The broken heats of the bereaved and the terrible agony of loneliness, as well as the mortality data, gives ample testimony to no material substitute—no simple thing—can fill the human need for dialogue. In what would perhaps be an extreme extension of the position, I would go on so far to suggest that married couple who like together in bonds of hatred may be physically healthier than those who live together without dialogue. The total lack of dialogue between a couple living together may be the official form of hatred because not only do they lack love, but there is a total lack of any response from another living creature. Other characteristics of the process of dialogue are that is it reciprocal, spontaneous, often nonverbal, and alive. These characteristics explain why dialogue cannot be packaged, codified, or described by a neat set of rules, laws, or classifications. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 6

With good dialogue, a friendly, serene, comfortable ambience weaves into your happy life, and the wonderful scene of reunion seems to be just before your eyes, which allows our hearts to be linked together. Dialogue is something that is continually changing so that it cannot be fixed in time or predicted, then it becomes apparent that dialogue could never be captured in a microscope or quantified on a scale, for that would destroy its spontaneity. Trying to objectify dialogue in order to examine it would destroy the process. These characteristics of dialogue also explain why we cannot raise children with surrogate (lifeless) parents, or satisfy each other as adults with material substitutes for dialogue. Toys and teddy bears, blue blankets and new 20-inch chrome wheels on your car, television and tape recorders, these can never be adequate substitutes for the dialogue we require. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 6

When a child “goos” or smiles, it is vitally important that someone else—someone alive say “ga” or smile back. Someone must respond. These responses cannot be programmed. Since no one can predict when a child will “goo” or smile, someone simply has to be there, ready to respond appropriately. Someone has to care. The Bell System notwithstanding, even devices such as the telephone will never quite be the next best thing to being there, because most of the dialogue of life is nonverbal. I was talking to my mother and she says, when I do not get to see you for months, it makes me sad because it is like you are dead. And so I try to visit more often. Also, my dad does not like to talk much, but he communicates with his eyes and facial expressions, he is very symbolic and when I go awhile without seeing him, I always remember his intense eyes and facial expressions and it makes me happy, and miss him even more. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 6

Since the process of dialogue is not exclusively in you or the other person, but rather between people as a reciprocal, spontaneous, and mutually flowing process, deviousness, fraud, or artificiality will only cause static that will disrupt dialogue. Like, I strongly dislike it when people pretend to like me and are only talking to me to pump me for information, insult me, or simply to make a joke. While we are alive, therefore, what we have to give to each other is at one and the same time the simplest yet most sublime gifts—our true and authentic self. Material substitutes like cars and diamonds are in the end only surrogates that cannot sustain us. Even objective knowledge by itself is a lifeless surrogate that only has meaning in human dialogue. What secret of happiness is greater than to follow your illusions? Be sure to call your parents or grandparents and thank them for something wonderful you remember them doing, or call them or visit and talk about something you thought was beautiful. It will really lift their spirits and make them proud. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 6

As already emphasized there are no specific potions nor magical formulas that can help an individual achieve dialogue with other people, any more than there are serums that will create love. Dialogues such as love are processes that move beyond and outside the realm of science. Knowledge about dialogue is, by itself, no guarantee that a person will be able to communicate with others or help them out of their loneliness. Indeed, knowledge about dialogue may even keep people at a distance. What often are sold in our society as guidelines for communication—rules on how you should engage your friends, how you should act toward your mate, or how you should speak to your child—seem to be the very way to disrupt dialogue. Many of the cookbook-objective rules instructing people on how to communicate with another only seem to serve to keep people all the more isolated and lonely. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 6

The child at the park with his father contains all the elements of perfect dialogue, and neither the father nor the child have to work to achieve this reciprocal relationship. This does not mean that dialogue always flows naturally. One cannot be oblivious to the fact that there are children who are battered and abandoned, and clearly many human relationships are far from perfect. Mortality statistics also bear mute testimony to the fact that dialogue is a process that can be lost. What it does mean, however, is that the knowledge about dialogue can only be usefully employed when the inherent limitations of objective solutions are recognized and other, frankly nonscientific approaches are appreciated. The pleasure you have brought about, the assistance you have offered, the love you have showed and the life you have lived—all these make you more amiable and respectful with every passing year in our hearts.  (www.thedeedle.com). #RyanPhillippe 6 of 6