In most societies, people depend on the social context to an ever greater extent than in the technological West. We believe that the individual should be left free to develop their potential and that society is not a perverse obstacle to personal fulfillment. The conceptualization of the human life cycle unfolds in a series of stages, with each stage having its unique tasks and the requirement for an orderly progression though stages. Socialization not only shapes behavior, it also forms consciousness to the expectations and aspirations of our culture, so that we feel shame when others observe or failings, and guilt when we feel that we have let others down. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 12

Because the self depends on internalized community expectations, it is not difficult to see why we are so determined to both physically and mentally active. People have been taught that unless they are accepted by the group, that they will not live long, Catch Hell, and will soon fall prey to leopards and hyenas. We depend not only on our group of peers for protection, but also for social engineering. Because interactions are so important for keeping consciousness in balance, it is important to understand how they affect us, and to learn how to turn them into aspect of our lives that benefit us, instead of having a series of negative experiences. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 12

As with everything in life, opportunities cost, one cannot enjoy a relationship for free. We must expend a certain amount of psychic energy to reap the benefits of our relationships. A relationship that leads to order in consciousness, instead of chaos and dysfunction, has to fulfill a couple of conditions. First of all, we have to find someone who is compatible with our goals and dreams. This can be difficult because most people are bound to pursue their own self-interest, rather than be concerned with that we require to keep operating.  #RyanPhillippe 3 of 12

And secondly, for a successful interaction is that when we find someone who is interested in us and will to support our requirements, we have to also be willing to invest attention in the other person’s goals—not an easy take either, considering that psychic energy is the most essential and scarce resource we own. Whether we are learning to kiss, type, speak, write, study, smoke, or compose a strong quartet, out behavior will be strengthened or weakened—made more or less probable—according to the events that follow them. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 12

When we can keep someone happy, and finds someone who can keep us happy, it is possible to get the most valuable result from being with that person, and experience flow that comes from optimal interaction. Individuals are generally much happier and more motivated when they are with friends, regardless of what they are doing. Even studying and household chores can be good experiences when done with someone you care about. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 12

When we are with people who truly care about us and people we care about conditions for optimal interactions are usually maximized. We choose to be with them because we see their goals as compatible with our, and the relationship is one of equality, which provides mutual benefits. There are no external constrains that might lead to exploitation. Instead there is a sense of purpose and a new emotional and intellectual stimulation. #RyanPhillippe 6 of 12

Conditioning involves the use of rewards and punishments to strengthen the desired behavior or weaken undesirable behavior. When you were a child, someone probably gave you a piece of candy or a dime to keep you quiet. You probably did what was asked of you in exchange for that reward. You also learned something, to get the reward, I have to do what is expected of me. #RyanPhilippe 7 of 12

A good relationship provides new things, activities, and adventures; we develop new attitudes, ideas, and values; we get to know our mate more deeply and intimately. However, lack of true friends is often the main complaint of people confronting an emotional crisis in adult life. Another frequent cause of complaint is the lack of rewarding sexual relationships. One of the cultural achievements of this century has been the rediscover of good sex for a good life. Brainwashing is the term that is applied to this process when the desired behavior-change is in the area of social attitudes. People call this good sex the Netflix and Chill function. #RyanPhillippe 8 of 12

As usual, the pendulum has swung too far: Netflix and Chill function has been decontextualized from the rest of experience, and people have accepted the erroneous notion that liberal doses of Netflix and Chill will make them happy. Many individuals are simply being treated as laboratory guinea pigs in a special kind of sexual experiment: being conditioned, through significant rewards and punishment, to forget their loyalty to their own relationships or body to swear allegiance to the principles of being sex toys. #RyanPhillippe 9 of 12

Variety and frequency of Netflix and Chill encounters are becoming an obsession and taking precedence over the depth and intensity of the relationship in which they are embedded. It is ironic that on this issue the traditional teachings of the churches are being eroded. The original purpose for the Netflix and Chill function was for the purpose of making children and binding the parental couple. Of course this does not mean that these function need to be the only purpose of Netflix and Chill. For instance, the adaptive function of taste bunds was to distinguish between wholesome and spoiled food, but with time we developed complex culinary arts based on subtle nuances of taste. #RyanPhillippe 10 of 12

So also whatever were the original reasons for Netflix and Chill, it can always be used to yield new possibilities enriching life. However, just as gluttony that has no relationship to hunger seems unnatural, an obsession with Netflix and Chill that is divorced from other human requirements, such as intimacy, caring, and commitment, becomes equally aberrant. And one day, you will eventually run into a hot steamy beefcake or some rotten fish, and you could get sick or die from food poisoning. So think about what you do with that burrito and consider if you really want to cook some fish. Trial and error learning is the simplest form of learning and is probably the way many people have acquired the ability to do simple hand skills as children. #RyanPhillippe 11 of 12

A child can be instructed in the use of a spoon, observe his parents using theirs, but until he picks it up dips into the pablum, and thrusts it at his mouth, he does not really acquire the coordination skills necessary to feed himself. Of course, the first few efforts are failures! More pablum ends up on the floor than in his mouth. However, gradually, practice brings perfection; he is rewarded more and more by his slight successes. Eventually he succeeds in accomplishing the tricky task. Again, reinforcement of successful behavior is involved. Not only does the child get a reward of tasting the food and satisfying his hunger, he gets the praise and attention of his parents, who are probably very eager by now for him to take over this little chore for himself. An error does not become a mistake until your refuse to correct it. #RyanPhillippe 12 of 12