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Secrets and Lies of a Broken Heart

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Think over your prayers; for He to whom you make the, knows all tongue; that of the heart as we as those of the mouth. Some people must think the Almighty very ignorant, for they never kneel down to speak to him without feeling themselves called upon to explain to him the whole plan of salvation, creation, and damnation: subjects on which, one might suppose, he would be better informed than themselves.

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The greatest merit any person could have is to be good and useful. We are all experts on ourselves. We know how we perceive the World, how we respond emotionally, how we generally relate to others. I always have high energy, physically. I have rapid responses to all forms of stimulation through my sense, and my energy level ranges from active to hyper, even with the natural brakes of getting older.

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My rapid response system means that I feel physical pain and physical pleasure very quickly and very intensely. It also means that I have trouble staying still. I have a generally heightened awareness of sounds, smells, tactile sensations, my visual surroundings, and even taste.

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The good news about my heightened awareness is that I easily take in so much of whatever is pleasurable. The bad news is that I am uncomfortably sensitive to negative experiences. At the biological level, I am easily stimulated. I have a low pain threshold, and a strong negative response to loud noises, bad smells, or unpleasant taste.

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Past experiences buried and lost from our conscious memory can be a third eye, yet unrecognized, cause for worry. For some people, event-based anxieties are linked to the trauma of war, abuse, or an accident. For others, it is a series of negative experiences with parents, teachers, siblings, or peers that have left invisible scars.

Because I am constantly taking in so much of what is happening around me, I am better prepared to see and react to danger than many other people. On the other hand, it is sometimes energetically draining to be so hypervigilant; there are too many ordinary situations where my immediate impulse is to rescue, protect, freeze, or flee.

I love honest people who are gentle and enthusiastic, and can express their feelings, even when they are not good, without becoming angry or hostile. This guy called Paul fell in love with his best friend, Michelle. It took him five or six years to admit he loved her. When he made a confession about his feelings, despondently, Michelle rejected him.

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However, Paul remained calm and simply stated, “I am not okay right now,” after having his heart broken in front of a crowd. Every time someone does something right, we should notice them and comment enthusiastically about what they did. I think it was so cute of him to be a big enough man to openly communicate his feelings, without being angry.

If you are ever in a situation that makes you feel uneasy, move into a comfortable place where your body and mind feel relaxed. Think about something that is going on in your life right now that is really bothering you. Let yourself concentrate on the details of who or what is really disturbing you. Tell yourself that it is okay to briefly focus on this distressing situation or person because you are not going to stay there.

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Some people who do not address their pain, joy, or emotions end up in a very bad place. For instance, former Bachelor contestant, Lex McAllister, killed herself after having her heartbroken. Just acknowledging that makes me feel sad. One of the biggest problems in life is people do not communicate because they are fearful.

Learning to gently deepen your awareness will allow you to get beyond your fear and begin to work with issues that may have caused your years of emotional and mental pain. Because of what I have been through, I do not feel comfortable going to the doctor or visiting friends.

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Currently, people are encouraged to accept the idea that they are required to face some of those emotions and memories that they had successfully avoided facing in the past by means of denial or dissociation. Do not worry—you will not be forced to excavate old wounds and dive down into your deepest fears, anxieties, or losses.

This is just a gentle wake-up call to remind you that by gradually becoming more aware of your uncomfortable areas of experience, you will not have to keep working so hard to keep pain in its cage and eventually you will begin to feel less lonely.

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He will never leave us or forsake us. Worry is often a solitary burden. We tend to carry it alone. The more we worry, the more alone and helpless we feel. However, if we are the children of God, we are never away from our Father’s watchful eyes and reach. Stay on the designated path, please. No matter how long the road is, no matter where I am, I will give you my sincerest blessing. May we have a brighter future and make greater progress.

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