Poverty has many roots, but the taproot is ignorance. There is no such thing as failure, only different outcomes. The essence of greatness is the ability to choose personal fulfillment in circumstances where others choose madness. Celibacy has paraded through history under a legion of names. It was Joan of Arc, Elizabeth I of England, Sarah Winchester, Florence Nightingale. It was the ranting disharmony of The Kreutzer Sonata, as Leo Tolstoy pounded out his message of celibacy. It was Leonardo da Vinci, fearful of a second accusation of sexual impropriety, Sir Isaac Newton mourning his lover’s defection, Lewis Carroll looking but not daring to touch a procession of young Alices in Wonderland. On today’s schools grounds and campuses, celibacy also marches under the banners of student pledged to the proposition that True Love Waits. Celibacy announces itself among the graying population of self-proclaimed reborn virgins. It peeps out through the gaunt boniness of anorexic women dedicated to mastering their bodies, and in the chaste handshakes of men who have forsworn the deadly risks of diseases and viruses haunting the World of pleasures of the flesh. Celibacy is a staggering panorama of reality, involving humanity everywhere and always. Celibacy or chastity is abstaining from pleasures of the flesh, intentionally or under duress, temporarily or for indefinite periods. However celibacy is at Christianity’s core, the story of a divine infant miraculously born to a human, virgin mother. Celibacy is also a pervasive theme in attaining a state conducive to communicating with spirits—shamans and vodoun priests and priestesses must practice short-term abstinence during their awareness and sensitivity and conciliates the gods jealous of devotees’ relationships with others, mortal or divine. The more crucial mission is the commitment to at least thirty years of virginity and performance of duties with undivided loyalty, devotion, and attention. #RandolphHarris 1 of 21

The Kingdom of Heaven has not arrived, it is still to come. It is precisely in this that the prophetic dimension of virginity and celibacy for the sake of the Kingdom resides. There has been much discussion in the past about whether virginity is a more perfect state than marriage, and if so in what sense. I believe that it is not ontologically (that is, in itself) a more perfect state, but it is an eschatologically more advanced state, in the sense that it is more like the definitive state towards which we are all journeying. For married people, virginity is a reminder of the primacy of the spirit of God. It reminds them that God has made us for Himself and that therefore our hearts will always be “unsatisfied,” until they rest in Him. It is a reminder, too, that marriage and the family cannot be turned into an idol to which everything and everyone is sacrificed, a kind of absolute in life. From this prophetic character of virginity and celibacy we can understand how ambiguous and wrong is the claim that this state is against nature and prevents humans from being fully themselves, id est, men and women. We have let ourselves be influenced by all the talk raised against it in the name of psychology and psychoanalysis. Doubt weighs heavily on the soul of young people and it can be one of the main reasons why they are reluctant to respond to a vocation. We have not always remembered that this modern science has often been built upon a materialistic and atheistic view of the human person. Therefore, what it says in this field can have a certain weight for someone who does not believe in the existence of God and of a life after death, but for someone who does believe in these things it has no weight at all. #RandolphHarris 2 of 21

The difference between the two positions has been thought to be negligible, whereas it is decisive. In reality, virginity makes sense precisely because eternal life and the risen state exist. It is a reality of the Spirit, and what Paul says about the things of the Spirit apply to it, namely, that “the unspiritual person is unable to accept what comes from the Spirit of God, since for one it is foolishness. One is unable to understand such matters because they can only be evaluated spiritually” reports 1 Corinthians 2.14. For a person of faith to expect the opposite from an unbeliever would be almost as great a folly as the first. We are still living with the old romantic illusion that the highest happiness, the great significance, the only romance in life, consists in our relationships with others and in the sensual satisfactions we derive from them. We forget only one thing: that the soul and the spirit are just as real and strong and demanding as the flesh—they are much more so!—and that is we allow the flesh everything it asks for, this is to the detriment of other joys, other marvellous realms, which will remain closed to us forever. We empty a glass of poor cranberry juice in a sleazy pub or saloon, and forget this virginal sea which others are contemplating under the rising sun. Psychoanalysis itself, once it has overcome the basic prejudice inherited from its founder and opens up to the spiritual and eternal dimension of the person, rediscovers the extraordinary vale of virginity as a sign. “The only way out of human conflict”—these are the words of the one of first and most famous disciples of Dr. Freud—“is full renunciation, to give one’s life as a gift to the heist powers…the true heroic validation of one’s life lies beyond sex, beyond the private religion—all these are makeshifts that pull one down or that hem one in, leaving one torn with ambiguity…And in order to get such centering, man has to look beyond the ‘thou,’ beyond the consolation of others and of the things of this World.” #RandolphHarris 3 of 21

However, we can reach the same conclusion by an even more certain route, that of revelation, and we can see how virginity and celibacy do not deny nature, but only fulfill it at a deeper level. Human thought, in order to find out what human beings are and what is “natural” to them, has always based itself on an analysis of human nature, understanding by nature—according to the etymological meaning of the word—what human beings are and have from birth. The Bible on the other hand (which knows nothing of any concept of nature as applied to humanity) bases itself on the concept of vocation: men and women are not only what they are by nature, but also what they are called to become by using their freedom and in obedience to God’s word. The perfect human being is the risen Jesus, the “second man,” the “last Adam” (1 Corinthians 15.45-47), as the Church Fathers said. The more a person approaches this model of humanity, the more truly and fully one is. If the nature were all there was, there would be no valid motive to oppose natural tendencies and impulses. However, there is also vocation. In a certain sense we could say that the most “natural” state for a person is precisely virginity, because we are not called to live in an eternal relationship as a couple, but to live in an eternal relationship with God. God, and not a human partner, is destined to be our “all” forever (1 Corinthians 15.28). In the Middle East, there are communities where men take vows of chastity, and live together in celibate communities. Celibacy can also be a healing tool for victims of sexual abuse and rape, allowing them time and space to confront the issues that sexuality evokes for them. People also adopt celibacy as a tool of physical survival, just as it was, for example, in Europe’s syphilis-riddled sixteenth sympathy. #RandolphHarris 4 of 21

When pleasures of the flesh suddenly presents itself as a death’s head, celibacy can seem like a guardian angel. Even vampires, whose love is bloodred, are chaste. Over the centuries, the experiments in celibacy have lost none of their fascination. Children are increasingly proud and vocal Power Virgins, card-carrying members of True-Love waits and other pro-chastity youth movements. In fact, interest in celibacy is not confined to the junior generation. Even in middle or old age, men and women are increasingly turning to celibacy as a means of achieving personal autonomy, spirituality, and connections with God, nature, and each other. Some declare themselves reborn virgins, an apparent oxymoron solemnly sanctioned two millennia ago by Christian theologians responding to contemporary pleas that the Church recognize and dignify such a status. Other people praise the richness celibacy has given their relationships, including marriages. Like chaste husbands and wives in the first centuries of Christianity, like St. Francis of Assisi and his beloved companion, St. Clare, these men and women find peace and fulfillment in nonsexual commitment that thrives free of possessiveness or jealousy. At the heart of this movement toward celibacy is the ideal choice without stigma, and each individual’s right to empower and enrich one’s own life. The new celibacy assumes new attitudes and new ways of perceiving and judging, so that alternative lifestyles are gaining mainstream recognition, men and women can cohabit chastely, and married coupledom is no longer heralded as the only acceptable form of life. After experiencing—celebrating is a better word—the sense of liberation that comes along with voluntary celibacy, many are able to reevaluate their lives, and its priorities, including the need for deep emotion connections, and chose a way of life that, to a satisfying degree, incorporates one’s personal principles at its wellspring. #RandolphHarris 5 of 21

The value placed on chastity does not mean one dislikes the opposite gender. Many men and women, driven by individual mission—art, literature, science—opt for celibacy to forestall relationships that would consume the time and energy they long for to direct their work. There is a valued independence and serenity chaste solitude brings, which allows one to welcome one’s freedom from the jealousy and possessiveness that characterizes the most passionate of one’s relationships, and many are immensely and perpetually relieved that someone else’s domestic demands do not dominate one’s daily agenda. In ancient Greece, premarital chastity was such an essential requirement in brides that young women were thrust into marriages just after puberty to eliminate any possibility of sexual lapse. However, among the pantheon of deities, three intense, powerful, and ambitions goddesses maintained lifelong vigilance over their virginity. Hestia personified modesty and domesticity. Athena and Artemis, however, parlayed celibacy into independent lifestyles otherwise permitted only to men. For them, celibacy was a mighty instrument that liberated them from traditional roles. It was, indeed, their only means of escape from the drudgery and subordination to husband, father, or brothers that awaited all other Greek females. Greek mythology also displayed a fascination with virgins, sometimes associated with deities, sometimes only with other mortals. One of the three mythical male virgins was Narcissus, so handsome that both men and women lusted after him. He spurned them all, until one bitter nymph appealed to either Nemesis or Artemis, who doomed Narcissus to gazing at his reflection in the water. As he stared, Narcissus fell deeper and deeper in love with himself, until his passion for himself consumed his body, and he died and became the narcissus flower. #RandolpHarris 6 of 21

These myths are remarkable for their soap opera-like ingenuity. Celibacy, therefore, becomes as empowering as it is difficult. However, in a society that does not value celibacy, it is still a small token of independence, and the kindness and goodness of their commitment makes the sacrifice worthwhile. In the ancient World, some where propelled into long-term of even perpetual celibacy as a mandatory vow. The vestal virgins were perpetual virgins. Fallen Angels, called “sons of God” in Genesis 6, would choose human virginal brides for their physical perfection and high rank. In all cases, virginity was a ritual requirement and implied no notion about ascetic ideals and corrupt flesh. Pegan religions rarely required long-term celibacy, and society frowned on it. Usually, temporary abstinence was sufficient, though rare examples of lifelong celibacy exist. Ironically, virginity could also cause the virgin’s death. In times of great crisis, a devasting flood or plague, for instance, the most dazzling offering was an undefiled maiden, ritually sacrificed to the appropriate god. Perhaps this is why the relationships of fallen angels and humans, which resulted in the a being called Nephilim were considered grotesque. Spiritual creatures are not supposed to mate with human beings. Nonetheless, it was immense prestige and low turnover that made the order of vestal virgins as desirable as it was exclusive. Novices were admitted after a complicated election process held, on average, once every five years. Eligibility was rigid: candidates had to be patrician girls between the ages of six and tend, physically perfect and mentally sound, whose mother and father were both alive. The new vestal virgin instantaneously became a new person.  #RandolphHarris 7 of 21

One was no longer a member of their blood family, even for purposes of inheritance. One was released from one’s father’s control, granted legal independence, and given a substantial dowry. The vestal virgins had to pressure their virginity for at least thirty years. However, when many have completed her three decades—the first spent learning, the second practicing what she had learned, and the third teaching it to neophytes—she could resign as a vestal and resume the civilian life she had been plucked from in childhood. She could even marry, although in reality, after thirty years of privilege and power, few cared to relinquish their splendid lives for marriage. Most of those who did were rumored to be miserable. Before the election, the vestal’s parents had surely impressed on her the gravity of her pledge and the draconian consequences of violating it. However, at the age of six or eight, one could scarcely comprehend what this sacred celibacy actually was. The Romans prized female chastity—virginity in vestals and maidens, fidelity in matrons—with the same intensity they did fire, and they expected virtuous women to due rather than surrender it. The logical extension of this collective obsession was to demand, on pain of death, thirty chaste years from the women charged with the sacred fire. The vestal virgins’’ celibacy was the principal guarantee of their purity and incorruptibility, qualities essential in those charged with such eighty state duties. In fact, most vestals honoured their vows, and their virtue earned them universal respect and many privileges. They could testify in court without taking an oath and were entrusted with sacred relics and valuable documents. #RandolphHarris 8 of 21

 Lictors, the official escorts of magistrates, accompanied the virgins everywhere. Jostling a vestal was a capital offense. Vestals might even pardon any criminal who changed upon them in the street. No wonder so many parents jockeyed to place their little daughters in the order. In adulthood, however, the inevitable sometimes happened. Vestal virgins fell in love, and in imprudent few succumbed to their passion and took lovers. They ran a terrible risk, for those detected were condemned to die. Theirs was a special death, designed to acknowledge their status. Too holy to execute, the unchaste vestal was dressed in a shroud, places in a closed litter, and carried like corpse through funereally silent crowds of mourners. Her destination was a small, underground room at the Camps Sceleratus, near the Colline Gate, where either starvation or asphyxiation would kill her. This death cell contained a bit of bread, water, oil, and milk so the Romans could say they had not starved the errant vestal to death. The victim descended a ladder and was sealed alone into her tomb. Elsewhere, and in a public place, her lover was beaten to death. Vestal virgins faced a far greater danger than sexual impropriety: the risk that reversals in either politics or war would be blamed on their having broken their sacred oath of celibacy. Chief Vestal Cornelia, for one, was certainly the victim of such machinations. And in 216 B.C., Roman leaders did not attribute the disastrous military defeat at Cannae to battlefield errors but to sexual misconduct among the vestal virgins. In consequence, two vestals ended their probably virginal lives in the suffocating blackness of the Campus Sceleratus. Of the ten documented cases of vestal virgins being entombed alive, most were celibate scapegoats. #RandolphHarris 9 of 21

It was not unknow for powerful Romans to instigate trumped-up charges simply to create a vacancy in the Atrium Vestae for their own daughter. With only six spaces available, a convenient execution appealed to the unscrupulous as a way of speeding up openings. And in 215, the Emperor Caracalla destroyed a trio of vestals. First, he seduced one of them. Afterward, he arranged for this victim and two of her colleagues to be buried alive in the Campus Sceleratus. Despite such injustices, happily infrequent, the vestal virgins survived for centuries. Indeed, the order was so powerful, and so feared, that in 394, Christian emperor Theodosius the Great disbanded the six vestas and abolished their holy order. The power and continuity of the vestal virgins symbolize the importance of virginity in Roman society Their treatment as privileged and respected religious figures made their lives so enviable that few retired after their thirty years of service. Their celibate state brought them too many rewards to throw it over for a sexual, civilian life. The vestal virgins, it is fair to say, enjoyed supremely satisfying conditions equaled only by the acllas of the ancient Incan empire. The superior soul is trapped inside the inferior body. To release and thereby save their imprisoned souls, people had to observe taboos, in particular against the debasement of sexual intercourse. To a man eager to know when he should have pleasures of the flesh with a woman, Pythagoras replied, “When you want to lose what strength you have.” Pythagoras also stressed that any sexual activity should not begin before a man’s twentieth birthday, and he praised the stringency of the Greek rules against making love in a temple with a woman who was either someone’s sister, mother, or daughter—in other words, any woman at all. The only pleasures of the flesh he tolerated was for the express purpose of procreating children, and then only between husband and wife. #RandolphHarris 10 of 21

One scholar, David Flusser, interprets certain of the Dead Sea Scrolls, the recently discovered Essene literature, as implying that an Essene man could marry, after age twenty, “when he knew what to do,” and that such marriages were strictly to propagate the race. Perhaps this was true at the beginning, but other scholars claim all the Essenes were strict celibates. Essene asceticism evolved from a maturing theology that painted a World of the Sons of Light, and the Sons of Darkness, the latter doomed to destruction, the former predetermined by God. Increasingly, the Essenes saw people as evil and flesh as the locus of that evil—hence their loathing of sexuality, even of normal bodily functions. However, unlike Plato, they did not understand man as a duality of warring mind and matter. They saw instead two kinds of humans, the corporal and the unredeemed, and elect, namely themselves. As early and new Christians set about organizing themselves, they would draw heavily on Platonic concepts of duality, on Essence experiences, procedures, and canons, and above all, on Essene-style celibacy. Here was the religious, philosophical, and social soil into which fledgling Christianity, unarguably the World’s most extensive and long-lived experiment in celibate living, would be sown and take root. Belief is the insistence in the here and now that this or that is what one values and subscribes to in terms of one’s present limited experience. However, it must be amplified by faith. Faith does not simply defend the truth as one now sees it, but faith is, an unreserved opening of the mind to the truth, whatever it may turn out to be. Faith involves a plunge into the unknown. Belief clings, but faith lets go. #RandolphHarris 11 of 21

This process of letting go of the old and taking hold of the new is a natural part of Christian growth. Just as the trapeze artist must have faith in order to synchronize one’s transition from one bar to the next, so the actualizing Christian must remain willing to depart from old ways in order to arrive at new ones. As the scripture says, “without faith it is impossible to please [God]” reports Hebrews 11.6. However, God is Himself faithful. There is no strength greater than that of God to help us let go of the past, and to escape from its bonds. However, what that past was in fact the strong support that God gave to help us leap forward towards him. Time and again we must plunge beyond our manipulative and character patterns into the stream of energy from the core. This reduces the significance of the defensive structures and opens up the flow of energies from the wellspring of God within our core. The core unifies the polarities and heals the inner wounds of fear, releasing a flow of power that replaces fear of life with faith in life. Thus, faith becomes an important factor in growth. It would be unreasonable to expect anyone to give up one’s Worldly attachments until one sees something more worthwhile. Consequently one’s soul gives one a foretaste, as it were, through these ecstatic moments and brief enlightenments, of its own higher values. That glimpse is one’s initiation into the spiritual life and therefore into the sacrificial life. It is but the first step in a long process wherein one will have to part with one’s lower tendencies, give up one’s ignoble passions, surrender one’s baser inclinations, and renounce egoistic views. Under the emotional thrill of a religious conversion, many people have thought themselves saved and have believed in Christ. Yet how many of them have later fallen away! They thought the conversion was enough to bring about a permanent result, whereas it was only the first step toward such a result in reality. #RandolphHarris 12 of 21

The same situation holds with those who have undergone the emotional thrill of a mystical experience. The illumination they have achieved is not the end of the road for them but the beginning. It gives them a picture of the goal and a glimpse of the course to it. It gives them right direction and an inspirational impetus to move towards it. However, still it is only the first step, not the last one. They should beware of the personal ego’s vanity which would tell them otherwise, or of its deceitfulness, which would tell it to others. The differentiates between glimpses, are called “states,” and permanent advances on the path, are called “stations.” The former are described as being not only temporary but also fragmentary, while the latter are described as bearing results which cannot be lost. There are three main stations along the path. The first is annihilation of the ego; the second is rebirth in the Overself; and the third is fully grown union with the Overself. This final state can never be reached without the Grace of Higher Power and that is complete, lasting, and unchangeable. If illumination does not become permanent, if it does not stay with its host, that is because it does not find a proper place within one for such abiding stay. One’s heart is still too impure, one’s character still too imperfect for the consciousness of the Overself to associate constantly with one. One must finish what one has started. One must go on until the peace, the understanding, the strength, and the benevolence of these rare uplifted moods have become continuous presence within one. We cannot see the Truth and still be what we were before we saw it. That is why Truth comes in glimpses, for we cannot sustain staying away from ourselves too long, that is to say, from out egos. Many “religious” people confuse faith with clinging to certain ideas. #RandolphHarris 13 of 21

Growth as an actualizing Christian, it seems to us, requires death as well as rebirth—death to old ideas and beliefs. The new premium cranberry juice of the Christian’s Spirit-led life must continuously be put into fresh cranberries of new attitudes, perceptions. Faith requires an opening of ourselves to new ideas and experiences, and a willingness to et outworn and partial ideas of truth die. This is growth in the finest sense of the word. This is what is meant by the “courage to doubt”—the courage to entertain differences in the hope that one may learn new and more satisfying ways of viewing truth. Authentic Christian thought is an open thought par excellence. A real orthodoxy creates those conditions rooted in the supernatural which unfold the most spacious and unbound horizons for human knowledge and action. The actualizing Christian must have the courage to embrace insecurity and doubt. This person is the opposite of the fanatic, who attacks with disproportionate violence those who disagree. The actualizing Christian has the “courage to be” in spite of doubts, which are valued because they can help growth. We should try not to be like the neurotic, who builds a narrow castle of certitude defended with the utmost tenacity. Rather we should continue to express and to ask, so that we can receive answers in our areas of doubt—knowing that some answers do not come easily. We have faith that by “asking, seeking, and knocking,” we will eventually have the answers revealed in our life situation. As for any mental health problem, there are multiple, and often interacting, experiences in the family of origin that can give rise to somatoform disorders. Although the etiologies of these problems are not as widely understood as those of anxiety or depression, for example, there is good reason to suspect at least three sets of casual mechanism: a range of adverse childhood experiences, parental modeling, and disrupted attachment. #RandolphHarris 14 of 21

Exposure to adverse childhood experiences may begin with uncaring parents. Patients with somatoform disorders and somatic symptoms often have a history of insufficient parental care. Relationships with parents are often lacking in intimacy and in boundary regulation. Excessive and dysfunctional conflict in the family of origin is also evident among those with somatoform disorders. An interview study conducted in Switzerland showed that respondents with psychogenic pain problems were more likely to indicate that their parents were physically or verbally abusive toward each other, and that they tried to deflect the aggression of one parent away from the other and onto themselves. These subjects also had more concurrent problems with interpersonal relationships than did patients with organically identifiable pain or disease. The findings on deflection of aggression illustrate the systemwide problem hypothesis: As a child the patient was unable or unwilling to confront an aggressive parent, or intervene in the conflict, so one exhibited somatic symptoms that at least temporarily preoccupied the conflictual parents and calmed the family household. Studies of patients with myofascial disorders (muscular aching and tenderness in localized sites, in the absence of organic pathology) identified family-of-origin relationships that were overly involved and overly focused on success and achievement as factors discriminating such patients from medical controls. Findings such as these illustrate why some of the ingredients in the secondary gain hypothesis: When the family places an excessive emphasis on success and achievement, the somatic symptoms relieve the patient from living up to these strict standards, with minimal loss of face. In such a context, the symptoms might be viewed as a form of self-disabling. #RandolphHarris 15 of 21

Reports of childhood physical and sexual abuse are rampant in the literature on somatization. It was found that 55 percent of patients with somatization disorder had a history of childhood sexual abuse, compared to 16 percent of a group with mood disorders. There appears to be a fairly linear association between the degree of childhood sexual abuse and somatization. As noted earlier, childhood abuse is the tip of the iceberg in dysfunctional families. Although people with somatic symptoms often present a history of sexual abuse, they also indicate that their families were less cohesive, expressive, and sociable, and more enmeshed and conflictual. When researchers statistically controlled for these pathogenic family environment variables, the relationship between sexual abuse and psychiatric symptoms became nonsignificant, leading to the conclusion that impairment may be an effect not only of abuse but of the context in which it is embedded. Children may learn that the expression of somatic symptoms brings support and attention from others. People with somatoform disorders are particularly likely to have witnessed a history of parental illness, in addition to their own history of increased illness. These disorders may be learned from parents who teach their children to interpret minor physical ailments as signs of more serious physical illnesses. When children frequently witness their parents expressing physical symptoms, they may pick up on the style and language of these presentations, and incorporate them into descriptions of their own well-being. Should children witness positive responses to parental illness (in the form of caregiving, time off work, et cetera), they are then more likely to enact these somatizing behaviours themselves. #RandolphHarris 16 of 21

To a child who has been otherwise neglected or poorly cared for, parental expression of somatic symptoms, and its attendant response from the social environment, might suggest that ultimate tool for securing much-wanted attention and social support. Aversive childhood experiences such as family conflict, neglect, and abuse interfere with the formation of secure attachments. Throughout adulthood, such people are hypothesized to engage in excessive care-seeking behaviour during times of stress, in an effort to achieve some level of comfort and security. Of course, this may often take the form of somatization, particularly when it has been previously associated with caregiving responses. Unfortunately, these care-seeking behaviours often culminate in ambivalence, frustration, and rejection from both significant others and health care professionals, due to the persistence of the complaints and lack of connection to any obvious medical problems. According to the attachment-based theory, people prone to somatization find themselves in a downward interpersonal spiral of care-seeking behaviour; this is eventually met with interpersonal frustration and rejection, which only serve to pull for more care-seeking behavior. A related interpersonal account of somatization, which is even more explicitly rooted in the psychodynamic tradition, also argues that somatization has its origins in a problematic history. Somatization results from inadequate parenting, and from patients’ inability to effectively manage and express the affective aspects of their relational challenges. Somatization signifies a disrupted relation history and impaired adult object relations. #RandolphHarris 17 of 21

For some people, somatization may be specifically and temporally linked with their inability to fully tolerate either their longings for empathic connection to others, or these disappointments when those desires are not satisfied. In other words, the affective trigger for a psychosomatic eruption may have an intrinsically relational dimension. Somatization functions in several ways to help people cope with their inability to be close with others. In some cases, somatic eruptions are disguised messages of emotion that the patient is unable or unwilling to put into words. Thus somatization allows for the communication of distress without coming right out and stating it plainly to a partner. In cases where the partner might be the source of the distress, somatization may be a way of convey distress without risking harm to the relationship by directly confronting the partner with complaints. Somatization may function to bring some relatedness to other people into the patients’ lives through contact with physicians and health care providers. When a person experiences difficulty in relating to others in one’s life, somatization may serve to bring attention from people and create at least some feeling of being cared for. The problem is rooted in poorly formed early caregiving relationships that cause people to express their anxious and negative affect about subsequent relationships through the expression of somatic symptoms. At the core of these theories is a difficulty in establishing and maintaining substantial and effective interpersonal relationships. Though formal longitudinal tests of these theoretical accounts have yet to be conducted, each is consistent with existing data on early parent-child relationships and adult interpersonal dysfunction of people with somatoform disorders. #RandolphHarris 18 of 21

Many people have felt robbed and cheated by life because they have experienced some unfair situations in which somebody did them wrong and mistreated them. Perhaps some of you are having problems in a relationship, or in your marriage, or with your child. Or maybe you have struggled financially, and you do not see how you can ever get ahead. Life has been one setback after another. If that sounds like you, just know there is some good news! God wants to restore everything that has been stolen from you. He wants to restore you joy, peace, health, finances, and your family. And when God restores, He does not leave you as you were before bad things happened to you; God brings you out better than you were previously. For instance, in the Holy Bible, if a thief was caught stealing, one had to repay one’s victim seven times what one stole. In another place, Scripture commands that the thief repay four times as much. God Himself said through the prophet Isaiah, “I will pay you back double for all the unfair things that have happened,” reports Isaiah 61.7. When one faces trouble one someone does one wrong, instead of getting discouraged, one’s attitudes should be, “Father, I thank You, that I am not in position to receive double. I know I am going to come out stronger, healthier, and happier than I have ever been.” God does not want to bring you out of your adversities all beaten up and bedraggled; no, you are not simply a survivour, you are more than a conqueror. God wants to bring you out promoted and increased, with abundance. Beyond that, God wants to make the enemy pay for the wrongs done to you, His child. “For You will not abandon me to Sheol (the place of the dead), neither will You suffer Your holy one [Holy One] to see corruption. You will show me the path of life: in Your presence is fullness of joy, at forevermore,” reports Psalm 17.10-11. #RandolphHarris 19 of 21

If you are in a tough situation today, you need to develop a restoration mentality. Mentally encourage yourself that God is going to turn your situation around. Remind yourself thou do not just defeat the enemy, you gather up all the spoils. You come out better than before, blessed to overflowing. In the Scripture we read of Job, a good man who loved God and had a heart to do what is right. Yet in a few weeks’ time, he lost his business, his flocks, and herds, his family, and his health. Things could not get any worse for Job, and I am sure he was tempted to be bitter. He could have said, “God, it is not fair. I do not understand why this is happening to me.” His own wife told him, “Job, just curse God and die.” However, no, Job knew that God is a God of restoration. He knew God could turn any situation around. And his attitude was, “Even if I die, I am going to die trusting God. I am going to die believing for the best.” When it was all said and done, God not only turned Job’s calamity around, He brought Job out with twice what he had before. He had twice as many cattle, twice as many sheep. He got his health back, and God gave him a new family. God restored double what the enemy had stolen. Amazingly, the Scripture says, “The latter part of Job’s life was more blessed than the first part,” reports Job 42.12. Maybe you need to be reminded today that God wants the rest of your life to be more blessed than the first part. Despite what you have been through, or how somebody has treated you, no matter what the medical reports says, or what your bank statement says, God is saying, “I want to make the rest of your life happier and more fulfilled than you can even imagine.” God wants to bring you out to a flourishing finish. In other words, God is saying the best is yet to come. #RandolphHarris 20 of 21

Praise the World to the Angel, not the unutterable World; you cannot astonish one with your glorious feelings; in the Universe, where one feels more sensitively, you are just a beginner. Therefore, show him the simple that lives near our hands and eyes as our very own. Tell him about the things. He will stand more amazed, as you stood beside the rope-maker in Rome, or the potter on the Nile. Show him how happy a thing can be, how blameless and ours; how even the lamentation of sorrow purely decides to take form, serves as a thing, or dies in a thing, and blissfully in the beyond escapes the violin. And these things that live, slipping away, understand that you praise them; transitory themselves, they trust us for rescue, us, the most transient of all. They wish us to transmute them in our invisible heart—or, infinitely into us! Whoever we are. Earth is not this what you want: invisibly to arise in us? It is not your dream to be some day invisible? Earth! Invisible! What, if not transformation, is your insistent commission? Earth, dear one, I will! Oh, believe it needs not one more of your springtime to win me over. One, just one, is already too much for my blood. From afar I am utterly determined to be yours. You were always right and your sacred revelation is the intimate death. Behold, I am alive. On what? Neither childhood nor future grows less…surplus of existence is welling up in my heart. Dear Lord in Heaven, I dare to believe that You are going to turn around unfavourable conditions in my life over which I have no control, situations in which someone has chosen to do evil against me. I know You reward those who trust You, so I will continue to believe that You are going to restore all that has been stolen from me. “I will bless the Lord, who has given me counsel; yes, my heart instructs me in the night seasons,” reports Psalm 17.7. The Lord spoke unto Moses, saying: Speak unto the children of America, and bid them make fringes in the corners of their garments throughout their generations, putting upon the fringe of each corner a thread of blue. And it shall be unto you for a friend, that ye may look upon it and remember all the commandments of the Lord, and do them; and that ye go not about after your own hearts and your own eyes, after which ye use to go astray:–that ye remember to do all My commandments, and be holy unto your God. I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the Town to be your God; I am the Lord your God. #RandolphHarris 21 of 21

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