In love every person starts from be beginning. This beginning is the relationship between people which we term care. Though it goes beyond feeling, it begins there. It is a feeling denoting a relationship of concern, when the other’s existence matters to you; a relationship of dedication, taking the ultimate form of being willing to get delight in or, in ultimate terms, to suffer for, the other. I have often notice, when I give an interpretation to a patient in a psychoanalytic session, that what impresses the individual most at the moment is not that the theoretical truth or falsehood of what I say, but the fact that my saying it shows my belief that one can change and one’s behavior has meaning. Despite death, there is meaning and nobility in the fact that we can admit together that we are not reconciled to the severing of our love. For our human love is even more precious when people cling to their loved ones. This is an affirmation of love for each other and a mutual stand against for life. We are able to face the future, and find ourselves better able to encounter it and less lonely because we encounter it together. Feeling is everything because all starts there. Feeling commits one, bonds one to the object, and ensures action. However, in modern times, feeling has become demoted and is disparaged as merely subjective. Reason or, accurately, technical reason is the guide to the way issues are to be settled. #RandolphHarris 1 of 9

Many say, “I feel” as a synonym for “I vaguely believe,” when we do not know—little realizing that we cannot know expect as we feel. However, it is never bare thought or bare existence that we are aware of. We find ourselves rather as essentially a unity of emotions, of enjoyment, of hopes, of fears, of regrets, valuations of alternatives, decisions—all of these are our subjective reactions to our environment as we are active in our nature. Our unity is consistent in shaping these patterns of feelings. The romantic and ethical basis for love is not available to us any longer. We must seek to start from the beginning, psychologically speaking, with feelings. When there is an upsurgence of a genuine human feeling of sympathy, simple as it may be, is a critical point in psychotherapy. The awareness of our human significance forces us to look more deeply into our condition as beings. We find ourselves caring despite the apparent meaningless of the situation. In the waiting there is care and hope. It matters that we wait, wait in human relationship so the darkness shall be light. Some people are not interested in money and success. They seek an honesty, openness, a genuine of personal relationship; they are out to find a genuine feeling, a touch, a look in the eyes, a sharing of fantasy.  The criterion becomes the intrinsic meaning and is to be judged by one’s authenticity, doing one’s own thing, and giving in the sense of making one’s self available for the other. #RandolphHarris 2 of 9

When we look for answers to the questions we have been discussing, we find, curiously enough, that every answer seems to somehow impoverish the problem. Every answer sells us short; it does not do justice to the depth of the question but transforms it from a dynamic human concern into a simplistic, lifeless, inert line of words. Sometimes it seems there probably are not any answers. The only way of resolving—in contrast to solving—the questions is to transform them by means of deeper and wider dimensions of consciousness. The problems must be embraced in their full meaning, the antinomies resolved even with their contradiction. They must be built upon; and out of this will arise a new level of consciousness. This is as close as we shall ever get to a resolution; and it is all we need to get. In psychotherapy, for example, we do not seek answers as such, or cut-and-dry solutions to the question—which would leave the patient worse off than one originally was in one’s struggling. However, we seek to help people take in, encompass, embrace, and integrate the problems. The serious problems of life are never solved, and if it seems that they have been solved, something important has been lost. #RandolphHarris 3 of 9

The mode of being exists only in the here and now. The mode of having exists only in time: past, present, and future. In the having mode we are bound to what we have amassed in the past: money, land, fame, social status, knowledge, children, memories. We think about the past, and we feel by remembering feelings (or what appear to be feelings) of the past. (This is the essence of sentimentality.) We are the past; we can say: “I am what I was.” This elicits in us the capacity to reach out, to let ourselves be grasped, to preform and mold the future. It is the self-conscious capacity to be responsive to what might be. The future is the anticipation of what will become the past. It is experienced in the mode of having as is the past and is expressed when one says: “This person has a future,” indicating that the individual will have many tings even though one does not now have there. Truth, covenants, and ordinances enable us to overcome fear and face the future with faith. Obedience allows God’s blessings to flow without constraint. He will bless his obedient children with freedom from bondage and misery. And God will bless them with more light. For example, one keeps the Word of Wisdom knowing that obedience will not only bring freedom, but will also add blessings of wisdom and treasures of knowledge. God’s holy Angels are ever on call to help us. #RandolphHarris 4 of 9

Unfailing faith is fortified through prayer. Our heartfelt pleadings are important to God. The fundamental experience of having is the same, whether we deal with past or future. The present is the point where past and future join, a frontier station in time, but not different in quality from the two realms it connects. Being is not necessarily outside of time, but time is not the dimension that governs being. The painter has to wrestle with color, canvas, and brushes, the sculptor with stone and chisel. Yet the creative act, their vision of what they are going to create, transcends time. It occurs in a flash, or in many flashes, but time is not experienced in the vision. The same holds true for the thinkers. Writing down their ideas occurs in time, but conceiving them is a creative event outside of time. It is the same for every manifestation of being. The experience of loving, of joy, of grasping truth does not occur in time, but in the here and now. The here and now is eternity, for instance, timelessness. However, eternity is not, as popularly misunderstood, indefinitely prolonged time. If we pray with an eternal perspective, we need not wonder if our most tearful and heartfelt pleadings are heard. Our prayer are heard by the Lord, and are recorded with this seal and testament—the Lord has sworn and decreed that they shall be granted. #RandolphHarris 5 of 9

One can also experience the future as if it were the here and now. This occurs when a future state is so fully anticipated in one’s own experience that it is only the future objectively, for instance, in external fact, but not in the subjective experience. This is the nature of genuine utopian thinking (in contrast to utopian daydreaming); it is the basis for genuine faith, which does not need the external realization in the future in order to make the experience of it real. How we deal with life’s trials is part of the development of our faith. Strength comes when we remember that we have a divine nature, an inheritance of infinite worth. The whole concept of past, present, and future, for instance, of time, enters into our lives due to our bodily existence: the limited duration of our life, the constant demand of our body to be taken care of, the nature of the physical World that we have to use in order to sustain ourselves. Indeed, we cannot live in eternity; being mortal, we cannot ignore or escape times. The rhythm of night and day, of sleep and wakefulness, of growing and aging, the need to sustain ourselves by work and to defend ourselves, all these factors force us to respect time if we want to live, and our bodies make us want to live. However, that we respect time is one thing; that we submit to it is another. #RandolphHarris 6 of 9

In the mode of being, we respect time, but we do not submit to it. However, this respect for time becomes submission when the having mode predominates. In this mode not only things are things, but all that is alive becomes a thing. In the mode of having, time becomes our ruler. In the being mode, time is dethroned; it is no longer the idol that rules out life. In industrial society times rules supreme. The current mode of production demands that every action be exactly timed, that not only the endless assembly line conveyor belt but, in a less crude sense, most of our activities be ruled by time. In addition, time not only is time, time is money. The machine must be used maximally; therefore the machine forces its own rhythm upon the worker. Via the machine, time has become our ruler. Only in our free hours do we seem to have a certain choice. Yet we usually organize our leisure as we organize our work. Or we rebel against tyrant time by being absolutely lazy. By not doing anything except disobeying time’s demands, we have the illusion that we are free, when we are, in fact, only paroled from our being possessed by time. This points to the fact that there is a deeper dimension in human beings. Each requires a participation from us, an openness, a capacity to give ourselves and receive into ourselves. And each is an inseparable part of the basis of love and will. #RandolphHarris 7 of 9

The new age which knows upon the door is as yet unknown, seen only through beclouded windows. We get only hints of the new continent into which we are galloping: foolhardy are those who attempt to blueprint it, silly those who attempt to forecast it, and absurd those who irresponsibility try to toss it off by saying that the new person will like one’s new World just as we like ours. There is plenty of evidence that many people do not like ours and that demonstrations and speeches and negotiations are necessary to compel those in power to change it. However, whatever the new World will be, we do not choose to back into it. Our human responsibility is to find a place of consciousness which will be adequate to it and will fill the vast impersonal emptiness of our technology with human meaning. The urgent need for this consciousness is seen by sensitive persons in all fields and is especially made real by the new consciousness to the degree that trust is present, people are able to communicate with themselves and others to form consensual goals. To the degree that trust is present, people can be truly inter-dependent. Encountering requires open relating, self-awareness, and total unity of Self. This basis for human relationships can replace the present hypocritical stance as a necessary step before more civilized, meaningful, and rational solutions to social problems can be obtained. Let them render grace for grace, let love be their common will. #RandolphHarris 8 of 9

Love and will are both forms of communion of consciousness. Both are also affects—ways of affecting others and our World. This play on words is not accidental: for affect, meaning affection or emotion, is the same word as that for affecting change. An affect or affection is also the way of making, doing, forming something. Bot love and will are ways of creating consciousness in others. To be sure, each may be abused: love may be used as a way of clinging, and will as a way of manipulating others in order to enforce a compliance. Possibly always some traces of clinging love and manipulating will crop up in the behavior of all of us. However, the abuse of an affect should not be the basis for its definition. The lack of both love and will ends up in separation, putting a distance between us and the other person; and in the long run, this leads to apathy. However, our rewards come not only hereafter. Many blessings will be ours in this life, among our children and grandchildren. We, as faithful Saints, do not have to fight life’s battles alone. Think of that! God will contend with those who contend with us, and he will save us. God will fight our battles for us, and our children’s battles, and their children’s children’s, to the third and fourth generation. We are promised blessings that are beyond measures. Though time may be difficult, our knowledge of our love of our Heavenly Father and of our Savior will comfort and sustain us and bring joy to our hearts as we walk uprightly and keep the commandments. Be of good cheer, the future is as bright as our faith. #RandolphHarris 9 of 9