The opposition of an individual to a community is always dangerous in the operation and seldom successful in the event. If the one proposed any amusement, the other constantly objected to it: they never loved or hated, commended or abuse, the same person. As a rule, man everywhere oppresses his weaker fellow. True; but he betrays consciousness of his error, directly or indirectly. Once can show his sense of magnitude of his crime even by the manner of defending it. The reason we all like to think so well of others is that we are all afraid for ourselves. The basis of optimism is sheer terror. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 11

My friends, peace be on this house! On the master thereof, on the young maidens, and the young men! My friends, why do I wish for peace? What is peace? It is war? No. Is it strife? No. It is lovely, and gentle, and beautiful, and pleasant, and serene, and joyful? O yes! Therefore, my friend, I wish for peace, upon you and yours. Pick up your journal, open to a blank page, and write a few paragraphs about your first love affairs or first couple relationship. Do not spend a lot of time thinking about it. Describe what thrilled you about the person. For instance, how did your friends, family, religious or neighborhood community feel about you being with this person?  #RyanPhillippe 2 of 11

Here the parable ends, as all parables end—incomplete, disappointing. Name a few things this person valued most about being in a relationship with you. What about you? Did you value the same things? What do you remember as the most challenging part about this first experience? How did it end? How did you feel about its ending? If you had to choose a title for your first experience of being in (or wanting to be in) a couple relationship, what would this title be: Young and Innocent, or Love Hurts, or Me, Myself, and I, or What was I thinking? Decide what early experience definitely has a significant bearing on who you are today. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 11

The idea is to get you to understand how trauma affect self-awareness, specifically sensory self-awareness.  The Mohawk of self-awareness—starting from the front of the brain consists of: the orbital prefrontal cortex, the medial prefrontal context, the anterior cingulate, the posterior cingulate, and the insula. In individuals with histories of chronic trauma the same regions show sharply decreased activity, making it difficult to register internal states and assessing the personal relevance of incoming information. Brain scans of eighteen chronic Post Traumatic Stress Disorder patients with severe early-life trauma was startling. There was almost no activation of any of the self-sensing areas of the brain. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 11

There could be only one explanation for such results: In response to the trauma itself, and coping with the dread that persisted long afterwards, these patients had learned to shut down the brain areas that transmit the visceral feelings and emotions that accompany and define terror. Yet in everyday life, those same brain areas are responsible for registering the entire range of emotions and sensations that form the foundation of our self-awareness, our sense of who we are. What we witnessed here was a tragic adaptation: In an effort to shot off terrifying sensations, they also deadened their capacity to feel fully alive. Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold, but one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Nothing gives so much strength to an adversary as the view of timidity in his opponent. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 11

The disappearance of medial prefrontal activation could explain why so many traumatized people lose their sense of purpose and direction. As you can see, there are many ways to reconstruct the past. It does not matter much what you remember about the specific details of a past partner’s emotion or relational profile. It does not really matter what did or did not happen in terms of significant events, or what said and did what during a major argument. It does not even really matter why the relationship ended. What you are trying to discover is what you learned from your past efforts in intimate relationships. What lessons did you take with you when the relationship ended? You are looking for clues about what might have shaped your current ideas, fears, dreams, tender places and sore spots.  #RyanPhillippe 6 of 11

There is always something infinitely mean about other people’s tragedies. So, instead of getting lost in your happy and unhappy memories on this trip down Memory Lane, try to look for the signposts that signal what your past relationships have to teach you. You want to discern what stands out as important danger warnings and what the welcome signs were, too. You are looking back for the relationships that taught your gut to flash “Danger, Falling Rocks!” so that you learned to keep your eyes open. You are also looking for what you learned about your ability to find the bypass signs that allow you to detour past the worst swamps and skinholes. Indiscreet opposition does frequently as much mischief as giddy love. #RyanPhillippe 7 of  11

Sometimes your relationship with your own inner reality is impaired. How can you make decisions, or put any plans into action, if you cannot define what you want or, to be more precise, what the sensations in your body, the basis of all emotions, were trying to tell you? If you are really honest with yourself, you may discover that you just do not like taking new relational risks, period, whether in a group or not. There are plenty of reasons why you might want to end the journey you have been on right now and try to convince yourself you can live with everything that shaped our individual ways of approaching intimacy and challenge. Our comfort with intimacy is very powerful. As gold is tried by faire, and virtue by temptation, so is sterling wit by opposition. #RyanPhillippe 8 of 11

It makes sense that if we risk new ways of connecting, we risk being vulnerable to old pain. We could be badly disappointed, hurt, betrayed, or trapped all over again (not every man wants to marry you because you threaten to have him arrested for sexual assault, or trap him with a baby). The temptation to stay away from such risk is often very strong. The lack of self-awareness in victims of chronic childhood trauma is sometimes so profound that they cannot recognize themselves in a mirror. Brain scans show that this is not the result of mere inattention: The structures in charge of self-recognition may be knocked out along with the structures related to self-experience. Struggles against yourself as you would struggle against an enemy.#RyanPhillippe 9 of 11

I have seen the media and community members latch on to individuals and physically attack them, pry into their houses, and personal information, rob them, harass them, and slander them until these people are being frequently sent to the emergency room. These critics steal everything from them from their WiFi data, money, family, cars, and medical records and get away with the unlawful behavior. Sacramento Housing and Redevelopment Agency (SHRA) and Good Day Sacramento CW31 (KMAX), and CBS13 (KOVR), and NBC Universal are a few of the worst offenders. And then they get in groups and call you crazy so no one will believe you nor help you.  What I find insane is you guys target people, everyone knows it, and you pretend like nothing is going on and keep going even when you know you have gotten people hurt. Then they sit around like a bunch of junk yard dogs and stare you down and laugh and talk feces about you. #RyanPhillippe 10 of 11

You cannot do what you want until you know what you are doing. The implications are clear: to feel present you have to know where you are and be aware of what is going on with you. You cannot go around trying to mind the business of others, mind your own business, fix yourself. Many of you sit around like drones talking feces about others and calling them crazy and making their lives a living hell, but look at yourself, many of you are not normal. Why you always focused on what this man is doing? If the self-sensing system breaks down, you need to find ways to reactivate it. I do not think you were invited into his house nor to read his private email. Nobody outwardly disbelieves nor opposes a gentleman at the head of his own table. Violent evils require violent remedies. #RyanPhillippe 11 of 11