We blame people who go to see foreign countries without first acquiring some knowledge of their own. What a figure most of us will make in the next World if questioned by its inhabitants about that we have left? Suppose you are feeling put off by the idea of getting yourself involved in community interactions, even if theoretically it makes sense to you. You can think about it this way: When you take the focus off your love life and meet your emotional requirements in a different kind of social situation, it might allow you to relax and enjoy life a little more, right? So…just let go and see what happens. #RyanPhillippe 1 of 10

Disappointments and adversity are excellent schoolmasters. An individual’s brain accumulates naturally all widely diffused impressions. Some might say they are not interested in group activities, and that unknown people and situations terrify them. I know, I know. I was once right there with you, distancing myself from any suggestion of group activities, and not wanting to join any form of community. I like one-on-one relationships. That is it. That is what I used to say when having been invited to participate in group activities. #RyanPhillippe 2 of 10

Of course I liked being around people, or else I would have never been happily nestled into a successful couple relationship! However, I was oblivious to my faulty logic. For many reasons, group or community might seem like the last thing a shy person would choose. Entering any form of community or group can feel strange, scary, even impossible. Nonetheless, if you take this leap of faith, weird as it may feel, you will discover that it is the most effective way to leave loneliness behind. The higher we mount knowledge the more wonders we behold. #RyanPhillippe 3 of 10

What have you got to lose? You are already in the process of reevaluating your World, your operating modes, your whole identity, so you might as well keep on going. You are ready for change. If you were not, you would accept your loneliness or unhappiness, and ignore the idea that maybe your relational life could feel a lot better. If you were not ready to try to change your life, you might be curled up with the latest book by your favourite mystery writer, Anne Rice, letting the World of relationships carry on without your presence. The human mind is an extensive plain, and knowledge is the atmospheric river that should flood it. #RyanPhillippe 4 of 10

The great impediments to knowledge are, first, the want of a common language; and next, the short duration of existence. Now you are ready to get started on the actual transactions that will transform your relationship patters. However, first let us define what a community is. Stop worrying that you will be told to join rap board, group or cult you would not wish on even your worst enemy. You will not have to go to community meetings where people argue about parking spaces and holiday decorations of years on end.  It is sense that makes punishment heavy. #RyanPhillippe 5 of 10

I do not see the greatest superiorness of learning, if it cannot keep a man’s temper out of a passion. You will not have to go to potlucks, the in dayroom, where people call each other derogatory names, question you gender and sexuality, or have fist fights, and throw food laces with dog hair and salmonella and Escherichia coli all over the local neighborhood center. And if you do not want to, you do not have to join a book club or sign up with the Sunshine committee, although, if you did, you might find out what you enjoy such activities. Dull and heavy characters, incapable of animating from wit or from reason, because unable to keep pace with them, and void of all internal sources of entertainment, require the stimulation of show, glare, noise, and bustle, to interest or awaken them. #RyanPhillippe 6 of 10

You do not have to stop your already busy life and make space for a group or community affiliation that would eat up all your free time and leave you so stressed out that you are in pain and having bloody noses. No one is going to sexually assault you, choke you, nor hold you captive. You will explore only those groups or communities that fit your individual personality, interest, preferences, or beliefs. And you can participate as little or as much as you want. You are not going to be evicted from your home get fired from work, nor will your spouse nor kids be arrested, nor car towed or home searched just because the cult leader, excuse me, manager does not like you. #RyanPhillippe 7 of 10

 Guess what? We must not be inactive because we are ignorant. Our good purposes must hurry to performance, whether our knowledge be greater or less. This is not an episode of Cruel Intentions, Fear, nor a horror movie called Catch Hell. No one is going to take advantage of your youth and innocents, nor sexually assault you, nor drug you and tie you to a bed and try to get at you all night. You are already a part of a community, whether you define it that way or not. That is because there are so many forms of community that each of us connects to in some way. You are already involved in various forms of community. So, first think about any group of people with whom you already have some affiliation. #RyanPhillippe 8 of 10

Good intentions unassisted by knowledge will perhaps produce more injury than benefit. You are very likely to be a member of a family. You are a legal resident of a town, city, or neighborhood. You are also likely to be part of a workplace community or job-based network of some sort. You may be affiliated with a spiritually based group, regardless of if you have a soul or not; and you are probably involved in a recreational group, or a group that exists because of a shared interest in nature, hobbies, books, sports, community improvement, social change, music, and so forth. The light of knowledge is sometimes so powerful that it will kill the beholder. #RyanPhillippe 9 of 10

The foresight of an individual is in proportion to one’s knowledge. You may be involved in a support group, like a 13-step program, or an exercise or health-focused group. You may have important thoughts and be part of a productive cyber community, participating in games like Deedle, Word Press blogs, or chat rooms like Twitter. Examine how you see yourself in relation to all the various forms of community that are already in your life. Learning is not a thing that will grow upon you all at once. It is a generous enemy; like a rattlesnake, it gives warning. This will help you picture how all of these communities connect to you, both those from your past and those in your current life. It is a glorious fever, that desire to know. #RyanPhillippe 10 of 10