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Temptation to Give in to Jealousy is Especially Strong

As young adult, we might find the temptation to give in to jealousy especially strong. We are all eager (if not anxious) to find the sense of security that comes from becoming self-reliant and reaching certain cultural and spiritual milestones. Watching someone else get what you righteously desire at this phase of life can leave you feeling frustrated and even envious. Experiencing feelings of jealousy is natural in mortality. However, what really matters is what we do with those feelings. Do we let them fester and cause relationship-damaging resentment? Or do we turn to the ultimate concern to find a way to manage our feelings? Everyone’s experiences will be different. Sometimes feelings of jealousy are what leads to people committing burglaries. In some ways, female residential burglars may differ from their male counterparts. However, we need more information. Do female burglars, for example, tend to play “secondary roles” during offenses? We need to consider the typology of female residential burglars. In constructing our typology, we used the categories of accomplice and partner. (Our sample contained no sole perpetrators. By definition, conspirators were not included in research because they did not participate directly in committing the offenses.) We categorized six of the females in our study as accomplices because of their subservience to others—usually men—during their burglaries. (Not only females act as accomplices; a few of the males whom we interviewed also assumed this role. In no case, however, did a male respondent admit to being subservient to a woman during offenses.) #RandolphHarris 1 of 14

We did classify the 12 remaining females as partners because they participated as equals in their burglaries. Although some of these females co-offended with males, they did not take orders from them. Partners could be distinguished from accomplices in a number of important ways, including their motivation for committing the crimes, their participation in target selection and planning, and the work roles they adopted while committing burglaries. The factors that the female burglars regarded as leading them to commit their crimes differentiated the partners clearly from the accomplices. Those whom worked as partners, whether with other women, with men, or both, reported making an independent decision to commit their burglaries. They did not see themselves as drawn into offending against their will by other offenders or by the irresistible pressure of circumstances. The independence of such offenders is illustrated in the following quote: “My partner ain’t got to influence me. I just want to do it. I’m so used to doing it.” Women who carried out burglaries as partners often were motivated by material or instrumental concerns. Their responses reflected an affirmative commitment to burglary. Some, for example, saw the offense simply as an easy way of obtaining money. As one of them said, “[Burglary’s] a damn good way of getting over. It’s like a white-collar crime. Hell, it’s just fast money.” The women who worked as partners displayed considerable diversity in motives. Some reported engaging in burglary because they found it fun or enjoyable. These women derived a psychic reward from such offense. #RandolphHarris 2 of 14

One of these women said she committed burglaries for “the thrill,” adding “I get off on it. I do it for the enjoyment, ‘cause I do truly enjoy it. It’s a hobby; it’s recreation to me.” The women who worked only as accomplices had a far different perspective. These offenders felt that they were caught up in circumstances beyond their control, which compelled them to commit burglaries. Often these circumstances arose in the context of an unequal relationship in which the females were reduced to carrying out the will of other, more dominant people. They dominant parties in such cases typically were males, though occasionally they were females. The women quoted in the following passage expresses the belief that she was trapped by her companions’ activities: “[The burglaries] got worse when we moved and I started hanging with a different crowd. It wasn’t too bad where I first did it. It’s getting worse now, though, ‘cause I’m with older guys and they go for bigger things, and when they go, they got things planned—if somebody walks in before they are done, they would rather hurt them first.” Another entanglement for accomplices involved the lack of employment: “Sometimes I have to wonder myself my I [commit burglaries]. And I always come to the conclusion that my kids need things. I always go and fill out applications and everything like that, but they don’t never seem to call back. Every time I want to go and finish school, something is always in my way.” #RandolphHarris 3 of 14

Drugs also played a prominent role: “I got into this thing with cocaine with my friend, and she don’t work or anything, and it ain’t cheap. So I pretty much go out with the boys to get what we want. It is getting pretty deep.” Alcohol also was contributory factor. One woman explained that she and a male friend were enticed into burglaries by a third offender while they were intoxicated: “[Another offender would] always get us both either drinking alcohol, or [my friend] smoked marijuana a lot. I only smoked it two times in my life and I didn’t like it and I don’t do it, but he would get me drunk and say we need some more money. Then they would go to a house.” Females’ participation in burglary can be examined with reference to their role in finding targets and planning offenses. The extent to which offenders participate in these tasks distinguishes partners clearly from accomplices. A number of the women with partner status played an important role in finding targets and planning offenses, as illustrated by the following quote: “Last time I took hm. It was a real good, decent neighborhood, you know, like in the country. I mean, we just sit up and…spot them up, and I find what I find and get what he get and we just go. It’s like a sharing thing with us. He come to me and ask me what’s up. I tell him nothing, but I know where we can get some money. We just come to each other. ‘I ain’t doing nothing, what’s happening?’ ‘Well, I ain’t got no money either, but I know where we can get some.’ #RandolphHarris 4 of 14

“He asked me if I been watching a house. ‘Yeah, I’ve been watching a house. There’s some old people and they go to church every Sunday. Every Sunday they go. They be gone from like about four to five hours. They go to church in the morning, Sunday school then, you know, all of that. I had watched that one. They be old people. They be having good stuff.’” Planning was crucial for many of the females who worked as partners in committing burglaries: “That’s one reason why we got so many youngsters in jail today. I see this, so let’s make a hit. No, no, no. If they see this and it looks good, then it’s going to be there for a while. So the point is, you have to case it and make sure you know everything. I want to know what time you go to work, the time the children go to school. I know there’s no one coming home for lunch. So plan it with somebody else. We’ll take the new dishwasher, washing machine, and this other stuff. We just put it in the truck. Do you know when people rent a truck, nobody every pays that any attention? They think you’re moving [but] only if you rent a truck. Now if you bring it out of there and put it in the car, that’s a horse of another color.” A few of the females classified as partners occasionally engaged in more spontaneous burglaries. The women who worked in this way, however, did not do so exclusively. These “spur-of-the-moment” burglaries emerged in the course of their day-to-day activities. #RandolphHarris 5 of 14

Women involved in burglaries as accomplices exercised much less control over the selection of targets and the planning of crimes. (In fact, some were unaware that a burglary was going to take place until they arrived at the site.) Other people invariably set up the burglaries: “He’ll call e, you know. And he’ll say, ‘I don’t think we’re going out today.’ I’ll say ‘OK.’ It’s nothing really specific why he do it that way. He just stop for a little while and start back…[H]e’ll pick them out. You can tell if it’s a nice neighborhood or bad neighborhood. What areas we go in, he picks them out. However, the self-actualized individual should investigate and decide all things. The self-actualized is to use one’s renewed judgment. The ultimate concern respects the intelligence of those who follow the righteous path, and knows that such a person judges and examines one’s own workings by one’s cognitive functions. One does not need to be spoon fed by a higher power as to the path to take, while it is good to study ethics, morals, laws, and virtues, a self-actualized being should reject all things that are deviant, and until such a time one knows who to discern with clearness what are the things that are proper. And not only is the self-actualized to discern or judge the things of ultimate concern—id est, all things in the higher realms of the pyramid—but one is also to judge oneself. For if we discriminated ourselves—the Greek word means to make a thorough investigation—we would not need the dealing of a higher power to bring to light the things in ourselves which we have failed to discern by discrimination. #RandolphHarris 6 of 14

Do not be led by false information and misunderstandings. However, in your mind know how to see the truth without fiction. Make sure you are mature and reasonable in all dealings. And when you make a statement, be sure to bring proof, and prove all things. Self-actualized beings are abound in knowledge and all discernment, so as to distinguish the things that differ, that one may be sincere and void of offence unto all minds have been enlightened. But we want to delude ourselves that love is the root. It is not. It is only the branches. The root is beyond love, an unveiled kind of isolation, an isolated me, that does not meet and minge, and never can…it is true what I say; there is a beyond, in you, in me, which is further than love, beyond scope, as stars are beyond the scope of vision, some of them. The way back is within you. Within the darkness inside of each individual, there must be a light that will shine forth in one’s solitude. What it requires is an unveiled kind of loneliness. It is understood that one’s life may not move forward through the caring or help of others. It is even possible to be completely at home with oneself in one’s detachment from significant communication and relationships. The passions within may had died, the joys of living may diminish, yet in solitude, one may be convinced that something vital will emerge and awaken one’s soul. At many crucial times, it is not therapy or love and understanding that move a person forward but rather what happens between meetings when the person is utterly alone. #RandolphHarris 7 of 14

It is in this state of unveiled isolation and loneliness that the potential for growth and change exist, that the desire to live and to be joyous again are reborn. We have emphasized the value of relationship and communication with others as essential in learning and in living, and how little we have encouraged and assisted the individual to know the significance of solitude, how little we have recognized the significance of communion with one’s self in all real living and personal growth. What we do not see is often what matters; invisible sources of life contain the seeds for new growth, and a profound experience of inner silence is required to start the new life. One may only be able to discover this on one’s own. What matters is not what others do for us but what we do for ourselves in the internal sense when we are alone with the powers of life that surround us—the stars, clouds, water, Earth, and air, and senses, feelings, and awareness that emerge from the unknow. In days of isolation, one may realize that out of conflict, tension, and despair a new truth arises that enables a person to return to life with others. In a time of personal crisis, it is important that the individual not seek an answer from outside. Neither friendship nor therapy can provide the awareness, direction, or shift that is required when a pattern of living is ending, when life has lost its vitality and meaning, when the person is no longer responding in depth, in a full way. In such times it is essential that the person look within, detached and isolated, that he or she be opened to the unknown sources of energy in life and in the Universe. The alternating rhythms of work and solitude are in one’s salvation. #RandolphHarris 8 of 14

Each day, one should honor the simple, ordinary routines that help one to move with real energy. Nothing seems to matter, yet everything one does as one waits to be reborn. Remember to keep faith with internal rhythms, with the integrity of one’s self. The new life will come in a resounding way, not while one is alone but in a heavy stream of involvement with others. Sacredness is an experienced phenomenon. The mysteriousness of the ultimate concern veils itself even when it reveals itself. The individual feels one’s annihilation is near; so does the soul which echo’s this feeling. A twofold meaning s expressed in the soul’s cry: majesty and purity. The terrifying and annihilating encounter with the majesty of the ultimate concern shakes the foundations, masking, yet revealing itself. The purity of the ultimate concern implies the moral perfection, the goodness, truth, and justice of itself which compels the individual to confess with one’s whole being that he or she is unclean. This concrete example indicates the two elements which constitute the notion of the sacred: The experience of the sacredness as being, and the experience of the sacred as what it ought to be. The sacred has a double relation to man, a relation of giving presence and commanding transcendence. Furthermore, man experiences the sacred as a gift and as a demand. This leads to the sacredness of the “is” and the sacredness of the “ought.” There are going to be times in our lives when someone else gets an unexpected blessing or receives some special recognition. May I pled with us not to be hurt—and certainly not to feel envious—when good fortune comes to another person? #RandolphHarris 9 of 14

The King Lear Problem: “Tell me, my daughters, since now we will divest us both of rule, interest of territory, cares of state, which of you shall we say doth love us most? That we our largest bounty may extend where nature doth with merit challenge.” Shakespeare, King Lear. King Lear was worried about how his children would treat him in his old age. Much to his regret, he discovered that children do not always deliver what they promise. In addition to love and respect, children are also motivated by the possibility of an inheritance. Here we look at how a strategic use of inheritance can manipulate children to visit their parents. Imagine that parents want their children each week to each visit once and phone twice. To give their children the right incentives, they threaten to disinherit any child who fails to meet this quota. The estate will be evenly divided among all the children who meet this quota. (In addition to motivating visits, this scheme has the advantage of avoiding the incentives for children to suffocate their parents with attention.) The children recognize that their parents are unwilling to disinherit all of them. As a result, they get together and agree to cut back the number of visits, potentially down to zero. The parents call you in and ask for some help in revising their will. Where there is a will, there is a way to make it work. But how? You ae not allowed to disinherit all of the children. As before, any child who fails to meet the quota is disinherited. The problem is what to do is all of them are below the quota. In that case, give all of the estate to the child who visits the most. This will make the childrens’ reduced visiting cartel impossible to maintain. We have put the children into a multiperson dilemma. The smallest amount of cheating brings a massive reward. A child who makes just one more phone call increases his or her inheritance from an equal share to 100 percent. The only escape is to go along with the parents’ wishes. (Obviously, this strategy fails with only children. There is no good solution for couples with an only child. Sorry.) #RandolphHarris 10 of 14

The dramatic death of state socialism in Eastern Europe and its bloody anguish from Bucharest to Baku to Beijing did not happen by accident. Socialism collided with the future. Socialist regimes did not collapse because of CIA plots, capitalist encirclement, or economic strangulation from outside. Eastern Europe communist governments toppled domino-fashion as soon as Moscow sent the message that it would no longer use troops to protect them from their own people. However, the crisis of socialism, as a system, in the Soviet Union, China, and elsewhere was far more deeply based. Just as Gutenberg’s invention of moveable type in the mid-15th century led to the diffusion of knowledge and loosened the Catholic Church’s grip on knowledge and communication in Western Europe—ultimately igniting the Protestant Reformation—so the appearance of the computer and new communications media in the mid-20th century smashed Moscow’s control of the mind in the countries it ruled or held captive. As recently as 1956, Soviet leader Nikita Khrushchev could dream of “burying the West.” Ironically, this was the very year when blue-collar workers in the United States of America were first outnumbered by knowledge and service workers—a shift that signaled the coming decline of the smokestack and the rise of the super-symbolic economy. Equally ironic is the fact that mind-workers were typically dismissed as “nonproductive” by Marxist economists (and many classical economists as well). Yet it is these supposedly nonproductive workers who, more perhaps than any other, have given Western economics a tremendous shot of adrenaline since the mid-fifties. #RandolphHarris 11 of 14

Today, even with all their supposed “contradictions” unresolved, the high-tech capitalist nations have swept so far ahead of the rest of the World in economic terms as to render Khrushchev’s boast merely pathetic. It was computer-based capitalism, not smokestack socialism, that make what Marxists call a “qualitative leap” forward. With the real revolution spreading in the high-tech nations, the socialist nations had become, in effect, a deeply reactionary bloc led by elderly men imbued with a 19th-century theology. Mikhail Gorbachev was the first Soviet leader to recognize this historic fact. In a 1989 speech, some thirty years after the new system of wealth creation began to appear in the United States of America, Mr. Gorbachev declared, “We were nearly one of the last to realize that in the age of information science the most expensive asset is knowledge.” He rose to power not just as a remarkable individual, but as representative of a new class of better educated, largely white-collar Soviet citizens—precisely the group despised by earlier leaders. And precisely the group most closely connected with symbolic processing and production. Mr. Marx himself had given the classic definition of a revolutionary moment. It came, he said, when the “social relations of production” (meaning the nature of ownership and control) prevent further development of the “means of production” (roughly speaking, the technology). That formula perfectly described the socialist World crisis. Just as feudal “social relations” make it all but impossible for socialist countries to take advantage of the new wealth-creation system based on computers, communication, and above all, on open information. In fact, the central failure of the great state socialist experiment of the 20th century lay in its obsolete ideas about knowledge. #RandolphHarris 12 of 14

China is on its way to becoming a World Superpower. America can still sharpen its competitive edge without becoming an appendage to China. It could help them to enhance the lead in the lead in the fastest growing sector of the global economy having the greatest potential for the expansion of demand in the future. For America and Europe and, maybe, also Japan, time is ripe to use their edge in full to conquer the Chinese services market, still largely underdeveloped. In this regard, a combination of three factors is working in favor of Western service providers. First, in today’s China, the level of development and penetration of most services is low. Second, Chinese consumers’ awareness about various kinds of services and their importance is growing. Third, contrary to manufacturing, Chinese domestic service companies are growing significantly. Let us pick up the insurance industry as just one of the examples. Life insurance penetration (total insurance premium income as percent of GDP) in China in 2022 stands at a 13 percent against the 7 percent global average. America has a life insurance penetration rate of 11.7 percent. However, China’s general insurance penetration rate is at 1.3 percent, which is below developed markets’ average of 4 percent. This may be due to culture. Some people in China see insurance as a curse. It is like casting demons on a person. Americans penetration in the non-life insurance stood at 1.00 percent in 2022. #RandolphHarris 13 of 14

As domestic public and private institutions do not provide a sufficient level of protection against accident, disease, disability and death, as well as against the risks associated with unemployment and retirement, families in Chia are boosting their low-yield bank deposits to have money at hand for the “rainy day.” Around 72 percent of all personal financial assets are held in cash deposits. On the other hand, as time foes by and consumers’ education progresses, more and more people come to understand the advantage of being insured, especially the fact that long-term insurance products can help them address the risks mentioned in a much more efficient way, freeing significant funds for consumption activities. The Chinese government is gradually pursuing deregulation and improving the regulatory framework. Steps are made to promote insurance services in the vast country side. The industry’s growth rates are remarkably high even by Chinese standards. For instance, between 2009 and 2022, the life insurance industry grew by 200 percent. The total assets of Chinese insurers amounted to USD $3.91 trillion at the end of December, up 11.5 percent from the beginning of 2021. That is 56 percent of the Americas total assets of insurers, which amounts to $7 trillion. Chinese insurers are quickly catching up. As a result, for service exporters, man believe the Western government should press Beijing harder to open up its services market. This way, the West will not be just exporting jobs to China, they will be in China making Chinese money. #RandolphHarris 14 of 14