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Our First Loves Leave their Mark Upon Us

The result of one of the greatest tragedies of human existence, what we might call the need to “fetishize evil,” to locate the threat to life in some special places where it can be placated and control exists precisely because men make fantasies about evil, see it in the wrong places, and destroy themselves and others by uselessly thrashing about. To idols foul. Tammuz came next behind, whose annual wound in Lebanon allured the Syrian damsels to lament his fate in amorous ditties all a summer’s day, while smooth Adonis from his native work ran purple to the sea, supposed with blood of Thammuz yearly wounded: like love-tale infected Sion’s daughters with like heat, whose wanton passions in the sacred porch Ezekiel saw, when by the vision led his eye surveyed the dark idolatries of alienated Judah. Next came one who mourned in earnest, when the captive ark maimed his brute image, head and hands lopped off in his own temple, on the grunsel edge, where he fell flat, and shamed his worshipers: Dagon his name, sea monster, upward man and downward fish: yet had his temple high eared in Azotus, dreaded through the coast of Palestine, in Gath and Ascalon and Accaron and Gaza’s frontier bounds. Him followed Rimmon, whose delight seat was fair Damascus, on the fertile banks of Abbana and Pharphar, lucid streams. He also against the house of God was bold: a leper once he lost and gained a king, Ahaz his sottish to disparage and displace for one of Syrian mode, whereon to burn his odious offerings, and adore the gods whom he had vanquished. #RandolphHarris 1 of 18

 After these appeared a crew who under names of old renown, Osiris, Isis, Orus, and their train with monstrous shapes and sorceries abused fanatic Egypt and her priests, to seek their wandering gods disguised in brutish forms rather than human. Nor did Israel scape the infection when their borrowed gold composed the calf in Oreb: and the rebel king doubled that sin in Bethel and in Dan, likening his Maker to the grazed ox, God, who in one night when he passed from Egypt marching, equaled with one stroke both her first-born and all her bleating gods. (When the Giants invaded Olympus some of the gods fled in terror to Egypt, wandering there disguised as various animals. Osiris, in the image of a bull, his wife, Isis, represented as a cow, were (among other things) fertility gods. Orus was their son. By killing in one night the firstborn of all the Egyptian people and all of their cattle (bleating gods), God forced the Pharaoh to free the captive Israelites; but first he told the Israelites to “borrow” gold and silver jewelry from their “well-disposed” Egyptian neighbours.) Belial came last, than who a Spirit more lewd fell not from Heaven, or more gross to love vice for itself: to him no temple stood or altar smoked; yet who more oft than he in temples and at altars, when the priest turns atheist, as did Eli’s sons, who filled with lust and violence the house of God. In courts and palaces he also regains and in luxurious cities, where the noise of riot ascends above their loftiest towers, and injury and outrage when night darkens the streets, then wander forth the sons of Belial, flown with insolence and wine. A consequence of man’s animal vulnerability to death and his symbolic consciousness of it is the struggle to get power to fortify himself. #RandolphHarris 2 of 18

Our first loves leave their mark upon us. When the communion of a face engagement has been established between two or more individuals, the resulting state of ratified mutual participation can last for varying periods. When a clearly defined task is involved, the engagement may last of hours. When no apparent work or recreational task is involved, and what is perceived as sociability alone holds the participants, certain durations seem to be favoured. The contact may be very brief, as brief, in fact, as the opening meeting of eyes itself. In our own middle-class society there are “chats,” where two individuals pause in their separate lines of action for what both recognize to be a necessarily brief period of time; there are greetings, whereby communion is established and maintained long enough for the participants to exchange brief interpersonal rituals; and, briefest of all, there are recognitional or “friendly” glances. (Of course, a recognitional glance may be merely the first interchange in an extended greeting, and a greeting merely the opening phase of a chat, but these extensions of coparticipation are not always found.) Except for the ritual of civil inattention, the mere exchange of friendly glances is perhaps the most frequent of our interpersonal rituals. Encounters of an obligatory kind are linked to the World of domestic convivial occasions. In some social circles, a guest entering a party has a right to be greeted by the host or hostess and convoyed into the proceedings in visible contact with the authorizing person, this encounter thereby legitimating and celebrating the newcomer’s participation in the occasion. #RandolphHarris 3 of 18

One’s departure may be marked with the same kind of ceremony, officially bring one’s participation to an end. Here there is an interesting difference between Anglo-American and French custom; in France, the entering or departing person ratifies one’s entrance or departure not only through contact with the person managing the occasion but often also by a hand-shaking engagement with some or all of the other guests present. The occasion then closed in and over the place one has left, and if one should have to return for something one has forgotten, embarrassment is likely to be felt, especially if the ethos of the occasion has changed, and especially if marked ceremonial attention had been given one’s leave-taking. The same sort of embarrassment occurs when a member of an organization, who has been given a farewell party and gift to mark a termination of one’s membership and to set the stage for the group’s developing a new relation to a substitute, then finds that one must remain with or return to the organization. One finds that the group has “worked through” one’s membership, leaving one present but socially not there. Encounters, of course, tend to be taken as an expression of the state of a social relationship. And, as will be considered later, to the degree that contact is practical, it may have to be made so as not to deny the relationship. Face engagements, of course, are not the only kinds of contact carrying ceremonial functions. Gifts, greeting cards, and salutatory telegrams and telephone calls or email serve in this way. Each social circle seems to develop norms as to how frequently and extensively these ought to be employed to affirm relationships among geographically separated people, depending on the costs faced by each group in using these several devices. #RandolphHarris 4 of 18

Just as friends at the same social party are obliged to spend t least a few moments chatting together, so a husband out of town on business may be considered “in range” and be obliged to telephone home in the evening. Further, each engagement tends to be initiated with an amount to fuss appropriate to the period of lapsed contact, and terminated with the amount appropriate to the assumed period of separation. There results a kind of tiding over, and a compensation for the diminishing effects of separation. At a party, then, a version of Mrs. Hilton’s ruling is likely to prevail: “In a meeting the same person many times within an hour or so, one does not continue to bow after the second, or at most third meeting. After that one either looks away or merely smiles.” The same smile between the same two persons newly coming within range of each other in a foreign country may constitute a grievous affront to their relationship. A face engagement is a sufficiently clearcut unit that an individual typically must either be entirely within it or entirely outside it. This is nicely borne out by the trouble caused when a person attempts to be half-in and half-out. Nonetheless, there are communication arrangements that seem to lie halfway between mere copresence and full scale coparticipation. When two persons walk silently together down the street or doze next to each other at the beach, they may be treated by others as “being together,” and are likely to have the right to break rather abruptly into spoken or gestured communication, although they can hardly be said to sustain continuously a mutual activity. This sense of being together constitutes a kind of lapsed verbal encounter, functioning more as a means of excluding nonmembers than as a support for sustained focused interaction among the participants. #RandolphHarris 5 of 18

Being “with” someone at a given moment is to be distinguished from the party relationship of having “come with” someone to the occasion, the latter representing a preferential claim as to whom one will leave with, be loyal to, and the like. Persons who can sustain lapsed encounters with one another are in a position to avoid the problem of “safe supplies” during spoken encounters—the need to find a sufficient supply of inoffensive things to talk about during the period when an official state of talk prevails. Thus, in Rancho Cordova, when three or four women were knitting together, one kinnter would say a word, it would be allowed to rest for a minute or two, and then another knitter would provide an additional comment. In the same manner a family sitting around its kitchen fire would look into the flames and intersperse replies to statements with periods of observation of the fire. Rancho Cordova men used for the same purpose the lengthy pauses required for the proper management of their pipes. It has been suggested that an individual divulges things about oneself by one’s mere presence in a situation. In the same way, one gives off information about oneself by virtue of the encounters in which others do not or do not see one. Involvement in focused interaction conveying something to all who are present in the situation at large. In public places in our society, what is conveyed by being in or out of encounters differs appreciably according to gender and the periods of the week. #RandolphHarris 6 of 18

Morning and lunchtime are times when anyone can appear alone almost anywhere without this giving evidence of how the person is faring in the social World; dinner and other evening activities, however, provide unfavourable information about unaccompanied participants, especially damaging in the case of female participation. Weekend nights, and ceremonial occasions such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, and especially New Year’s Eve, are given special weight in this connection, being times when an unengaged individual in a semipublic place may feel very much out of place. In so far as others judge the individual socially by the company one is seen in, for one to be brought into an engagement with another is to be placed in the position of being socially identified as the other is identified. Unlike some other people, I did not volunteer to become football manager in high school so I could make-out with the players and cheerleaders behind the equipment shed after practices. I volunteered to carry water bottles and towels during the hot, exciting practices because my guidance counselor said I needed an extracurricular activity if I wanted to be accepted into a good college. Football practice was the only activity I could drive the BMW to in the afternoons. One day, I was gathering water bottles by the side of the field during practice when Mickey Lim, one of the senior varsity players, trotted past me with a friend. “Is he a rapper?” he asked. I knew without looking up he was talking about me. “Dude, no.” his friend said. “I think his dad is president of a bank.” “Same thing,” Mickey said. #RandolphHarris 7 of 18

However the history of the individual and that of the human race may diverge in other respects, they agree in this at least: both signify a progressive increase of the It-World. “Do you know why a child should remember its grown-up mind and not its previous child’s mind?” We have so little material by which to judge. I speak only of the way in which it can be studied. Suppose we were to try to remember what our minds were like at a very early age, trying not to let imagination come it. Supposed we were to find they were of one sort of another. Anything we found would be material. In literature you find very little because people do not understand how to study recurrence, but, within my own experience, I have met with very interesting things. Some people I knew had recollections of the first years of their lives, and they all had the same impression which was that their mentality was not a child’s mentality. How they took people, how they recognized people; it was not a child’s psychology. They had fully formed minds with quite grown-up reactions such as you cannot imagine could have been formed in six months of unconscious life. Such minds must have existed before if their recollections were really correct. However, as I say, it is very difficult to find material, and most people do not remember at all. “Why should that early memory disappear when the child learns to talk?” The child begins to imitate other children and do exactly what grown-up people expect from him. They expect him to impressionable and unaware and he becomes impressionable and unaware. #RandolphHarris 8 of 18

“How is it possible to know what a baby remembers? I thought that one was born with one’s centers completely blank, and that one remembered with centers.” This is a strange thing. Yet the people I spoke of—who do not differ much from other people—have quite definite recollections of their first months even, and they think that they saw people as grown-up people do—not as children would. They do not try to reconstruct elaborate pictures from scattered and fragmentary recollections; they have quite definite impressions of houses, people, and so on. They seem to have had a quite grown-up mentality. “I can remember things when I was two years old which did not happen at all. How can one verify what a baby remembered before it could speak?” How do you know that they did not happen? It could have been a dream. I had an experience of that kind. I remember that when I was quite a child I was in some place near Moscow and the picture of the place remained in my memory. Actually, I was not there until about for years after that. Then, when I went there, I saw that the place was not the same as it had been in my memory, and I realized that my memory had been a dream. About the question of former lives: I think some people can remember something, although only in very rare cases, since to remember implies already a certain definite degree of development. Ordinary man—no.1, no. 2, and no. 3—has no apparatus for such memory. Essence is mechanical. It does not life by itself; it has no special thinking apparatus, but has to think through personality, and personality has no experience. #RandolphHarris 9 of 18

“When you said, “Observe children,” what did you mean? That is what is so difficult. If you observe tendencies on a big scale you can find quite unexpected tendencies. You cannot say that they are the result of a certain reason or of surroundings, because quite unexpected tendences can appear and disappear. They will continue throughout life after rewards. In such a case, according to the theory of recurrence, the tendency may have been acquired in a very previous life in much later years, and then it appears very early in this life. “From that point of view of recurrence then, may it not be that some important actions that we make between now and the time that we die are really responsible for our tendencies now?” You mean in previous lives. Quite possibly. Only, remembering one thing, this work did not exist before. It may be that other work did, (there are many kinds,) but not this. It did not exist before, I am perfectly sure of that. “What I mean is that it seems such a huge idea to think that between now and the time when we die, we may make fatal actions which will give us tendencies for the next time.” Certainly, in every moment of our lives we may create tendencies that we may not be able to get rid of for ten lives. That is why this point is always emphasized in Indian literature. It may be in fairy-tale form but the principle is the same. Relation is reciprocity. My You acts on as I act on it. Our students teach us, our works form us. The “wicked” become a revelation when they are touched by the sacred basic word. How are we educated by children, by animals! Inscrutably involved, we live in the currents of universal reciprocity. #RandolphHarris 10 of 18

Most people trying to win others to their way of thinking do too much talking to themselves. Let the other people talk themselves out. They know more about their business and problems than you do. So ask them questions. Let them tell you a few things. If you disagree with them, you may be tempted to interrupt. However, do not. It is dangerous. They will not pay attention to you while they still have a lot of ideas of their own crying for expression. So listen patiently and with an open mind. Be sincere about it. Encourage them to express their ideas fully. Does this policy pay in business? One of the largest furniture manufacturers in the United States of America was negotiating to supply furniture for model homes. One of the representatives was not feeling well. When it came his turn to explain why they have the best deals on high quality furniture, he could not speak. When he met with the purchasing agent, the direct of sales, and the president of the company, he still could not speak. He then told everyone that he had lost his voice and could not speak. So the president of our company did the talking for him as to why he wanted this brand of furniture in the model homes. He exhibited the representative’s samples, and praised their good points. A lively discussion arose about the merits of his goods. And the president, since he was talking for the representative of the furniture company thoroughly explain what he liked about the product. The representative of the furniture company smiled and nodded. As a result of this unique conference, he was awarded the contract with an aggregate value of $2,000,000—the biggest order the sales representative has ever received. #RandolphHarris 11 of 18

Therefore, you can see how important it is to be kind, and honest, and sometimes to let other people speak for you, even when they have hired you to provide them with goods and/or services. The president later said that he decided to go with this manufacture because they were an American company that started about twenty-eight years ago, with nothing but a desk in a small office and a secretary, and that he was honoured to work with such a great company. Although everyone is not looking to hear a story of pity, nor do they want to, people often to research. So sometimes showing up, and trying to do your part can really help you achieve success. However, almost every successful person likes to reminisce about one’s early struggles. This may not come up during a sales pitch, but during a casual lunch or a phone call. The sales representative at this company has started with $1,000 in cash and an original idea. He fought against discouragement and battled against ridicule, working seven days a week, holidays, twelve to sixteen hours a day; and he had finally won against all odds. Even executives on Wall Street were coming to him for furniture for their offices. He was proud of such a record. He had a right to be, and he spent time telling the builder and architect about it. And the president of the company said, “I think this is the person we are looking for.” The president of the company that was developing homes takes time to find out about his employees and manufacturers. He shows an interest in people and their problems, and expresses how important it is to be honest with him as he understand life happens. So sometimes when people want you for a job, they will do the talking for you. It is just as important to listen as it is to speak. When trying to make friends, sometimes it helps to listen to their accomplishment and let them excel you. Let them share their joys with you. #RandolphHarris 12 of 18

We turn now to a mechanism that depends on interactions within the system to stimulate further activation of agents. For instance, people crowding their cars onto highways (traffic jams), or ecologies of species (mass extinction events). What is happening in all these instances is that a small event may or may not trigger other events. An additional grain of sand added at the top of a pile my dislodge another, which may dislodge others. The added particle may dislodge another, which may dis lodge others. The added particle may dislodge few others or none. When sand is piled at its “angle of repose,” it is ripe for avalanches. There is a striking pattern, known as a power law distribution, in which the numbers of events in different sizes categories are related by a constant proportion. This principle can be illustrated by the distribution of the sizes of wars as well as the sizes of avalanches. For example, there are many small wars, a moderate number of medium-sized wars, and a few very large wars. This patten of sizes of wars can be seen as the result of propagation of stress resulting in a power law distribution. Consider these pioneering statistics on the distribution of wars from 1820 to 1945 that caused 300 or more battle deaths: About 1,000 deaths, number of deaths 188; about 10,000 deaths, number of wars 63, about 100,000 deaths, number of wars 24; about 1,000,000 deaths, number of wars 5; about 10,000,000 deaths, number of wars 2. Not that for each tenfold increase in the magnitude of the war, there is roughly threefold decrease in the number of wars. However, the increase by a factor of ten in the magnitude means that the wars in the category kill a total of about three times as many people. #RandolphHarris 13 of 18

There are other important results about these systems. One is that after they build up to their critical state, such as the sand pile’s angle of repose, a long time without a big event does not necessarily mean that something big is due soon. There is such a complicated interdependence among all the sand grains, snowflakes, or species that you cannot know whether small events are relieving or increasing the stress. In the critical state, the sand pie is the functional unit, not the grain of and. If sand particles, or species, or highway drivers keep arriving in the system, they will soon build it back up to its critical state, even if there have been big releases. Now when it comes to establishing credibility cutting off communication succeeds as a credible commitment device because it can make an action truly irreversible. An extreme form of this tactic arises in the terms of a last will and testament. Once the party had died, renegotiation is virtually impossible. (To further highlight this illustration, it took an act of the British parliament to change Cecil Rhodes’s will in order to allow female Rhodes Scholars.) In general, where there is a will, there is a way to make your strategy credible. For example, most universities set a price for endowing a chair. The going rate is about $1.5 million. There prices are not carved in stone (nor covered with ivy). Universities have been known to bend their rules in order to accept the terms and the money of deceased doners who fail to meet the current prices. #RandolphHarris 14 of 18

One need not die trying to make commitments credible. Irreversibility stands watch at every mailbox. Who has not mailed a letter and then wished to retrieve it? And it works the other way. Who has not received a letter he or she wishes one had not? However, you cannot send it back and pretend you have never read it once you have opened the letter. Before the practice became widespread, a successful commitment device was to mail one’s bill payments in unstamped letters with no return address. Mailing a letter with no return address is an irreversible commitment. The post office used to deliver such letters, and the receiver could accept delivery by paying the postage due. A utility or phone company knew that such a letter was likely to contain a check. It would rather pay the postage due than wait another billing cycle before receiving payment (or another unstamped letter with no return address). The solution to the companies’ problem came when the post office changed its policy. Letters without postage are no longer delivered to the addressee; they are returned to the sender if there is a return address and not delivered if there is no return address. Now the company can commit itself not to receive a letter with postage due. However, what if you put the company’s address as both the mailing address and the return address? Now the post office has someone to return the letter to. Remember, you did not hear this idea here first. And if it begins to spread, rest assured that the post office rules will be changed so that letters without a stamp are not even retuned to the sender. #RandolphHarris 15 of 18

There is a serious difficulty with the use of cutting off communication as device to maintain commitment. If you are incommunicado, it may be difficult if not impossible to make sure that the rival has accorded with your wishes. You must first hire others to ensure that the contract is being honoured. For example, wills are carried out by trustees, not the deceased. A parental rule against smoking may be exempt from debate while parents are away, but unenforceable too. Now when considering molecular repairs, cells are made of billions of molecules, each built by molecular machines. These molecules self-assemble to form larger structures, many in dynamic patterns, perpetually disintegrating and reforming. Cell-surgery devices will be able to make molecules of sorts that may be lacking, while destroying molecules that are damaged or present in excess. They will be able not only to remove viral genes, but to repair chemical and radiation-caused damage to the cell’s own genes. Advanced cell-surgery devices would be able to repair cells almost regardless of their initial state of damage. By activating and inactivating a cell’s genes, they will be able to stimulate cell division and guide what types of cells are formed. This will be a great assistance to cell herding and to healing tissues. As surgeons today rely on the spontaneous, self-organizing ability of cells and tissues to join and heal the parts they manipulate, so cell-surgery devices will rely on the spontaneous self-organizing capabilities of molecules to join and “heal” the parts they put together. Healing of surgical wound involves sweeping up dead cells, growing new cells, and a slow and genuinely painful process of tissues reorganization. #RandolphHarris 16 of 18

In contrast, the joining of molecules is almost instantaneous and occurs on a scale far below that of the most sensitive pain receptor. “Healing” will not begin after the repair devices have done their work, as it does in conventional surgery: rather, when they complete their work, the tissue will have been healed. When dealing with Earth politics, during the period of mass democracy, people, parties, and policies were typically categorized as either left-wing or right-wing. Issues were usually “domestic” or “foreign.” They fit into a neat framework. The new system of wealth creation makes these political tags, and the coalitions that went with them, obsolete. Ecological catastrophes are neither right-wing nor left-wing, and some are both domestic and international. Man of our most serious environmental problems—from air pollution to toxic waste—are by-products of the old, industrial methods of creating wealth. By contrast, the new system, with its substitution of knowledge for material resources, its dispersal, rather than concentration of production, its increasing energy efficiency, and its potential for dramatic advances in recycling technologies, holds out the hope of combining ecological sanity with economic advance. It is unlikely, however, that the next decade or two will pass without new Chernobyls, Fukushima Daiichis, Bhopals, and Alaska oil spills, legacies of the smokestack era. These, in turn, will lead to bitter conflicts over new technologies and their possible consequences. Social groups inside each country (and, indeed, whole countries) will demand “ecological indemnification” from one another and fight over the allocation of clean-up costs. #RandolphHarris 17 of 18

Others will demand “ecological blackmail” or “ransom” to abstain from actions that could send fallout, acid rain, weather changes, toxic wastes, or other dangerous products across their neighbours’ borders. Also, with new green energy, if the power grid is overwhelmed or shutdown, people will not be able to charge and drive their electric cars. Will the advance economies wind up making “ecological welfare payments” to the Brazils and Indias of the World to deter them from destroying rain forests, jungles, or other environmental resources? What about natural disasters in a newly networked World economy? An earthquake in Tokyo can now send Wall Street reeling into chaos. Should Wall Street contribute to Tokyo’s earthquake-preparedness programs? As such issues left-wing or right-wing? Domestic or foreign? The attempt to deal politically with such problems will not only fragment old alliances, but breed more zealots—World savers from whom environmental requirements (as they define them) supersede the niceties of democracy. One of the biggest mistakes the government made was breaking up the vertical integration of Standard Oil by calling it a monopoly. This is what lead to people seek immigrants for more affordable wages, and what caused companies to send their firms overseas. If companies were allowed to control their supply chain, they could still affordably manufacture products in America. EXTENDED, the lines of relationships intersect in the eternal You. Every single You is a glimpse of that. Through every single You the basic word addresses the eternal You. If we want America to be one dynasty that defines history, we have to keep America first. It is sad when you earn $5,000 a month gross, but bring home $2,900 in net pay. While you can barely afford to get by, you hard earned dollars are being sent overseas. How are Americans not upset about their tax money being through away and their children’s future being sold? #RandolphHarris 18 of 18

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