We probably all have been encouraged to embark on an undertaking with as much effort and determination as possible when meeting somebody for the first time. Similarly, we have all heard that you only get one chance to make a first impression. These admonitions acknowledge that much of our day-to-day interactions constitutes a performance—one that is judged by others and, as a result, has tremendous impact on how we are viewed by others and how we view ourselves. Also, because we are constantly defining and redefining social situations in ways that are meaningful to us, we always run the risk of misinterpreting other people’s actions, especially nonverbal forms of communications. Does holding up two fingers signify victory, peace, or simply the number two? Did that guy just wink at me of does he have something in his eye? Did that person just hold up their index finger toward me, or was it the middle finger? Certainly, the meanings imputed to these action and gestures become critical in shaping the meaning of our present and future interactions with others.  #RyanPhillippe 1 of 6

Many people are at war—at war with life, with each other, with themselves—consumed by the fight to win at work and elsewhere. Bloodless war is still war, still an arena where the battle is fought with whatever weapons are at hand. A victorious athletic moment may feature not just some full-out exultation, but also a sense of standing over the defeated team as if some bloody battlefield. Our entire culture is permeated with the language of war: the war on drugs, the war on cancer, the war on poverty. Warfare is all about oppositional extremes, as is much of conventional humanism, with it endless list of things to conquer. What a burden! And what a diversion from embodying our full humanity. True love’s the gift which God has given to man alone. When we pay attention to our inner characters, they pass through the gateway of our subconscious and enter our conscious awareness. Now we have the opportunity to redeem ourselves. We can claim our best and transform the rest! True love is not only in fairytales, but also in real life. We have all known true love whether we remember it or not. Our original experience of true love began before our lives on Earth. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 6

How can I learn to love? How do I open my heart when I am afraid of getting hurt? How can I find a partner who loves and appreciates me for who I really am? And then, if we do find each other, how do I do my part to create and sustain a loving and fulfilling relationship? Everything can be worked out between two people who want to love each other and understand and respect each other. So what goes wrong? First of all, you cannot think that true love is only for Elle Woods and Warner in Legally Blonde. And secondly, do not get discourages if you have not found the perfect partner. And lastly, do not let the drama of romance get you down. Many people get cynical and lose their faith in themselves when it comes to love or they try to date more than one person at a time or follow dating rules like do not call until three days goes by. By doing this, you are rejecting yourself. And personally, if you want three days to call me, I might think you lost interest. Do not ignore the yearning of your loving soul. Also, do not get so lost in love that you vainly try to please everyone in anticipations that someone will love you back.  I do not want you to be who you think I like, I want you to be authentic, to be yourself. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 6

In everyday life, some interactions are simple and direct and people’s behaviors are fairly predictable. People’s identities and self-views are not like bowling balls that are unaffected by either people or objects they encounter in their travels. For people, the exact opposite is true; we are acutely sensitive to those with whom we share ongoing relationships. This may explain the remarkable consistency of self over time—even over a lifetime. People usually cling to their self-views because dramatic changes would disrupt relationships with those we deem important—in some cases, even relationship with others that may sustain negative self-views and behaviors. Many everyday interactions appear as if they were scripted minidramas, in which people encounter one another, assess each other’s persona and social characteristics, assume identities, and behave in appropriate ways. Given the complexity of most social situations and the fact that spontaneity and surprise are integral features of virtually all social interactions, however, improvisation is usually required. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 6

Using the analogy of the theater, dramaturgy analyzes social interactions as through participants were actors in an ongoing drama. Dramaturgy, however, emphasizes that in real life actors passively accept neither the definition of the situation nor the identities granted by others. Instead, people take an active part in social interactions, manipulating it to their perceived advantage. This is called impression management, ways that people use revelation and concealment to make a favorable impression on others. Although TV shows are mostly fiction, a lot of them are based on real life situations. For example, Max from 2 Broke Girls met this guy Randy, and he was charming, older, rich, and handsome. And was very nice to her and she let him talk under her skirt and then he broke up with her when she had to leave California and go back to New York because he did not think a long distance relationship would work. However, a few months later, he coerced Max into thinking he was going to move to New York for her, and even went out there and stayed with her for a month, but then told her that she was too focused on her cupcake business and broke up with her. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 6

Randy used impression management to manipulate Max and use her for sex, he had no desire for a real relationship. She just wanted to play around with a beauty young lady and keep it moving. Randy is a billionaire playboy and likes to wine and dine women and move on. So sometimes your Prince Charming might be a fake and you may want to be with someone who is real with you, they may not have the ideal job, may not be rich, but as long as they care about you and respect you is what matters. Our personal energy veil is made up of unconscious defensive patterns, subconscious illusions, negative attitudes, mindsets, emotions, and self-defeating habits we have developed. Each of us has dimensions of our emotional being—inner feelings that may help and hinder us. Once our intentions are focused on being true to ourselves and seeking love, and not material objects and status, that is more than likely when true love will appear. The self that we present in one social situation may be totally inappropriate in another. True power happens when courage, integrity, vulnerability, compassion, awareness, and the capacity to take strong action are all functioning together. Such power is potent, but not aggressive, challenging, but not shaming, grounded, but not rigid, forceful, but not pushy. Again, it requires head, heart, and gut in full-blooded alignment. #RyanPhillippe 6 of 6