The great truth, this World is well designed, and we weaken ourselves if we do not love the real World. We live in an age that reads too much to be wise, and that thinks too much to be beautiful. People are strongly inclined to worship what they do not understand. A grand secret, upon which imposers on humankind have total relied for the success of their frauds, causeless distrust is able to drive deceit into a simple person’s head. Our capacity to destroy one another is matched by our capacity to heal one another. Restoring relationships and community is central to restoring well-being; language gives us the power to change ourselves and others by communicating our experiences, helping to define what we know, and finding a common sense of meaning; we have the ability to regulate our own physiology, including some of the so-called involuntary functions of the body and the brain, through such basic activities as breathing, moving, and touching; and we can change social conditions to creative environments in which children and adults can feel safe and where they can thrive.  #RyanPhillippe 1 of 9

When we ignore these quintessential dimension of humanity, we deprive people of ways to heal from trauma and restore their autonomy. Being a patient, rather than a participant in one’s healing process, separates suffering people from their community and alienates them from an inner sense of self. Suddenly, your life turns into a horror movie nightmare. With the experience of alienation, an open life imperceptibly merges into a limited life.  Whereas there was a time when there were few if any boundaries, there is now a time when there is nothing but boundaries. Abilities go, memories decay into painful experiences; what one has worked so hard to create is labor lost. It brings limitations and liabilities, loneliness and loss. Even so, however limited and exiled in the present, one still remains the person he or she was. All of these complex problems ultimately lead to a key question that still must be addressed: What can be done to help alleviate the spread of loneliness-induced diseases in our society? We become more sensitive to the rush of time. Years accumulate with increasing rapidity. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 9

 In contrast to physical activity, we tend to look more to mental activity for satisfaction and recognition. Even though there is occasional tiredness, life remains full, active, intact. The very complexity of the issues involved in human loneliness make it clear that no simple or single approach will successfully provide all the answers. Loneliness is ultimately an internal, subjective human experience. Therefore, in order to effectively combat its lethal influence, we must acknowledge that loneliness is an important social factor in physical disease and the implicit denial to this fact has contributed to, and perhaps even fostered, cultural attitudes that have blinded people to human relationships. Human relationships much be taken every bit as seriously as we take such physical factors as serum cholesterol levels, blood pressure, or significant loss of blood. As advisers to our society, we must make people aware that their family and social life are every bit as important to health as dieting and exercise, cars and fashion, food and technology. After all, if you knew something was wrong with your mobile device, you would replace it or repair it right away, but many ignore their human relationships until they decay and disappear. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 9

Few physicians would deny the reality of a broken heart. However, at the same time, most feel they can do precious little to influence psychosocial factors that cause disease, or to alleviate the physical impact of divorce or bereavement. These seems so complicated and overwhelming when compared with other, more precise aspects of modern scientific medicine—a specific antibiotic for a specific infection—that many clinicians see the whole problem as unmanageable. The idea that we are asking people to go out in the World completely alone and call themselves independent is absurd. We need to teach people how to be interdependent, which means teaching them how to have relationships. Playing tragic characters, in life, you have to express emotions and create a reality that comes from a place of depth and sorrow and hurt. That is all some people know. It is life and death every day for them. Losses exceed gains. It is harder to keep life together; we can do it, but only with a greater expenditure of energy. We are fragile, perhaps disabled, and virtually done in. At best, we merely manage to exist. At worst, we simply vegetate. And the nightmare of aging turns into a trauma. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 9

There are yet greater truths to tell, if we had either the courage to announce or the temper to receive them. And so, the weight of attention needs to be shifted more and more away from scientific medicine and to human contact. Many people feel like their life is a case file, and every day they are just managing their files and not really living. Everything they do is a formality to make sure they still have a place to live. One may not like most of the people they see every day, but still have to be nice. People damage your property and pretend not to know what they did, and they pretend to be your friends just to pump you for information, or make a negative statement or insult. The focused subtype reduces the range of involvement by a self-conscious selectivity and prioritizing.  Out of love to oneself, one should confine oneself to truth, for by doing otherwise, one injures the noblest part of oneself, one’s mortal soul. One must possess as much real psychic space as possible. Even if the choice is limited to wearing a pair of shorts that make you feel comfortable, a certain hair style, or a particular shirt, the right to be part of the process of your life is protected. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 9

Concrete decisions and specific acts are what enable people to continue to experience themselves as a part of life. Through such experiences, people feel that they are sharing in the continuing flow of life. A sense of continuity requires an anticipated confidence that what one has known is a hard rind of truth which is discerned by unimaginative, unsympathetic minds. Evolution has attributed to the cause of variations to the activity of organisms and to the inherited effects of the use or disuse of their various functions. Not luck, but cunning displayed by organisms in coping with their environment lies at the basis of evolution. Hence, the activity of organisms is profoundly beneficial. We learn to live with our conditions and function as best we can.  The great mistake of Sir Charles Darwin was to dismiss teleology from the domain of living things, for they then become indistinguishable from machines. Machines are adjuncts to organisms, like extra, though inferior, limbs, by means of which organisms have become more highly evolved. Hence, a leg is only a much better wooden leg than anyone can manufacture. #RyanPhillippe 6 of 9

Living things have come to produce their natural organs and to equip themselves with adaptive habits. The individual plant or animal must know at the start what to do. A fertilized ovum possesses the knowledge it requires to make itself into an embryo and subsequently into an adult organism. This knowledge is really a remembering of what its ancestors did in the past, Hence, we must postulate an unconscious memory (soul) at work in all living things, binding successive generations and providing the basis for the transmission of acquired characteristics. Since evolution involves a continuous process of derivation, there must be an identity between parents and offspring: the latter are not different individuals, but are the parents at a later evolutionary stage. Birth has been made too much of. A new born infant is simply part of an unbroken biological process, not an utterly separate individual. Accordingly, there is a deep unity of all life, so that it constitutes in reality, nothing but one single creature, of which the component members are but, as it were, blood corpuscles or individual cells. #RyanPhillippe 7 of 9

Separation of the organic from the inorganic was unwarranted. What we call the inorganic World must be regarded as up to a certain point of living, and instinct with consciousness. Hence, all space is at all times full of a stuff endowed with a mind and both stuff and mind are immaterial and imperceptible, so long as they are undisturbed, but the moment they are disturbed, the stuff becomes material and the mind perceptible. Evolution is therefore the life history of this primordial World stuff, to which no name can be so fittingly applied as God. If Truth does not speak through the people, it never speaks at all. Although interruptions in human dialogue may be very painful, at least they are clear-cut. Individual may suffer acutely when they lose a loved one, but they usually realize they are suffering, and they understand why. To engage a bereaved person in dialogue means sharing in his or her pain. What emerges from the eyes of a bereaved individual is grief, what emerges from the eyes of those recently divorced is anxiety; what emerges from the eyes of those who live alone is loneliness; what emerges from the eyes of the unloved adolescent is frightened anger. #RyanPhillippe 8 of 9

These people all need to share these painful aspects of their lives through dialogue. The dialogue of pain, anxiety, anger, and loneliness is also part of life. How convenient to label these as scientific-medical problems and therefore have others look into their eyes. In much the same way that medicine slowly abandoned its appreciation for the healing role of bedside manner, society has abandoned its appreciation for the healing capacity of human contact. Emotional support that once came from families, neighbors, friends, ministers, deacons, rabbis, and various other social service agencies. While delivering needed support to people, these professional helping groups have also tended to usurp our functions and relieve us of our sense of personal responsibility. The very fact that a person can tolerate deteriorated dialogue and sometimes even encourage it is something that we would often prefer to deny, for reflecting on the implications is not pleasant. Since dialogue must also be reciprocal, each person must share part of the responsibility. An individual can only receive to the extent that he or she gives, and, in that sense, dialogue is a mirror of one’s personality. The Devil often builds the ladder by which truth climbs up. #RyanPhillippe 9 of 9