Did you hear about the fellow who blamed arithmetic for his divorce? His wife put two and two together. In spite of various pronouncements concerning the “death of God,” there was never any likelihood that religion would wither away in American life. Both suburbanization and higher education were secularizing forces, in that they brought together people of different faiths and ethnic backgrounds on the same turf in a manner that could not help but erode certain traditional loyalties. Still many Americans choose from a cafeteria-style theological menu because they have been exposed to other religions or need to find a way to justify their actions. For example, 66 percent of Americans believe in Heaven, while less than 50 percent believe in hell. In the same sort of inconsistency, some sins that people know are wrong are acceptable, while others are not. None of us are perfect Christians, but many do try and repent from their sins. Many enslaved people in America used to look to the Bible, especially the story of Exodus, as divine source of hope for liberation for slavery. The Bible is still were most Americans turn today for hope of salvation. Some 75 percent of American believe in God. In fact, more than 60 percent who were surveyed said the Bible, not the will of the people should shape US Law. #RandolphHarris 1 of 24

Most of these people also believe that liberal secularists have gone too far in trying to remove religion from public life. God and science have been proven methods for prolonging Earthly life. There is a deep desire for spiritual moorings—a hunger for God. People miss prayer in schools and pledging allegiance to the flag. It is believed that these two activities kept Americans in line and loyal to their country. The humbling of ourselves under God’s mighty hand always leads to exaltation. Sometimes this may consist in the removal of whatever affliction God has brought into our lives and the restoration of peaceful circumstances, perhaps even more prosperous circumstances than before. This happened in the case of Job: “The LORD blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the first,” reports Job 42.12. At other times, though the circumstances are not changed, as in the case of the death of a loved one, the heaviness and painful grief or agony are removed. This happened in the case of Paul’s thorn. He was given grace to accept his thorn. When it often seems to us God has forgotten us, how are we to obtain such faith? The answer lies in 1 Peter 5.7: “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” God cares for you. Even though He is disciplining you, He cares for you. As we have already seen, discipline is an indication of God’s care. #RandolphHarris 2 of 24

However, God’s care goes beyond necessary discipline. Even as He disciplines you, He shares in your pain. Isaiah described God’s attitude toward Israel, “In all their distress He too was distressed,” report Isaiah 63.9. The same can be said of God’s attitude toward you. In all your distress He too is distressed. Because God cares for you, you can cast your anxiety on Him. Do not get these thoughts reversed. The text does not say, “If you cast your anxieties on Him, He will care for you.” His care is not conditioned on our faith and our ability to cast our anxiety on Him; rather, it is because He does care for us that we can cast our anxiety on Him. Even at this point, we need the help of the Holy Spirit to do this. Even with all the assurance this whole passage provides us, its truth sometimes fails to reach our hearts. Sometimes we have to pray for the grace to humble ourselves under His mighty hand and the grace to believe that He does in fact care for us. Sometimes we must pray as did the father who came to Jesus asking Him to heal his son. When Jesus said to him, “Everything is possible for one who believes,” the father exclaimed, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief,” reports Mark 9.32-24. #RandolphHarris 3 of 24

In Modern American culture, what psychologist call the empty self has emerged in epidemic proportion. The empty self is constituted by a set of values, motives, and habits of thought, feeling, and behaviour that perverts and eliminates the life of the mind and makes maturation in the way of Christ extremely difficult. There are several traits of the empty self that undermine intellectual growth and spiritual development. The empty self is inordinately individualistic. A few years ago, I was sitting in an elementary school gym with other parents at a DARE graduation (a public-school program designed to help children say no to drugs) for my daughter’s sixth-grade class. Five sixth graders were about to read brief papers expressing their reasons for saying no to drugs. I leaned over to the coupe sitting next to me and made a prediction: each paper, I said, would be a variation of the same reason for refusing to take drugs: self-interest. Sure enough, student after student said he or she would refuse drugs because of a desire to stay healthy, become a doctor or athlete, or do well in school. Conspicuous by its absence was one single reference to virtue or duty to community. Not one student anathematized drug use because of the shame it would bring to family, community, or God. #RandolphHarris 4 of 24

Individualist reasons were the only ones given for abstaining from drug use, a fact to be expected in a generation whose moral education is exhausted by values clarification. By contrast, when a Japanese ice skater fell during an Olympic performance a few years ago, her main concern was not the endorsement opportunities she had lost. She feared that shame had been brought onto her family and people. Community loomed large in the way she understood her own sense of self. A healthy form of individualism is a good thing. Sadly, we have all known people who fail to draw appropriate boundaries and do not separate and individuate from others in a healthy way. Such people do not think or feel for themselves, they are easy to manipulate, and their well-being is far too dependent on what others think of them. A person with a healthy individualism learns to avoid these problems in order to mutually to depend upon and relate to members of the body of Christ. This sort of individualism produces strong selves who have the power to practice self-denial to enrich the broader groups (for example, family, church) of which they are part of. However, the empty self-populating American culture is a self-contained individual who defines one’s own goals, values, and interests as though one were a human atom, isolated from other with little need or responsibility to live for the concerns of the broader community. #RandolphHarris 5 of 24

Self-contained individuals do their own thing and seek to create meaning by looking within their own selves. However, as psychologist Martin Seligman, “the self is a very poor site for finding meaning.” The empty self is infantile. It is widely recognized that adolescent personality traits are staying with people longer today than in earlier generations, sometimes manifesting themselves into the early thirties. Created by a culture filled with pop psychology, schools and media that usurp parental authority, and television ads that seem to treat every like a teenager, the infantile part of the empty self needs instant gratification, comfort, and soothing. The infantile person is controlled by infantile cravings and constantly seeks to be filled up with and made whole by food, entertainment, and consumer goods. Such a person is preoccupied with pleasures of the flesh, physical appearance, and body image and tends to live by feelings and experiences. For the infantile personality type, pain, endurance, hard work, and delay gratification are anathema. Pleasure is all that matters, and it had better be immediate. Boredom is the greatest evil, amusement the greatest good. The empty self is narcissistic. Narcissism is an inordinate and exclusive sense of self-infatuation in which the individual is preoccupied with one’s own self-interest and personal fulfillment. #RandolphHarris 6 of 24

Narcissists manipulate relationships with others, including God, to validate their own self-esteem and cannot sustain deep attachments or make personal commitments to something larger than their own ego. Narcissists are superficial and aloof and prefer to “play it cool” and “keep their options open.” Self-denial is out of the question. The Christian narcissist brings a Copernican revolution to the Christian faith. Historically, the Copernican revolution dethroned the Earth from the center of the Universe and put the Sun in its place. Spiritually, the narcissist dethrones God and His purposes in history from the center of the religious life and replaces them with one’s own personal fulfillment. The narcissist evaluates the local church, the right books to read, and the other religious practices worthy of one’s time on the basis of how they will further one’s own agenda. God becomes another tool in a narcistic bag of tricks, along with the car, workouts at the fitness center, and so on—things that exist as mere instruments to facilitate a life defined largely independent of biblical Worldview. Narcissists see education solely as a means to enhance their own careers. The humanities and general education that historically were part of a university curriculum to help develop people with the intellectual and moral virtues necessary for life directed at he common good, just do not fit into the narcissist’s plans. #RandolphHarris 7 of 24

Narcissistic students object to the introduction of requirements in general education because the work demands too much of them and seldom leads to lucrative employment. The empty self is passive. The couch cheese burger is the role model for the empty self, and without question, modern Americans are becoming increasingly passive in their approach to life. We let other people do our living and thinking for us: the pastor studies the Bible for us, the news media does our political thinking for us, and we let our favourite sports team exercise, struggle, and win for us. From watching television to listening to sermons, our primary agenda is to be amused and entertained. Holidays have become vacations. Historically, a “holiday” was a “holy day,” an intrinsically valuable, special, active change of pace in which, through proactive play and recreation, you refresh your soul. A “vacation” is a “vacating”—even the language is passive—in order to let someone else amuse you. The passive individual is a self in search of pleasure and consumer goods provided by others. Such an individual increasingly becomes a shriveled self with less and less ability to be proactive and take control of life. #RandolphHarris 8 of 24

Many factors have contributed to the emergence of passivity as an aspect of the empty self. However, in my view, television is the chief culprit, and its impact begins early life. Elementary school children watch an average of twenty-five hours of television per week, and high schoolers spend six times as many hours watching television as they invest doing homework. Studies indicate that such widespread television viewing induces mental passivity, inhibits motivation and the ability to stick to something, negatively affects reading skills (especially those needed for higher-level mental comprehension), weakens the ability to listen and stay focused, and encourages an overall passive withdrawal from life. The widespread passivity of the empty self explains the proliferation of magazines like People, of television shows like Entertainment Tonight, and of an overidentification with sports teams and figures. Passive people do not have lives of their own, so they must live vicariously through the lives of others, and celebrities become the codependent enablers of a passive lifestyle. They very idea of a Christian celebrity may be considered an oxymoron. However, for the passive, empty self, it is a spiritual life-support system. The empty self is sensate. Modern life is thoroughly mediated by electronic images. #RandolphHarris 9 of 24

Today, we may decisions and even judge what is and is not real on the basis of electronic images. If it is on TV, it is real. Advertisements sell us thing based on images, not on thoughtful content about a product. On television, discourse is conducted largely through visual imagery, which is to day that television gives us a conversation in images, not words. The emergence of the sensate self has produced two disastrous results. For one thing, people no longer base their decisions on a careful use of abstract reasoning in assessing the pertinent issues, nor are they as capable of doing so compared to earlier generations when thought was communicated by writing and abstract ideas, not by images. For another thing, people are coming to believe more and more that the sense-perceptible World is all there is. Cultures come in two major types: sensate and ideational. In a sensate culture people believe only in the reality of the physical Universe capable of being experienced with the five sense. A sensate culture is secular, this-Worldly, and empirical. By contrast, an ideational culture embraces the sensory World but also accept the notion that an extra-empirical, immaterial reality can be known as well—a reality consisting in God, the soul, immaterial beings, values, purposes, and various abstract objects like numbers and propositions. #RandolphHarris 10 of 24

A senate culture will eventually disintegrate because it lacks the intellectual resources necessary to sustain public and private life conducive of corporate and individual human flourishing. And this is precisely what we see happening to modern American culture. The widespread emergence of the sensate self has caused us to be shallow, small-souled people. The empty self has lost the art of developing an interior life. In the medieval times, the self used to be defined in terms of internal traits of virtue and morality, and the successful person, the person of honour and reputation, was the person of deep character. In such a view, the cultivation of an interior life through intellectual reflection and spiritual formation was of critical importance. In the last few decades, however, the self has come to be defined in terms of external factors—the ability to project a pleasurable, powerful personality and the possession of consumer goods—and the quest for celebrity status, image, pleasure, ad power has become the preoccupation of a self so defined. A careful development of an inner life is simply irrelevant in such a view of the good life. The empty self is hurried and busy. The empty self is a hurried, busy self gorged with activities and noise. #RandolphHarris 11 of 24

The empty self is consumed with consumer goods, calories, experiences, politicians, romantic partners, and empathetic therapists. The empty self experiences a significant absence of community, tradition, and shared meaning, a lack of personal conviction and worth, and it embodies the absences as a chronic, undifferentiated emotional hunger. Because the empty self has a deep emotional emptiness and hunger, and because it has devised inadequate strategies to fill that emptiness, a frenzied pace of life emerges to keep the pain and emptiness suppressed. One must jump from one activity to another and not be exposed to quiet for very long or the emptiness will become apparent. Such a lifestyle created a deep sense of fatigue in which passivity takes over. And fatigued people wither do not have the energy to read or, when they do, choose undemanding material. Shortly after noting that our capacity to think is on the decrease today, it is obvious that the modern individual is too rushed and distracted to look for something to improve one’s mind, demand an effort for oneself, or give rise to reflection, awareness, or sustained thought. Distraction and noise are enemies of an intellectual and spiritual life; focus and quiet are its friends. Americans are raging against the consequences of their own inclinations in these modern times, something was wrong with society and people’s actions to cause these outbursts. #RandolphHarris 12 of 24

The old American tradition that every individual is somehow unique is something we epitomize. And the notion that education having individual potential can be more powerful than sliver and gold. A cultivated mind will not only come up with legal ways to make money, but will also find ways to retain wealth. The concept of this potential does not all fall on the parents, but because this potential is seen as innate, partially hidden, gradually unfolding, fluid, and malleable it does help to have encouragement and guidance to access these talents. However, the parent cannot simply coerce the child into a set uniform pattern of behaviour, because it is important, given our achievement ethic, that a child realize one’s maximum potential, and this means taking into account present, anticipated, or fantasied characteristics of one’s own. This potential is thus rooted in individualism and achievement ideology. It also serves, however, as a kind of compromise between biological and environmental determinism. The parent is given not clay but some more differentiated substance with which to mold an adult. We have a need to instill a social consciousness, which is why so many people want to bring up their families in the Church. Yet, keep in mind, even the deliberate push in a given direction will not always produce the expected outcome. Still, it is better to try. #RandolphHarris 13 of 24

Actually a good part of the difficulty starts in the confusion relating to the nature and scope of one’s own experience and particularly as it is extended to the interpretations of one’s relation to others. When one is in an authoritative relation to another as expert, leader, or parent, this is especially obvious. True, good and evil exists for us in our pain and misery, joy and exaltation. Yet the thing-in-itself is not good or bad but only in its relationship. Any one thing is sometimes good and sometimes evil and only the extremely misexperienced can ultimately fail to see this. Very recently some things like love were good, others like pleasure of the flesh were bad. Yet, if one is of the other, how can this be? We admired the highly motivated but despised the over emotional yet the intense disregard of emotion is nothing but the negative aspect of high motivation. To do any one thing intensively is far that time to neglect and obviate all other values. Too often we developed pairs of names to designate the good and bad aspects of a thing separately, yet failed to realize we were but naming the same thing twice instead of the different relationships which were the actual basis of the differentiations. The epiphanous experience in and of itself is always ambivalent. #RandolphHarris 14 of 24

Only the context of the experience enables the discrimination of its relative values. The psychoanalyst has long been aware of this ambivalence and of course it has been long recognized as the “golden mean,” “tao,” or “way.” From birth, and possibly from even before, such choices are apparent and are usually mishandled by those in the dominant political (power) relationship to the developing individual. For the authority in attempting to choose for someone else sets up rules or lists by which to ease this take for oneself. No longer can one permit others the exercise of taste for obviously one’s tastes are one’s own and not the others’. An authority then, if one is to control the actions of others, must resort to standards and external sanctions. Only in this way can one maintain one’s special privilege. And yet if dynamic experience or taste is the basis of choice how mad one must be to think one can in any way choose for another. Because of one’s often superhuman sense of power and its complement of obligation one feels it is one’s responsibility, which, of course it would be if one were omniscient. Yet does not the parent think one knows better in relation to the child, the child to the dog, the teacher to the student, the lawyer to one’s client, the doctor to one’s patient, the governor to one’s people, the priest to one’s parish? #RandolphHarris 15 of 24

The superior, the expert, because it is what one knows is one’s own absolute experience is mislead to believe it is all that is to be known and so offers a rule, a list of sanctions and values. And because the recipient is likely to be unaware of such origins in the absolutes and relationships in the experience of the authority, one can only apply the rules to the thing and so probably is doubly mistaken and confused. The last statement is somewhat misleading for the submitter does not experience the list or rule of things entirely without relationships. In fact, the matter is far worse than one might suspect. The additional trouble lies in that there is always and very definitely a relationship but it is to the authority and not to the situation that the relationships is established. The concept of the “evil eye,” the authority by trying to establish an experience of relationships to some situation succeeds only in establishing it to oneself. However, when asked for what one has done this one will usually deny that was one’s intent and answer instead that one was trying for the development of independent and responsible experience in the existence of others. As such, all authority is truly made. At best the expert, the individual, who, because of more experience has some advantage, can only lead by example and guidance and not by command and instruction if both of these dilemmas are to circumvented. #RandolphHarris 16 of 24

Specific examples of this type of difficulty are extremely easy to find for they are most of our life. The mother who is anxious for the welfare of her newly born child prevents it from putting strange objects in its mouth for fear of contaminative results to the infant. She has established that habit when the time for weaning arrives and she must now cope with a child which rejects what is for it, the “bad” strange objects, its new solid food. Simultaneously this rejection of what was learned to be avoided incurs the loss of one’s mother’s affection for which the avoidance relationship has been established in the first place. One soon ceases to trust the evidence of one’s senses and in one’s turn seeks signs of eternal truth instead of reliable knowledge. Again strictures regarding pleasures of the flesh, especially for females, cause them to abhor the act for the first third of their existence but then they discover after receiving the ring that it takes the next third of existence to overcome this former set of values to what formerly was bad is now good. No wonder that so may reach the menopause thoroughly confused. The student in submitting to “basic disciplines” soon abandons thinking about the subject matter of the discipline and instead thinks primarily of how to please one’s superior, the teacher. #RandolphHarris 17 of 24

And since one’s own original work is likely to be highly unbasic or individual and not in strict conformity with the “basic discipline” one to ceases to trust in one’s own experience and seeks sanctions in a white coat, collar, or particular skin colour. Yet when out of school one discovers the one must learn to choose for oneself. We can only pray one has not learned the original less too well. Of course one could continue to develop food aversions, frigidity, or slavish professionalism instead of fighting though the limitations. Such individuals are frequently comfortable in their selves even though to others they are dull and a threat to the freedom of everyone. It is possible to let the ambivalent remain bad always or good always. One can place the blame or praise elsewhere and so not have to choose now one way now another according to the relative circumstances. I just suggest that since choice is possible, and if we wish to have a democratic society with a self-choosing and responsible people, we can do much to make such choose probable. We do not have to give in to totalitarian measures. All of this has special relevance to our contemporary life and to spiritual formation under modern conditions. #RandolphHarris 18 of 24

 We now live within the life form called “modernity,” where revered ritual and personal relations do not smoothly govern life, because human solidarity (in family, neighbourhood, school, workplace, church) has been pulverized. There are few things of equal significance to this fact for serious Christians to understand today. In the “modern” condition, feeling will come to exercise almost total mastery over the individual. This is because people in that condition will have to constantly decide what they want to do, and feeling will be all they have to go on. Here lies the secret to understanding contemporary Western life and its peculiar proneness to gross immoralities and addictions. People are overwhelmed with decisions and can only make those decision on the basis of feelings. More than a century ago, Leo Tolstoy experiences the effects of “modernity” in the circle of wealth, upper-class Russians who made up his World. In that World, he relates, “My life came to a standstill. I could breathe, eat, drink, and sleep, and I could not help doing these things; but there was no life, for there were no wishes the fulfillment of which I could consider reasonable. Had a fairy come and offered to fulfil my desires, I should not have known what to ask.” This is exactly the World of pointless activity portrayed in such staples of the contemporary American consciousness as television shows The Good Place, The Ranch, Superstore, and New Girl. #RandolphHarris 19 of 24

In the course of events, however, Tolstoy became involved in the life of the less affluent Russians. “I saw that the whole life of these people was passed in heavy labour, and that they were content with life. And they all—endlessly different in their manners, minds, education, and position, as they were—all alike, in complete contrast to my ignorance, knew the meaning of life and death, laboured quietly, endured deprivations and sufferings, and lived and died seeing therein not vanity but good.” The less affluent whom Tolstoy admired so much were not yet swallowed up in modernity. They had solid traditions of faith and community that provided a ritual form of life—and of death. The result was that they knew what was good to do without regard to their feelings. Good was not determined for them by how they “felt” or by what they thought was “the best deal.” The same was true for the “homemaker” and the “wage-earner” of our recent past. Not to say that all was well with them or with Tolstoy’s less affluent. However, individuals in their roles knew without thinking about it what to do with their minutes, hours, and days, and only rarely were faced with having to do what they “felt like doing.” The overall order in which they lived usually gave them great strength and inner freedom derived from their sense of place and direction, even in the midst of substantial suffering and frustration. #RandolphHarris 20 of 24

In a situation such as today, by contrast, where people constantly have—only think they have—to decide what to do, they will almost invariably be governed by feelings. Often they cannot distinguish between their feelings and their will, and in their confusion they also quite commonly take feelings to be reasons. And they will in general lack any significant degree of self-control. This sill turn their life into a mere drift through the days and years, which addictive behaviour promises to allow them to endure. Self-control is the steady capacity to direct yourself to accomplish what you have chosen or decided to d and be, even though you “do not feel like it.” Self-control means that you, with steady hand, do what you do not wan to do (or what you want not to) when that is needed and do not do what you want to do (what you “feel like” doing) when that is needed. In people without rock-solid character, feeling is a deadly enemy of self-control and will always subvert it. The mongoose of a disciplined will under God and good is the only match for the cobra of feeling. “And it came to pass in the commencement of the thirty and sixth years of the reign of the judges over the people of Nephi, that Shiblon took possession of those sacred thing which had been delivered unto Helaman by Alma. And he was a just man, and he did walk uprightly before God; and he did observe to do good continually, to keep the commandments of the Lord his God; and also did his brother. #RandolphHarris 21 of 24

“And it came to pass that Moroni died also. And thus ended the thirty and sixth year of the reign of the judges. And it came to pass that in the thirty and seventh year of the reign of the judges, there was a large company of men, even to the amount of five thousand and four hundred men, with their wives and their children, departed out of the land of Zarahemla into the land which was northward. And it came to pass that Hagoth, he being an exceedingly curious man, therefore he went forth and built him an exceedingly large ship, on the borders of the land Bountiful, by the land Desolation, and by the narrow neck which led into the land northward. And behold, there were many of the Nephites who did enter therein and did sail forth with much provisions, and also many women and children; and they took their course northward. And thus ended the thirty and seventh year. And in the thirty and eighth year, this man built other ships. And the first ship did also return, and many more people did enter into it; and they also took much provisions, and set out again to the land northward. And it came to pass that they were never heard of more. And we suppose that they were drowned in the depth of the sea. And it came to pass that one other ship also did sail forth; and whither she did go we know not. #RandolphHarris 22 of 24

“And it came to pass that in this year there were many people who went forth into the land northward. And thus ended the thirty and eight years. And it came to pass in the thirty and ninth year of the reign of the judges, Shiblon died also, and Corianton had gone forth to the land northward in a ship, to carry forth provisions unto the people who had gone forth into that land. Therefore it became expedient for Shiblon to confer those sacred things, before his death, upon the son of Helaman, who was called Helaman, being called after the name of his father. Now behold, all those engravings which were in the possession of Helaman were written and sent forth among the children of humans throughout all the land, save it were those parts which had been commanded by Alma should not go forth. Nevertheless, these things were made to be kept sacred, and handed down from one generation to another; therefore, in this year, they had been conferred upon Helaman, before the death of Shiblon. And it came to pass also in this year there were some dissenters who had gone forth unto the Lamanites; and they were stirred up again to anger against the Nephites. And also in this same year they came down with a numerous army to war against the people of Moronihah, or against the army of Moronihah, in which theu were beaten and driven back again t their own lands, suffering great loss. #RandolphHarris 23 of 24

“And thus ended the thirty and ninth year of the reign of the judges over the people of Nephi. And thus ended the account of Alma, and Helaman his son, and also Shiblon, who was his son,” reports Alma 63.1-17. Ruling the storm, He comes in the night, losing his axe again and again. The Bull of Storms comes bellowing, scattering seed over the Earth. A strong king He is, spreading fire and water as He rampages. In His wake he will leave fertile ground. Grant that we lie down in peace, secure in Thy protecting love, and shelter us beneath Thy wings to keep us safe throughout the night. On the morrow raise us up in perfect peace to life, O God, to face each task with faith in Thee, our zeal renewed and strength restored. Please save us for Thine own name’s sake, and guard us from all lurking foes. Remove all sorrow, hatred, strife, and turn Thy children’s hearts to Thee. Spread Thy tent of peace, O Lord, above Earth, we pray, and shield Thy people Israel, dispersed aboard in every land. Praised be Thou, our Lord and King, Whose sheltering love spreads over us, enfolding all who seek Thy peace, who find their hope and strength in Thee. Magnified and sanctified be the name of God throughout the Word which He hath created according to His will. May He establish His kingdom during the days of your life and during the life of all the house of Earth, speedily, yea, soon; and say ye, Amen. #RandolphHarris 24 of 24

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