Sometimes people express their conflicts by losing function in some part of their body. Many soldiers often suffer paralysis that cannot be traces to physical injuries, and some even suffer from cases of hysterical blindness. This is usually because the immune system becomes oversensitive to threat, so it is prone to mount a defense when none is required, even when this means attacking the body’s own cells because some people have a problem distinguishing between danger and safety. This means that the imprint of past trauma does not consist only of distorted perceptions of information coming from the outside; the organism itself also has a problem knowing how to feel safe. The past is impressed not only on their minds, and in misinterpretations of innocuous even, but also on the very core of their beings. Some victims of abuse will wake up and attack their boyfriends in the middle of the night for no reason. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 5

As children, we start off at the center or our own Universe, where we interpret everything that happens from an egocentric vantage point. If our parents or grandparents keep telling us we are the cutest, most delicious thing in the World, we do not question their judgment—w must be exactly that. And deep down, no matter what else we learn about ourselves, we will carry that sense with us: that we are basically adorable. As a result, if we later hook up with somebody who treats us badly, we will be outraged. It will not feel right: It is not familiar; it is not like normal. However, if we are abused or ignored in childhood, or grow up in a family where sexuality is treated with disgust, our inner map contains a different message. Our sense of our self is marked by contempt and humiliation, and we are more likely to thin he (or she) has my number and fail to protest if we are mistreated. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 5

Sometimes people who have not the best childhoods let their growing pains shape their view of every relationship, and they are convinced that me do not give a damn about other people’s feeling and that they go away with whatever they wanted. Women could not be trusted either. They were too weak to stand up for themselves, and they would sell their bodies to get men to take care of them. If you were in trouble, they would not lift a finger to help you. This Worldview manifested itself in the way some approach their colleagues at work: They are suspicious of the motives of anyone who are kind to them and call them on the slightest deviation from the regulations that are supposed to be taken. As a result, these types of people see themselves as a bad seed, a fundamentally toxic person who made bad things happen to those around them. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 5

This one man told stories of self-hatred and the layers were thick. This is quite common with severely depressed people, quite difficult to penetrate. This man retired several years ago because of a back injury and was angry with himself because his life had become a mess. In addition, he had a few health problems, including ongoing difficulties with his back, that caused him some worry and intermittent pain. Justin was convinced that he was so loathsome and burdensome to others that the best solution was for all concerned to make himself pass away, and he resisted any attempt to convince himself otherwise. Justin nearly succeeded in doing himself in. Apparently, he left the house with several bottles of pills and checked in to a nearby hotel. Interestingly enough, however, he called his son just before he was about to down the pills, ostensibly to say good-bye. However, his son managed to convince him to stop and then drove to the hotel to get him. This gesture seemed more like a cry for help than a serious attempt. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 5

This was both physical and emotional trauma for Justin, and the emotional scars of what he was going through was far more serious than the metaphorical scar left on his heart. Having regained his physical and psychological strength in the hospital, he left deserted and very lonely when he returned to his house. A special problem in cases of chronic disability is the lack of contact with friend and neighbors—sometimes also with children. The intervals between visits become stretched and finally the contact ceases entirely….Time gets long, an feelings of loneliness and even of desertedness may present themselves. And the failure to return to work will itself often lead to increased social isolation, loneliness, and depression—all of which are quite certain to affect the heart adversely. The problems caused by this new type of loneliness may officially be lethal. So enjoy the people in your life and be thankful. (www.thedeedle.com) #RyanPhillippe 5 of 5