The symbolic seat of all human emotions—the very symbol of love—was being lifted from one human and put into another when you took your love away from me. The gentleness of you at the time you lower your head is as charming as hibiscus rising out of water. I miss you deeply. My heart will be with you forever, as long as you are honest to me, I never change my mind at the crossroad of love. Love is a key to the secret of life. With love subtracted, life will become tasteless and colorless. Lonely people who began to develop physical symptoms were sent by other human beings to drugstores to buy aspirins, tranquilizers, or antidepressants. They were denied the only effective healing agent—human contact—that could possibly have cured loneliness because no one any longer believed it to be very effective. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 8

The idea that simple human compassion and comfort could heal was almost totally abandoned, swept away in a euphoric flood of objectivity that came in the wake of medical science’s triumphs. Before the 1900, very few medicines were available that could be prescribed effectively to combat aliments. Physicians were forced, therefore, to rely on the power of their own presence, and bedside manner was recognized as a potent source of healing. As scientific medicine began to develop drugs that were outstandingly effective as healing agents, there seemed to be less and less of a requirement for bedside manner. Objective knowledge and not the person dispensing such knowledge—the pill rather than the pill-giver—was seen as the key factor in healing. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 8

The role of bedside manner as a healing agent was gradually minimized, until by the mid-twentieth century it was relegated almost to the status of a historical curiosity. Public reaction to this change was, in general, most enthusiastic. Of course, not all was well. Quite apart from the spiraling cost of medical care, there were increasing complaints that physicians no longer cared about human beings. However, such complaints were greatly overshadowed by the apparent effectiveness of new scientific healing, and the public generally admired the results. As is true with all other scientific influences on the way society in general began to view human relationships, much like social media, the downgrading of the importance of human contact as a healing force became irrelevant. It became an adoption of similar attitudes in general. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 8

The impression was clearly left that because of medical technology and mediation, science had arranged it so that an individual could do anything he wished, eat any food, behave in any way he chose, and if his heart got smashed up in the process, a new one could be, a new one could be put in. The idea started to circulate that people were really like an automobile tire that could be replaced every 40,000 miles. Because of the increased wickedness, the love of most will grow cold and all they will care about is money, status, and possessions. Of course, it is hard to replace lonely and broken hearts. However, the implicit social belief, widely accepted, is that the heart is a pump, that surgeons are scientific plumbers, and that humans are machines. Yet, people are starting to recognize, one again, that something is missing, we should protect the heart from breaking in the first place. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 8

It is clear that no one can stockpile spare parts to heal a lonely heart, and the evidence is growing daily that such emotions do influence the physical functioning of the body. Therefore, practice opening your heart when you least want to do so. Do not lose touch with your love when you are not being loved, and do so without collapsing or sinking into exaggerated tolerance. At times, this may mean opening your heart to your own close-heartedness. Opening your heart does not always mean you will look loving, but the very intention to this open is a potent context shifter. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 8

Love and protect the boy within. It is so easy to push away our inner child, that locus of pre-rational innocence, vulnerability, and softness, as if his presence somehow lessens our status as men. However, a man who is out of touch with the boy within is a man cut off from much of what makes intimate relationships possible. Release your Netflix and Chill from the obligation to make you feel better. Make your connection to your partner top priority. Get comfortable with expression your feelings. Say, “I feel sad” or “I feel anger.” Also expression your sensations, “I feel tightness in my belly” or “I feel an achiness in the back of my neck” or “My breathing feels shallow.” #RyanPhillippe 6 of 8

The point is to make emotionally centered communication more of a priority than intellectually centered communication. Both are obviously important, but the relational flow and conversation simply work better then there is at least some emotional resonance. Dialogue is the elixir of life; without it we cannot survive. Dialogue is a dynamic, ever-changing force. Like the billions of snowflakes that fall in a Winter snore, no two human dialogues are the same. No two marriages are exactly alike. Once together with you, we walked through that beautiful song. That momentary magnificence is well worthy of my life-long memory. #RyanPhillippe 7of 8

The love courses of life shines in the corner of life obscurely like leisurely clouds, which drift slowly, illuminating our hearts and warming our life. All of these remind us of the happiness, disconsolation in the past years. Your presence will ways resound in my heart proudly; let my compatriots hear this loud and happy so and this song is your name. Once again, the choice is ours to make. We must either live together or face the possibility of prematurely dying lone. Life and dialogue are one and the same. Please smile, my dear. If you weep, my face will be wetted; if you grieve, my heart will ache. Happiness and you are the oasis in my heart. #RyanPhillippe 8 of 8