In many ways, society has forced certain masks or roles even on those who have been raised not to hide themselves simply because it is easier or safer. Psychodynamically they have found rewards in mask-wearing; they have been positively reinforced by social attitudes for partial self-presentation. However, in the process other and more important parts of their identity have been hidden or limited. Often, like the family skeletons, the rest of the identity is hidden away in a closet. The in-group and the out-group, then, both present an ego identity for the stigmatized individual, the first largely in political phrasings, the second in psychiatric ones. The individual is told that if one adopts the right line (which lines depending on who is talking), one will have come to terms with oneself and be a whole human; one will be an adult with dignity and self-respect. And in truth one will have accepted a self for oneself; but this self is, as it necessarily must be, a resident alien, a voice of the group that speaks for and through one. However, all of us, sociology sometimes claims, speak from the point of a group. The special situation of the stigmatized is that society tells one he or she is a member of the wider group, which means one is a normal human being, but that one is also different in some degree, and that it would be foolish to deny this difference. #RandolphHarris 1 of 20

This differentness itself of course derives from society, for ordinarily before a difference can matter much it must be conceptualized and collectively by the society as a whole. This can be clearly seen in the case of our newly-instituted stigmas, as a person with one of them suggests: “Having been born an athetoid type of cerebral palsy as the result of a birth injury to the control center of the brain, I was not aware of my startling, complex classification until the term became popular and society insisted that I admit my labeled deviations. It was something like joining a support group for addiction. You cannot be honest with yourself until you find out what you are and, perhaps, consider what society thin you are or should be.” This is even more clear in the case of epilepsy. Since Hippocrates’ time, those who discover they have this disorder have been assured a firmly stigmatized self by the definitional workings of society. This work still goes on even though insignificant physical impairment may be involved, and even though many medical specialists now use the term to refer to a seizure disorder only when no specific (and less stigmatizing) medical disorder can be found. Here the point where medical science must withdraw is the point where society can act most determinatively. #RandolphHarris 2 of 20

Thus, even while the stigmatized individual is told that one is a human being like everyone else, one is being told that it would be unwise to pass or to let down “one’s” group. In brief, one is told one is like anyone else and that one is not—although there is little agreement among spokes-persons as to how much of each one should claim to be. This contradiction and joke are one’s destiny. It constantly challenges those who represent the stigmatized, urging these professionals to present a coherent politics of identity, allowing them to be quick to see that “inauthentic” aspects of other recommended programs but slow indeed to see that there may be no “authentic” solution at all. The stigmatized individual thus finds oneself in an arena of detailed argument and discussion concerning what one ought to think of oneself, that is, one’s ego identity. To one’s other troubles one must add that of being simultaneously pushed in several directions by professionals who tell one what one should do and feel about what one is and is not, and all this purportedly in one’s own interests. To write of gives speeches advocating any one of these “avenues of flight” is an interesting solution in itself, but one that is denied, alas, to most of those who merely read and listen. #RandolphHarris 3 of 20

Given the relation between perceived status and the treatment of feeling, it follows that persons in marginalized categories—women, men of different social standings (these days even rich men can be marginalized, as well as less affluent, and children—lack a status shield against the dominant ideology present in society when dealing with the treatment of their rights, freedoms and feelings. This simple fact has the power to utterly transform the content of a job. The job of a real estate agent, for example, is not the same job for a woman as it is for a man. Women tend to be more exposed than men to disparaging comments, rude speech, to tirades against the service, the corporation, and product in general. As the company’s main shock absorbers against “mishandled” buyers, their own feelings are more frequently subjected to rough treatment. In addition, a day’s exposure to people who resist authority in women is a different experience for a woman than it is for a man. Because her gender is generally accorded a more submissive status, a woman’s shield against abuse may not be as fortified, and the importance of what she herself might be feeling—when faced with blame for a delay in construction of a residence, for example—is correspondingly reduced. Thus the job for a man generally differs in essential ways from the same job for a woman. In this respect, it may be a disadvantage to be a woman—as approximately 62 percent of all certified Realtors of estate are women residential real. #RandolphHarris 4 of 20

And in this case, they are not simply women in the biological sense. They are also a highly visible distillation of middle-class American notions of femininity. They symbolize Women. Insofar as the category “female” is typically mentally associated with having less status and authority, female real estate agents are more readily classified as “really” female than other females are. And as a result their emotional lives are even less protected by the status shield. However, an interesting dynamic is occurring in America currently. There is also a backlash against wealthy males, especially if they are of European descent due to the historical rift and the country and systematic abuse of certain groups of people. As a result, it is becoming more difficult for White males to conduct business without being categorized as being privileged, undeserving, or facing general displaced ill treatment due to their heritage. People, in some cases, are unwilling to listen to them or treat them with respect just because of the colour of their skin and they may have not even done anything wrong. Sokrates humorously described himself as practising the same vocation as his mother who was a midwife—they only difference between them being that whereas she helped women to deliver themselves of infants, he helped men to deliver themselves of true ideas with which their minds were in labour.  #RandolphHarris 5 of 20

His business, like that of all genuine teachers, was not to impart truth as something new and unknown but to assist the student to elicit it from within himself. Every genuine teacher tries in one’s work to lead the student’s mind in such a way that one’s thinking gradually changes without one’s becoming conscious of the fact at the time, although one will recognize it in retrospect later. One makes students think for themselves; stimulates them to solve their own metaphysical, personal, and emotional problems; periodically gives an inner mystical impetus to their meditation practice; and point out the pitfalls and fallacies which lie in their life-path. Because one’s outlook is so disinterested, because one’s primary purpose is to liberate and not limit them, to give and not get, such a teacher’s services can never be bought by anyone—although they may be claimed by those who are prepared to cast off the shoes of conventional prejudice at one’s door and who are willing to refrain loyally from imposing upon one their preconceived notions of what characteristics the teaching, the teacher, and the quest should possess. Thus is one will not shackle them, they in their turn must not shackle one. Such would-be disciples are rare, but such teachers who practise what they preach are rarer still. #RandolphHarris 6 of 20

Nonetheless, more female accountants, bus drivers, or gardeners, female real estate agents mingle with people who expect them to enact two leading roles of Womanhood: the loving wife and mother (serving food, tending the needs of others) and the glamorous “career woman” (dressed to be seen, in contact with strange men, professional and controlled in manner, and sometimes very far from home). They do the job of symbolizing the transfer of homespun femininity into the impersonal marketplace, announcing, in effect, “I work in the public eye, but I am still a woman at heart.” Buyers borrow their expectations about gender biographies from home and from the wider culture and then base their demands on this borrowing. The different fictive biographies they attribute to male and female workers make sense out of what they expect to receive in the currency of caretaking and authority. one male real estate agent noted: “They always ask about my work plans. ‘Why are you doing this?’ That is one question we get all the time from buyers. ‘Are you planning to become a new home sales manager?’ Most guys come in expecting to do it for a year or so and see how they like it, but we keep getting asked about the sales management training program. I do not know any guy that has gone from management from here.” #RandolphHarris 7 of 20

However, with the influx of more working-class male buyers during the recession of 2008, the questions addressed to male sales representatives changed. As one of them said, “Now they do not ask why I am doing this. They asked, ‘How did you get this job?’” Ironically, more males than females have come to this work with the attitude of “jobbers,” interested primarily in the leisure time and good pay, and willing to try it for a few years before moving on. They report a more traditionally “female” job motivation than the women, for whom sales representative has been an honorable and high-paying career. And in contact to her male counterpart, a female flight attendant said: “Men ask me why I am not married. They do not ask the guys that. Or else passengers will say, ‘Oh, when you have kids, you will quit this job. I know you will.’ And I say, “Well, no, I am not going to have kids.’ ‘Oh yes you will,’ they say. ‘I bet your kids will love this spacious backyard,” I say, and I do not get more personal than that. They may expect me to have kids because of my gender, but I am not, no matter what they say.” Gendering makes two jobs out of one in yet another sense. Females are asked more often than males to appreciate jokes, listen to stories, and give psychological advice. #RandolphHarris 8 of 20

 Female specialization in these offerings takes on meaning only in light of the fact that sales representatives of both deferential and authoritative; they have to be able to appreciate a joke nicely, but they must also be firm in enforcing the rules about finishing something by a specific time or date. However, because woman are seen as being more gentle and kind, her authority is generally a little more complex because one does not want to offend a buyer by being too stringent, especially when your warmth and understanding by be the key factor that they are looking for as a reason to close the deal. In fact, buyers generally assume that men have more authority than women and that men exercise authority over women. For males in the corporate World to whom high stakes financial deals are a way of life, this assumption as more than a distant relation to fact. As one sales representative puts it: “Say you have a businessman looking at residence five. He has a wife who takes his suit to the cleaners and makes the hors d’oeuvres for his business guests. He has an executive secretary with horn-rimmed glasses who types 140 million words a minute and knows more about one’s residence than he does. There is no woman in his life over him.” This assumption of male authority allows ordinary twenty-year-old male sales representatives to be mistaken for the “managers” or “superintendents” of females with more seniority. #RandolphHarris 9 of 20

The assumption of male authority has two results. First, authority, like status, acts as a shield against scapegoating. Since the women workers on the plane were thought to have less authority and therefore less status, they were more susceptible to scapegoating. When a residence was delayed, a different light fixture was use, or the carpet was a slightly different colour, frustration were vented more openly toward female employers. Females were expected to take it better, it being more their role to absorb an expression of displeasure and less their role to put a stop to it. In addition, both male and female workers adapted to this fictional redistribution of authority. Bot, in different ways, made it more real. Male real estate agency tended to react to buyers as if they had more authority than they may have. The management once objected to a request from employees that men be allowed to wear short-sleeved shirts on warm days, arguing that such shirts “lacked authority.” This made them less tolerant of abuse and firmer in handling it. They conveyed the message that as authorities they expected compliance without loud complain. Buyers sensing this message were discouraged from pursuing complaints and stopped sooner. Female real estate agents, on the other hand, knowing they are expecting to be more caring, used more tactful and deferential means of handling abuse. #RandolphHarris 10 of 20

The females’ supposed “higher tolerance for abuse” amounted to a combination of higher exposure to it and less ammunition—in the currency of respect—to use against it. This pattern set in motion another one: female employees often went to their male co-workers to get them to “cast a heavier glance.” As one woman who had resigned herself to this explained wearily: “I used to fight it and assert myself. Now I am just too overworked. It is simpler to just go get the male purser. One look at him and the troublemaker shuts up. Ultimately it comes down to the fact that I do not have time for a big confrontation. The job is so stressful these days, you do not go out of your way to make it more stressful. A look from a male carries more weight.” Thus the greater the respect males could command, the more they were called on to claim it. This only increased the amount of deference that male workers felt their female co-workers owed them, and women found it harder to supervise junior males than females. One young males representative said that certain condition had to be met—and deference offered—before he would obey a woman’s orders: “If it is an order without a human element to it, then I will balk. I think sometimes it is a little easier for a man to be an authority figure and command respect and cooperation. #RandolphHarris 11 of 20

“I think it depends on how the gal handles herself. If she does not have much confidence of if she goes the other ways and gets puffed out of shape, then in that case I think she could have more trouble with the men that with the gals.” Workers tended to agree that females took orders better than males, no matter how “puffed out of shape” the attendant in charge might be, and that women in charge had to be nicer in exercising their authority than men did. This attitude toward status and authority inspired compensator reactions among some female workers. One response was to adopt the crisply cheerful but no-nonsense style of a Cub Scout den mother—a model of female authority borrowed from domestic life and used here to make it acceptable for women to tell men what to do. In this way a woman might avoid being criticized as “bossy” or “puffed out of shape” by placing her behaviour within the boundaries of the gender expectations of passengers and co-workers. Another response to displaced anger and challenged authority was to make small tokens of respect a matter of great concern. Terms of address, for example, were seen as an indicator of status of unfortunately lack. The term “girl,” for example, was recognized by female workers as the moral equivalent of calling men “boys.” #RandolphHarris 12 of 20

Although in private and among themselves, the women real estate agents I knew usually called themselves “girls,” many were opposed to the use of the term in principle. The other side of being called a “girl” was not being allowed, socially speaking, to age. Even women in their thirties were occasionally called “granny” or subjected to within-earshot remarks such as “Is she not about ready for retirement?” As one woman in her mid-thirties noted: “There is definitely a different, oh yes. The men take it for granted that they can work until seventy or seventy-five. The women work like dogs just to prove they can still do the job. And then they have to fight the granny remarks.” Still, women see being called “girl” not only as a question of social or moral importance but as a practical matter. To be addressed as a “girl” was to be subjected to more on-the-job stress. The order, “Girl, get me some cream” has a different effect than the request “Oh miss, could I please have some cream?” And if the cream has run out because the commissary did not provide enough, it will be the “girls” who get the direct expression of disappointment, exasperation, and blame. Tokens of respect can be exchanged to make a bargain: “I will manage my unpleasant feelings for you if you will manage yours for me.” #RandolphHarris 13 of 20

When outrageously rude people occasionally enter a model home, it reminds all concerned why the flimsy status shield against abuse is worth struggling over. Schooled in emotion management at home, women had entered in disproportionate numbers those jobs that all for emotional labour outside the home. Once they enter the marketplace, a certain social logic unfolds. Because of the division of labour in the society at large, women in any particular job are assigned lower status and less authority than men in general. As a result they lack a shield against the “doctrine of feelings.” Much more often than men, they become the complaint department, the ones to whom dissatisfaction is fearlessly expressed. Their own feelings tend to be treated as less important. In ways that the advertising smiles obscure, the job has different contents for women and men. Ananias and Sapphira (Acts 5) new they were deceiving the church when they sold some property and agreed to act as if they were giving all when they were only giving part. However, the story does not give the impression that they thought what they were doing lacked integrity. After all, they were doing something good and generous. #RandolphHarris 14 of 20

 If it happened today, Ananias would wait until the organ was playing “I Surrender All” and then humbly come forward, laying his check at Peter’s feet, mumbling, “I wish I had more to give, Peter, but this is all I have.” Imagine the scene in the Early Church: Ananias’ heart was thumping rapidly under the thrill of his public display, but Peter was not smiling. Somehow he knew! “Ananias, how is it that Satan has so filled your heart that you had lived to the Holy Spirit and have kept for yourself some of the money you received for the land? Did it not belong to you before it was sold? And after it was sold, was not the money as your disposal? What made you think of doing such a thing? You have not lied to human but to God,” reports Acts 5.3-4. Poor Ananias. His racing heart stopped, and he could not breathe. Peter’s grim visage gave way to darkness as Ananias’ life ended, and the young men came and carried Ananias out—as they latter did his dead widow. The story of Ananias and Sapphira shocks us because they suffered death for such a small infraction. So they misrepresented the percentage they gave of their profits—why death? After all, they did give—which is more than many people do! The answer is, the Church cannot prosper with deception among its members—and God wanted to make this clear for all time. #RandolphHarris 15 of 20

Deception wounds the Body of Christ—makes it dysfunctional—and is a sin against God! This is why Peter cried to Ananias and Sapphira at the moment of their deaths, “You have not lied to men but to God,” reports Acts 5.4. Integrity is one of the greatest needs of the Church today. The Church needs people who not only refrain from blatant lying, but are free from hypocrisy. Paul says, in fact, that honesty is necessary for growth in the Church today. “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into one who is the Head, that is, Christ,” report Ephesians 4.15. Literally, the divine medium for authentic church growth is truthing in love—speaking and doing truth to on another. The Church’s great need for integrity is directly linked to the needs of our lost World, for the World longs for liberation from dishonesty. Sure, it cultivates and promotes deception, but deep down inside many people long to escape the pretense. A substantial number of people outside the four walls of the Church will eagerly embrace the faith of believers who model the honesty and integrity for which they long. The avoidance of one small fib…may be a stronger confession of faith than a whole “Christian philosophy” championed in lengthy, forceful discussion. A truthful spirit is a great evangelistic tool. I have known people who were magnetized to Christ because they saw this quality in a church or individual. #RandolphHarris 16 of 20

 Integrity will be for some a tantalizing cool drink in the secular desert of delusion. People, the experience of Ananias and Sapphira tells us that our integrity matters to God. We need to declare with Job, “Till I die, I will not deny my integrity,” reports Job 27.5. The duty is laid upon a master to show the value of one’s virtue by one’s conduct and to attract people towards it by one’s example. It is not the human that we are to reverence but one’s noble attributed and one’s inspired mind. “And now it came to pass that Ammon and king Limhi began to consult with the people how they should deliver themselves out of bondage; and even they did cause that all the people should gather themselves together; and this they did that they might have the voice of the people concerning the matter. And it came to pass that they could find no way to deliver themselves out of bondage, expect it were to take their women and children, and their flocks, and the herds, and their tents, and depart into the wilderness; for the Lamanites being so numerous, it was impossible for them, thinking to deliver themselves out of bondage by the sword. Now it came to pass that Gideon went forth and stood before the king, and said unto him: Now O king, thou hast hitherto hearkened unto my words many times when we have been contending with our brethren, the Lamanites. #RandolphHarris 17 of 20

“And now O king, if thou hast not found me to be an unprofitable servant, or if thou hast hitherto listened to my words in any degree, and they have been of service to thee, even so I desire that thou wouldst listen to my words at this time, and I will be thy servant and deliver this people out of bondage. And the king granted unto him that he might speak: And Gideon said unto him: Behold the back pass, through the back wall, on the back side of the city. The Lamanites, or the guards of the Lamanites, by night are drunken; therefore let us send a proclamation among all this people that they gathered together their flocks and herds, that they may drive them into wilderness by night. And I will go according to thy command and pay the last tribute of wine to the Lamanites, and they will be drunken; and we will pass through the secret pass on the left of their camp when they are drunken and asleep. Thus we will depart with our women and our children, our flocks, and our herds into the wilderness; and we will travel around the land of Shilom. And it came to pass that the king hearkened unto the words of Gideon. And king Limhi caused that his people should gather their flocks together; and he sent the tribute of wine to the Lamanites; and he also sent more wine which king Limhi did send unto them. #RandolphHarris 18 of 20

“And it came to pass that the people of king Limhi did depart by night into the wilderness with their flocks and their herds, and they went round about the land of Shilom in the wilderness, and bent their course towards the land of Zarahemla, being led by Ammon and his brethren. And they had taken all their gold, and silver, and their precious things, which they could carry, and also their provisions with them, into the wilderness; and they pursued their journey. And after being many days in the wilderness they arrived in the land of Zarahemla, and joined Mosiah’s people, and became his subjects. And it came to pass that Mosiah received them with joy; and he also received their records, and also the records which had been found by the people of Limhi. And now it came to pass when the Lamanites had found that the people of Limhi had departed out of the land by night, that they sent an army into the wilderness to pursue them; and after they had pursued them two days, they could no longer follow their tracks; therefore they were lost in the wilderness, reports Mosiah 22.1-16. We beseech Thee, O Lord, in Thy compassion, to turn away from Thy people Thy wrath, which indeed we deserve for our sins, but which in our human frailty we cannot endure; therefore embrace us with that tenderness which Thou art wont to bestow on the unworthy; through Jesus Christ our Lord. #RandolphHarris 19 of 20

Most Holy God, may the close of an Earthly sabbath remind me that the last of them will one day end. Animate me with joy that in Heaven praise will never cease, that adoration will continue forever, that no flesh will grow weary, no congregation disperse, no affections flags, no thoughts wander, no will droop, but all will be adorning love. Please guard my mine from making ordinances my stay or trust, from hewing out broken cisterns, from resting on outward helps. Please wing me through Earthly forms to Thy immediate presence; may my feeble prayers show me the emptiness and vanity of my sins; deepen in me the conviction that my most fervent prayers, and most lowly confessions, need to be repented of. May my best service bring me nearer to the cross, and prompt me to cry, “None but Jesus!” By Thy Spirit give abiding life to the lessons of this  day: May the seed sown take deep root and yield a full harvest. Please let all who see me take knowledge that I have been with Thee that Thou hast taught me my need as a sinner; hast revealed a finished salvation to me, hast enriched me with all spiritual blessings, hast chosen me to show forth Jesus to others, hast helped me to dispel the mists of unbelief. O Great Creator, mighty protector, gracious preserver, Thou dost load me with lovingkindness, and hast made me Thy purchased possession, and redeemed me from all guilt; I praise and bless Thee from my sabbath rest, my calm conscious, my peace of heart. #RandolphHarris 20 of 20

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