If you were sensible of your own good, you would not wish to quit the sphere in which you have been brought up. You have a new capacity to risk closeness and vulnerability. You will not be permanently wounded, there is someone here for you. You are now going to put into action all that you have been learning and practicing since you first started practicing opening up to a new relationship. You have already started the process of making changes in the area of intimacy within a couple relationship. Let us talk about how to make this process work best. Let thy attire be comely, but not costly. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 12

First, set small goals. The worst mistake most people make when they are trying out something new and frightening is to immediately go for the gold; that is, for the finish line at the end of the race, when they really should begin with a walk through the park. Obviously, this guideline will be very different in action for each person. There is no excellent beauty, no accomplished grace, no reliable refinement, without strength as excellent, as complete, as trustworthy. How amiable is that beauty which as its foundation in goodness! #RyanPhillippe 2 of 12

To further highlight this illustration, if you are nervous about starting a new relationship, you may want to try talking to that special person for a little while longer, or at a slightly more personal level of conversation, instead of asking him or her to go away for a weekend with you. Or suppose that you have been addicted to your exercise routine, but you have decided to work on spending more time with someone special and less time exercising. It would be much more sensible to give up one exercise session in the week, rather than go cold turkey and totally quit your whole exercise routine in order to spend every night with the love of your life. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 12

Also, focus on changes that you can make right now. Do not focus on something you hope will happen someday at the end of your relational journey. If you plan to work on opening up a little bit more emotionally, start with one small part of yourself that you feel is ready to be shared, rather than going for a full range of emotional vulnerability right away. It is important to take your time when you are aiming at big changes. In life, as in art, the beautiful moves in curves. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 12

Prioritize safety. Begin with target behaviors and people you feel are relatively safe. If you are making a commitment to hang in there with a new relationship, even if things are feeling a little too intense and intimate, do not lock yourself into something too risky. Do not go from a standstill to moving in together, or to getting engaged, or going off together on a long trip to a romantic island. Heaven is above all. The curtain of our fate is still undrawn. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 12

However, if you are ready to let go of an all-consuming habit to make some space for a partner, move toward withdrawal from your addiction in a planned way, giving yourself plenty of support and time for recovery before fully offering yourself to another person. Think of your first steps as experiments. Remember that nothing you do is final. You will probably have to explore lots of new behaviors and situation before you become really comfortable with the new you. If you view what you are doing as an experiment, you can take both successes and setback in your stride: it is all just information. Our deeds determine us, as much as we determine our deeds. #RyanPhillippe 6 of 12

If you decide to try harder to meet potential partners, do not give up if your efforts are not successful right away. This is just a way to deepen your understanding of yourself while you try out new relational options. Nothing that happens will be all bad nor all good, so do not be over concerned with evaluating your efforts. Men will dream; the most that can be asked of them is but that the dream be not in too glaring discord with the thing they know. #RyanPhillippe 7 of 12

Stay tuned into the wisdom of your body. At first, you will probably find that you feel awkward, nervous, unsure of what is happening. You may feel lost and confused. Do not overthink. Trust your body to give you feedback. If the situation you are exploring makes your body feel jittery, that is to be expected. However, if your body keeps sending huge warning alarms, pay attention. There are a thousand familiar disputes which reason never can decide. It may mean that this is the wrong activity or wrong person for you at this time. #RyanPhillippe 8 of 12

Keep your sense of humor. You know things are never really smooth when you are trying out anything new, so prepare yourself to feel foolish. Just keep in touch with that part of you that can see humor in your most dismal efforts, and remember, we have all felt awkward, shy, and vulnerable. Friendship is a passion. It entrances the being; it tears the heart. All loves of after life can never bring its rapture, or its wretchedness; no bliss so absorbing, no pangs of jealousy or despair so crushing and so keen! #RyanPhillippe 9 of 12

Stay connected to your support group. As you engage in these new efforts, be sure to stay connected to those who support you. Talk to others about what you are planning to do, how it is going, and what the next step is looking like. There are jilts in friendship as well as in love; and, by the behavior of some men in both, one would almost imagine that they industriously sought to gain the affections of others with a view only making the parties miserable. The beauty and loveliness of true friendship is too strong for dim eyes. #RyanPhillippe 10 of 12

Set timelines for your plans. You are required to create a structure that will tell you when you are going to begin something new, how long you are going to try it, and if it does not work out, when you will let it go and try something else. In general, setting up relatively short amounts of time, like a month or so, helps you feel less overwhelmed by new ways of doing things. Also, consider how you will get over your fears, shyness, and self-doubt, and begin to do this. #RyanPhillippe 11 of 12

Ask yourself what kind of person you would like to get to know. Then think about the best ways to get acquainted with such an individual. Or perhaps you already know someone you find attractive. The question for you is: How can I get to know this person better? Well, start off by making eye contact, then say hello when you are comfortable. Then start a casual conversation, compliment them about something or talk about how nice the weather is and then ask them out on a koffee date. God, bring me a beautiful Angel from the Heaven’s above to cure my broken heart from being in love. #RyanPhillippe 12 of 12