Dreams are generally the effects of excesses, or of feverish hearts. That vivid dreaming which makes the margin of our deeper rest. This morning I was laying in bed wishing we had more dark hours so I could sleep without the sun blasting in my eyes. Day too often destroys an air-built castle at the moment of its completion, without the least ceremony or remorse. The whole cosmos is in a man’s brains; perhaps it is nowhere else. And when sleep relaxes the will, and there are no Earthly surroundings to distract attention—no duty, pain, or pleasure to compel it—riderless Fancy takes the bit in his teeth, and the whole cosmos goes mad and has its wild will of us. The scientific approach to aliments specifics that if certain life situations such as divorce increase one’s chances of developing coronary heart disease, ten aspects of these situations which contribute to the problem ought to be identified and individuals “immunized” or prepared to take some sort of remedial action to protect their health. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 5

On the surface, trying to protect your heart from pain is an eminently reasonable (rational) approach that offers great hope. However, what is some of the aspects of divorce or social isolation that lead to increased coronary heart disease cannot be measure? What if one of the problems is officially lack of love, lack of dialogue? To asset that there are unmeasurable aspects of human relationships which affect our healthy is a very uncomfortable position for any scientist to assume; it suggests an endorsement of irrationalism, mysticism, or, even worse, of witchcraft and voodoo. And yet, the issue itself is required to be faced. Dialogue does involve a process that cannot be totally measured with scientific instruments. Such an acknowledgement is not required to be particularly startling or controversial. The fact is that many, if not most, scientists could readily agree with it. The gleam in a young child’ eyes involves more than light quanta. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 5

Many scientists do not study emotions because the topic is hopelessly bogged down in phenomena that could not be measured. On the contrary, their attempts to define the limits of their sciences served to guide the way in which they conducted their research and applied it to everyday life situations. Similarly, admitting that human relationships may involve nonmeasureable processes does not mean that one should abandon further scientific study. Nor does it mean that advice cannot be given or that people cannot be helped. It is, instead, a call for a return to a more balanced view that recognizes both what can be and what cannot be known scientifically about human relationships. Do not ask us how we make our dream tally with facts. The glory of a dream is this—that it despises facts, and makes its own. Our dream saves us from going mad; this is enough. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 5

The requirement for such a balanced view seems self-evident. When we look into the eyes of another human being we are not just looking at the flashing lights of another fancy computer; people are not programmed robots. A purely reflex pet would please little even the fondest of us; indeed the fondest least. Human relationships are no different. No one wants another human being to be totally predictable, totally programmed, any more than we would buy a dog or cat that was totally programmed. The joy, beauty, and power of human relationships reside precisely in the fact that the process is unique. And dialogue is the process that differentiates us from robots and programmed machines. We are sparks, we are shadows, we are pollen, which the next wind will carry away into the hearts of someone who loves us. Tell me what a man dreams, and I will tell you what he loves. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 5

The dialogue between humans is also fragile. In order to establish resiliency, the inner resource vortex must build a center of gravity that can balance the pull of trauma vortex. Bringing awareness to resources as they spontaneously arise in the body strengthens the inner vortex. These resources include organic movements from the nervous system that support the discharge of traumatic stress. Examples of the appearance of these resources are a deep breath, a smile, or a defensive gesture trying to complete itself. The inner vortex is also strengthened by bringing awareness to the beneficial sensations associated with experiences such as being in nature with loved ones. To heal from trauma is simply about creating enough safety to be with what is in the moment. Anything that helps a person maintain a sense of inner safety and integrity in the face of threat or disruption with help you heal. Have you ever just sat back and thought about how amazing WiFi is, or how cool it is that the sky is blue and planes can fly, and you can buy things you like? Life is great! (www.thedeedle.com) #RyanPhillippe 5 of 5