One of life’s compensations is that there is always something ahead. If you know a person well, you may be able to detect deception from expressive changes. However, do not count on it. Most individual learn to maintain careful control over their facial expressions. A good example is smiling so you will not hurt someone’s feelings when you receive a disappointing gift. Because of such control, deception is often best revealed by body language. Even a good con artist may be too busy attending to his or her words and face to control certain bodily cues. The salesman swears that he is giving you the buy of a lifetime. If you cannot touch his tongue to a hot knife, how else can you tell if he is lying? Most people assume that shifty eyes and squirming are clear signs of lying. However, neither of these clues increase when a person is fibbing. Also, contrary to what you might expect, nervous movements such as hand rubbing, grooming, scratching, hair twisting, lip biting, chin stroking, and so on, are not consistently related to lying. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 5

On the other hand, illustrators (the gestures people use to illustrate what they are saying) may reveal lying. These gestures tend to decrease when a person is telling a lie. In other words, persons who usually talk with their hand may be less animated when they are lying. Among the best clues to lying are the signs of strong emotion produced by the autonomic nervous system (ANS). These include blinking, blushing, blanching, pupil dilation, rapid or irregular breathing, perspiration, frequent swallowing, speech errors, and louder, higher pitched voice. All of these clues are hard for the lair to censor. However, such clues are like the polygraph: They reveal emotions; they do not always mean a person is lying. Remember, good liars can fool most people most of the time—and that is no lie. It is one of my rules in life never to notice what I do not understand. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 5

To be alive is to have a shadow. The term shadow is becoming more commonly mentioned in psychological (and even spiritual) contexts, but still tends to remain a somewhat vague concept, especially in its depths. However, it can be defined quite directly. Your shadow is a composite of the elements and qualities within you: that you are disconnected form or out of touch with, that you are denying, pushing away, or otherwise disowning, that you tend to project onto others (as if they had a particular quality, but you do not), that you are keeping—or trying to keep—out of sight or in the dark, that you describe with the expression, “That is not me.” A person’s shadow is not just some archetypal concept, but an everyday reality that dominates those who are unaware of it—and also plenty of those who have only an intellectual awareness of it. Our shadow is the dimension of us that is occupied by what we cannot or will not face about ourselves. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 5

For many people, their shadow includes at least some of the following: their shame, vulnerability, violent thoughts or feelings or actions, appetite for pornography (or what is driving their appetite of fornication)—namely, whatever they are keeping or attempting to keep hidden. Our shadow tends to be in the moral abortion for what we do not like about ourselves, the bottom of which often contains our unresolved sounds. However, no matter how pushed away or kept out of sight our shadow material may be, it drives much of our behavior—hence the need for shadow work. Not knowing our shadow keeps us partial, fragmented, stranded from wholeness, stuck in old patterns, regardless of our achievements. Our shadow is the projection of our own shortcoming onto another, which we are doing with enough conviction to block ourselves from recognizing that we do in fact have shortcoming. It is important to remember that just because we are projecting a certain quality onto another, like inconsiderateness, it does not necessarily mean they are not being inconsiderate! What matters is that we do not solely focus on what they are doing but also focus on what we are doing. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 5

When dealing with people who display a No Demand (ND) attitude, these people are uncontrollable and in a generalized rage. Such a person is hostile and threatening, attempting to frighten others away by the vehemence of reaction. One backs off in such a situation, waiting for the storm to subside. Other activities and concerns are offered, but not pressed. A power struggles, either verbal or physical, is avoided. To attempt to reason with the person in an unreasonable rage only aggravates the situation. One isolates and protects and waits. After the person has quieted down, one can explain what is and is not helpful, how the program is set up, and what can and cannot be done. The only demands in the midst of an eruption are protective; preventing hard to the person himself or herself and harm to others. Otherwise, one avoids every demand upon the person to do anything at that time.  Libertines put no other bound to their views than what want of power gives them. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 5