There is just one life to life, but biblically, we recognize the fact that people have different gifts. One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star. A clarification of expectations is essential. What may the person expect and not expect? It is our responsibility to avoid preparing people for things that simply do not exist. Many of us have experiences, on both the giving and receiving end, the type of wishful thinking which imbues others with superhuman powers to give help when we are unable to go further or when the situation is inoperable. What is the problem? What have you already tried to do in meeting the situation? And what is your motivation, resistances, and reservations? What are the conditions you would like to set in moving forward? People are wary of unlimited involvement in unknown relationships. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 5

After all, one does not know what is right for another (many are lucky indeed if one knows it for oneself); you do not have to face what he is facing (and pray to God you never may have to); you do not, and never will, and pray to God that you may never acquire that pride that dares to assert it does, or even some day may, know the length and breadth and the depth of a [person]…the more you know, the less you claim to know. I believe that God is present in the World, not only in manifest and open form through the church, but also in latent and hidden form in human need. Wherever people struggle for justice, for order, for dignity, for well-being, God is present—incognito many times, but nevertheless there. Inasmuch as we respond to others in need, we are ministering unto Christ himself.  #RyanPhillippe 2 of 5

The task of helping people be people, of humanizing humanity, of enabling every individual to find a place where he can consider himself necessary within the whole of being can be carried out and fulfilled by no single person or group. There are and have to be multiple sources of support. The task of responding to human pain requires orchestration, not solo performances. You can spend all your time walking through the forest (of life) picking up twigs, the woods are full of twigs. However, the problem is the forest. If you spend much time picking up twigs, you will never get to the trees that produce the twigs. So to stop the twigs from falling, one is required to find the trees they are coming from and prune those trees. Basically, to end your suffering, enter your pain. This means getting to know it and its roots, exploring it deeply, moving through it slowly, but surely.  #RyanPhillippe 3 of 5

You cannot emerge from your pain unless you enter it, and this begins with turning toward it. Emotional literacy blends emotional sensitivity, understanding, and savvy. It means knowing what you are feeling while you are feeling it, and being able to both contain and openly express it.  Have compassion if you feel fear doing this, hold him the way you would hold a frightened boy, not letting him drive the car, but keeping him close to you, both cared for and protected, as you drive. A person’s values and ability to tolerate distress and uncertainty can play a role in whether that individual can be manipulated. In certain circumstances, people who are normally fundamentally good can commit thoughtless or even cruel acts.  #RyanPhillippe 4 of 5

After someone makes a decision that goes against his moral values, that person may experience emotional discomfort and distress. So often we have chased some goal and, then, when we have achieved it, we are disappointed. To ease these feelings, the person may adjust his beliefs. That is because the thing itself does not coincide with our pictures of it. We have attached sentimentality or we have made it bigger than life. We have projected onto a thing a magical quality that somehow leads us to believe that, once we acquire it, we will magically achieve some higher state of happiness and satisfaction. I have already stated that the dream or goal has no means of expressing the relation of contradiction, contrast, negation. The day I first me you, you told me you would never fall in love, but now that I get you I know fear is what it really was. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 5