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Possessed by Genius–The Gift of Life is the Most Precious Chance One Has

I have plastered it, painted it, run its new wires, sanded its floors, and laid the gloss. I learned those skills out west, and all that time I lived out there I never forgot this house, used to pass it as a little boy, never forgot it, and never dreamed of course that one day I would be the master of it (chuckle), that is, if any mortal can be the master of this house, what this house has is a mistress, or even two, and for a time, for a long time. Come, let me show you the library. Though many philosophers, such as Owen and Proudhon, Tolstoy and Bakunin, Durkheim and Marx, Einstein and Schweitzer talk about it as they express different concepts, they all find that mortals have lost their central place, that they have been made an instrument for the purposes of economic aims, that one has been estranged from, and has lost the concrete relatedness to one’s fellow mortals and to nature, that one has ceased to have a meaningful life. I have tried to express the same idea by elaborating on the concept of alienation and by sowing psychologically what the psychological results of alienation are; that mortals regress to a receptive and marketing orientation and ceases to be productive; that they lose their sense of self, become dependent on approval, hence tending to conform and spend most of their energy in the attempt to compensate for or just cover up their anxiety. #RandolphHarris 1 of 15

Human intelligence is excellent, their reason deteriorates and in view of their technical powers they are seriously endangering the existence of civilization, and even of the human race. If we turn to view about the causes for this development, we find less agreement than in the diagnosis of the illness itself. While many are still prone to see the causes of all evil in the lack of political freedom, and especially of universal suffrage, others still stress the significance of economic factors. They believed that the alienation of mortals resulted from their role as an object of exploitation and use. Still spiritual and moral impoverishment is also a precipitating cause of Western mortal’s decay; in addition to repression of one’s instinctual drives and the resulting manifestations. However, what hold true for the causes of society’s infirmary, of course, is true for the remedies by which modern mortal’s defect can be cured. If I believe that the cause of the illness is economic, or spiritual, or psychological, I necessarily believe that remedying the cause leads to sanity. On the other hand, if I see how the various aspects are interrelated, I shall arrive at the conclusion that sanity and mental health can be attained only by simultaneous changes in the sphere of industrial and political organization, of spiritual and philosophical orientation, of character structure, and of cultural activities. The concentration of effort in any of these spheres, to the exclusion or neglect of others, is destructive of all change. #RandolphHarris 2 of 15

In fact, here seems to lie one f the most important obstacles to the progress of humankind. Christianity has preached spiritual renewal, neglecting the changes in the social order without which spiritual renewal must remain ineffective for the majority of the people. The age of enlightenment has postulated as the highest norms independent judgment and reason; it preached political equality without seeing that political equality could not lead to the realization of the fraternity of mortals if it was not accompanied by a fundamental change in the socioeconomic organization. While people stress the necessity for social and economic changes, they neglect the necessity of the inner change in human beings, without which economic change can never lead to the good society. Each of these great reform movements of the last two thousand years has emphasized one sector of life to the exclusion of the others; their proposals for reform and renewal were radical—but their results were almost complete failure. The preaching of the Gospel led to the establishment of the Catholic Church; the teachings of rationalists. The result could hardly be different. #RandolphHarris 3 of 15

Mortals are a unit; their thinking, feeling, and their practice of life are inseparably connected. One cannot be free in one’s thought when one is not free emotionally; and one cannot be free emotionally if one is dependent and unfree in one’s practice of life, in one’s economic and social relations. Trying to advance radically in one sector to the exclusion of others must be necessarily lead to the results to which it did lead, namely, that the radical demands in one sphere are fulfilled only by a few individuals, while for the majority they become formulae and rituals, serving to cover up the fact that in other spheres nothing has changed. Undoubtedly one step of integrated progress in all sphere of life will have more far-reaching and more lasting results for the progress of the human race than a hundred steps preached—and even for a short while lived—in only one isolated sphere. Several thousands of years of failure in isolated progress should be a rather convincing lesson. Closely related to this problem is that of radicalism and reform, which seems to form such a dividing line between various political solutions. Yet, a closer analysis can show that this differentiation as it is usually conceived of is deceptive. There is reform and reform; reform can be radical, that is, going to the roots, or it can be superficial, trying to patch up the symptoms without touching the cases. #RandolphHarris 4 of 15

Reform which is not radical, in this sense, never accomplishes its ends and eventually ends up in the opposite direction. So-called radicalism on the other hand, which believes that we can solve problems by force, when observation, patience and continuous activity is required, is as unrealistic and fictious as reform. The revolution of the Bolsheviks led to Stalinism, the reform of the right wing Social Democrats in Germany, led to Hitler. The true criterion of reform is not its tempo but its realism, its true racialism; it is the question whether it goes to the roots and attempts to change causes—or whether it remains on the surface and attempts to deal only with symptoms. We are discussing the roads to sanity, that is, methods of cure, and we had better pause here for a moment and ask ourselves what we know about the nature of cure in cases of individual mental diseases. The cure of social pathology must follow the same principle, since it is the pathology of so many human beings, and not of an entity beyond or apart from individuals. The conditions for the cure of individual pathology are mainly the following: A development must have occurred which is contrary to the proper functioning of the psyche. In frame of reference of humanistic psychoanalysis, the cause of pathology lie in the failure to develop a productive orientation, a failure which results in the development of irrational passions, especially of incestuous, destructive and exploitative strivings. #RandolphHarris 5 of 15

The fact of suffering, whether it is conscious or unconscious, resulting from the failure of normal development, produces a dynamic striving to overcome the suffering, that is, for change in the direction of health. This striving for healthy in our physical as well as in our mental organism is the basis for any cure of sickness, and it is absent only in the most severe pathology. The first step necessary to permit this tendency for health to operate is the awareness of the suffering and of that which is shut out and disassociated from our conscious personality. In this frame of reference, it refers to the repressed irrational passions, to the repressed feeing of aloneness and futility, and to the longing for love and productivity, which is also repressed. Increasing self-awareness can become fully effective only if a next step is taken, that on changing a practice of life which was built on the basis of the neurotic structure, and which reproduces it constantly. A patient, for instance, whose neurotic character makes one want to submit to parental authorities has usually constructed a life where one has chosen dominating or sadistic father images as bosses, teachers, and so on. One will be cured only if one changes one’s realistic life situation in such a way that it does not constantly reproduce the submissive tendencies one wants to give up. #RandolphHarris 6 of 15

Furthermore, one must change one’s system of values, norms and ideals, so that they further rather than block one’s striving for health and maturity. The same condition—conflict with the requirements of human nature and resulting suffering, awareness of what is shut out, and change of the realistic situation and of values and norms—are also necessary for a cure of social pathology. To show the conflict between human needs and our social structure, and to further the awareness of our conflicts and of that which is dissociated, was the purpose of the previous discussion. However, we still need to further discuss the various possibilities of practical changes in our economic, political and cultural organization. Yet, before we start discussing the practical questions, let us consider once more what constitutes mental sanity, and what type of culture could be assumed to be conductive to mental health. The mentally healthy person is the productive and unalienated person; the person who relates oneself to the World lovingly, and who uses one’s reason to grasp reality objectively; who experiences oneself as a unique individual entity, and at the same time feels one with one’s follow mortals; who is not subject to irrational authority, and accepts willingly the rational authority of conscience and reason; who is in the process of being born as long as one is alive, and considers the gift of life the most precious chance one has.  #RandolphHarris 7 of 15

Let us also remember that these goals of mental health are not ideals which have to be forced upon the person, or which mortals can attain only if one has overcome one’s nature, and sacrifices for one’s innate selfishness. On the contrary, the striving for mental health, for happiness, harmony, love, productiveness, is inherent in every human being who is not born as a mental or moral idiot. Given a chance, these strivings assert themselves forecefully, as can be seen in countless situations. In takes powerful constellations and circumstances to pervert and stifle this innate striving for sanity; and indeed, throughout the greater part of known history, the use of mortal by mortal has produced such perversion. To believe tat this perversion is inherent in mortals is like throwing seeds in the soil of the desert and claiming they were not meant to grow. What society corresponds to this aim of mental health, and what would be the structure of a sane society? First of all, a society in which no mortal is a means toward another’s end, but always and without exception an end in oneself; hence, where nobody is used, nor uses oneself, for purposes which are not those of the unfolding of one’s own human powers; where mortals are the center, and where all economic and political activities are subordinated to the aim of one’s growth. #RandolphHarris 8 of 15

A sane society is one in which qualities like greed, exploitativeness, possessiveness, narcissism, have no chance to be used for greater material gain or for the enhancement of one’s personal prestige. Where acting according to one’s conscience is looked upon a as fundamental and necessary quality and where opportunism and lack of principles is deemed to be asocial; where the individual is concerned with social matters so that they become personal matters, where one’s relation to one’s fellow mortals is not separated from one’s relationship in the private sphere. A sane society, furthermore, is one which permits mortals to operate within manageable and observable dimensions, and to be an active and responsible participant in the life of society, as well as the master of one’s own life. It is one which furthers human solidarity and not only permits, but stimulates, its members to relate themselves to each other lovingly; a sane society furthers the productive activity of everybody in one’s work, stimulates the unfolding of reason and enables mortals to give expression to one’s inner needs in collective art and rituals. #RandolphHarris 9 of 15

Another characteristic of modern people is loneliness. They describe this feeling as one being on the outside, isolated, or, if they are sophisticated, they say that they feel alienated. They emphasize how crucial it is for them to be invited to this part or that dinner, not because they especially want to go (though they generally do go) nor because they will get enjoyment, companionship, sharing of experience and human warmth in gathering (very often they do not, but are simply bored). Rather, being invited is crucial because it is a proof that they are not alone. Loneliness is such an omnipotent and painful threat to many persons that they have little conception of the beneficial values of solitude, and even at times are very frightened at the prospect of being alone. Many people suffer from the fear of finding oneself alone, and so they do not find themselves at all. The feeling of emptiness and loneliness go together. When persons, for example, are telling of a break-up in a love relationship, they will often not say they feel sorrow or humiliation over a lost conquest; but rather that they feel emptied. The loss of the other leaves an inner yawning void. #RandolphHarris 10 of 15

The reasons for the close relationship between loneliness and emptiness are not difficult to discover. For when a person does not know with any inner conviction what one wants or what one feels; when, in a period of traumatic change, one comes aware of the fact that the conventional desires and goals one has been taught to follow no longer bring one any security or give one any sense of direction, when, that is, one feels an inner void while one stands amid the outer confusion of upheaval in one’s society, one senses danger; and one’s natural reaction is to look around for other people. They, one hopes, will give one some sense of direction, or at least some comfort in the knowledge that one is not alone in one’s fright. Emptiness and loneliness are thus two phases of the same basic experience of anxiety. Some people feel like we might be the last generation to walk this Earth—but do not know in which direction to turn. And because of their, their reaction is, strangely enough, a sudden, deep, loneliness. All of mortal’s history is an endeavor to shatter one’s seclusion. Feelings of isolation occur when one feels empty and afraid not simply because one wants to be protected by the crowd. Nor is the longing for others simply an endeavor to fill the void within one’s self—though this certainly is one side of the need for human companionship when one feels empty or anxious. #RandolphHarris 11 of 15

The more basic reason is that the human being gets one’s original experience of being a self out of one’s relatedness to other persons, and when one is alone, without other persons, one is afraid one will lose this experience of being a self. Mortals, the biosocial mammal, not only is dependent on other human beings such as one’s father and mother for one’s security during a long childhood; one like wise receives one’s consciousness of oneself, which is the basis of one’s capacity to orient oneself in life, from these early relationships. Therefore, it is clear to see that mortals need relationships with other people in order to orient themselves. Angels boring? Yes—until they fall! Then the Angel takes on fascination and interest. The dichotomy between devils and Angles was carried on through the Middle Ages, and the word for the diammonic is now clearly demon. The medieval citizens were enthralled by their demons. The medieval citizens were enthralled by their demons, even in the act of condemning them; why else all these gargoyles, beasts laughing and looking sinister, animals of every sort, scampering and climbing up the sides of their cathedrals and Victorian houses, carved in stone by artisans who must have known the daimonic at first hand? However, this did not stand in the way of their using this handy method of condemnation of their enemies as the devil’s party in their wars of religion and particularly in the Albigensian uprising. #RandolphHarris 12 of 15

It seems that it is always mortal’s proclivity to define the outsider, the stranger, the one who differs from one, as the evil one and oneself as on the side of the angel. However, one who enters the sphere of faith enters the sanctuary of life. Where there is faith there is an awareness of holiness. One now becomes gifted with some supernatural power: one has had genius, or even one oneself is a genius. One’s acts do not conform to the norms of accepted behavior, but also one’s work has a superhuman quality that makes it incomparable with the work of other mortals. Therefore the usual categories of good and evil, of useful and useless, do not apply to the genius. What one does and what one suffers is one’s fate. One is not a genius because one is an extraordinary artist, but conversely, one is an artist become one is possessed by genius. Fate guides one to significant meetings and it produces great mortals. To see the experiential justification for this point we have only to recall that greatness consists of being in the right place at the right time; it is an encounter between a mortal of particular qualities and the particular needs of an age. Mortals with talent are seized by the historical situation and hurled to greatness. What concerns one ultimately becomes holy. The awareness of the holy is awareness of the presence of the divine, namely of the content of our supreme concern. #RandolphHarris 13 of 15

Faith’s presence remains mysterious in spite of its appearance. It is discovered in Nature, animate and inanimate, with soul and without soul, something which was only manifested in contradiction, and therefore cannot be grasped under one conception, still less under one word. Only in the impossible did it seem to find pleasure, and the possible it seemed to thrust from itself with contempt. The ancients become aware of something similar. Faith can manifest itself in the most remarkable way even in some animals, it primarily is connected with mortals. It represents a power which is, if not opposed to the moral order of the World, yet at cross-purposes to it; such that one could compare the one to the warp, and the other to the woof. In the most awesome form faith appears when it manifests itself in some human beings. They are not always mortals of superior mind or talents, seldom do they recommend themselves by the goodness of their heart. Yet a tremendous power emanates from them, they possess an incredible force over all other creatures and even over the elements; nobody can say how far their influence will reach. #RandolphHarris 14 of 15

The reason for these effects of the holy is obvious if we see the relation of the experience of the holy to the experience of the ultimate concern. The human hearts seeks the infinite because that is where the finite wants to rest. In the infinite it sees its own fulfillment. This is the reason for the ecstatic attraction and fascination of everything in which ultimacy is manifest. On the other hand, if ultimacy is manifest and exercises its fascinating attraction, one realizes at the same time the infinite distance of the finite from the infinite and, consequently, the negative judgment over any finite attempts to reach the infinite. The feeling of being consumed in the presence of the divine is a profound expression of mortal’s relation to the holy. It is implied in every genuine act of faith, in every state of ultimate concern. Entering the sanctuary means encountering the holy. Here the infinitely removed makes itself near and present, without losing its remoteness. For this reason, the holy has been called the entirely other, namely, other than the ordinary course of things or other than the World which is determined by the cleavage of subject and object. The holy transcends this realm; this is its mystery and its unapproachable character. There is no conditional way of reaching the unconditional; there is no finite way of reaching the infinite. #RandolphHarris 15 of 15

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One Can Move Ahead Slightly and the Timing Must be Exquisite

We respected their choice to be together. We did not think they would simply disappear. We could not imagine it. We were afraid of hearing from them. We had no idea how they could multiply or survive in the modern World. Some people seek not to be outstanding but to fit in; they live as though they are directed by a radar set fastened to their head perpetually telling them what other people expect of them. This radar type gets one’s motives and directions for others; like a mortal who describes oneself as a set of mirrors, such an individual is able to respond but not to choose; one has no effective center of motivation of one’s own. Such people gain their strength by internalizing external rules, by compartmentalizing will power and intellect and by repressing their feelings. This type is well suited for business success, for, like 21st century technology tycoons and the captains of Wall Street, they can manipulate people in the same way as electric cars of gas prices. The gyroscope is an excellent symbol for the since it stands for a completely mechanical center of stability. William Randolph Hearst was an example of this type: he amassed great power and wealth, but he was so anxious underneath this appearance of strength. #RandolphHarris 1 of 18

The gyroscope mortals often have a strong influence over their kids and are very rigid. This is how certain attitudes in a society tend to crystallize rigidly. If we take out the gyroscope, there will be an emptiness in society, which might follow a breakdown because it would be hollow. Our society has not yet found something to take the place of the gyroscope person’s rigid rules.  If this is truly the Age of Anxiety, it may be because we have entered an era when things happen so rapidly, on such a large scale, that we are overwhelmed by them. For example, we know something of the threats to human survival on our planet. Our uncertainty as to how and when such things might happen or about what to do might be called anxiety. Anxiety, like fear, has come beneficial aspects. It is not always wise to rid ourselves of anxieties, because we can learn from them. Though anxiety is an uncomfortable feeling, rather than popping a tranquilizer we might be better off trying to discover its cause and work through it. The outer-directed people in our tie generally are characterized by attitudes of passivity and apathy. Many people of today have by and large given up the driving ambition to excel, to be at the top; or if they do have such ambition, they regard it as a fault and are often apologetic for such a hangover from their fathers’ mores. #RandolphHarris 2 of 18

So many people want to be accepted by their peers even to the extent of being inconspicuous and absorbed in the group. This sociological picture is very similar in its broad lines to the picture we get in psychological work with individuals. A decade or two ago, the emptiness which was beginning to be experienced on a fairly broad scale by the middle classes could be laughed at as the sickness of the suburbs. The clearest picture of the empty life is the suburban man, who gets up at the same hoe every weekday morning, takes the same train to work in the city, performs that same task in the office, lunches at the same place, leaves the same tip for the waitress each day, comes home on the same train each night, has 2.3 children, cultivates a little garden, spends a two-week vacation at the shore every Summer which he does not enjoy, goes to church every Christmas and Easter, and moves through a routine, mechanical existence year after year until he finally has enough move saved at the age of sixty-five to last at least twenty years, and then returns to Heaven. (To some people, that life sounds like a dream come true.) #RandolphHarris 3 of 18

However, there are indications in the present decade that emptiness and boredom have become much more serious states for many people. Not long ago, a very curious incident was reported in the New York papers. A bus driver in the Bronx, New York simply drove away in his empty bus one day and was picked up by the police several days later in the state of Florida, which is about 946 miles away. He explained that, having gotten tired of driving the same route every day, he had decided to go away on a trip. While he was being brought back it was clear from the papers that the bus company was having a hard time deciding whether or how he should be punished. By the time he arrived in the Bronx, he was a cause celebre, and a crowd of people who apparently had never personally known the errant bus driver were on hand to welcome him. When it was announced that the company had decided not to turn him over for legal punishment but to give him his job back again if he would promise to make no more jaunts, there was literal as well as figurative cheering in the Bronx. Why should these solid citizens of the Bronx, living in a metropolitan section which is almost synonymous with middle-class urban conventionality, make a hero out of a man who according to their standards was an auto thief, and worse yet, failed to appear at his regular time for work? #RandolphHarris 4 of 18

On a small scale, the story of the bus driver and the reaction from the people in the Bronx reminds us of the fact that the upper middle classes in bourgeois France several decades ago were able to endure the stultifying and mechanical routine of their commercial and industrial activities only by virtue of the presence of centers of Bohemianism at their elbows. People who live as hollow mortals can endure the monotony only by an occasional blowoff—or at least by identifying with someone else’s blowoff. In some circles emptiness is even made a goal to be sought after, under the guise of being adaptable. Nowhere is this illustrated more arrestingly than in an article in Life Magazine entitled “The Wife Problem.” Summarizing a series of researches which first appeared in Fortune about the role of the wives of corporations executives, this article points out that whether or not the husband is promoted depends a great deal on whether his wife fits the pattern. Time was when only the minister’s wife was looked over by the trustees of the church before her husband was hired; now the wife of the corporation executive is screened, covertly or overly, by most companies like the steel or wool or any other commodity the company uses. She must be highly gregarious, not intellectual or conspicuous, and she must have a very sensitive antennae (again that radar set!) so that she can be forever adapting. #RandolphHarris 5 of 18

The good wife is good by not doing things—by not complaining when her husband works late, by not fussing when a transfer is coming up; by not engaging in any controversial activity. Thus her success depends not on how she actively uses her powers, but on her knowing when and how to be passive. However, the rule that transcends all others is to not be too good. Keeping up with the Joneses is still important. However, where in pushier and more primitive times it implied going substantially ahead of the Joneses, today keeping up means just that: keeping up. One can move ahead, yes—but slightly, and the timing must be exquisite. In the end the company conditions almost everything the wife does—from the companions she is permitted to have down to the car she drives and what and how much she drinks and reads. To be sure, in return for this indenture the modern corporation takes care of its members in the form of giving them added security, insurance, planned vacations, and so on. The Company had become like Big Brother—the symbol for the dictator—in Orwell’s novel, 1984. #RandolphHarris 6 of 18

Of course, the results of such control is a little frightening. Conformity, it would appear, is being elevated into something akin to a religion. Perhaps Americans will arrive at an ant society, not through fiat of a dictator, but through unbridled desire to get along with one another. While one might laugh at the meaningless boredom of some people, the emptiness has for many now moved from the state of boredom to a state of futility and despair which holds promise of dangers. The minor addiction to unprescribed medication among a small number of adolescents is partially due to the media they consume on the television, but also because of some state laws. Youth need to be reminded that it is important to stay sober because they really need their education to make it in society today. Education will help them move past the condition of emptiness. If youth are not growing toward something, one does not merely stagnate; the pent-up potentialities turn into morbidity and despair, and eventually into deviant activities. What is the psychological origin of this experience of emptiness? The feeling of emptiness or vacuity which we have observed sociologically and individually should not be take to mean that people are empty, or without emotional potentiality. A human being is not empty in a static sense, as though one were a storage battery which needs charging. #RandolphHarris 7 of 18

The experience of emptiness, rather, generally comes from the people’s feeling that they are powerless to do anything effective about their lives or the World they live in. Inner vacuousness is the long-term, accumulated result of a person’s particular conviction toward oneself, namely one’s conviction that one cannot act as an entity in directing one’s own life, or change other people’s attitudes toward one, or effectually influence the World around one. Thus one gets the deep sense of despair and futility which so many people in our day have. And soon, since what one wants and what one feels can make no real difference, one gives up wanting and feeling. Apathy and lack of feeling are also defenses against anxiety. When a person continually faces dangers one is powerless to overcome, one’s final line of defense is at last to avoid even feeling the dangers. Sensitive students of our time have seen these developments coming. People today no longer live under the authority of the church or moral laws, but under anonymous authorities like public opinion and those of the TV news media. However, what you do not understand is that 90 percent of the TV news media is control by six corporations, so what you are getting is a view they want manifested in society, to direct politics, business and economics and it may not be fair or accurate. #RandolphHarris 8 of 18

The authority of public opinion is the public itself, but this public is merely a collection of many individuals each with one’s radar set adjusted to finding out what others expect of them. Many corporate executives are successful not only because of their education and experience, but also because the husband and wife are able to be successful in adjusting to public opinion. The public is thus made up of all the Elons, Britneys, Drakes, Toms, Marys, Dicks and Harrys who are the slaves to the authority of public opinion! The public is therefore afraid of a ghost, a bogeyman, a chimera. It is an anonymous authority with a capital “A” when the authority is a composite of ourselves, but ourselves without any individual centers. We are in the long run afraid of our own collective emptiness. And we have good reason to be frightened by this situation of conformity and individual emptiness. We need only remind ourselves that the ethical and emotional emptiness in European society three to five decades ago was an open invitation to fascist dictatorships to step in and fill the vacuum. #RandolphHarris 9 of 18

The great danger of this situation of vacuity and powerlessness is that it leads sooner or later to painful anxiety and despair, and ultimately, if not corrected, to futility and the blocking off of the most precious qualities of the human being. Its end results are the dwarfing and impoverishment of persons psychologically, or else surrender to some destructive authoritarianism. There is a correlation between economy and culture. Human nature itself needs and laws are in constant interaction with the economic conditions which shape historical development; and while mortals are sharped by the form of social and economic organization, they in turn also mold it. The passions and strivings which are rooted in mortal’s nature, and in the conditions of their existence, are the most powerful driving force for human development. Much like how many people love celebrity culture, so they try to design their homes like houses of the stars, buy fancy cars, buy clothes like those of their favor celebrities and even style their hair like theirs, and that is how cultural factors influence economic basis of society. Observation of the human reality proves that the economic structure of Capitalism constitutes a definite progress over all other socialist theories from a scientific viewpoint. Automatically, when the economic changes have been achieved, a better society can be brought into life by the people who have undergone a moral change within themselves. For instance, people are trying to preserve the economy, so are creating “repair cafes” to make to repair electronics. This is being called the “Repair Revolution.” #RandolphHarris 10 of 18

This is the age-old dilemma of our own personal responsibility even though we are moved by fate. In society, among workers and intellectuals, there is an expression of hope for the liberation of mortals, for the establishment of new moral values, for the realization of human solidarity. It reflects a condition of life to which we all are heir. It is the ultimate statement that truth and reality can be psychologized only to a limited extent. We must have a transpersonal belief in fate and moral responsibility at the same time. God has given every mortal a soul and that is our bond with the divine. To live in accord with one’s soul is difficult but profoundly rewarding. It is natural drive in its starkest form but a drive which mortals, being conscious of, can to some extent assimilate and direct. Our soul opens us up to the creative possibilities we did not know we possessed. And although we experience trials, tribulations, and crises, the struggle gives us a never-failing source of forms and potentialities to awe and to delight. Satan, Lucifer, and other figures who were all at one time archangels, are psychologically necessary. They have to be invented, had to be created, in order to make human action and freedom possible. Otherwise, there would be no consciousness. For every thought destroys as it creates: to think this thing, I have to cut out something else; to say “yes” to this is to say “no” to that and to have a “no” in the very ambivalence of the “yes.” #RandolphHarris 11 of 18

For consciousness works by way of either/or: it is destructive as well as constructive. Without rebellion, no consciousness. Thus, the hope that Satan or other adversaries can be gotten rid of by gradual progress toward perfection is possible. Faith is a total and centered act of the personal self, the act of unconditional, infinite and ultimate concern. The question now arises: what is the source of this all-embracing and all-transcending concern? The word concern points to two sides of a relationship, the relation between the one who is concerned and one’s concern. In both respects we have to imagine mortal’s situation in itself and in one’s World. The reality of mortal’s ultimate concern reveals something about one’s being, namely, that one is able to transcend the flux of relative and transitory experiences of one’s ordinary life. Mortal’s experiences, feelings, thoughts are conditioned and finite. They not only come and go, but their content is of finite and conditional concern—unless they are elevated to unconditional validity. However, this presupposed the general possibility of doing so; it presupposes the element of infinite in mortals. Mortals are able to understand in an immediate personal and central act the meaning of the ultimate, the unconditional, the absolute, the infinite. This alone makes faith a human potentiality. #RandolphHarris 12 of 18

Human potentialities are powers that drive toward actualization. Mortals are driven toward faith by one’s awareness of the infinite to which one belongs, but which one does not own like a possession. This is in abstract terms what concretely appears as the restlessness of the hearts within the flux of life. The unconditional concern which is faith is the concern about the unconditional. The infinite passion, as faith as been described, is the passion for the infinite. Or, the ultimate concern is apprehension about what is experienced as definitive. In this way we have turned from the subjective meaning of faith as a centered act of the personality to its objective meaning, to what is meant in the act of faith. It would not help at this point of our analysis to call that which is meant in the act of faith God or a god. For at this step we ask: What in the idea of God constitutes divinity? The answer is: It is the element of the unconditional and of ultimacy. This carries the quality of divinity. If this is seen, one can understand why almost every thing in Heaven and on Earth has received ultimacy in the history of religion. However, we also can understand that a critical principle was and is at work in mortal’s religious consciousness, namely, that which is really ultimate over against what claims to be supreme but it only preliminary, transitory, finite. #RandolphHarris 13 of 18

The term ultimate concern united the subjective and the objective side of the act of faith—the fides qua creditur (the faith through which is believes) and the fides quae crediture (the faith which is believed). The first is the classical term for the centered act of the personality, the ultimate concern. The second is the classical term for that toward which this act is directed, the ultimate itself, expressed in symbols of the divine. This distinction is very important, but not ultimately so, for the one side cannot be without the other. There is no faith without a content toward which it is directed. There is always something meant in the act of faith. And there is no way of having the content of faith expect in the act of faith. All speaking about divine matters which is not done in the state of ultimate concern is meaningless. Because that which is meant in the act of faith cannot be approached in any other way than through an act of faith. In terms like ultimate, unconditional, infinite, absolute, the difference between subjectivity and objectivity is overcome. The ultimate of the act of faith and the ultimate that is meant in the act of faith are one and the same. This is symbolically expressed by the mystics when they say that their knowledge of God has of himself; and is expressed by Paul when he says (1 Corinthians 13) that he will know as he is known, namely by God. #RandolphHarris 14 of 18

God never can be object without being at the same time subject. Even a successful prayer, is according to Paul (Romans 8), not possible without God as Spirit praying within us. The same experience expressed in abstract language is the disappearance of the ordinary subject-object scheme in the experiences of the ultimate, the unconditional. In the act of faith that which is the source of this act is present beyond the cleavage of the subject and object. It is present as both and beyond both. This character of faith gives an additional criterion for distinguishing true and false ultimacy. The finite which claims infinity without having it (as, for example, a nation or success) is not able to transcend the subject-object scheme. It remains an object which the believer looks at as a subject. One can approach it with ordinary knowledge and subject it to ordinary handling. There are, of course, many degrees in the endless realm of false ultimacies. The nation is nearer to true ultimacy than is success. Nationalistic ecstasy can produce a state in which the subject is almost swallowed by the object. However, after a periods the subject emerges again, disappointed radically and totally, and by looking at the nation in a skeptical and calculating way does injustice even to its justified claims. #RandolphHarris 15 of 18

The more idolatrous a faith the less it is able to overcome the cleavage between subject and object. For that is the difference between true and idolatrous faith. In true faith the ultimate concern is a concern about the truly supreme; while in idolatrous faith is existential disappointment, a disappointment which penetrates into the very existence of mortals! This is the dynamics of idolatrous faith: that it is faith, and as such, the centered act of a personality; that the centering point is something which is more or less the periphery: and that, therefore, the act of faith leads to a loss of the center and to the disruption of the personality. The ecstatic character of even an idolatrous faith can hide this consequence only for a certain time. However, finally it breaks into the open. Perception—our interpretation of the data our senses supply—finally determines what our experience of the World is. Our perceptions can be distorted, however, and our senses fooled. In addition, there may be a whole range of senses receiving input that we do not yet really understand. These are the so-called extra senses, those we associate with extra sensory perception (ESP). “Fear not, for behold, it is God that has shown unto you this marvelous thing, in the which is shown unto you that ye cannot lay your hands on us to slay us,” reports Helaman 5.26.  The Lord is with us, mindful of us, and blessing us in way only he can do. #RandolphHarris 16 of 18

Our desire is to always have God’s Spirit with us to push fear aside for a more eternal view of our mortal lives. Stand in holy places—be not troubled—and promises shall be fulfilled. We will find answers to our questions that trouble us or the peace to simply set them aside. That is the Spirit in action. This Earth is a sacred place in the kingdom of God, and this Earth calls for our reverence, our respect for others, our best selves in living the gospel, and our hopes to lay aside our fears and seek the healing power of Jesus Christ through his Atonement. People say this Earth is not our home, but we do live here. Much like a house rent, it may not be your permanent home, but it is your home because you are legally occupying the dwelling. There is no room for fear in these holy places of God or in the hearts of his children. Why? Because of love. God loves us—always—and we love him. Our love of God counters all fears, and his love abounds in holy places. Think about it. Wen we are tentative in our commitments to the Lord, when we stray from his path leading to life eternal, when we question or doubt our significance in his divine design, when we allow fear to open the door to all its companions—discouragement, anger, frustration, disappointment—the Spirit leave us, and we are without the Lord. #RandolphHarris 17 of 18

We must learn to receive revelation. We experience the World through our sense. To receive personal revelation, we must place priority on living the gospel and encouraging faithfulness and spirituality in others as well as ourselves. However, we do not experience the same things. Our perceptions of the World differ. When we stand in holy placed, we can feel God’s love and perfect love casts out all fear. Sensation and perception are intimately linked together. It is through them that we both see the World. If we actively trust in the Lord and is ways, if we are engaged in his work, we will not fear the trends of the World or be troubled by them. I plead with you to set aside Worldly influences and pressures and seek spirituality in your daily life. Love what the Lord loves—which includes his commandments, his holy houses, our sacred covenants with him, the sacrament each Sabbath day, our communication through prayer—and you will not be troubled. We must trust the Lord and his promises and they will be fulfilled. We are wise and have received the truth, and have taken the Holy Spirit for our guide. “Peace, peace be unto you, because your faith in my Well Beloved, who was from the foundation of the World,” Helaman 5.47. The way to love other people is to express what we feel—anger and love—without aiming to hurt feelings. Open but reverent communication is how to make love in our lives. #RandolphHarris 18 of 18

 

 

 

I am Just a Collection of Mirrors Reflecting What Everyone Else Expects of Me

 

You do right by me, now. Or I will shout you down. Truth is I cannot recollect what happened. One can understand such a reaction only if one appreciates the degree to which words can assume a magical function, and if one takes into account the decrease in reasonable thought, that is to say, in objectivity, which is so characteristic of our age. While mortals are born with certain character traits, their character is definitely determined only by the circumstances under why they live.  If the social conditions of life are satisfactory, mortal’s character will develop its inherent virtues. Many people were trained in all previous history only to defend themselves or to destroy others. A new social order must be created, in which mortals are trained in principles that would permit them to act in union, and to create real and genuine bonds between individuals. Nothing living can prosper without freedom. It is out task to loosen the hardening of hearts so that what lies buried may rise to the surface: so that what truly lives yet now seems dead may emerge and grow light.  We must go to the root, and the root—is mortals themselves. The history of the World is nothing but the creation of human, is the history of the birth of mortals. #RandolphHarris 1 of 16

However, all history is also the history of mortal’s alienation from oneself, from one’s own human powers; the consolidation of our own product to an objective force above us, outgrowing our control, defeating our expectations, annihilating our calculations is one of the main factors in al previous historical development. Mortals have been the object of circumstances, they must become the subject, so that mortals become the highest being for mortals. Freedom is not only freedom from political oppressors, but the freedom from the domination of mortals by things and circumstances. The free person is the rich person, but not the person rich in an economic sense, but rich in human sense. The wealthy mortal is the mortal who is much, and not the one who has much. The analysis of society and of the historical process must begin with mortals, not with an abstraction, but with the real, concrete mortal, in one’s physiological and psychological qualities. It must begin with a concept of the essence of mortals, and the study of economics and of society serves only the purpose of understanding how circumstances have crippled mortals, how one has become alienated from oneself and one’s powers. The nature of humans cannot be deduced from the specific manifestation of human nature as it is engendered by the capitalist system. Our aim must be to know what is good for humans. #RandolphHarris 2 of 16

The aim of development of mortals is a new harmony between people and people, and between people and nature, a development in which mortal’s relatedness to one’s fellow mortals will correspond to one’s most important human need. How can this emancipation of mortals be attained? Mortal’s physical energy has become a commodity, hence mortals have become a thing. We are the nice people and, like the cultivated citizens of Athens in Socrates’ time, we do not like to be publicly reminded, whether we secretly admit it to ourselves or not, that we are motivated even in our love by lust for power, anger, and revenge. What is necessary for the cure is that we confront and come to terms with our souls. The principle this implies is identify with that which haunts you, not in order to fight it off, but to take it into yourself; for it must represent some rejected element in you. The community gives a humanly trustworthy, interpersonal World in which one can struggle against the negative forces. Sometimes we can be the source of hostility and aggression, but when we can, through consciousness, integrate it into our self-system, it becomes the course of energy and spirit which enlivens us. #RandolphHarris 3 of 16

It is important that we learn to possess the fragments of our soul. By frankly confronting these fragments, coming to terms with them, integrating them into the self-system—this process yields several benefits. It strengthens the self because it integrates what had been left out. It overcomes the split, the paralyzing ambivalence in the self. And it renders the person more human by breaking down the self-righteousness and aloof detachment which are the usual defenses of the human being who denies the soul. In such therapy we notice that there is a freeing of the patient from morbid bonds to the past. Love and will are reciprocally related: to help one is to strengthen the other. Anger and love and the feeling of both do not operate in separate compartments or in separate people. We cannot reject one and hope to experience the other. Our aim is to discover ways in which we can stand against the insecurity of our time, to find a center of strength within ourselves, and as far as we can, to point the way toward achieving values and goals which can be depended upon in a day when very little is secure. Many people do not know what they want; they often do not have any clear idea of what they feel. #RandolphHarris 4 of 16

When people talk about lack of autonomy, or lament their inability to make decisions—difficulties which are present in all decades—it soon becomes evident that their underlying problem is that they have no definite experience of their wants or desires. Thus they feel swayed this way and that, with painful feelings of powerlessness, because they feel vacuous, empty. The complaint which leads them to come for help may be, for example, that their love relationships always break up or that they cannot go through with marriage plans or are dissatisfied with the marriage partner. However, they do not talk long before they make it clear that they expect the marriage partner, real or hoped-for, to fill some lack, some vacancy within themselves; and they are anxious and angry because he or she does not talk. They generally can talk fluently about what they should want—to complete their college degrees successfully, to get a job, to fall in love and marry and raise a family—but it is soon evident, even to them, that they are describing what others, parents, professors, employers, expect of them rather than what they themselves want. Soon people realize that they are just a collection of mirrors, reflecting what everyone expects of me. We have to help people clear up the repressions, bring the desire into consciousness, and eventually help them become able to gratify their desire in accord with reality. #RandolphHarris 5 of 16

Very often people are more sensitive and gifted members of the society; they need to get help, broadly speaking, because they are less successful at rationalizing than the well-adjusted citizen who is able for the time being to over up one’s underlying conflicts. This is why we need to have faith. Faith is the state of being ultimately concerned: the dynamics of faith are the dynamics of mortal’s ultimate concern. Mortals, like every living being, is concerned about many things, above all about those which condition one’s very existence, such as food and shelter. However, mortals, in contrast to other living beings, as spiritual concerns—cognitive, aesthetic, social, political. Some of them are urgent, often extremely urgent, and each of them as well as the vital concerns can claim ultimacy for a human life or the life of a social group. It is claims ultimacy it demands the total surrender of one who accepts this claim, and it promises total fulfillment even if all other claims have to be subjected to it or rejected in its name. If a national group makes the life and growth of the nation its ultimate concern, it demands that all other concerns, economic well-being, health and life, family, aesthetic and cognitive truth, justice and humanity, be sacrificed. #RandolphHarris 6 of 16

The extreme nationalisms of our century are laboratories for the study of what ultimate concern means in all aspects of human existence including the smallest concerns of one’s daily life. Everything is centered in the only god, the nation—a god who certainly proves to be a demon, but who shows clearly the unconditional character of an ultimate concern. However, it is not only the unconditional demand made that which is one’s ultimate concern, it is also the promise of ultimate fulfillment which is accepted in the act of faith. The content of this promise is not necessarily defined. It can be expressed in indefinite symbols or in concrete symbols which cannot be taken literally, like the greatness of one’s nation in which one participates even if one has died for it, or the conquest of humankind by the saving race, and so forth. In each of these cases it is ultimate fulfillment that is promised, and it is exclusion from such fulfillment which is threatened if the unconditional demand is not obeyed. An example—and more than an example—is the faith manifest in the religion of the Old Testament. It also has the character of ultimate concern in demand, threat and promise. #RandolphHarris 7 of 16

The content of this concern is not the nation—although some nationalist groups have sometimes tried to distort that—but the content is the God of justice, who, because he represents justice for everybody and every nation, is called the Universal God, the God of the Universe. He is the ultimate concern of every pious being, and therefore in his name the great commandment is given: “You shall love the Lord your God will all your heart, and with all your soul, and with al your might,” reports Deuteronomy 6.5. This is what ultimate concern means and from these words the term ultimate concern is derived. They state unambiguously the character of genuine faith, the demand of total surrender to the subject of ultimate concern. The Old Testament is full of commands which make the nature of this surrender concrete, and it is full of promises and threats in relation to it. Here is also the promises of symbolic indefiniteness, although they center around fulfillment of the national and individual life, and the threat is the exclusion from such fulfillment through national extinction and individual catastrophe. Faith, for the people of the Old Testament, is the state of being ultimately and unconditionally concerned about God and about what he represents in demands, threat, and promise. #RandolphHarris 8 of 16

Another example—almost a counter-example, yet nevertheless equally revealing—is the ultimate concern with success and wit social standing and economic power. It is the god of many people in the highly competitive Western culture and it does what every ultimate concern must do: it demands unconditional surrender to its laws even if the price is the sacrifice of genuine human relations, personal conviction, and creative eros. Its threat is social and economic defeat, and its promise—indefinite as all such promises—the fulfillment of one’s being. It is the breakdown of this kind of faith which characterizes and makes religiously important most contemporary literature. Not false calculations but a misplaced faith is revealed in novels like Point of No Return. When fulfilled, the promise of this faith proves to be empty. Faith is the state of being ultimately concerned. The content matters infinitely for the life of the believer, but it does not matter for the formal definition of faith. And this is the step we have to make in order to understand the dynamics of faith. #RandolphHarris 9 of 16

Only the adversary, the enemy of us all, would try to convince us that the ideals outlined in the general conference are depressing and unrealistic, that people do not really improve, that no one really progresses. And why does Lucifer give that speech? Because he knows he cannot improve, he cannot progress, that Worlds without end he will never have a bright tomorrow. He is a miserable man bound by eternal limitations, and he wants you to be miserable too. Well, do not fall for that. With the gift of the Atonement of Jesus Christ and the strength of Heaven to help us, we can improve, and the great thing about the gospel is we get credit for trying, even if we do not always succeed. When there was a controversy in the early Church regarding who was entitled to Heaven’s blessings and who was not, the Lord declared to the Prophet Joseph Smith, “Verily I say unto you, [the gifts of God] are given for the benefit of those who love me and keep my commandments, and [for them] that seeketh so to do.” Are we not all thankful for that added provision? That has to be a lifesaver because sometimes that is all we can offer! We take some solace in the fact that if God were to reward only the perfectly faithful, he would not have much of a distribution list. #RandolphHarris 10 of 16

Please remember tomorrow, and all the days after that, that the Lord blesses those who want to improve, who accept the need for commandments and try to keep them, who cherish Christlike virtues and strive to the best of their ability to acquire them. If you stumble in that pursuit, so does everyone; the Savior is there to help you keep going. If you fall, summon his strength. Call out, “Oh, Jesus, have mercy on me.” He will help you get back up. He will help you repent, repair, fix whatever you have to fix, and keep going. Soon enough you will have the success you seek. We are going to be blessed for our desire to do good, even as we actually strive to be so. And to qualify for those blessings, we must make certain we do not deny them to others; we are to deal justly, never unjustly, never unfairly; we are to walk humbly never arrogantly, never pridefully; we are to judge righteously, never self-righteously, never unrighteously. The first great commandment of all eternity is to love God with all of our heart, might, mind, and strength—that is the first great commandment. However, the first great truth of all eternity is that God loves us with all of his heart, might, mind, and strength. That love is the foundation stone of all eternity, and it should be the foundation stone of our daily life. Indeed, it is only with that reassurance burning in our soul that we can have the confidence to keep trying to improve, keep seeking forgiveness for our sins, and keep extending that grace to our neighbor. #RandolphHarris 11 of 16

Faith as ultimate concern is an act of the total personality. It happens in the center of the personal life and includes all its elements. Faith is the most centered act of the human mind. It is not a movement of a special section or a special function of mortal’s total being. They all are untied in the act of faith. However, faith is not the sum total of their impacts. It transcends every special impact as well as the totality of them and it has itself a decisive impact on each of them. Since faith is an act of the personality as a whole, it participates in the dynamics of personal life. These dynamics have been described in many ways, especially in the recent developments of analytic psychology. Thinking in polarities, their tensions and their possible conflicts, is a common characteristic of most of them. This makes the psychology of personality highly dynamic and requires a dynamic theory of faith as the most personal acts. The first and decisive polarity in analytic psychology is that between the so-called unconscious and the conscious. Faith as an act of the total personality is not imaginable without the participation of the unconscious elements in the personality structure. They are always present and decide largely about the content of faith. #RandolphHarris 12 of 16

However, on the other hand, faith is a conscious act and the unconscious elements participate in the creation of faith only if they are taken into the personal center which transcends each of them. If this does not happen, if unconscious forces determine the mental status without a centered act, faith does not occur, and compulsions take its place. For faith is a matter of freedom. Freedom is nothing more than the possibility of centered personal acts. The frequent discussion in which faith and freedom are contrasted could be helped by the insight that faith is a free, namely, centered act of the personality. In this respect freedom and faith are identical. Also important to understand is that real faith, even if it uses the father image for its expression, transforms this image into a principle of truth and justice to be defended even against the father. Faith and culture can be affirmed only if we stay grounded in reality, but keep a focus on our eternal lives. This leads to the question of how faith as a personal, centered act is related to the rational structure of mortal’s personality which is manifest in one’s meaningful language, in one’s ability to know the true and to do the good, in one’s sense of beauty and justice. All this, and not only one’s possibility to analyze, to calculate and to argue, makes one a rational being. However, in spite of this larger concept of reason we must deny that mortal’s essential nature is identical with the rational character of one’s mind. #RandolphHarris 13 of 16

Mortals are able to decide for or against reason. This power is the power of one’s self, the center of self-relatedness in which all elements of one’s being are untied. Faith is not an act of any of one’s rational functions, as it is not an act of the unconscious, but it is an act in which both the rational and the nonrational elements of one’s being are transcended. Faith as the embracing and centered act of the personality is ecstatic. It transcends both the drives of the nonrational unconscious and the structures of the rational conscious. It transcends them, but it does not destroy them. The ecstatic character of faith does not exclude its rational character although it is not identical with it, and it includes nonrational strivings without being identical with them. In the ecstasy of faith there is an awareness of truth and of ethical value; there are also past loves and hates, conflicts and reunions, individual and collective influences. Ecstasy means standing outside of oneself—without ceasing to be oneself—with all the elements which are united in the personal center. “And as many as had devils cast out from them, and were healed of their sicknesses and their infirmities, did truly manifest unto the people that they had been wrought upon by the Spirit of God, and has been healed; and they did show forth signs also and did do some miracles among the people,” 3 Nephi 7.22. #RandolphHarris 14 of 16

A further polarity in these elements, relevant for the understanding of faith, is the tension between the cognitive function of mortal’s personal life, on the one hand, and emotion and will, on the other hand. We must sharply and insistently understand that every act of faith is cognitive affirmation, not as the result of an independent process of inquiry but as an inseparable element in a total act of acceptance and surrender. This also excludes the idea that faith is the result of an independent act of will to believe. There is certainly affirmation by the will of what concerns one ultimately, but faith is not a creation of will. In the ecstasy of faith the will to accept and to surrender is an element, but not the cause. And this is true also of feeling. Faith is not an emotional outburst: tis is not the meaning of ecstasy. Certainly, emotion is in it, as in every act of man’s spiritual life. However, emotion does not produce faith. Faith has a cognitive content and is an act of the will. It is the unity of every element in the centered self. Of course, the unity of all elements in the act of fait does not prevent one or the other element from dominating in a special faith. It dominates the character of faith but it does not create the act of faith. “When you shall read these things, if it be wisdom in God that you should read them, that you would remember how merciful the Lord has been unto the children of mortals, from the creation of Adam even down until the time that you shall receive these things, and ponder it in your hearts,” reports Moroni 10.3. #RandolphHarris 15 of 16

This also answers the question of a possible psychological of faith. Everything that happens in a mortal’s personal being can become an object of psychology. And it is rather important for bot the philosopher of religion and the practical minister to know how the act of faith is embedded in the totality of psychological processes. However, in contrast to this justified and desirable form of a psychology of faith there is another one which tries to derive faith from something that is not faith but is most frequently fear. The presupposition of this method is that fear or something else from which faith is derived is more original and basic than faith. However, this presupposition cannot be proved. One the contrary, one can prove that in the scientific method which leads to such consequences faith is already effective. Faith precedes all attempt to derive it from something else, because these attempts are themselves based on faith. No matter how serious the trial, how deep the distress, how great the affliction, God will never desert us. He never has, and he never will. He cannot do it. It is not God’s character to quit us. God will always stand by us. God, our Heavenly Father, wants us to be. He wants to bless us. A rewarding, abundant, and eternal life is the very object of God’s merciful plan for his children. It is a plan predicated on the truth that all things work together for good to them that love God. #RandolphHarris 16 of 16

Is Heaven a Physician?

You are not going to walk away from here with any answers. Get angry at me. Go ahead. Some night, many years from now, maybe someone will choose to explain what happened, but for now you have to accept what you have seen. You no longer need to worry. The diamonic is any natural function which has the power to take over the power to take over the whole person. Pleasures of the flesh and eros, anger and rage, and the craving for power are examples. The diamonic can be either creative or destructive and is normally both. When this power goes awry and one element usurps control over the total personality, we have daimon possession, the traditional name through history for psychosis. The daimonic is obviously not an entity but refers to a fundamental, archetypal function of human experience—an existential reality in modern mortals and, so far as we know, in all mortals. The diamonic is the urge in every being to affirm itself, assert itself, perpetuate and increase itself. The diamonic becomes evil when it usurps the total self without regard to the integration of that self, or to the unique forms and desires of others and their need for integration. It then appears as excessive aggression, hostility, cruelty—the things about ourselves which horrify us most, and which we repress whenever we can or, more likely, project on others. #RandolphHarris 1 of 6

However, these are the reverse side of the same assertion which empowers our creativity. All life is a flux between these two aspects of the daimonic. We can repress the daimonic, but we cannot avoid the toll of apathy and the tendency toward later explosion which such repression brings in its wake. If we do not acknowledge our emotional side, learn how to cultivate and appreciate it, then we lose out on an important part of life. Human beings are not mechanical or machinelike. They have a full range of emotional responses. If we are honest, most of us probably would admit that we would prefer a bit more feeling in the people around us. There must be a reason why emotions are part of human nature, though we cannot fully explain it. Probably there are survival values attached to certain strongly felt emotions such as fear, anger, surprise, and sorrow. However, even beyond this, a human being meeting the variety of experiences life presents cannot help but realize that a great part of really experiencing life is emotional and sensate and intuitive, as we well as merely cognitive. The Greek concept of daimon—the origin of our modern concept—included the creativity of the poet and artist as well as that of the ethical and religious leader, and is the contagious power which the lover has. Ecstasy, a divine madness, seizes the creative person. This is an early form of the puzzling and never-solved problem of the intimate relationship between the genius and mad person. #RandolphHarris 2 of 6

Some people believe their daimon is a kind of guardian. The daimonic is not conscience; for conscience is largely a social product, related to the cultural mores and, in psychoanalytic terms, to the power of the superego. The daimonic refers to the power of nature rather than the superego, and is beyond good and evil. Nor is it mortal’s recall to oneself, for its source lies in those realms where the self is rooted in natural forces which go beyond the self and are felt as the grasp of fate upon us. The daimonic arises from the ground of being rather than the self as such. It is shown particularly in creativity. Speaking of the tremendous power emanating from daimonic persons, all untied moral powers do not prevail against them. And they cannot be overcome expect by the Universe itself which they have challenged to combat. Happiness—or eudaimonism—in the Greek language was the result of being blesses with a good genius. Happiness is to live in harmony with one’s daimon. Nowadays, we would relate eudaimonism to the state of integration of potentialities and other aspects of one’s being, with behavior. #RandolphHarris 3 of 6

The daimon gives individual guidance in particular situations. The daimonic was translated into Latin as genii (or jinni). This is a concept in Roman religion from which our word genius comes and which originally meant a tutelar deity, a sprit presiding over the destiny of a person, and later became a particular mental endowment or talent. As genius (its root being the Latin genere) means to generate, to beget, so the daimonic voice of the generative process within the individual. The daimonic is the unique pattern of sensibilities and powers which constitutes the individual as a self in relation to one’s World. It can speak in dreams and to the sensitive person in conscious meditation and self-questioning. The deteriorated form of this concept, consisting of the belief that we are taken over by little demons flying around equipped with horns, is a projection of inner experience outward, reified into an objective reality. It was entirely right that the Enlightenment and Age of Reason, in the flush of their success in making all life reasonable, should have thrown this out, and have regarded it as a deteriorated and unproductive approach to mental illness. However, only during the last couple of decades has it been clearly impressed upon us that in discarding the false demonology, we accepted, against out intention, a banality and a shallowness in our whole approach to mental disease. #RandolphHarris 4 of 6

This banality was specifically damaging to our experience of love and will. For the destructive activities of the daimonic are only the reverse side of its constructive motivation. If we throw out our devils, we had better be prepared to bid goodbye to our angels as well. In the daimonic lies our vitality, our capacity to open ourselves to the power of eros. We must rediscover the daimonic in a new form which will be adequate to our own predicament and fructifying for our own day. And this will not be a rediscovery alone but a recreation of the reality of the daimonic.  The daimonic needs to be directed and channeled. Here is where human consciousness becomes so important. We initially experience the daimoinc as a blind push. It is impersonal in the sense that it makes us nature’s tool. It pushes us toward the blind assertion of ourselves, as in rage, or toward the triumph of the species. When I am in a rage, it could not matter to me less who I am or who you are; I want only to strike out and destroy you. However, consciousness can integrate the daimonic, make it personal. This is the purpose of psychotherapy. The daimonic fights against death, fights always to assert its own vitality, accepts no three-score and ten or other timetable of life. It is this daimonic which is referred to when we adjure someone who is seriously ill not to give up the fight. The daimonic will never take a rational no for an answer. #RandolphHarris 5 of 6

The daimonic will never take a rational no for an answer. In this respect the daimonic is the enemy of technology. It will accept no clock time or nine-to-five schedules or assembly lines to which we surrender ourselves as robots. If the daimonic is shown particularly in creativity, we should find the clearest testimonies to its presence in poets and artists. Poets often have a conscious awareness that they are struggling with the daimonic, and that the issue is their working something through the depts which push the self to a new place. Every poet is the Devil’s party. To live is to war with trolls in the heart and soul. To write is to sit in judgment on oneself. And in my heart the daemons and the gods wage an eternal battle. The daimonic is basically the other Will, which is believed to be both a force outside the being which is at the same time oriented into one’s personal being. These theories, of course, came about in a chaotic time of psychological and spiritual upheaval when the medieval period was dying and the modern not yet born. It was a time of actual fear among people of witchcraft, sorcerers, and others who claimed to know how to consort with the demons. #RandolphHarris 6 of 6

Reclaiming the Sacredness, Magnificence, and True Power of Healthy Humanity!

 

I cannot wait for this. If you have a mind to talk for once, I want to hear it. Carry on as if I was not here to cheer you along. It is the lack of faith in humanity which makes it possible for the authoritarian systems to conquer mortals, leading them on to have faith in an idol rather than in one’s self. However, knowing this, do you ever feel trapped and longing to escape, trying to bury out the thought it your head, you pick up a book and tear through the pages, as if you will reach some kind of salvation by the time the book is over. Before you know, you have read hundreds of books, but are still in the same position, but mentally, you realized you have grown. To regain your privacy, you stop sharing things on social media, stop talking about your day, hobbies, what movie you are watching and stop replying to comment. And you pray, hoping that God will save you and elevate you to a higher plane. There is really nothing to fear, nothing to worry about, but you have a picture in your mind of where you would like to be, and have worked hard enough to get there, but are not quite there yet. No telling how long it will take, you keep the visions of your dreams the main focus in your day. Cognitive dissonance means literally clashing ideation, a situation in which disharmony (or dissonance; both terms come from the field of music) exists within the cognitive structures, in our ideas, beliefs, values, or thought processes. #RandolphHarris 1 of 14

Cognitive dissonance is a complicated motivational force. Though there is no implication that this is an innate need, we know that it operates powerfully in the lives of many of us. When a person’s beliefs come into conflict with his or her behavior, we say the person is in a state of internal disharmony: cognitive dissonance. The need is to reduce the conflict, to harmonize the dissonance. We take as our illustration a young woman of thirty who came to consult with me some years ago and was my patient for a brief period. A graduate of one of the best New England girls’ colleges, she had grown up in a well-to-do suburb, was intelligent and attractive, and seemed in every way a typically nice girl. In college, she had absorbed what had then been the generally accepted belief in togetherness and the family, and had chosen as her goal to get married on graduation and immediately raise a large family. She had admirably lived up to her plan by marrying her boy friend from a neighboring college on commencement day, and then had five children, spaced one every two years just as she had planned. However, when she came to me at the age of thirty, she revealed that she was in love and having an affair with an auto science engineer, with whom, for the first time in her life, she was experiencing strong passion. She reported that she had never loved her husband but had contempt for him. #RandolphHarris 2 of 14

By the time she considered psychotherapy (on the urging of friends), she had gone home with her five children to live with her parents in the suburbs—a curious and pathetic denouncement to what had once been such brave plans. However, this was her means of reducing the dissonance—of bringing herself back into cognitive harmony, or consonance—by changing her behavior. Cognitive dissonance is a very complex, yet very common, motivational situation wit which we have to contend. The young lady and I were not able to do much effective therapy because she felt that love with this auto science engineer to be sacred and she did not wish to go into it. When I happened to see her some years later, she seemed a faded middle-aged woman working dutifully to support her children. This daughter of upper middle-class suburbia had gotten herself into a situation which was little susceptible of solution, is not less so, than the old-time prototype of the lost girl who has a child out of wedlock. The reason was certainly not lack of information or lack of planning and responsibility. A modern, intelligent woman, my patient with her five children seemed in many ways as trapped as her forebears in Victorian times before the emancipation of women and the invention of contraceptives. #RandolphHarris 3 of 14

The mere capacity for family planning is not an obviation of the tragic. The psychological meaning of contraception is the expanding of the realm of personal responsibility and commitment. However, far from being easier, this personal relationship may have to carry more weight and may therefore, be harder. Since contraception allays anxiety about pregnancy in a given act of intercourse, it seems to be used in out culture as a symbol that we have left behind us once and for all the tragic aspect of love in the form of pleasure of the flesh. Now I am certainly in favor of contraceptives and the planning of procreation—a point so obvious it ought not need to be made. However, this almost universally accepted principle of birth control should not blind us to the fact that contraception, great boon to pleasures of the flesh as it is, does not change one white the basic issue about which we are talking. Although it frees the individual from the immediate biological enchainment of pregnancy, it may well increase one’s psychological ambivalence. The tragic dimension of pleasures of the flesh and love is just as prevalent as it always was, even with contraception, but is raised out of the automatic, biological realm to the psychological realm. This is where tragedy should be any way; it is not the biological facts of life itself, such as death and procreation, that give the tragic dimension, but how we as human beings relate to these inescapable necessities of human fate. #RandolphHarris 4 of 14

The tragic is always a psychological and spiritual issue. There is also the dilemma of personal responsibility which comes from the freedom to choose to have a baby or not. It has been possible to plan babies for the last hundred years, and though we have acted upon that power, we have never accepted the psychological and personal responsibility for it. Our blithe evasion of that issue comes out in the guilt we feel as a whole society toward our children. We do everything for them, we cater to their development and their whims, we count it a sign of our broadmindedness and virtue that we give in to them on ever moral issue so that the poor children have an impossible time trying to find something about these always-giving-in parents against which they can revolt. When they go away, we say, “Have a good time,” and we get worried if they do not have a good time and worried if they have too good a time. And all the while we are secretly envious of them and their youth and resentful at how good they have it as compared with how hard we had it. Through all of this treating our youth like little royalty, heirs apparent to Heaven knows what, we are the maid-in-waiting, chauffeurs, cooks, nurses, doctors, bottomless money-bags, home teacher, camp leaders—until it is no wonder our children stand up and scream, “For Heaven’s sake, leave us alone!” #RandolphHarris 5 of 14

And that is the biggest threat of all to us—for we are filled with some nameless, pervasive guilt about our children and cannot let go. And guilt we are expiating is not about some specific thing we did or did not do in rearing them; it is about the basic fact of having children in the first place. For no longer does God decide we are to have children; we do. And who has even begun to comprehend the meaning of that tremendous fact? Or imagine the couples—and, with the need for population control, there will perforce be many—who will plan to have only one baby: consider the tremendous psychic weight this poor infant will have to carry. As we see in our therapy, particularly wit professional people who have had their one child, there is great temptation to overprotect the infant. When he calls, the parents run; when he whimpers, they are abashed; when he is sick, they are guilty; when he does not sleep, they look at thought they are going to have nervous breakdowns. The infant becomes a little dictator by virtue of the situation he is born into, and could not be anything ese if he wanted to. And there is, of course, the always complicating and contradictory fact that all this attention actually amounts to a considerable curtailing of the child’s freedom, and he must, like a prince born into a royal family, carry a weight for which children were never made. #RandolphHarris 6 of 14

Contraception, like all devices and machines, can increase our range of freedom and choice. However, the new freedom and power thus given to us also increases our ambivalence and anxiety, an ambivalence which now expresses itself in the banalization of pleasures of the flesh and love. As the girls who, in these days of the birth patrol bill, are exercising more freedom with their intimacy, for many it seems it is just too much trouble to say no. To make something banal, to undercut its significance, to say it does not matter, is the method par excellence of avoiding anxiety. Is not the upshot of the situation that contraception is misused to serve a detached, indiscriminate, here-today-and-gone-tomorrow attitude toward pleasures of the flesh? Surely an act which carries as much power as the pleasures of the flesh, and power in the critical area of passing on one’s name and species, cannot be taken as banal and insignificant expect by doing violence to our natures, if not to nature itself. With contraception, pleasures of the flesh can become, at least in some instances, a purely personal relationship. And the challenge this presents to us is no less than finding the meaning of this personal relationship. #RandolphHarris 7 of 14

Let us be very specific. There are no such things as homosexuals. To classify these people as such, to give them a name, is to dehumanize and thingify them. They are human beings. They are people, anatomically, physiologically, and emotionally the same as people who are considered heterosexual. Medical experts have found only an infinitesimal number of people whose hormones or genital structures seem to predispose them to what is called homosexuality. The majority of homosexual human beings have acquired a preference, a need for, a liking for pleasures of the flesh with members of their own gender. Through some learning experience, through some emotional reaction, they have found it easier, more comfortable, more tolerable, to have sexual involvement with their own sex. Each human being is born with the latent potential of loving anyone, of either sex. You have studied physiology and anatomy in any detail know that each of us caries not only hormones of the opposite sex, but primitive or vestigial sex organs of the opposite sex. Through combinations of experiences, through associations or traumas or accidental combinations, some people come to prefer the sexual companionship of their own gender. Some have actual fear of disgust of the opposite sex. #RandolphHarris 8 of 14

In many cases, we find deep-seated hostility. These reactions can occur without any strong feelings for their own sex, but because of loneliness, or sexual drive, through happenstance combination (like the military, parochial school, private school, fraternities, or camps) they are involved in close associations with members of the same gender. In a friendship, there is usually a strong need for expression of affection. Often the close non-erotic love of two same-sex people is mistake by the participants or by observers as homosexual. Some people are sensitive and affection with old friends and because they may greet them with a big bearhug or a kiss on the cheek—an honest and authentic display of affection between old friends, observers might find it offensive. Quite likely, not a few many have been concerned about their own sexual identity. Certainly our experience tells of many people who are overly concerned with the sexuality of others convinces us that they are in much conflict over their own, but people who openly tolerate others are generally secure in their own being. Many men, feeling strong ties or inclination of affection toward their fathers, brothers, friends, and acquaintances, are quite certain that they are interested in men. They are not convinced of any overt action on their part, but because their upbringing has made it difficult for them to show affection to anyone, especially to a member of the same sex. #RandolphHarris 9 of 14

Women in this country are a bit more comfortable with contact and displayed affection among women. Yet, there is this same panic among many women, too. The panic may occur for two social reasons: many religious teach that homosexual involvement is a sin; and most countries in western civilization make it an illegal behavior. Great Britain, however, has recently changed its attitude toward homosexuality, viewing it now as a medical or emotional situation and not a matter of legalistics. And gay marriage is not legal in much of the United States of America. Among the underground press in this country, over the past ten years, there has been a growing pressure to get society to let up on those who choose sexual partners that are different from those we call normative. The Gay Liberation Front has linked arms and forces with the Women’s Liberation Movements and the radical liberation groups. Are people who live homosexual lives happy? This is a difficult question to answer. Our clinical experience has included psychotherapy with both males and females with homosexual love-lives. Obviously, the person coming to mental health clinic is unhappy about something. Usually the person who brings us one’s sexual life for treatment is dissatisfied or unhappy about some aspect of it, even if it is only the reaction one gets from the larger society. #RandolphHarris 10 of 14

Treatment is difficult, but certainly not impossible. The person with either a homosexual love-life or homosexual panic, who is motivated to explore his or her feelings about it and about oneself, can come to a point where on may choose whichever form of sex life one pleases. A growing body of homosexuals are learning to accept their different preferences, and with the acceptance comes the ability to lead productive, happy lives. All of us have experienced the pain associated with a physical injury or wound. When we are in pain, we typically seek relief and are grateful for the medication and treatments that help to alleviate our suffering. The Lord’s truth is that not altered by fads, popularity, or public opinion polls. No matter what, we are told to love our neighbor as ourselves and not to judge them. Keep loving. Keep trying. Keep trusting. Keep believing. Keep growing. Heaven is cheering you on today, tomorrow, and forever. Truly the Spirit of the Lord as been here in rich abundance. We all have to come down from peak experiences to deal with the regular vicissitudes of life. Please do not be cast down in spirit and do not give up. God wants all of his children to have hope and inspiration. #RandolphHarris 11 of 14

 One of the most significant insights is that a great many of our motives—what our real reasons—are not fully known to us, not only because of our lack of information but because our consciousness will not recognize them. Obedience to the law of chastity will increase our happiness in mortality and make it possible our progress in eternity. Chasity is very important to God. Chasity is sexual purity. All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of Heavenly parents, and has a divine nature and destiny. Those who are chaste are morally clean in their thoughts, words, and actions. Chasity means not having sexual relations before marriage. It also means complete fidelity to husband or wife during marriage. Unconscious motivation may explain many of the things we say, do, or commit ourselves to. We are agents blessed with moral agency and are define by our divine heritage as children of God—and not by sexual behaviors, contemporary attitudes, or secular philosophies. As we look beyond mortality and into eternity, it is easy to discern that the counterfeit companionship advocated by the adversary is temporary and empty. “Use boldness, but not overbearance; and also see that ye bridle all your passions, that ye may be filled with love; see that ye refrain from idleness,” reports Alma 38.12. #RandolphHarris 12 of 14

 Love increases through righteous restraint and decreases through impulsive indulgence. We are promised that, as we pursue the pathway of virtue, the Holy Ghost shall be our constant companion. Our innate longing to belong is fulfilled in righteousness as we walk in the light with hope. However, the industrialist concentrates on machines and neglects mortals, who are the producer and developer of the machine and, obviously, has far greater potentialities. One will not consider the fact that undeveloped geniuses are doing manual jobs in one’s plant where they have neither the opportunity nor are given the incentive to develop themselves to genius or even to normal intelligence and skill. The lack of interest of the worker in one’s work creates dissatisfaction which either leads to a decrease in the productiveness of the worker, or to industrial strife and class struggle. America is at the crossroads in this matter. A decision must be made, and soon. There is much lack of understanding by the people generally, yet they must choose. On their decision rests the future of the United States, and of the individual. In industry, the goal of the company’s operation that is stated in the by-laws is to make a profit, and profit only. #RandolphHarris 13 of 14

However, it is important that incentive for work are recognized. Workers want safety, seniority, security, and bargaining power. This will allow them to have a sober and realistic appreciation of the economic and human facts of Capitalism. People should be rewarded for all the things they do well that are of help, and penalized if one does not do as well as others in all these same ways. One is a member the team, and is rewarded or penalized, depending on what one can do and does do in all opportunities to win the game. The person is rated by all those who have accurate knowledge of some phase of his or her work. The best employee gets the praise and the standing one warrants and craves. In the bonus plan, one is rewarded in direct proportion to one’s contribution to the success of the company. The principle involved in incentive management is in one respect drastically different from that of traditional Capitalism. The worker’s wages, instead of being independent from the efforts and results of one’s work, are related to it. One participates in increasing profits, while the stockholder gets a regular income which is not quite as directly related to the earnings of the company. The company record show clearly that this system leads to increased productivity of the worker, low labor turnover, and absence of strikes. This system of incentive management is the most logical consequence of the capitalistic system. Capitalism in which the dissatisfaction of the worker is overcome by making one feel that one too is a capitalist, and an active participant in the system. #RandolphHarris 14 of 14

If I Love You, I Invite You to Come Out and Play, to Experience Me and the Rest of What is Happening!

They knew. It was like going to Confession for them. They have the solidity and the eternal self-confidence of the Roman Church. If the answers were so easily available, so many busy and important people would not have searched during the last 5,000 years for the answers. Love is a possible answer to some of the questions. It is probably our last, best hope for anything like meaningful, significant living. So, part of the struggle is done. However, only part. The beginning of wisdom is this: The only Absolute is that there are no Absolutes; the only generalization is that one cannot generalize. Generalizing statements apply only to some people though the wording might sound as though they applied to every one of us. Each of us seems to need significance, a feeling of personal worth. Love is not an emotion, commonly defined. It is a deep and dynamic relationship including attitudes and emotions. The soul is involved in the perception of an intimacy between human personality and the World’s communicating body.  The person struggling to actualize one’s own significant self will know love. One should glory in it, whenever it is offered, and should participate in it. The ensouled body is in communion wit the body of the World and finds its health in intimacy. #RandolphHarris 1 of 13

Love involves growth, from smalless and fear into fullness and courage to be what you are. Many early psychiatrists were convinced that a whole host of human behaviors were instinctive. Most of these have since been shown to be learned, though often at such a low level of consciousness that individuals do not realize that they are not inborn. One of these behaviors is called instinctive and it is the need to gather together, to be with one’s fellow creatures—what we call herd instinct. We are not going to reopen the debate on this one. What we what we want to do is show that, whatever it originates, most of us are strongly motivated by the psychosocial need for affiliation. Just as some people are highly motivated to achieve in their own terms, many others are strongly driven to group together with other people. There is, of course, some physiological basis for this, though this does not prove that it is instinctive. Anthropologist feel that our communal practices –paring, grouping, family formation, and so forth—may have some neurophysiological basis. This can be seen, perhaps, in the fact that we humans are the most dependent of all species. #RandolphHarris 2 of 13

Important in the love-relationship is empathy, the ability to feel into the other person’s life. We cannot survive birth unassisted: there must be at least on other person present to provide the nurturing we need to survive. Our almost total helplessness literally drives us toward another person and brings out—or creates—our social nature. Only as we grow in autonomy does sociability become a matter of choice, and even then we wonder just how much of a choice we really have. Some have higher needs for affiliation than others, though the reasons for such differences are not easily described. What is important here is what we can find many examples of need for affiliation as a strong motive or is only developed through learning experience. Millions of miserable human beings could become un-miserable, even happy and creative, actualizing people if real love could enter their lives. There is more than just clever rhetoric in the phrase “behind every successful man is a woman.” We would like to run the risk of not-very-scientific generalizing by saying that behind every effective human being is some loving person or experience. “Give thanks to the Lord. Keep the commandments of God, that one may rejoice and be filled with love towards God and all mortals,” reports Mosiah 2.4. #RandolphHarris 3 of 13

I recall a discussion with a highly-respected psychotherapist colleague and friend on the significance of the tragedy of Romeo and Juliet. My friend stated that the trouble with Romeo and Juliet was that they had not had adequate counseling. If they had, they would not have experienced death by suicide. Taken aback, I protested that I did not think that was Shakespeare’s point at all, and that Shakespeare, as well as other classical writers who have created and molded the literature which speaks to us age after age, is in this drama picturing how love can grasp a man and a woman and hurl them into heights and depths—the simultaneous presence of which we call tragic. However, my friend insisted that tragedy was a negative state and we, with our scientific enlightenment, had superseded it—or at least ought to at the earliest possible moment. I argued with him, as I do here, that to see the tragic in merely negative terms is a profound misunderstanding. Far from being a negation of life and love, the tragic is ennobling and deepening aspect of the pleasures of the flesh and love. An appreciation of the tragic not only can help us avoid some egregious oversimplification in life, but it can specifically protect us against the danger that pleasures of the flesh and love will be banalized also in psychotherapy. #RandolphHarris 4 of 13

I am, of course, not using tragedy in its popular sense of catastrophe, but as the self-conscious, personal realization that love brings both joy and destruction. I mean in this context a fact which has been known all through mortal’s history but which our own age has accomplished the remarkable feat of forgetting, namely, that pleasures of the flesh has the power to propel human beings into situations which can destroy not only themselves but many other people at the same time. We have only to call to mind Helen and Paris, or Tristan and Iseult, Akasha and Lestat, which are mythic presentations, whether based on historical personages or not, of the power of pleasures of the flesh to seize man and woman and lift them up into a whirlwind which defies and destroys rational control. It is not by accident that these myths are presented over and over again in Western classic literature and passed down from generation to generation. For the stories come from a mythic depth of human experience in pleasures of the flesh that is to be neglected only at the price of the impoverishment of our talk about writing about passionate intimacy and love. Love has an openness and vulnerability, the willingness to experience, even though riskily, the other person and life together. #RandolphHarris 5 of 13

The tragic is an expression of a dimension of consciousness which gives richness, value, and dignity to human life. Thus the tragic not only makes possible the most humane emotions—like pity in the ancient Greek sense, sympathy for one’s fellow mortals, and understanding—but without it, love becomes saccharine and insipid and eros sickens into the child who never grows up. However, the reader may raise an objection. Whatever the classical meaning of tragedy may be, are not the so-called tragic presentations in today’s art, on the stage or in the pages of the novel, a portrayal of meaninglessness? It not what we see in O’Neilll’s The Iceman Cometh the lack of the greatness and dignity in mortals, and is not Waiting for Godot a presentation of emptiness? To this, I would like to make a double response. First, in presenting the ostensible lack of the greatness in mortals and their actions, or the lack of meaning, these works are doing infinitely more. They are confronting exactly what is tragic in our day, namely the complete confusion, banality, ambiguity, and vacuum of ethical standards and the consequent inability to act or, in Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?, the paralyzing fears of one’s own tenderness. #RandolphHarris 6 of 13

True, what we see in The Iceman Cometh is that greatness has fled from mortals, but this already presupposes a greatness, a dignity, a meaning. No one would ever think of reminding a Greek audience that it means something when Orestes kills his mother. However, when Willy Loman’s wife in Death of a Salesman pleads, “Attention must be paid,” and she was entirely right. It does mean something if a man is destroyed even if he is only a traveling salesman. (Nowadays, we would perhaps have to explain to an audience why Orestes’ killing his mother is so meaningful: for we are the generation which has learned that such killing is not at all a problem requiring a terrible struggle with the Furies and later a trial concerning guilt, responsibility, and forgiveness, but an acted-out, psychological, counter-Oedipal mechanism which temporarily got out of hand!) In my judgement, the best of the novels and dramas painting in our day are those which present to us the tremendous meaning in the fact of meaninglessness. The most tragic thing of all, in the long run, is the ultimate attitude, “It does not matter.” The ultimately tragic condition in a negative sense is the apathy, the adamant, rigid “cool,” which refuses to admit the genuinely tragic. #RandolphHarris 7 of 13

However, I would also ask, in rebuttal: Do not these works we are citing profoundly reveal what is wrong with love and will in our day? Take the contradiction in acting so vividly portrayed in Waiting for Godot. Didi says, “Let us go,” and the stage direction in the play states, “They do not move.” There could be no more telling vignette of modern mortal’s problems with will, one’s inability to make significant acts. They wait for Godot: but in this waiting there is expectations: the waiting itself implies hope and belief. And they wait together. Or take the rabid denial of love in the savage in-fighting of the married couples in Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?. Or the act of betrayal in Queen of the Damned. These presentations of the inability to some to terms with identity crisis and whatever love and tenderness they do have shows more vividly and convincingly than reams of research what modern mortal’s problem in love is. There is another source of the tragic aspect of love. This is the fact that we are created as male and female, which leads to perpetual yearning for each other, a thirst for completion which is doomed to be temporary. This is another source of joy and disappointment, ecstasy and despair. #RandolphHarris 8 of 13

Love, real and meaningful love, is a form of therapy. We spoke about murder in context to the plays listed above, but I want to make it a point that we are supposed to love others and show them the respect we would like to see. “For behold, if you deny the Holy Ghost when it once has had a place in you, and you know that you deny it, behold, this is a sin which is unpardonable; yea, and whosoever murdereth against the light and knowledge of God, it is not easy for one to obtain forgiveness,” reports Alma 39.6. We have seen violent patients turned into contended and responsive persons by simple acts of lovingkindness. When they know they are loved and respected, we have seen fearful creatures become courageous humans. When a loving person intervenes, we have seen hostile rage reactions turned into quiet, creative dialog. These are not fictions; they are realities. “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and call on his holy name, and watch and pray continually, that ye may be not tempted above that which ye can bear, and thus be led by the Holy Ghost, becoming patient, full of love,” reports Alma 13.28. Love is not by itself a therapy, not in the strictest clinical sense. However, love is therapeutic: it is enabling, releasing, quieting, uncovering, growth-producing, insight-giving, stimulating, enlivening, inspiring. #RandolphHarris 9 of 13

People who discover that they are loved, even by one person, even when they themselves do not love anyone, often find new reasons to live. More importantly, they often find new reasons to be, to grow, to struggle to be more significant human beings. The therapeutic aspects of real love are that the person is loved, not the mortal, the object, the member of Homo sapiens. It takes interacting human beings for love to take place. Your feelings about chocolate ice cream, Aaliyah, Britney Spears, Reese Witherspoon, Drake, Orlando Bloom, Mick Jagger, or Raquel Welch are feelings of affection or admiration or pleasure, not love. To love, the other person must be a person whom you know, care for, respect and respond to. If you show a person your love feelings, it communicates to one that one must, after all, be a person: something one may never have know or felt before. Another therapeutic aspect of love is that it gets you out of yourself. Many people are sick because they are lost inside of their own heads or inside of their skin. They have not ever come outside to see whether or not it is rain, pouring, or if the old man is snoring. To love someone is to bid one to live and invite one to grow. If I love you, I invite you to come out and play, to experience me and the rest of what is happening. This ability to experience a larger situation is a vital part of self-actualization. #RandolphHarris 10 of 13

Still another therapeutic function love performs is to open up communications. You must communicate it; it cannot be experienced and then hidden away like a coconut cream pie. If it is good, it will be demonstrated, shared, given away. The person who is loved sooner or later knows it. One is given clues and if one is still too blind (or troubled or frightened) to pick up on these, then the lover will try another track. Eventually, “love will out.” It is beautiful to see. “Having faith on the Lord; having a hope that ye shall receive eternal life; having the love of God always in your hearts, that ye may be lifted up at the last day and enter into his rest,” reports Alma 13.29. There is a lingering or sticking-with-it aspect of love that is very therapeutic. The loved person takes this warm glow with one wherever one goes, like a hot coal carried in one’s pocket to keep one’s hands warm. One knows, even wen alone, that one is loved. This shores one up, tides one over, carries one through many cold and lonely, frightening and defeating times. No professional advice or counsel ever has quite this potent as ability to hang on. Being in a love relationship gives one the knowledge that one is appreciated, respected. One is, at least to one other human being, a significant and unique human being. #RandolphHarris 11 of 13

We cannot quantitatively describe that feeling of what it is like to be loved. If you know it, then it does not need description. If you do not, we cannot create it for you by words. Also, there is therapy in the fact that the loving person knows you. You may have shut out the entire World, kept in the dark about you. However, somebody, one lone person, found his or her way inside the central portion of your being and knows you and…lo, and behold! it did not destroy you. You suddenly discover that being known is not quite the totally devastating thing you though it was. This often gives you incentive to expand this circle of awareness, to let others in on the secret, to invite other people into intimate nexus wit you. This can be tremendous. When we respect others and have a feeling of being real and important inside of ourselves, it means we are real important. At that point, other people’s opinions of us do not matter because we do not need them to validate what we already feel deep inside. Love comes from growth, encourages and fosters, and is a growth experience. The person struggling to actualize one’s own significant self will know love. One should glory in it, whatever it is offered, and should participate in it. We truly believe that what the World needs now is love! #RandolphHarris 12 of 13

You have just one life. Live it! Try to cram as much living into your existence as possible. You may not reach the ultimate height in every case, but we guarantee that you will enjoy yourself a lot more. It is true that human beings strive perpetually toward ultimate humanness, which itself may be anyway a different kind of Becoming and growing. It is as if we were doomed forever to try to arrive at a state to which we could never attain. Fortunately we now know this not to be true, or at least it is not the only truth. There is another true which integrates with it. We are again and again rewarded for good Becoming by transient states of absolute Being, by peak-experiences. This is like rejecting the notion that a Heaven lies someplace beyond the end of the path of life. Heaven, so to speak, lies waiting for us through life, ready to step into for a time and to enjoy before we have to come back to our ordinary life of striving. And once we have been in it, we can remember it forever, and feed ourselves in this memory and be sustained in time of stress. We have found that hard as life is, there are a multitude of benefits, enjoyment, wonderful people, and fun involved, as well. Peace and Love. #RandolphHarris 13 of 13

I Lost a World the Other Day and a Rich Man Might Notice

These are mortals and with mortals we have a certain eternal patience. Nothing is as it was. Curb your strength. Curb your old mortal envy and spite. They have no place here. Do you not realize the power you have now? What is at stake here is the rest of your family. Many philosophers all agreed in the most severe criticism of the modern culture and most of them visualized the possibility of the advent of an age of barbarism. They had a premonition that the people would no longer believe in principles, but would probably believe in a savior. We are under no illusions and do not expect to wake up one morning to see the resurrection of freedom in our country, as it by a stroke of magic. Enough individuals as well as nations have to become interested in civilization and true enlightenment. The former is easy and meets with approval; the latter requires rigorous efforts. Let us consider the way in which we spend our lives. This World is a place of business. What an infinite bustle! If the laborer gets no more than wages which one’s employer pays one, one is cheated, one cheats oneself. If you would get money as a writer or lecturer, you must be popular which is to go down perpendicularly. #RandolphHarris 1 of 17

 The aim of the laborer should be, not to get one’s living, to get a good job, but to perform well a certain work; and, even in a pecuniary sense, it would be economy for a town to pay its laborers so well that they would not feel that they were working for low ends, as for a livelihood merely, but for scientific, or even moral ends. Do not hire a person who does your work for money, but one who does it for love of it. The ways in which most people get their living, that is, live, are mere makeshifts, and a shrinking of the real business of life—chiefly because they do not know, but partly because they do not mean, any better. Do we call this the land of the free? If we continue the salves of King Prejudice? What is it to be born free and not to live free? What is the value of political freedom, but as a means to moral freedom? It is a freedom to be slaves, or a freedom to be free, of which we boast? We are a nation of politicians, concerned about the outmost defenses only of freedom. It is our children’s children who may perchance be really free. We tax ourselves unjustly. There is a part of us which is not represented. It is taxation without representation. We quarter troops, we quarter fools and cattle of all sorts upon ourselves. We quarter our gross bodies on our poor souls, till the former eat up all the latter’s substance. #RandolphHarris 2 of 17

Those things which now most engage the attention of mortals, as politics and the daily routine, are, it is true, vital functions of human society, but should be unconsciously performed, like corresponding functions of the human body. Our life is not altogether a forgetting, but also, alas! to a great extent, a remembering, of that which we should never have been conscious of, certainly not in our waking hours. Why should we not meet, not always as dyspeptics, to tell our bad dreams, but sometimes as eupeptics, to congratulate each other on the eloquence of the ever-glorious morning? This is not an exorbitant demand, surely.  In modern industrial society the individual and the group have ceased to function satisfactorily; they live in a condition of anomie, that is, a lack of meaningful and structuralized social life; the individual follows more and more a restless movement, a planless self-development, an aim of living which has no criterion of value and in which happiness lies always in the future, and never in any present achievement. The ambition of mortals, having the whole World for one’s customer, becomes unlimited, and one is filed with disgust, with the futility of endless pursuit. #RandolphHarris 3 of 17

As a result, a genuine social order has disappeared, the state emerging as the only collective organizing activity of social character. The individual, free from all genuine social bonds, finds oneself abandoned, isolated, and demoralized. Society becomes a disorganized dust of individuals. Many workers in modern industry do not give their best energies because they lack interest in their work, owing to their nonparticipation in control. The only way out of the crisis of modern society, a change in moral values. As we try to understand the role of emotion in our lives, we know that our feelings and moods often act as motivational factors. Our feelings and moods can cause us to want or need certain things; they cause us to do certain things in order to being about what we desire. Whether the need to attack or hurt others is an innate motive or a learned one is still being debated. The arguments for the innate point of view are derived from studies of lower animals, which seem to be born with a drive to attack any animal that enters their territory or threatens their young. Other arguments for it come from the observations that extreme situations can overcome great amounts of cultural conditioning, so that a well-mannered, even pacifistic (the belief that war or any kind of fighting is morally wrong) person might, under the right conditions, be made to fight and even kill. #RandolphHarris 4 of 17

Apparently there are aggression centers in the midbrain that can be electrically stimulated, forcing the person to act aggressively. However, there appear to exist equally powerful inner forces that lead to nonaggressive, highly cooperative behaviors. The average person, we are sure, is convinced that aggression is probably an innate force in human beings, since we see so much of it in the World around us, and so little cooperation and self-sacrifice. Industry itself has come to hold a position of exclusive predominance among human interest, which no single interest, and least of all the provision of the material means of existence, is fit to occupy. Like a hypochondriac who is so absorbed in the process of one’s own digestion that one goes to one’s grave before one has begun to live, industrialized communities neglect the very objects for which it is worthwhile to acquire riches in their feverish preoccupation with the means by which riches can be acquired. It is a poison which inflames every wound and turns each trivial scratch into a malignant ulcer. Society will not solve the particular problems of industry which afflict it, until that poison is expelled, and it has learned to see industry itself in the right perspective. It must regard economic interests as one element in life, not as the whole of life. It must persuade its members to renounce the opportunity of gains which accrue without any corresponding service, because the struggle for them keeps the whole community in a fever. #RandolphHarris 5 of 17

We must learn to organize industry that the instrumental character of economic activity is emphasized by its subordination to the social purpose for which it is carried on. Just as our political and economic studies have for the past 300 years tended to take account only the economic functions involved in living, so also in our actual living we have inadvertently allowed pursuit of economic development to lead us in a condition of extensive social disintegration. It is probable that the work of a mortal does represent one’s most important function in the society; but unless there is some sort of integral social background to one’s life, one cannot even assign a value to one’s work. The belief of the individual in one’s social function and solidarity with the group—one’s capacity for collaboration in work—these are disappearing, destroyed in part by the rapid scientific and technical advance. With this belief, one’ sense of security and of well-being also vanished, and one begins to manifest those exaggerated demands of life where money is king. Very little progress has been made in understanding of the problem. Whereas, in the material and scientific spheres we have been careful to develop knowledge and technique, in the human and sociopolitical, we have contented ourselves with haphazard guess and opportunists fumbling. #RandolphHarris 6 of 17

We are faced with the fact, then, that in the important domain of human understanding and control we are ignorant of the facts and their nature; our opportunism in administration and social enquiry has left us incapable of anything but impotent inspection of a cumulative disaster. So we are compelled to wait for the social organism to recover or perish, without adequate medical assistance. The major error of the last two centuries is that a total society can be organized upon an economic motive, upon profit. It has demonstrated that humans do not live by bread (money) alone. Because the corporation can offer only bread or cake, it has proved incompetent to meet the demands of the good life. Real societies possess meanings that give some substance of idealism to mortals in their journey between mortal and eternal life. Those meanings cannot be embraced by expanding the economic motive. If the corporation is to survive, it will have to be endowed with a moral role in the World, not merely an economic one. From this point of view, the challenge to management is salutary and hopeful. It is a route, perhaps the only available one, for saving the values of our democratic society, and the contemporary industrial system as well. In some way, the corporation and its labor force must become one corporate group and cease to be a house divided and seemingly at war. #RandolphHarris 7 of 17

The most deadly criticism one could make of modern civilization is that apart from its human-made crises and catastrophes, it is not humanly interesting. This is the primary focus of news, especially local news, which is why so many people are tuning out and their popularity is in decline. In the end, such a civilization can produce only a mass mortal: incapable of choice, incapable of spontaneous, self-directed activities: at best patient, docile, disciplined to monotonous work to an almost pathetic degree, but increasingly irresponsible as one’s choices become fewer and fewer: finally, a creature governed mainly by one’s conditional reflexes—the ideal type desired, if never quite achieved, by the advertising agency and the sales organizations of modern business, or by the propaganda office and the planning bureaus of totalitarian and quasi-totalitarian governments. Now this mechanical chaos is plainly not self-perpetuating for it affronts and humiliates the human spirit; and the tighter and more efficient it becomes as a mechanical system, the more stubborn will be the human reaction against it. However, we must never abandon the material benefits we have gained from technology and mass production and specialization of tasks. Yet, if we create a class of workers denied the satisfactions of significant work, we shall never achieve the ideals of America. #RandolphHarris 8 of 17

We shall not be able to maintain the ideals of the American Dream if we do not apply every tool of government, education, and industry to the improvement of the human abilities of those who are our rulers—the hundreds of millions of ordinary men and women. The part of this task assigned to management is the provision of working conditions which will release the creative instinct of every worker, and which will give play to one’s divine-human ability to think. The picture of an automatized World is clearly insane and yet it only differs somewhat in a degree to the reality of 2019. The result, pretty obviously, will be a series of economic and social changes unprecedented in rapidity and completeness. All existing patterns of human life will be disrupted and new patterns will have to be improvised to conform wit the non-human fact of automatization. If humankind does not fit well, that will be just too bad for humankind. There will have to be some stretching and a bit of amputation—the same sort of stretching and amputation as have been going on ever since applied science really got into its stride, only this time they will be good deal more drastic than in the past. A really efficient totalitarian state is one which the all-powerful executive of political bosses and their army of managers control a population of slaves who do not have to be coerced, because they love their servitude. #RandolphHarris 9 of 17

To make society love their servitude, it is the task assigned, in present-day totalitarian states, to ministries of propaganda, the fake news media, newspaper editors, and schoolteachers. However, their methods are still and unscientific. However, without economic security, the love of servitude cannot possibly come into existence. Nonetheless, I assume that the all-powerful executive and its managers will succeed in solving the problem of permanent security. To heal society, we need more programs such as assertiveness training. Assertiveness includes many behaviors that formerly were called aggressive: risk-taking, self-affirmation, declaring your own opinion, taking the lead, initiating action, and promoting your own wishes and desires in a respectful and logical way. A new public opinion must be created privately and unobtrusively. The existing one is maintained by the press, by propaganda, by organization, and by financial and other influences which are at its disposal. This unnatural ways of spreading ideas must be opposed by the natural one, which goes from person to person and relies solely on the truth of our thoughts and the hearer’s receptiveness for new truth. Unarmed, and following the human spirit’s primitive and natural fighting method, it must attack the other, which faces it, as Goliath faced David, in the mighty armour of the age. #RandolphHarris 10 of 17

Will the people of today have strength to carry out what the spirit demands from them? High achievers tend to need immediate feedback. They need some indication of how they are doing so they can modify their actions in order to reach their achievement goals. The goals are usually self-established. While such people are often successful in terms of money or power, their primary needs are to set and reach their own personal—not corporate goals. They see such goals as personal challenges, tests of that they are capable of doing. High achievers are found in the business and commercial World, of course, but just as often they may be found in positions of creative leadership in the military, art, science, and other fields. In the over-organized societies which in a hundred ways have one in their power, one must somehow become once more an independent personality and so exert influence back upon them. They will use every means to keep one in that condition of impersonality which suits them. They fear personality because the spirit of truth, which they would like to muzzle, find in it a means of expressing themselves. And their power, is unfortunately, as great as their fear. #RandolphHarris 11 of 17

There is a tragic alliance between society as a whole and its economic conditions. With a grim relentlessness those conditions tend to bring up the mortal of today as a being without freedom, without self-collectedness, without independence, in short as a human being so full of deficiencies that one lacks the qualities of humanity. And they are the last things that we can change. Even if it should be granted us the spirit should begin its work, we shall only slowly and incompletely gain power over those forces. There is, in fact, being demanded from the will that which our conditions of life refuse to allow. And how heavy the task that the spirit has to take in hand! It has to create the power of understanding the truth that is really true where at present nothing is current but propagandist truth. It has to depose ignoble patriotism, and enthrone the noble kind of patriotism which aims at ends that are worthy of the whole humankind, in circles where the hopeless issues of past and present political activities keep nationalist passions a glow even among those who in their hearts would fain be free from them. It has to get the fact that civilization is an interest of all mortals and of humanity as a whole recognized again in places where national civilization is today worshipped as an idol, and the notion of a humanity with a common civilization lies broke to fragments. #RandolphHarris 12 of 17

The spirit has to maintain our faith in the civilized State, even though our modern States, spiritually and economically ruined by war, have no time to think about the tasks of civilization, and dare not devote their attention to anything but how to use every possible means, even those which undermine the concept of justice, to collect money with which to prolong their own existence. It has to unite us by giving us a single idea of civilized mortals, and this is a World where one nation has robbed its neighbour of all faith in humanity, idealism, righteousness, reasonableness, and truthfulness, and all alike have come under the domination of powers which are plunging us ever deeper into barbarism. It has to get attention concentrated on civilization while the growing difficulty of making a living absorbs the masses more and more in material cares, and makes all other things seem to them to be mere shadows. It has to give us faith in the possibility of progress while the reaction of the economic on the spiritual becomes more pernicious every day and contributes to an ever growing demoralization. High achievers are not necessarily good or bad people, nor are their actions necessarily moral or immoral. They are simply motivated by one dominate need. Of course, high achievers, like others, may utilize means that other consider good or bad, or they may skirt the borders of propriety and legality. #RandolphHarris 13 of 17

And for many high achievers the end—their own personal goal—often justifies the means, and the only immorality is not making it. However, the  spirit has to provide us with reasons for hope at a time when not only secular and religious institutions and associations, but the mortals, too, who are looked upon as leaders, continually fail us, when artists and mortals of learning show themselves as supporters of barbarism and notabilities who pass for thinkers, and behave outwardly as such, are revealed, when crisis come, as being nothing more than writers and members of academics. We cannot allow advanced technology to become a sin against the Holy Ghost. All these hinderances stand in the path of the will to civilization. A dull despair hovers about us. We are now bewildered by our experience of life. We hear enticing voices which say to us that the one thing which can still make life tolerable is to live for the day. We must, we are told, renounce every wish to think or hope about anything beyond our own fate. We must find rest in resignation. The recognition that civilization is founded on some sort of theory of the Universe, can be restored only through a spiritual awakening, and a will for ethical good in the masses of humankind. #RandolphHarris 14 of 17

This compels us to make clear to ourselves those difficulties in the way of a rebirth of civilization which ordinary reflection would overlook. However, at the same time it raises us above all considerations of possibility or impossibility. If the ethical spirit provides a sufficient standing ground in the sphere of events for making civilization, if we return to a suitable theory of the Universe and the convictions to which this properly gives birth. Human beings cannot block off any important biological or emotional aspect of experience without developing an equivalent amount of inner anxiety. Where there is an obsession, we can assume some equivalent repression. A behavior pattern continues as long as it proves itself functional, succeeds in meeting certain needs effectively and efficiently. Many people are alarmed by the divorce rates, nearly 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. Many sincere and mature social scientists are wondering of our traditional marriage patterns are not moving toward dysfunctionality. The churches take over the religious teaching that originally was the job of the parent. The society is providing economy security and law enforcement takes care of physical security. Society is beginning to accept the job of caring for the illegitimate child and the older adult, so the family’s legitimizing function is not quite so important any more. #RandolphHarris 15 of 17

Schools are taking over most of the socialization functions, as are peer groups and some religious groups. What is left for the family to do? Possibly the most important function still remains: to provide a situation in which deep affection and physical desires can be legally and morally expressed. There is really nothing wrong with our present marriage patterns. However, the ways in which we have come to regard human relationships do not fit into the ways in which traditional marriage patterns insist that we view them. Traditionally, two people are supposed to have all their needs met by each other. However, the World is much larger, more crowed today. Both husband and wife travel further from the family hearth than they did even twenty years ago. The social and companionship needs of each are often well met by other people; yet the spouse who is not involved often feels hurt or left out. Even when a couple does not every try occupational, hobby, recreational and companionship needs can be met by a variety of people other than the spouse. No one should expect one person to meet all one’s needs, nor should any one person expect that he or she can or ought to meet all the needs of one’s spouse. #RandolphHarris 16 of 17

A healthy marriage, a happy, actualizing married, is one in which two whole persons come together because they have much to share. They desire each other as person, intimately, and as companions. They also know that each of them, being whole and significant, is capable of meeting many of one’s own needs. It is also a happy realization that neither partner expects the other to be all things to him or her. Limitations and strengths are accepted and the two people try to lead realistic lives. Because of their mutual respect and affection, this can bring them into an even closer union. Their love relationship can grow and they can grow because of it. The other people in their lobes—fellow workers, friends, children, relatives—enter into the relationship, but not into the deepest part of it: that is the private shared World of the two people. “For it is by faith that miracles are wrought; and it is by faith that Angels appear and minister unto people; wherefore, if these things have ceased wo be unto the children of mortals, for it is because of their unbelief, and all is vain,” reports Moroni 7.37. A tremendous amount of human misery is caused by a lack of love. Not only do people not love other people; they do not love themselves. Others, having no love for themselves, play love-games with other people. Humankind needs a few more people with healthy self-love, who also love others, who can live—not die. #RandolphhHarris 17 of 17

I Read My Sentence Steadily and Reviewed it with My Eyes to See that I Had Made No Mistake

Now I found myself instantly fascinated, which was not too comfortable since it was my role to fascinate as our conversation went on. She had fully expected to read my thoughts and she could not. And she was blocked from knowing what was going on upstairs. She did not like it. However, to put it more Biblically, she was deeply grieved. And being shut out, she tried to make sense of my appearance, not at all concerned with the superficial eccentricity of my frock coat and my messy hair, but the subtle sheen of my skin and the electric blue of my eyes. There are forces within us that refuse to be so simply categorized. They overlap too much, and they are not yet fully enough understood. As we try to understand the role of emotion in our lives, we know that feelings and moods often act as motivational factors. Our feelings and moods cause us to want or need certain things; they cause us to do certain things in order to bring about what we desire. Our age is by no means the first to experience the banalization of love, and to find that without passion, love sickness. Love cannot grow without passion. Two people find fulfillment in love, and especially the sexual expressions of love. They must recognize the other self as similar to one’s own, and live with the concept of resonance. When you strike a chord on a piano which is perfectly attuned to another in the same room, the second piano echoes the chord. #RandolphHarris 1 of 8

In interpersonal resonance, the mutual echoing of two natures depends upon the recognition of similarities, and takes place through sympathetic imagination—the process of taking the role of the other, and imagining not only how they other feels, but why one feels as one does. This is what we are after: a way of looking at the deepest, most total expression of love. If two people feel their kinship as human beings, as actualized selves, then in their expressions of relatedness they will tune themselves in. Love (or affection) is expressed by the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual coming-together of two healthy, happy, total, and confident human beings. Love is the center of the vitality of a culture—its heart and soul. Love can pierce brutal as well as gentle hearts, to their death or to their healing delight, anguish and joy, anxiety—these are the warp and woof of which the fabric of the human soul. To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the beneficial—to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before. When we fall in love, as the expressive verb puts it, the World shakes and changes around us, not only in the way it looks but in our whole experience of what we are doing in the World. #RandolphHarris 2 of 8

Generally, the shaking is consciously felt in its beneficial aspects—as the wonderful new Heaven and Earth which love with its miracle and mystery has suddenly produced. Love is the answer, we sing. Aside from the banality of such reassurances, our Western culture seems to be engaged in a romantic—albeit desperate—conspiracy to enforce the illusion that that is all there is to love. The very strength of the effort to support that illusion betrays the presence of the repressed, opposing pole. This opposing element is the consciousness of death. For death is always in the shadow of the delight of love. In faint adumbration there is present the dread, haunting question: Will this new relationship destroy us? When we love, we give up the center of ourselves. We are thrown from our previous state of existence into a void; and though we hope to attain a New World, a new existence, we can never be sure. Nothing looks the same, and may well never look the same again. The World is annihilated; how can we know whether it will ever be built up again? We give, and give up, our own center; how shall we know that we will get it back? We wake up to find the whole World shaking: where or when will it come to rest? #RandolphHarris 3 of 8

The most excruciating joy is accompanied by the consciousness of the imminence of death—and with the same intensity. And it seems that one is not possible without the other. This experience of annihilation is an inward one and, as the myth rightly puts it, is essentially wat love does to us. It is not simply what the other person does to us. To love completely carries with it the treat of the annihilation of everything. This intensity of consciousness has something in common wit the ecstasy of the mystic in one’s union with God: just as one can never be sure God is there, so love carries us to that intensity of consciousness in which we no longer have any guarantee of security. This razor’s edge, this dizzy balance of anxiety and joy, has much to do with the exciting quality of love. The dread joy is not just the question of whether the love will be returned in kind. Indeed, the real dialectic is within the person oneself and the anxiety is not essentially quieted if the love one does respond. Paradoxically, the object of our affection is sometimes more anxious when the love is returned than when not. For is one loves unrequitedly, which is even an aim in some love writing, or from a safe distance, like Dante and the whole Stylist movement in Italian literature, one can at least go on about one’s customary daily tasks, writing one’s Divine Comedy or one’s sonnets or novels. #RandolphHarris 4 of 8

It is when the love is realized that it may literally break the limb’s strength, as with Anthony and Cleopatra, or Paris and Helen, or Queen Akasha and Lord de Lioncourt, or Heloise and Abelard. Hence, human beings are afraid of love. And, all the saccharine books to the contrary, there is reason to be afraid. In common human experience, this relationship between death and love is perhaps most clear to people wen they have children. A mortal may have thought very little about death—and prided oneself on one’s bravery—until one becomes a parent. Then one find in one’s love for one’s child an experience of vulnerability to death: the Cruel Imposter can at any time take away the child, the object of one’s love. In this sense love is an experience of greater vulnerability. Love is also a reminder of our own mortality. When a friend or member of our family ides, we are vividly impressed by the fact that life is evanescent and irretrievable. However, there is also a deeper sense of its meaningful possibilities and an impetus to risk ourselves in taking the leap. Some—perhaps most—human beings never know deep love until they experience, at someone’s death, the preciousness of friendship, devotion, loyalty. If we never died, could we love passionately? #RandolphHarris 5 of 8

This is one of the reason, mythologically speaking, why the love affairs among the immortal gods on Mt. Olympus are so insipid and boring. The loves of Zeus and Juno are completely uninteresting until they involve a mortal. Love has the power to change the course of history only wen Zeus comes down to Leda or Io and falls in love with this mortal woman who can years to have a child because she knows she will not live forever. Love is not only enriched by our sense of mortality but constituted by it. Love is the cross-fertilization of mortality and immortality. This is why the daimon Eros is described as midway between gods and men and partakes of the nature of both. I have been speaking, to some degree, in ideal terms. I am fully aware that this degree of involvement will be called neurotic by many of my colleagues. This is the day of cool relationships—one should never become involved to a degree which prevents one’s moving out at any moment! However, I submit that this involvement is neurotic only if frozen, or fixated; only if the partners demand that they live always on this level. While none of us lives on the level I am describing for very long, it remains a kind of backdrop, an ideal situation which out to be somewhere in the relation lending meaning to the drab and dull days which also come. #RandolphHarris 6 of 8

There is a virginal quality of every genuine love experience. It seems that each time is new; we feel convinced that nobody every experienced this before, though in our conceit we are sure that we shall remember it forever. When I was lecturing on this theme at a university, two different young men came up to tell me privately that they understood me because they were in love, but the expressed genuine concern that the other students would not understand. Such presumption—that nobody as ever been in love but me and I never before!—is, I fear, par for the course. There are so many lights that can be cast on love, and it throws on the human problems in love than all our glib talk about the art of loving, about love as the answer to all our needs, love as instant self-actualization, love as contentment, or love as a mail-order technique! There is an aura of over-seriousness in the above paragraphs that indicated our deep concern for the preservation and respect of really human love. Loves most beautiful moments come when neither partner is involved in the mundane, everyday workaday affairs of life, when they forget everything, including themselves, and are concerned only with the pleasure and greater joy of the other person. Wholesome love is spontaneous, unrehearsed, and certainly unself-conscious celebration of one’s chemistry and commitment to another person. #RandolphHarris 7 of 8

We know that human beings who experience their love in satisfying and growth-producing means are happier, healthier, and more loving people generally. This should continue. It is important that our society examine its own attitudes toward the important area of love. Are they reasonable in the light of modern scientific findings? Are they in keeping with what we understand about human selfhood? A loving relationship, as with any intimate shared experience, needs and deserves privacy, uninterrupted opportunity. It is a challenge to consider the fact that enlightening our children produces adults who respect knowledge and truth; keeping then in the dark usually produces adults who gear the light and truth. It is part of the normative behavior of our people to find someone with whom we believe we can share a happy and productive life and make this decision public. Achievement motivation is a is a powerful force in many societies of the World, especially those with high levels of technological development, affluence, and success orientation. Heavenly Father provides us with the conditions we need to progress within his plan. If we keep his commandments, the Heavenly Father will help each of us. Our lives are in God’s hands and our days are known and shall not be numbered less. God ensures that eventually all things work for the good of those who loves him. #RandolphHarris 8 of 8

Great Streets of Silence Led Away to Neighborhoods of Pause

 

My holy of holies is the human body, health, intelligence, talent, inspiration, love and the most absolute freedom imaginable, freedom from violence and lies, no matter what form the latter two take. The phrase essential need is meaningless, because in practice people need what they want. Needs are determined less by the biological requirements of Homo sapiens than by the social environment in which a person lives and especially that in which one has been brought up. The members of a given social group generally come to desire, and consequently develop a need for, whatever is necessary for acceptance in the group. The good life is identified with the satisfaction of these needs, whatever their biological relevance. The difficulties of a love relationship stem largely from too little experience with loving, starting within the family. A growth in the ability to love comes from more experience with loving. When an individual has achieved some freedom, has begun to recognize the self one wants to become, and is able to influence one’s growth toward that self, one also has begun to understand the nature of love better, if only because one’s relationship with one’s self has become warmer and more accepting. One thus is better able to experience love. Owning our uncertainty makes us kinder, more creative, and more alive. #RandolphHarris 1 of 5

Love for humanity still carries with it the characteristics and prerequisites of love in general, but its participants and expressions are specialized. A love for humanity occurs between equals, peers, or those who can give and take in somewhat the same way and in about equal shares. The child learns much about living life as one interacts with one’s own siblings. From older brothers, both boys and girls learn much of what it means to be male, just as sisters indirectly teach younger children about femaleness. Because a child may be scaled down more to one’s size or level, one may learn more naturally from a brother or sister than from a parent or teacher. Certainly the skills of communication and play are learned in this kind of interchange. Although the only child is not automatically doomed to a tragic life because one does not have such built-in playmate-teachers, one does seem to have more difficulty acquiring some of the social skills. Many people report that what goes on between or among their children scarcely resembles loving behavior. They see mostly good communication, cheerfulness, encouragement, sharing, understanding, and some uplifting advice. Therefore, there are benefits to have a close family bond. The ordinary play in children and young adults involves the testing and trying out of the self that will enable the self to grow and mature. #RandolphHarris 2 of 5

Youth is a good laboratory in which the individual can get some idea of what it is like to be a fully functioning adult, especially a social adult. Even when there is disagreement and on rare occasions some quarreling, it can prepare an individual for some of the hostile and competitive interaction that our particular society seems to prize, or at least need. One of the fortunate by-produce of family living and the love it shares is a sense of kindship, of fellow-feeling. This feeling is one of the important attributes of the self-actualizing person. Developed by experiencing it with the ones around us, kinship gradually becomes a broader, more inclusive experience of identification and empathy with others. The love God speaks of is the kind that enter our hearts when we awake in the morning, stays with us throughout the day, and swells in our hearts as we give voice to our prayers of gratitude at evening’s end. This is the inexpressible love Heavenly Father has for us. It is this endless compassion that allows us to more clearly see others for who they are. Through the lens of pure love, we see immortal beings of infinite potential and worth and beloved sons and daughters of Almighty God. #RandolphHarris 3 of 5

Not all of our motives are inborn physiological needs, or even physiological/social needs, however. Many of our motives are based on social-personal-situational learning experiences, especially needs for affection and achievement. If there is one characteristic that seems to distinguish humans from other organisms, it is the way in which the human brain is organized. We see that the higher up the evolutionary ladder we go, the less concentration there is on antiquated brain functions (instincts, drives, reflexes—though we cannot live without these!). What augments or replaces these more primitive functions are the functions of the new brain, the cortex: learning, memory, imagination, abstract reasoning, and the other cognitive skills. Therefore, we must find other explanations for why people do what they do. Youth is a time when people need more love and appreciation than ever before, and they may not always seem very lovable. Praise is necessary, though, and so are material rewards—medals, trophies, rings, pins, gold stars, cash bonuses, and so forth. However, more important tan any of these are the approval, support, and encouragement of the people the youth considers important. Some of us are intensely sensitive to the people around us, constantly checking out just how much influence they have on other people and situations. What may appear to be a strong need for dominance, risk-taking, leadership is actually a need to test out the emerging and growing sense of self.  #RandolphHarris 4 of 5

People who fail to experience enough success and whose self-concept fails to develop may grow into adulthood with gaps in their personality. However, for those who seek, allow, and live for it, the dawn of faith, sometimes gradually will come or can return and overpower deficiency-motivated behavior. Have you ever had opportunity to do something for which you felt unprepared or inadequate but that you were blessed for trying? In healthy people, adulthood is characterized by a variety of new challenges. All tings denote there is a God. There is joy in imagining, learning, doing worthwhile new things. This is especially true as we deepen faith and trust in Heavenly Father and his Son, Jesus Christ. We cannot love ourselves enough to save ourselves. However, the Heavenly Father loves us more and knows us better than we love or know ourselves. We can trust the Lord and lean not unto our own understanding. Self-actualizers tend to be impatient with trivial and nonsensical rules. They will be bound by a rule if it makes sense to them. They seek novelty, stimulation, challenge, rather than safety. In their job, they will not be so much tempted by a larger salary as by a chance to do something wee, to experiment. We rejoice in the invitation to devote our whole souls to seeking higher and holier ways to love God and those around us. It is important not to seek perfection but to discover the joy that comes from integration of both strength and weaknesses—to freely skate between all potentials. #RandolphHarris 5 of 5

As the Formula Runs in the Brave New World: Everybody is Happy Nowadays!

 

The problem with you is you think you are still human. I came quite close to losing my mind. Did anyone have a clue as to the crash and thunder inside me? I locked the casket of my heart. I punished it. I endured it. Motivation researchers are those harlot social scientists who, in impressive psychoanalytic and/or sociological jargon, tell their clients what their clients want to hear, namely, that appeals to human irrationality are likely to be far more profitable than appeals to rationality. There is a myth of inborn behaviors based on race, nationality, ethnic group, or gender and it is one of the stubornest fantasies around. It has become so much a part of our thinking and is partially validated just often enough that we sometimes wonder if we will ever rid ourselves of it. Currently, a number of psychologists are engaged in research to discover what, if any, motivations are inborn in human beings. For instance, several are interested in the question of whether violent, aggressive behaviors are inborn or acquired. The arguments rage as both sides pile up mountains of evidence. For instance, if a man is born with an extra Y chromosome, does this cause him to be more aggressive, more hostile, to get into difficulty more often with society? Some of the evidence says yes. For instance, a startling number of convicted violent criminals have been found to have this extra chromosome. #RandolphHarris 1 of 17

 Other psychologists think the evidence is still much too sketchy to justify a scientific conclusion. Adam fell that mortals might be; and mortals are, that they might have joy.  Who put it together with love and purpose? Pleasing work of God heals wounded souls. We all have the ability to choose eternal life according to will of the Holy Spirit. It is possible that existentialism will not only enrich psychology. It may also be an additional push toward the establishment of another branch of psychology, the psychology of the fully evolved and authentic Self and its ways of being. Someone better than us, has to be—somebody better than every creature who walks the Earth, somebody who shows compassion. Human beings can sometimes transcend their physical needs. “Behold, the Lord hath redeemed my soul from hell; I have beheld his glory, and I am encircled about eternally in the arms of his love,” 2 Nephi 1:15. Although the satisfaction of the physical needs is indeed the indispensable precondition of a satisfactory existence, in itself it is not enough. In order to be content, mortals must also have the possibility of developing their intellectual and artistic powers to whatever extent accords with their personal characteristics and abilities. Human behavior is governed by many types of motives. Some of these are physiological, but many more are acquired and learned through social interaction, personal experiences, and growth experiences. #RandolphHarris 2 of 17

Those human impulses which have seemed throughout history to be deepest, to be most instinctive and unchangeable, to be most widely spread throughout humankind, i.e., the impulse to hate, to be jealous, to be hostile, to be greedy, to be egoistic and selfish are now being discovered more and more clearly to be acquired and not instinctive. They are almost certainly neurotic and sick reactions to bad situations, more specifically to frustrations of our truly basic and instinctlike needs and impulses. Some individuals seem to bypass or ignore their physiological needs and do things that actually indicate they are operating at higher levels of motivation. For example, some parents give up their own food for the sake of their children; many individuals sacrifice their lives for friends or for causes; and there are less affluent people in every part of the World who have been able to actualize their potentials, even though lower needs to not seem to be met. The apparent paradox leads to the conclusion that some people are more evolved than others. Transcendence is the father reaches of human nature and it deserves far more attention and study than psychologists have heretofore given them. #RandolphHarris 3 of 17

Tension, whether large or small, is painful. It causes discomfort. We want to stop it. So, to reduce the tension, we search out a goal, an incentive. The goal must have two qualities: it must actually satisfy the need, and it must be something the individual recognizes as being able to meet that need. The achievement of the goal result in satisfaction and a return to homeostasis (a state of balance or equilibrium among the various bodily processes). So tell yourself, you need to make at least $9,000.00 a month, save up $120,000.00 and have good credit to buy a $500,000.00 house, so do not take out student loans. “And not choose eternal death, according to the will of the flesh and the evil which is therein, which giveth the spirit of the devil power to captivate, to bring you down to hell, that he may reign over you in his own kingdom,” 2 Nephi 2.29. Many of our strongest motivations can be traced back to one or more of the physiological needs. For example, being deprived of food and shelter in childhood can set a lifetime pattern for individual: they are always trying to get enough food, money, or clothing, no matter what their income, and they may even hoard food or money in the attempt. Their reasoning—strange to those of us who have never felt this deprived—is that they must always keep on hand a sufficient supply of food, clothing, or money—just in case. This is called the functional autonomy of motives—when a motive ends up as a goal in and of itself, long after the basic need has been satisfied. #RandolphHarris 4 of 17

Physiological needs persist throughout our lives, but for most of us the first two or three years of life are the only period when satisfying them seems more important to our existence than anything else. This is not true for the 40 percent of the World’s people who go to be (if they have a bed) with their stomachs empty. They may live to be adults, but as long as they are so poor, most of them will find it hard to pay much attention to anything else except getting enough food to stay alive. The most basic physiological motives are those that keep the body going. They work to regulate the body’s homeostatic processes. They arise out of such basic needs as the needs for food, liquid, and air. The need for nutriments to supply energy and to build and rebuild body cells activates the drive we call hunger. Other needs may become more pressing and may overrule the need for food. On the other hand, being deprived of food for a long period of time may make the hunger drive so strong that other drives are not even felt. In studies of semi-starvation conducted during the Second World War, volunteers were kept for six months on a bare subsistence diet that resulted in an average weight loss of 25 percent. I mean, if the old resignation of the Savage Garden was wrong, what has replaced it? #RandolphHarris 5 of 17

Well, the subjects showed marked personality changes, such as increased irritability, extreme fascination with food, cookbooks, recipes, and each other’s mail (in hopes of receiving a package containing somebody’s mother’s homemade cake or cookies or some cold hard cash); and loss of interest in health, exercise, reading, pleasures of the flesh, love, and family. In addition to a general need for food, the hunger drive can result in a specific hunger for a particular food. This may be the result of learned preferences. There is some evidence, however, that these specific hungers may be as important physiologically as they are psychologically. They may be based upon the body’s particular needs, such as for sugar during a sugar-free diet, or for salt during a salt-free diet. Studies that show naïve or very young subjects, given a wide choice of many food, often choose those that their bodies most need. In addition to deficiencies or blood-sugar imbalances, we can also be stimulated to feel hunger by thinking about food, smelling food, or seeing others eating. Many people are above average weight because they use food as a substitute to meet other needs. Statistics very as to how long the average adult can go without any form of food. They ran from a few days to over a month (the latter depending upon some regular intake of water). #RandolphHarris 6 of 17

The cells of our body require a specific fluid level, just as does the battery of your car. Without the optimum amount of water, dehydration results. Dehydration is the loss of water or other moisture by an organism. The need for liquid results in the drive called thirst. The goal of this drive is the intake of fluid (water, cranberry juice, soda pop, milk—any of them will do; our preferences are learned). Like hunger, the thirst drive is largely triggered by the chemical balance of body tissues. Any imbalance is relayed to the hypothalamus, which sets off the drive. The maximum amount of time the average adult can go without fluids is a week or less, a much shorter time than people can go without food. Lack of air flow results in strangulation. The need for air differs from some other physiological needs in that breathing is an automatic response, controlled by the autonomic nervous system. It is estimated that the brain cannot survive more than three minutes without oxygen in the blood steam. You secret is utterly safe. It will be exactly the way you want it. Wait a safe period of time. “May the Lord bless thee forever, for they seed shall not utterly be destroyed,” reports 2 Nephi 3.3. The use and fatigue of the physical body and the brain creates a need for a period of rest, recuperation, and restoration of energies. This need is met by sleep. #RandolphHarris 7 of 17

During this period of sleep, stress on muscle cells is reduced and gross neural activity is reduced. Of course, the nervous system is never completely shut down at any time during life. The brain, for instance, continues to function and is stimulated by dreaming. Studies of people deprived of sleep sow that subjects experience increased irritability, reduction of cognitive function (measured by before-and-after intelligence tests), restlessness, and a tendency to hallucinate. Although defunct Governor of California, Jerry Brown, thinks it is funny to experiment on people and not allow some to use the restroom until it causes internal damage, elimination of body wastes—urination and defecation—is a response to tensions in inner organs and is essential to good health. It is not known how long a person can go without elimination before harm or death occurs. If we lived alone, perhaps all our needs would be basic physiological needs. However, because we live in groups, many of our needs—even our physiological needs—require other people for their fulfillment. Some physiological motives are affected by learning, and by the needs, wishes, or demands of others. For instance, elimination of bodily wastes is done (after the first few months) according to certain social and cultural formulas: we are told how, when, and where to urinate and defecate. #RandolphHarris 8 of 17

We learn which of all the possible foods available are properly called “food” by the people with whom we live. However, these are still basically purely physiological motives. Some motives, on the other hand, can only be correctly identified as physiological/social in nature, so much do they depend upon social factors. Let us considered as primarily physiological/social needs and to some degree, those called love and belongingness needs. I cannot live in a shadow World. I have to be there for all the ordinary people, signing contracts, rolling out blue prints, calling doctors all over the country, flying to Switzerland and Vienna to interview physicians who want to work in the ideal medical center, the medical center that surpasses every other in its equipment, its laboratories, its staff, its comforts, it protocols and projects. It is to rivet me to the sane World, it is to push my own medical visions to the very limits. Now remember we were talking about men with an extra Y chromosome? Well, Electrical Brain Stimulation (Abbreviated EBS or ESB) are microelectrodes, or tiny electrical receptors, they can be inserted into various portions of the brain. The brain can then be stimulated with low-voltage electricity. This activates the brain externally, without the controls of the nervous system. #RandolphHarris 9 of 17

EBS has been instrumental in providing a whole new range of insights into brain processes and behavior. For example, electrical stimulation of certain portions of the limbic system produces all the symptoms of certain emotions, such as fear, anger, anxiety; certain drives, such as hunger, thirst, excitation, and pain; and certain reasons, such as intense pleasure. What began as research into motivation, learning, and emotion has now evolved into a technique to simulate internal processes. EBS helps neurologists assist people with such problem behaviors as unmanageable rage or anxiety. Stimulation of the pleasure centers of the brain produces feelings so intense that this stimulation can be used as a reward in conditioning and it has been determined that anti-depressants can curb harsh behavior in some people because they produce serotonin, which will make them feel more at ease. The brain is so powerful, so energetic is the brain that it utilizes about 75 percent of the body’s blood sugar and oxygen. (You can take advantage of this fact the next time you take an examination or do other brain work by increasing your intake of glucose—especially in the form of honey, as many athletes do—and take several deep breaths just beforehand).  #RandolphHarris 10 of 17

Individuals who have suffered brain injuries can be observed. If such a person cannot move a portion of his or her body, for instance, or cannot speak, and no other explanation fits, the assumption may be made that the damaged portion of the brain is related to the damaged or missing function. The nervous system is actually made up of several systems, each responsible for specialized functions. The central nervous system is the center for operations of the nervous system as a whole. It is made up of the brain and the spinal cord. The spinal cord is a bundle of nerves, about the diameter of a pencil in size, running from the center of the brain down to the tip of the spinal column (or backbone). The spinal cord is vitally important to most bodily movement. Damage to it can result in paralysis of part of the body. It helps all manner of human beings, it embraces them, it is real to them, real, that is what is important. I could not let go, I could not ever retreat into nightmares or scribblings in my room, I could not ever fail my interns and residents, my laboratory assistants, my research teams, and you know, with my background, the neurosurgeon, the scientist at heart, I brought to every aspect of this giant organism a personal approach; I could not run away, I could not fail, I cannot fail now, I cannot be absent, I cannot. #RandolphHarris 11 of 17

The concept of self-love seems at first to be a contradiction in terms. If love involves giving and getting, how can one person do both? And how can one do both within one person? The ability to love means to break down any divisions between the subject and the object; as in the concept of the Earth and Sky, mutually complementary halves become one whole with no real or important line between them. This is done, paradoxically, without either half (or either partner) losing its identity. The Earth does not become the Sky, nor does the Sky become the Earth: they only complete each other. There is unity without sameness. In the attitude a person has toward oneself, the distinction between I, the subject, and Me, the object, is only an academic exercise. “I” describes the active, knowing part of self; “Me” describes the known part of self. Both terms are fictions created for purposes of discourse. I can love myself, and indeed, I must love myself if I am to talk about any meaningful complementary relationship with another person. If I do not know, care about, respect, and respond to my needs, then I do not love myself and certainly cannot love someone whom I experience less intimately. Furthermore, an unloved package is more likely to be a burden than a gift. #RandolphHarris 12 of 17

So, in spite of the seeming paradox, the person who loves others loves oneself. One loves others because one loves oneself. To become familiar with the fullest meanings of love, you must begin at home. The child who knows the affection, the caring, the respecting, the involving of loving parents begins to gain emotional as well as rational understanding of the love process, even though one may never be able to articulate or explain it, either to oneself or to others. But, one knows in the intuitive sense that one is loved and one becomes to value what is one’s parents value—in this case, oneself. However, the Canadian rapper Drake, in his song God’s Plan declares, “I only love my bed and my mom,” such a combination would lead one to believe he is suffering from an Oedipus complex. The fixation to the mother was recognized by Dr. Freud as the crucial problem of human development, both of the race and of the individual. The intensity of the fixation to the mother is derived from the little boy’s sexual attraction to her, as the expression of the incestuous striving inherent in his nature. People with an Oedipus complex usually have a hostile relationship to the father as a result of sexual rivalry with him. This is why in romantic situations, women will be turned off if you tell them they remind them of your mother. #RandolphHarris 13 of 17

The ultimate aim of the socialization process, as it relates to dependency, is for the child to be fond of the mother rather than passionately attached to her, to be pleased by her attention and interest but not incessantly to demand it. It is possible that Drake’s father projected into the boy the sexual feeling of the adult man; the little boy having sexual desires, was supposed to be sexually attracted to the woman closet to him, and only by the superior power of the rival, in this case his father, in the triangle, is he forced to give up his desire, without ever recovering fully from this frustration. The depth and intensity of the irrational affective tie to the mother, the wish to return into her orbit to remain a part of her, the fear of emerging fully from her. The Oedipus complex is the acknowledgment and the denial of the crucial phenomenon of man’s longing for mother’s love. However, another problem is when someone has their eyes on a young man, and ruins all his relationships and friendships, to where he only has contact with his mother. This usually happens when an obsessive man has a fix on a young man, who is not interested in him, at all. So, he tries to keep the young man in an adolescent state in hopes that an unlikely dependence will form. An individual who is neurotic has an emotional condition characterized by much anxiety and conflicting motives; this condition is often stimulated by choices that all seem bad. #RandolphHarris 14 of 17

Incest or trying to force relationships in American society is not healthy, and is actually illegal. When a young man is not allowed to grow and develop and form relationships, friendships, and a career of his choice he will never truly be happy. There will always be some anger or bitterness about being stuck in a place with no one he can actually relate to. Humans are in need of the kind of love that makes them feel comfortable, not like they are being held hostage or in enemy hands. When people can develop relationships they want, this kind of experience builds in them the first pleasurable sensations and satisfactions that are part of an emerging concept of self. When this develops in the normal, ordinary way, the child comes to know and accept and love himself. Happiness is another, and one of the more popular concepts by which mental health is defined today. As the formula runs in the Brave New World: “Everybody is happy nowadays.” What is meant by happiness? Most people today would probably answer the question by saying that to be happy is to have fun or to have a good time. The answer to the question is, “What is fun?” depends somewhat on the economic situation of the individual, and more, on one’s education and personality structure. Economic differences, however, are not as important as they may seem. #RandolphHarris 15 of 17

The good time of society’s upper strata is the fun model for those not yet able to pay for it while earnestly hoping for that happy eventuality—and the good time of society’s lower strata is increasingly a less affluent imitation of the upper strata’s, differing in cost, but not so much in quality. What does this fun consist in? Going to the movies, parties, ball games, listening to a state of trance (ASOT 811) and watching television, taking a rise in the car on Sundays, dining out, sleeping late on Sunday mornings (but we know many of you have church on Saturday and/or Sunday mornings), and traveling for those who can afford it. If we use a more respectable term, instead of the word fun, and having a good time, we might say that the concept of happiness is, at best, identified with that of pleasure. Taking into consideration our discussion of the problem of consumption, we can define the concept somewhat more accurately as the pleasure of unrestricted consumption, and push-button power and laziness. From this standpoint, happiness could be defined as the opposite of sadness or sorrow, and indeed, the average person defines happiness as a state of mind which is free from sadness or sorrow. This definition, however, shows that there is something profoundly wrong in this concept of happiness. #RandolphHarris 16 of 17

A person who is alive and sensitive cannot fail to be sad, and to feel sorrow many times in one’s life. This is so, not only because of the amount of unnecessary suffering produced by the imperfection of our social arrangements, but because of the nature of human existence, which makes it impossible not to react to life with a good deal of pain and sorrow. Since we are living beings, we must be sadly aware of the necessary gap between out aspirations and what can be achieved in our short and troubled life. Since death confronts us with the inevitable fact that either we shall die before our loved ones of they before us—since we see suffering, the unavoidable as well as the unnecessary and wasteful, around us every day, how can we avoid the experience of pain and sorrow? The effort to avoid it is only possible if we reduce our sensitivity, responsiveness and love, if we harden our hearts and withdraw our attention and our feeling from others, as well as form ourselves. “And out of weakness one shall be made strong, in that day when my work shall commence among all my people,” reports 2 Nephi 3.13. #RandolphHarris 17 of 17