Police have shot dead two men who took a priest and several others hostage at knifepoint at a church, in north-western France, on 26 July 2016. The men reportedly shouted “Allah Akbar” and cut the priest’s throat. The priest died after his throat was cut. We can never change the negative things that have happened in the past, but we can create new emotional scenarios intense and real enough to defuse and counter some of the antiquated ones. We have to learn to become welcomed into a World where people delight in us, protect us, and meet our requirements, and make us feel like our house is a home. If anyone should be inclined to overrate the state of our present knowledge of mental life, all that would be needed to force him to assume a psychologic theory has yet been able to account for the connection between the fundamental phenomena of remembering and forgetting; indeed, even the complete analysis of that which one can actually observe has as yet scarcely been grasped. Today, forgetting has perhaps grown more puzzling than remembering, especially since we have learned from the study of dreams and pathologic states even that what for a long time we believed forgotten may suddenly return to consciousness. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 5

To be sure, we are in possession of some viewpoints which we hope will receive general recognition. Thus we assume that forgetting is a spontaneous process to which we may ascribe a certain temporal discharge. We emphasize the fact that, just as among the units of every impression or experience, in forgetting, too, a certain selection takes place among the existing impressions. We are acquainted with some of the conditions that underlie the tenaciousness of memory and the awakening of that which would otherwise remain forgotten. Nevertheless, we can observe in innumerable cases of daily life how unreliable and unsatisfactory our knowledge of the mechanism is. Thus we may listen to two persons exchanging reminiscences concerning the same outward expression, say of a journey that they have taken together some time before. What remains most firmly in the memory of the one is often forgotten by the other, as if it has never occurred, even when there is not the slightest reason to assume that this impression is of greater psychic importance for the one then for the other. A great many of those factors which determine the selective power of memory are obviously still beyond our ken. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 5

With the purpose of adding some small contributions to the knowledge of the conditions of forgetting, I was wont to subject to a psychologic analysis those cases in which forgetting concerned me personally. As a rule, I took only a certain group of those cases, namely, those in which the forgetting astonished me, because, in my opinion, I should have remembered the experience in question. I wish further to remark that I am generally not inclined to forgetfulness (of things experiences, not of things learned), and that for a short period of my youth, I was able to perform extraordinary feats of memory. When I was a schoolboy, it was quite natural for me to be able to repeat from memory the page of a book which I had read; and shorty before I entered the University, I could write down practically verbatim the popular lectures on scientific subjects directly after hearing them. In the tension before the final medical examination, I must have made use of the remnant of this ability, for certain subjects I gave the examiners apparently automatic answers, which proved to be exact reproductions of the text book, which I had skimmed through but once and then in greatest haste. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 5

Since those days, I have steadily lost control over my memory; of late, however, I became convinced that with the assistance of a certain artifice I can recall far more than would otherwise credit myself with remembering. For example, when, during my office hours, a patient states that I have seen him before and I cannot recall the fact or the time, then I help myself by guessing—that is, I allow a number of years, beginning from the present time, to come to my mind quickly. Whenever this could be controlled by records of definite information from the patient, it was always shown that in over ten years I had seldom missed it by more than six months. The same thing happens when I meet a casual acquaintance and, from politeness, inquire about his small child. When he tells of its progress, I try to fancy how old the child now is. I control my estimate by the information given by the father, and at most, I make a mistake of a month, and in older children of three months. I cannot state, however, what basis I have for this estimate. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 5

Of late, I have grown so bold that I always offer my estimate spontaneously, and still run no risk of grieving the father by displaying my ignorance in regard to his offspring. Thus I extend my conscious memory by invoking my larger unconscious memory. I shall report some striking examples of forgetting of impressions and experiences, that is, the forgetting of omissions. The uniform result of the entire series of observations I can formulate as follows: The forgetting in all cases is proved to be founded on a motive of displeasure. I have found that most men experience some relief once they have got the hang of this, enjoying the simultaneous simplicity and depth of it, especially as they become more emotionally literate. Stating only what emotions and sensation are primarily present relieves them of getting caught up in cognitive combat zones and let us fix it strategies, and provides enough space and time to settle in and get really grounded before proceeding with the issues at hand. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 5