The soul can play a large part in bolstering the faith of individuals who feel frustrated and upset by the tremendous problems that face the World. The more complex the World grows, the more necessary it is to spread the knowledge and wisdom to be found in the soul. Lacking the salutary feed-back of daily social intercourse with others, the self-isolate can become suspicious, depressed, hostile, anxious, and bewildered. The awareness of inferiority means that one is unable to keep out of consciousness the formulation of some chronic feeling of the worst sort of insecurity, and this means that one suffers anxiety and perhaps even something worse, if jealousy is really worse than anxiety. The fear that others can disrespect a person because of something one shows means that one is always insecure in one’s contact with other people; and this insecurity arises, not from mysterious and somewhat disguised sources, as a great deal of our anxiety does, but from something which one knows one cannot fix. Now that represents an almost fatal deficiency of the self-system, since the self is unable to disguise or exclude a definite formulation that reads, “I am inferior. Therefore people will dislike me and I cannot be secure with them.” #RandolphHarris 1 of 14

When normal and stigmatized do in fact enter one another’s immediate presence, especially when they there attempt to sustain a joint conversational encounter, there occurs one of the primal scenes of sociology; for, in many cases, these moments will be the ones when the cause and effects of stigma must be directly confronted by both sides. The stigmatized individual may find that one feels unsure of how we normal will identify one and receive one. An illustration may be cited from a student of physical disability: “Uncertainty of status for the disabled person obtains over a wide range of social interactions in addition to that of employment. The visually impaired, the ill, those with auditory impairments, people with mobility issues can never be sure what the attitude of a new acquaintance will be, whether it will be rejective or accepting, until the contact has been made. This is exactly the position of the adolescent, the light-skinned African America, the second generation immigrant, the socially mobile person and the woman has entered a predominantly masculine occupation.” This uncertainty arises not merely from the stigmatized individual’s not knowing which of several categories one will be place in, but also, where the placement is favorable, from one’s knowing that in their hearts the other maybe defining one in terms of one’s stigma. #RandolphHarris 2 of 14

The student goes on to say: “And I always feel this with straight people—that whenever they are being nice to me, pleasant to me, all the time really, underneath they are only assessing me as a criminal and nothing else. It is to late for me to be any different now to what I am, but I still feel this keenly, that that is their only approach, and they are quite incapable of accepting me as anything else.” Thus in the stigmatized arises the sense of not knowing what the others present are “really” thinking about one. Further, during mixed contacts, the stigmatized individual is likely to feel that one is “on,” having to be self-conscious and calculating about the impression one is making, to a degree and in areas of conduct which one assumes others are not. Also, one is likely to feel that the usual scheme of interpretation for everyday events has been undermined. One’s minor accomplishments, one feels, may be assessed as signs of remarkable and noteworthy capacities in the circumstances. At the same time, minor failings or incidental impropriety may be interpreted as a direct expression of one’s stigmatized differences. Former mental patients, for example, are sometimes afraid to engage in sharp interchanges with spouse or employer because of what a show of emotion might be take as a sign of. #RandolphHarris 3 of 14

People with mental disabilities are also worried about how they respond to situations because they face a similar contingency: “It also happens that if a person of low intellectual ability gets into some sort of trouble the difficulty is more or less automatically attributed to ‘mental defect’ whereas if a person of ‘normal intelligence’ gets into a similar difficulty, it is not regarded as symptomatic of anything in particular.” When the stigmatized person’s failing can be perceived by our merely directing attention (typically, visual) to one—when, in sort, one is a discredited, not discreditable, person—one is likely to feel that to be present among normal nakedly exposes one to invasions of privacy, experienced most pointedly perhaps when children simply stare at them. This displeasure in being exposed can be increased by the conversations strangers may feel free to strike up with one, conversations in which they express what one takes to be morbid curiosity about one’s condition or in which they proffer help that one does not need or want. One might add that there are certain classic formulae for these kinds of conversations, where people pretend to understand or be sympathetic, when they really have no idea what it is like. However, that is better than the cold shoulder, when other try to make it seem like an individual just has a problem and nothing is really going on. #RandolphHarris 4 of 14

However, instead of cowering, the stigmatized individual may attempt to approach mixed contact with hostile bravado, but this can induce from others its own set of troublesome reciprocations. It may be added that the stigmatized person sometimes vacillates between cowering and bravado, racing from one to the other, thus demonstrating one central way in which ordinary face-to-face interaction can run wild. I am suggesting, then, that the stigmatized individual—at least the “visibly” stigmatized one—will have special reasons for feeling that mixed social situations make for anxious unanchored interaction. However, if this is so, then it is to be suspected that we normal will find these situations shaky too. We will feel that the stigmatized individual is either too aggressive or to shamefaced, and in either case too ready to read unintended meanings into our actions. We ourselves may feel that if we show direct sympathetic concern for one’s condition, we may be overstepping ourselves; and yet if we actually forget that one has a failing we are likely to make impossible demands of one or unthinkingly slight one’s fellow-sufferers. Each potential source of discomfort for one when we are with one can become something we sense one is aware of, aware that we are aware of, and even aware of our state of awareness about ones awareness; the stage is then set for the infinite regress of mutual consideration that Meadian social psychology tells us how to begin but not how to terminate. #RandolphHarris 5 of 14

Personal counselors and psychotherapists specialize in helping individuals. Informed by knowledge about beings in general, they seek to learn about the particular being who consults them, to help one overcome impasses in one’s life, fulfill more of one’s possibilities, and live more effectively. It is their tasks to learn about the determiners and limits in human existence and teach those who consult them how to understand, master, and transcend these limits—then to pursue and enlarge their freedom. If for on other reason than to insure society is not disorganized into a mob of mutually destructive deviants, it is necessary for everyone in society to learn and to conform to laws and customs. It has been discovered that the suburbs often are helpfully for many people because the community is like a family and people want to conform and fit in. As a result, the suburbs often help to keep marriages monogamous because people do not want to break up the group with divorces as it would disrupt more than one household. And they have subtle clues to let you know when they do not want guest, such as keeping the Venetian blinds closed during the day. Nonetheless, society is organized such that some people enjoy higher status and more wealth and power than others. Every society in conservative. #RandolphHarris 6 of 14

Change in the social order is resisted, often with brute force by those with the most privilege and freedom. They are quick to detect threats to their status from whatever source. The entire institutional structure of society is the economic and political system in its present form. The family begins a socialization process, shaping children to the habits, values, and beliefs that will make the child “fit.” The school system, far from educating, is actually an additional training institution, directing people to the ways in which they must go, else they will not reach minimally privileged status. The organized churches, instead of the liberating beings from the sometimes crushing grip of social conformity, actually collude with “Caesar,” admonishing people to live in ways that prevent constructive social and political change. People inevitably sicken as they live in the ways their society seems to demand. I have come to see sickness of all kinds, whether physical or mental, as a form of protest against a way of life that is not fit for the person who has been living it. Sickness is a way of checking out of one’s usual roles and responsibilities in order to regain strength and perspective. I see sickness as an opportunity to meditate upon one’s life, to examine values and goals, relationships with people, and one’s life, to examine values and goals, relationships with people, and one’s usual practices with the aim of understanding how one because sick and how one might live one’s life in a more fulfilling way. #RandolphHarris 7 of 14

Indeed, the episodes of illness are actually the last and loudest protest of a violated organism against the destructive way of life that has been lived. If the ill person had been more sensitive to one’s own experience of oneself, and more imaginative and courageous, one would have noted “all-is-not-well” signals” long before one collapsed or broke down. The pain, fatigue, boredom, anxiety, depression, or feelings of futility would have caught one’s attention. One would have reflected upon them and sought to change one’s ways of living life so as to restore a sense of meaning, a feeling of zest and satisfaction. However, change calls of courage. And it calls for imagination, to invent new ways to live that will not jeopardize other values crucial to one’s existence. The courage, the imagination, and the capacity for reflective self-awareness, so necessary for the maintenance of health, are conspicuous lacking in the vast majority of people. These life saving capacities are usually trained out of people during the period of their growing up. We are taught to believe that there is only one proper way for a person to be and to live. All other ways are deemed evil, illegal, or insane. Grouping efforts to protest or to experiment are met by an onslaught that begins with parental criticism and may culminate with ostracism, imprisonment, or incarceration in a mental hospital. #RandolphHarris 8 of 14

If a person persists in the way of life that is dispiriting one, one will eventually break down with some form of physical complaint. The medical profession then springs to action and repairs the damage, so the person again can take one’s place in a system that is crushing one. One will sicken again. However, one must not change one’s ways. If the sufferer is called a “mental patient,” one typically will be treated with  tranquilizing drugs, electroshock, or a form of “psychotherapy” that persuades one to conform to existing patterns. When we look at the psychotherapeutic professions and the physicians in this light, it becomes clear that practitioners of these arts are actually (though usually unwittingly) political agents. They are, in a real sense, counterrevolutionaries, opponents of those whose very sickness is a protest against prevailing ways to live. Physicians especially are earning the criticism that they are unimaginative in their treatment of sickness, that they function like middlemen between thee pharmaceutical houses and the customer. They persist in treating symptoms of illness with a drug or knife, rather than exploring other methods, such as enlightened inquiry into the patient’s way of living one’s life. Indeed, undue reliance upon drugs to treat symptoms or causes of illness is pernicious, for it diverts attention from the quest for causes and cures of disease in the way a being lives! #RandolphHarris 9 of 14

Psychiatrists have followed the example of their medical colleagues and treat the miserable and the ineffective as if they were “sick,” rather than the ineffective protestants against an unlivable life style. However, let me turn to the outcomes of therapy, to the relatively lasting changes which occur. As in the other things I have said I will limit myself to statements borne out by research evidence. The client changes and reorganizes one’s concept of one’s self. One moves away from perceiving one’s self as unacceptable to oneself, as unworthy of respect, as having to live by standards of others. One moves toward a conception of one’s self as a person of worthy, as a self-directing person. Able to form one’s standards and values upon the basis of one’s own experience. One develops much more beneficial attitudes toward oneself. One study showed that at the beginning of therapy current attitudes toward self were four to one negative, but in the finial fifth of therapy self-attitudes were twice as often positive as negative. One becomes less defensive, and hence more open to one’s experience of oneself and of others. One becomes more realistic and differentiated in one’s perceptions. One improves in one’s psychological adjustment, whether this is measured by the Rorschach test, the Thematic Apperception Test, the counselor’s rating, or other indices. #RandolphHarris 10 of 14

One’s aims and ideals for oneself change so that they are more achievable. The initial discrepancy between the self that one is and the self that one wants to be is greatly diminished. Tension of all types is reduced—physiological tension, psychological discomfort, anxiety. One perceives other individuals with more realism and more acceptance. One describes one’s own behavior as being more mature and, what is more important, one is seen by others who know one well as behaving in a more mature fashion. Not only are these changes shown by various studies to occur during the period of therapy, but careful follow-up studies conducted sic to eighteen months following the conclusion of therapy indicate that these changes persist. Perhaps the fact I have given will make it clear why I feel that we are approaching the point where we can write genuine equation in this subtle area of interpersonal relationships. It also helps in relationships in general if we can be more real and genuine, empathic, and have an unconditional regard for others so they can move away from being static, fixed, unfeeling, and impersonal. For many people the World is frightening, and they tightly try to hold it in place. It would help to sense the feelings of the people we care about and let them know we understand their feelings. #RandolphHarris 11 of 14

We should let others know that we stand with them in their tight, constricted little World, and that we can look upon it relatively unafraid. Perhaps we can make the World safer for them. Personally, I would like my feelings in a relationship to be as clear and transparent as possible, so that they are discernible real to another individual, to which one can return again and again. I would like to go with one on the fearful journey into oneself, into the buried fear, and hate, and love which one has never been able to let flow in one. I recognize that this is a very human and unpredictable journey for me, as well as for one, and that I may, without even knowing my fear, shrink away within myself, from some of the feelings one discovers. To this extent I know I will be limited in my ability to help one. I realize that at ties one’s own fears may make one perceive me as uncaring, as rejecting, as an intruder, as one who does not understand. I want fully to accept these feelings in one, and yet I hope also that my own real feelings will show throw clearly that in time one cannot fail to perceive them. Most of all I want one to encounter in me a real person. I do not need to be uneasy as to whether my own feelings are therapeutic. What I am and what I feel are good enough to be a basis for therapy, if I can transparently be what I am and what I feel in relationship to one. Then perhaps one can be what one is, openly and without fear. #RandolphHarris 12 of 14

Sometimes in life, we feel as if we are floating along the current of life, very adventurously, being who we are. We get defeated sometimes, we get hurt, but we learn that those experiences are not fatal. We may not know exactly who we are, but we can feel our reactions at any given moment, and they seem to work out pretty well as a basis for our behavior from moment to moment. Maybe this is what it means to be who we are. But of course we can only do this because we feel safe. Though some people possess immense spiritual power which may irresistibly influence your life, one will seem quite unconscious of it. One makes no claim to the possession of peculiar powers. One is completely without pose or pretense. The things which arouse passion or love or hatred in beings do not seem to touch one; one is indifferent to them as Nature is to our comments when we praise her Sunshine or revile her storms. For in one, we have to recognize a being freed, loosed from every limit which desire and emotion can place upon us. One walks detached from the anxious thoughts or seductive passions which eat out the hearts of beings. Through enlightened individuals behave and live simply and naturally, we are aware that there is a mystery within that beings. We are unable to avoid the impression that because one’s understanding has plumbed life deeper than other being’s, we are compelled to call a halt when we would attempt to comprehend one. #RandolphHarris 13 of 14

Despite all one’s psychical knowledge and personal attainment, the enlightened individual never loses one’s deep sense of the mystery which is at the heart of existence, which is God. O LORD our God, Who alone foreseest and bestowest things needful for our salvation; do Thou both bestow, we pray Thee, on our souls the hearty desire of imploring Thy mercy, and graciously vouchsafe us what will be for our good; through Jesus Christ our Lord. We beseech Thee, O Lord, vouchsafe us an unceasing perseverance  in praying unto Thee; that as Thou dost not forsake us when we are bowed down in tribulation, so Thou mayest cherish us with more abundant grace when we continually beseech Thy Majesty; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Let the prayers Thy suppliants, O Lord, come up to the ears of Thy mercy; and that we may obtain what we ask, make us ever to ask what pleases Thee; through Jesus Christ our Lord. We beseech Thee, O Lord, to govern the hearts of Thy Faithful servants; and that they may by Thy bounty obtain Thy good things, grant first of all that their own wills may be good; through Jesus Christ our Lord. We beseech Thee, O Lord, make us subject unto Thee with a ready will, and evermore stir up our wills to make supplication unto Thee; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Grant, O Lord, we beseech Thee, such a heart unto Thy people, that as they are brought together by their necessities to seek Thy favour, they may by their free will also become devoted to Thy Majesty; through Jesus Christ our Lord. #RandolphHarris 14 of 14

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