upon decision. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20
Use of reason presupposes the presence of self; so does ethical judgment and action. Furthermore, ethics, whether it is that of monotheistic religion or that of secular humanism, is based on the principle that no institution and no thing is higher than any human individual; that the aim of life is to unfold mortal’s love and reason and that every other human activity has to be subordinated to this aim. How then can ethics be a significant part of a life in which the individual becomes an automaton, in which one serves the big It? Furthermore, how can conscience develop when the principle of life is conformity? Conscience by its very nature is nonconforming; it must be able to say this “no” it must be certain in the rightness of the judgment on which the no is based. To the degree to which a person conforms one cannot hear the voice of one’s conscience, must less act upon it. Conscience exists only when mortals experience themselves, as mortal, not as a thing, as a commodity. So calling a person by their title kind of robs them of their humanity and turns them into an object, and that can lead to condescendence, depending on what the individual does for a living and how society views their career or lifestyle. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20
Concerning things which are exchanged on the market there exists another quasi ethical code, that of fairness. The question is, whether they are exchanged at a fair price, no tricks and no force interfering with the fairness of the bargain; this fairness, not good and evil, is the ethical principle of the market and it is the ethical principle governing the life of the marketing personality. The principle of fairness, no doubt, makes for a certain type of ethical behavior. You do not lie, cheat nor use force—you even give the other person a chance—if you act according to the code of fairness. However, to love your neighbor, to feel one with him, or her, or them, to devote your life to the aim of developing your spiritual powers, is not part of the fairness ethics. We live in a paradoxical situation: We practice fairness ethics, and profess Christian ethics. Must we not stumble over this obvious contradiction? Obviously, we do not stumble. What is the reason? Partly, it is to be found in the fact that the heritage of four thousand years of the development of conscience is by no means completely lost. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20
On the contrary, in many way the liberation of mortals from the powers of the feudal state and Church, made is possible for this heritage to be brought to fruition and in the period between the eighteenth century and the twenty-first century it blossomed as perhaps never before. We still are part of this process—but given our own twenty-first century condition of life, it seems that there is no new bun which will blossom when this flower has wilted. Another reason why we do not stumble over the contradiction between humanistic ethics and fairness ethics is based in the fact that we reinterpret religious and humanistic ethics in the light of fairness ethics. A good illustration of this interpretation is the Golden Rule. In its original Jewish and Christian meaning, it was a popular phrasing of the Bible maxim to love thy neighbor as thyself. In the system of fairness ethics, it means simply when you exchange, be fair. Give what you expect to get. Do not cheat! No wonder the Golden Rule is the most popular religious phrase of today. It combines two opposite system of ethics and helps us to forget the contradiction. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20
While we still live from the Christian-humanistic heritage it is not surprising that the younger generation exhibits less and less of the traditional ethics and that we come across a moral barbarism among our youth which is in complete contrast to the economic and educational level society has reached. Today, while revising this manuscript, I read two items. One in The New York Times, regarding the fact of the murder of a man, cruelly trampled to death by four teenagers of average middle-class families. The other in Time magazine, a description of the new Guatemalan chief of police, who as former chief of police under the Ubico dictatorship had perfected a head-shrinking steel skull cap to pry loose secrets and crush improper political thoughts. His picture is published with the caption “For improper thought, a crusher.” Could anything be more insanely insensitive to extremes of sadism than this flippant line? It is surprising when in a culture in which the most popular news magazine can write this, some teenagers have no scruples about beating a man to death? Is the fact that we show brutality and cruelty in comic books and movies, because money is made with these commodities, not enough of an explanation for the growing barbarism and vandalism in our youth? #RandolphHarris 11 of 20
Our movie censors watch that no sexual scenes are shown, since this could suggest illicit sexual desires. How innocent would this result be in comparison with the dehumanizing effect of what the censors permit and the churches seem to object to less than to the traditional sins. Yes, we still have an ethical heritage, but it will soon be spent and will be replaced by the ethics of the Brave New World, or 1984, or New Jack City or Minority Report unless it ceases to be a heritage and is re-created in our whole mode of life. At the moment, it seems that ethical behavior is still to be found in the concrete situation of many individuals, while society is marching toward barbarism. Much of what has been said about ethics is to be said about religion. Of course, speaking of the role of religion among alienated mortals, everything depends on what we call religion. If we are referring to religion in its widest sense, as a system of orientation and an object of devotion, then, indeed, every human being is religious, since nobody can live without such a system and remain sane. Then, our culture is as religious as any. Our gods are the machine, and the idea of efficiency; the meaning of our life is to move, to forge ahead, to arrive as near to the top of the pyramid as possible. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20
However, if religion we mean monotheism, then, indeed, our religions is not more than one of the commodities in our show windows. Monotheism is incompatible with alienation and with our ethics of fairness. It makes mortal’s unfolding, one’s salvation, the supreme aim of life, an aim which never can be subordinated to any other. Inasmuch as God is unrecognizable, indefinable, and indefinable—which means he is not and can never be considered a thing. The fight between monotheism and idolatry is exactly the fight between the productive and the alienated way of life. Our culture is perhaps the first completely secularized culture in human history. We have shoved away awareness of and concern with the fundamental problems of human existence. We are not concerned with the meaning of life, with the solution to it; we start out with the conviction that there is no purpose except to invest life successfully and to get it over with without major mishaps. That is why people try to live right and obey God’s commandments. The majority of us believe in God, take it for granted the God exists. The rest, who do not believe, take it for granted that God does not exist. Either way, God is taken for granted. Neither belief nor disbelief cause any sleepless nights, nor any serious concern. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20
In fact, whether a mortal in our culture believes in God or not makes hardly any difference either from a psychological or from a truly religious standpoint. In both instances one does not care—either about God or about the answer to the problem of one’s own existence. Just as humanly love has been replaced by impersonal fairness, God has been transformed into a remote General Director of Universe, Inc.; you know that God is there, God runs the show (although it probably would run without God too), you never see God, but you acknowledge God’s leadership while you are doing your part and paying your fair share or what seems to be more than fair. The religious renaissance which we witness in these days is perhaps the worst blow monotheism has yet received. Is there any greater sacrilege than to speak of the Man upstairs, to teach to pray in order to make God your partners in business, to sell religions with the method and appeals of a new BMW or Buick? In view of the fact that the alienation of modern mortals is incompatible with monotheism, one might expect that ministers, priests and rabbis would form the spearhead of criticism of modern Capitalism. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20
While it is true that from high Catholic quarters and from a number of less highly placed ministers and rabbis such criticism has been voiced, all churches belong essentially to the conservative forces in modern society and use religion to keep mortals going and satisfied with a profoundly irreligious system. The majority of them do not seem to recognize that this type of religion will eventually degenerate into overt idolatry, unless they begin to define and then to fight against modern idolatry, rather than to make prenouncements about God and thus to use God’s name in vain—in more than one sense. The courage to be in all its forms has, by itself, revelatory character. It shows the nature of being, it shows that the self-affirmation of being is an affirmation that overcome negation. In a metaphorical statement (and every assertion about being-itself is either metaphorical or symbolic) one could say that being include nonbeing but nonbeing does not prevail against it. Including is a spatial metaphor which indicates that being embraces itself and that which is opposed to it, nonbeing. Nonbeing belongs to being, it cannot be separated from it. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20
We could not thing being without a double negation: being must be thought as the negation of the negation of being. This is why we describe being best by the metaphor power of being. Power is the possibility a being has to actualize itself against the resistance of other beings. If we speak of the power of being-itself we indicate the being affirms itself against nonbeing. In our discussion of courage and life we have mentioned the dynamic self-affirmation of being—itself wherever it spoke dialectically, notably in Neoplatonism, Hegel, and the philosophers of life and process. Theology has done the same whenever it took the idea of the living God seriously, most obviously in the trinitarian symbolization of the inner life of God. In spite of the static definition of substance (the name for the ultimate power of being), it unites philosophical and mystical tendencies when we speak of the love and knowledge with which God loves and know himself through the love and knowledge for finite beings. Nonbeing (that in God which makes his self-affirmation dynamic) opens up the divine self-seclusion and reveals him as power of love. Nonbeing makes God a living God. Without the No he as to overcome in himself and in his creature, the divine Yes to himself would be lifeless. There would be no revelation of the ground of being, there would be no life. #RandolphHarris 16 of 20
However, where there is nonbeing there is finitude and anxiety. If we say that nonbeing belongs to being-itself, we say that finitude and anxiety belong to being-itself. Wherever philosophers or theologians have spoke of the divine blessedness they have implicitly (and sometimes explicitly) spoken of the anxiety of finitude which is eternally taken into the blessedness of the divine infinity. The infinite embraces itself and the finite, the Yes includes itself and the No which it takes into itself, blessedness comprises itself and the anxiety of which it is the conquest. All this is implied if one says that being includes nonbeing and that through nonbeing it reveals itself. It is a highly symbolic language which mist be used at this point. However, its symbolic character does not diminish its truth; on the contrary, it is a condition of its truth. To speak unsymbolically about being-itself is untrue. The divine self-affirmation is the power that makes the self-affirmation of the finite being, the courage to be, possible. Only because being-itself has the character of self-affirmation inspite of nonbeing is courage possible. Courage participates in the power of being which prevails against nonbeing. One who receives this power in an act of mystical or personal or absolute faith is aware of the source of one’s courage to be. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20
Mortals are not necessarily aware of this source. In situations of cynicism and indifference one is not aware of it. However, it works in one as long as one maintains the courage to take one’s anxiety upon oneself. In the act of the courage to be the power of being is effective in us, whether we recognize it or not. Every act of courage is a manifestation of the ground of being, however questionable the content of the act may be. The content may hide or distort true being, the courage in it reveals true being. Not arugments but the courage in it reveals true being. Not arguments but the courage to be reveals the true nature of being-itself. By affirming our being we participate in the self-affirmation of being-itself. There are no valid arguments for the existence of God, but there are acts of courage in which we affirm the power of being, whether we know it or not. If we know it, we accept acceptance consciously. If we do not know it, we nevertheless accept it and participate in it. And in our acceptance of that which we do not know the power of being is manifest to us. Courage has revealing power, the courage to be is the key to being itself. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20
Love’s depth is often tested in crisis. In addition to courage, there must be caring for us to manifest our true divine heritage. We must care, be concerned, about other people’s well-being, their growth, their health, their ups and downs. A deeply felt and often expressed statement, verbal or not, that we convey to each other when we love is “I care about you, how you are, what happens to you, about protecting you, about seeing your grow and become everything you can be.” And it goes a bit further: “I hurt when you hurt: I feel your joy, your sorrow, your ecstasy, your loss, your fear, and your confidence.” The caring aspect of love is seen most vividly in the love expressed by a mother for her child. You birth the baby, carrying him or her on your hip like the child is apart of you and watch the being grow. The child is not yet a full partner in the love relationship; he or she is a recipient of the mother’s affection, concern and tenderness. What satisfies the mother, though, is response. The child can smile when filled or comfortable. One can gurgle and good and wave his or her arms when he or she see her coming. These simple expressions are sufficient for most of us. However, in a mature and authentic love relationship, if one person is inadequate or poorly equipped in responding, the other person may find that one cannot continue giving. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20
When it comes to romance, there is good basis in mortal’s ancient wisdom for the urge we all feel in eros to unite with the beloved, to prolong the delight, to deepen the meaning and treasure it. This holds in our relationships not only with persons but with objects, like a machine we are making or a house we are building or a vocation to which we are devoted. Love is neither mortal nor immortal, but a mean between the two…He is a great spirit (daimon) and like all spirits he is intermediate between the divine and the mortal. He is the mediator who spans the chasm which divines mortals and gods, and therefore in him all is bound together. Eros is not a god in the sense of being above mortals, but the power that binds all things and all mortal together, the power informing all things. It means to give inward from, to seek out by the devotion of love the unique form of the beloved person or object and to unite one’s self with that form. Eros also incites mortals in the yearning for knowledge and drives one passionately to seek union with truth. Through eros, we not only become poets and inventors, but also achieve ethical goodness. Love, in the form of eros, is the power which generates, and this generation is a kind of eternity and immortality—which is to say that such creativity is as close as mortals ever get to becoming immortal. #RandolpHarris 20 of 20
Enough about the Garden of Eden. You tell yourself you have no illusions, but that is not true. Rock Music scene is a cultic activity. This one is not properly a cult, for rock music, country rock, folk rock, and soul music are real and important trends in American and European music. They began, of course, in Afro-Cuban rhythms, African jazz and blues, and country and Western ballads. More than a fad, rock music has made an indelible mark on the American musical tradition. The cult that has grown up around performers and styles represents still another attempt to transcend certain ordinary experiences and reach out for something else, something beyond. The first real stars in the young rock movement were B.B, King, Bill Haley, and Chuck Berry. Elvis Presley brought rock to the mass media and made it a fantastically profitable occupation and art form. The Beatles gave full credit to these early stars for their original inspiration, but they added some dimensions of their own which enabled the rough and wild rock “child” to grow up into a musical form of sophistication and wide appeal. Bob Dylan introduced social comment into his music, at least in the first big commercial sense. Most folk songs had some kind of message, but Dylan’s commentary told the Establishment that the younger generation was very serious about remaking and challenging the established patterns. Pacifism and brotherhood became themes. #RandolphHarris 1 of 13
Rock music is a form of transcendent behavior for many people. The Flower Children soon came to recognize the impact of electronically amplified music and some of their most significant messages were promoted by performers like Donovan, The Beatles, the Iron Butterfly, Mothers of Invention, and others. Joan Baez and Judy Collins made branding-iron-hot comments about life in the technological age with their soft and plaintive folk-rock sounds. So did Peter, Paul and Mary and many others. The young people began to recognize many things about themselves with their cultic involvement in Rock Music. They found, for example, that they were a force to be reckoned with. Their sounds and their themes were picked up and imitated by older, more established performers. They found that they had economic power: they could make or break a performer by either buying or not buying his or her record, tape, CD or steaming their music. The young generation found that they were also style-setters, and that older youth and even grown-ups were eager to follow in their footsteps. Out of all this, the young have found that they actually do have some significance. As a group, they represent youth, enthusiasm, economic power, political pressure, and above all, a separate and discrete identity that does not easily shade into those of groups on either side of them. #RandolphHarris 2 of 13
Now, our question runs, can the individual love child or rock cultist emerge from this group identity into a phase of knowing oneself to be fully and truly significant, apart from one’s identification and involvement with a cult or group? We do not mean isolation, alienation, or repudiation; we mean, a person must by truly a significant and actualized. One is both a solitary and social being, neither one alone, but capable of being either. Too many people are only identity. Others have only a solitary or isolated identity. Real self-actualization, and this means mental health, is to know yourself, fully and really, both alone and in interaction with others. There are so many other activities that are cultic or similar to cults. Nudism, sexual cults, political action cults, organic food cults—each is important to many people. The cult is a situation that enables the person to experience oneself in safety or to transcend oneself at times. Since self-transcendence is a universal need of all people, we have tried to describe some of these cultic activities and religion solely as means by which individuals rise above their ordinary experiences, not with the intention of promoting or demeaning any one of them. #RandolphHarris 3 of 13
If we spend too much of our time and energy in actualizing ourselves, we lose sight of our relations to the larger reality, the realm of Meaning. We must not make actualization of the self our end-goal. Rather, one must seek to align oneself with the Meaning in life, seek purpose and intention, primarily through work or causes. Then self-actualization comes, not as a goal to be sought, but as a by-product of the search for Meaning. Hunting for peak experiences does not usually work. They usually just happen. We are surprised by joy. So, mortals are a pleasure-seeking or peak-experiencing being, not so much by intent as by accident. Oh, yes, we can seek pleasure, even more pleasure than Dr. Freud spoke of. We all do. However, the pleasures we seek are more momentary, more superficial: a white chocolate Twix, a warm drink of eggnog on a cold night, a hug, the sense of intimacy. Not all pleasures are quite in the same league, though. There is a hierarchy of pleasures: The cessation of pain, the moratorium of drunkenness, the relief of urination, the pleasure of a hot bath, the contentment of having done a job well, the satisfaction of success, on up through the happiness of being with loved friends, the rapture of being in love, the ecstasy of the perfect love act, on up to the final pleasure-beyond-pleasure of the mystical fusion with the Universe. #RandolphHarris 4 of 13
We all have some needs to go beyond our own existences, beyond and above our own experiences. We are not simply ordinariness-bound. The sense of significance is more than feeling that comes from knowing who you are, knowing that who you are is OK, knowing that others know you and appreciate you. It comes from some more grand experiences as well. A significant human being is one who can identify one’s own humanness with that of all other people. More than this, one identifies with Humanity, the same Humanity that ties all people together. And, one does even more than that. Once he or she experiences one’s identification with Humanity, one finds how much this means identification with all nature and, finally, with all of life. The search for personal significance is a search that involves growing as you go: the more you find, the more there is to find. The search begins at the small end of a cornucopia—the horn of plenty. We enter it small, because that is how must of us feel: the small opening fits our self-concept at the time. However, as we go through the cornucopia-shared search, we find that the horn is increasingly larger—and that is a good thing, for we are getting larger right along with it. At the end are the fruits of the search, the plenty which comes of knowing ourselves fully and being full selves. #RandolphHarris 5 of 13
There are many paths, many cornucopias: religion, a variety of cultic activities, medications and play, physical intimacy and work, prayer and practice: the styles and activities are infinite in number. To live life fully and most significantly means to experience as many things as possible. It means continually enlarging our scope of self-awareness by enlarging our perspective. “All you need is love” declares the Beatles, and though it is oversimplified, it is a great all-encompassing idea. Many of the goals and aspirations sought for by people in the religious and cultic activities mentioned are attained through the full experience of love. It should be repeated and impressed upon you that love is an experience that enables a person to transcend oneself without really losing oneself. Loving another is perhaps the only way both to find oneself and rise above oneself to experience the Larger realities of life. We do have myths. We had a goddess. However, not is not the time for all those things. You need not believe all I have seen. What I do have to give you is a vision. I think a vision is stronger than an illusion. And the vision is that we can exist as powerful beings without hurting anyone who is good and kind. #RandolphHarris 6 of 13
Love is not only a many-splendored thing; it is a confusing and frustrating human experience as well. First of all, love is not merely an emotion, although many emotions are involved in the love experience. Love is a happening, something that is often not planned or expected or even intended. It involves levels of consciousness, self-development, emotional freedom, personal and social responsibility, tolerance, physical awareness and acceptance, knowledge, and much, much caring. To care of another person, in the most significant sense, is to help the individual grow and actualize oneself. Caring for someone means that you desire to see that person and expand and become all that he or she is capable of becoming. In order to do this, one must first of all care for oneself. One must be on the road to actualization of one’s own potential before one can be fully capable of interest in the needs, goals, or well-being of another person. Just as one cannot give what one has not got, neither can one take someone to a place one has not yet been. The idea that self-love must precede love of others is important to an understanding of what it means to love. Self-love does not mean selfish narcissism. Self and narcissism are not the same things. The ego is the center of the consciousness; the self is the center of the entire being. #RandolphHarris 7 of 13
If you can realistically and wholly love your self (including your ego, but not merely in a narcissistic way), you then have enough self-regard to reach out, to experiment, to risk getting involved with others and caring about them. Narcissism is a superficial feeling of liking for the ego or for the roles we play or for a particular aspect of the ego, such as a skill, your appearance, or possessions. Narcissism, like masturbation, is an important part of self-development, but it can become a problem, for you and others, if you do not move beyond it. Narcissism shows itself as conceit, boastfulness, possessiveness, or emphasis on one or two parts of your selfhood, on materialism, or on success or achievement. It can help you firm up your ego identity, but then it should be left behind. The values and pressures of American society often make it difficult for many individuals to move beyond narcissism. Our societal priorities, such as getting ahead at any cost and paying excessive attention to how you look, how you come across socially, or being a winner, encourage narcissism. However, if you are aware of the other aspect of self-love—love of self, not ego—and its importance in the achievement of mature love, you can overcome these pressures. Characteristics that make up mature love are true, caring, knowledge, respect, and responsibility. #RandolphHarris 8 of 13
If we place a little more patience in the process and a greater amount of faith in the Lord, our challenges will find their way toward successful conclusions. Trust is the foundation upon which love must be built: no trust = no love. To trust means to believe. Trust has the same meaning as the theological concept of faith. It is derived from a Greek word meaning literally to put yourself in the hands of the object of your faith. To allow someone to get close to you, you must have faith in that person’s motives and in your own. You must trust that neither of your will try to hurt the other, that you will both be working toward a mutually beneficial relationship. Trusting others requires that you first must trust in yourself. You must believe in your own potential. You must be confident enough in your own identity that you can risk sharing yourself with another person. “If thou art sorrowful, call on the Lord thy God with supplication, that your souls may be joyful,” reports Doctrine and Covenants 136.29. Trust is always a risky business. Almost everyone ha trusted the wrong person and been hurt. Some people have been so badly hurt that they believer they can never trust again. Other, however, keeping the risk of pain in mind, know that most trust is warranted. We have to trust someone or else live in alienation and fear. #RandolphHarris 9 of 13
Let us rejoice in the blessings of peace, hope, and direction, blessings that so many of our Father’s children do not enjoy. Trusting in the Lord with all our hearts will allow us not to lean unto our own understanding. In all our ways, we must acknowledge God, and he shall direct our paths. God lives and loves each of us. I know our Father in Heaven has a perfect plan for us. As we follow this plan and the example of our Savior, we can find peace in this developing World, our hearts can be filled with hope, and we will receive the direction we need. Caring is the next building block of mature love. Caring is an active concern for the life and growth of those whom we love. This means we cannot simply talk about how much we care for something or someone, but we must also act upon it. Caring for others begins with self-caring. Somehow the World is hungry for goodness and recognizes it when it sees it. There is something in all of us that hungers after the good and true. Goodness is the attribute most needed and longed for not only in our individual lives but also in families, communities, states, and nations. If we are to effectively foster and utilize the great goodness of the people around us, we must strengthen both our families and our communities. The family is without question the God-given primary vehicle for the development and expression of personal goodness. #RandolphHarris 10 of 13
However, we also live in communities. People are by nature social beings whose lives and feelings are eternally connected and intertwined with those of others. Almost invariably, individuals reach their fully potential only in association and in community with others. Intimate knowledge of another persona is another factor necessary for love. Knowledge as it is meant here is much more than just familiarity with facts about a person. True knowledge of another person is very much like intuition. It is an emotional as much as mental experience. Regardless of the amount of time we spend with another person, picking that person’s brains and observing every facet of that person’s behavior, we may still have little true knowledge of that person. Why is this so? First of all, to know another person we must first know ourselves. When we have a deep, honest awareness of our own identity, we can begin to understand what goes in others. In addition, knowing another requires an openness and a willingness to be known ourselves. This requires trust. It means removing some of the defensive barriers we erect around us. It means taking off the false faces and masks that we wear as we play our many roles in life. This calls for authenticity. #RandolphHarris 11 of 13
Honestly expressing ourselves to others is exceedingly risky, but if we sense they are a good person, the risk-talking may pay off in the closeness we feel as we gain true knowledge of another. Respect is another building block of love. Respect is a word that has been used and misused so often, it is a wonder it has any real meaning left to it. The root of the word comes from the Latin respicere—re- means back again, and spicere means to look. There is in the word, then, the connotation of taking another look, of seeing a person as if for the first time. As a child, some people think their fathers are the dumbest men alive. When they grow up, they are amazed at how much their fathers have learned! Obviously, this is talking about that fact that one’s own maturation has given one a new perspective on their father. One may suddenly see their father anew—whether the older man actually had learned anything new or not. When we respect people, we appreciate their uniqueness and hold them and all that they are in high regard. This does not mean that we like everything that they do, but that we accept them in their entirety, apart from riles, prejudices, circumstances, and relationships. We esteem their integrity, their wholeness, as human beings. To respect others, we must first have self-respect. #RandolphHarris 12 of 13
Responsibility is the final element necessary for love, and it should actually be spelled “response-ability,” to emphasize the meaning, the ability to responds. To have response-ability for another means to trust, care for, know, and respect someone so fully that we are aware of the person’s needs. Being aware, we try to meet as many of those needs as we responsibly can, without robbing that person of his or her own self-respect and responsibility. We are responsible to people, ore than we are responsible for them. Self-responsibility must precede responsibility for others. This means using one’s own resources to meet one’s own needs. It is not always easy to be responsible, but unless you are, real loving of yourself and other cannot take place. “With their wicked words they will try to hold you down. No this is not our fate, the lives in which they are bound and there is something more we know, it had to be found. I know the World will not wait, the tide is turning around, and there is not enough time. In the fallout of the wasted, in the half light I stand before you in the last dance of an old life. Now the cool wind’s blowing and we cannot stay, but it is alright. When the night is gone, I will still be here,” reports Emma Hewitt (Not Enough Time). #RandolphHarris 13 of 13
For a moment I felt an abrupt rush of countless points of white light sweep across the field of view, as if the unseen million of the Milky Way were to flow in a sparkling river before my eyes. Very bright colors, the wonderful loveliness of vivid colors gone before I could name them. The disappearance of overt authority is clearly visible in all spheres of life. Parents do not give commands any more; they suggest that the child “will want to do this.” Since they have no principles or convictions themselves, they try to guide children to do what the law of conformity expects, and often, being older and hence less in touch with “the latest,” they learn from the children what attitude is required. The same holds true in business and in industry; you do not give orders, you suggest; you do not command, your coax and manipulate. Even the American army has accepted much of the new form of authority. The army is propagandized as if it were an attractive business enterprise; the soldier should feel like a member of a team, even though the hard fact remains that one must be trained to kill and be killed. As long as there was overt authority, there was conflict, and there was rebellion—against irrational authority. In the conflict with the commands of one’s conscience, in the fight against irrational authority, the personality developed—specifically the sense of self developed. #RandolphHarris 1 of 13
I experience myself as “I” because I doubt, I protest, I rebel. Even if I submit and sense defeat, I experience myself as “I”—I, the defeated one. However, if I am not aware of submitting or rebelling, if I am ruled by an anonymous authority, I lose the sense of self, I become a “one,” a part of the “It.” The mechanism through which the anonymous authority operates is conformity. I ought to do what everybody does, hence, I must conform, not be different, not stick out; I must be ready and willing to change according to the changes in the pattern; I must not ask whether I am right or wrong, but whether I am adjusted, whether I am not peculiar, not different. The only thing which is permanent in me is just this readiness for change. Nobody has power over me, expect the herd of which I am part, yet to which I am subjected. It is hardly necessary to demonstrate to the reader the degree which this submission to anonymous authority by conformity has reached. However, I want to give a few illustrations taken from the very interesting and illuminating settlement in California. In this upscale development in Roseville, California was made to house hundreds of people, partly in clusters of rental garden apartments at
The inhabitants of this community are mostly junior executives, with a sprinkling of chemists and engineers, with an average income of $62,748.05-$73,206.06, between 25 and 35 years of age, married, and with one or two children. What are the social relations, and the adjustment in this package community? Whole people move there mainly out of a simple economic necessity and not because of any yen for womb image, after exposure to such an environment some people find a warmth and support in it that makes other environments seem unduly cold—it is somewhat unsettling, for example, to hear the way residents of the new suburbs occasionally refer to “the outside.” This feeling of warmth is more or less the same as the feeling of been accepted: “I could afford another place than the development we are going to,” says one of the people, “and I must say it is not the kind of place where you have the boss or a customer dinner. However, you get real acceptance is indeed a in a community like that.” This craving for acceptance is indeed a very characteristic feeling in the alienated person. #RandolphHarris 3 of 13
Why should anyone be so grateful for acceptance unless one doubts that he or she is acceptable, and why should a young, educated, successful couple have such doubts, if not due to the fact that they cannot accept themselves—because they are not themselves. The only haven for having a sense of identity is conformity. Being acceptable really means not being different from anybody else. Feeling inferior stems from feeling different, and no question is asked whether the difference is for the better or worse. Adjustment begins early. One parent expresses the concept of anonymous authority quite succinctly: The adjustment to the group does not seem to involve so many problems for them [the children]. I have noticed that they seem to get the feeling that nobody is the boss—there is a feeling of complete co-operation. Partly this comes from early exposure to court play. The ideological concept in which this phenomenon is expressed here is that of absence of authority, a beneficial value in terms of twenty first century freedom. The reality behind this concept of freedom is the presence of anonymous authority and the absence of individuality. #RandolphHarris 4 of 13
What could be clearer for this concept of conformity than the statement made by one mother: “Johnny has not been doing so well at school. The teacher told me he was doing fine in some respects but that his social adjustment was not as good as it might be. He would pick one or two friends to play with—and sometimes he was happy to remain by himself.” Indeed, the alienated person finds it almost impossible to remain by oneself, because one is seized by the panic of experiencing nothingness. That it should be formulated so frankly is nevertheless surprising, and shows that we have even ceased to be ashamed of our herdlike inclinations. The parents sometimes complain that the school might be a bit too permissive, and that the children lack discipline, but whatever the faults of Park Forest parents maybe, harshness and authoritarianism are not among them. Indeed not, but why would you need authoritarianism in its overt forms if the anonymous authority of conformism makes your children submit completely to the It, even if they do not submit to their individual parents? The complaint of the parents, however, about lack of discipline is not meant too seriously, for “What we have in Park Forest, it is becoming evident, is the apotheosis of pragmatism. It would be an exaggeration, perhaps, to say that the transients have come to deify society—and the job of adjusting to it—but certainly they have remarkably little yen to quarrel with society. They are, as one puts it, the practical generation.” #RandolphHarris 5 of 13
Another aspect of alienated conformity is the leveling-out process of taste and judgment which describes “The Melting Pot,” or as some like to call it “The Smelting Pot.” “When I first came here I was pretty rarefied,” a self-styled “egghead” explained to a recent visitor. “I remember how shocked I was one day when I told the girls in the court how much I had enjoyed listening to The Magic Flute the night before. They did not know what I was talking about. I began to learn that diaper talk I lot more important to them. I still listen to The Magic Flute but now I realize that for most people other things in life seem as important.” Another woman reports that she was discovered reading Plato when one of the girls made a surprise visit. The visitor “almost fell over from surprise. Now all of them are sure I am strange.” Actually, the sensitive woman overestimates the damage. The others do not think her overly odd, for her deviance is accompanied by enough tact, enough observance of the little customs that oil court life, so that equilibrium is maintained. #RandolphHarris 6 of 13
What matters is to transform value judgment into matters of opinion, whether it is listening to The Magic Flute as against diaper talk, or whether it is being a Republican as against being a Democrat. All that matters is that nothing is too serious, that one exchanges views, and that one is ready to accept any opinion or conviction (if there is such a thing) as being as good as the other. On the market of opinions everybody is supposed to have a commodity of the same value, and it is indecent and not fair to doubt it. The word which is used for alienated conformity and sociability is of course one which expresses the phenomenon in terms of a very beneficial value. Indiscriminating sociability and lack of individuality is called being outgoing. The language here becomes psychiatrically tinged with the philosophy thrown in for good measure. You can really help make a lot of people happy here. I have brought out two couples myself; I saw potentialities in them they did not realize they had. Whenever we see someone who is shy and withdrawn, we make a special effort with them. A poignant note comes into our discussion when we remind ourselves that this excessive concern for satisfying the partner is an expression, however perverted, of a sound and basic element in the sexual act: the pleasure and experience of self-affirmation in being able to give to the partner. #RandolphHarris 7 of 13
The man is often deeply grateful toward the woman who lets herself be gratified by him—lets him give her an orgasm, to use the phrase that is often the symbol for this experience. This is a point midway between lust and tenderness, between sex and agape (or caritas as the Latins called it, the love which is devoted to the welfare of the other, the type of which is the love of God for humans)—and it partakes of both. Many a male cannot feel his own identity either as a man or a person in our culture until he is able to gratify a woman. The very structure of human interpersonal relations is such that the sexual act does not achieve its full pleasure or meaning if the man and woman cannot feel they are able to gratify the other. And it is the inability to experience this pleasure at the gratification of the other which often underlies the exploitative sexuality the compulsive sexuality of the Don Juan seduction type. Don Juan has to perform the act over and over again because he remains forever unsatisfied, quite despite the fact that he is entirely potent and has a technically good orgasm. Now the problem is not the desire and need to satisfy the partner as such, but the fact that this need is interpreted by the persons in the sexual act only a technical sense—giving physical sensation. #RandolphHarris 8 of 13
What is omitted even from our very vocabulary (and thus the words may sound square as I say them here) is the experience of giving feelings, sharing fantasies, offering the inner psychic richness that normally takes a little time and enables sensation to transcend itself in emotion and emotion to transcend itself in tenderness and sometimes love. It is not surprising that contemporary tends toward the mechanization of sex have much to do with the problem of impotence. The distinguishing characteristic of the machines is that it can go through all the motions but it never feels. A knowledgeable medical student, one of whose reasons for coming into analysis was his sexual impotence, had a revealing dream. He was asking me in the dream to put a pipe in his dead that would go down through his body and come out at the other end of his penis. He was confident in the dream that the pipe would constitute an admirably strong erection. #RandolphHarris 9 of 13
What was entirely missing in this intelligent scion of our sophisticated times was any understanding at all that what he conceived as his solution was exactly the cause of his problem, namely the image of himself as a screwing machine. His symbol is remarkably graphic: the brain, the intellect, is included, but true symbol of our alienate age, his shrew system bypasses entirely the seats of emotions, the thalamus, the heart and lungs, even the stomach. Direct route from head to penis—but what is lost is the heart! Impotence is increasing these days despite (or because of) the unrestrained freedom on all sides. All therapists seem to agree that more men are coming to them with that problem—though whether this represents a real increase in the prevalence of sexual impotence or merely a greater awareness and ability to talk about it cannot be definitely answered. Obviously, it is one of those topics on which meaningful statistics are almost impossible to get. It is clear that men have an urge to get help on impotence. Whatever the reason, it is becoming harder for the young man as well as the old to take “yes” for an answer. #RandolphHarris 10 of 13
To see the curious ways the new puritanism shows itself, you have only to pen an issue of Playboy, that redoubtable journal reputedly sold mainly to college students and clergymen. You discover the scantly clad girls with silicate breast side by side with the articles by reputable authors, and you conclude on first blush that the magazine is certainly on the side of the new enlightenment. However, you look more closely you see a strange expression in these photographed women: detached, mechanical, uninviting, vacuous—the typical schizoid personality in the negative sense of that term. You discover that they are not sexy at all but that Playboy has only shifted the fig lead from the genitals to the face. You read the letters to the editor and find the first, entitled “Playboy Priest,” telling of a priest who “lectures on Hefner’s philosophy to audiences of young people and numerous members of the clergy,” that “true Christian ethics and morality are not incompatible with Hefner’s philosophy,” and—written with enthusiastic approbation—that “most clergymen in their fashionable parsonages live more like playboys than ascetics.” You find another letter entitled “Jesus was a playboy,” since he loved Mary Magdalene, good food, and grooming, and castigated the Pharisees. And you wonder why all this religious justification and why people, if they are going to be “liberated,” cannot just enjoy their liberation? #RandolphHarris 11 of 13
Whether one takes the cynical view that letters to the editor are planted, or the more generous one that these examples are selected from hundreds of letters, it amounts to the same thing. An image of a type of American male is being presented—a suave, detached, self-assumed bachelor, who regards the woman as a “Playboy accessory” like items in his fashionable wardrobe. You note also that Playboy carries no advertising for trusses, bald heads, or anything that would detract from this image. You discover that the good articles (which, frankly, can be bought by an editor who wants to hire an assistant with taste and pay the requisite amount of money) give authority to this image. Harvey Cox concludes that Playboy is basically antisexual, and that it is the latest and slickest episode in man’s continuing refusal to be human. He believes the whole phenomenon of Playboy is only a part vividly illustrates the awful fact of the new kind of tyranny. The poet-sociologist Calvin Herton, discussing Playboy in connection with the fashion and entertainment World, calls it the new sexual fascism. #RandolphHarris 12 of 13
Many people desire to live out of mind, to experience their nonrational or irrational selves. They want, out of curiosity, out of need, out of a feeling of incompleteness, to know the rest of themselves, the part of them that is usually hidden away, like the family of skeletons. Playboy has indeed caught on to something significant in American society, it is believed to be the repressed fear of involvement with women. I go farther and hold that it, as an example of the new puritanism, gets its dynamic from a repressed anxiety in American men that underlies even the fear of involvement. This is the repressed anxiety about impotence. Everything in the magazine is beautifully concocted to bolster the Illusion of potency without ever putting it to the test or challenge at all. Noninvolvement (like playing it cool) is elevated into the ideal model for Playboy. This is possible because the illusion is air-tight, ministering as it does to men fearful for their potency, and capitalizing on this anxiety. The character of the illusion is shown further in the fact that the readership of Playboy drops off significantly after the age of thirty, when men cannot escape dealing with real women. This illusion is illustrated by the fact that Hefner himself, a former Sunday-school teacher and son of a devout Methodists, practically never went outside his large establishment in North Chicago. Ensconced there, he carries on his work surrounded by his bunnies and amidst his nonalcoholic bacchanals on Pepsi-Cola. #RandolphHarris 13 of 13