I can go anywhere, be anywhere, move around anywhere without having to explain nor justify my presence. Few professionals are privileged with as much freedom of movement. This early evening, I was in this place when at the usual time, when at the usual time, my Motorola TimePort in the car rang. It rang just as this detective Cornell happened to walk in through the front gate. She saw me and started to get up, she knew the call was for me, but stepped inside the car, and answered it. While looking me dead in my eyes, I heard her saying, “Hello, hello, hello–” And I knew that Ava, taking no chances with the unknown voice, had disengaged the call. “Was that not a call for me?” I asked Cornell. She said that it was. I said, “Well, why did you not say so?”  #RyanPhillippe 1 of 8

Detective Cornell gave me a rude answer. I knew she wanted me to make the first move. We both were being hostile. We both knew that we wanted to kill each other. Neither wanted to say the wrong thing. Cornell did not want to say anything that, repeated, would make her sound bad. I did not want to say anything that could be interpreted as a threat. Now suppose we start trying to help each other. They have laid their snare damned cunningly—like a cobweb. If you make any movement, if you raise your hand to fan yourself…none of us can save him or herself; we are linked together inextricably. So You can take your choice. Happiness is extraordinarily wonderful; you feel happy every minute. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 8

Our bad reputations seem linked in part with our harried tempo, our not always taking the time to hear people out to the point where we can make an adequate disposition of the case. Despite our concentration on making careful referrals, clients still complain of having sought service in an Agency and of having been seen by a worker for only ten minutes before being directed to another Agency, which was still unable to meet the request. People are sensitive about being rejected and are inclined to magnify even one negative experience when they are in a position of enforced dependency. Asking for help brings hostile feelings close to the surface. However, sincere friendship links the open hearts, it gives out the sweet tenderness. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 8

Furthermore, people may feel there is a stigma attached to a person using community services. There may be connotations of sickness, pathology, charity, handout, failure. All who rage against you will surely be ashamed and disgraced; those who oppose you will be as nothing and perish. The arm of the law is a strong arm, and a long arm. Even an innocent man must take ordinary precautions to defend himself. To a degree, I have feelings of apprehension and ambivalence about community services, the parishioner will feel a sense of stigma. The clergy’s sense of guilt may act as another barrier to using community resources. For many days, our sensitive hearts have tried to memorize too many things, but suddenly we look back, only to find that we have remembered nothing. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 8

Though one experiences being over one’s head and wants very much to get rid of the individual, a basic desire to help may cause one to hang on to the relationship with the vague hope that problems will eventually resolve themselves. The clergyperson may not want to admit that more help is required by the individual than one can give. It is understood, however, that all community services combine both psychological and sociological dimensions in their work. There needs to be contact with those individuals who provide psychological and sociological resources privately. Services ought to be evaluated before they are used. One needs to ask: who sponsors the agency or the person, what is the training required for the helping person, what is the reputation of the service, does one feel one has enough information about the service that one can direct a person to it with a fair degree of confidence? Let me stand where I am like a naïve child to see you off until you disappear in the distance. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 8

When the clergy person confronts someone in need, he or she has to assess what the need is before the action can be taken. One begins by constructing a working image of the person with whom one is talking. Such as: He seems to be the sort of person who is hardworking and honest. One focuses on the facts of the situation. The facts appear to be that is his smart and has excellent physical, mental, and social hygiene. One explores the possible alternatives to meet the requirement. One evolves a plan that the sufferer will hopefully see as being concerned with his or her welfare. The financial requirements of the family appear to be complicated. Therefore, I would quickly consider how to use other resources in the community. Happiness is not hidden in the satiation, but in the yearning. I always ask you how far it is from the eyes to the heart. #RyanPhillippe 6 of 8

Fear itself is the greatest danger that the human body faces. It is fear and guilt that bring about disease and failure. We can take proactive actions out of love rather than out of fear. I care for my body and family because I appreciate and value them, rather than out of fear of disease and dying. I am there for others out of love, rather than out of fear of fear of losing them. There is no such thing as irrelevant testimony. Being polite and courteous to others is important to be because it shows that I care for my fellow human beings, rather than just being concerned with their opinion. A man of honor wears his law by his side. Caring about the quality of a performance and my co-workers helps me to pursue ambition and allowed us to accomplish more by cooperation.  There are many people whose lives have been filled with love, it is difficult to describe the emptiness and pain that fill some of these peoples’ lives, and it is clear that no antiarrhythmic drug by itself will prolong their lives much longer. #RyanPhillippe 7 of 8

My goal is to drive safely because I love my life and your lives as well. On a spiritual level, God tells me to act out of compassion and identification with my fellow human beings, and to care for you and show you love. It makes me feel very good someone is concerned about me. There are people of all ages, young and antiquated, whose children have gone far away, or whose loved ones have recently died, or who do not know the names of even one person in their neighborhood, or who do not know who you should notify in case they die, and who lie in hospital beds for weeks without visitors. They are literally brokenhearted—there really is no other term to describe it—and something beyond drugs, heart transplants, coronary bypass operations, or artificial pacemakers is required to save them.  Your love-lit eyes are like sparkling stars, dispelling loneliness from my heart. #RyanPhillippe 8 of 8