Sometimes groups get too anxious to get down to business and foregoes the small talk, however, primary tensions is likely to create an atmosphere of formality, stiffness, and insecurity. Communication will be stilted and hesitant. The ability of the group to work on a task will be hindered by excessive and persistent primary tension. Secondary tension can also be a problem. Disagreements and conflicts—storming—inevitably emerge when group members struggle to define their status and roles in the group. Shortage of time to accomplish a task or to make a decision can induce tension. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 5

Secondary tension has become an issue in jury deliberations. This is particularly true in cases involving controversial statues such as “three strikes” and death penalty laws. Even in other cases, however, secondary tension can produce juror warfare. To further highlight this illustration, during a Manhattan, New York, jury deliberation involving a man charged with selling a $10 bag of heroin, jurors yelled at each other, and after four days of antagonistic debate a note was sent to the judge complaining about the lone holdout juror. The note the judge received read: Tensions is high, nerves are frayed and all minds are not sound. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 5

In other instances, court officers have broken up fistfights, jurors have flung chairs through windows, and some jurors have even screamed so loudly that they could be heard on the other floors of the courthouse. Jurors have been caught wandering away from the jury room, and in one case a juror tried to escape the deliberations permanently by leaping off the jury bus. Courts all around the United States have begun providing booklets to jurors detailing how to deliberate while remaining courteous and even-tempered. To the working adult, play is re-creation. It permits a periodical stepping out from those forms of defined limitation which are his social reality. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 5

When we put pressure on other people in order to get what we want, they automatically resist, because we are trying to pressure them. The harder we push, the harder they resist. Even though, out of fear, they may actually concede to our demands, there is not an inner acceptance and, later on, we will lose what we have gained. The resistance is in all of us. We can be aware of it as it operates unconsciously, and we evade that awareness by making excuses and plausible explanations. There are two reasons for the proverbial persistence of anglers. The first is that the fish are biting; the second is that they are not. Either is a sufficient justification for fishing a little longer. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 5

One way around this is to surrender the feelings we have about what we want from the other person, and let go of the pressures we are putting on them in the form of expectation and desire. They, then, have the psychic space to become agreeable or even to initiate the desired result on their own, the result we had wished for in the first place. I will grant that it is often more efficient to be a machine, but not in the long run. In the long run, a human who makes himself into a machine breaks down or wears out, at least as a human being. And machines are never happy. People are happy. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 5