Now it is your turn to experience transformation. If you are in a relationship, but completely absorbed in your children, work, friends, or community service, what are you required to do to make your relationship more of a priority? What if your involvement is an addiction that has kept you distracted from your partner? Clearly, you are ready to make a change in your intimate relationship because and understanding and loving human relationship has some profoundly amazing benefits on the entire body, and it goes beyond a Netflix and Chill function. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 11

In spite of the large number of environmental stimuli bombarding each individual, the common types of human contact seem to produce dramatic changes in an individual’s heart rate. For example, a 31-year-old-male was critically injured in an automobile accident. When a nurse quietly took the patient’s pulse, his heart rate slowed almost 20 beats per minute. The episode was recorded and the patient had been in a coma for two days because he suffered chest paint injuries in an accident. The power of human contact on the patient’s heart rate was seen later in the day, quite by chance. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 11

A physician came in to the room to perform a tracheal suction on the patient. This was an uncomfortable procedure and made it necessary for the physician to periodically turn off the patient’s respirator during a one-minute period—at which point the patient could no longer breathe. It is difficult to imagine a more psychologically frightening or physically distressing sensation, and we may assume that the resulting heart increase was as great as it could be elicited under these extremely traumatic conditions. It is therefore of great interest to note that the heart rate increase was almost as great (although nowhere near as sustained) as when the seven doctors chatted about this patient. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 11

So evidence shows that a physical presence and human contact, by someone who wishes you well, will actually make a person have the will to live, even if they are in a coma. It is also interesting to note that the presence of seven doctors, was almost equivalent to one doctor actually having physical contact with the patient. The shock-trauma heart rate data did show that the cardiac changes seen in the coronary care unit were not unique to human beings with cardiac pathology. They also convinced us that the effect of holding a patient’s hand could be seen even in the most intense of clinical environments. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 11

Human contact seemed to be all the more important to patients the more traumatic the environment because. If anything, the reaction of the heart rate to human contact seemed to increase in magnitude under these extreme conditions. The fact that the effects of something as routine as human touch or quiet comforting could still be observed to have a beneficial impact on the patient, despite all the factors that could potentially mask its influence, serves to underscores the vital importance it has for our hearts. We may one day be able to isolate the types of patients and kinds of social interactions that produce therapeutic benefits for the heart. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 11

Now that you see that good human interactions have such a benefit on the health, and could produce healing and prevent aliments, decide which activities you can cut back on or give up completely in order to prioritize your relationship. Be realistic. Do not choose to give up on something completely that you cannot possibly eliminate entirely. When you make the choice to cut back or give up something, that is, giving up your requirement to do whatever, work at it gradually. #RyanPhillippe 6 of 11

Take into account that letting go of anything, whether it is an addiction, stepping away from center stage in relation to your friend’s lives, or being less consumed by the details of your neighbor’s problems, will take a lot of your time initially. You will not become an available partner overnight. Talk to your partner about the changes that may be necessary to make in the life you have been sharing up until now. Maybe your partner will have to take on more family-based tasks. Maybe you will have to change aspects of your work life, and spend more time with your spouse. #RyanPhillippe 7 of 11

Maybe your withdrawal from activities outside your life and commitments as a couple will create some entirely new issues for you to deal with. In one case, we saw a man who was being manipulated by his friends start dating someone new. His new partner thought that his friends were good people. However, months into the relationship, his friends waged an all-out war and tried to rip the couple apart by lying, making innuendos, calling around to get his spouse fired from work, and spreading rumors that literally almost got his new partner killed. And his friends thought it was all funny and even made jokes about the situations they created. #RyanPhillippe 8 of 11

Schedule some regular one-on-one time with your partner, and stick to that commitment. To do this successfully, you will be required to be realistic about when this takes place and how much times you can commit to spending with your partner. Do not start by planning to spend the whole twenty-four hours together every Saturday. That would be a setup for failure. Choose activities and settings for your couple time that will be mutually appealing and not too stressful. Find something you both feel comfortable doing. You could make a plan to spend Saturday nights together, but leave the activity options open, thus allowing for enough variety to give the two of you varied opportunities to feel more connected. #RyanPhillippe 9 of 11

Take some risks engaging with your partner in quieter, more inward time together. This could mean talking about what is going on with your over a quiet meal or during a walk. It could involve some quiet time outdoors just enjoying the view, or spending some time together in prayer. Notice whether you are still trying to escape your emotions, fears, and memories. Check in to see how your partner is doing with the new you. How does your mate feel about you in this new stage of intimacy? How does your partner feel about themselves? Do not be surprised or discourages if your partner becomes uncomfortable for a while. #RyanPhillippe 10 of 11

You may want to take a trip, travel to places you two have always dreamed of seeing, go fishing, hunting or camping. This is not any better or more worthwhile than staying at home to relax. It is just different.  Or perhaps you prefer to stay home and do things you have been wanting to get at for months, but could not do because of the pressures of work, study, fatigue, lack of time. You paint the house, overhaul your car, build a doghouse or barbecue pit, write something you have been mulling about in your head for a year, or take a short class in something totally unrelated to your work. All of these choices are great. Whatever you like to do. Whatever relaxes, unwinds, and recharges you, that is all that matters. #RyanPhillippe 11 of 11