A friendly, serene, comfortable ambience weaves into your happy life. May you live forever in this happiness! Wherever we stay we have kept correspondence. Buildings, castles and prostitutes cannot keep us apart. My regards and compliments wishing, washing us both happiness year after year. May happiness and joy accompany you like your own shadow! May your success and progress like Sunrise spur you on forever! If the amygdala is the Christmas smoke detector in the brain, thing of the frontal lobe and specifically the medial prefrontal cortex (MPFC), located directly above our eyes—as the watchtower, offering a view of the scene from on high. Is that some you smell the sign that your house is on fire, and you need to get out, fast—or is it coming from the steal you put over too high a flame?  So, while someone was possible in the house dying from poisonous pollen or too much liquor and smoke, after a horrible and totally unexpected lie ways disseminated, the amygdala does not make such judgments; it just gets you ready to stand your ground or escape, even before the frontal lobes get a change to weigh in with their assessment. As long as you are not too upset or incapacitated, your frontal lobes can restore your balance by helping you realize that you are responding to a false alarm about abort the stress response. Ordinarily, the executive capacities of the prefrontal cortex enable people to observe what is going on, predict what will happen if they take a certain action, and make a conscious choice. Being able to hover calmly and objectively over our thoughts, feelings, and emotions (an ability I will call mindfulness throughout this report) and then take our time to respond allows the executive brain to inhibit, organize, and modulate the hardwired automatic reactions preprogrammed into the emotional brain.  

Fathers, race in the direction of the Sun. To let the flowers of happiness of mankind bloom sooner, brush aside the twigs and leaves of trees in the way of the Sunlight. Race towards the Sun! Let us learn to have the strength of confidence, the strength that will enable in act from the virtual World, but still we need that aspiration. This capacity is crucial for preserving our relationships with our fellow human beings. As long as our frontal lobes are working properly, we are unlikely to lose our temper every time a waiter is late with our order, or an insurance company agent puts us on hold. (Our watchtower also tells us that other people’s anger and threats are a function of their emotional state.) When that system breaks down, we become like conditioned animals: The moment we detect danger we automatically prepare to fight. Undaunted persistence may subdue whatever peak in the World. Please cheer up and never be a coward when facing unemployment and bankruptcy but start from scratch to have a near lease of life. In Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) the critical balance between the amygdala (Christmas smoke detector) and the MPFC (watchtower) shifts radically, which makes it much harder to control emotions and impulses. In your photo, your eyes seem to be expressing all the affection in the recesses of your heart, blinking with warmth, goodwill, kindness, and sincerity. May our friendship increase with every passing day. Nothing in the World is better and more pleasing than friendship. Without it, we would lose the World. People are not singing praise of stars because of their crystal-like beauty but their combination into a magnificent sky. Neuro imaging studies of human beings in highly emotional states reveal that intense fear, sadness, and anger all increase the activation of subcortical brain regions involved in emotions and significantly reduce the activity in various areas in the frontal lobe, particularly the MPFC. When that occurs, the inhibitory capacities of the frontal lobe break down, and people “take leave of their senses”: They may startle in response to any loud sound, become enraged by small frustrations, or freeze when somebody touches them.   

Looking to find the answers, how do I get into your life? Never a love so tender, I need the magic in your eyes, your eyes. In examining the process by which psychological distress gives way to a release of the unreal, constructed, and projected self, I want to recall Ryan’s case, awareness worked to accept and thereby release identification with past memories and feelings of hurt and pain. Exemplified a process in which feelings, memories, and the impact of experience had to be fully acknowledged and accepted by the past, his self was defined by the past. The tension of avoiding the impact of experience forced him to define himself as the self that could be strong enough not to be seen as weak. Even if you do want to part from me, I will still thank you for leaving me with a wonderful experience worthy of my memory. Long since we parted Still there is no knowing when we shall meet again. It really breaks my heart to say goodbye. Only the dream remains sweet. No matter where you go, no matter how long you are away, I will wait, wait, and wait. Last night, in the misty moonlight, I saw you off in secret. Hence there appears a little weeping star in the sky…when vulnerability was allowed, a new openness to relationship occurred for Ryan. For the first time, he allowed himself to be physically close to me, and for the first time allowed tears and the acknowledgement of having been hurt.  My dear, how immensely I miss you. Always there in my heart is the gaze at me from your glittering eyes like the water from two clear Springs running in my heart. It is you who opened the window of my thoughts. It is you who melted the frost in the bottom of my heart. For months I heard it cracking in my chest. 

Although I have white temples, I still call you from my heart, God in front of this righteous and beautiful word, I am a pupil who require enlightened forever. A turning point for you was when the silent moment in which we looked in each other’s eyes and you realized, as you later stated: I do not have to pretend to myself that I was not hurt. I do not have to try to be that person, who is always going to be funny, weird, and apart from others. You left the appearance and aroma of flowers. On recalling you, my life is forever gaily colored and fragrant. You use your love to build up my spirit and soul. Your milk is the resource of my thinking. Your eyes have my hope for life. My dear, son I do not know how to repay you. Effectively dealing with stress depends upon achieving a balance between the Christmas smoke detector and the watchtower. If you want to manage your emotions better, your brain gives you two options: You can learn to regulate them from the top down or from the bottom up. People are so worried about their careers and constantly risking human relationships for money, but look at all these young people dying, like Prince, who is worth billions and cannot even spend it, as people fight over his money like dope fiends in a nightclub. Knowing the difference between top down and bottom up regulation is central for understanding and treating traumatic stress. Top-down regulation involved strengthening the capacity of the watchtower to monitor your body sensations. And sometimes you close your eyes and see the place where you used to live, when you were young. You sit there in your heart-breaking wait there for a beautiful to save you from your nightmare and old ways. You play forgiveness, watch him now, he does not look a thing like Jesus, but he talks like a gentleman like you imagined when you were young. Mindfulness and meditation and music can help us with relaxation. Bottom-up regulation involves recalibrating the autonomic nervous system (which, as we have seen, originates in the brain stem). The Devil’s water is not so sweet, but you can dip your feet every once in a while. We can access the ANS through breath, movement or touch. Deal with ambivalent feelings about accepting and loving another and learn about his tendency to retreat from commitment with someone with whom he lived.  

Ryan found that past experience was constraining present expression, particularly through the unfinished relationship with his father, which he carried as an inner self-critic. Ryan has previously studied meditation and had been exposed to ideas about the importance of being present. My body still has your temperature. My pulses run your bloods. My personality has your prints. My thoughts have your wisdom. Thank you, father, it is you who raised me, bred me, and brought me up! As a result, I define myself as having problems being mindful. However, it was not until I focused on the emotional tendencies to repeat critical self-dialogues that change became possible for me. Breathing is one of the few body functions under both conscious and automatic control. You are like a breeze of lilac in the Summer, tender and warm, blowing gently into my chest and wrinkling my heart. I would interpret actions and results negatively, and the resulting mood would affect relationships by keeping him distant. He acknowledged that feelings of being trapped in negativity actually maintained a familiar sense of identity. For Ryan, a break with the self of the past came when he said: I think I will take the Summer off and do some construction work in the mountains. During this break, Ryan released his preoccupation with fixing his relationship and proving he could do well in an academic context. He took his break, returned to school, and ended up staying with the young man with whom he lived. The light of love shines on our daily life as the lightening turns the mediocre gullies and lush forests into legendary mirages.