Man is false to himself and betrays his own succors ten times where nature does it once. We often admire the folly of the dupe, when we should transfer our whole surprise to the astonishing guilt of the betrayer. Betrayals are an aspect of a few intimate relationships. They range from people flirting with the coworkers, one-night stands after a Halloween party, to having an affair, and in some cases, people work with others who are trying to harm their spouse, know about, says nothing, and keeps acting like nothing is wrong. If you have ever been with someone who hurt your feelings and betrayed your trust over and over, and never did anything to make up with it, you know how the agony of feeling hard done-by and castoff.   

The unfortunate have claims upon the hearts of those whom God has blessed with affluence. When someone treats you like you are disposable and expects you to stick by their side and still help them, it can really leave you feeling shattered because you are reminded of all the times they have hurt you. Your sense of abandonment, pain, helplessness, longing, irretrievable loss, and heartbrokenness can lead you to declare the relationship to be over. Even after the cheater is gone, you heart will hurt, but you rather it this be the last time this person hurts you. Especially if every other week, over the past you, they keep doing things to hurt you deeply. The greater the degree of trauma you experience, the more likely you are to experience physical and mental issues or premature death.   

Sometimes people stick in unhealthy relationships because they believe the person will change or that they are unlovable. We feel like we have wasted all these years, and it is a feeling of sadness and loss. There is a crying for someone to help because we cannot do anything about it, and feel like maybe someone else can help be a source of support and encourage us to keep going. There is much pain in my life, the untold tragedies of life! All of the disappointments and crushed hopes. And then to not be able to talk it out and find out why they hurt you, keep working with your enemies, but want your support makes it worse. Like, why would someone sign a contract that says they cannot speak to you and expect you to keep supporting them?   

Many questions will never be answered and clearly someone loves money and status more than they love you, not to mention, by doing the right thing your spouse could have made much more money than this one season fly by night job they picked up. With the courage to face our inner feelings and let them go, we thus can move on to accepting the relationship is over and eventually find peace. When we let go of a bad relationship, our friends and family will notice a change in our facial expression and demeanor. And I know you love this person and think they are the only person in the World for you, but if you are not a priority in their life, then let them go so God can bless you with true love.   

When we hold on to the past and keep experiencing pain, it will create a vortex and attract more pain to us. Not only that, but the person you are involved with has hurt you many times, and pushed you to the limits, who knows what they will do next and if you can take it? Suicide sneaks up on people. Have the courage to let go. Emotional pain is usually time-limited. This should make you want to end that relationship so you can recover. Love is supposed to feel good, not be like a gaping wound and when you wake up in the morning the first thing on your mind is my spouse out cheating on me right now? Also, if you are not having sex, you know they are participating in debauchery with someone. The average adult has sex twice a week and that is what hurts a person most, when their spouse has se with another person. Knowing their body, fluids, and bacteria been all over the person you love.   

If we allow ourselves to feel the pain, and do not resist the feeling and totally surrender to it, it will run out. We just have to allow ourselves to experience it fully. Also, maybe this is God’s way of telling you this is not the right person for you and that he has someone better, who will care about you how you want, waiting for you. Sometimes you may just need to stay at the house and turn the music on and have a good cry alone. As for me, I am not crying, my heart hurts, I am tired and ready to let go. If a person is doing nothing to try and keep you in their lives, but keeps begging for help, let it go. They will take you down. If we resist the pain, then it will go on. Emotional abuse can go on for years. When I thought there was so little, I cried to find so much goodness in the World.