A man’s family can be responsible for his success or his failure. Instead of tearing someone down, you should build them up. If you want something done, go to the busy man or woman, he or she will make time. I like those antique TV shows such as “Father Knows Best,” “The Bachelor Father,” “Dennis the Menace” and “Hazel” because they show you what America and family life should be like, and they take my mind off of problems. Although some victims have a lot to be disappointed about, but so many people are unreasonably hard on America. However, if you do not like America so much and everything is so bad, then flee to those other countries you hold with so much regard. We will not miss you. No one ever stops to think about the hardships America has to face. It is always, “What can America do for me?” or “What can I get out of America?” but you ever stop to think how hard it is to accommodate millions of pilgrims pouring into towns that are already has post terrorism and postwar tribulations? America endures to many challenges because of the miracles it produces, which causes sudden flows of masses of cure-seekers. The variety of complaints that people bring to America and which they hope to be healed are enormous: headaches, asthma, and sciatica; calcification of the spine, various cancers, and neurofibromatosis (which cases tumors to grow on nerves); thyroid, sexual infections, COVID, circulation, intestinal, liver, heart, and middle-ear trouble; brain diseases, sinusitis and arthritis. Some have sustained injuries to their larynxes, dislocated their hips, and endured tremors and various forms of paralysis. Others had cerebral palsy, scoliosis, angina, epilepsy, sleeplessness, tuberculosis, and ulcers. Additionally, native Americans’ have been damages by years of war, followed by shortages of medical care and adequate housing. What is more, occupiers, in many American cities, have been committed to the idea that, for justice’s sake, the American standard of living should remain very limited. This is causing many people to work 16 hours a day or two or three jobs, something American medical officials perceive has contributed to an “alarming decline” of people’s health. #RandolphHarris 1 of 19

The health of women, in American as in other parts of the World, has been especially imperiled after 911 and the wars. The consequences of rape, sometimes on multiple occasions, are several, among them unwanted pregnancy and rampant venereal disease. Women carry these burdens alongside many others. Since so many men are dead or remain in captivity, or come home unable to work, they are the ones who begin the process of clearing away the rubble left behind in their homes and communities. They take care of the children, procure shelter, trade wedding rings and other valuable objects to pay the mortgage and car notes, or for education expenses. Many men and women come home from war with disabilities. In August of 2022, 5 million or 27 percent of all veterans had a service-connected disability. Many of them are amputees, have sustained brain injuries, or have become blind. Many veterans struggle with poverty, unemployment, suicidal thoughts, homelessness, and understanding the new normal in their personal and professional relationships. Once they are done serving their country, their next journey is to overcome the wounds of war, deal with the battles at home, both personal and professional, and still find the courage, strength and wisdom to help restore America that that “shinning city on a hill.” However, it is important to keep in mind that not all veterans are wounded when they come home. Instead, it is important to realize that because of their service in the war, they are ready to meet tremendous challenges, and that they have many skills and talents and the discipline to excel. These veterans can and will have a beneficial impact on their communities and industries. Yet, it is important that we show support also to the ones who need our help. #RandolphHarris 2 of 19

Therefore, do not be so hard on the United States of America, she is going through a lot. Unlike China, some Americans are more interested in getting rich, and that is why they go into politics. They feel that America has already made it so it is okay to use the country to get rich and then sell her out. However, China understands that China is number one priority and if your country fails, you fail as a people. So the goal is not self-preservation, but preservation of the country, and making your family proud. The first mechanism of escape from freedom is the tendency to give up the independence of one’s own individual self and to fuse one’s self with somebody or something outside of oneself in order to acquire the strength which the individual self is lacking. Or, to seek for new, “secondary bonds” as a substitute for the primary bonds which have been lost. The more distinct forms of this mechanism are to be found in the striving for submission and domination, or, in the masochistic and sadistic strivings as they exist in varying degrees in normal and neurotic persons respectively. These tendencies are an escape from an unbearable aloneness. The most frequent forms in which masochistic strivings appear are feelings of inferiority, powerlessness, individual insignificance. The analysis of persons who are obsessed by these feelings show that, while they consciously complain about these feelings and want to get ride of them, unconsciously some power within themselves drives them to feel inferior or insignificant. Their feelings are more than realizations of actual shortcomings and weaknesses (although they are usually rationalized as though they were); these persons show a tendency to belittle themselves, to make themselves weak, and not to master things. #RandolphHarris 3 of 19

Quite regularly these people show a marked dependence on powers outside of themselves, on other people, or institutions, or nature. They tend not to assert themselves, not to do what they want, but to submit to the factual or alleged orders of these outsider forces. Often they are quite incapable of experiencing the feeling “I want” or “I am.” Life, as a whole, is felt by them as something overwhelmingly powerful, which they cannot master or control. In the more extreme cases—and there are many—one finds besides these tendencies to belittle oneself and to submit to outside forces a tendency to hurt oneself and to make oneself suffer. This tendency can assume various forms. We find that there are people who indulge in self-accusation and self-criticism which even their worst enemies would scarcely bring against them. There are others, such as certain compulsive neurotics, who tend to torture themselves with compulsory sites and thoughts. As if it were a gift from the gods, in a certain type of neurotic personality, we find a tendency to become physically ill, and to wait, consciously or unconsciously, for an illness. Often they incur accidents which would not have happened had there not been at work an unconscious tendency to incur them. These tendencies directed against themselves are often revealed in still less overt or dramatic forms. For instance, there are persons who are incapable of answering questions in an examination when the answers are very well known to them at the time of the examination and even afterwards. There are others who say things which antagonize those whom they love or on whom they are dependent, although actually they feel friendly toward them and did not intend to say those things. #RandolphHarris 4 of 19

With such people, it almost seems as if they were following advice given them by an enemy to behave in such a way as to be most detrimental to themselves. The masochistic trends are often felt as plainly pathological or irrational. More frequently they are rationalized. Masochistic dependency is conceived as love or loyalty, inferiority feelings as an adequate expression of actual shortcomings, and one’s suffering as being entirely due to unchangeable circumstances. Besdies these masochistic trends, the very opposite of them, namely, sadistic tendencies, are regularly to be found in the same kind of characters. They vary in strength, are more or less conscious, yet they are never missing. We find three kinds of sadistic tendencies, more or less closely knit together. One is to make other dependent on oneself and to have absolute and unrestricted power over them, so as to make of them nothing but instruments, “clay in the potter’s hand.” Another consists of the impulse not only rule over others in this absolute fashion, but to exploit them, to use them, to steal from them, to disembowel them, and, so to speak, to incorporate anything eatable in them. This desire can refer to material things as well as to immaterial ones, such as the emotional or intellectual qualities a person has to offer. A third kind of sadistic tendency is the wish to make others suffer or to see them suffer. This suffering can be physical, but more often it is mental suffering. Its aim is to hurt actively, to humiliate, embarrass others, or to see them in embarrassing and humiliating situations. #RandolphHarris 5 of 19

Sadistic tendencies for obvious reasons are usually less conscious and more rationalized than the socially more rationalized than the socially more harmless masochistic trends. Often they are entirely covered up by reaction formations of overgoodness or overconcern for others. Some of the most frequent rationalizations are the following: “I rule over you because I know what is best for you, and in your own interest you should follow me without opposition.” Or, “I am so wonderful and unique, that I have a right to expect that other people become dependent on me.” Another rationalization which often covers the exploiting tendencies is: “I have done so much for you, and now I am entitled to take from you what I want.” The most frequent rationalization in two forms: “I have been hurt by others and my eish to hurt them is nothing but retaliation,” or “By striking first I am defending myself or my friends against the danger of being hurt.” There is one factor in the relationship of the sadistic person to the object of his or her sadism which is often neglected and therefore deserves especial emphasis here: his or her dependence on the object of his or her sadism. While the masochistic person’s dependence is obvious, our expectation with regard to the sadistic person is just the reverse: he or she seems so strong and domineering, and the object of his or her sadism so weak and submissive, that it is difficult to think of the strong one as being dependent on the one over whom he or she rules. And yet close analysis shows that this is true. #RandolphHarris 6 of 19

 The sadist needs the person over whom he or she riles, he or she needs one very badly, since his or her own feelings of strength is rooted in the fact that he or she is the master over someone. This dependence may be entirely unconscious. Thus, for example, a man may treat his wife very sadistically and tell her repeatedly that she can leave the house any day and that he would be only too glad if she did. Often she will be so crushed that she will not dare to make an attempt to leave, and therefore they both will continue to believe that what he says is true. However, if she musters up enough courage to declare that she will leave him, something quite unexpected to both of them may happen: he will become desperate, break down, and beg her not to leave him; he will say he cannot live without her, and will declare how much he loves her and so on. Usually, being afraid of asserting herself anyhow, she will be probe to believe him, change her decision and stay. At this point, the play starts again. He resumes his old behaviour, she finds it increasingly difficult to stay with him, explodes again, he breaks down again, she stays, and so on any on many times. There are thousands upon thousands of marriages and other personal relationships in which is cycle is repeated again and again, and the magic circle is never broken through. Did he lie when he said he loved her so much that he could not live without her? As far as love is concerned, it all depends on what one means by love. #RandolphHarris 7 of 19

As far as his assertion goes that he could not live without her, it is—of course not taking it literally—perfectly true. He cannot live without her—or at least without someone else whom he feels to be the helpless instrument in his hands. While in such a case feelings of love appear only when the relationship threatens to be dissolved, in other cases the sadistic person quite manifestly “loves” those over whom he feels power. Whether it is his wife, his child, an assistant, a waiter, or a beggar on the street, there is a feeling of “love” and even gratitude for those objects of his domination. He may think that he wishes to dominate their lives because he loves them so much. He actually “loves” them because he dominates them. He bribes them with material things, with praise, assurances of love, the display of wit and brilliance, or by showing concern. He may give them everything—everything except one thing: the right to be free and independent. This constellation is often to be found particularly in the relationship of parents and children. There, the attitude of domination—and ownership—is often covered by what seems to be the “natural” concern or feeling of protectiveness for a child. The child is put into a golden cage, it can have everything provided it does not want to leave the cage. The result of this is often a profound fear of love on the part of the child when he or she grows up, as “love” to him or her implies being caught and blocked in his or her own quest for freedom. Reason is a faculty which must be practiced in order to develop, and it is indivisible. #RandolphHarris 8 of 19

The faculty for objectivity refers to the knowledge of nature as well as to the knowledge of man or woman, of society, and of oneself. If one lives in illusions about one sector of life, one’s capacity for reason is restricted or damaged, and thus the use of reason is inhibited with regard to all other sectors. Reason in this respect is like love. Just as love is an orientation which refers to all objects and incompatible with the restriction to one object, so is reason a human faculty which must embrace the whole of the World with which man is confronted. The need for frame of orientation exists on two levels; the first and the more fundamental need is to have some frame of orientation, regardless of whether it is true or false. Unless man has such a subjectively satisfactory frame of orientation, he cannot live sanely. On the second level, the need is to be touched with reality by reason, to grasp the World objectively. However, the necessity to develop his reason is not as immediate as that to develop some frame of orientation, since what is at stake for man in the latter case is his happiness and serenity, and not his sanity. If we study the function of rationalization, this becomes clear. However unreasonable or immoral an action may be, man and woman have an insuperable urge to rationalize it, that is, to prove to himself or herself and to others that his or her action is determined by intelligence, common sense, or at least conventional morality. He or she has little difficult in acting irrationally, but it is almost impossible for him or her to give his or her action the appearance of reasonable motivation. #RandolphHarris 9 of 19

If man or woman were only a disembodies intellect, his or her aim would be achieved by a comprehensive thoughts system. However, since he or she is an entity endowed with a body as well as a mind, he or she has to react to the dichotomy of his or her existence not only in thinking but in the total process of living, in his or her feelings and actions. Hence any satisfying system of orientation contains not only intellectual elements but elements of feeling and sensing which are expressed in the relationship to an object of devotion. The answers given to man or woman’s need for a system of orientation and an object of devotion differ widely both in content and in form. There are primitive systems such as animism and totemism in which natural objects or ancestors represent answers to man and woman’s quest for meaning. There are nontheistic systems, such as Buddhism, which are usually called religions although in their original form there is no concept of God. There are purely philosophical systems, such as Stoicism, and there are the monotheistic religious systems that give an answer to man or woman’s quest for meaning in reference to the concept of God. However, whatever their contents, they all respond to man or woman’s need to have not only some thought system but also an object of devotion that gives meaning to his or her existence and to his or her position in the World. Only the analysis of the various forms of religion can show which answers are better and which are worse solutions to man or woman’s quest for meaning and devotion, “better” or “worse” always considered form the standpoint of man or woman’s nature and his or her development. #RandolphHarris 10 of 19

The various needs of man and woman as they result from the conditions of his or her existence, have to be satisfied in some way or other least man or woman should become insane. However, there are several ways in which each of these needs can be satisfied; the difference between these ways is the difference in their appropriateness for the development of man or woman. The need to be related can be satisfied by submission or by domination; but only in love is another human need fulfilled—that of independence and integrity of the self. The need for transcendence can be satisfied either by creativeness or by destructiveness causes suffering for oneself and others. The need for rootedness can be satisfied regressively by fixation in nature and mother, or progressively by full birth in which new solidarity and oneness is achieved. Here again only in the latter cases are individuality and integrity preserved. A frame of orientation may be irrational or rational; yet only the rational one can serve as a basis for the growth and development of the total personality. Eventually, the sense of identity can be based on primary ties with nature and clan, on adjustment to a group, or, on the other hand, on the full, creative development of the person. Again, only in the latter case can man achieve a sense of joy and strength. In a way, this is simply to say that there must be willingness to discuss. There must be some points on which each party must be willing to make concession, accept half-measures, and consider alternatives. If one party takes an intransigent, all-or-nothing attitude, discussion is impossible, because there is nothing to discuss. The only alternatives for the other are capitulation or warfare. #RandolphHarris 11 of 19

Now, this is not to say that each party must be prepared for possible concession on every point. This would be to say that there should be no fixed points of reference, no given identities or directions to guide discussion. All would be chaos and indecision unless some tentative hierarchy of values was established. The existence of some vital interest must be assumed; indeed, more than that, each party must mutually accept and respect the scared previous commitments, the bias, the past history, and the unique outlook of the other parties, if its own are to be equally accepted and respected. If anyone professing an experimental philosophy were to carry it to the extreme of demanding that ever value of every participant be at stake in every discussion, he or she would be doing a severe disservice to his or her own philosophy. The most general problem of a discussion is to compose the vital interest which clash, through negotiating modifications of the less vital. Determined insistence on certain vital interests does not make discussion impossible, as long as their relationship to the vital interests of other parties may be freely talked about. The kind of dogmatism which forbids discussion is that which declares there can be no even tentative distinction among ends, and no part without the whole. The highly comprehensive and closed systems of thought of various religious and political sects are of this character. #RandolphHarris 12 of 19

Policy commitments for limited periods of time, followed by reconsideration of policy, can win mutual compromises which indefinitely long commitments cannot. Another way of saying this is that an experimental attitude makes agreement on action possible, where agreement on principles would be impossible. Especially in a cosmopolitan society, it becomes necessary and desirable to base action upon proximate rather than ultimate arguments. An example of the experimental attitude carried to its ultimate form is furnished in simple play. Here no serious purpose at all must be alleged to justify engaging in the exploration of new possibilities and values. Play lies at the extreme pole from the grim seriousness which demands cosmic justification for the slightest deviation from traditional routine; the experimental attitude, lying somewhere in between, tends only to diminish the intransigence of ultimate commitments without attacking them. The idea that Russian is a conservative and not a revolutionary state, and the idea that the democratic socialist development of the underdeveloped countries need not be fought but should be welcomed by the United States of America—conflict with the assumptions most people make about these questions. They conflict not only intellectually, but also emotionally; they sound like heresies, nonsense, or subversion, accord to the respective attitudes of the readers. The understanding of one’s own society and culture, just as the understanding of oneself, is the task of reason. However, the obstacles reason has to overcome in the understanding of one’s own society are no less than the formidable obstacles that, as Dr. Freud has sown, lack the road to understanding oneself. #RandolphHarris 13 of 19

These obstacles (Dr. Freud called them “resistance”) lie by no means in the realm of intellectual shortcomings or lack of information. They lie in emotional factors which blunt or deform our instruments of thought to such an extent that they can become useless for the purpose of uncovering reality. Most people in any given society are unaware of the existence this deformation. They see distortion only when it is a deviation from the attitude of the majority, but are convinced that majority opinions are sound and “sane.” Yet this is not so. Just as there is a folie a deux, there is insanity of millions, and consensus in error does not transform error into truth. To later generations, years after the outbreak of mass insanity, the insane character of such thinking, even though it was shared by almost everybody may be clear; thus some of the more extreme psychic reactions to the Black Death in the Middle Ages, the witch hunting at the time of the Counter Reformation, the religious hatred in England in the seventeenth century, the hatred against the Huns during the First World War, appear to be pathological manifestations many years later. However, usually there is little awareness of the pathological thinking about politics and foreign affairs, snice it is of vital importance that we have an unspoiled instrument with which to understand. Thus in should be in the life of the believer, granted the essential union of his or her will with the will of God, and the energizing power of the Holy Spirit, by his or her own deliberate choice of harmony with that holy will the believe is actively to use his or her will in ruling oneself in spirit, soul, and body. #RandolphHarris 14 of 19

God dwelling in His spirit cooperates with one through one’s exercised power of choice. For deliverance from the power of conduct disorder and from psychopathological offenders in their workings, it is important to have a clear understanding of God’s purpose in redemption. God created man with dominion over him or herself. This dominion was to be exercised by Adam’s acts of will, even as it was by his Creator. However, man dell, and in his fall he yielded his will to the rule of the ultimate negative who from that time, by the agency of his or her evil spirits, has ruled the World through the enslaved will of fallen humans. Christ, the Second Adam, came, and, taking the place of man, chose obedience to the Father’s will, and never for one moment diverged from His perfect cooperation with that will. In the wilderness He refused to exercise His divine power at the will of the ultimate negative, and even while suffering in Gethsemane His will never wavered in the choice of the Father’s will. As a man He willed the will of God right through, becoming obedient even unto death, thus regaining for regenerated man not only reconciliation with God but liberty from the ultimate negative’s thralldom, and the restoration of man’s renewed and sanctified will to its place of free action, deliberately and intelligently exercised in harmony with the will of God. Jesus as the Christ worked out for man upon Calvary’s cross salvation of spirit, soul and body from the dominion of conduct disorder and the ultimate negative; but that full salvation is worked out in the believer through the central action of the will, as he or she deliberately chooses the will of God for each department of his or her tripartite nature. #RandolphHarris 15 of 19

The will of man united to the will of God—and thus having the energizing power of God working with His volition (That is, one’s power of choice, or one’s willing consent)—is to rule one’s “own spirit”; thoughts or mind inclusive of all the soul-powers; and body. And when, by the appropriation of God’s freeing power from slavery to conduct disorder and psychopathological offenders, the believer regains free action of one’s will so that one gladly and spontaneously wills the will of God, and as a renewed human takes dominion over spirit, soul and body, one regains in life through Jesus as the Christ. However, the natural man or woman does not reach this stage of renewal and liberation of one’s will without first knowing the regeneration of one’s own will without first knowing the regeneration of one’s own human spirit. God is not in fallen man or woman until the moment of his or her new birth. One must be “begotten of God.” They very fact of such a begetting being necessary declares the non-existence of divine life in one previously. It is essential to understand, however, that after this begetting the regenerated man or woman does not, as a rule, immediately become a spiritual man or woman, id est, a man or woman wholly dominated by and walking after the spirit. The multiple dimensions of life are all found in man and woman, but the dimension of spirit is proper to him or her. After airing the etymological and semantic problems connected with the word, it is clear that the spirit is the union of the power of being with meaning, the actualization of power and meaning in unity. Spirit is the power that perceives meaning, and the participation in meaning that imparts power. #RandolphHarris 16 of 19

Within the spiritual dimension the functions of life are operative: self-integration appears as morality, or the constitution of the personal self; self-creativity is seen as culture; and self-transcendence is religion, although, strictly speaking, religion is not a separate function, but a quality of the others. However, even in the dimension of spirit the law of life is inexorable: morality, culture, and religion are subject to ambiguity. The life of every creature is an ambiguous mixture of essential and existential elements, but creation yearns for an unambiguous fulfilment of its essential potentialities. This arises the quest for unambiguous life. Three symbols represent the perfect life: the Spirit of God, the Kingdom of God, and Eternal Life. It is the self-transcendent character of life that makes the quest possible, but under no dimension does it reach that toward which it moves, the unconditional. Therefore, the answer to this quest is the experience or revelation and salvation; they constitute religion above religion, although they become religion when they are received. The hope for unambiguous life pulsates in all the regions of the World, and somehow they receive the answer which sustains them. The quest never ceases. However, if expressed in the terms of a concrete religion, both quest and answer become matters of ambiguity. It is an age-old experience of all religions that the quest for something transcending them is answered in the shaking and transforming experience of revelation and salvation; but that under the conditions of existence even the absolutely great—the divine self-manifestation—becomes not only great but also small, not only divine but demonic. #RandolphHarris 17 of 19

The answers to the quest for unambiguous life is the divine Spirit (capital “S”). It invades the human spirit (small “s”) and dwells there, a phenomenon termed “the Spiritual Presence.” However, this presence is not a static condition. Under the divine impulse, the human spirit is driven beyond itself to the ultimate, the unconditional. It transcends itself by this ex-stasis, the ecstasy be being grasped by the Spirit. In the ecstatic state created by the Spiritual Presence, the essential and existential elements of being are unambiguously untied. More exactly, they are reunited, since the union occurs only after existential estrangement has been overcome. This effect of the Spiritual Presence is called the transcendent union of unambiguous life. According to which facet is considered, it is faith or love, faith as the state of being grasped by the transcendent unity of unambiguous life, love as the state of being taken into that transcendent unity. In faith one is grasped by God; by love one adheres to Him. However, faith and love are one and the same state, participation in the transcendent unity of unambiguous life. The Spiritual Presence, elevating man and woman through faith and love to the transcendent unity of unambiguous life, creates the New Being above the gap between essence and existence and consequently above the ambiguities of life. The Spiritual Presence, however, is manifest, not abstractly, but within historical humankind, not in isolated individuals, but in communities. This brings us to the church as the Spiritual Community. #RandolphHarris 18 of 19

Comfort ye, comfort ye, My people, saith you God. Awake, awake, put on thy strength, O America; put on thy beautiful garments, O America. Break forth into joy, sing together, ye waste places of America. For the Lord hath comforted His people; He hath redeemed America. Hear the word of the Lord, O ye nations, and declare it in the isles afar off: “He that scattered American doth gather him, and keep him, as a shepherd doth his flock.” For the Lord hath ransomed Jacob; He hath redeemed him from the hand of him that is stronger than he. They shall come and sing in the height of America, and shall flow unto the goodness of the Lord, and their soul shall be as a watered garden, and they shall not pine any more; for I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort them, and make them rejoice from their sorrow. Refrain thy voice from weeping, and thine eyes from tears; for thy work shall be rewarded, and they shall come back from the land of the enemy. And there is hope for thy future, and thy children shall return to their own border. Violence shall no more be heard in thy land, desolation nor destruction within thy borders. Thy people shall be all righteous, they shall inherit the land forever. Arie, shine, for thy light is come, and the glory of the Lord is risen upon thee. The Lord will arise and have compassion upon America, for it is time to be gracious to her. I pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic, for which it stands, one Nation, Under God, Indivisible with Liberty and Justice for All. The Lord will make her wilderness like Eden, and her desert like the garden of the Lord. Joy and gladness shall be found therein, Thanksgiving and the voice of melody. I love you, just the way you are and for what you are, America. I do not have to wish, I already have everything I want. Also, be sure to donate to the Sacramento Fire Depart, they are not receiving all of their resources. #RandolphHarris 19 of 19

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