Prudent people in other’s matters are not always judicious in their own. Understanding oneself requires a break from assumptions that tend to generate a sense of security associated with self-definition, self-structure, and predictable continuity. Healing allows one to know one’s being prior to any attachment to the image of self, and allows acceptance of the loss of any such image and its relations as the discovery of oneself as a while. The object that was imagined as self is merely the assumption of continuity as a center for perception in time and space. You are not the same person that you were ten years ago. Typically, there are attempts to conceptually enhance this current self by seemingly adding to it a sense of value, good qualities, pride in accomplishments, and security or established existence. Healing is an invitation to a wholeness that already is in process. Wholeness does not have to be constructed or manipulated into being a person. A creative and vital theory and practice emerges in which the traumas of human life are not taken as defining of self-nature. One’s true being is what remains with the dissolution of the false self-oriented dichotomies from which human dilemmas develop because it is simply a defensive façade—one which in extreme cases could leave its holders lacking spontaneity and feeling dead and empty, being a mere appearance of being real. 

Rather than reifying (making something abstract more concrete or real) a recurring thought about a continuing entity, insight into human nature is seen to be discontinuous, a break with the past. Thus, discontinuities of life are assumed to be moments in which new openness is possible. Rather than trying to regulate life so as to avoid discontinuity and maintain security, challenges to the previously assumed security are taken as significant moments of present learning. When we move forward and allow ourselves to be loved and love others, the continuity of the self as a normalized assumption of suffering is released.   Relationship is now a field of being, and human relations are mischaracterized if considered as exchanges between separated entities—each one is getting something from another, or manipulating another into giving something that required. When I have courage, I can look at my feelings and do not have to be afraid of them; I know I can handle them and take responsibility for them. I am willing to take this risks, to let go of past points of view, which may no longer be useful, and explore new ones; I am willing to be joyous and share my experience with other, as I experience myself as willing and able to be spontaneous, resilient, resourceful, and cheerful. In this state, I can be a contributing member of society.

My courage sometimes is still more in my head than in my head. However, it is often easy to move from any of the lower feelings up to courage merely by affirming our bravery to look at and handle our feelings. The fact that you and I even want to understand our feelings increases our self-esteem. Despite all of the negative programming and despite the fear, courageous people go forward in life, with no guarantee and not even the knowledge that things are going to get better. They just have faith and trust that it will, which increases our self-respect and respect towards others because it removes a sense of entitlement when one knows that they are responsible for their own feelings, and success. If we are willing to put forth the effort, we can obtain what we want. People who are brave are supportive and encouraging of others, and this allows them to be able to give and receive, which keeps them in balance. Brave people give because others are not looked at primarily as a means of help, survival, or support. When we are in a state of courage, we sense our own inner power, strength, and self-worth. We know that we have a capacity to make a difference in the World, not just gain something from it for ourselves. Because of the inner self-confidence, we are much less concerned with security. The emphasis is not on what people have, but upon what they do, and have become. Brave people grow and benefit from new experiences and are able to admit mistakes without indulging in guilt and self-recrimination. We look within ourselves and examine our belief systems, ask questions, and seek new solutions.