The heart cannot be good without knowledge. Romantic relationships are the most meaningful elements in the lives of many people, as they provide a deep source of joy, pleasure, and fulfillment. However, there are big problems that afflict relationships like infidelity, abuse, and addition. Before you know it, you feel manipulated, unloved, unheard, and unappreciated. It is like your spouse is part of a conspiracy to keep chiseling away at your heart, but unlike Michelangelo di Lodovico Buonarroti Simoni, they are not trying to create the master piece like David, but instead they want to leave a huge sinkhole in your chest. At first you were depressed, now you are abusing me. The solution is to figure out how to negotiate with your partner so you two stay connected instead of being alienated. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 6

It is helpful in overcoming resistance and taking responsibility for our negative programs and feelings to see that they come from the small aspect of ourselves to think negatively, so there is an unconscious tendency to agree readily to its limited viewpoint. We may not be conscious of our inner greatness. We may not be experiencing it, but it is there. If we let go of our resistance to it, we can begin to experience it. It is a glorious fever, that desire to know. The way out of negativity is the willingness to acknowledge and let go of negative feelings, and stop resisting love. Allow yourself to feel good and open up to people who care about you. No matter how special or dear you are to someone, after the love is gone, you cannot get it back, so keep that in mind.  #RyanPhillippe 2 of 6

Some people may feel like they are so special to you that no matter how badly they treat you and no matter how long they force you to endure it, you will never leave them. In fact, you have been so hard on your spouse that you actually catch them becoming attracted to others. The important thing in the relationship is not to control your spouse, but to communicate with them and express how important they are to you and pay attention to them. Find things about your spouse that means something to them and talk about it in a nice way. It is apparent that we are resisting good feelings of love, generosity, and forgiveness. Sit down and imagine the quality of generosity and stop fighting it. Remember how it feels when we express gratitude and acknowledge the gifts that have been given to us.  #RyanPhillippe 3 of 6

Some people feel like their spouse is evil and trying to such all the hope, love, and joy out of their hearts and walks around like a mean brat and expect you to love them through it. A person physically and emotionally hurts you and keeps doing it. Because feelings and emotions often seem overwhelming and threatening, they become suppressed, avoided, or denied—which reinforces inner division between you and your spouse because they are trying to control or manipulate you. If you learn to acknowledge your feelings and understand your relationship is not going to work go and let go of it, you will experience compassion, strength, clarity, peace, and balance. Do not allow yourself to be blinded and mislead by their thoughts—stories and movies their mind projects onto reality, based on scripts and identities formed to keep you in the dark.  #RyanPhillippe 4 of 6

I might react to my spouse neglecting me with anger and blame, which will only push you further away. First of all, I need to work with my emotional reaction, by learning to open to the anger instead of trying to get rid of it by discharging it on you. Then I can begin to look at what is really happening, apart from my emotionally laden interpretations of what is going on. For myself, I see that my anger is driven by a movie in my mind—I see I do not matter to you, which in turn triggers an even more intense horror movie, dating back to childhood—I do not matter at all. Looking into my sense of not mattering, I see that I have a hard time feeling it is all right to have my emotional needs or clearly express them. After the past year of dealing with you, I am convinced that you are a lost cause. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 6

Out of my lack of entitlement, I create situations where people tend to neglect me, leaving me feeling frustrated, empty, and sad. This pattern of frustration is caused by your inattention, which then makes me feel like I am not worthy of receiving what I need so that can let myself acknowledge my emotional needs and then communicate them clearly and directly. So I am going to find a new way of dealing with this situation by just letting go. Since I cannot seem to get you to come around and treat me right, I am going to start going out until I meet someone knew, someone who will actually appreciate me. You keep hooking up with these rag tag barely legal teens and others, so I am going out to meet someone more on my level. It is over. Love between us is an illusion. You have not done anything nice for me and I am tried of pretending and forgiving you so you can find new ways to hurt me. You are an evil person. #RyanPhillippe 6 of 6