That inexorable law of human souls, that we prepare ourselves for sudden deeds by the reiterated choice of good and evil which gradually determines character. Although there are specific features to each room of the house, the soul of the room rests in the conversations it sets up with things. The multiplication of rooms reveals multiple dimensions of soul, or depth. The animation of the bedroom, for instance, shows through the things of the bed, the chest of drawers, the carefully arranged lamps, mirrors, bedspread, and vanity. The same with each room. Things detail the image, making it particular. However, things are alive when they are able to express themselves in multiple ways. The loss of being an active person in the World produces a fairly obvious common quality: namely, the feeling of being a victim.  #RyanPhillippe 1 of 7

There is in every disposition a tendency to some particular evil, a natural defect, which not even the best education can overcome. Some people refuse to assume responsibility for himself or herself. These types of people who avoid accountability participates in the interaction primarily to provoke others to take over and carry the load. One shows only enough cards to make others play the game. Overt effort is kept to a minimum. Deliberate avoidance is kept at a maximum. One’s intentions are disguised and hidden. The person actively acts in ways designed to keep him or her from having to act. Because little that one does is out in the open, the individual experiences the loss of being an active agent in the World. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 7

It is more useful capacity to be able to foretell the actions of men, in any circumstance, from their characters, than to judge of their character from their actions. Because the person’s intentions are disguised, others fail to meet unvoiced expectations. That failure results in a continual source of disappointment and frustration for the dependent personality. His or her requirements fail to be met in ways he or she wants them met: “How could this drama happen to me? Why did you not buy dinner for me? How could you do this to me?” Even when most elevated, the human mind is not equal to the influence of two opposing passions. Resentment and bitterness pervade the passivity and dependency. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 7

I love a virtuous character, as much in man, as in woman. The dependent person feels that his or her own “good intentions” are all that count.  Whether or not one invests oneself in the relationship is irrelevant. Both wit and understanding are trifles, without integrity. Whether or not one involves oneself in the task does not matter. All that counts is one’s physical presence. One is there; what more could others want or expect! Our actions obey an unknown law, implicit in ourselves, but which does not conform to our logic. It is as possible for a person know something without having been at school, as it is to have been at school and to know nothing.  #RyanPhillippe 4 of 7

To discuss medicine before the ignorant is of one piece with teaching the peacock to sing. Dependent people resent their dependency. Because of their need to please and appear responsible, they disguise their resentment. They take part in activities hesitantly and reluctantly. They “forget” easily and often. They find “reasons” to slow things down. Behind a surface acquiescence lurks a deeper aggressiveness. “I will participate but I will withhold as much of myself as possible, for despite my dutifulness, I have not been given what is due me.” They resent going along, yet go along out of fear of losing the other or out of fear of having to be accountable. Not really knowing their own anxiety creates the experience of being a victim, they assume that oppressed status has been imposed by others.  #RyanPhillippe 5 of 7

One that hath gone through many perils and returned safe from them, makes but a merriment to dilate them. With dependent personalities, legitimate needs are transformed into neurotic claims. What in fact is an understandable need gets changed into a special, exceptional, inalienable right. “I need to be taken care of; others, therefore, must take care of me. The World should be at my service and I should not be bothered.” Things ought to come without one having to make an effort. We may be told that getting our anger out of our system is good for us, but the way we express it can make things worse for ourselves and the recipients of our anger, as when we merely unload it without any regard for them. Discharging the energies of our anger does not necessarily mean that the anger itself has left our system. #RyanPhillippe 6 of 7

Unconditional care and concern are expected regardless of one’s own provocative behavior. No matter how one acts, one deserves the best. No matter what the circumstances, one’s needs are to be met then and there without delay. Simply because one desires help, one deserves help. The World exists for one’s own purposes. The suffering of dependent personalities works to bolster the legitimacy of their claims. The difficulties they meet in trying to please others make them special. The handicaps they labor under in trying to make it in life prove they are exceptional. By means of misery, they manage to accuse others of failure and at the same time to excuse themselves of their own failure. Suffering sears others and salves themselves.  Never give more than a second place to the World’s opinion. #RyanPhillippe 7 of 7