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Perhaps they are Driven by the “Misery Loves Company” Effect?

Conflict is probably as old as life itself and some would say that it is just as right. Our understanding of human behaviour should enable us to make some distinctions between those kinds of natural phenomena that are necessary and those that we have outgrown as human beings. Conflict, in the sense of fighting and warfare within the species of man, is an outdated and certainly dysfunctional social process. Dysfunctional means “not serving the survival needs of the organism or the structure.” Even with trustworthy assessment data and reliable and valid classification categories, clinicians will sometimes arrive at a wrong conclusion. Like all human beings, they are flawed information processors. Studies show that they are influenced disproportionately by information gathered early in the assessment process. They sometimes pay too much attention to certain sources of information, such as a parent’s report about a child, and too little to others, such as the child’s point of view. They can also be unduly influenced by their expectations about the client. They may assume, for example, that any person who consults them professionally must have some disorder. And, finally, their judgments can be distorted by any number of personal biases—gender, age, race, and socioeconomic status, to name just a few. Given the limitations of both assessment tools and assessors, it is small wonder that studies sometimes uncover shocking errors in diagnosis, especially in hospitals. In one study a clinical team was asked to reevaluate the records of 131 patients at a mental hospital in New York, conduct interviews with many of these persons, and arrive at a diagnosis for each one. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20

The researchers then compared the team’s diagnoses with the original diagnoses for which the patients were hospitalized. Although 89 of the patients had originally received a diagnosis of schizophrenia, only 16 received it upon reevaluation. And whereas 15 patients originally had been given a diagnosis of mood disorder, 50 received it now. It is obviously important for clinicians to be aware that such a huge disagreement can occur, and could ruin someone’s life. However, unfortunately, that is the goal of some professionals. Beyond the potential for misdiagnosis, the very act of classifying people can lead to unintended results. Many sociocultural theorists believe that diagnostic labels can become self-fulfilling prophecies. When people are diagnosed as mentally disturbed, they may be viewed and reacted to correspondingly. If others expect them to take on a sick role, they may begin to consider themselves sick as well and act tht way. Furthermore, our society attaches a stigma to abnormality. People labeled mentally ill may find it difficult to get a job, especially a position of responsibility, or to be welcomed into social relationships. Once a label has been applied, it may stick for a long time. Because of these problems, some clinicians would like to do away with diagnoses. Others disagree. They believe we must simply work to increase what is known about psychological disorders and improve diagnostic techniques. They hold that classifications and diagnosis are critical to understanding and treating people in distress. While we come into the World ready to enter into a very deep and involved dependency relationship, one of the major tasks in the socialization process of each individual is has to be that of learning independence. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20

The World’s population is approaching eight billion. The number of people making demands on you and your resources is increasing at alarming proportions. Formerly, a man stood tall and alone, partly out of choice, partly out of necessity. Today, time to be alone is at a premium. Throughout history governments have applied the label of mental illness as a way of controlling or changing people whose views threaten the social order. This was a common practice in the former Soviet Union. There, political dissent was considered a symptom of abnormal mental functioning, and many dissidents were committed to mental hospitals. In a more subtle process, a country’s cultural values often influence the clinical assessments made by its practitioners. For example, the widespread clinical belief in the nineteenth-century United States of America that freedom would drive such “primitive” people as Native Americans insane. Medical experts of that time went so far as to claim that the forcible movement of tribal groups onto reservations was in their best interest because it would save them in free society. The medical officer who supervised the “removal” of the Cherokees from their homeland to Oklahoma was later pleased to report that during the whole time he oversaw the migration of 20,000 Cherokees (over 4,000 of whom died), he had not observed a single case of insanity. Slave owners, too, liked to believe that slaves were psychologically comfortable with their subservience and that those who tried to escape either were or would soon become insane. Secretary of State John Calhoun of South Carolina pointed to the 1840 census, conducted by his office, as evidence: it identified almost no insanity among slaves living in the North. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20

Secretary of State John Calhoun asserted: “The data on insanity revealed in this census is unimpeachable. From it our nation must conclude that the abolition of slavery would be to the African a curse instead of a blessing.” The work of clinicians at the time lent support to this belief. One specialist claimed that several kinds of mental disorders were unique to African Americans, including drapetomania (from the Latin drapeta, “fugitive”)—an obsessive desire for freedom that drove some slaves to try to flee. Any slave who tried to run away more than twice was considered insane. Drapetomania is long forgotten, but cultural views continue to influence psychological assessments and categories. Many clinicians have argued that categories such as “homosexual,” “sexual frigidity,” and “masochistic personality”—each an established clinical category during much of the twenty-first century—shows all too well the impact of cultural beliefs on clinical categorizations and diagnoses. Alcoholism has a powerful and unavoidable impact on marital communication and relationships. In a pioneering study of marital relations and alcoholism, clinicians placed married couples in a game situation in which they could win money individually through competitive moves or collectively through cooperative moves. Also included was the possibility in which partners could “secretly” compete with each other without making their competitive moves known. The men with alcoholism in this study made more secretly competitive moves than either their wives or any of the men without alcoholism did. This finding is thought to be characteristic of attempts by people with alcoholism to avoid taking responsibility for their behaviour in close relationships, where alcohol provides an external, uncontrollable attribution. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20

Examination of the material interactions of those with different subtypes of alcoholism has been profitable. For instance, men with episodic alcoholism engage in less problem solving, and their wives exhibit more negativity, than men with steady alcoholism and their wives do. It is interesting to note that these group differences were only evident on occasions during which the men were drinking. Also of interest is the fact that steady drinking was associated with more problem-solving communication on drinking nights, indicating that alcohol may actually activate conflict resolution skills in those with this drinking subtype. This, of course, could reinforce the alcohol consumption. An interesting possibility is that the drinking brings about more problem-solving behaviour because it motivates spouses to present complaints to their partners with alcoholism. In other words, the drinking could be a reminder of, or could prime the spouses for presenting, complaints about drinking-related problems. So long as the partners respond to these complaints, one would see elevated problem solving coincidental to drinking occasions. Another useful distinction in the alcoholism literature concerns typical drinking locations, characterized as in-home and out-of-home. Marital relations appear most strained in couples where husbands engage in out-of-home drinking. In such couples, the husbands’ alcohol consumption is negatively associated with wives’ marital satisfaction. It was also found that the alcohol consumption pattern during in-home drinking was reinforced and associated with more beneficial outcomes. One might speculate that those who drink outside the home may be seeking an escape from that they perceive to be bad marriages. On the other hand, spouses of those who drink at home may find the drinking behaviour to be more predictable, less stressful, and associated with less suspicion about the behaviour. #RandolphHarris 5 of 20

Negative marital interactions are especially prevalent when a husband with alcoholism is physically aggressive. When couples affected by husbands’ alcoholism were discussing a martial problem, those with aggressive husbands showed a higher base rate of negative communication behaviours (exempli gratia, blaming, criticizing, putdowns) and more negative reciprocity in their communication than did the coupes with nonaggressive husbands. This suggests that some of the negativity in marital interactions when a husband has alcoholism may be the result of aggressiveness, which covaries to some extent with alcoholism, as opposed to the alcoholism per se. Negativity in marital interactions is also pronounced when a wife has alcoholism. In a rare comparison of couples affected by female versus male alcoholism, the female-alcoholism couples were found to be more negative in their conversations than either the male-alcoholism or no-alcoholism couples when no drinking too place. When drinking occurred, differences from male-alcoholism couples disappeared. For concordant couples (in which both husbands and wives had alcoholism), negativity in communication behaviours escalated when the spouses were allowed to drink. This latter finding suggests that at least one spouse without alcoholism may be a prerequisite for adaptive outcomes associated with drinking. However, marital differences in female- versus male-alcoholism couples remain mixed; some studies show that wives with alcoholism express more beneficial communication with their husbands, and that husbands with alcoholism express more negative communication with their wives, relative to controls. Because wives with alcoholism are very likely to have been divorced or deserted by their husbands, such couples who find their way into research studies with their marriages still intact may represent particularly well-functioning marriages. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20

The spouses of those with alcoholism tend to suffer ill effects from the social and physical consequences of their partners’ drinking. Researcher found a strong relationship between psychiatric symptomatology in a spouse with alcoholism and the social and physical consequences of the other spouse’s drinking. Spouses of those with alcoholism have also been shown to be low in extraversion and high in neuroticism. These same spouses were significantly more inhibited and withdraw in interpersonal relationships than were spouses of those without alcoholism. An obvious inference is that the phenomenon of alcoholism and its associated features (exempli gratia, trouble with the law, moodiness, missed work, deterioration of physical health) cases psychosocial distress for the spouses of the affected individuals. However, the cross-sectional nature of the data on which this conclusion is based cannot rule out an alternative interpretation: Perhaps individuals with alcoholism increase their drinking, with the attendant consequences, in response to their spouses’ increased distress. Considering that this is a population prone to maladaptive use of alcohol for coping purposes, this hypothesis deserves at least some exploration and consideration. Research findings on the spouses of those with alcoholism warrant consideration of at least one additional hypothesis. In the depression literature, there is some evidence to favour an assortative mating effect. Some depressed people appear to seek relationships with others who have depressive tendencies. Similarly, people who engage in problem drinking, or are prone to alcoholism, may be attracted to other people who are introverted and at least mildly distressed themselves. Perhaps the potential assortative mating effect in alcoholism is driven by something as simple as the “misery loves company” effect. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20

Another phenomenon indicative of interpersonal friction is the failure of those with alcoholism and their spouses to come to mutual agreement about personal and family issues. In one investigation, subjects with alcoholism described themselves as more loving, affectionate, and understanding than subjects without alcoholism described themselves. However, the spouses of the subjects with alcoholism sharply disagreed with their partners’ self-perceptions, perceiving them as less loving and more aggressive. In the areas of affective involvement (exempli gratia, “We are too self-centered”) and behaviour control (exempli gratia, “Anything goes in our family”), persons with alcoholism and their spouses showed very low agreement, although they did exhibit higher agreement on descriptions of family problem solving and general functioning. These differing perceptions among intimates are a potent recipe for distress. The literature on alcoholism and marital and family relations clearly indicates that for at least some families, alcohol brings stability and temporary benefits. These outcomes contribute to a family maintenance of the alcoholism. At the same time, other research evidence indicates that increased negativity in family relations is also quite possible as a result of drinking, although it is not always reciprocated between spouses. Certain subtypes of alcoholism, such as the out-of-home drinking pattern, physically aggressive alcoholism in males, and concordant alcoholism in marriages, are particularly associated with negative communicative exchanges. Those with alcoholism appear to hold beliefs about themselves and their families that their spouses sharply disagree with. These spouses also appear to exhibit psychosocial problems and distress of their own. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20

An intriguing issue in need of further clarification is the extent to which distressed family relations contribute to problem drinking, as well as the extent to which problem drinking can cause deterioration in family relationships. Currently, there appear to be no data that directly disconfirm either of these causal routes. Have you ever considered that perhaps you are not getting your prayers answered because you are not grateful foe what God has already done for you? Think of it as a parent. If your child is grateful and one sincerely thanks you for what you have done, you want to do more for one. On the other hand, if your children are not grateful, and all one does is beg you for more, one is not apt to help that child very much. However, we are given this gift of free will and that may confuse many people, and also some have more luck than others. See, with free will, people are able to be independent and they believe that the things they have, they got with their independence. They do not understand that God blessed them with the ability to obtain those things. As we build faith, we learn to thank God and appreciate our blessings. Also, others, even in America, have freedoms that some do not. And there are people who have worked much harder than many people you know and have had a lot take away from them and have not achieved the level of success they actually deserve. So it is a humbling lesson for those individuals and they have to also build faith and learn to thank God. The Scripture teaches us that we should continually give God thanks; we should live with an attitude of gratitude. You may day, “I have been through so many disappointments. I lost my business last year. My marriage did not work out. I have lost so much. How do you expect me to be grateful?” However, if it had not been for God’s goodness, you could have lost it all. If it was not for God’s mercy, you might not even be here today. Stop looking at what you have lost and start thanking God for what you have. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20

Make a decision today that you are going to live a life of grace. Be thankful for what you have. You are going to find some reason to give God thanks. Do not focus on what is wrong, focus on what is right. Do not blame God, nor feel sorry for yourself. Learn the principle that in everything we are to give God thanks. Perhaps you have lost your joy. You have lost your enthusiasm. You have lost your victory. If you would start being more grateful, you will get it back. When you are tempted to become discouraged, recognize that the root cause can often be traced to having an ungrateful attitude. If you can give thanks, no matter what comes against you, you can overcome any situation. Granted, you may have suffered some losses, but thank God that you are still here. You are alive. Make a decision that you are going to be a grateful person. Find some reason to give God thanks. If you will do that, there is no limit to what God will do in your life. O Lord, I begin this prayer by acknowledging that everything is Yours—Heaven Earth and everything in between. That is a sentiment from First Chronicles (29.11). I sincerely desire to offer myself as a spontaneous oblation to You, and for You to offer Yourself to me as a Fast Friend forever! Mine is a simple heart, O Lord, but I offer it to You today in perpetual servitude of friendship, worship, and sacrifice of perpetual praise. Take me together with Your holy oblation of Your precious Body, which I offer to You today in the feathery presence of Your Angels, invisibly assisting. This I do not only for the salvation of myself, but for all Your people. Here is another prayer, one suitable, I hope, for offering my sins at the alter. O Lord, I offer to You all my sins and near sins, which I have committed in Your presence and the presence of Your feathery choir—that is to say, the ones I first committed right down to the ones I have just committed—on this placeable altar of Yours. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20

May this offering burn with even flame, and Your charity turn it to ash. May You scrub out every sinful stain from my conscience; that is what the Letter to the Hebrews would urge (9.14). May You restore all that grace of Yours that I lost by sinning. May You make a clean sweep of Chatsworth—that is to say, my inner digs—and may You welcome me with the merciful kiss of peace. Here is an act of contrition of sorts. With regard to my sins, what else can I do but confess them humbly and pray unceasingly for Your forgiveness? I pray You, my Deft if sometimes Deaf Lord. Turn the Divine Ear Trumpet in my direction, and let me pour my Worldly whispers therein. All my sins displease me—I do not want to perpetrate, let alone perpetuate, them every again. However, I grieve over them and will continue to we start missing Communion without actually missing it. Finally, we relinquish the practice of Communion altogether. Apparently there is no real antidote for the Devil’s crafty fantasies, just as there are no counters to a really bad case of the Torpors or the Horrides. However, one thing is certain. A phantasma springs from the Devil; it must be sent packing back to its source before it turns into a stigma. That Miserable and Derisible Creature must be denounced. Despite the hackles he raises and the emotions he arouses, Holy Communion must never be omitted. Another important thing, scrupulosity and anxiety about making Confession can get in the way of cultivating devotion. What to do in a situation like this? Follow the wisdom of the ages and take the wind of it. Scrupulosity hinders the grace of God and destroys the devotion of the mind. Even when beset with serious peccadillos, do not pass up Holy Communion. Go to confession, and do it more often than has been your custom. Do not take offense so easily at the actions of others. And in the very likely event that you are offending just about everybody in sight, pray forgiveness humbly, and God will forgive you freely. #RandolphHarris 11 of 20

What do you get out of putting Confession off for a long time or deferring Holy Communion for as long as you can? Purge your souls of the fetid spurge as soon as possible. Swiftly such out the venom. Hasten to accept the antidote, no matter how vile it tastes. Do these, and you will feel better, quicker, than if you just put the whole thing off indefinitely. There are a host of reasons and excuses that will try to convince you not to receive the Host. Indeed, there is no end to them, and their merriness, if you let it, will carry you away from the One True Host for ever. Do not receive the Host today, for whatever reason good or bad, and you will do the same thing tomorrow. That is to say, there is no end to finding good reasons for not receiving the Host. Eventually, you will stop going to Holy communion altogether. Finally, you will no longer remember what the Sacrament was like. Is that what you truly want? Just as soon as you can drag your carcass off your cot. Why? There is no great virtue in living the anxious life, tracking with confusion, sequestering yourself from the divine things just because of some daily obstacles. Moreover, it causes a great deal of spiritual harm when you fight Communion off for a long time, for that generally induces the sort of lethargy from which one rarely reclaims one’s original fevour. What a paint it is! There are some tepid and dissolute souls, I know, who are only too willing to find ways of postponing Confession, and there is always an excuse for putting Holy Communion off. Why? They fear that they will have to put their rascally rabbits—that is to say, their rapidly increasing bad habits—under severer discipline. Alas, you who so easily postpone Holy Communion seriously compromise your charity and devotion! #RandolphHarris 12 of 20

How happy you would be if you regularly patrolled your own consciences; then you would be prepared to communicate on any given day, whenever it was scheduled, without having to give the impression that you were Holier-Than-Thou’s. In the meantime, humility about one’s self or charity toward another may be a legitimate reason for not approaching the Sacrament, and there may be others. If you have to resort to such an excuse, you are still to be praised for your reverence. However, if Old Torpor has overcome you, you ought to rouse yourself out of it. At the faintest sniff of reform in this regard, the Lord will bound to your assistance. As we have come to learn, recovery has become one of the Hound of Heaven’s specialties. When one has a truly good excuse for not communicating, one still retains the goodwill and pious intention of communicating. And so one does not go lacking the fruit of the Sacrament. Indeed, you can, every day and every hour, receive Christ in Spiritual Communion without any prohibition and with all spiritual nutrition. Nevertheless, on certain days and at times set aside, you ought to receive, sacramentally, the Body of the Redeemer Himself, with reverence frothing over with affection. That way you will be tendering praise and honour to God rather than just seeking your own consolation. Every time you communicate in these mystical ways and are refreshed in this invisible way, you continue to rekindle the mystery and passion of the Incarnation of Christ and rise in His love. However, whoever loses track of time and thereby is surprised by a feast day or a day of obligation coming fast upon one will often find oneself unprepared for Holy Communion. Blessed are you who offer yourselves to God in holocaust—you are the ones who celebrate and communicate. When it comes to celebrating Mass, do not be a tortoise and do not be a hare. No need to set a record in either direction. Just accommodate the devotion of those with whom you live. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20

Te Deum laudamus, not tedium for the ages—that is what you should cause in others. Rather, you should serve the common good as it is laid down in the Institution of your Founders. And when it comes to a choice, look to the needs and wants of others before looking to your own devotion and affection. “Give heed to me, Lord; listen to [what] my adversaries [are plotting to do to me—and intercede]. Shall evil be recompensed for good? Yet they have dug a pit for my life. [Earnestly] remember that I stood before You to speak good for them, to turn away Your anger from them.” Reports Jeremiah 18.19-20. The problem of partial portrayals is not an easy one to solve, but a few people, unwilling to continue masquerades of complacency, satisfaction with tokens or crumbs, or tamely being what others expect of them, are showing us how they are handling it. The future promises to be an exciting time and place in which to live! General laws should always be distinguished from the particular causes that can modify their effect. Even if the entre south were covered with republics and the entire north with despotic states, it would still be no less true that the effect of climate makes despotism suited to hot countries, barbarism to cold countries, and good polity to intermediate regions. I also realize that, while granting the principle, disputes may arise over its application. It could be said that there are cold countries that are very fertile and southern ones that are quite often barren. However, this poses a difficulty only for those who have not examined the thing in all its relationships. As I have said, it is necessary to take into account those of labour, force, consumption, and so on. Let us suppose that there are two parcels of land of equal size, one of which yields five units and the other yields ten. If the inhabitants of the first parcel consume four units and the inhabitants of the second consumer nine, the excess of the first will be one-fifth and that of the other will be one-tenth. Since the ratio of these two excesses if therefore the inverse of that of the product, the parcel of land that produces only five units will yield a surplus that is double that of the parcel of land that produces ten. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20

However, it is not a question of a double product, and I do not believe that anyone dares, as a general rule, to place the fertility of a cold country even on an equal footing with that of hot countries. Nevertheless, let us assume that his equality does obtain. Let us, if you will, reckon England to be the equal of Sicily, and Poland the equal of Egypt. Further south we have Africa and the Indies; further north we have nothing at all. To achieve this equality of product, what difference must there be in agricultural techniques? In Sicily one needs merely to scratch the soil; in England what efforts it demands to work it! Now where more hands are needed to obtain the same product, the surplus ought necessarily to be lees. Consider too that the same number of humans consumes much less in hot countries. The climate demands that a person keep sober in order to be in good health. Europeans wanting to live there just as they do at home would all die of dysentery and indigestion. We are, says Chardin, carnivorous beats, wolves, in comparison with the Asians. Some attribute the sobriety of the Persians to the fact that their land is less cultivated. On the contrary, I believe that this country is less abundant in commodities because the inhabitants need less. If their frugality, he continues, were an effect on the country’s scarcity, only the poor would eat little; however, the same sobriety is found throughout the kingdom. They take great pride in their lifestyle, saying that one has only to look at their complexion to recognize how far it excels that of the Christians. In fact, the complexion of the Persians is clear. They have fair skin, fine and polished, whereas the complexion of their American subjects, who live in the European style, is coarse and blotchy, and their bodies are above fat and heavy. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20

The closer you come to the equator, the less people live on. They rarely eat meat; rice, maize, couscous, millet and cassava are their usual diet. In the Indies there are millions of men whose sustenance costs less than a penny a day. In Europe itself we see noticeable differences in appetite between the peoples of the north and the south. A Spaniard will live for eight days on a German’s dinner. In counties where humans are the most voracious, luxury too turns toward things edible. In England, luxury is shown in a table loaded with meats; in Italy you are regaled on sugars and flowers. Luxury in clothing also offers similar differences. In the climate where the seasonal changes are sudden and violent, people have better and simpler clothing. In climates where people clothe themselves merely for ornamental purposes, flashiness is more sought after than utility. The clothes themselves are a luxury there. In Naples you see humans strolling everyday along the Posilippo decked out in gold-embroidered coats and bare legged. It is the same with buildings; magnificence is the sole consideration when there is nothing to fear from the weather. In Paris or London, people want to be housed warmly and comfortably. In Madrid, there are superb salons, but no windows that close, and people sleep in rat holes. In hot countries foodstuffs are considerably more substantial and succulent. This is a third difference which cannot help but influence the second. Why do people at so many vegetables in Italy? Because there they are good, nourishing, and have an excellent flavour. In France, where they are fed nothing but water, they are not nourishing at all, and are nearly counted for nothing at table. Be that as it may, they occupy no less land and cost at least as much effort to cultivate. It is a known fact that the wheat of Barbary, in other respects inferior to those of France, yield far more flour, and that those of France, for their part, yield more wheats than those of the north. It can be inferred from this that a similar gradation in the same direction is generally observed from the equator to the pole. Now is it not a distinct disadvantage to have a smaller quantity of food in an equal amount of produce? #RandolphHarris 16 of 20

To all these different considerations, I can ad one which depends on and strengthens them. It is that hot countries have less of a need for inhabitants than do cold countries, and yet could feed more of them. This produces a double surplus, always to the advantage of despotism. The greater the area occupied by the same number of inhabitants, the more difficult it becomes to revolt, since concerted action cannot be taken promptly and secretly; and it is always easy for the government to discover plots and cut off communications. However, those closer together a numerous people is drawn, the less the government can usurp from the sovereign. The leaders deliberate s safely in their rooms as the prince does in his council; and the crowd assembles as quickly in public squares as do troops in their quarters. In this regard, the advantage of a tyrannical government, therefore, is that of acting over great distances. With the help of the points of support it establishes, its force increases with distance like that of levers. On the other hand, the strength of the people acts only when concentrated; it evaporates and is lost as it spreads, like the effect of gunpowder scattered on the ground, which catches fire only one grain at a time. The least populated countries are thus the best suited for tyranny. Ferocious animals reign only in deserts. The responsibility for degeneration does not lie with those who still believe in the ideals of freedom and truth, but with those who reject these ideals. The guilt does not lie with those who seek to defend themselves against the aggressions of an evil doctrine, it lies with those who spread this doctrine by every means, including the most criminal means. It is better, indeed, that the face of Communism should be seen for what it is, with all its malignant cruelty and materialistic criminality, than that the World should continue in complacent blindness to the danger in which it stands. Ever since the 9/11, we have tried to make peace or effect compromise with the dark force, but to no avail. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20

Communism does not want peace because it does not believe in peace. It is committed to the doctrine that it must fight for the soul of humanity—which soul it seeks to enslave for its own evil purposes. The frightful shape which the next war would necessarily take may make us wonder whether it would be better for humanity to save its body at least, by appeasing the powers of evil or by surrendering to them. However, is it only for the body’s sake that we are upon this Earth? If there were no higher purpose to life than preserving the body, such appeasement and such surrender might be worthwhile. However, we know that there is such a purpose, that we are here for soul development even more than for any other kind. If appeasement and surrender are the only price at which we can purchase peace, then the still small voice within answers, “War is still better—even if costlier.” The effort is one thing, whilst its effect is another. We must estimate the Bolshevik achievement by its practical results rather than by its theoretical claims. We must keep close to Earth in these matters and test the printed page by the human scene. And if we do this without paying uncritical homage to the dynamism it has shown, we find that Bolshevism has dragged men’s souls in mire and their bodies in prisons—for Russian became nothing else—and the economic lot of the peasant and the workman is no better, and generally is far worse, than it is in most capitalistic countries. Russian suffered the painful consequences of her own barbarities and fanaticisms, and she has pruned her communistic ideas of some of their extremism. She found by her experience that it was an error to withdraw the profit motive entirely. Human nature being psychologically what it is, sufficient financial inducement had to be given to evolve personal efficiency and enterprise and to encourage new inventions. She found that any economic order which ignored the inequalities of capacity and qualifications, talents, and minds among its members, could only be a half-success and must be a half failure. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20

Humans require the energizing motive of more pay for more work or higher pay for higher type of work. Human must have rewards for extra labour or extra talent, which means they must own possessions and get privileges in unequal degrees. Any economic scheme must frankly face and accept this psychological fact, otherwise it would set up a perpetual friction between the individual and the state. Russian Communism was compelled, by initial failures in obtaining adequate production, to give more remuneration to skilled workers and to institute hierarchic organization in factories. Moreover, the ever-present need of stimulating general human evolution requires the offering of rewards to draw out the varied possibilities lying latent within humans, the holding-up of baits to make one realize the fuller stature of one’s being. The crude kind of socialism which would erect the state into a tyrannous dictator, create an order of bureaucratic parasites, and organize every detail of the mental and physical existence of its unfortunate victims, is intolerable to intelligent people who rightly wish to exercise their personal initiative, to develop their creative abilities, to attain self-responsibility, to achieve economic independence, and to think for themselves. Only those who possess slave-mentalities can fail to be opposed by temperament to any totalitarian form which would compel every human to walk in standardized step with all other humans, which would dictate how one should think, live, talk, work, rest, and marry, and which would reduce all society to a dead monotony of uniformity. Such a system is the kind which can suit only people which has made materialism its religion. On the other hand, a system which would allow room for diverse forms of living, which would encourage and not stifle individual initiative, and which would lead human to liberation and not to enslavement is the kind which is based on the right comprehension of existence. Humans cannot live by Marxism alone. A system which deprived its citizens of their personal initiative and individual enterprise would thereby deprive society of valuable gifts. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20

Father, please forgive me for complaining about what I do not have and cannot do. From this day forward, please help me to be thankful for what I do have. I thank You and praise You for Your kindness toward me. O our Mother the Earth, blessed is your name. Blessed are your fields and forests, your rocks and mountains, your grasses and trees and flowers, and every green and growing thing. Blessed are your streams and lakes and rivers, the oceans where our life began, and all your water that sustain our bodies and refresh our souls. Blessed is the air we breathe, your atmosphere, that surrounds use and binds us to every living thing. Blessed are all creatures who walk along your surface or swim in your water or fly through your air, for they are all our relatives. Blessed are all people who share this planet, for we are all one family, and the same spirit moves through us all. Blessed is the sun, our day star, bringer of morning and the heat of summer, giver of light and life. Blessed is the moon, our night lamps, ruler of the tides, protector of all women, and guardian of our dreams. Blessed are the stars and planets, the time-keepers, who fill our nights with beauty and our hearts with awe. O Great Spirit whose voice we hear in the wind and whose face we see in the morning sun, blessed is your name. Please help us to remember that you are everywhere, and please teach us the way of peace. Prayer is a sense of belonging. Belonging is the basic truth of our existence. We belong here. Life belongs here. Likewise, at the heart of gratefulness, in its deepest sense, we also find an expression of belonging. When we say, “Thank you,” we are really saying, “We belong together.” That is why we sometimes find it so difficult to say, “Thank you,”—because we do not want to acknowledge our interdependence. We do not want to be obliged. However, in a healthy society that is exactly what we seek: mutual obligations. Grant lasting peace unto America Thy people, for Thou art the Sovereign Lord of peace; and may it be good in Thy sight to bless Thy people America at all times with Thy peace. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who blessest Thy people America with peace. In the book of life, blessings, peace, and ample sustenance, may we, together with all Thy people the house of America, be remembered and inscribed before Thee for a happy life and for peace. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who establishest peace. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20

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I am a citizen of the American Dream, and the revolutionary struggles of which I am a part, is a struggle against the American Nightmare. When it comes to mental health, assessment is simply the collecting of relevant information in an effort to reach a conclusion. It goes on in ever realm of life. We make assessments when we decide what Cresleigh Home to buy, or which colour we want our Ultimate Driving Machine to buy. College admissions officers, who have to select the “best” of the students applying to their college, depend on academic records, recommendations, achievement test scores, interviews, and application form to help them decided. Employers, who have to predict which applicants are more likely to be effective workers, collect information from resumes, interviews, references, and perhaps on-the-job observations. Clinical assessment is used to determine how and why a person is behaving abnormally and how that person may be helped. It also enables clinicians to evaluate people’s progress after they have been in treatment for a while and decide whether the treatment should be changed. The specific tools that are used to do an assessment depend on the clinician’s theoretical orientation. Psychodynamic clinicians, for example, use methods that assess a client’s personality and probe for any unconscious conflicts one may be experiencing. This kind of assessment, called a personality assessment, enables them to piece together a clinical picture in accordance with the principles of their model. Behavioural and cognitive clinicians are more likely to use assessment methods that reveal specific dysfunctional behaviours and cognitions. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20

The goal of this kind of assessment called a behavioural assessment, is to produce a functional analysis of the person’s behaviours—an analysis of how the behaviours are learned and reinforced. The hundreds of clinical assessment techniques and tools that have been developed fall into three categories: Clinical interviews, tests, and observations. To be useful, these tools must be standardized and have clear reliability and validity. A given assessment tool may appear to be valid simply because it makes sense and seems reasonable. However, this sort of validity, called face validity, does not by itself mean that the instrument is trustworthy. A test for depression, for example, might include questions about how often a person cries. Because it makes sense that depressed people would cry, these test questions would have face validity. It turns out, however, that many people cry a great deal for reasons other than depression, and some extremely depressed people fail to cry at all. Thus an assessment tool should not be used unless it meets more exacting criteria of validity, such as high predictive or concurrent validity. Vincent van Gogh led a tortured and unhappy life. In a legendary incident the artist cut off one of his ears. Later he was admitted to a mental institution, and ultimately he committed suicide at the age of 37. Van Gogh wrote a great deal about his pain and anguish, describing mental and physical torment and hallucinations. Indeed, he observed, “There is quite definitely something or other deranged in my brain.” For years clinicians have typically agreed with van Gogh and have speculated that the artists suffered from mood disorder, schizophrenia, or both. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20

However, approximately twenty years ago, these assessments were challenged. A Harvard neurologist, for example, has suggested that van Gogh in fact suffered from Geschwind’s syndrome, technically known as interictal personality disorder, caused by brain seizure disorder, or epilepsy. Van Gogh displayed many of its symptoms, including excessive drawing (hypergraphia), hyperreligiosity, and aggression. In contrast, medica specialists in Colorado have concluded that van Gogh suffered from an extreme form of Meniere’s syndrome, a disorder marked by an excessive buildup of fluid in the inner ear. The enormous pressure may produce nausea, dizziness, poor balance, pain, deafness and constant buzzing or ringing sensations. Perhaps van Gogh cut off his ear in an effort to reduce the pain. And perhaps his other problems and pains arose from severe secondary psychological problems that can accompany. Perhaps nowhere in the mental health literature has family systems theory had more of an impact than in the area of alcoholism. Family systems theory is a conceptual model, rather than a true theory, that locates causes and consequences of problematic behaviour in the larger family system in which it is embedded. Family behaviour is thought to be responsive to regulatory mechanisms that maintain the status quo, as well as a tendency to grow and change in response to dynamic qualities within and outside the family. Viewing a family as a system suggests that a disturbance in one part of the system will have an impact on other parts of the system. Applying family systems concepts to alcoholism, has uncovered that some families organize their lives around the alcoholism of an adult member, just as other families might organize their lives around children or work. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20

In an early investigation of adults with alcoholism and their family members, the expression of previously inhibited positive affect between family members became extremely pronounced during drinking periods. This and later studies revealed that interactions in such families were actually more patterned, organized, and predictable while the adults with alcoholism were intoxicated. Thus alcohol ingestion serves an adaptive function in family relationships through a stabilizing phenomenon. This prompted a suggestion that there is an alcoholic system in some families, in which drinking is an integral part of the family structure that actually maintains and stabilizes the family. Similar positive effects on the family were evident in a study where family members viewed and rated video tapes (recordings with audio and visual information on them, which can be played back) of their own interactions, in the absence of actual drinking. Both mothers and adolescent children in families with paternal alcoholism rated family members as less anxious and their interactions as more friendly than those of families without alcoholism. Unfortunately, drinking and intoxication may provide only a temporary “solution” to a family’s problems, at the cost of what may ne more serious long-term ill effects. Although drinking can temporarily inject positivity into some family relationships, several laboratory investigations have also documented negative effects associated with drinking. For example, families with an alcoholic father discuss items from various questionnaire inventories while the fathers were drinking or not drinking. During their discussions, the families expressed more negative affect during the drinking versus the no-drinking condition. The nature of interactions in families without paternal alcoholism was not affected by the drinking conditions. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20

The ill effects of parental alcoholism on family interactions and child rearing may begin to have an impact on family members as early as 1 year of age. In this study, families with alcoholism in at least one patent were observed interacting with their 12-month-old infants for 5 minutes in a room filled with toys. Observations of the parents’ behaviour indicated that the parents with alcoholism were less sensitive to their infants during the free play; such fathers in particular made fewer verbalizations, expressed more negative affect, and were less responsive to their infants. Self-report measures further indicate that the parents with alcoholism were more aggressive toward their spouses than those without alcoholism were. The family observation study was unique in showing that parents with alcoholism were far more depressed than those without, and that this depression mediated the relationship between parental alcoholism and sensitivity to the infants during interaction. So for many adults with alcoholism, effective parenting may be disrupted directly by the alcoholism, or by comorbid problems such as depression that in and of themselves have a negative impact on parenting behaviour. Different subtypes of alcoholism have been identified to explain the variable effects of alcohol consumption and alcoholism on family interactions and relations. In one such instance, researchers were able to characterize subtypes of alcoholism as episodic or steady drinking. Another useful distinction in alcoholism is that between high-antisociality and low-antisociality subtypes. These subtypes are defined on the basis of a measure that taps into negative social consequences of drinking, feeling of alienation, interpersonal disruption, and negative attitudes toward authority (higher scores = higher antisociality). #RandolphHarris 5 of 20

Home observations of family dinner conversations revealed that wives, husbands, and children in families with high-antisociality alcoholism were all less positive, and less inclined to communicate disagreement, than were control family members. Although family interactions in the high-antisociality condition were characterized by diminished optimism, they appeared to have a cautious appearance as well, in that family members were careful to avoid open disagreement with each other. This pattern of interaction could have interesting implications for the genesis of alcoholism. For the person who develops alcoholism, the tendency to avoid communicating disagreement may lead to the internalization of problems with other family members. Instead of airing complaints, the individual is left to ruminate over them on one’s own—perhaps without seeing any change in the offensive behaviour by other family member, since they may be unaware of the problem. For this individual’s family members, the tendency to be cautious and avoid disagreement may inadvertently cause one’s problem drinking behaviour to go unchecked. In some cases, families have some ability to regulate problem drinking through punishing responses in reaction to the behaviour. However, in a family system affected by high-antisociality alcoholism, this regulatory function may be inoperative. Recognizing considerable diversity in alcoholism’s effects on family interactions, there is a proposed family alcohol phase model. According to this perspective, a family moves through various phases that correspond to the drinking behaviour of the member with alcoholism. The stable-wet phase is marked by consistent drinking, whereas the stable-dry phase is marked by general abstinence. The family is in a transitional phase either when a period of abstinence begins, or when a period of abstinence ends with episodes of drinking. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20

It has been found that content variability (the range of affect and decision-making behaviour in verbal interaction) in family interactions, as well as distance regulation (use of space and rate of movement in the home), varied as a function of phase. In the stable-wet phase, families maintained the greatest distance, interacting only for purposeful reasons, while exhibiting midrange variability in their interactions. Families in the stable-dry phase exhibited a great deal of content variability in their interactions, with midrange distance regulation. Finally, those families in the transitional phase exhibited a great deal of content variability in their interactions, with midrange distance regulations. Finally, those families in the transitional phase showed a decrease in distance regulation, manifesting physical closeness, with a slight decrease in the content variability of their interactions. A 2-year longitudinal study suggested that families in the stable-wet phase were the most likely of the three to dissolve their marriages. In particular, those families in the stable-wet phase that exhibited the least intrafamily engagement during home observations of family interaction were more likely to break up over the course of the study. It has been noted that in families of alcoholics’ relationships change when parental drinking occurs. However, sometimes these changes are beneficial and sometimes they are negative. Where there are beneficial changes or adaptive outcomes, these may be somewhat short-lived. Researchers have been working to identify different subtypes of alcoholism that are associated with more negative family consequences. The poorest family processes and outcomes appear to be associated with the episodic (vs. steady), high-antisociality (vs. low-antisociality), and stable-wet (vs. stable-dry or transitional) alcoholism. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20

Perhaps you are in a trial today, and you are praying for God to deliver you out of that adverse situation. That is a legitimate prayer, but maybe you are missing the point of why you are being allowed to go through that trying time in the first place. Recognize that God is moulding you and refining you. God often allows one to go through difficult situations to draw out those impurities in one’s character. One can pray one can resist, one can bind, one can loose, one can sing and shout, one can do it all, but it is not going to do any good. God is more interested in changing you than He is in changing the circumstances. And the sober one learns to cooperate with God, the sooner one will get out of that devil’s web. The quicker one learns one’s lesson and starts dealing with those bad attitudes and starts ruling over one’s emotions, the quicker one will go to the next level in one’s spiritual journey. We must recognize the refining purpose of trials. We cannot run from everything that is hard in our lives. Perhaps one gets worried and fearful when important things do not go one’s way. Have you ever thought that God may be allowing those events to teach you to trust Him and to see if one will stay peaceful and clam in the midst of the storm? Has one ever considered that God may be allowing some of that to teach one how to rule over one’s emotions? He may be trying to toughen one up, to help one develop some courage. For our sins—that is why Jesus Christ wanted to do it, and that is why He did it. And what did they do? They ripped off His clothes and hammered His hands to the cross. It was a sacrifice the old-fashioned way. Perhaps that is why God the Father seemed so pleased. In the same way, you, My beloved Devout, ought to be willing to offer yourself to Jesus Christ—He asks us the way His Father asked Him—in pure holy oblation, everyday in the Mass, with all strength and affection, until the day one drops. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20

However, we often pay, “God, if You will change my circumstances, then I will change.” No, it works the other way around. We have to be willing to change our attitudes and deal with the issues God brings up; then God will change those circumstances. Surrender. Unconditional surrender. That is all Jesus requires of us. Not our possession—He could take those things anytime and scatter them over the landscape; one will find this in Philippians (4.17). Just you—that is all Jesus Christ wants. Of course, Jesus could take us as a prisoner of war and do with one as he wanted. However, what He really wants is for us to give ourselves to Him as a gift. Of course, the same is true for us. If we have all the baggage in the World, but did not have Jesus Christ, would we be any better off? One would have a full cart, maybe, but also an empty heart. And the other way around is also true. It is not our silly stuff Jesus Christ wants—it is our silly selves! Offer yourself to Jesus Christ. Make that the only package, and it will be an oblation that will be welcomed. Look at Jesus! He offered Hus whole self to the Father for us; He also put His whole Body and Blood into food and drink that He might be totally ours and that we might be totally Him. If, however, we hold something of ourselves back or are slow to give our all, it will be a pretty poor offering made not by any friend of His, but by a pretty poor acquaintance. To prevent that and to acquire illumination and liberation of spirit, one ought to make a spontaneous oblation of one’s self into the hand of God. When? Before each and every thing one does. Such an attractive proposition, Jesus thinks, but He must ask, “Why are there so few Illuminati and Liberati today? That is because so many do not know how to denude themselves of imperfections. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20

Jesus Christ’s firm opinion is this, and it appears in the Gospel of Luke (14.33): “Unless a person renounces everything that one had and everything that one is, one cannot be His Disciple.” Therefore, if one wants to be His Disciple, offer one’s whole self to Jesus; that includes one’s scruffy affections. God will often permit pressure to be applied in our life to test us, and only as we pas those tests will we advance. He will put people and circumstances in our path that grate on us like sandpaper, but He will use them to rub off our rough edges. One may not always like it; one may want to run from it; one may even resist it, but God is going to keep brining up the issues again and again, until one passes the test. Remember, the Bible says, “We are [God’s] workmanship,” reports Ephesians 2.10. That means we are a work in progress, not a finished product. Be willing to deal with any issues that God brings up. Work with God in the refining process rather than fighting against Him. Scripture says that God is the potter and we are the clay. Clay works best when it is pliable, malleable, and mouldable. However, if we are hard, crusty, and set in our ways, God will have to pound away on that old, hard clay to get out the lumps. Certainly, none of us enjoy going through struggles, but one has to understand that one’s struggle may be an opportunity for advancement and promotions. The very thing one is fighting against so tenaciously may be the springboard that catapults one to a new level of excellence. One’s challenges may become one’s greatest assets. Without the resistance of air, an eagle cannot soar. Without the resistance of water, a ship cannot float. Without the resistance of gravity, we would not be able to walk. Without opposition or resistance, there is no potential for progress. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20

Yet our human tendency is to want everything easily. “God, cannot You teach me patience without having to go through the traffic jam? God, cannot You teach me how to love and trust You without ever having a problem?” Unfortunately, there are no shortcuts; there is no easy way to mature physically, emotionally, or spiritually. One may remain determined and work with God. The Bible says, “Work out your own salvation,” reports Philippians 2.12. Salvation is more than a onetime prayer. It is constantly cooperating with God, dealing with the issues He brings up, keeping a good attitude, and allowing Him to change one as He sees fit. Dear Lord in Heaven, I realize that You never promised I would not have trials and adversities. However, I also recognize that nothing can touch my life without going through You first, so I will dare to praise You in the midst of my trails. I know You will bring me out stronger, better, faster, and more prepared for the good things You have for me. “Be truly glad! These trials are only to test your faith, to see whether or not it is strong and pure…So if your faith remains strong after being tried in the test tube of fiery trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honour on the day of His return,” reports 1 Peter 1.6-7. James said that you put bits in a horse’s mouth to turn its whole body and you put a rudder on a ship to tun the whole ship; so is the tongue so situated among our members that it defiles the whole body. (James 3.3,4.) If you control the tongue, the body will respond to your words. If you talk sickness, it becomes impossible to live in health. The more you believe it, the less you believe in healing. The thing you continually talk will consume you. Faith will only come by hearing the Word of God and it will come more quickly when you hear yourself quoting and speaking God’s Word after Him. #RandolphHarris 11 of 20

The seed of truth in why many Christians have not wanted to express their anger is valid: expressing one’s anger manipulatively as blaming or attacking is destructive. As Paul says, “Let all bitterness and wrath…be put away from you, with all malice,” reports Ephesians 4.31. One needs to learn to express anger constructively. A basic guideline is to assert and express oneself rather than to blame and attack the other person. For instance, when a Critical Christian says, “Why are you so stupid?” The individual has already made an assumption that the other person is stupid. This results in an attacking form of anger. A healthier way of dealing with this anger would be for one first to recognize that one feels angry that one’s friend is “stupid.” One moves now to one’s feeling, not the fact, that one’s friend is stupid. Now if the Critical Christian listens, one can have a dialogue with one’s core. (This is the principle Dr. Maslow meant when he referred to one’s “inner Supreme Court.”) Simply by asking oneself inwardly, the Critical Christian may get the answer from one’s core that “you are angry because the bank teller this morning treated you as if you were stupid.” The Critical Christian can the realize that because he did not deal with his anger then, he is now projecting his anger on to his friend—calling him stupid, when in reality he is angry at the bank teller. Or, the Critical Christian may get the answer from his core that he is upset because the project he and his friend are working on together is more important to the Critical Christian than he had realized and now his friend is not fulfilling his share of the work. In this case, the Critical Christian needs to take the time to examine whether he thinks his friend is capable. If he is callable, the Critical Christian may now decide that he needs to express to his friend that his not fulfilling his share of the work is delaying the project. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20

If the Critical Christian realized that his friend cannot do the job, he may let him go and bring in someone else. Blaming his friend for his inability at this point would not be actualizing; but, expressing to him that he is not showing the needed skills, and that that is why he is being let go, would be actualizing. Many answers come quickly from the core—the preceding possibilities could surface in seconds. The more we listen to our cores, the more we hear—and know how to listen. Sometimes, though, we ask and do not hear an answer. Or we get what we think is an answer and then proceed to act on it—and make things worse. Remember that becoming actualizing is a process. If we were perfectly actualized now, the answers would always be there, crystal clear, and our behaviour would be “perfect.” As we are in the process of becoming actualizing, sometimes we do the most effective thing and sometimes we make mistakes. Mistakes are just that—“miss-takes.” Our lives become most meaningful when we live from our own core, finding our own truest answers. So it is a process worth living—and the mistakes are worth making. The real key here is not to blame and attack ourselves for those miss-takes, but to keep learning with more “takes.” Having patience with ourselves often makes it easier to become more patient and forgiving of others. It can sometimes relieve our anger just to remember that other people are in the growing process, too, and not always taking what to us would seem the most effective action. As actualizing Christians, we seek to do the will of God. Doing His will involves having good will toward others and ourselves. We do this by listening to our anger, taking it to out core, and then responding from our core. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20

If one deals with it by expressing and asserting it, rather than blaming and attacking someone, only then can anger become actualizing. Blaming and attacking are simply manipulative, whereas expressing and asserting include a quality of genuine respect for everyone involved. In communicating our anger honestly, we get it off our chests, and the rhythm of life is reestablished. We finish with it and move on to experience a new and different feeling. The range of feelings in the anger polarity includes irritation, annoyance, resentment, and anger. The intensity of the feeling increases as one passes from irritation to anger. Recognizing irritation, boredom, or annoyance at the lower levels of intensity within the anger spectrum enables us to avoid unwittingly building up to levels of resentment, hostility, and hatred. In handling these feelings, it is important to learn to acknowledge the mild forms and deal with them on a “cash and carry” basis. That way we do not save them up like coupons to be redeemed in one sudden, destructive explosion. While our anger may sometimes reach intensities approaching hatred, we need never go so far as to write a person off completely. It is really possible to have compassion for and pray for our enemies—that God in His mercy might help them through their own dilemmas, frustrations, and pains. Yet, we can be honest about the effects on us of their behaviour. “Turn again, we beseech You, O God of hosts! Look down from Heaven and see, visit, and have regard for this vine! [Protect and maintain] the stock which Your right hand planted, and the branch (the son) that You have reared and made strong for Yourself. They have burned it with fire, it is cut down; may they perish at the rebuke of Your countenance. Let Your hand be upon the human of Your right hand, upon the son of man whom You have made strong for Yourself. Then will we not depart from You; revive us (give us life) and we will call upon Your name. Restore us, O Lord God of hosts; cause Your face to shine [in pleasure, approval, and favour on us] and we shall be saved!” reports Psalm 80.14-19. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20

Dr. Ilya Prigogine and his teams of coworkers at the Free University of Brussels and the University of Texas at Austin have struck directly at Second Wave assumptions by showing how chemical and other structures leap to higher stages of differentiation and complexity through a combination of chance and necessity. It is for this work the Dr. Prigogine was awarded the Nobel Prize. Brown in Moscow, brought to Belgium as a child, and fascinated since youth by the problems of time, Dr. Prigogine was puzzled by a seeming contradiction. On the one hand, there was the physicist’s belief in entropy—that the Universe is running down and that all organized patterns must eventually decay. On the other, there was the biologist’s recognition that life itself is organization and that we are continually giving rise to higher and higher, more and more complex organization. Entropy pointed in one direction, evolution in another. This led Dr. Prigogine to ask how higher forms of organization come into being, and to years of research in chemistry and physics in pursuit of the answer. Today Dr. Prigogine points out that in any complex system, from the molecules in a liquid to the neurons in a brain or the traffic in a city, the parts of the system are always undergoing small-scale change: they are in constant flux. The interior of any system is quivering with fluctuation. Sometimes, when negative feedback comes into play, these fluctuations are damped out or suppressed and the equilibrium of the system maintained. However, where amplifying or positive feedback is at work, some of these fluctuations may be tremendously magnified—to the point at which the equilibrium of the entire system is threated. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20

Fluctuations arising in the outside environment may hit at this moment and further amplify the mounting vibration—until the equilibrium of the whole is destroyed and the existing structure is smashed. It is illuminating to think of the economy in these terms. Supply and demand are maintained in equilibrium by various feedback process. Unemployment, if intensified by positive feedback and not offset by negative feedback elsewhere in the system, can threaten the stability of the whole. Outside fluctuations—such as oil price hikes—may converge to make the internal swings and fluctuations wilder, until the equilibrium of the whole system is shattered. Whether the result of runaway internal fluctuations or of external forces, or both, this breakup of the old equilibrium often results not in chaos or breakdown, but in the creation of a wholly new structure at a higher level. This new structure may be more differentiated, internally interactive, and complex than the old one, and needs more energy and matter (and perhaps information and other resources) to sustain itself. Speaking mainly about physical and chemical reactions, but occasionally calling attention to social analogues, Dr. Prigogine calls these new, more complex systems “dissipative structures.” He suggests that evolution itself may be seen as a process leading toward increasingly complex and diversified biological and social organisms, through the emergence of new, higher-order dissipative structures. Thus, according to Dr. Prigogine, whose ideas have political and philosophical resonance as well as purely scientific meaning, we develop “order out of fluctuation” or, as the title of one of his lectures expresses it, “Order out of Chaos.” #RandolphHarris 16 of 20

This evolution, however, cannot be planned or predetermined in a mechanistic fashion Until quantum theory came along, many leading Second Wave thinkers believed that chance played little or no role in change. The starting conditions of a process predetermined its outcome. Today in subatomic physics, for example, it is widely believed that chance dominates change. In recent years many scientists, like Jacques Monod in biology, Walter Buckley in sociology, or Maruyama in epistemology and cybernetics, have begun to fuse these opposites. Dr. Prigogine’s work not only combines chance and necessity but actually stipulates their relationship to one another. In brief, he strongly suggests that at the precise point at which a structure “leaps” to a new stage of complexity, it is impossible, in practice and even in principle, to predict which of many forms it will take. This presumably goes for the leap from Second Wave to Third Wave civilization as well as for chemical reactions. However, once a pathway has been chosen, once the new structure comes into being, determinism dominates once more. In one colorful example he describes how termites create their highly structured nests out of apparently unstructured activity. They begin by crawling about a surface in random fashion, stopping here and there to deposit a bit of “goo.” These deposits are distributed by chance, but the substance contains a chemical attractant so that other termites are drawn to it. In this way, the good begins to collect in a few places, gradually building up into a pillar or wall. If these buildups are isolated, work stops. However, if by chance they are near one another, an arch results that then becomes the basis for the complex architecture of the nest. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20

Much like the Winchester mansion, what begins with random activity turns into highly elaborate nonrandom structures. We see, as Dr. Prigogine puts it, “the spontaneous formation of coherent structures.” Order out of chaos. All this strikes hard at the old causality. Dr. Prigogine sums it up: “The laws of strict causality appear to us today as limiting situations, applicable to highly idealized cases, nearly as caricatures of the description of change. The science of complexity leads to a completely different view.” Instead of being locked into a closed Universe that functioned like a mechanical clock, we find ourselves in a far more flexible system in which, as he says, “there is always the possibility of some instability leading to some new mechanism. We really have an ‘open Universe.’” As we move beyond Second Wave causal thinking, as we begin to think in terms of mutual influence, of amplifiers and reducers, of system breaks and sudden revolutionary leaps, of dissipative structures and the fusion of chance and necessity—in short, as we take off our Second Wave blinders—we emerge blinking into a wholly new culture, the culture of the Third Wave. This new culture—oriented to change and growing diversity—attempts to integrate the new view of nature, of evolution and progress, the new, richer conceptions of time and space, and the fusion of reductionism and wholism, with a new causality. Indust-reality which once seemed so powerful and complete, so all-encompassing an explanation of how the Universe and its components fitted together, turns out now to have been immensely useful. However, its claims to universality are shattered. The super-ideology of the Second Wave will be seen, from the vantage point of tomorrow, to have been as provincial as it was self-serving. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20

The decay of the Second Wave thought system leaves millions of people grasping desperately for something to hold on to—anything, from Victorian Americana and Texas Taoism to Swedish Sufism and Welsh witchcraft. Instead of constructing a new culture appropriate to the new World, they attempt to important and implant old ideas appropriate to other times and places or to revive the fanatic faiths of their own ancestors who lived under radically different conditions. It is precisely the collapse of the industrial era mind-structure, its growing irrelevance in the face of the new technological, social, and political realities, that gives rise to today’s facile search for old answers, and to the continual stream of pseudo-intellectual fads that pop up, flash, and consume themselves at high speed. In the very midst of this spiritual supermarket, with its depressing razzmatazz and religious fakery, an optimistic new culture is being seeded—one appropriate to our time and place. Powerful new integrative insights are beginning to emerge, new mataphours for understanding reality. It is possible to glimpse the earliest beginnings of a new coherence and elegance as the cultural debris of industrialism is swept away by history’s Third Wave change. The super-ideology of Second Wave civilization that is now crumbling was reflected in the way industrialism organized the World. An image of nature based on discrete particles was mirrored in the idea of discrete, sovereign nation-states. Today, as our image of nature and matter change, the nation-state itself is being transformed—another step on the path toward a Third Wave civilization. May your trails be righteous, winding, joyful, peaceful, leading to the most amazing views. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20

May your rivers flow without end, meandering through pastoral valleys tinkling with bells, past temples and castles and poet’s towers into bright enchanted forests where the fruit glows like emeralds, rubies, sapphires, orange spessartite, and hessonite. Where bars of sun blaze on profiled cliffs, where deer walk across the white sand beaches, where storms come and go, as lightning clangs upon the high crags, where something strange and more beautiful and more full of wonder than your deepest dreams waits for you—beyond that next turning of the deep and vast ancient unknown canyon walls. Dear Lord in Heave, we thank Thee also for the miraculous and mighty deeds of liberation wrought by Thee, and for Thy victories in the battles our forefathers fought in days of old, at this season of the year. In the days of the High Priest Mattathias, son of Johanan, of the Hasmonean family, a tyrannical power rose up against Thy people America to compel them to forsake Thy flag, and to force them to transgress Thy commandments. In Thine abundant mercy Thou didst stand by them in time of distress. Thou didst rise to their defense and didst vindicate their cause. Thou didst bring retribution upon the evil doers, delivering the strong into the hands of the weak, the many into the hands of the few, the wicked into the hands of the just, and the arrogant into the hands of those devoted to Thy flag. Thou didst thus make Thy greatness and holiness known in Thy World, and didst bring great deliverance to America. Then Thy children came into Thy dwelling place, cleansed the Temple purified the Sanctuary, kindled lights in Thy sacred courts, and they designated these eight days of Hanukkah for giving thanks and praise unto Thy great name. For all this, Thy name, O our King, shall be blessed and exalted for ever and ever. O inscribe all the child of Thy covenant for a happy life. May all the living do homage unto Thee forever and praise Thy name in truth, O God, who are our salvation and our help. Blessed be Thou, O Lord, Beneficent One, unto whom our thanks are due. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20

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With a gorgeous home like this, it’s never too early to get the holidays started! 🥳 You’ll love hosting dinners and gift exchanges in the covered California Room – perfect for entertaining and letting the sunshine in! ☀️

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Bless our house as we come and go. Bless our home as the children grow. Bless our families as they gather in. Bless our home with love and friends.

Traded in the Church for Lies, Free Love, a Stripper Pole and Massage Parlor!

In work, love, and the movies, everything is a challenge. Nutritionists tell us we are what we eat. Similarly, the quality and character of our spirit is a reflection of what we feast upon—including the books and magazines we read and the motion pictures, television shows, plays and other public entertainments we witness. Unfortunately, much of what is available is not conducive to building healthy spirituality. The television news media and other forms of media have a great potential to teach, inspire, inform, and entertain, but they may also corrupt, degrade, and pervert. They have the power to influence profoundly for good or evil all aspects of our values and feelings, as well as our behaviour. We are affected by what we choose to expose ourselves to. Evil is presented as attractive and good. Destructive behaviours are marketed as exciting and rewarding. Often humour is used to make obscenity entertaining and palatable. However, what starts out as a spectator sport introduces into one’s brain a vast library of antisocial fantasies. These have the potential, much research suggests, of eventually being acted out—to the destruction of the individual and others around one. Many become desensitized to the abnormality of the behaviour portrayed. In time, they accept and embrace what at first had shocked and offended them. Eventually, there is a tendency and temptation to act out what they have witnessed. Appetite has been whetted and conscience anesthetized. And everyone is vulnerable—even good people. Following sociocultural principles, community mental health treatment programs allow clients, particularly those with severe psychological difficulties, to receive treatment in familiar surroundings as they try to recover. #RandolphHarris 1 of 11

In 1963, President Kennedy called for such a “bold new approach” to the treatment of mental disorders—a community approach that would enable most people with psychological problems to receive services from nearby agencies rather than distant facilities or institutions. Congress passed the Community Mental Health Act soon after, launching the community mental health movement across the United States of America. A number of other countries launched similar movements. A key principle of community treatment is prevention. Here clinicians actively reach out to clients rather than wait for them to seek treatment. Research suggests that such efforts are often very successful. Community workers recognize three types of prevention, which they call primary, secondary, and tertiary. Primary prevention consists of efforts to improve community attitudes and policies. Its goal is to prevent psychological disorders altogether. Community workers may lobby for better community recreational programs or child-care facilities, consult with a local school board to help develop a curriculum, or offer health fairs or public workshops on stress reduction. Secondary prevention consists f identifying and treating psychological disorders in the early stages, before they become serious. Community workers may work with schoolteachers, ministers, or police to help them recognize the early signs of psychological dysfunction and teach them hoe to help people find treatment. The goal of tertiary prevention is to provide effective treatment as soon as it is needed so that moderate or severe disorders do not become long-term problems. #RandolphHarris 2 of 11

Today community agencies across the United States of America do successfully offer tertiary care for millions of people with moderate psychological problems, but they often fail to provide the services needed by hundreds of thousands with severe disturbances. Why has the community mental health approach fallen short for so many people with severe disturbances? One of the major reasons is lack of funding. In 1981, when only 750 of the 2,000 community mental health centers were in place across the United States of America, almost all federal funding was withdrawn and replaced with smaller financial grants to the states. As of 2019, there were 12,472 registered mental health treatment facilities in the United States of American. Within those, 9,766 were less than 24-hour outpatient facilities while 1,892 facilities were 24-hour inpatient facilities. So, although funding it limited, the picture is not grim. Those who need help are likely to find it. According to the American Psychological Association, 38 percent of people said their stress increased during the holiday season, which can lead to physical illness, depression, anxiety, and substance misuse. The reasons given: lack of time, financial pressure, gift-giving, and family gatherings. For someone struggling with drug or alcohol addiction, the holidays can be an especially difficult time trying to maintain sobriety. Interpersonal difficulties tend to be prolific in the lives of people with substance use problems. Research on interpersonal communication indicates that many such individuals also have problems with social skills. This may make them unable to resist peer pressure to initiate substance use, and/or may cause them to seek consolation in substance use when they have trouble resolving issues with other people. #RandolphHarris 3 of 11

A distinct literature has emerged on alcoholism and family-of-orientation experiences. Problems such as poor distance regulations, parenting problems, interpersonal conflict, and marital distress are clearly evident in families affected by an adult member’s alcoholism (sometimes referred to as “alcoholic families”). Paradoxically, for some such families, alcohol consumption may actually bring temporary stability to their interactions. The interpersonal conflict that is evident in family interactions also spills over into general personal relationships, such as those with peers and coworkers. Another distinct literature exists on adolescent substance use. This literature is dominated by a focus on family-of-origin experiences (although factors in the other three domains may play roles as well). Many young people who use and misuse drugs come from families with low cohesion and excessive adaptability; histories of maltreatment and parental modeling of the substance use behaviour are also evident in their family backgrounds. Interpersonal problems associated with substance use disorders may be complicated by comorbidity with other psychological problems that are disruptive to interpersonal communication and relationships, such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorders, and personality disorders. Most of the research reviewed in this report focuses on substance or alcohol dependence or abuse. Substance use studies are only considered for adolescent populations, as these are thought to identify the mechanisms that lead to abuse and/or dependence. This distinction between substance use and misuse is a social construction, and one that our society is still struggling with. #RandolphHarris 4 of 11

American society permits (and in some cases sanctions) the use of certain drugs, such as caffeine, nicotine, marijuana, and alcohol. However, some people believe that when children or adolescents are involved, the use of any drug is problematic and takes on the quality of a drug “problem.” Regardless of the veracity of this assumption, this is part of the reason why there has been considerable research attention paid to substance use in adolescents. Similarly, some feel that the use of any illegal drug by adults or children is problematic, again blurring the use and abuse distinction. Also, the diagnostic criteria for substance abuse (exempli gratia, failure to fulfill important occupational, social, or domestic roles as a result of substance use) may not be valid when applied to adolescents. A distinct body of literature exists on interpersonal concomitants of alcoholism, and this research is examined separately from that on other substance use problems. As noted above, alcohol is for the most part a socially accepted substance, so long as its use falls within certain parameters. There is reason to suspect a priori that the interpersonal consequences of alcohol abuse/dependence may differ from those of other substance abuse/dependence, due to the greater social stigma and lesser social tolerance of such substances as cocaine, heroin, and amphetamine. However, it is again important to remember that the different interpersonal reactions to people who are dependent on alcohol versus other drugs are not due to inherent differences in the nature of the substance, but rather are the results of social convention. Like other mental health problems, alcoholism has been associated with poor social skills in some studies. However, unlike the literature on other mental health problems, social skills deficits in this population have received only limited scientific attention, and the associated findings are more equivocal. #RandolphHarris 5 of 11

Contact with inpatients in an alcohol treatment program led researcher to note that many of these inpatients reported having interpersonal problems. In particular, they appeared to have deficiencies in social skills in the context of interactions with coworkers and bosses (exempli gratia, being underassertive, engaging in “explosive” verbal behaviour). For many patients, work-related problems led to problem drinking. Another study of inpatients with alcoholism found that they performed poorly on a facial expression decoding task. This unique investigation of social decoding skills found that these inpatients exhibited a general bias to overestimate the intensity of emotion conveyed by various facial expressions, and to interpret happy facial expressions as indicative of negative mood. Finally, it was also found that those with alcoholism are more likely than those without to experience anxiety over communication with other people. In a rare study of adolescents with problem drinking, it there was discovered a fairly linear association between 13- to 16-year-olds’ social skill and their drinking behaviour. A group of teens who did not drink had the highest social skills scores, followed by those who drank to some extent, and then those with problem drinking. In this study, 11 percent of those who drank and 50 percent of those with problem drinking were in the “incompetent” range on the social skills measure. Although some people with alcoholism may exhibit social skills deficits, it is also evident that some are quite functional socially. For example, researchers conducted an extensive assessment of social skills in inpatients with alcoholism through a series of role plays that called for such responses as alcohol refusal, assertion, and expressing positive sentiments. #RandolphHarris 6 of 11

Compared to a group of firefighters who served as a control group, the inpatients were rated as being less skillful in the alcohol refusal situations, but not in other social contexts. Furthermore, the inpatients actually performed better than the control group on an index of speech dysfluencies during their role plays. In a similar study, subjects with alcoholism performed better than psychiatric controls on role-play tests of social skills. When alcoholic subjects were asked to give their “typical” response in role-play social skills tests, they performed worse than controls, but when admonished to “give the very best response,” they were indistinguishable from controls. Research on social skills and alcoholism shows that poor social skills may be a problem in some cases of alcoholism. However, there is good reason to suspect that these skills deficits are not global or pervasive. Rather, they may be limited to social contexts such as negative assertion and refusal of alcohol when offered. In addition, when those with alcoholism do have problems with social skills, the problems may be due more to poor execution of the skills than to a lack of capacity for such skills. It is also possible that in such cases, prolonged problem drinking may deteriorate people’s motivation and energy for producing interpersonally skilled behaviour. When adversity comes knocking on the door or calamities occur, some people immediately think they have done something wrong, that God surely must be punishing them. They do not understand that God has a divine purpose for every challenge that comes into our lives. He does not send problems, but sometimes He allows us to go through them. “Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though some strange thing were happening to you,” reports 1 Peter 4.12. #RandolphHarris 7 of 11

Notice, the trial is intended to test your character, to test your faith. In other words, “Do not think it is a big deal when you go through these touch times.” If you will learn to cooperate with God and be quick to change and correct the areas He brings to light, then you will pass that test and you will be promoted to a new level. I have discovered that God is more interested in changing me than He is in changing my circumstances. I am not saying that God will not deliver us from our struggles by changing the circumstances. Certainly, He can and often does. However, most of the time, we are tested in the areas where we are the weakest. The Priest of God should approach the celebration of this Sacrament, the touching and consuming of this Sacrament, with humility and reverence, with full faith and pious intention to the honours of God. As for our conscience, give it a thorough going-over. Clean it up and clarify it with True Contrition and Humble Confession. Jesus Christ knows there is no such thing as the perfect Confession; just do the best one can, however imperfect it may seem at the time. The result is to rid ourselves of mortal sin; that is to say, anything that would bar our access to the Holy Table. One can never be truly happy because one is a sinful creature from the start, and one should be particularly sad about one’s daily excesses. Whenever time allows, one should confess to God in secret how one’s passions run wild, one’s concupiscence hoot and holler. Well, one asked for it, and here it is. A veritable litany of venial sins derived from a so-so spiritual life. So enslaved by one’s external senses, and yet so often enthralled in one’s airy fantasies. So deeply involved in the outer life, and yet so uninvolved about the inner life. #RandolphHarris 8 of 11

God often uses adversities to bring to light impurities in our characters, or areas in which we need to improve. God deliberately uses some situations as a mirror, so we can recognize the problem in ourselves and learn to deal with it. He is working something out of us so we can rise to a new level and be the people He really want us to be. God may use people and situations in one’s life to help one better see oneself. One’s own husband or wife, one’s in-laws, or one’s own children may be the unwitting mirrors that God uses to reveal areas where one needs to change. Just because you do not like your boss and he irritates you to no end, and you do not know why you have to work with him all day long, does not mean it is him who needs to change. Have you considered that God may want to change you? God may have purposely arranged for you to be in close proximity to that person who grates against you. He may be trying to teach you how to love your enemies. Or, He may be trying to toughen you up a little and teach you to have some endurance, to not run from everything that is hard, uncomfortable, or inconvenient. God is not going to change anyone you are dealing with until He first changes you. However, if you will quit complaining about everybody around you and, instead, start taking a good look inside and working with God to change you, God will change those other people. Begin today to examine your own heart and see if there are attitudes and motives that you need to change. So lithe to weep tears of laughter, and yet so loath to shed tears of sorrow. So quick to languor and torpor, and yet so slow to rigour and fervour. So conversant with the lively and the lovely, and yet so confounded by the sickly and the lowly. #RandolphHarris 9 of 11

So desirous when it comes to having, and yet so parsimonious when it comes to giving, and yet so tenacious when it comes to what you already have. So inconsiderate when talking, and yet so restless when listening. So disorderly when it comes to manners, and yet so reckless when it comes to actions. So overwhelming when it comes to the food on the table, and yet so underwhelming when it comes to the Word of God. So quick to quiet, and yet so slow to labour. So alert for courtly stories, and yet so drowsy when it comes to nightly vigils. So swift off the mark, and yet so rambling when it comes to the tape. So negligent in reciting the Holy Office, so tepid in celebrating the Mass, so arid in communicating the Host. SO easily distracted, and yet so rarely recollected. So quick to pleasure oneself, and yet so quick to displeasure others. So prone to quick decision and yet so supine when it comes to calm discussion. So exhilarated in prosperity, and yet so debilitated in adversity. So able to draw up a long agenda, and yet so unable to make a short list. So much for the No-No’s as derived from the lives of the So-So’s! Confess these and your other defects. Express great pain and displeasure at your continuing self-infirmity. Make a firm purpose to amend your life. Promise to do better. Then, with full resignation and yet wholeness of will, offer yourself, in honour of Jesus Christ’s name, as a perpetual holocaust on the altar of your heart. Faithfully commit your body and soul to Jesus Christ. Then and only then will you worthily deserve to approach the Holy Table to offer sacrifice to God and receive the Sacrament of Jesus Christ’s Body to salubrious effect. #RandolphHarris 10 of 11

No oblation is worthier and no satisfaction for getting rid of sins is greater than to offer oneself to God, pure and whole, when the bread and wine are offered up as Jesus’ Body and Blood, both in Mass and Communion. If one looks into oneself and is truly sorry for one’s sins, then one can come to Jesus as often as is necessary for forgiveness and grace. “I live, says the Lord; so why would I want the sinner to die? I just want one to reform one’s ways and live’; that is the Prophet Ezekiel to the captives of Babylon (33.11). “One’s sins I will stop recording, and one’s punishments I will see excused’; that is the Prophet Isaiah putting words into the Lord’s mouth (43.35). Dear Lord in Heaven, I want to be quick to change when You show me areas in which I need to improve. Please give me the courage, strength, and will to make the changes, and the patience to allow Your transforming process to do the complete work in me. O bless this people, Lord, who seek their own face under the mask and can hardly recognize it. O bless this people that breaks its bond and with them, all the peoples of Europe, all the peoples of Asia, all the peoples of Africa, all the peoples of America, who sweat blood and sufferings. And see, in the midst of these millions of waves the sea swell of the heads of my people. And grant to their warm hands that they may clasp the Earth in a girdle of brotherly hands, beneath the rainbow of peace. We thankfully acknowledge that Thou art the Lord our God and God of our fathers, the God of all that lives, our Creator and Creator of the Universe. We offer blessings and thanksgiving to Thy great and holy name because Thou hast kept us in life and sustained us; so mayest Thou continue to keep us in life and sustain us. O gather our exiles into the courts of Thy holy sanctuary to observe Thy statutes, to do Thy will, and to serve Thee with a perfect heart. We give thanks unto Thee. Blessed be God to whom we are ever grateful. #RandolphHarris 11 of 11

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Residence One at Mills Station holds 1,932 square feet of single story living. The open concept design includes three bedrooms, two bathrooms and a two car garage.

Each home includes a Home Hub located at the front of the home which can be used as a study, playroom or sitting room.

The Original Unresolved Situation with the Boss Will Not Change Magically!

The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children. Sociocultural theories have helped spur the growth of several treatment approaches. In culture-sensitive therapy, therapists seek to fully understand the cultural background of their clients and address cultural issues that may be linked to the individuals’ problems. In group therapy, therapists meet with a group of clients who all share similar problems. In family and couple therapy, the therapist and clients are joined by other family members. And in community treatment, the meetings take place in or near the client’s everyday environment. Therapists of any orientation may work with clients in these various formats, applying the techniques and principles of their preferred models. In cultural sensitive therapy, for example, a psychodynamic therapist may continue to view a client’s problems as manifestations of underlying conflict yet also pay attention to the individual’s cultural background and its impact on current functioning. Similarly, group therapists may follow the principles of psychodynamic, behavioural, cognitive, or humanistic therapy in their work with group members. In such instances the therapy approach is not purely sociocultural. However, more and more of the clinicians who use these formats believe that psychological problems emerge in a social setting and are best treated in such a setting and they include special sociocultural strategies in their work. A number of recent studies have found that people from ethnic and marginalized racial groups improve less in clinical treatment than members of the majority group. #RandolphHarris 1 of 21

Studies have been conducted throughout the World and have found that marginalized clients use mental health services less often than members of majority groups. Several factors may contribute to this underuse of services, as we have already discussed. However, in some cases, cultural beliefs, a language barrier, or lack of information about available services presents marginalized individuals from seeking help. In other cases, members of marginalized groups to not have the establishment, relying instead on traditional remedies that are available in their immediate social environment. Research also indicates that members of marginalized groups stop therapy sooner than persons from majority groups. This is perhaps because marginalized racial and ethnic groups may experience oppression and racism that they are not able to resolve because the government, nor those in leadership possession care and refuse to enforce the law, which causes mental distress for individual, which therapy and medication cannot sure since it is an external problem not a mental manifestation. And one can talk about it and medicate an individual until the end of days, but unless the true catalyst causing this distress is dealt with, nothing will change. In the United States of American, African Americans, Native Americans, Asian Americans, and Hispanic Americas all have higher therapy dropout rates than European Americans. Members of such groups may stop treatment because they do not feel they are benefiting from it or because ethnic and racial differences prevent the development of a strong rapport with their therapist. #RandolphHarris 2 of 21

When the Lord revealed to Moses the great purpose of life, He expressed Himself in these words: “For behold, this is my work and my glory—to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man,” reports Moses 1.39. Therefore, the Lord’s work is to bring about the resurrection (immortality of all of His Father’s children and make it possible for them to receive exaltation or godhood (eternal life). When one comes to understand these purposes, one’s heart rejoices in the knowledge that the greatest blessing available to man—godhood—may be received by those who desire it with all their hearts. In a glorious sermon preached by the Prophet Joseph Smith, this same fundamental purpose of Earth life was expressed—except that this time the other side of the matter, humankind’s responsibility, was emphasized: “You have got to learn how to be Gods yourselves, and to be kinds and priests to God.” Fundamental to our understanding of the reason for existence in mortality is our knowledge that men and women were born as spirit children of the Eternal Father and that Jesus Christ is our elder brother in the spirit. Because their status is transcendently greater than ours, we stand in awe at the thought of one day becoming as they. Nevertheless, we are begotten spirit children of the Eternal Father—born in the lineage of the gods—and we have within us the power, through the atonement of Jesus Christ, to rise to the heights of godhood. Earth life, a necessary part of eternal progression, is the proving ground for the exalted-to-be, a state in which we are undergoing a period of testing and proving to see if we will do the Lord’s will. “Then shall they be gods, because they have no end; therefore shall they be from everlasting to everlasting, because they continue; then shall they be above all, because all the things are subject unto them. Then shall they be gods, because they have all power, and the angels are subject unto them,” reports Doctrine and Covenants 132.20. #RandolphHarris 3 of 21

How can clinicians be more helpful to people from marginalized groups? A number of studies suggest that two features of treatment can increase a therapist’s effectiveness with marginalized clients: greater therapist sensitivity to cultural issues, and inclusion of cultural morals and models in treatment, especially in therapies for children and adolescents. Given such findings, clinicians have developed culture-sensitive therapies, approaches that seek to address the unique issues faces by members of marginalized groups. These approaches often include such feature as raising the consciousness of marginalized-group clients about the impact of the dominant culture and of their own culture on their self-views and behaviours, helping clients to express suppressed anger and pain, and helping clients to make choices that work for them and to achieve a bicultural balance that feels right for them. Therapies geared to the special pressures of being a woman in the New World society, called for gender-sensitive or feminists’ therapies, following similar principles. Victims of hate—the ongoing memorial services for Mr. Matthew Shepard, brutally beaten to death in 1998 because of his homosexual orientation, is a powerful reminder of the prejudice, discrimination, and even danger that members of marginalized groups can confront in our society. Culture-sensitives therapies seek to address the special impact of such stressors upon individuals, as well as other psychological issues. When a family member is addicted to alcohol or drugs, the whole family must deal with the situation. Family members may feel embarrassed or ashamed that their loved one is struggling with an addiction, and they may think they should handle the problem privately. However, outside help may be needed. A family should use any appropriate resources that are available to them, such as professional resources where necessary. #RnadolphHarris 4 of 21

Family members will find that love is more effective than shame or control in motivating addicts to change. If addicts feel shame—in other words, if they feel that they are inherently bad or unworthy because of their addiction—they may turn to alcohol or drugs to help dull the pain associated with tht shame. Christlike love, on the other hand, can give an addict hope and can help change the most desperate situation. However, love does not mean acceptance of sinful behaviour. Substance use disorders are divided into two groups: Substance dependence and substance abuse. Substance dependence involves a maladaptive pattern of substance use, associated with symptoms such as tolerance (the need for increased amounts to achieve the desired effect); withdrawal (physical and psychological distress associated with cessation); taking more of the substance, or taking the substance for longer periods of time, than intended; a persistent desire to ingest the substance; spending a great deal of time securing the substance for use; disruption of social, occupational, or recreational activities as a result of the substance use; and continuation despite awareness of problems associated with the substance use. As evident from these diagnostic criteria, interpersonal impairment (in the form of reduced or abandoned social, occupational, and recreational activities) is a fundamental symptom of substance dependence, although it is not necessary for a diagnosis. The primary feature of substance abuse is a maladaptive pattern of substance use that is associated with adverse effects. These adverse effects include, for example, failure to fulfill important occupational, social, or domestic roles; using the substance in such a way as to create physical hazards (such as driving an Ultimate Driving Machines (vehicle) while intoxicated. #RandolphHarris 5 of 21

Legal problems associated with the use of the substance are also adverse effects; along with continued use of the substance despite interpersonal problems that are caused or exacerbated by its use. Here again, interpersonal problems figure in the symptoms of substance abuse. Alcoholism is a specific class of the more general diagnosis of substance use disorders. The term alcoholism is generally used to refer to alcohol dependence and/or alcohol abuse. The defining features of alcohol dependence are the same as those of substance dependence more generally. What distinguishes alcohol dependence from alcohol abuse is the presence of tolerance, withdrawal, and alcohol-related compulsive behaviour in the person who is dependent on alcohol. In both cases, however, the substance is used in ways that culminate in physical, occupational, and interpersonal impairment. In many cases, these impairments may be evident before the onset of symptoms, leading to the observation that some people may use alcohol and/or drugs to cope with the very problems that their heavy use exacerbates. Results from the Epidemiologic Catchment Area study indicate that among people over 18 years of age in any given year, 7.4 percent will experience some form of alcohol use disorder, and 9.5 percent will experience some form of substance use disorder, alcoholism included. Lifetime prevalence estimates from National Comorbidity Survey are 14.1 percent for alcohol dependence and 9.4 percent for alcohol abuse. The lifetime prevalence for any substance abuse or dependence is nearly 27 percent. Among 17-year-olds, the point prevalence of substance abuse or dependence is just over 10 percent, and surveys of American high school students show that drug use has been on the rise since the early 1990s. Substance use disorders are about twice as common in men as in women. For men, the lifetime prevalence for any substance abuse or dependence is a staggering 35.4 percent. #RandolphHarris 6 of 21

There is an interesting relationship among gender, depression, and alcohol abuse/dependence. When men become depressed, they often seek solace in alcohol. Consequently, when their distress brings them to the attention of government authorities or health care professionals, they are prone to be diagnosed as having alcoholism rather than depression. This may, in part, account for the 2.1 ratio of female to male diagnoses for major depression. In a unique study of mood disorders among the Amish, an American subculture in which alcohol use in prohibited, the rates of such disorders were found to be one-half of what they were in the general population, and virtually identical in males and females. An obvious conclusion is that in the general population, alcoholism may mask depression in males. Living a successful life now is not always easy; sometimes it is downright difficult. For instance, you may be experiencing some sort of adversity in your daily life; you may not be exactly where you want t be physically, emotionally, intellectually, or spiritually. Someone close to you may be hard to get along with. Or maybe you have other obstacles in your path. Regardless of what is going on in our life, do not use that as an excuse to live in discouragement and despair. Understand, the tough times of life cause us to grow; that is when our faith is stretched. That is when God is doing a work in us. It may be uncomfortable. We may not like it, but if we can keep the right attitude, God has promised to use that difficulty for our good. He will use it for our advantage. If God were to remove that adversity, you would not be prepared for what He ahs in store for you. I know that can be hard to understand. We think, “God, why am I still in this situation?” “God, why do I have to work around these people I do not like?” Or, “Why am I still having these difficulties?” #RandolphHarris 7 of 21

That is the wrong approach. Our attitude should be, “God, I understand You are in complete control of my life, and You have got me exactly where You want me to be, so I am going to stay filled with faith. I am going to stay full of joy and keep pressing on, knowing that You care for me and will use these difficulties to my advantage.” Your faith is similar to a muscle. It grows stronger through resistance. It is exercised when it is being stretched, when it is being pushed to the limits. That is why God does not usually deliver us from adversity overnight. He does not remove us from every uncomfortable situation in a split second. God uses those times to build our spiritual bank accounts. Some people live in despair and disappointment, all because their circumstances are not exactly what they desire them to be. People like that are not going to be happy unless everything is going their way, everybody is treating them right, and they are immune from experiencing discomfort. In other words, they probably never will be happy! Besides, that is a very shallow way to life. If you lose your joy every time something negative happens to you, then the enemy will continue to attack. He will make sure you always have somebody in your life who irritates you, or some situation that is going to keep you sour. However, do not make that mistake. Our Scripture says that, “the steps of a good human are ordered by the LORD,” reports Psalm 37.23. If God is directing our steps, we can be confident that He is aware of our circumstances. If one does not learn to be happy where one is, one will never get to where one wants to be. One may be dealing with difficult circumstances and may have a thousand reasons why one could be unhappy, but do not slip into that trap. #RandolphHarris 8 of 21

Choose to enjoy each day in spite of one’s circumstances. Every day that one lives with a negative attitude, dominated by one’s discouragements, is a day one has wasted. And what a shame to waste what God has given us! Understand, adversities are simply a test of one’s faith. Perhaps God wants to see how one will treat other people when one is not being treated well. God may want to see how one is going to respond if one does not get the promotion one was hoping for. If one’s prayers are not answered as quickly as one would like, what kind of attitude is one going to have? In tough times, our characters develop. Something happens on the inside; God is causing us to grow up. If He delivered us instantaneously from every problem, we would never need any faith. Moreover, we would never develop into the persons God really wants us to be. The Scripture says, “God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose,” reports Romans 8.28. One may be in a difficult situation today. One may be in a hard place in one’s finances. Friend, God will not allow a difficulty to come into one’s life unless He has a purpose for it. Granted, there are times when we cannot understand what we are going through or why, but we must learn to trust God and believe that He is going to being some kind of good out of it. Dear Lord in Heaven, I may not understand this situation, this World, these same people, but wide unclasp the tables of my thoughts. This situation may not be good, but I know You will work it for my good. It is stretching me. I know I am growing, and I am building up my spiritual bank account, and am going to come out of this stronger, happier, healthier, and better off than I was previously. #RandolphHarris 9 of 21

All one has to do now is offer sacrifice to God at the appropriate times and places and see that one’s behaviour is above reproach. However, when all the dignities of the Priesthood newly heaped upon one, one might expect that one could slough one’s other burdens, lighten one’s lead, that sort of thing. Yes, one could think that, but just the opposite is true. Now one is bound with a tighter chain of discipline, and one is held to a higher level of holiness. The Priest’s conduct should show off all the virtues to their best advantage; that is what the Letter of Titus urged (2.7). That is to say, in one’s daily round the Priest should show that the good and virtuous life can indeed be lived on this Earth. As for one’s conversation, one should shy away from the things people like to gossip about. Rather, one should save one’s own talk for the Angels in Heaven—an echo of Philippians (3.20)—and the other humans on this Earth who are seeking perfection. The Priest clothed in sacred vestments carries on what Jesus Christ began. In Christ’s stead, yet as a humble suppliant, representing not only oneself, but all the rest of the populace, one speaks in our behalf to God the Father; sounds like Hebrews (5.3). On the front and back of one’s vestment, to make one mindful of the Passion of Christ, one wears the sign of the cross. The one on the front of the chasuble reminds one to look for the footprints of Christ and to follow them fervently; Jesus is making a passing reference here to First Peter (2.21). The one on the back of the chasuble, to bear up under whatever the mob will toss at one. The cross in front reminds one to mourn for clemency for one’s own sins. The one in the back, to lament through compassion the sins of others and know that one oneself is an intermediary between God and sinner. May the priest not lose one’s interest in prayer and offering the Holy Sacrifice. Rather, one should hammer these home until one deserves, somehow, to receive Grace and Mercy. #RandolphHarris 10 of 21

When the Priest celebrates Mass, one honours God, cheers up the Angels, strengthens the fabric of the Church, helps the living, and gives rest to the dead. And one makes oneself partaker of all good things between God and Humankind. “I will give unto thee the keys of the kingdom of Heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt bind on Earth shall be bound in Heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt loose on Earther, shall be loosed in Heaven,” reports Matthew 16.19. The authority of binding and loosing is on Earth. One has that authority. One translation says, “You have authority to bind what is bound in Heaven and to loose what is loosed in Heaven.” Ask yourself, “What is bound in Heaven?” The curse is bound in Heaven. There is no poverty there, no sickness, no sorrow, no pain. Jesus said we have authority to bind those things here on Earth. Prayer is one of the ways to bind and loose. “Pray ye…Thy will be done in Earth, as it is in Heaven,” reports Matthew 6.10. How is it in Heaven? What is loosed there? Abundance, life, happiness, health, joy, peace, and Jesus Christ gave you authority to loose those things here on Earth. Words bind and loose. Your words are your bond. Your words are you authority in the Earth. Whoever shall say and shall not doubt in one’s heart, but shall believe that those things which one saith shall come to pass; one shall have whatsoever one saith. The things you say are the things you will eventually believe. The things you believe are the things you will eventually receiver. What will you say—poverty or wealth? What will you bind—sickness or health? What will you loose—fear or faith? One can release the ability of God through the words of one’s mouth—or one can talk one’s problem, pray one’s problem, hold fast to one’s problem, and one’s problem will become greater. If one talks one’s problem until one’s neighbour’s start believing it, they will tell someone else about it. Soon one will have a whole group of people believing that one has a problem. Then one does have a problem! For Jesus said, “if two of you shall agree on Earth,” reports Matthew 18.19. #RandolphHarris 11 of 21

Does one seek what speaking one’s problem will do? Do not ever talk one’s problem before people that believe in problems. Find someone that believes in answers from the Word, someone that will agree that the problem is removed. “Let go of the problem and cast the whole of your care over on the Lord,” reports 1 Peter 5.7. Take hold of the answer. Hold fast to the answer until that is all one can see. The story is told of a lady that looked out her back door and saw her three children playing with three little skunks. She shouted, “Run, kids, run!” And they did. Each one grabbed up their little skunk and took off running! That reminds me so much of Christians who bring their problems to the alter and say, “Here is the problem, Lord,” but when they get up, they take their stinky problem with them! They go home and worry about it all night. If they are worrying over it, they still have it. They have not left it with God. For example, let us suppose one has an antique Civil War watch from the Battle of Monocacy that does not run. One takes it to a jeweler and asks one to fix it for one. As one is holding it in one’s hand, one keeps asking one when One is going to fix it. One replies, “When you give it to Me.” If one has the watch (problem), God cannot fix it. However, when God has the problem, one does not have it any more. It is foolish to worry over something one does not have. When one is holding onto the problem, God’s hands are bound. When one turns it loose, then God can do something about it. “Casting all your care upom Him; for He careth for you,” reports 1 Peter 5.7. One did not say to pray that God will take your cares. God will not take them from one. One instructs one to get rid of them by casting all one’s cares upon God. He will not take them, but He will receive them. We are to hold fast to the confession and not to the problem. Hold fast to the confession, I believe that I receive when I pray. #RandolphHarris 12 of 21

When someone says, “Things sure do not look too good,” just reply, “I am not moved by how things look, or how I feel. I am moved by what I believe and I believe that it was settled when I prayed.” Jesus said, “When ye pray, believe that ye receive them and ye shall have them,” reports Mark 11.24. “One that believeth…hath,” reports John 6.47. “One shall have whatsoever one saith,” reports Mark 11.23. “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh,” reports Matthew 12.34. “A good human out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things,” reports Matthew 12.35. Anger in a relationship is like salt in a meal. Too little leaves things drab and tasteless. Too much poisons. However, a pinch now and then makes for a savory friendship All people feel angry from time to time. It is a natural and important feeling. However, many Christians have been conditioned to see anger as an undesirable response. And it is true that anger can be expressed in manipulative ways. The Critical Christian uses anger to manipulate self and others. One is stuck on the anger polarity. What the Critical Christian and all of us need to learn is how to deal with our anger in actualizing ways. One can choose to eexpress oneself angrily most of the time or one may choose never to express one’s anger, but it usually comes out in some manner. Anger that is not sufficiently acknowledged or expressed creates an unfinished situation within. The repressed anger then comes out in indirect and unconscious ways. For instance, then man who gets mad at his boss, but keeps smiling in order not to make waves, may go home and yell at his spouse over some trivial event. The spouse then displaces her anger onto the children, who may in their turn kick the Nacho (the dog). All this displacement causes confusion, hurt feelings, and no constructive gain of awareness for anyone. #RandolphHarris 13 of 21

Besides this, the original unresolved situation with the boss will not change magically. Rather it will fester like a painful sore. In feeling angry toward another person, one should first seek within oneself for the source of the irritation and communicate honestly with oneself about the cause. Then, if it would be constructive, one can find some way to honestly let the other person know so that the person can take the feeling into account. Otherwise, the other person is left in the dark, and the relationship may turn sour It is or this reason that Paul writes: “If you are angry, do not sin by burnings your grudge. Do not let the sun go down with you still angry—get it over quickly,” reports Ephesians 4.26. Paul encourages the Christians to learn how to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4.15). For the actualizing Christian, anger is expressed as responsible assertion. It reflects sensitivity to oneself and others. It involves learning to stand on one’s own feet and take up for oneself or others when it is appropriate to do so. The point most people miss regarding anger is that our anger is a part of us. It does not belong to the other person in the sense that the other person created our anger. Our anger is our response to that person’s behaviour. If people remembered this and did not blame others, the expression of anger would be much more constructive. Second Wave civilization gave us the comfortable assurance that we knew (or at least could know) what caused things to happen. It told us that every phenomenon occupied a unique, determinable location in space and time. It told us that the same condition always produced the same results. It told us that the entire Universe consisted, so to speak, of cue sticks, and billiard balls—causes and effect. #RandolphHarris 14 of 21

This mechanistic view of causality was—and still is—extremely useful. It helps us cure disease, build giant skyscrapers, design ingenious machines, and assemble huge organizations. Yet, powerful as it is in explaining phenomena that work like simple machines, it has proved far less satisfactory in explaining phenomena like growth, decay, sudden breakthroughs to new levels of complexity, big changes that suddenly fizzle out or, conversely, those tiny—often chance—events that occasionally mushroom into giant, explosive forces. Today the Newtonian pool table is being shoved into a corner of the cosmic playroom. Mechanistic causality is seen as a special case applying to some but not al phenomena, and scholars and scientists all over the World are piecing together a new view of change and causation more in keeping with our rapidly changing view of nature, evolution, and progress, of time, space, and matter. The Japanese-born epistemologist Magoroh Maruyama, the French sociologist Edgar Morin, information theorists like Stafford Beer and Henri Laborit, and many others are providing clues to how causation works in nonmechanical systems that live, die, grow, and undergo both evolution and revolution. The Belgian Nobel Prize-winner, Ilya Prigogine, offers us a staggering synthesis of the ideas of order and chaos, chance and necessity, and how these relate to causation. In part, the emerging Third Wave causality arises from a key concept of systems theory: the idea of feedback. A classic example used to illustrate this notion is the home thermostat that maintains room temperature at an even level. The thermostat turns on the furnace, the monitors the resulting temperature rise. When the room is warm enough, it turns the furnace off. When the temperature falls, it senses this change in its environment and flicks the furnace on again. #RandolphHarris 15 of 21

What we see here is a feedback process that preserves equilibrium, damping down or suppressing change when it threatens to exceed a given level. Called “negative feedback,” its function is to maintain stability. Once negative feedback was defined and explored by information theorists and systems thinkers in the late 1940’s and early 1950’s, scientists began looking for examples or analogues of it. And with rising excitement, they found similar stability-protecting systems in every field from physiology (for example, the process by which the body maintains its temperature) to politics (as in the way an “establishment” damps out dissent when it goes beyond an acceptable level). Negative feedback seemed to be at work all around us, causing things to retain their equilibrium or stability. By the early 1960’s, however, critics like Professor Maruyama began to note that too much attention was being paid to stability and not enough to change. What was needed, he argued, was more research on “positive feedback”—processes that do not suppress change but amplify it, do not maintain stability but challenge it, sometimes even overwhelming it. Positive feedback, Professor Maruyama emphasized, can take a small deviation or “kick” in the system and magnify it into a giant structure-threatening shudder. If the first kind of feedback was change-reducing or “negative,” here was a whole class of processes that were change-amplifying or “positive,” and both needed equal attention. Positive feedback could illuminate causation in many previously puzzling processes. Because positive feedback breaks stability and feeds on itself, it helps explain vicious circles—and virtuous ones. Imagine the thermostat again, but with its sensor or its trigger mechanism reversed. Every time the room got warm, the thermostat, instead of shutting off the furnace, would click in on, forcing the temperature to hotter ad hotter levels. #RandolphHarris 16 of 21

Or imagine the game of Monopoly (or, for that matter, the game of real-life economics) in which the more money a player has, the more property one can buy, which means more rental income and therefore more money with which to buy property. Both are examples of positive feedback at work. Positive feedback helps explain any process that is self-excitatory—like arms race, for example, in which ever time China builds a new weapon the United States of American builds a bigger one, which then motivates China to not only build yet another one, but recruit more troops to the point of global insanity. And when we put negative and positive feedback together and see how richly these two different processes interplay in complex organisms, from the human brain to an economy, startling insights emerge. Indeed, once we as a culture recognize that any truly complex system—whether a biological organism, a city, or the international political order—is likely to have within it both change amplifiers and change reducers, positive as well as negative feedback loops interacting with one another, we begin to glimpse a whole new level of complexity in the World with which we are dealing. Our understandings of causation is advanced. Yet another leap in understanding occurs when we further recognize that these change reducers and amplifiers are not necessarily built into biological or social systems from the beginning; they may be absent at first, then grow into place, as it were, sometimes as a result of what amounts to chance. A stray event can thus trigger a fantastic chain of unexpected consequences. This tells us why change is so often so hard to track and extrapolate, so filled with surprise. #RandolphHarris 17 of 21

It is why a slow, steady process can suddenly convert into an explosive change, or vice versa. And this in turn explains why similar starting conditions may lead to sharply dissimilar outcomes—an idea alien to the Second Wave mentality. The Third Wave causality that is gradually taking shape pictures a complex World of mutually interacting forces, a World filled with astonishment, with change amplifiers as well as reducers and many other elements as well—not just billiard balls clacking predictably and endlessly against one another on the cosmic pool table. It is a World far stranger than simple Second Wave mechanism suggested. Is everything predictable in principle, as Second Wave mechanical causality implied? Or are things inherently, unavoidably unpredictable, as critics of mechanism have insisted? Are we governed by chance or necessity? Third Wave causality has exciting new things to say about this ancient contradiction as well. In fact, it helps us escape at last from the either/or trap that for so long has pitted determinists against antideterminists—necessity against chance. And this may be its most important philosophical breakthrough. Since liberty is not a fruit of every climate, it is not within the reach of all peoples. The more one meditates on this principle established by Montesquieu, the more one is aware of its truth. The more one contests it, the more occasions there are for establishing it by means of new proofs. In all the governments in the World, the public person consumes, but produces nothing. Whence therefore does it get the substance it consumes? It is from the labour of its members. It is the surplus of private individuals that produces what is needed by the public. Whence it follows that the civil state can subsist only so long as men’s labours produces more than they need. #RandolphHarris 18 of 21

On the other hand, not all governments are of the same nature. They are more or less voracious; and the differences are founded on this added principle that the greater the distance the public contributions are from their source, the more onerous they are. It is not on the basis of the amount of the taxes that this burden is to be measured, but on the basis of the path they have to travel in order to return to the hands from which they came. When this circulation is prompt and well established, it is unimportant whether one pays little or a great deal. The populace is always rich and the finances are always in good shape. One the contrary, however little populace gives, when this small amount does not return, it is soon wiped out by continual giving. The state is never rich and the populace is always destitute. It follows from this that the greater the distance between the people and the government, the more onerous the taxes become. Thus in a democracy the populace is the least burdened; in an aristocracy it is more so; in a monarchy it bears the heaviest weight. Monarchy, therefore, is suited only to wealthy nations; aristocracy to states of moderate wealth and size; democracy to the states that are small and poor. In fact, the more one reflects on it, the more one finds in it the difference between free and monarchial state. In the former, everything is used for the common utility. In the latter, the public and private forces are reciprocal, the one being augmented by the weakening of the other. Finally, instead of governing subjects in order to make them happy, despotism makes them miserable in order to govern them. Thus in each climate there are natural causes on the basis of which one can assign the form of government that the force of the climate requires, and can even say what kind of inhabitants is should have. #RandolphHarris 19 of 21

Barren and unproductive lands, where the product is not worth the labour, ought to remain uncultivated and deserted, or people only by people who do not care for civilization. Places where men’s labour yields only what is necessary ought to be inhabited by barbarous peoples; in places such as these all polity would be impossible. Places where the surplus of products over labour is moderate are suited to free peoples. Those where an abundant and fertile soil produces a great deal in return for a small amount of labour require a monarchical form of government, in order that the subject’s excess of surplus of products over labour is moderate are suited free peoples. Those where an abundant and fertile soil produces a great deal in return for a small amount of labour require a monarchial form of government than dissipated by private individuals. I realize that there are exceptions; but these exceptions themselves prove the rule, in that sooner or later they produce revolutions that restore things to the order us nature. Nevertheless the presence of an evil tyranny ought not blind. In Russia, Stalin’s dictatorial control was expounded and accepted theoretically as a purely temporary measure on the road to full democratic freedom, and so was Hilter’s dictatorial control expounded and accepted as a temporary, but ultimate ideal in itself. The dangers to which tyrants expose the human race are immeasurably larger than those to which Capitalism exposes it. For no matter how materialistic, selfish, and greedy Capitalists become, they always remain in theory an anguished and desperate attempt to win justice for the underprivileged and to compel the social whole to accept responsibility for their unavoidable sufferings. However, the ultimate trend of tyrants is only the animalization of all human capital. All that gives dignity and worth to human beings, all their ethics and rationality, all their art and idealism will disappear under tyrants within a generation or two. #RandolphHarris 20 of 21

The disfigured form of humans would thenceforth bear a close resemblance to the worst kind of beast, albeit a cunning one, whose God is Hatred. However, Capitalism has its superiority at most, in that it took America out of Communism (slavery), and arose by allowing the inspiration of great hope. Slavery forces the World unwillingly into a struggle to the death, and the leaders of Communism are now forcing the World into that same kind of struggle. The human race is being made to chalk out a boundary line and to take sides in preparation for the inevitable. The responsibility for this degeneration does not lie with those who still believe in the ideals of freedom and truth, but with those who reject these ideals. The guilt does not let with those who seek to defend themselves against the aggressions of an evil doctrine, it lies with those who spread this doctrine by every means, including the most criminal means. Now with my hands but with my heart I bless you: may peace forever dwell within your breast! May Truth’s white light move with you and possess you—and may your thoughts and words wear her bright crest! May Time move down its endless path of beauty conscious of you and better for your being! Spring after Spring array itself in splendour seeking the favour of your sentient seeing! May hills lean toward you hills and windswept mountains, and trees be happy that have seen you pass—your eyes dark kinsmen to the stars above you—your feet remembered by the blades of grass! We thankfully acknowledge Thee, O Lord our God, our fathers’ God to all eternity. Our Rock art Thou, our Shield that saves through every generation. We give Thee thanks and we declare Thy praise for all Thy tender care. Our lives we trust into Thy loving hand. Our souls are ever in Thy charge; Thy wonders and Thy miracles are daily with us, evening, morn and noon. O Thou who art all-good, whose mercies never fail us, Compassionate One, whose lovingkindnessess never cease, we ever hope in Thee. #RandolphHarris 21 of 21

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The Genius of Impeachment is it Can Punish the Person without Punishing the Office!

The past two years have not been the most actives times for many of us. As you are aware, we have been somewhat restricted due to a condition know as growing older. I believe I now understand a bit more clearly what is meant by enduring to the end. It is difficult and frustrating not to be able to do all that we would like to do. Nevertheless, many of us still do several things. We are richly blessed and have so much to be thankful for. As we meditate upon these things, remember the words of the Lord, “For unto whomsoever much is given, of one much shall be required,” reports Luke 12.48. The Lord expects of us righteousness and obedience to His commandments in return for the bounties of life He has so richly bestowed upon us. It seems that iniquity abounds on all sides, with the Adversary taking full advantage of the time remaining to him in this day of his power. The leaders of the Church continually cry out against that which is intolerable in the sight of the Lord: against pollution of mind and body and our surroundings; against vulgarity, stealing, lying, cheating, false witness, boastful pride, blasphemy, and drunkenness; against fornication, adultery, risky lifestyles, and all other abuses of the sacred power to create; against murder and all that is like unto it; against all manner of degradation and sin. Culture refers to the set of values, attitudes, and beliefs, history, and behaviour shared by a group of people and communicated from one generation to the next. Culture often influences which behaviours are considered abnormal and how other people react to such behaviours. If, for example, a person’s friends and family value and encourage drinking large quantities of alcoholic beverage, the individual may be more inclined to turn to alcohol at times of stress and to drift into a pattern of problem drinking; and interventions for such a pattern may be avoided. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20
During the past four decades, sociocultural researchers have greatly increased their focus on possible ties between culture and abnormal behaviour. They have learned that some of the disorders we see—anorexia nervosa, agoraphobia, borderline personality disorder—are much less common in non-Western countries. It may be that key Western values—such as the importance of thin appearance, emphasis on high mobility, and endorsement of emotional expression—help set the stage for such disorders. Sociocultural theorists are also concerned with the social networks in which people operate, including their social and professional relationships. How well do they communicate with others? What kind of signals do they send to or receiver from others? Researchers have often found ties between deficiencies in social networks and a person’s functioning. They have noted, for example, that people who are isolated and lack social support or intimacy in their lives are more likely to become depressed when under stress and to remain depressed longer than people with supportive spouses or warm friendships. Wide-ranging societal conditions may create special stresses and increase the likelihood of abnormal functioning in some members. Researchers have learned, for example, that psychological abnormality, especially severe psychological abnormality, is more common in the lower socioeconomic classes than in the higher ones. Perhaps the special pressures of the lower-class life explain this relationship. That is, the higher rates of crime, unemployment, overcrowding, and homelessness; the inferior medical care; and the limited educational opportunities of lower-class life may place great stress on members of these groups. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20

Conversely, it may be that people who suffer from severe mental disturbances are less effective at work and earn less money and, as a result, drift downward to a lower socioeconomic class. Sociocultural researchers have noted that racial and sexual prejudice and discrimination may also contribute to certain forms of abnormal functioning. Women in Western society receive diagnoses of anxiety and depressive disorders at least twice as often as men. Similarly, African America experience unusually high rates of anxiety disorders. Hispanic persons, particularly young men, have higher rates of alcoholism than members of most other ethnic groups. And Native Americas display exceptionally high alcoholism and suicide rates. Although many factors may combine to produce these differences, racial and sexual prejudice and the problems they pose may contribute to abnormal patterns of tension, unhappiness, low self-esteem, and escape. The pressures and uncertainty of living in a war-torn environment, which many people believe the United States of America has become with all the violence, rioting, looting, fake news, pandemic, and traffic fatalities, may contribute to the development of psychological problems. The environment’s ongoing violence may leave some individuals feeling numb and confused. Also, more people are frequently moving away from the church and being taught that it is okay to be dysfunctional. Sociocultural theorists also believe that abnormal functioning is influenced greatly by the labels and role assigned to troubled people. When people stray from the norms of their society, the society call them deviant and, in many cases, “mentally ill.” Such labels tend to stick. Moreover, when people are viewed in particular ways, reacted to as “crazy,” and perhaps even encouraged to act sick, they gradually learn to accept and play the assigned role. Ultimately the label seems appropriate. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20

A famous study by the clinical investigator David Rosenhan (1973) supports this position. Eight normal people presented themselves at various mental hospitals, complaining that they have been hearing voices say the words “empty,” “hollow,” and “thud.” On the basis of the complaint alone, each was diagnosed as having schizophrenia and admitted. As the sociocultural model would predict, the “pseudopatients” had a hard time convincing others that they were well once they had been given the diagnostic label. With that being known, some corrupt politicians and lawyers frame people from crimes, have them declared incompetent to stand trial, and then they are basically able to convict individuals without a trial, even if they are innocent. The people in this study, their hospitalizations ranged from 7 to 52 days, even the label kept influencing the way the staff viewed and dealt with them. For example, one pseudopatient who paced the corridor out of boredom was, in clinical notes, described as “nervous.” Finally, the pseudoppatients reported that the staff’s behaviour toward them and other patients was often authoritarian, limited, and counterproductive. Overall, the pseduopatients came to feel powerless, invisible, and bored. As Christians we must ever be vigilant. The way for each person and each family to guard against the slings and arrows of the Adversary and to prepare for the great Lord is to hold fast to the iron rod, to exercise greater faith, to repent of our sins, and shortcomings, and to be anxiously engaged in the work of God’s Kingdom on Earth. We must not falter nor weary in well-doing. We must lengthen our stride. Not only is out own eternal welfare at stake, but also the eternal welfare of money of our brothers and sisters. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20

Given the often disturbed parent-child relationships associated with anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa, it is not surprising that a number of other mental health problems tend to covary with these disorders. Chief among these are depressed, substance use disorders, and anxiety disorders. It is important to note that these related mental health problems may in some cases be secondary to the eating disorder, and more strongly associated with poor family relationships than with the eating disorder. The elevated incidence of BPD (borderline personality disorder) among patients with eating disorders (running at high as 40 percent) is also notable, in that symptoms of this disorder include difficulties with personal relationships, poor anger control, impulsivity, and affective instability. Also notable is the fact that childhood sexual abuse has been implicated in both BPD and bulimia nervosa. There is some evidence to suggest that the eating disorder-personality disorder comorbidity is different for different types of eating disorders. In particular, bulimia nervosa is associated with a high rate of BPD, whereas anorexia nervosa is associated with a relatively high rate of avoidant personality disorder. These differing rates of personality disorders may reflect different interpersonal mechanisms in bulimia nervosa (exempli gratia, approach-avoidance conflicts) versus anorexia nervosa (exempli gratia, concern with social evaluation). Rates of anxiety disorders also run very high among those with eating disorders. Among probands diagnosed with bulimia nervosa in one large-scale study, the comorbidity with anxiety disorders was 42 percent for phobias, 11 percent for generalized anxiety disorder, and 9 percent for panic disorder. #RandolphHarris 5 of 20

In most cases, the anxiety comes first and is followed by the eating disorder. A particular type of self-conscious social anxiety—one that causes people to be ultraconcered with appearance and thinness—many strongly contribute to the development of an eating disorder. In this case, again, a concern with interpersonal or social relations appears to be the common link between the anxiety and the eating disorder. The comorbidity of eating disorders with other interpersonally oriented mental health problems suggests that eating disorders reside in a nomological network that also holds problematic interpersonal relationships and functioning in close proximity. There is an undeniable association between eating disorders and past (id est, childhood) as well as concurrent interpersonal relationship problems. Distressed and dysfunctional family-of-origin interactions are common antecedents to both anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa. Families of people with these problems have difficulty setting and respecting appropriate boundaries, adapting to change, and containing their criticism of each other. In extreme cases, boundary violations in these families may take the form of childhood sexual abuse, particularly in the case of those who go on to develop bulimia nervosa. Parents in these families also sometimes exert inappropriate and excessive pressure to achieve on their children. Sadly, interpersonal problems do not always end when offspring with eating disorders leave their families of origin. These young adults depart from their families with dysfunctional attitudes and beliefs about close relationships with other people. They may eschew physical intimacy with others, partly out of their dissatisfaction with their own bodies, and partly out of anxiety about sexuality. Unfortunately, other people do not appear particularly eager to develop romantic or other relationships with those who have an eating disorder. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20

When people with anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa do get married, they are likely to find themselves in dissatisfying marriages. Still evident at this advanced stage of interpersonal development and experience are avoidance of physical intimacy and poor conflict-handling skills. Not surprisingly, the spouse of people with eating disorders are also unhappy with the state of their marriages. The pervasiveness and seriousness of interpersonal problems associated with eating disorders may explain why family and interpersonal therapies are so effective for their treatment. Therapies that focus on understanding and improving the interpersonal landscape of patients with eating disorders, even though they do not focus on the disorders per se, tend to be more effective for treating such disorders than traditional cognitive or behavioural therapies are. If some sense of order can be brought to these patients’ interpersonal and family relations, symptoms of eating disorders may dissipate without any specific attention being paid to them. A number of very useful interpersonal theories have been developed to explain and describe eating disorders. These include the modeling of inappropriate dieting and eating behaviors by a parent; the psychodynamic explanation of food’s symbolic significance in the battle for separation—individuation between the mother and daughter; attempts to “desexualize” the self, either in reaction to sexual abuse or as a means of avoiding upcoming sexual maturity; and a diathesis—stress model, which indicates that certain preexisting temperamental patterns may combine with the experience of stressors (perhaps from the family of origin) to promote eating disorders. Both anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa tend to coexist with several other psychological problems, including depression, BPD, and anxiety disorders. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20

Even a brief perusal of the literature associated with these disorders will reveal a number of common interpersonal antecedents and concomitants. Among these are rejection from others, childhood abuse and trauma, and uncaring family relations. Finally, it is important to note that not all people with eating disorders have grossly disturbed interpersonal and family relations. Like any mental health problem, eating disorders may be caused by a variety of factors, only some of which are interpersonal. However, a full appreciation of the experience of anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa demands a careful consideration of the social/interpersonal context in which these problems are deeply embedded. However, we have hope in Jesus Christ here and now. He died for our sins. Because of Him and His gospel, our sins are washed away in the waters of baptism; sin and iniquity are burned out of our souls as though by fire; and we become clean, we have a clear conscience, and we gain that peace which passeth understanding. We believe, and it is our testimony, and we proclaim it to the World, “that there shall be no other name given nor any other way nor means whereby salvation can come unto the children of men, only in and through the name of Jesus Christ, the Lord Omnipotent,” reports Mosiah 3.17. Many individuals spend their lives looking in their rearview mirrors thinking about what could have been, what should have been; always dwelling on the pains of the past so much so that they may lose what they have today because they are so full of hostility, bitterness, resentment and anger. This negativity fuels with the rage to commit crimes to get revenge on innocent victims, which may result in the lose of their homes, cars, jobs, and even their retirement. However, the prospect of sinking that venom into someone else is so strong that they are blind. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20

Carrying around a victim mentality like that will develop such a strong vortex that you will interfere with God’s plan and block out the blessing in your life because your tornado of evil is so strong. The Scripture says that God wants to give us beauty for our ashes, joy for our mourning, rejoicing for our heaviness. However, here is the key: You have to get rid of that venom before you can taste the honey. Venom is what is left over after something has been burned up and one seeks revenge. We all have our share of pain, broken dreams, disappointments, hurts, and failures. However, God wants to give of compassion, mercy, grace, and love in exchange for them. “The Spirit of the Lord God is upon Me, because the LORD has anointed Me to preach good tidings to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted…to console those who mourn in America, to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness,” reports Isaiah 61.1-3. You cannot hold on to doom and gloom and have the beauty at the same time. If you want God to give you fresh, new dreams, then you must let go of your shattered dreams. Stop dwelling on your disappointments. Forgive the people who you feel have hurt you. Stop being evil and ghetto and jealous and bitter. Release that dysfunctional behaviour and God will give you a new beginning. If you do not let go of the old, God will not do the new and that is a heavy price to pay. Truth is, you may never understand why. Just let go of the venom. Learn to trust God. He has a new beginning for you, but you dare not make the mistake of being trapped in the hood, carrying around that some old bag, living with the victim mentality. I know a man who lost his wife in a tragic plane crash more than twenty years ago. She was a very beautiful and outgoing woman. Now, it is normal to go through a period of grieving. That is the way God made us. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20

If you have lost a job, a marriage, or most certainly a loved one, I am not saying that you should never feel discouragement or sorrow. However, this man was still grieving twenty years later! He allowed a season of mourning to turn into a lifetime of mourning. I tried to encourage him, reminding him that there are good days ahead. However, he would never receive that. He was trapped in the past. He was constantly making excuses, blaming God, blaming other people. Now, I do not mean to sound harsh, but over time, I began to realize that the grieving man did not really want to get well. He licked wallowing in self-pity. He liked the attention that it got him. He became known as “the man who lost his beloved.” Sadly, he let his tragedy become his identity. To this day, he is living a depressed and defeated life, almost as if he feels guilty because he knows he did something wrong to cause the accident. He is holding on to pain. God wants to give him a new beginning, but he will not let go of the old, he interfering with God’s plan to do something fresh and new in his life. When you are tempted to sit around feeling sorry for yourself, complaining about how unfair life is, ask yourself a tough question: “Do I really want to get well, or have I gotten comfortable with where I am in life?” Do not ever let your setback become your identity. To put in bluntly, if you were mistreated as you were growing up, you have got to get over that. Quit mourning about something that you cannot change. Maybe your business partner cheated you out of some money, or you missed out on a big promotion at work. Okay, quit dwelling on it; refrain from talking about it; stop brining it up to your friends all the time. God wants to being beauty in exchange for that venom. We need to avoid dwelling on anything that reminds of the pains of the past. Get rid of anything that evokes a negative, hurtful memory. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20

The man I mentioned preciously had several newspaper articles about that accident lying on his coffee table at home. Every time he walked by there, he was reminded of the pains of the past. I told him, “Get rid of those things. Put some happy pictures of your wife up. Put some things up that bring back good memories, not all this junk. If you want a new state, you have got to get rid of anything that reminds you of the old.” If you are still mourning over what you have lost, thinking about how badly you miss that person, and it is opening up all those old, festering, infected wounds, you are only hurting yourself. That is not healthy. If it is not doing anything beneficial in your life, do not do it. Friend, God always has a new beginning. The real question is: Are you willing to move on with your life with a good attitude, know that God has a bright future in store? What Devout happening upon a fountain of sweetness in the wood would not hurry back to report on one’s good fortune! As proof, one would wave the aromatic branch one dipped into the pool. What Devout hogging the fireplace does not feel one’s bottom growing warm! You are the Fount, the splish, and the splash! You are the Flame, the cackle, and the crackle. The Great Augustine himself did not put it better in his Confessions (10.29). You are the Pipe of wine that flows freely; that is to say, the Heavenly Cask containing the graces and consolations. If not for me, at least for other. However, if I am not allowed to drink from the end, I will die of thirst. Perhaps the tap is in the off position. There would still be some drippage, some droppage. I could survive on that. Anything to slake my thirst, make my fever subside. I am not a total Cherub or Seraph yet, flitting about like a celestial firefly, but I do experience a flicker of Divine Fire that comes from the humble reception of the Life-Making Sacrament. Whatever I need but do not have, Good Jesus, Holy Savior, do supply me from the Divine Bin, and do it so it does not hurt. #RandolphHarris 11 of 20

After all You are the One who deigned to halloo the crowd. “Come to Me, all you carters and haulers, tremblers and trundlers, I can lighten your loads,” reports Matthew again 11.28. I labour by the sweat of my brow, as Genesis put it (3.19); I am tortured with the pain in my heart, I am burdened by sins, I am disquieted by temptations, I am implicated and compromised by my many evil passions. “There just does not seem to be anybody to help”—and the Psalmist was not the first, and certainly will not be the last, to tame this cry (20.12). Is there no one who can free up, make me feel safe again. Alas, no one else but You, Lord God, my Saviour, to whom I commit myself and all my cartage and haulage, that You may guard me and guide me through to Eternal Life. Receive me in the praise and glory of Your name, You who prepared Your Body and Blood as food and drink. I feel a prayer coming on…Grant, O Lord God, my Salvation, that the affection of my devotion may increase with the frequency of Your Mystery. Yes, Father, I want to leave the past in the past and move into the faith-filled future that You have for me. Thank You for the good memories I have, and thank You that the best days are still ahead! “So then faith cometh by hearing and hearing by the word of God,” Romans 10.17. It does not say it comes by reading or by having heard, but it says faith comes by hearing (present tense). It comes by hearing the Word of God. The Greek says, “Faith cometh by report and the report by the declaration of God.” So faith cometh by hearing the rhema (spoken word) of God. When we hear ourselves speaking, saying what God said, it will produce faith in us more quickly than if we hear someone else saying it. Hearing your own voice speak God’s Word will excite your heart to action. For example, you do not always obey what someone else says, but you do obey your words. They govern you. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20

The Word says that the gospel did not profit them because it was not mixed with faith. They were hearers only of the Word, not doers. They did not do what God told them. There are many people today that say “Yes, I believe in prayer,” but they are not obedient to what God has said to do when you pray. To describe the principle that love can only be kept by being given away, we use the following analogy. In Palestine there are two bodies of water connected by the Jordan River: the Lake of Galilee and the Dead Sea. There is a vast difference between the two. The Lake of Galilee and the Dead Sea. There is a vast difference between the two. The Lake of Galilee is rich in its supply of fish. In New Testaments times, it was the scene of Christ’s calling of several of the disciples who were fishermen by trade. The Lake of Galilee both receives its suppl of water from, and returns water to, the Jordan River. Therefore, the water is always fresh and clean, and the lake not only supports marine life but also provides food for human life outside its boundaries. After the Jordan River leaves the Lake of Galilee, it enters the Dead Sea some sixty miles southward. However, the Dead Sea is so far below sea level that it has no outlet; the water evaporates, leaving a high concentration of salts, which kills all fish in its depths and makes it unfit for human consumption. Its waters, by being constantly held within its boundaries, become bitter, stagnant, and brackish. And so it is with the person who only receives from others and from life, and refuses to give freely out of what one has received. One of the things that most blocks the flowing of love back and forth in relationships is one-upmanship. By this, we mean that one or both persons have a need to win or always be right. This is especially prevalent in marriage relationships, where it takes a high toll in casualties. However, it also occurs in all other relationships. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20

Most of us have heard the manipulative guidelines for establishing controlling relationships with others: “If you want to keep them interested, never show your real feelings to others”; “Play hard to get”; “Use put-downs to keep the other person in place”; “Always keep the other person guessing”; or “Try to wrap them around your finger.” These messages reflect a profound lack of awareness about what makes for healthy, enjoyable, mutually enriching relationships. If these messages have played a part in moulding out personality, then they will probably still be contaminating our present relationships with spouses, children, friends, or fellow workers. Thus, we may continue to exploit and manipulating others to satisfy our unconscious drive for power, security, and control. We will use others in a way that reveals loveless power, not the power of love, to be the root of our existence. What is needed is the ability and insight to change relationships from a power struggle to a mutually beneficial exchange. Such love is a delight in the presence of the other person and an affirming of one’s value and development as much as one’s own. Paul emphasizes similar qualities in his famous passage on love found in I Corinthians 13. He writes that “love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude…It…rejoices in the right.” Love has the rare ability to be pleased rather than threatened by the talents, achievements, and triumphs of others. An important principle for people, especially married couples, to realize is that God often moves through their closet relationships to teach them more and more about themselves and about life. Therefore, the wise person learns to value the honest and loving feedback that those closet to one are able to provide. This changes the format of a relationship from a power struggle for power to an opportunity for growth and enrichment. The person becomes partners, each committed both to one’s own deepest fulfillment and to the highest good of the other. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20

The experience of companionship and the expression of caring are essential ingredients for living fully. Abraham Lincoln said that “the better part of one’s life consists of one’s friendships.” When someone cares, it is easier to find meaning in life. If we can develop friendships based on honesty, trust, and love, it will help us greatly along the journey towards wholeness. Friendship is the comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring all—right out—just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful friendly hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping and, with a breath of comfort, blow the rest away. The relationship of love is the most effective way of bridging the unbridgeable gap between two separate human beings. To feel truly loved—that is, deeply accepted and understood by another person or by God—is liberating. It enables one to be seen in the context of one’s weaknesses, faults, and psychological or physical shortcomings. Such behaviours as pretending to be what one is not, defending oneself, or striving to attract or impress the other person gradually fall away. They are replaced by a growing honesty and spontaneity in self-expression and a greater feeling of being natural in the relationship. This leads to the paradox that the more one surrenders in a genuinely loving relationship, the more one becomes one’s true self. The more one gives to the other, the more one receives. Jesus expressed this principle when he taught people to develop a giving attitude: “Give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For the measure you give [to others] will be the measure you het back,” reports Luke 6.38. The Christian lifestyle can be summed up in the one word—“love.” Outgoing love that results in concrete deeds of service is the fruit of one who is being led by the Holy Spirit. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20

Touching other people’s lives in a caring way can take many forms. One may develop the awareness to often compliment, praise, and admire one’s spouses and children. One may learn to be gracious in relating to colleagues, employer, or employees. One may offer service to a stranger in need. One may practice being considerate in daily transaction with others in such diverse activities as shopping, handling business, or driving on the freeway. As growing persons, we can give ourselves permission to try out new behaviour. We can experiment in daily transactions with others by expressing a simple, a warm greeting, a pleasant compliment, or a gentle touch. Before long, there will be greater coordination of our feelings, thoughts, and bodily actions. As a feeling of compassion stirs us, we can caringly touch people and tell them of our concern. When a feeling of admiration emerges, we can tell people how much we appreciate them and perhaps touch their hands or shoulders as we do so. If we feel joy with others, we might hug them or claps their hands. If we feel playful, we might want to joke with them. These options and many more can become sincere, effective ways to communicate or positive feelings to others. Of course, any of these channels can be reduced to the level of manipulative tactics. That is why the actualizing Christian develops the paradoxical qualities of prudent openness, discriminating trust, and disciplined spontaneity in the expression of one’s love to others. The Scriptures teach that compassion and caring ought to be extended to all human beings, above and beyond our normal sphere of relationships. The Christian is called to experience an ever-widening sphere of meaningful personal relationships throughout life. There is no age limit to this. However, courage is required at any age to reach out to others and to risk sharing their joys and their sorrows. #RandolphHarris 16 of 20

This does not mean that we ought to distress ourselves terribly about other people’s misfortunes. However, it does indicate that we ought to nurture an attitude of profound respect for the well-being of others and tht we should give sincerely what we can in terms of time, energy, and financial and material resources to meet some of the needs of a suffering humanity. Jesus expresses his profound identification with the suffering of humankind when he says: “I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me,” reports Matthew 25.36. And James adds that “Religion that is pure and undefiled before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction,” reports James 1.27. As actualizing Christians, we do not insulate ourselves from suffering in the World. We instead become vessels through which the love of God can flow to bring comfort to the brokenhearted, impart courage to those who are losing hope, and creatively seek to meet needs as they arise in people’s lives. Loving involves a choice and therefore may be rightly understood as being an act of will. This implies a sense of duty in the loving relationship, “in sickness and in health, for better or for worse.” A truly loving relationship is not a flighty or transitory affair. It is a trustworthy commitment that endures even in the face of hardship or sacrifice. It is a faithful caring that actively seeks the well-being and fulfillment of the beloved. In loving, we are most like Jesus and most truly ourselves. “Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the Heavens, Jesus Christ the Son of God, let us hold fast out profession, or our confession,” reports Hebrews 4.14. Here is where so many have missed it. Most people hold fast to the problem. They hold fast to the sickness. We are to hold fast to our confession of faith. Our confession should agree with the Word of God. If it does not, it is a confession of unbelief because it agrees with the devil. The confession of your mouth, even after you have prayed correctly, will determine whether or not you receive. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20
If you have prayed and asked God for something, and then say, “I just do not know what I am going to do, it is just not working out,” you blew it! You cancelled your prayer. That prayer will not work for you. Hold fast to the confession of your faith. “Wherefore, holy brethren, partakers of the Heavenly calling, consider the Apostle and High Priest of our profession, Christ Jesus,” reports Hebrews 3.1. Actually in Greek the word for profession means “confession.” So we are to consider Jesus Christ, the Word, as the High Priest f the confession of our faith. I do not know what that means to you, but here is what it means to me: When I pray speaking faith-filled words concerning the things I desire, I can see Jesus, seated at the right hand of God the Father, nudging the Father and saying, “He is holding fast to the Word, saying the same things You said; He is returning Your Word to You. Now let us perform it just the way he said it.” Jesus confesses to the Father what I say if it agrees with the Word of God. However, if I say, “Lord, I have prayed and it is not working out,” He cannot say, “Father, he has prayed, but it is not working out.” The Father would say, “Those are not My words—who said that? Does not one know that I said one could have whatever one says, even in prayer?” Your confession is so vital to prayer. Your confession after prayer will either bind you to your problem or release you from it. The problem is yours and if you want it, God will let you have it back. You are the one to determine the outcome and proclaim it. Ever relation is based either on quantity, as double and half; or on action and passion, as the doer and the deed, the father and the son, the master and the servant, and the like. Now as there is no quantity in God, for He is great without quantity, as Augustine says, it follows that a real relation in God can be based only on action. Such relations are not based on the actions of God according to any extrinsic procession, forasmuch as the relations of God to creatures are not real in Him. Hence, it follows that real relations in God can be understood only in regard to those actions according to which there are internal, and no external, processions in God. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20

These processions are two only, as above explained one derived from the action of the intellect, the procession of the Word; and the other from the action of the will, the procession of love. In respect of each of these processions two opposite relations arise; one of which is the relation of the person proceeding from the principle; the other is the relation of the principle Himself. The procession of the Word is called generation in the proper sense of the term, whereby it is applied to living things. Now the relation of the principle of generation in perfect living beings is called paternity; and the relation of the one proceeding from the principle is called filiation. However, the procession of Love has no proper name of its own; and so neither have the ensuing relations a proper name of their own. The relation of the principle of this procession is called spiration; and the relation of the person proceeding is called procession: although these two names belong to the procession or origins themselves, and not to the relations. Even if you had the purity of the Angels and Archangels or the sanctity of John the Baptist, you still would not be worthy enough to receive this Sacrament, let alone handle it with your fingers. Worthiness has got nothing to do with it; that is to say, worthiness as Humankind defines it. There are just not enough human merits to go around when it comes to consecrating and handling the Sacrament of Christ. Consuming the Bread of Angels the way one eats a loaf—it is a Grand Mystery and a Great Dignity for the Priests. That is to say, this priestly power could have been given to Angels, but it was not. It was given only to Priests ordained in the rite of the Church. Only they have the power of celebrating the Mass and consecrating the Body of Christ. The Priest is a minister of God, using the Word of God the way God set it up. God is the Principal Initiator and the Invisible Operator of all things. Furthermore, you ought to put more faith in Omnipotent God, as He appears in this most excellent Sacramento, than in your own sensible yet silly World. To make this major readjustment, you must tiptoe through the tulips, that is to say, walk with fear and reverence. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20

Blessed be the works of your hand, O Holy One. Blessed be these hands that have touched life. Blessed by these hands that have nurtured creativity. Blessed be these hands that have held pain. Blessed be these hands that have embraced with passion. Blessed be these hands that have tended gardens. Blessed be these hands that have closed in anger. Blessed be these hands that have planted new seeds. Blessed be these hands that have harvested ripe fields. Blessed be these hands that have cleaned, washed, mopped, scrubbed. Blessed be these hands that have become knotty with age. Blessed be these hands that are wrinkled and scarred from doing justice. Blessed be these hands that have reached out and been received. Blessed be these hands that hold the promise of the future. Blessed be the works of your hands, O Holy One. O Lord our God, be gracious unto Thy people America and accept their prayer. Please restore the worship to Thy sanctuary and receive in loving favour the supplication of America. May the worship of Thy people be every acceptable unto Thee. Our God and God of our fathers, may our remembrance and the remembrance of our forefathers come before Thee. Remember the Messiah of the house of David, Thy servant, and America, Thy holy city, and all Thy people, the house of America. Please grant us deliverance and wellbeing, lovingkindness, life and peace on this day of the New Moon, the Feast of Unleavened bread, the Fest of Tabernacles. Please remember us this day, O Lord our God, for our good, and be mindful of us for a life of blessing. With Thy promise of salvation and mercy, deliver us and be gracious unto us, have compassion upon us and save us. Unto Thee do we lift our eyes for Thou art a gracious and merciful God and King. O may our eyes witness Thy return to America. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who restorest Thy divine presence unto America. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20

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I am More Important than My Problems!

Because behaviour is shaped by social forces, sociocultural theorists hold, we must examine a person’s social and cultural surroundings if we are to understand normal behaviour. Sociocultural explanations focus on family structure and communication, cultural influence, social networks, societal conditions, and societal labels and roles. According to family systems theory, the family is a system of interacting parts—the family members—who interact with one another in consistent ways and conform to rules unique to each family. The parts interact in ways that enable the systems to maintain itself and survive—a state known as homeostasis. Family system theorists believe that the structure and communication patterns of some families actually force individual members to behave in a way that otherwise seems abnormal. If the members were to behave normally, they would severely stain the family’s homeostasis and usual manner of operation and would actually increase their own and their family’s turmoil. The natural responses by other family member would in fact defend against such “normal” behaviour. Family systems theory holds that certain family systems are particularly likely to produce abnormal functioning in individual members. Some families, for example, have enmeshed structure in which the members are grossly overinvolved in each other’s activities, thoughts, and feelings. Children from this kind of family may have great difficulty becoming independent in life. Some families display disengagement, which is marked by very rigid boundaries between members. Children from these families may find it hard to function in a group or to give or request support. #RandolphHarris 1 of 18

In the sociocultural model, an angry and impulsive personal style of an individual may be seen as the product of a disturbed family structure. According to family systems theorists, the whole family—mother, father, and children—relate in such a way as to maintain the individual’s dysfunctional behaviour. Family theorists might be particularly interested in the conflict between the dysfunctional child’s mother and father and the imbalance between their parental roles. They might see the dysfunctional child’s behaviour as both a reaction to and stimulus for one’s parents’ behaviour. With the dysfunctional child acting out the role of the misbehaving child, or scapegoat, one’s parents may have little need or time to question their own relationship. Family systems theorists would also seek to clarify the precise nature of the dysfunctional child’s relationship with each parent. Is the child enmeshed with one’s mother and/or disengaged from one’s father? They would look too at the rules governing the sibling relationship in the family, the relationship between the parents and the dysfunctional child’s sibling, and the nature of parent-child relationships in previous generations of the family. The process of modeling has been identified as a potential causal mechanism in eating disorders. Maternal modeling in particular has been implicated in the etiology of eating disorders by a number of writers. Social learning theory indicates that people can learn behaviours through imitation of a model. This process of learning is enhanced when, among other features, the model is perceived to hold high status and is similar to the target. Each of these conditions is intact in the typical mother-daughter relationship. #RandolphHarris 2 of 18

Findings reviewed earlier indicate that daughters’ concerns with dieting and body image are strongly associated with those of their mothers. Mothers of daughters with eating disorders often themselves have symptoms of eating disorders. According to social learning theory, girls may observe their mothers’ restrictive eating behaviours and imitate them, perhaps because they perceive that their mothers were rewarded for such dieting. No student of communication could ever rightfully overlook the possibility that the mass media also play a powerful role in this process of social learning: Unusually thin and attractive models are commonly depicted as the recipients of social rewards. Psychodynamically oriented theories (including object relations and attachment theories) continue to occupy a conspicuous presence in the literature on eating disorders and family-of-origin relations. These accounts emphasize the symbolic significance of food in the adolescent girl’s struggle for control in her relationship with her mother. Abuse of food is seen as a means of covertly expressing dissatisfaction with the mother-daughter relationships. Refusing to eat food may represent a rejection of the mother’s overprotectiveness and over-involvement in the child’s life. The adolescent girl with an eating disorder may be struggling with a second separation-individuation process, similar to that which infants are hypothesized to experience in their relationships with their mothers. There is supportive data indicting that women with eating disorders had higher levels of separation anxiety and lower healthy separation scores, while simultaneously experiencing greater maternal overprotectiveness, than their counterparts. #RandolphHarris 3 of 18

Bulimic behaviors and a pursuit of thinness can also be predicted by dependency conflicts and a diminished sense of individuality, further highlighting the importance of separation-individuation. Observations of what appear to be elevated rates of childhood sexual abuse among those with eating disorders, in both research and clinical contexts, have led to what could be characterized as a desexualization theory of eating disorders. Some individuals develop eating disorders, especially anorexia nervosa, as a means of avoiding pleasures of the flesh contacts and repelling would-be perpetrators. According to this perspective, anorexia nervosa becomes a means to make the self unappealing to others for pleasures of the flesh. In this sense, it may be understood as serving some greater interpersonal function (id est, protection from sexual abuse), despite its personal destructiveness. Some intriguing support for this position can be found in a study of so-called “sexual barrier weight,” where it was discovered that patients with eating disorders tended to avoid weights that they associated with certain traumatic events. For instance, if a woman had been sexually abused at a time that she weighed 110 pounds, that weight would trigger memories of past traumatic events. This appeared to motivate compulsive or restrictive eating to avoid the weight. There is compelling data that is indicative of radical changes in weight coincidental to sexually traumatic events. On its face, the desexualization approach is a more adequate account of anorexia nervosa than of bulimia nervosa, as those with the latter disorder generally maintain a normal body weight. #RandolphHarris 4 of 18

Bulimia nervosa can be activated by anger, presumably against a perpetrator and against those who fail to provide protection, and may also be tied to a desire to make the self look unappealing. The difficulty handling emotions such as anger and depression is common among people with bulimia nervosa. This leads to disturbed eating behaviour as a mechanism for coping with posttraumatic distress. A second version of the desexualization approach suggests that it is pursuant to a fear of denial of sexual maturation and upcoming sexuality, rather than a reaction to sexual trauma. Accordingly, eating disorders are thought to be triggered by anxiety associated with the meaning of and uncertainty about physical changes that occur during adolescence. Functionally, anorexia nervosa in particular becomes a way to preserve the preadolescent form and avoiding having to address the self as a self being. As such, it is viewed as a psychological regression from sexual maturity. Like the “reactive” version of the desexualization hypothesis, this approach assumes a powerful concern over sexual relationships with other people—to the extent that concerned individuals physically damage their own bodies through disordered eating to cope with these concerns. Among current approaches to understanding the role of the family in eating disorders, perhaps the most widely accepted is a variant of the diathesis-stress model. This position draws heavily on the literature that documents disturbances in personality traits and temperaments associated with bulimia nervosa and/or anorexia nervosa. These pathological traits may be passed on from parent to child and create a predisposition or vulnerability to an eating disorder. #RandolphHarris 5 of 18

The ultimate manifestation of the eating disorder is thought to be triggered by, among other things, disturbed family-of-origin relations. Thus the interaction of predisposing traits and temperaments with problematic family and social relationships is thought to be what ultimately brings about the eating disorder. Although the diathesis-stress model predicts the development of an eating disorder as the result of stress brought on by family interaction, the nature of the predisposition, or diathesis, to develop an eating disorder when stressed is not well understood. After all, one can find problematic family-of-origin interactions in the backgrounds of people with many other forms of psychological problems, and even among some people who have no psychological problems. Some might argue that the predisposition to develop an eating disorder is part of one’s genetically determined temperament. However, there may be some unique qualities of stressors (exempli gratia, dysfunctional family relations) that pull more for eating disorders than for other psychosocial problems. When parents are overly involved and overcontrolling with a child, this creates an obvious battle for control. When the parents are emphatic about achievement and perfectionism, this often motivates the child to engage in extraordinary behaviours. When these conditions are put on a developing adolescent, in the context of a society where thinness is still glamourized and portrayed as something of an ideal, the development of an eating disorder in particular—as opposed to other problems, such as depression, social anxiety, or alcoholism—becomes more understandable. Food intake is one thing the child can usually control. #RandolphHarris 6 of 18

Maintaining a thing body form can create a sense of “achievement” in the restrictive eater. In this sense, restrictive eating may be a “functional” response to the particular nature of the family stress. Although I have been disappointed by other people and events in the past, Father, I am going to keep expecting blessings and good things in the future, because of You. “Thus says the LORD, ‘Restrain your voice from weeping and your eyes from tears; for your work shall be rewarded,’ declares the LORD, ‘and they will return from the land of the enemy. There is hope for your future,’ declares the LORD,” reports Jeremiah 31.16-17. Sometimes, no matter how hard we pray or how long we stand in faith, things do not turn out as we had hoped. Some are praying to lose weight, for their marriages to be restored, to be spared from the pandemic, for a financial bless, for a new home in Cresleigh Ranch; others are asking God to heal a business situation or a rift between coworkers. I encourage people to persevere, to continue praying and believing for good things to happen. However, we must also understand that God will not change another person’s will. He had given every human being free will to choose which way one will go, whether to do right or wrong. One may be heartbroken over not ending up on America’s Next Top Model, or over a failed relationship, or a bankrupt business, but one does not need to stay heartbroken. Do not carry around all that hurt and pain year after year. Do not let rejection fester inside you. God has something new in store for you. #RandolphHarris 7 of 18

When God allows one door to close, He will open another door for you, revealing something bigger and better. The Christian Bible says that God will take the evil the enemy brings into our lives, and if we will keep the right attitude, He will turn it around and use it for our good. “As for you, you thought evil against me, but God meant if for good, to bring about that many people should be kept alive, as they are this day,” reports Genesis 50.20. God wants to take those disappointments and turn them into reappointments. However, understand, whether you will experience all those good things in your future depends to a large extent on your willingness to let go of the past. Never put a question mark where God has put a period. Avoid the tendency to dwell on what you could have done, which career you should have pursued, or that person you wish you would have married. Quit living in a negative frame of mind, stewing about something that is over and done. Focus on what you can change, rather than what you cannot. Do not let the regrets of yesterday destroy the hopes and dreams of tomorrow. You cannot do anything about what is gone, but you can do a great deal about what remains. You may have made some poor choices that have caused you awful heartache and pain. Perhaps you feel that you have blown it, that your life is in shambles and beyond repair. You may feel disqualified from God’s best, convinced that you must settle for leftover the rest of your life because of poor decisions you made or because of the family you were born into. Sometimes, even worse, you may not have been the person who made the bad choices, but somebody’s foolish decision caused you to experience wrenching heartache and pain. #RandolphHarris 8 of 18

Regardless, you must stop dwelling on what went wrong. Let the past be in the past. Forgive the person who caused you heartache and pain and start with a fresh slate right where you are today. If you continue to harp on those past disappointments, you will block God’s blessings in your life today. It is simply not worth it. Beyond that, God desires your restoration even more than you do! Live in obedience to God, and God eventually will help you to level up. It is not game over. Maybe you have invested a lot of time, effort, money, emotion, and energy in a relationship; you did your best to make it work out. However, for some reason, things got off course, and now you feel as though you have been robbed. You must feel devastated, heartbroken, disappointed. How long are you going to mourn over that failed relationship? How long are you going to grief over your broken dreams? How long are you going to cry about your dream house being sold at auction? That is the problem with excessive mourning. When we focus on our disappointments, we stop God from bringing fresh new blessings in our lives. If you will quit mourning and get going, God will show you new, and better things. When you have a fresh new attitude, and put a smile on your face, God can always come up with a more superior plan. Get that spring back in your step, that bounce back in your hair, and that charismatic light back in your eyes and be on your way. If we wallow in the mud and focus on our disappointments, we risk missing out on the new things God wants to do in our lives. It is time to get up and get going. It is time to be successful. God has another plan for you. And it is better than you can imagine! #RandolphHarris 9 of 18

Do what you can, My dear friend, to find out what the trouble is. If you go about it in an honest way, you will make two discoveries: how much infirmity has wormed its way into your soul and how much goodness and grace you can get out of Jesus Christ. On their own, the Anxious are often frigid, dense, not all that devout. With Jesus Christ as Companion and Friend, they are becoming fervent, responsive and the devotion returns. I once taught a class in human values. One of the deepest values that kept cropping up was love. One day when we were talking about love, I sensed a peculiar tension and uneasiness in Jensen. I asked him if he would like to add anything to what we had been saying. He was flushed and replied that, although he had been a Christian ever since he could remember, he had never felt lovable. Somehow he had gotten the idea that he was a depraved, unattractive, and unlovable person. He reported that he knew in his head that God and others loved him, but he had managed to insulate himself from ever experiencing directly his “lovability” and “loveliness.” In fact, he had developed a habit of discounting people’s compliments and erasing from his mind the good feedback that he received. I invited Jensen to sit in the middle of the circle the class formed. Then I looked him straight in the eye and told he that I felt love for him. Gradually, other members of the class began to share their good feedback and caring feelings for him. Some even got up from their seats and walked over to hug him. He felt overwhelmed—at first with embarrassment, then with joy. Tears streamed down his face. I sensed that there was another way of expanding the awareness that was dawning on him. #RandolphHarris 10 of 18

I had him stand up on his chair and say: “I am lovable.” At first he said it very timidly, and the class got after him for discounting himself again. Again and again he tried saying it. Then somehow he began to experience firsthand the real meaning of what he was saying. He stood up straighter, took a deep breath, and shouted: “I am lovable!” Again and again he shouted it with tears welling down his face. When he got back down, the whole class cheered and applauded. Many in the class reported that they, too, had never felt as much in touch with the power of being loved as they had in those moments. Many weeks later Jensen told that class that his “lovability” experience had been a turning point for him. Now he was becoming more aware of his worthy, his right, and his potential for a fulfilling life. We must have security in being ourselves and in feeling significant and worthwhile before we will dare to reach and touch the World in a caring way. This has the effect of providing us with a sense of power out of which we can choose to love. This, we can put away the childish manipulations of pleasing and placating and take up the more actualizing forms of love: affirming and caring. When we begin to learn how to love ourselves, we discover that we have new energy and courage to reach out in love to others. And, paradoxically, love can only be kept when it is given freely to others. The glimpse is a memorable experience, but it is not enough. It shows one a possible future, gives one a new World-view, but one must henceforth bring all that into one’s everyday life and into one’s whole being. These needs time. practice, patience, vigilance, self-training, and more sensitivity. #RandolphHarris 11 of 18
Wisdom does not come overnight. It needs time to ripen. However, Relvelation can come in that way. However, its recipient will still need time to adjust to it, and to integrate with it. What one has learned from the glimpse must be applied to life, to action, and attitude. It is not enough merely to enjoy its memory, as if it made no difference. The deep changes in our views of nature, evolution, progress, time, and space begin coming together as our Third Wave culture emphasizes contexts, relationships, and wholes. We now focus on total, rather than fragmentary, look at problems. Emphasizing the feedback relationships among subsystems and the larger wholes formed by these units, systems thinking has had a pervasive cultural impact. Its language and concepts have been employed by social scientists and psychologists, by philosophers and foreign policy analysts, by logicians and linguists, by engineers and administrators. However, the advocates of systems theory are not the only ones in the past few decades who have urged a more integrative way of looking at problems. The revolt against narrow overspecialization also received a boost from the environmental campaigns of the 2000’s, as ecologists increasingly rediscovered the “web” of nature, the interrelatedness of species, and the wholeness of ecosystems. Non-environmentalists tend to want to separate things into components and to solve one thing at a time. By contrast, Environmentalists tend to see things quite differently. Their instinct is to balance the whole, not to solve a single part. The ecological approach and the systems approach overlap and share the same thrust toward synthesis and the integration of knowledge. #RandolphHarris 12 of 18

In universities, meanwhile, more and more calls are heard for interdisciplinary thinking. While departmental barriers still block the cross-fertilization of ideas and the integration of information in most universities, this demand for inter- or multi-disciplinary work is now so widespread it has an almost ritual quality. These changes in intellectual life are mirrored elsewhere in the culture as well. Eastern religions, for example, have long had a tiny fringe following among the European middle classes, but it was not until the disintegration of industrial society began in earnest that thousands of Western young people started lionizing Indian swamis, jamming the Astrodome to hear a 16-year-old guru, listening to ragas, opening Hindu-style vegetarian restaurants, and dancing down Fifth Avenue. The World, they suddenly chanted, was not broke into Cartesian chips: it has a “oneness.” In the field of mental health, psychotherapists have been searching for ways to cure the “whole person” by employing gestalt therapy. A gestalt explosion is erupting as the establishment of gestalt therapists and institutions are springing up in the Untied States of America. Enlightened people do not want to be angry and broken and always unhappy. The goal of this activity is to increase human potential through the process of integration of the individual’s sensory awareness, perceptions, and relationships with the outside World. In medicine, a “holistic health” movement has sprung up based on the notion that the well-being of the individual depends on an integration of the physical, the spiritual, and the mental. Mixing quackery with serious medical innovation, the movement has regained enormous strength in this first quarter century. #RandolphHarris 13 of 18

A few decades ago, it would have been unthinkable for the federal government to lend its sponsorship to a conference on health that featured such topics as faith healing, religion, iridology, acupressure, cupping, meditation, and electromedicine. Since then there has been a virtual explosion of interest in alternative healing methods and systems, all of which go under the name of holistic healing. With so much activity, on so many different levels, it is hardly surprising that the terms “wholism” or “holism” should have crept into the popular vocabulary. Today they are used almost indiscriminately. A World Bank expert calls for “a holistic understanding of urban shelter.” A research group in the United States of Congress demands a long-range holistic” studies. A curriculum expert claims to employ “holistic reading and scoring” in teaching school children to write. And several Beverly Hills gyms offer “holistic exercise.” Each of these movements, fads, and cultural currents are different. However, their common element is clear. All of them represent an attack on the assumption that the whole can be understood by studying the parts in isolation. Their thrust is summed up in the words of philosopher Ervin Laszlo, a leading systems theorist: we are “part of interconnection, or short-rage projects and limited controllabilities may lead us to our own destruction.” This attack on the fragmentary, on the partial and analytic has grown so fierce, in fact, that many fanatic “holists” blithely forget the parts in their pursuit of the ineffable whole. The result is not wholism at all but yet another fragmentation. Their wholism is halfism. #RandolphHarris 14 of 18
More thoughtful critics, however, seek to balance the old Second Wave analytic skills with a much greater emphasis on synthesis. This idea is perhaps most clearly expressed by ecologist Eugene P. Odum in urging his colleagues to combine wholism with reductionism—to look at whole systems as well as their parts. “As components are combined to produce larger functional wholes,” he declared when he and his more famous brother, Howard, jointly won the Prix de l’Institut de la Vie, “new properties emerge that were not present or not evident at the next level below. This is not to say that we abandon reductionist science, since a great deal of good has resulted for humankind from this approach,” but that the time has come to give equal backing to studies of “large-scale integrated systems.” Taken together, systems theory, ecology, and the generalized emphasis on wholistic thinking—like our changing conceptions of time and space—are part of the cultural attack on the intellectual premises of Second Wave civilization. That attack reaches its culmination, however, in the emerging new view of why things happen as they do: the new causality. Strictly speaking, there is no such thing as a simple form of government. A single leader must have subordinate magistrates; a popular government must always have a leader. Thus in the distribution of the executive power there is always a gradation from the greater to lesser number, with the difference that sometimes the greater number depends on the few, and sometimes the few depend on the greater number. At times the distribution is equal, either when the constitutive parts are in a state of mutual dependence, as in the government of England; or when authority of each part is independent but imperfect, as in Poland. This latter form is bad, since there is no unity in government and the state lacks a bond of unity. #RandolphHarris 15 of 18

Which one is better, a simple or a mixed form of government? A question much debated among political theorists, to which the same reply must be given that I gave above regarding every form of government. In itself the simple form of government is the best, precisely because it is simple. However, when the executive power is not sufficiently dependent upon the legislative power, that is to say, when there is more of a ratio between the prince and the sovereign than between the people and the prince, this defect in the proportion must be remedied by diving the government; for then all of its parts have no less authority over the subjects, and their division makes all of them together less forceful against the sovereign. The same disadvantage can also be prevented through the establishment of intermediate magistrates, who, by being utterly separate from the government, serve merely to balance the two powers and to maintain their respective rights. In that case, the government is not mixed; it is tempered. The opposite difficulty can be remedied by similar means. And when the government is too slack, tribunals can be set up to give it a concentrated focus. This is done in all democracies. In the first case the government is divided in order to weaken it, and in the second to strengthen it. For the maximum of force and weakness are found equally in the simple forms of government, while the mixed forms of government provide an intermediate amount of strength. Communism has a fanatic hostility to all spiritual enlightenment and is inspired by the same dark forces that inspired the fanatic hostility of Nazism. This inner war between good and evil goes on at all times; the military World war was but a dramatic outward representation of it. The dangers to which humanity was exposed to did not vanish. #RandolphHarris 16 of 18

Those unseen powers still exist. What they could not achieve through a straightforward conflict, they will desperately try to achieve through a confused one. This indeed is the next phase of experience through which we are going though an which we have to endure. Fear came because of the evil report. Fear is belief in the enemy. When one is afraid something will happen, that means one believes it will happen. If one is afraid something bad will happen, that means one has more faith in the adversary’s ability to hinder one than one has in God’s ability to put one over. “Let us therefore fear. We can insert the word believe here. Let us therefore believe, lest, a promise being left us of entering into one’s rest, any of you should seem to come short of it. For unto us was the gospel preached, as well as unto them: but the word preached did not profit them, not being mixed with faith in them that heard it,” reports Hebrew 4.1-2. The Word preached did not profit them because it was not mixed with faith. They did not mix faith with what they heard. When we pray, we must mix faith with our words. Just saying words is not prayer. Mix faith with your words. In Mark 11.24 Jesus tells us to believe that we receive our desires when we pray. One translation says, “Believe that you received them.” If I do that when I pray, I must mix faith with my words: Father, I thank You for You have heard me and I believe that I have received. Someone says, “Why do you not just believe it and not say anything?” Here are five reasons. One shall have whatsoever one saith (Mark 11.23). Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks (Matthew 12.34). We also believe, and therefore speak (2 Corinthians 4.13). So then faith come by hearing, and hearing by the word of God (Romans 10.17). For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without work is dead also (James 2.26). Your words are the spirit of your faith. #RandolphHarris 17 of 18

May the blessing of light be on you, light without and light within. May the blessed sunshine shine on you and warm your heart till it glows like a great peat fire so that the stranger may come and warm oneself at it, and also a friend. And may the light shine out of the two eyes of you, like a candle set in the two windows of a house, budding the wanderer come in out of the storm; and may the blessings of the rain be on you—the soft, sweet rain. May it fall upon your spirit so that all the little flowers may spring up and shed their sweetness on the air. And may the blessings of the Great Rains be so on you, may the beat upon your spirit and wash it fair and clean, and leave there many a shining pool where the blue of Heaven shines, and sometimes a star. And may the blessing of the Earth be on you—the great round Earth; may you ever have a kindly greeting for those you pass as you are going along the roads. May the Earth be soft under you when you rest upon it, tired at the end of a day, and may it rest easy over you when at the last, you lay under it; may it rest so lightly over you that your soul may be off from under it quickly and up and off, and on its way to God. And now may the Lord bless you all and bless you kindly. Return in mercy to America, Thy city, and dwell therein as Thou hast promised. Rebuild it in our own day as an enduring habitation, and speedily set up therein the throne of the king. Blessed art Thou, who rebuilds America. Cause the dynast of America soon to flourish and may it be exalted through Thy saving power, for we daily await Thy deliverance. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who causes salvation to come forth. Hear our voice, O Lord our God, have compassion upon us and receive our prayers in loving favour for Thou, O God, hearkenest unto prayers and supplications. Turn us not from Thy presence without Thy blessing, O our King, for Thou hearest the prayers of Thy people America with compassion. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who hearkenest unto prayer. #RandolphHarrus 18 of 18

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Around 95 percent of what is known about the brain has been learned in the past 30 years. How do biological theorists explain abnormal behaviour? Adopting a medical perspective, biological theorists view abnormal behaviour as an illness brought about by malfunctioning parts of the organism. Typically, they point to a malfunctioning brain as the cause of abnormal behaviour, focusing particularly on problems in brain anatomy or brain chemistry. The average brain weighs 3 pounds, and is 80 percent water. What is interesting is the liver weighs a pound more than the brain. While the brain accounts for only about 2 percent of the human weight, it requires about 25 percent of the oxygen intake. The brain is made up of approximately 100 billion nerve cells, called neurons, and thousands of billions of support cells, called glia (from the Greek meaning “glue”). Within the brain large groups of neurons form distinct areas, or brain regions. To identify the regions of the brain more easily, let us imagine them as continents, countries, and states. At the bottom of the brain is the “continent” knows as the hindbrain, which is in turn made up of countrylike regions called the medulla, pons, and cerebellum. In the middle of the brain is the “continent” called the midbrain. And at the top is the “continent” called the forebrain, which consists of countrylike regions called the cerebrum (the two cerebral hemispheres), the thalamus, and the hypothalamus, each in turn made up of statelike regions. The cerebrum, for instance, consists of the cortex, corpus callosum, basal ganglia, hippocampus, and amygdala. The neurons in each of these brain regions control important functions. The hippocampus helps control emotions and memory, for example. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20
Clinical researchers have discovered connections between certain psychological disorders and problems in specific areas of the brain. One such disorder is Huntington’s disease, a disorder marked by violent emotional outbursts, memory loss, suicidal thinking, involuntary body movements, and absurd beliefs. This disease has been traced to a loss of cells in the basal ganglia. Biological researchers have also learned that psychological disorders can be related to problems in the transmission of messages from neuron to neuron. Information spreads throughout the brain in the form of electrical impulses that travel from one neuron to one or more others. An impulse is first received by a neuron’s dendrites, antenna-like extensions located at one end of the neuron. From there it travels down the neuron’s axon, a long fiber extending from the neuron body. Finally, it is transmitted to other neurons through the nerve endings, at the far end of the neuron. However, how to messages get from the nerve endings of one neuron to the dendrites of another? After all, the neurons do not actually touch each other. A tiny space, called the synapse, separates one neuron from the next, and the message must somehow move across that space. When an electrical impulse reaches a neuron’s ending, the nerve ending is stimulated to release a chemical, called a neurotransmitter, that travels across the synaptic space to receptors on the dendrites of the adjacent neurons. Upon reception, some neurotransmitters tell the receiving neurons to “fire,’ that is, to trigger their own electrical impulse. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20

Other neurotransmitters carry an inhibitory message; they tell receiving neurons to stop all firing. Obviously, neurotransmitters play a key role in moving information through the brain. Researchers have identified dozens of neurotransmitters in the brain, and they have learned that each neuron uses only certain kinds. Studies indicate that abnormal activity by certain neurotransmitters can lead to specific mental disorders. Certain anxiety disorders, for example, have been linked to low activity of the neurotransmitter gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), schizophrenia has been linked to excessive activity of the neurotransmitter dopamine, and depression has been linked to low activity of the neurotransmitters serotonin and norepinephrine. Perhaps low serotonin activity is responsible for some people’s pattern of depression and rage. In addition to focusing on neurons and neurotransmitters, researchers have learned that mental disorders are sometimes related to abnormal chemical activity in the body’s endocrine system. Endocrine glands, located throughout the body, work along with neurons to control such vital activities as growth, reproduction, pleasures of the flesh, heart rate, body temperature, energy, and responses to stress. The glands release chemicals called hormones into the bloodstream, and these chemicals then propel body organs into action. During times of stress, for example, the adrenal glands, located on top of the kidneys, secrete the hormone cortisol. Abnormal secretions of this chemical have been tied to anxiety and mood disorders. Studies of twins suggest that some aspects of behaviour and personality are influenced by genetic factors. Many identical twins are found to have similar tastes, behave in similar ways, and make similar life choices. Some even develop similar abnormal behaviours. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20

People often associate eating disorders with adolescence. However, cases of anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa are easily found among those in their 20s and 30s. Somewhat surprisingly, many of these people are able to maintain at least the semblance of normal adult relations through marriage and child rearing. However, the marriages of people with eating disorders are sadly distressed. Physical intimacy is a problematic theme in the literature on marriage and eating disorders. For example, an examination of case records from a large sample of patients with anorexia nervosa showed that among those who were married, only 10 percent indicated some interest in matter dealing with pleasures of the flesh, and 72 percent indicated active avoidance of activities dealing with pleasures of the flesh. There was also a high degree of conflict surrounding pleasures of the flesh and conflict avoidance in these patients’ families of origin. Here again, there is reason to suspect that problems bred in earlier family-of-origin interactions were transported into the marital relationships of these women with anorexia nervosa. It is unfortunate that these problems with physical intimacy in the marital relationship persist several years after remission of an eating disorder. Approximately 40 percent of the women in this study sample had clinically significant disorder in pleasures of the flesh with their mates, despite being asymptomatic for 2 years on average. They also noted that diminished involvement in marital (or any romantic/pleasure of the flesh) relationship was more common among people who had anorexia nervosa than among those with bulimia nervosa or control subjects without eating disorders. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20

Marital problems have also been documented in the marriages of people with bulimia nervosa, however. Compared to healthy controls, people with bulimia nervosa report greater marital distress. In fact, the degree of distress in these marriages did not differ significantly from those of people seeking marital therapy. Assessments from these spouses during the investigation were also suggestive of marital distress. The women with bulimia nervosa in the study exhibited poor problem-solving skills and conflict avoidance, which may partially explain the state of their marriages. Taken as a whole, currently available evidence indicates that the other personal relationships of people with eating disorders are as disturbed as their family-of-origin relationships. They tend to hold dysfunctional attitudes toward love and romance, and, in the case of anorexia nervosa, avoidance of physical intimacy and involvement. The quest for self-verification may cause people with eating disorders to seek the very interpersonal responses that will worsen their condition. Among those who do get married, relational distress is still evident. It is impossible to overlook the potential connections between the distressed relationships in the families of origin and the adult romantic or marital relations of people with eating disorders. In many instances, people with anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa appear to be set up for interpersonal trouble by their experiences in their families of origin. As noted earlier, these family interactions are often marked by poor handling of conflict, excessive cohesion, and what are sometimes gross boundary violations. Not surprisingly, children from such households go on to develop possessive and dependent attitudes toward love, poor conflict resolution skills, and fearful avoidance of physical intimacy. #RandolphHarris 5 of 20

The implications for satisfaction with personal relationships are obvious. And if their own personal problems were not enough of a barrier to healthy relationships, other people appear reluctant and uncomfortable getting involved in a close relationship with those who have eating disorders. “Have you not known? Have you not heard? The everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of the Earth, does not faint or grow weary; there is no searching of His understanding. He gives power to the faint and weary, and to one who has no might He increased strength [causing it to multiply and making it to abound]. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and [selected] young people shall feebly stumble and fall exhausted; but those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] shall change and renew their strength and power; they shall lift their wings and mount up [close to God] as eagles [mount up to the sun]; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint or become tired,” reports Isaiah 40.28-31. All of us face disappointments from time to time. No matter how much faith one has or how good a person one is, sooner or later, something (or somebody!) will shake your faith to its foundations. It may be something simple, such as not getting that promotion you really hoped for; not closing the big sale that you worked on so hard; not qualifying for a loan to buy that Cresleigh Home in Havenwood you really wanted. Or, it may be something more serious—a marriage relationship falling apart, the death of a loved one, or an incurable, debilitating illness. Whatever it is, that disappointment possesses the potential to derail you and destroy your faith. That is why it is vital that you recognize in advance that disappointments will come, and that you learn how to stay on track and deal with them when they do. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20

God has given us more gifts than we know what to do with, He is our Beneficent and Munificent Friend. And He has done the same to all others who have received Him in the Sacrament. It is no wonder, then, that we think up more names for Him, or God. Protector of Human Infirmities. Purveyor of Internal Consolations. As proof od His goodness, as if we needed yet another one, is His grafting of consolation onto tribulation. The resulting staff can then be used to ward off various harms. When my interior acropolis crumbled and I despaired in the rubble, God gave me hope. Using new grace, God restored the scaffolding and relit the sconces. Looking forward, before they receive Communion, some Devouts feel anxious; that is to say, their souls feel like stones, they have lost all their affections. Then comes the Communion. Looking back, after dining on the Heavenly Food and Drink, they find themselves changed for the better. Often, defeating disappointments and letting go of the past are flip sides of the same coin, especially when you are disappointed in yourself. When one does something wrong, it is important not to hold on to it and beat oneself up about it. Admit it, seek forgiveness, and move on. Be hasty to let go of one’s mistakes and failures, hurts, pains, and sins. The disappointments that disturb us the most, however, are usually those caused by other people. Many individuals who have been hurt by others are missing out on their new beginnings because they keep reopening old wounds. However, no matter what we have gone through, no matter how unfair it was, or how disappointed we were, we must release it and let it go. Someone may have walked out on you. Someone may have done you a great wrong. You may have prayed fervently for a loved one’s life to be saved, yet your loved one died. Leave that with God and go on with your life. The Christian Bible says, “The secret things belong to the LORD,” reports Deuteronomy 29.29. Leave them there. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20

God is far more accepting of our real weaknesses than more of us realize. As the Psalmist said: “As a father has compassion on His children, so has the Lord compassion on all who fear Him. For He knows our frame; He remembers that we are dust,” reports Psalm 103.13-14. It is in owning our weaknesses that we have access to the presence of God. He welcomes those who confess their need. And the greatest need is for communion with God. In the New Testament both James and Peter reiterate the Old Testament theme: “God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble,” (James 4.6; I Peter 5.5). If we desire to encounter and surrender to God, we must become aware of our helplessness. We must experience the reality that on our own part, if apart from God’s plan and resources, we will live a partial and fragmented life. This is why the Christian Bible, from Genesis through Revelation, emphasizes that God meets face to face with those of a humble heart, while resisting people who are rigid and controlling in their arrogance. However, here we must make a distinction between humbling ourselves, on the one hand, and becoming helpless, servile, and self-effacing on the other. While the Scriptures advocate a certain childlike openness and honesty in relating to God and others, they do not teach us to remain fixated at an immature level of development. This is what the Helpless Christian does not understand. So one gets stuck at the infantile stage of psychological and spiritual development. However, in order to restore the rhythm of growth, the manipulative tactics of withdrawing and avoiding need to be transformed into the actualizing qualities of feeling vulnerable and empathizing. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20
Getting in touch with one’s own helplessness, pain, and vulnerability is an excellent way to develop the quality of empathy toward others. This particular quality, expressed at its finest in Jesus Christ, made Him so approachable by the common people and by little children. Disappointments almost always accompany setbacks. When you suffer loss, nobody expects you to be an impenetrable rock or an inaccessible island in the sea. Not even God expects you to be so touch that you simply ignore the disappointments in life, shrugging them off as though you are impervious to pain. No, when we experience failure or loss, it is natural to feel remorse or sorrow. That is the way God made us. If you lose your job, most likely you are going to experience a strong sense of disappointment. If you go through a broken relationship, that is going to hurt. If you lose loved one, there is a time of grieving, a time of sorrow. That is normal and to be expected. However, if you are still grieving and feeling sorrow over a disappointment that took place a year or more ago, something is wrong! You re hindering your future. Your must make a decision that you are going to move one. It will not happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, “I do not care how hard this is I am not going to let this get the best of me.” The enemy loved to deceive us into wallowing in self-pity, fretting, feeling sorry for ourselves, or having a chip on our shoulders. “Why did this happen to me?” “I got played.” “They took my money.” “God must not love me. He did not answer my prayers.” “Why did my marriage end in divorce?” “Why am I so evil and jealous?” “Why did not things work out in my life?” Such questions may be valid and may even be helpful to consider for a season, but after that, quit waiting your time trying to figure out something you cannot change. It is time to move on and start living a successful life now. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20

They are the true disciples of Christ, not who know must, but who love most. The love end of the anger/love polarity is expressed verbally with phrases such as “I am interested,” “I am attracted,” “I care,” and “I care tenderly.” The actualizing Christian has access to the experience and effective expression of these several intensities of love. Loving tenderness is a need all people have, and yet in American culture such expression is often discouraged. You must first receive before one has anything to give. If one has not received tender and affectionate feelings from parents, friends, or the Lord, then it is understandable that one may have difficulty dealing with these feeling. It is one thing to “know” in one’s head that one is loved; it is another thing to “feel” it in one’s heart. Most of us have been damaged to some extent by well-intentioned parents who firmly believed they loved us, yet did not know how to effectively communicate that love through cuddling, praise, and affirmation. If a child lives with encouragement, one learns confidence. If a child lives with praise, one learns to appreciate. If a child lives with fairness, one learns justice. If a child lives with fairness, one learns justice. If a child lives with security, one learns to have faith. If a child lives with approval, one learns to like oneself. If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, one learns to find love in the World. All of the foregoing lends credence to the idea that, in experiencing love developmentally, people also learn to love. It is in being loved that one learns to love. However, sometimes the very deprivation of love in growing up can become a strong motivator in learning how to go about giving and receiving love as an adult. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20

The person who has not been adequately loved can become especially sensitive to the need for love in the World. Not taking love for granted, this person may grow substantially in one’s lifetime in the ability to love self and others. It seems possible, then, that both satisfaction and deprivation of one’s needs to feel loved and apricated can become tutors in the art of learning to love. It is not simply what happens developmentally that determines one’s personhood, but rather what one does about it through awareness and choice. It is self-knowledge, facilitated by the presence of the Holy Spirit in one’s life, that enables one to discover needs and wants and to make them known in the loving relationships of later years. This provides a second chance to actualize oneself in becoming a sensitive and loving human being. Human beings really do want to love one another but just do not know how to go about it. The actualizing Christian learns to accept responsibility for finding out how to get the flow of love going in one’s life. Even though one’s need for feeling loved may never be fully met in this life, one can go a long way toward learning to love oneself, feeling God’s love, and daring to risk loving others. This is the meaning of “Underneath are the everlasting arms.” Dear Lord in Heaven, I know that I cannot change a single thing about the past, but I can choose how I will live in the future. Please help me to build my faith, Father, to believe that You will bring good even out of those circumstances I do not understand. I choose to trust You for good things in the days ahead. “Thou wilt keep one in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because one trusteth in thee,” reports Isaiah 26.3 #RandolphHarris 11 of 20

The many changes in the present and in the future in our conception of time also blast holes in our theoretical understanding of space, since the two are tightly interwoven. However, we are altering our image of space in more immediate ways as well. We are changing the actual spaces in which all of us live, work, and play. How we get to work, how far and how frequently we travel, where we live—all these influence our experience of space. And all these are changing. In fact, as the Third Wave plays out, we have entered a new phase in humanity’s relationship to space. The First Wave, which spread agriculture around the World, brought with it, as we saw earlier, permanent farming settlements in which most people lived out their entire lives within a few miles of their birthplace. Agriculture introduced a stay-put, spatially intensive existence, and fostered intensely local feelings—the village mentality. Second Wave civilization, by contrast, concentrated huge populations in great cities and, because it needed to draw resources from afar and to distribute goods at a distance, it bred mobile people. The culture it produced was spatially extensive and city- or nation- rather than village-centered. The Third Wave alters our spatial experience by dispersing rather than concentrating population. While millions of people continue to pour into urban areas in the still-industrializing parts of the World, all the high-technology countries are already experiencing a reversal flow. Tokyo, London, Zurich, Glasgow, and dozens of major cities are all losing population while middle-sized or smaller cities are showing gains. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20
The American Council of Life Insurance declares: “Some urban experts believe that the major U.S. city is a thing of the past.” Fortune magazine reports that “transportation and communication technology has cut the cords that bound big corporations to the traditional headquarters cities.” And Business Week entitles an article “The Prospect of a Nation With No Important Cities.” This redistribution of and de-concentration of population will, in due time, alter our assumptions and expectations about personal as well as social space, about acceptable commuting distances, about housing density, and many other things. In addition to such changes, the Third Wave also appears to be generating a new outlook that is intensely local, yet global—even galactic. Everywhere we find a new concentration on “community” and “neighbourhood,” on local politics and local ties at the same time that large numbers of people—often the same ones who are most locally oriented—concern themselves with global issues and worry about famine not only 10,000 miles away, but also in the central cities. As advanced communications proliferate and we begin to shift work back into the electronic cottage, we will encourage this new dual focus, breeding large numbers of people who remain reasonably close to home, who migrate less often, who travel more perhaps for pleasure but far less often for business—while their minds and messages range across the entire planet and into outer space as well. The Third Wave mentality combines concern for near and far. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20

We are also rapidly adopting more dynamic and relativistic images of space. I have in my office several large blowups of satellite and U-2 photographs of New York City and the surrounding area. The satellite phots look like fantastical beautiful abstractions, the sea a deep green the coastline detailed against it. The U-2 photo shows that city infrared, and in such exquisite detail that the Metropolitan Museum and even individual planes parked on the ramps at La Guardia Airport are clearly visible. Referring to the planes at La Guardia, I asked a Nasa official if, by further enlarging the photos, one could actually see the stipes or symbols painted on the wings. He looked at me with amused tolerance and corrected me. “The rivets,” he replied. However, we are no longer limited to exquisitely refined still pictures. Satellites permits us to look at a living map—an animated display—of a city or a country and watch the activities on it as they are taking place. The map is no longer a static representation but a movie—indeed an X ray in motion, since it now shows not merely what is on the surface of the Earth but also reveals, layer by layer, what lies blow the surface and above it at each level of altitude. It also provides a sensitive, continually changing image of terrain and our relationships to it. At tone time, the most common map used by most of the World was based on Mercator’s projection. Now people use Google Maps, a digital form of a map, where one can zoom in on any community and look at it, or look at the comprehensive map. Scandinavia is no longer distorted to be larger than India. In the past, the distortions of the Mercator map fostered the arrogance of the industrial World in proper political, as well as cartographic perspective. Developing countries were once cheated with raged to their surface and their importance. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20
People were once shocked to see a map that showed the accurate sizes of Europe, Alaska, Canada, and Russia being much smaller than they were led to believe, and a much elongated South America, Africa, Arabia, and India. However, what this controversy underscores is the recognition that there is no single “right” map, but merely different images of space that serve different purposes. In the most literal sense, the Third Wave and technology had brought new ways of looking at the World. For a monarchial state to be capable of being well governed, its size or extent must be proportionate to the faculties of the one who governs. It is easier to conquer than to rule. With a long enough lever, it is possible for a single finger to make the World shake; but holding it in place requires the shoulders of Hercules. However small a state may be, the prince is nearly always too small for it. When, on the contrary, it happens that the state is too small for its leader, which is quite rare, it is still poorly governed, since the leaders, always pursuing one’s grand schemes, forgets the interests of the peoples, making them no less wretched through the abuse of talents one has too much of then does a leader who is limited for want of what one lacks. A kingdom must, so to speak, expand or contract with each reign, depending on the ability of the prince. On the other hand, since the talents of a senate have a greater degree of stability, the state can have permanent boundaries without the administration working any less well. The most obvious disadvantage of the government of just one human is the lack of that continuous line of succession which forms an unbroken bond of unity in the other two forms of government. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20

When one king dies, another is needed. Elections leave dangerous intervals and are stormy. And unless the citizens have a disinterested and integrity that seldom accompanies this form of government intrigue and corruption enter the picture. It is difficult for one to whom the state has sold itself not to sell it in turn, and reimburse oneself at the expense of the weak for the money extorted from one by the powerful. Sooner or later everything becomes venal under such an administration, and in these circumstances, the peace enjoyed under kinds is worse than the disorders of the interregna. What has been done to prevent these ills? In certain families, crowns have been made hereditary, and an order of succession has been established which prevents all dispute when kinds die. That is to say, by substituting the disadvantage of regencies for that of elections, an apparent tranquility has been preferred to a wise administration, the risk of having children, monsters, or imbeciles for leaders has been preferred to having to argue over the choice of good kings. No consideration has been given to the fact that in being thus exposed to the risk of the alternative, nearly all the odds are against them. There was a lot of sense in what Dionysius the Younger said in reply to his father, who, while reproaching his son for some shameful actions, said “Have I given you such an example?” “Ah,” replied the son, “But your father was not king.” When a human has been elevated to command others, everything conspires to deprive one of justice and reason. A great deal of effort is made, it is said, to tech young princes the art of ruling. It does not appear that this education does them any good. It would be better to begin by teaching them the art of obeying. #RandolphHarris 16 of 20
The greatest kings whom history celebrates were not brought up to reign. It is a science one is never less in possession of than after one has learned too much, and that one acquires it better in obeying than in commanding. For the most useful as well as the shortest method of finding out what is good and what is bad is to consider what you would have wished for not wished to have happened under another prince. One result of this lack of coherence is the instability of the royal form of government, which, now regulated by one plan now by another according to the character of the ruling prince or of those who rule for one, cannot have a fixed object for very long or a consistent policy. This variation always causes the state to drift from maxim to maxim, from project to project, and does not take place in the other forms of government, where the prince is always the same. It is also apparent that in general, if there is more cunning in a royal court, there is more wisdom in a senate; and that republics proceed toward their objectives by means of policies that are more consistent and better followed. On the other hand, each revolution in the ministry produces a revolution in the state, since the maxim common to all ministers and nearly all kinds is to do the reverse of their predecessor in everything. From this same incoherence we drive the solution to a sophism that is very familiar to royalist political theorists. Not only is civil government compared to domestic government and the prince to the father of the family (an error already refuted), but this magistrate is also liberally given all the virtues one might need, and it is always presupposed that the prince is what he ought to be. With the help of this presupposition, the royal form of government is obviously preferable to any other, since it is unquestionably the strongest; and it lack only a corporate will that is more in conformity with the general will in order to be the best as well. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20

However, if according to Plato, a king by nature is such a rare person, how many times will nature and fortune converge to crown one; and if a royal education necessarily corrupts those who receive it, what is to be hoped from a series of humans who have been brought up to reign? Surely then it is deliberate self-deception to confuse the royal form of government with that of a good king. To see what this form of government is in itself, we need to consider it under princes who are incompetent or wicked, for either they come to the throne wicked or incompetent, or else these thrones makes them so. These difficulties have not escaped the attention of anyone one, but some people are not troubled by them. They remedy, they say, is to obey without murmur. God in his anger gives us bad kinds, and they must be endured as punishments from Heaven. No doubt this sort of talk is edifying, however I do not know but that it belongs more in a pulpit than in a book on political theory. What is to be said of a physician who promises miracles, and whose art consists entirely of exhorting one’s sick patient to practice patience? It is quite obvious that we must put up with a bad government when that is what we have. The question is how to find a good one. God told Israel He had given them the land, but they were to go in and possess it. The land belonged to them, yet they did not possess it for forty years because they believed more in circumstances than in God’s Word. “So we see that they could not enter in because of unbelief,” reports Hebrews 3.19. The word of unbelief here literally means “disobedience.” God said to possess it, but they said, “We are not able.” So they did not obey God and they did not possess the land until all who doubted God had died. Out of the twelve spies, Joshua and Caleb were the only two that went in to possess the land. These two held fast to their confession: “We are well able to take the land.” For forty years, they held fast to that one confession and they got what they said. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20

Let us therefore hold fast to our confession of faith that we may possess those things that God says are ours. The promised land is not a type of Heaven, as some believe, but a type of success living on Earth. We are well able to enter in through faith. Hatred does not stop hatred. It ceases by compassion. If philosophy advocates the peaceful way of quickened evolution and dynamic progressivism as against the violent way of abrupt revolution, it is because it knows that the moral evils which are introduced by brutality—not to speak of the physical ones which inevitably follow from it—constitute too high a price for the benefits received. For if the latter tend to disappear, the former tend to become stabilized. A great social change which stimulated hatred, passion, selfishness, and materialism would negate the ultimate purpose which lies behind all social evolution—the spiritualization of human character. A better society, to be based on the goodwill and co-operation, cannot be reached by arousing hatred and selfishness. The defense that ends justify means is a self-deceptive one. It is for the votaries of philosophy to follow the right path and to abstain from brutal or bloody methods, especially as we know that whilst conditions create them, there will always be others who are naturally inclined towards the transplanted barbarism of Communism. Because their daily work keeps them in constant touch with nature, some people everywhere in the World have a more religious emotion and mystical feeling than the others. However, we must be careful of real evil. Brutal hatred and camouflaged materialism, as well as the selfish preservation of one’s own power can create a criminal leadership. And their years of sacrifice in blood and comfort will profit them nothing. They are sacrifices made in an evil cause. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20

Those whose whole attitude is quarrelsome and carping and hating and irresponsible can contribute only unscrupulous criticism and hysterical destruction towards life. They are eager to obstruct and even destroy, but never to create, to co-operate, or to build. The Communist leaders, as distinct from their blind dupes, are the poisonous scorpions of society. O God, creator of our land, our Earth, the trees, the animals and humans, all is for your honour. The drums beat it out, and people sing about it, and they dance with noisy joy that you are the Lord. You also have pulled the other continents out of the sea. What a wonderful World you have made out of wet mud, and what beautiful men and women! We thank you for all the beauty of this Earth. The grace of your creation is like a cool day between rainy seasons. We drink pure water in your creation with out eyes. We listen to the birds’ jubilee with our ears. How strong and good and sure your Earth smells, and everything that grows there. Please bless us. Please bless our land and people. Please bless our forests with mahogany, wawa, and cacao. Please bless our fields with cassava and peanuts. Please bless the waters that flow through out land. Please fill them with fish and drive great schools of fish to our seacoast, so that the fishermen and women in their unsteady boasts do not need to go out too far. Please be with us in our countries and in all Africa, and in the whole World. Please prepare us for the service that we should render. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, the King of judgment. As for slanderers, may their hopes come to naught, and may all wickedness perish. May all Thine enemies be destroyed. Do Thou uproot the dominion of arrogance; crush it and subdue it in our day. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who breakest the power of the enemy and bringest low the arrogant. May Thy tender mercies, O Lord our God, be stirred towards the righteous and the pious, towards the leaders of Thy people America, towards all the scholars that have survived, towards the righteous proselytes and towards us. Please grant Thy favour unto all who faithfully trust in Thee, and may our portion ever be with them. May we never suffer humiliation for in Thee do we put our trust. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who are the staff and trust of the righteous. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20

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Perplexity is leavened by extravagant Victorian beauty, and no casual visitor can see it all. Palatial elegance unfolds with each turn along every path of exploitation of the catacomb. One gazes through oval lens windows now only magnifying the pandemonium of Winchester Boulevard; through them, over a century ago, imagine the warm summer evenings, as Sarah Winchester admired her quiet gardens steeped in the low western sunshine; the bird singing loud in the hawthorn and sycamore of her deer park, the cascading fountains spouting holy water, and the peaceful blossoming orchards vesper calm upon all things. The best tea-things were set out in her best parlour. There was usually a bunch of roses on the table, and Mrs. Winchester was dressed in her light blue muslin, with a rose in her hair. She would arise before her guests like a picture, with the sunshine flickering about her dark hair. She was very sweet, tender and gentle. Many people wanted the pleasure of an invitation to a séance in the Blue Séance Room. Mrs. Winchester would gather together many birds of alien feather. A humans’ own suffering mind must be, of all moral food, the most poisonous for one to feed on. Surround a scorpion with fire and it stings oneself to death. Throw a diseased soul entirely upon its own resources and moral suicide result. It was a principle with Mrs. Winchester to oppose bullying. She believed we were here on this Earth for a definite purpose–and God’s duty plain to any human who wills to read it. There may be disembodied spirits who seek to distress or annoy where they can no longer control. If there are, hers, which is not yet divorces from its means to material action, declines to be influenced by any irresponsible whimsy. #RandolphHarris 1 of 16
Mrs. Winchester was very happy in her new home. She had been used to keeping her father’s house since her early girlhood days, and her shortly lived matronly duties came very easy to her. The expansive Victorian mansion, with its neat furniture and fresh dimity draperies, 160 rooms, 10,000 windows, nine kitchens, and 47 fireplaces was the pretties thing possible in the way of rustic interiors; the estates was like a temple dedicated to some Heavenly divinity, and Mrs. Winchester took a natural womanly pride in this bright home. She had come from a good house; but this was quite her own. For 38 years, 1884-1922, the sound of saw and hammer never ceased. Commonly, 16 carpenters were employed at one time, some having worked for 20 years without changed. They produced the largest, most complicated and exclusively private residents in the United States of America. There are five different heating systems and three elevators, one hydraulic and two electric. Some of the 13 bathrooms lacked privacy; they have clear glass doors! One rambling room has four fireplaces and five hot-air registers. A spiral stairway has 42 steps, each two inches high. Other stairways melt into blank walls. A second story door opens into the great outdoors and a 20-foot step. A linen closet has the area of a three-room apartment; a nearby cupboard is less than one-inched deep. A skylight is placed in the middle of a room, in the floor! Another floor is a series of trap-doors. The visitor must stoop through one door to enter, the next gives clearance for an eight-foot giant. Many stairway turn posts are upside down. Entire walls are built entirely of half-inch, “half-round” strips. #RandolphHarris 2 of 16
Everywhere prevail that uncanny deference to the number 13; 13 stairsteps, 13 hangers in a closet, 13 wall panels, 13 lights in the chandeliers, 13 windows to a room and if necessary to make that number, some placed in an inside wall. One of the guests at this séance was Ludwig Leichhardt. He thought of men and women who had died of a fever the previous year, and the spirits told him to depart for “people who had wished to live, for whom life was full of duties and household joys; whose loss left wide gaps among their kindred, not to be filled again upon this Earth.” Ludwig felt a dull blankness of his existence which he felt—an utter emptiness and hopelessness; nothing to live for in the present, nothing to look forward to in the future. He bragged about how much capital he had in the Bank of Italy and how he could provide Mrs. Winchester with a comfortable life. However, this was to be his last day as a guest at the Winchester mansion. His two great sea chests, containing his clothes, books, and other property had gone to San Francisco by that evening’s luggage train. His last memory of the Winchester would be Mrs. Winchester’s bright tender face looking at him compassionately, as she had looked the day she broke his heart. After the death of her husband and daughter, Mrs. Winchester remained celibate and never remarried. Precious moments went by, and Ludwig pushed his teacup away with a listless air. He got up presently and showed him she to the exit of the mansion, after a brief good evening to all. The sun was low by this time, and the western sky flooded with an orange light. The garden was abloom with roses and honeysuckle. Ludwig Leichhardt fancied her should never look upon such flowers or such a garden again. The mansion seemed to grow dark all at once when he was gone. #RandolphHarris 3 of 16
Adam Worth had also been at the séance that evening and did not seem to care for the tea. Ludwig promised to write Mrs. Winchester to let her know he was safe. The sun had gone down, and there was a long line of crimson yonder in the west above the edge of the estate. All the guest prepared to leave and Mrs. Winchester retired to her chambers for the evening. While laying in bed, Mrs. Winchester heard a bang on a door with a sounding slap. She figured it was just a piece of stupid discourtesy and went back to sleep. The following morning, she swore that one of the rooms on the second floor was not empty—and was quite upset about it—said there was some infernal influence at work in her home. To satisfy her curiosity, she asked her butler Henry to open the door. The light was dim in the room and Mrs. Winchester paused in the corridor outside. His eyes glistened. His features relaxed, and he gave a short sigh, “the room is empty,” said Henry. With some stir of curiosity, Mrs. Winchester slipped out, but had a certain vague wonder in her mind. As she heard, the medium from the night before in the parlour was struggling on the floor, in what looked like an epileptic fit. Mrs. Winchester walked deliberately back to the closed door, as Henry went to hold the medium from doing any injury to herself. Huddled against the massive end wall, and half embedded in it, as it seemed, there lay a shadow. Looking closely, Mrs. Winchester saw that the trap door was not only firmly bolted, but screwed into its socket. She strode off in a fume. She was in an odd frame of mind, and for long moved her sitting-room to and fro, too restless to go to bed, or, as an alternative, to settle down to a book. #RandolphHarris 4 of 16
She could not whistle her mind from the chase of a certain graveyard will-o’-wisp; and on it went stumbling and floundering through bog and mire, until she fell into a state of collapse, and was useful for nothing else. She went to bed and to sleep without difficulty, but was conscious of herself all the time, and of a shadowless horror that seemed to come stealthily out of the corners and to bend over and look at her, and nothing but a curtain or a hanging coat when she started and stared. Over and over again this happened, and Mrs. Winchester’s temperature rose by leaps, and suddenly she saw that is she failed to assert herself, and promptly, fever would leap her in a consuming fire. Then in a moment she broke into a profuse perspiration, and sank exhausted into delicious unconsciousness. Morning found her restored to vigour, but still the with flutter of curiosity in her brain. It worked there all day, and for many subsequent days, and at last it seemed as if her every faculty were honeycombed with its ramifications. Then “this will not do,” Mrs. Winchester thought, but still the tunnelling process went on. As the curious devil mastered her, she grew into such harmony with it that she could shut her eyes no longer to the true purpose of its insistence. It was the closed room about which her thoughts hovered like crows circling round carrion. In the dead waste and middle of a certain night, Mrs. Winchester awoke with a strange, quick recovery of consciousness. There was the passing of a single expiration, and she had been asleep and was awake. She had gone to bed with no sense of premonition or of resolve in a particular direction; she sat up a monomaniac. It was as if, swelling in the silent hours, the tumour of curiosity had come to a head, and in a moment, it was necessary to operate upon it. #RandolphHarris 5 of 16
She made no excuse for her then condition. Mrs. Winchester was convinced she was the victim of some undistinguishable force, that she was an agent under the control of the supernatural. Some thought had been in her mind of late in her position it was her duty to unriddle the mystery of the closed room door. However, time went by. The new year came, and still there was no letter from Ludwig Leichhardt. However, early in January, Henry, the butler came home from the Bank of Italy one afternoon, and told Mrs. Winchester she need not worry herself about her old friend any longer. “Ludwig Leichhardt is safe enough, mistress,” he said. “I was talking to Gilbert, the cashier at the Bank of Italy, this morning, and he told me that Leichhardt wrote to them for $2,000.00 last October from San Francisco, and he has written $1,000.00 more since. He is buying land somewhere—I forget the name of the place—and he’s well and hearty, Gilbert tells me.” However, a sense of fear and constriction was upon Mrs. Winchester. “Well, I’m afraid I’m rather fanciful, Henry; but I could never explain to you what a strange feeling came over me the night Ludwig Leichhardt went away from this estate. It was after I had said goodbye to him, and he had gone back into the mansion, where all was dark and quiet. I sat in the parlour thinking of him, and it seemed as if a voice was saying in my ear that I, nor anyone that care for hum, would ever seen Ludwig Leichhardt again. There wasn’t any such voice of course, you know, Henry, but it seemed like that in my mind; and whenever I’ve thought of poor Ludwig Leichhardt since that time, it has seemed to me like thinking of the dead. Often and often I’ve said to myself, ‘Why, Sarah, you silly thing, you ought to know that he’s safe enough in San Francisco. Ill news travels fast; and if there’d be anything wrong, we should have heard of it somehow.’ But, reason with myself as I would, I have never been able to feel comfortable about him; and thank God for your good news, Henry, and thank you for bring it to me. #RandolphHarris 6 of 16
It has been very unkind of Ludwig not to write. She could not forgive him for his neglect, glad as she was to know he was safe. Then Mrs. Winchester paused for a moment, and confessed, the quick pant of fear seemed to come from her lips. There were sounds about her—the deep breathing of an imprisoned man. She returned to the locked door, and hurriedly flung it open. An acrid whiff of dust assailed her nostrils as she stepped back a pace and stood expectant of anything—or nothing. What did she wish, or dread, or foresee? The room was rather a large one; an old-fashioned room, with a low ceiling crossed by heavy means; half parlour, half kitchen, with a wide-open fireplace at one end, on which the logs had burnt to a dullish red. There was the old chintz-covered armchair. Mrs. Winchester had been sitting with her face towards the open window, looking absently out at the garden, where daffodils and early primroses glimmered through the dusk. She stood to pick up her blueprints, which had fallen to the ground. She was standing folding this in a leisurely way, when she looked towards the fireplace, and gave a little start at seeing that the armchair was no longer empty. “Why, Henry,” she cried, “how quietly you must have come into the place! I never heard you.” There was no answer, and her voice sounded strange to her in the empty room. “Henry!” she repeated, a little louder; but the figure in the chair neither answered nor stirred. Then a sudden fright seized her, and she knew that it was not her butler. The room was almost dark; it was quite impossible that she could see the face of that dark figure seated in the armchair, with the shoulders bent a little over. Yet she knew, as well as ever she had known anything in her life, that it was not the butler Henry. #RandolphHarris 7 of 16
She went slowly towards the fireplace, and stood within a few paces of that strange figure. A little flash of light shot up from the candle, and shone for an instant on the face. It was Ludwig Leichhardt! Mrs. Winchester tried to speak to him; but the words would not come. And yet it was hardly so appalling a thing to see him there that she need have felt what she did. San Francisco was not too far from San Jose that a man may not cross the Bay and drop in upon his friend unexpectedly. The candle’s flame got bigger, lighting up the entire room. The chair was empty. Mrs. Winchester uttered a loud cry, and Henry entered the room. “Why, Mrs. Winchester! What’s amiss?” he said. She ran to him, sobbing hysterically, and then calming herself with an effort, told him how she had seen Ludwig’s ghost. “Why Mrs. Winchester,” Henry replied. “Ludwig Leichhardt is safe in San Francisco. It was a shadow that took the shape of your old friend, to your fancy. It’s easy enough to fancy such a thing when your mind’s full of anyone.” Ill and shaken, yet fearing death as she had never dreaded it before, Mrs. Winchester said, “It was no fancy. Ludwig Leichhardt is dead, and I have seen his ghost. I’ve a feeling that he never got to San Francisco alive, Henry,” she said. “I can’t explain how it is, but I’ve a feeling that it was so.” Mrs. Winchester spent the rest of that horrible night huddled between her crumpled sheets, fearing to look forth, fearing to think. She knew the letters had been forgeries, and could not forget the madness and the terror in learning to walk the unvext paths of placid souls. She was left with nothing but an aimless scurrying terror and the black swarm of thoughts, so that she verily fancied her reason would give under the strain. Yet she had more to endure and to triumph over. Near morning she fell into a troubled sleep, throughout which the drawn twitch of muscle seemed an accent on every word of ill-omen she had ever spelt out of the alphabet of fear. If her body rested, her brain was an open chamber for any toad of ugliness that listed to “sit at squat” in. #RandolphHarris 8 of 16
Mrs. Winchester tried to convince herself that the thing she had seen was only a trick of her imagination. Another month went by, and again in the twilight the same figure appeared to her. It was standing this time, with one arm leaning on the high mantlepiece; standing facing her as she came back to the room, after having quitted it for a few minutes for some slight household duty. There was a fire burning in the fireplace. The logs were burning with a steady blaze that lit up the well-known figure and unforgotten face. Ludwig Leichardt was looking at her with an expression that seemed half reproachful, half beseeching. He was very pale, much paler than she had ever seen him in life; and as he looked, she standing just within the threshold of the door, she saw him lift his hand slowly and point to his forehead. The firelight showed her a dark red stain upon the left temple, like the mark of a contused wound. She covered her face with her hands, shuddering and uttering a little cry of terror, and then dropped half fainting upon a chair. When she uncovered her face the room was empty, there was a pool of blood on the floor, and the firelight shining cheerily upon the walls, no trace of that ghostly visitant. This time Mrs. Winchester brooded over the thoughts of the thing she had seen, firmly believing that she had looked upon the shadow of the dead, and that there was some purpose to be fulfilled by that awful vision. In the day, she had the room boarded up. The thought of this was almost always in her mind; in the dead silence of the night, she would often lie awake for hours thinking of Ludwig Leichhardt. Mrs. Winchester knew he had been waylaid and murdered. He had a good deal of money about him. Suddenly Mrs. Winchester woke to the fact that there was a knocking at her door—that there had been for some little time. She cried, “Come in!” finding a weak restorative in the mere sound of her own human voice; then remember the keys was turned, bade the visitor wait until she could come to him. #RandolphHarris 9 of 16
Scrambling, feeling dazed and white-livered, out of bed, Mrs. Winchester opened the door, and met one of the gentlemen on the threshold. The man looked scared, and his lips, she noticed, were set in a somewhat boding fashion. “Come you come at once, Mrs. Winchester?” he said, “There’s summat wrong with Ludwig Leichhardt. She had now a settled conviction that some untimely fate had befallen her old friend, and that the letters from San Francisco were forgeries. Gilbert from the Bank of Italy compared the signature cards and determined that the drafts and letters were forgeries. There was one thing noticeable in the San Francisco letters—they were all exactly alike, line for line, curve for curve. This rather discomposed Gilbert; for it is a notorious fact that a man rarely signs his name twice in exactly the same manner. There is almost always some difference. Before the month was out, Ludwig Leichhardt’s ghost appeared for the third time to Mrs. Winchester. In the Tender June twilight. She was thinking of her old friend as she walked along the shadowy winding path of the deer park on her estate. It was just such a still, peaceful evening as that upon which he had stood on the edge of the common looking back at her, and waving his hand, upon that last well remembered night. He was so much in her thoughts, and the conviction that he had come from among the dead to visit her was so rooted in her mind, that she was scarcely surprised when she looked up presently, and saw a tall familiar figure moving slowly among the trees a little way before her. There seemed to be an awful stillness in the wood all at once, but there was nothing awful in that well-known figure. She tried to overtake it; but it kept always in advance of her, and at a sudden turn in the path she lost it altogether. The trees grew thicker, and there was a solemn darkness at the spot where the path took this sharp turn, and on one side of the narrow footpath there was a steep declivity and a great hollow, made by a disused gravel pit. #RandolphHarris 10 of 16
She went to her mansion quickly enough, with a subdued sadness upon her, and told Henry what had happened to her. Nor did she rest until there had been a search made on the extensive grounds for the body of Ludwig Leichhardt. They searched and found him lying at the bottom of the gravel pit, half buried in loose sand and gravel, and quite hidden by a mass of furze and bramble that grew over the spot. There was an inquest, of course. The tailor who had made the clothes found upon the body identified them, and swore to them as those he had made for Ludwig Leichhardt. The pocket were all empty and turned inside out. There could be little doubt the Ludwig Leichhardt had been waylaid and murdered for the sake of the money he carried upon him that night. His skull had been shattered by a blow from a jagged stick on the left temple. The stick was found laying at the bottom of the pit a little way from the body, with human hair and stains of blood upon it. Ludwig Leichhardt had never left San Jose. It was later determined that Adam Worth had killed Ludwig Leichhardt and took his money. The Bank of Italy refunded the withdraws. Adam Worth was ultimately apprehended, with some of Ludwig Leichhardt’s property still in his possession, and he was deeply in debt. The final examination resulted in a verdict of willful murder, tried, found guilty and hung. Ludwig Leichhardt had executed a few days before his intended departure, bequeathing all he possessed to Sarah Winchester—the interest for her sole use and benefit, the principal to revert to her estate after her death. Mrs. Winchester often sits beside that quiet resting place in the spring twilight; but she had never seen Ludwig Leichhardt’s ghost since that evening in the deer park, and she knew she never would see it again. She shook with an awful thankfulness at sight of the pitfalls she had skirted and escaped—of the demon she witlessly had baffled. The joy of life was in her heart again, but chastened and made pitiful by experience. #RandolphHarris 11 of 16
You are aware that evil spirit beings operating through humans in positions of authority and influence are the real motivators in human society? Yes, this is exactly what the Christian Bible teaches! Perhaps this concept seems strange to you, almost like an outmoded superstition, but the Bible definitely states that Satan in the “god of this age,” reports 2 Corinthians 4.4, and that he is the leader of a well-organized army of beings invisible to humans but very active among them. Paul tells us in Ephesians, “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this World, against spiritual wickedness in high places,” reports Ephesians 6.12. These words indicate that evil spirits are organized into a military-like structure. The “principalities” are the highest ranking officers under Satan, the “powers” are officials of somewhat lower standing, and the “rulers of the darkness of this World” seem to be a special band of evil spirits whose sphere of influence includes the leaders of human government. The phrase “spiritual wickedness is high places” is better translated “spiritual hosts of wickedness in the Heavenly places,” and makes reference to the myriads of demonic hordes. They are all under the direction of Satan, who is not only named the “god of this age,” but also is called “the prince of the power of the air,” reports Ephesians 2.2. The Scriptures often speak of a close relationship between these evil spiritual and the “World.” In the Ephesians passage quoted above, you will remember that these spirit beings are called “the rulers of the darkness of this World.” The apostle John also refers to the World, and it is significant that he considers it to be the Christian’s enemy. “Love not the World, neither the things that are in the World. If any human love the World, the love of the Father is not in one. For all that is in the World, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Farther, but is of the World. And the World passeth away, and the lust of it; but one that doeth the will of God abideth forever,” reports 1 John 2.15-17. #RandolphHarris 12 of 16
In addition, the same apostle declared that one who is “born of God overcometh the World,” reports 1 John 5.4, and also that “the whole World lieth in wickedness,” reports 1 John 5.19. James, the brother of Jesus, declared in his epistle, “Whosoever therefore, will be a friend of the World, is the enemy of God,” reports James 4.4. Before we can gain a full understanding of what this means, we must answer the following questions: What is this World, which if loved causes us to lose God’s friendship? What does the Bible mean when it says that the whole World “lieth in wickedness”? Certainly the Bible is not saying that Christians should not love the World of nature, nor is it implying that every person who is not a Christian is an enemy to be overcome. In fact, the Scriptures often state that the glory of God is revealed in the natural World, and it specifically instructs believers not to antagonize other people, but to love them. No, the material Universe in which we live is not opposed to us, and we are not to consider the people who inhabit the Earth as our enemies. The “World” referred to by John and James is the moral and spiritual system we call human society. Humankind, which has rejected God’s revelation, has devised explanations of life, moral standards, and principles of conduct based upon human knowledge only. Humans, on the whole, operate on erroneous principles, selfish desires, improper motives, and unworthy standards of value. The sciences, the arts, politics, and entertainment are all dominated by a humanistic approach to life which draws humans away from God and makes humans the “measure of all things.” If the period of treated of in the essay from the commencement of the seventeenth century to the Restoration of Charles II, be barren of witchcraft proper, it must at least be admitted that it is prodigal in regard to the marvellous under various shapes and forms, from which the hysterical state of the public mind can be fairly accurately gauged. #RandolphHarris 13 of 16
The rebellion of 1641, and the Cromwellian confiscations, that troubled periods when the county was torn by dissention, and ravaged by fire, sword, and pestilence, was aptly ushered in by a series of supernatural events which occurred in the country Limerick. A letter dated the 13th August 1640, states that “for news we have the strangest that ever was heard of, there inchantments in the Lord of Castleconnell’s Castle four miles from Lymerick, several sorts of noyse, sometymes of drums and trumpets, sometimes of other curious musique with Heavenly vouces, then fearful screeches, and such outcries that the neighbours near cannot sleepe. Priests have adventured to be there, but have been cruelly beaten for their paynes, and carryed away they knew not how, some two miles and some four miles. Moreover were seen in the like manner, after they appear to the view of the neighbours, infinite number of armed men on foote as well as on horseback. One thing more [id est something supernatural] by Mrs. Mary Burke with tweleve servants lyes in the hose, and never one hurt, onley they must dance with them every night; they say, Mrs. Mary come away, telling her she must be wife to the inchanted Earl of Desmond. Uppon a Mannour of my Lord Bishoppe of Lymerick, Loughill, hath been seen upon the hill by most of the inhabitants aboundance of armed men marching, and these seene many tymes—and when they come up to them they do not appear. These things are very strange, if the cleargie and gentrie say true.” During the rebellion an appalling massacre of Protestants took place at Portadown, when about a hundred persons, men, women, and children, were forced over the bridge into the river, and so drowned; the few that could swim, and so managed to reach the shore, were either knocked on the head by the insurgents when they landed, or else were shit. #RandolphHarris 14 of 16
It is not a matter of surprise that this terrible incident gave rise to legends and stories in which anything strange or out of the common was magnified out of all proportion. Accord to one deponent there appeared one evening in the river “a vision or spirit assuming the shape of a woman, waist high, upright in the water, naked with [illegible] in her hand, her hair dishevelled, her eyes seeming to twinkle in her head, and her skin as white as snow; which spirit seeming to stand upright in the water often repeated the word Revenge! Revenge! Revenge! Also, Robert Maxwell, Archdeacon of Down, swore that the rebels declared to him, (and some deponents made similar statements) “that most of those that were thrown from the bridge were daily and nightly seen to walk upon the River, sometimes singing Psalms, sometimes brandishing of Swords, sometimes screeching in a most hideous and fearful manner.” Both these occurrences are capable of a rational explanation. The supposed spectre was probably a poor, bereaved woman, demented by grief and terror, who stile out of her hiding-place at night to bewail the murder of her friends, while the weird cries arose from the half-starved dogs of the country-side, together with the wolves which abounded in Ireland at that period, quarrelling and fighting over the corpses. Granting the above, and bearing in mind the credulity of all classes of Society, it is not difficult to see how the tales originated; but to say that, because such obviously impossible statements occur in certain despsitions, the latter are therefore worthless as a whole, is to willfully misunderstand the popular mind of the seventeenth century. We have the following on the testimony of the Rev. George Creighton, minister of Virginia, Co. Cavan. He tells us that “drivers women brought to his House a young woman, almost naked, to whom a Rogue came upon the way, these women being present, and required her to give him her mony, or else he would kill her, and so drew his sword; her answer was, You cannot kill me unless God gives you leave, and His will be done. #RandolphHarris 15 of 16
“Thereupon the Rogue thrust three times at her naked body with his drawn sword, and never pierced her skin; whereat he being, as it seems, much confounded, went away and left her.” A like story comes from the other side: “At the taking of the Newry a revel being appointed to be shot upon the bridge, and stripped stark-naked, nothing withstanding the musketeer stood within two yards of him, and shot him in the middle of the back, yet the bullet entered not, nor did him any more hurt than leave a little black spot behind it. This many hundreds were eye-witnesses of. Divers of the like have I confidently been assured of, who have been provided of diabolical charms.” Similar tales of persons bearing charmed lives could not doubt be culled from the records of every way that has been fought on this planet of ours since History began. The ease with which the accidental or unusual was transformed into the miraculous at this period is shown by the following. A Dr. Tate and his wife and children were flying to Dublin from the insurgents. On their way they were wandering over commons covered with snow, without any food. The wife was carrying a sucking child, John, and having no milk to give it she was about to lay it down in despair, when suddenly “on the Brow of a Bank she found a Suck-bottle with sweet milk in it, no Footsteps appearing in the snow of any that should bring it thither, and far from any Habitation; which preserved the child’s life, who after became a Blessing to the Church.” The Dr. Tate mentioned above was evidently the Rev. Faithful Tate, D.D., father of Nahum Tate of “Tate and Brady” fame. Much of what has passed current in the New World as White (id est, permissible) Magic is only a disguised goeticism, and may of the resplendent angels invoke with the divine rites reveal their cloven hoofs. It is not too much to say that a large majority of past psychological experiments were conducted to establish communication with demons, and that for unlawful purposes. The popular conceptions concerning the diabolical spheres, which have been all accredited by magic, may have been gross exaggerations of fact concerning rudimentary and perverse intelligences, but the willful viciousness of the communicants is substantially untouched thereby. #RandolphHarris 16 of 16
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At any point in time, millions of people throughout the World are afflicted with psychological problems. For many, these problems persist for years, and in some cases for a lifetime. Consider, for example, Paul Segrin, a 25-year-old single unemployed former copy editor for a large publishing house. He had been hospitalized after a suicide attempt in which he deeply gashed his wrist with a razor blade. He described [to the therapist] how he had sat on the bathroom floor and watched the blood drip into the Victorian clawfoot bathtub for some time before he telephoned his father at work for help. He and his father went to the hospital emergency rom to have the gash stitched, but he convinced himself and the hospital physician that he did not need hospitalization. The next day when his father suggested he needed help, he knocked his dinner to the floor and angrily stormed to his room. When he was calm again, he allowed his father to take him back to the hospital. The immediate precipitant for his suicide attempt was that he had run into one of his former girlfriends with her new boyfriend. The patient stated that they had a drink together, but all the while he was with them he could not help thinking that “they were dying to run off and jump in bed.” He experienced jealous rage, got up from the table, and walked out of the restaurant. He began to think about how he could “pay her back.” Mr. Segrin had felt frequently depressed for brief periods during the previous years. He was especially critical of himself for his limited social life and his inability to have managed to have pleasures of the flesh with a woman even once in his life. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20
As he related to this to the therapist, he lifted his eyes from the floor and with a sarcastic smirk said, “I’, a 25-year-old virgin. Go ahead, you can laugh now.” However, this is what God wants. Chastity is sexual purity. Those who are chaste are morally clean in their thoughts, words, and actions. Chastity means not having any pleasures of the flesh before marriage. It also means complete fidelity to husband or wife during marriage. Physical intimacy between husband and wife is beautiful and sacred. It is ordained of God for the creation of children and for the expression of love within marriage. No matter how strong temptations seem, the Lord will help us withstand them. In the gospel, our Heavenly Father desires nothing for us but to be happy. He tells us only those things that will bring us joy. And one of the surest principles given by God to help us find that joy is the law of chastity. “For I, the Lord God, delight in the chastity of people. And whoredoms are an abomination before me; thus saith the Lord of Hosts,” reports Jacob 2.28. Paul Sergin was actually doing the right thing in the eyes of the Lord by remaining a virgin. Nonetheless, he has had several girlfriends to date, who he described as very attractive, but who he said had lost interest in him. On further questioning, however, it became apparent that Mr. Sergin soon became very critical of them and demanded that they always meet his every need, often to their own detriment. The women then found the relationship very unrewarding and would soon find someone else. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20

During these past two years Mr. Sergin had seen three psychiatrists briefly, one whom had given him a drug, the name of which he could not remember, but that had precipitated some sort of unusual reaction for which he had to stay in a hospital overnight. Concerning his hospitalization, the patient said that “It was a dump,” that the staff refused to listen to what he had to say or to respond to his needs, and that they, in fact, treated all the patients “sadistically.” The referring doctor corroborated that Mr. Berman was a difficult patient who demanded that he be treated as special, and yet was hostile to most staff members throughout his stay. After one angry exchange with an aide, he left the hospital without leave, and subsequently signed out against medical advice. Mr. Sergin is one of two children of a middle-class family. His father is 50 years old and employed in a managerial position for an insurance company. He perceives his father as weak and ineffectual, completely dominated by the patient’s overbearing and cruel mother. He states that he hates his mother with “a passion I can barely control.” He claims that his mother used to call him names like “pervert” and “sissy” when he was growing up, and that in an argument she once “kicked me in the balls.” Together, he sees his parents as rich, powerful, and selfish, and, in turn, thinks that they see him as lazy, irresponsible, and a behaviour problem. When his parents called the therapist to discuss their son’s treatment, they stated that his problem began with the birth of his younger brother, Owen, when Paul was 10 years old. After Owen’s birth Paul apparently became an “ornery” child who cursed a lot and was difficult to discipline. Paul recalls this period only vaguely. He reports that his mother once was hospitalized for depression, but that now “she does not believe in psychiatry.” #RandolphHarris 3 of 20

Mr. Sergin had graduated from college with average grades. Since graduating he had worked at three different publishing houses, but at none of them for more than one year. He always found some justification for quitting. He usually sat around his house doing very little for two or three months after quitting a job, until his parents prodded him into getting a new one. He described innumerable interactions in his life with teachers, friends, and employers in which he felt offended or unfairly treated, and frequent arguments that left him feeling bitter and spent most of his time alone, “bored.” He was unable to commit himself to any person, he held no strong convictions, and he felt no allegiance to any group. The patient appeared as a very thin, bearded, and bespectabled young man with pale skin who maintained little eye contact with the therapist and who had an air of angry bitterness about him. Although he complained of depression, he denied other symptoms of the depressive syndrome. He seemed preoccupied with his rage at his parents, and seemed particularly invested in conveying a despicable image of himself. Paul Sergin is clearly dealing with some issues, but how did he become to be the way that he is? How do we explain and correct his many problems In confronting these questions, we must first look at the wide range of complaints we are trying to understand: Paul’s depression and anger, his social failures, his lack of employment, his distrust of those around him, and the problems within his family. Then we must sort through all kinds of potential causes, internal and external, biological and interpersonal, past and present. Which is having the biggest impact on behaviour? #RandolphHarris 4 of 20

Although we may not realize it, we all use theoretical frameworks as we read about Paul. Over the course of our lives, each of us has developed a perspective that helps us make sense of the things other people say and do. In science, the perspectives used to explain phenomena are known as models, or paradigms. Each model spells out the scientist’s basic assumptions, gives order to the field under study, and sets guidelines for its investigation. It influences what the investigators observe as well as the questions they ask, the information they seek, and how they interpret this information. To understand how a clinician explains or treats a specific set of symptoms, such as Paul’s, we must know which model shapes one’s view of abnormal functioning. Until recently, clinical scientists of a given place and time tended to agree on a single model of abnormality—a model greatly influenced by the beliefs of their culture. The demonological model that was used to explain abnormal functioning during the Middle Ages, for example, borrowed heavily from medieval society’s concerns with religion, superstition, and warfare. Medieval practitioners would have seen the devil’s guiding hand in Paul Sergin’s efforts to commit suicide and his feelings of depression, rage, jealousy, and hatred. Similarly, their treatments for him—from prayers to whippings—would have sought to drive foreign spirits from his body. Today several models are used to explain and treat abnormal functioning. This variety has resulted from shifts in values and beliefs over nearly the past century, as well as improvements in clinical research. #RandolphHarris 5 of 20

At one end of the spectrum is the biological model, which sees physical processes as the key to human behavior. At the other end is the sociocultural model, which examines the effects of society and culture on individual behavior. In between the four models that focus on more psychological and personal aspects of human functioning: the psychodynamic model looks at people’s unconscious internal processes and conflicts; the behaviour model emphasizes behavior and the ways in which it is learned; the cognitive model concentrates on the thinking that underlies behaviour; and the humanistic existential model stresses the role of values and choices in human functioning. Given their different assumptions and concepts, the models are sometimes in conflict. Those who follow one perspective often scoff at the “naïve” interpretations, investigations, and treatment efforts of the others. Yet none of the models are complete in themselves. Each focuses mainly on one aspect of human functioning, and none can explain all aspects of abnormality. Paul Sergin is a biological being. His thoughts and feelings are the results of biochemical and bioelectrical processes throughout his brain and body. Proponents of the biological model believe that a full understanding of his thoughts, emotions, and behaviour must therefore include an understanding of their biological basis. Not surprisingly, they believe that the most effective treatments for Paul’s problems will then be biological ones. As noted earlier, not all research on the interpersonal relationships of people with eating disorders had focused on the family-of-origin context. The other personal relationships of these people also appears to be problematic. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20

Symptoms of eating disorders are associated with lower satisfaction and closeness in dating/romantic relationships. An intriguing study comparing the interpersonal problems of patients with anorexia nervosa to those of women who had an occupation or hobby that stressed physical condition and appearance (exempli gratia, dance, athletics, professional models), as well as to women from the general public. The group with anorexia nervosa scored significantly higher on a measure of loneliness than either of the comparison groups. In addition, the correlation between loneliness and eating problems was higher in the group with anorexia nervosa (r= .65) than in either the weight-concerned group (r = .47) or the group from the general public (r = .28). A study of women with bulimia nervosa indicates that such individuals perceive less social support from friends as well as family members. These women felt less socially competent than a group of controls in a variety of social situations, particularly those that involved seeking out social encounters and forming close relationships with others. Some of these interpersonal problems may stem from distorted views of personal relationships by people with eating disorders. For example, characteristics of eating disorders are positively associated with a possessive, dependent love style, and negatively associated with a relatively more healthy passionate and friendship-based love style. In a related study, women with high scores on the Dieting and Bulimia-Food Preoccupation subscales of the Eating Attitudes Test tended to endorse ludus (game-playing) and mania (dependent, possessive) love styles. #RandolphHarris 7 of 20
Women with symptoms of eating disorders also view pleasures of the flesh expression as exploitative, and see relationships with men, but not with women, as difficult and dissatisfying. Studied such as these suggest that people with eating disorders, or at least a propensity toward eating disorders, have characterological attitudes toward love and romantic relationships that are unlikely to lead them into stable and soothing relationships. It is tempting to speculate that the development of these dysfunctional attitudes toward close relationships may have been shaped by earlier family-of-origin interactions that produced distorted models of such relationships. As with depression, eating disorders may be associated with negative interpersonal responses from other people. This may partially explain some of the loneliness and lack of relational involvement among certain people with eating disorders. In a study, over 700 university students were asked an open-ended question about what they thought it would be like to date someone with either anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa. The responses revealed mostly negative expectations. Themes that were prevalent in the answers included difficulty, stress, frustration, and disliking. Students were asked for their views toward involvement with someone who has anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa, starting with just studying with the person, to dating the person, all the way up to getting engaged. There was a very clear and strong linear relationship between reported discomfort and level of involvement: The more deeply involved the relationship was, the more respondents reported discomfort with the idea of involvement. The study also added an important component to the understanding of eating disorders and personal relationships: People tend to harbour negative attitudes toward getting involved, especially in intimate relationships, with others who have eating disorders. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20

Like people with depression, those with eating disorders elicit interpersonal rejection. Also like their depressed counterparts, people with eating disorders actually appear to seek and elicit such negative interpersonal responses. Testing hypotheses derived from self-verification theory, which argues that people prefer information consistent with their self-concept, found were symptoms of bulimia nervosa and body dissatisfaction to be positively associated with interest in negative feedback from others in such domains as intellect, social skills, and even physical appearance. The drive for self-verification among women with bulimia nervosa causes them to seek the very interpersonal responses that serve to maintain or exacerbate their condition. “The LORD will vindicate His people, and will have compassion on His servants,” reports Deuteronomy 32.26. A few years ago, somebody dealt unethically with a Victorian estate in a business deal. This person did not keep his end of the bargain, and ended up cheating the estate out of a lot of money. The estate was tempted to want to pay him back and make his life miserable. After all, they made them suffer; why not make him suffer. It was difficult; however, they decided to be a good corporate citizen and do what was righteous, which was to forgive and forget and turn the matter over to God. They said, “God, You know we are being mistreated. You know that what this man is doing is wrong. However, God, we are not going to try to get even. We are not going to try to avenge ourselves. We are counting on You to take care of the situation.” This process continued for several years, and we did not see any change. We had to keep reminding ourselves that God is a God of justice. God is going to turn our pain into diamonds for doing the right thing. God is going to settle our case. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20

Let me put it to you, My dear Devout, the way the Schoolmen do. Jesus Christ’s is always Act; ours, only Potency. Jesus Christ is the Causation; we, only the Instrumentation. Now who can imagine, let alone grasp, concepts like these? The University thinks it can, but Jesus doubts the Schoolmen are any better for their silvery syllogism. And why is He not surprised? Their thinking leads to more than Philosophy and Theology, more than Reason and Revelation, more than Angelic Intuition can do. It is a merry chase, but can the Cherubim and the Seraphim pass the test? Why, they would founder and they would flounder and eventually they would have to be sent down. How, therefore, can we, wretched students with Earth and ash for a brain—that is how Jesus son of Sirach would have put it (17.32)—ever hope to apprehend, let alone comprehend, the High Holy Secret of the Sacrament? Do not be so quick to despair. Try to be simple of hear and firm of faith; this is something of an echo from First Chronicles (29.17). However, if it were not for Jesus Christ’s invitation, we could never Hope to approach God with reverence. And here God is in the Sacramento. God and Man, no less. One and the same time. What next? We have got God under our tongues; that is to say, we received the Host and God in the Host. However, God is suggesting that at this very same time He has got us under His tongue? That is to day, He has received us whole and entire? Well, we must say! To do it once is staggering. However, to do it again and again—we pray His clemency and we pray His grace. Not only to receive Him again, but also to sour all other consolations that may compete with it. One day, out of the clear blue, God supernaturally stepped in and turned that situation around. He not only moved that man out of our lives, but He paid us back in abundance for everything he had taken. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20
Sadly, the man who tried to cheat us eventually lost his family, his business, his reputation—everything. And I certain do not wish that on anybody, but that, too, is the justice of God. One cannot go around continually doing wrong, cheating people and sowing bad seeds, and not expect it to eventually catch up to one. We will reap what we have sown. The Scripture says, “Never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for [God’s] wrath,” reports Romans 12.19. Notice, if one tries to pay people back, one is closing the door for God to do it. Either one can do it God’s way, or one can do it one’s ways. If one is going to let God handle it, one cannot have the attitude of: “I am going to show them what I am made of.” That will prevent God from avenging one His way. If you want to keep that door open so God can bring true justice into your life, one has to totally turn it over to Him. Maybe you have been working through a situation and one has been doing the right thing for a long time. Perhaps this had been going on month after month, maybe year after year, and now one is wondering, “Is God every going to change this situation? Id God ever going to bring about justice? Doe He even care about what I am going through?” Do not give up! Keep doing the right thing. God is building character in you, and you are passing the test with flying colours. The Scripture says, “Do not get tired of doing what is right, for in due season you shall reap if you do not faint,” reports Galatians 6.9. Do not grow weary; trust God to bring justice in His timing, not yours. It is easy to respect those in positions of authority as long as they are being kind to us or when we agree with them. However, the true test comes when you get someone in your life who is abusive, when someone treats you unfairly for no apparent reason. If you will keep the right attitude, God will promote you at the proper time. #RandolphHarris 11 of 20

The Most High Worthy Sacrament means many things to me. The salvation of my soul and body. The medicine for what ails my spirit. The pool in which my vices are healed. The reins by which my passions are whoaed. The brawn with which my temptations are brawled. The broom that sweeps my nightmares away. The Sacrament makes several things happen. More grace is infused. Virtue begun becomes Virtue increased. Faith is thewed. Hope is sinewed. Love is torched and spread like the summer sunshine. “If an person is overtaken in misconduct or sin of any sort, you who are spiritual [who are responsive to and controlled by the Spirit] should set one right and restore and reinstate one, without any sense of superiority and with all gentleness, keeping an attentive eye on oneself, lest one should be tempted also. Bear (endure, carry) one another’s burdens and troublesome moral faults, and in this way fulfill and observe perfectly the law of Christ (the Messiah) and complete what is lacking [in your obedience to it]. For if any person thinks oneself to be somebody [too important to condescend to shoulder another’s load] when one is nobody [of superiority except in one’s own estimation], one deceives and deludes and cheats oneself. However, let every person carefully scrutinize and examine and test one’s own conduct and one’s own work. One can then have the personal satisfaction and joy of doing something commendable [in itself alone] without [reasoning to] boastful comparisons with one’s neighbour. For every person will have to bear (be equal to understanding and calmly receive) one’s own [little] load [of oppressive faults]. Let one who receives instruction in the Word [of God] share all good things with one’s teacher [contributing to one’s support]. Do not be deceived and deluded and mislead; God will not allow Himself to be sneered at (scorned, disdained, or mocked by mere pretensions or professions, or by His precepts being set aside). [One inevitably deludes oneself who attempts to delude God]. For whatever a human sows and that only is what one will reap. #RandolphHarris 12 of 20
“For one who sows to one’s own flesh (lower nature, sensuality) will from the flesh reap decay and ruin and destruction, but one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. And let us not lose hear and frow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the appointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosen and relax our courage and faint. So then, as occasion and opportunity open up to us, let us do good [morally] to all people [not only being useful or profitable to them, but also doing what is for their spiritual good and advantage]. Be mindful to be a blessing, especially to those of the household of faith [those who belong to God’s family with you, the believers]. See with what large letters I am writing with my own hand. [Mark carefully these closing words of mine.]” reports Galatians 6.1-11. Father, I am trusting You to turn the negative situations in my life for good. I refuse to try to get even, and I will not allow myself to remain discouraged because of how someone else is treating me. With your help, I will return good for evil, and love in the face of oppression, hatred, or indifference. God is far more accepting of our real weaknesses than most of us realize. As the Psalmist said: “As a father has compassion on his children, so has the Lord compassion on all who fear Him. For he knows our frame; he remembers that we are dust,” reports Psalm 103.13-14. It is in owning our weaknesses that we have access to the presence of God. He welcomes those who confess their need. And the greatest need is for communion with God. In the New Testament both James and Peter reiterate the Old Testament theme: “God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble,” reports James 4.6; I Peter 5.5. #RandolphHarris 13 of 20

If we desire to encounter and surrender to God, we must become aware of our helplessness. We must experience the reality that on our own, if apart from God’s plan and resources, we will live a partial and fragmented life. This is why the Holy Bible, from Genesis through Revelation, emphasizes that God meets face to face with those of a humble heart, while resisting people who are rigid and controlling in their arrogance. However, here we must make a distinction between humbling ourselves, on the one hand, and becoming helpless, servile, and self-effacing, on the other. While the Scriptures advocate a certain childlike openness and honesty in relation to God and others, they do not teach us to remain fixated at a childish level of development. This is what the Helpless Christian does not understand. So one gets stuck at the infantile stage of psychological and spiritual development. However, in order to restore the rhythm of growth, the manipulative tactics of withdrawing and avoiding need to be transformed into the actualizing qualities of feeling vulnerable and empathizing. As pointed our earlier, in the account of Mrs. Winchester, getting in touch with one’s own helplessness, pain, and vulnerability is an excellent way to develop the quality of empathy toward others. This particular quality, expressed at its finest in Jesus, made Him so approachable by the common people and by little children. The actualizing Christian seeks to integrate the childlike qualities of openness to experience, freshness of perception, and excitement in living, with the more adult qualities of awareness of the consequences of one’s behavior and discipline in expressing oneself. Thus the actualizing Christian is free to keep growing and maturing, while at the same time preserving and giving the finest expression to the feelings of vulnerability and childlike spontaneity. This is the dynamic out of which the virtue of humility emerges. One remains humbly reliant upon God concerning every dimension of one’s life; yet one takes the responsibility to face life and live it to the fullest. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20
Every time one feels overwhelmed by life, one’s feeling of vulnerability is an occasion to draw near to God or to a trusted friend for comfort, guidance, and courage. The old Christian hymn by Charlotte Elliot seems to say it well: “Just as I am, without one plea, but that Thy blood was shed for me, and that thou bidst me come to thee, O Lamb of God, I come, I come! Just as I am, though tossed about with many a conflict, many a doubt, fightings and fears within, without, O Lamb of God, I come, I come!” Jared said, “I my relationship with my wife, Genevieve, I have had to learn how to express my weaknesses and fears openly. This has not been easy, because I sometimes have the appearance of being like the Rock of Gibraltar. Recently I had a very difficult week involving many demands on my time and energy. One night it all caught up with me. I lay in bed feeling overwhelmed by all that was happening. As I began to get in touch with my feelings I started trembling. I was feeling frightened, helpless, and alone. Genevieve sensed that I was feeling upset and asked me to share my feelings with her. I crawled into her arms, might like on our first date, and told her my fears as she cuddled me. Her love and tenderness were so reassuring that my feelings of vulnerability began to be transformed into feelings of confidence and courage. I fell asleep in her arms, and experienced a profound peace the rest of the night.” The actualizing Christian must learn to experience directly the hurts of life. There are many little hurts that we may experience from day to day that are real and painful. A sharp word from one’s spouse, a disappointment over a chattered hope, or an unfortunate misunderstanding with a friend might generate inner feelings of hurt. If these feelings are not allowed into awareness, we might become irritable, restless, or depressed later in the day. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20

As we become aware in a particular moment that we feel hurt, we seek to find a way to handle it. We may confront the person who has caused the hurt and honestly share our hurt feelings with the other person. Or we may decide that our skin is too thin and we need to be a little more realistic in letting people’s criticisms or insults bounce off. Or we might share the feelings of hurt with a trusted friend. The experience of hurt and vulnerability can also lead us to the Lord, who Himself experience persecution, misunderstanding, and betrayal. Paul was well acquainted with this process, for he wrote: “For the sake of Christ, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities; for when I am weak, then I am strong,” reports II Corinthians 12.10. In Christ, we find a Friend who empathizes with out deepest hurt and, with His understanding, restores hope to our lives. Out of accepting hurt and experiencing pain, the actualizing Christian emerges from the situation with dignity and strength intact. The deep and lasting Source of one’s dignity is not man, but God. We know that to be dependent on the approval and praise of everyone is to make everyone our judge. If that were the source of our dignity, we would have precious little of it in this life because people tend to make heavy demands upon those who they praise. Feeling loved and affirmed by God, we experience new courage to continue the adventure of living. Jared wrote: “For a long time I blocked off feelings of hurt, but now I realize that hurting and loving are both aspects of experiencing life. If you want to experience love you must also be open to the possibility of experiencing pain. I am also learning how to separate the feelings of everyday ups and downs from the steady love and peace I get from God. A more profound expression of hurt and vulnerability is grief. Grief is experienced when a person experiences a loss that seems to strike the core of one’s being. This is captured well by the word “brokenhearted.” #RandolphHarris 16 of 20

Perhaps an intimate relationship has abruptly ended. Perhaps there has been an accident that has destroyed one’s property or one’s health. Perhaps a dear friend has moved away. Or perhaps someone has gone to Heaven—a parent, spouse, child, or friend. In the solitude of grieving, one needs to find courage to trust one’s God-given emotional and physiological processes that allow for full and honest expression of inner pain—crying, moaning, trembling, or shaking. One of the unfortunate ways that this natural healing process is blocked is by responding to the cultural message that says crying is a sign of weakness. The message implies that one should bear hurt with grim resignation. We believe this to be destructive and false. Grief is the great leveler. Stoicism is only a halfway house. It is a shield, permissible for a short time only. In the end one has to discard shields and remain open and vulnerable. Otherwise, scar tissues will deal off the wound and no growth will follow. To grow, to be reborn, one must remain vulnerable—open to love but also hideously open to the possibility of more suffering. If the natural grieving process is blocked, then there can be no psychological “closure” about the situation. The psychological wound cannot heal. The feelings may eventually be repressed or “forgotten,” but the pressure remains because the body musculature is literally locked into place for weeks, months, or even years. Therefore, the face remains tense, the breathing continues to be shallow and guarded, and the body posture is frozen in a stiff, corpselike manner. How unlike Christ Himself, who, when he felt sorrow and pain, wept openly (John 11.35). If a person is to get back into touch with life, one must give in to the profound feelings of hurt and pain as the flood of emotional energy is discharged. When we can give vent to hurt feelings, we are able to see things in a new way. We can finally accept what has happened, take the losses realistically, and move on. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20
Having had the courage to give up a fanatical hold on how things “should have been,” we now are able to regain touch with events, relationships, and circumstances that are currently emerging in our lives. In this way we gain closure on the situation, and it recedes into the background of our awareness. We are now free to live again, in the present! Thus, we become excited about living because we rediscover the rick possibilities for actualizing here and now. Prayer is based on legal documents—because of what Jesus did, you have a legal right to come in prayer and petition God to intervene in the affairs of life and expect God to perform His part of the covenant. God’s Word is a legal document, more so than any legal document that has ever been set forth by any law of this land. Jesus Christ is the guarantee that it will work. The Christian Bible and Book of Mormon are legal contracts between you, Jesus, and the Father. It is God’s will to you and for you. Some people have not even read the will. They do not know what is theirs. A contract governs at least two people: the one who made it and the one who receives it. If you had a contract, it would tell certain things you would have to do. Then it would state certain things the other party would have to do to make it valid. It is legally binding on both parties. If you do not fulfill your part, it releases the other party from performing one’s part. It would become void. This is what Jesus is stating here. He would not do it because He is His friend. God does not answer prayer because of friendship. He answers prayer because of legal document and the result is governed by the rules of this document. That document is God’s Word. Now I am not trying to get you under Law. Do not misunderstand what I am saying. I want you to see the need of accurately stating your prayer according to the Word that Jesus Christ taught. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20

He said that He would not do it because He was His friend. However, thank God, we have a contract with our Father and we are part of the family, joint-heirs with Jesus Christ. This is just a friend who came to a man for bread. There is no relationship, just friendship, but we are born of God. He is out Father and we are His children. Jesus Christ goes on to say, “If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your Heavenly Father give. At times we have become bogged down in this passage of scripture and have failed to see that this is not portraying God at all. He is simply showing you that prayer is not based on friendship or on need. God answers prayer because He is your Father; you are His son and you have a covenant with Him. He says, “Ask and it shall be given you. For every one that asketh, recieveth.” This runs parallel with what Jesus brought out in John 15.7, “If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will and it shall be done unto you.” He did not say, “Ask what you will, then beg, plead, and keep on asking.” He said, “Ask what ye will and it SHALL BE done.” What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them and ye shall have them. You release faith when you pray. Too many times we have waited to release our faith when we see it is getting better. You know that would not require any faith at all. You would know it then. Sense knowledge would tell you then. That is not faith. Release your faith when you pray. The enemy does not care how much you pray as long as it does not work. However, when we learn that the Word of God was given to us to put us over in life and to cause us to be victorious over the evil one, we will walk in victory here on Earth. “They which receive abundance of grace and of the gift of righteousness shall reign in life by one, Jesus Christ,” reports Romans 5.17. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20
The Amplified Bible says, “Those who receive God’s overflowing grace and the free gift of righteousness reign as kings in life.” The glimpse is a memorable experience, but it is not enough. It shows one a possible future, gives one a new World-view, but one must henceforth bring all that into one’s everyday life and into one’s whole being. This needs time, practice, patience, vigilance, self-training, and more sensitivity. Wisdom does not come overnight. It needs time to ripen. However, Revelation can come in that way. However, its recipient will still need time to adjust to it, and to integrate with it. What one has learned from the glimpse must be applied to life, to action, and to attitude. It is not enough merely to enjoy its memory, as if it made no difference. Blessed be you, harsh matter, barren soil, stubborn rock you who yield only to force, you who cause us to work if we would eat. Blessed by you, perilous matter, violent sea, untamable passion: you who, unless we fetter you, will devour us. Blessed be you, mighty matter, irresistible march of evolution, reality ever new-born; you who, by constantly shattering our mental categories, force us to go ever further and further in our pursuit of the truth. Blessed be you, universal matter, immeasurable time, boundless ether, triple abyss of stars and atoms and generations: you who by overflowing and dissolving our narrow standards or measurements reveal to us the dimensions of God. Blessed be you, impenetrable matter: you who, interposed between our minds and the World of essences, cause us to languish with the desire to pierce through the seamless veil of phenomena. Blessed be you, mortal matter: you who one day will undergo the process of dissolution within us and will thereby takes us forcibly into the very heart of that which exists. You who batter us and then dress our wounds, you who resist and yield to us, you who wreck and build, you who shackle and liberate, the sap of our souls, the hand of God the flesh of Christ: it is you, matter, that I bless. Sounds the great Shofar proclaiming our freedom. Raise the banner to assemble our exiles, and gather us together from the four corners of the Earth. Blessed art Thou, O God, who wilt gather the dispersed of Thy people America. Restore our judges as yore, and our counsellors as aforetime, and thus remove from us grief and suffering. Reign Thou over us, O Lord, Thou alone in lovingkindness and mercy and vindicate us in judgement. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, Thou King, who lovest righteousness and judgment. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20
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