Emotional love is an exception to all the general rules—it is the strongest of all emotions. Although the emotional love, for instance that of a mother for her infant, is one of the strongest of which the mind is capable, it can hardly be said to have any proper or peculiar means of expression; and this is intelligible, as it has not habitually led to any special line of action. A strong desire to touch the beloved person is commonly felt; love is expressed by this means more plainly than by any other. We probably own this desire to inherited habit, in association with the nursing and tending of our children and with the mutual caresses of lovers. The physiological processes are influenced by emotional states, and our bodies are affected by the way we think and feel. Human emotions significantly affect our physical and mental well-being. And, if we ignore or deny the importance of emotions, we will be unable to understand the roots of many crippling infirmaries. Fear, worries and states of rage and resentment leave no clear traces in the brain. What, then, have physicians to do with them? If physicians show this indifference, however, is it surprising that men and women, beset by emotional stresses, turn from them and go for help to faith healers and to others who recognize the reality of these disturbing emotional states? Emotions can be experienced when the body does not reveal a physiological reaction. #RandolphHarris 1 of 12

Emotional intelligence is a powerful way to focus our energy in one direction with tremendous results. People with high emotional intelligence make $29,000.00 more annually than people with low emotional intelligence. Ninety percent of top performers have high emotional intelligence, and a single-point increase in our emotional intelligence adds $1,300.00 to our salary. I probably will not go jumping off the library tower. Your letter offered me a much-welcome break from studying. It even helped to soothe my throbbing head. I was in the hospital recently and still am not quite up to snuff. I am not sure if my parents know how I feel about school. When I was starting college and mentioned I would fancy studying American literature, my father actually laughed. Did not even look up from his newspaper. Just laughed and said, “Ridiculous.” He has a big walrus mustache, and when he laughs, he does not make a sound. You only know because the tips of his mustache twitch. There he sat, sniffing, mustache twitching, saying things like “Ridiculous” and “No career in that.” “But, I enjoy literature,” I protested. “Medicine. That is what you need to study. You will thank me for it later. Nothing more rewarding.” The relationship between our mind-body, our environment, and our emotional behaviours dictate survival. Let us spice up our life with love. #RandolphHarris 2 of 12

Every day is a new beginning for me with new experiences. I really did try to tell him then, babe, honest I did. However, it only bloomed into an argument, with my mother wringing her hands and imploring me to just “give it a try.” My father finally thumped his newspaper down and declared that he was not paying for that nonsense and that, if I wanted to study something frivolous like literature, it would not be on his dime. So you see why I cannot talk to my parents. I need to just carry on. Finish college, finish medical school. Once I get a job, I can make my own decisions. Maybe. I should get back to my studying. I am looking forward to the holidays as a time to rest up and recuperate before the term starts up again. What I pleaded with you for you will never forget, and what you told me about I will keep every bit and drop forever. To us, memory will never be gone with the wind, nor will fade with the passing day. Under physical and mental stressors, the body constantly adapts to heal and recover. Human can become adapted to adverse environmental conditions. However, these situations and conditions place great demand on our cells, organs, and systems. As we grow older, we have to learn how to cope with these changes. Many of us search for answers through human experiences that elevate and unite our thoughts and feelings. #RandolphHarris 3 of 12

As we begin to better understand life’s complexities and the relevance of our experiences, only then are we able to make decisions that will alleviate negative stressors that suppress our health. We must replace such stressors with more beneficial actions that serve to enhance our health. To make effective change depends on input and participation of every individual. If people are not genuine, emotional intelligence will not do a thing for them. People do not accept demonstrations of emotional intelligence at face value. They are too skeptical for that. Most individuals want to know that it is genuine—that your emotions are authentic. People are not just mindless automatons. They think about the emotion they see and care whether they are sincere or manipulative. Since people and leaders are good at motivating others because they inspire trust and admiration through their actions, not just their words. Many leaders indicate that authenticity is important to them, but genuine leaders implement their beliefs through their words. It is not enough to just go through the motions, trying to demonstrate qualities that are associated with emotional intelligence. One has to be genuine. Authenticity requires a certain measure of vulnerability, transparency, and integrity. Genuine people do not try to make people like them. #RandolphHarris 4 of 12

Genuine people know who they are and understand that some people will like them and some will not. And they are comfortable with that. It is not that they care whether or not other people will like them, but simply that they are not going to let someone’s opinion of them get in the way of doing the right thing. However, it is part of human nature to want to look our best. It is why many of us work so hard on the exterior and interior of our homes and why so many men and women make sure every hair is in place, just in case the run into that special someone. There is nothing wrong with shining our shoes, smelling our best, or even cleaning the dirty dishes before someone comes over. However, when taken to the extremes, this desire to impress can shift from useful to deceitful. The Saviour was understanding and compassionate with people whose hearts were humble and sincere. However, he rose up in righteous anger against hypocrites who tried to appear righteous in order to win the praise, influence, and wealth of the World, all the while oppressing the people they should have been blessing. When people do this, the Heaven withdraw themselves; the Spirit of the Lord is grieved. Why does this happen? Why do we sometimes try to appear active, prosperous, and dedicated outwardly when on the inside we have left our first love? #RandolphHarris 5 of 12

In some cases, we may simply have lost our focus on the essence of the gospel, mistaking the form of Godliness for the power thereof. This is especially dangerous when we direct our outward expression of discipleship to impress others for personal gain or influence. It is then that we are at risk of entering the territory of the adversary, and it becomes high time to examine our hearts to make immediate course corrections. It may be beneficial to search our own hearts. People who harbour immorality in their hearts make every effort to conceal it from the faithful. Their apparent ways of life, speech, behaviour, the things they do and the way they lead their lives all resemble those of the pious. Indeed, they do not seem very different, for they conceal their immortality and secretly experience the suffering that it entails. Despite this, however, some of their attitudes reveal the different spiritual state they experience. Strikingly, it is not only the believers who notice this situation. Though lacking concrete evidence, within a short while, even a person who has adopted the ignorant society’s beliefs can form an idea of whether someone is sincere or not. Even if an insincere person is no different from believers in how he or she eats, drinks, laughs and talks, and exhibits no irritating behaviour, still the faithful can see the difference. Here, indeed, the term negative vibes finds its full impact. #RandolphHarris 6 of 12

Insincere people do not enjoy a tranquil, authentic, relaxed and comfortable spiritual state. There is a tension in their voice, the way the words come out, their flow and modulation creates serious discomfort in the hearts of the sincere. In addition, such behaviours as trying to push themselves to the fore among speakers, using expression that pander to their narcissism and speaking according a negative plan in their heads gives them away. People often conspire with others to ruin people who are happy and successful. And one of their methods, after everything else has failed, is to play with the heart. Find a target who is not interested in them, then pretend to be interested, then flirt with other people in your face when they think there has been significant time for one to catch feelings. Then, they will act nice and pretend to be supportive, but not show too much effort, nor make any gestures to show they are real. They are hoping that you are desperate for love and so they try to slither their way into your life, when they are actually on the same team as the vipers in the pit. The purpose of not showing too much effort is so they can try to make you look crazy if you confront them about flirting with other people and then go brag about it to others. Once you can disrupt someone emotionally, then you can throw them off of their game and cause them to slip. #RandolphHarris 7 of 12

Another tactic the snakes will use when their subtle advances do not work, they will pretend to be sad or act like they are going to hurt themselves, but you just have to let them go. Snakes are grown adults and they have to deal with the consequences of their own actions. Your physical and mental well-being are more important that their games and with there being over 7 billion people in the World, eventually the right person will come along. If someone is really interested in you, they will go out of their way to show you, by asking you out and spending time with you, and making you feel good about yourself. I feel that my heart is more important than playing lute to the cattle. If people said what they mean, how much easier would life be? There should be more sincerity and heart in human relations, more silence and simplicity in our interactions. Good communication is based on a message being delivered as well as received. One cannot expect someone to receive the message they want them to receive when that individual is telling them something different. Insincerity breeds insincerity. If all of your friends are fake, people sense you will be as well. However, a little sincerity does a long way in encouraging others to practice in encouraging others to practice it in their relationships. #RandolphHarris 8 of 12

The truth is, we save everyone a lot of confusion and discomfort by being since. Playing games keeps us from being real. Since genuine people are not desperate for attention, they do not try to show off. They know that when they speak in a friendly, confident, and concise manner, people are much more attentive to and interested in what they have to say than if they try to show people that they are important. People catch on to your attitude quickly and are more attracted to the right attitude than what or how many people you know. Genuine people are open-minded, which makes them approachable and interesting to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen to them. Genuine people forge their own paths. They do not derive their sense of pleasure and satisfaction from the opinions of others. This frees them up to follow their own internal compasses. They know who they are and do not pretend to be anything else. Their direction comes from within, from their own principles and values. They do what they believe to be the right thing, and they are not swayed by the fact that somebody might like it or not. #RandolphHarris 9 of 12

We have all worked with people who constantly hold something back, whether it is knowledge or resources. They act as if they are afraid you will outshine them if they give you access to everything you need to do your job. Genuine people are unfailingly generous with whom they know, what they know, and the resources they have access to. They want you to do well more than anything else because they are team players and they are confident enough to never worry that your success might make them look bad. I am here because I desire with all my heart to follow God. I yearn to do all that he asks of me in this great cause. I hunger to be edified by the Holy Spirit and hear the voice of God as he speaks through his ordained people. I am here to become a better person, to be lifted by the inspiring examples of good people, and to learn how to more effectively succeed in life. The person who fears an authentic encounter with another can find many reasons why he or she should stay behind the mask and not let anyone know his or her true feelings. Sharing love and warmth is a great gift, however. To those who hide such gifts because of the fear of what others may do or says may dampen their spirit. “But with some I am not well pleased, for they will not open their mouths, but they hide the talent which I have given unto them, because of the fear of humans. Wo unto them, because of the fear of human. Wo unto them such, for mine anger is kindled against them,” reports Doctrine and Covenants 60.2. #RandolphHarris 10 of 12

To be false to oneself is to not let your behavior represent what you really are like inside. People who do not represent by their actions a respect of purity; a rejection of bigotry, insensitivity, and crudity; a love of truth, beauty, and goodness is not being true to oneself. Sometimes there are things about ourselves that we do not like and want to change. To be authentic would require us to admit those dislikes to others and honestly try to eliminate or change undesirable areas of our behaviour. If a person has values such as wanting to be kind and responsive to others, he or she will build people up rather than put them down. One must be honest to these values too, and this will lead an individual to try to eliminate fakeness. Perhaps if we can be assured that the Lord has counseled us to share our feelings under the influence of his spirit, we might gain the courage to be an authentic person and to build relationships that may have the potential to last through eternity. People gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them. #RandolphHarris 11 of 12

When you do not know who they really are and how they really feel, it is difficult to like someone. Genuine people mean what they say, and if they make a commitment, they keep it. Genuine people have a strong enough sense of self that they do not go around seeing offense that is not there. When genuine people commit to a conversation, they focus all of their energy on the conversation. You will find that conversations are more enjoyable and effective when you immerse yourself in the. When you robotically approach people with small talk and are tethered to your phone, this puts their brains on autopilot and prevents them from having any real affinity for you. Genuine people create connection and find depth even in short, everyday conversations. Dialogue is the elixir of life; without it we cannot survive. And yet, we still seem to know so little about it, and so little about the relationship between dialogue, love, human companionship, and health. Dialogue is a dynamic, ever-changing force. Like the billions of snowflakes that fall in a Winter storm, no two human dialogues are the same. The people who render the World prosperous are those who are courageous in life to try to solve new problems in life. My friend, may you be one of them. I had no time to hate, because the grave would hinder me, and life was not so ample I could finish enmity. Not had I time to love; but since some industry must be, the little toil of love, I thought, was large enough for me. #RandolphHarris 12 of 12