Men who will not shrink from the danger and toil of penetrating the polar basin will shrink from the troubling of their own thinking. This is the experience I have with people who have a dependent personality. Every endeavor to relate seems thwarted. Every effort to respond comes to naught. Every attempt at ministry goes astray. One is bogged down, engulfed by other’s needs. Let me put the problem differently: one does not know what the dependent person is experiencing because he or she withholds information necessary to the development of a mutually satisfying relationship. Thus, one finds oneself doing extra work. The harder the responder tries to respond, the less satisfied the other seems. Perfect love has a breath of poetry which can exalt the relations of the least-instructed human beings. When we try to help a dependent person, sometimes a little help mysteriously expands into the demand for a lot of helping. A little care somehow gets transformed into endless caring. What begins as meaningful support turns into an irritating Albatross caught up in w White Squall. Once cannot figure out what has gone wrong.  The perplexity differs from those who are dependent. They experience themselves as dead, helpless, victimized, and so they behave as though they have no responsibility. Life does not depend on them. Something external determines the course of events. They themselves are unable to engage life in meaningful and significant ways. 

Though grace is shown to the wicked, they do not learn righteousness; even in a land of uprightness, they go on doing evil, and regard not the majesty of God. The hand of God is lifted high, but they do not see it. Let them see your zeal for your people and be put to shame; let the fire reserved for your enemies consume them. See, all your enemies lie there, confused and humiliated. Anyone who opposes you will die and come to nothing. With my God I can scale a high rise, you made my enemies turn their backs in fight and I destroyed my foes. They may say that it is their misfortune to be criminal; I answer that it is their crime to be unfortunate. Fortunate is the gentleman that can obtain even a reluctant and merge justice. Light of hearts, Sanctifier of souls; behold me prostrate in Thy presence. I adore Thee with profoundest homage: I bless Thee a thousand times and with the Seraphim who stand before They throne, I firmly believe that Thou are eternal, consubstantial with the Father and the Divine Son. I hope in Thy goodness that Thou wilt deign to save and sanctify my soul. I love Thee, O Divine Love, with all my affections above all things of this World, because Thou art Infinite Goodness, alone worthy of all love. I beg Thy pardon a thousand times, and am more sorry for having offended Thee, the Sovereign Good, than for any other evil.

I know, a place without water is a desert; I know, a place without sound is loneliness. I offer Thee this most cold heart of mine, and I pray Thee to pierce it with a ray of Thy light, and to spark of Thy fire, which shall melt the hard ice of my iniquities. You are the rain to water my heart; you are the sound to accompany me in my life course.  You have enlightened my mind with the knowledge of eternal things. True masculine power happens when courage, integrity, vulnerability, compassion, awareness, and the capacity to take strong action are all functioning together. Such power is potent but not aggressive, challenging but not shaming, grounded but not rigid, forceful, but not pushy. Again, it required head, heart, and guts in full-blooded alignment. Because of social engineering in our society, people even suppress and repress their good feelings. Suppressed love results in the broken hearts of the heart attack. Suppressed love re-emerges as excessive adoration of pets and various forms of idolatry. True love is free of fear and characterized by non-attachment. Fear of loss energizes undue attachment and possessiveness. For example, the man who is insecure about his spouse is very jealous. When the pressure of suppressed and repressed feelings exceeds the individual’s tolerance level, the mind will create an event “out there” upon which to vent and displace itself. Thus, the person with a lot of repressed grief will unconsciously create sad events in life. 

The fearful person precipitates frightening experiences; the angry person becomes surrounded by infuriating circumstances; and the prideful person is constantly being insulted. Why do you see the splinter, which is in your brother’s eye, and do not feel the beam, which is in your brother’s eye, and do not feel the beam which is in your own eye? All the Great Masters point us within. Life events become influenced by our repressed and suppressed emotions on the psychic level. Thus, anger attracts angry thoughts. The basic rule of the psychic Universe is that like attracts like. Similarly, love promotes love, so that the person who has let go of a lot of inner negativity is surrounded by loving thoughts, loving events, loving people, and loving pets. Real love is blind devotion, unquestioning self-humiliation, utter submission, trust and belief against yourself and against the whole World. Giving up your heart and spirit to the smiter. The true lover’s mind is completely permeated by the beloved object of his affections. Mystery and disappointment are not absolutely indispensable to the growth of love, but they are, very often, its powerful auxiliaries. That simple, primitive love which knits us to the beings who have been nearest to us, in their times of helplessness or of anguish. Love does not aim simply at the conscious good of the beloved object: it is not satisfied without perfect loyalty of heart; it aims at its own completeness.