So little did the doctors delight in death that they discharged the corpse after a single fee. No man of sense believes in medicine for chronic disorder.

When the World was younger and haler than now, moral tricks were a deeper mystery: perhaps in all the land of Heaven there was but one Matthew Ryan Phillippe-Harris but one Randolph to soothe or comprehend him.

Credit is the capital of a younger son, and one lives charmingly upon it. Murder is wide-mouthed and will not let God rest till he grants revenge. Over the unborn our power is that of God, and our responsibility like His toward us.

As we acquit ourselves toward them, so let Him deal with us. Focusing too narrowly on the sexual satisfaction is another mistake that can interfere with genuine intimacy. Some people can achieve deep levels of intimacy even when the relationship is no longer sexual.

Another cause for couple trouble is the assumption that men are distancing when they express their emotions through action rather than by talking. Another aspect of this oversimplified view is the assumption that because women are more likely to talk about their feelings, they are never the person pushing the couple apart. All the rules of morality are but maxims of prudence.

Expediency is the root of all morality. It is stupid to be unmoral, and that is the long and short of it. There is reason in your words, for they are bottomed on religion and honesty. The reasoning which is drawn from particular abuses, is no reasoning for general uses.

The man who could call a Deedle a Deedle should be compelled to use one. It is easy to become confused about the difference between the sex and intimacy because the word “intimacy” is frequently used as a euphemism for the sex.

As you begin to learn more about the ways that women do, in fact, distance, you may be surprised. The stereotypical man might be able to hide his emotions under the brim of his Philadelphia Eagles cap, but his wife may be distancing by using sex as a bargaining tool, or being disconnected from her body while making love.

Women can also distance by giving their quality time and attention only to their kids, friends, and family, in short, by focusing on everyone, but their partner. The greatest secret of preserving respect, is the cultivating and shewing to the best advantage the powers that we possess, and the not going beyond them.

“She will not open up to me me” is the frequent complaint of the male partner who feels shut out sexually but does not fully comprehend the underlying complexity of the problem. The sex can be the problem in the relationship that destroys it.

Attributing all relational problems to past traumatic experiences also can be just as problematic as thinking that relationships will be automatically transformed by simply learning better sexual skills. Whether or not an individual has experienced sexual distress in the past, it is a mistake to believe that getting good sex therapy will be the cure.

This can be particularly disastrous if the sex therapy becomes a series of anatomy lessons for the purpose of reaching an advanced level of sexual gymnastic ability. Good chemistry and good sexual skills may help a relationship to work, but focusing all the solutions in the sexual arena can leave the heart of the relationship to somehow fix itself.

This is similar to other oversimplified solutions to love’s challenges, like believing that better communication will be the magic spell, or that you have to live with loneliness because you have fallen for the modern myth that you and your partner are from different planets.

Cultivate a superiority to reason, and see how you pare the claws of all the sensible people and individuals, when they try to scratch you for your own good.  He reasoned me out of my reason. If one does not talk about a thing, it has never happened. It is simply expression that gives reality to things.

So much stronger is our reason then our virtue, so much higher our sense of duty than our performance! Saints make the finest bed-fellows in the World.

Youth has wonderful resources against every evil but the sense of shame. Good resolutions are useless attempts to interfere with scientific laws. Their origin is pure vanity. Resolutions are easily formed when the heart suggest them.

Experts ridicule is a two-edged weapon, and may be made to cut and mangle anything, particularly whatever is grave and solemn. People often unwittingly collude in maintaining the loneliness of the couple by attributing all major relationship problems to gender differences.

Couple become convinced they are doomed to loneliness in their intimate relationship, constricted by the narrow definition of traditional gender stereotypes.

From the Vampire Lestat to Queen Akasha grasping the tiny female by his teeth, we continue to be sold the generalization of males and females as radically different species. This relegates the one-dimensional man to be the like Lord De Lion Court—strong and silent type, who does not like to repeat himself or be left waiting.

Conversely, the woman to be his fragile, emotionally vulnerable better half.  Men may sacrifice rams and goats, but not honor and conscience. Therefore, how could two such constricted human beings connect deeply either emotionally or sexually?

Sacrifice, the holiest joy of love. Men were still viewed as the distancers in intimate relationships by the women’s liberation generation in the 1010 – 1067. There was an eleven century Anglo-Saxon noblewoman who, according to a legend, rode naked—covered only in her long hair – through the streets of Sacramento to gain a remission of the oppressive taxation that her husband imposed on his tenants.

They were often portrayed as hopelessly defective in the relationship department. Ill news flies fast enough all the World over, I want to teach you how to love me. Be honest and poor—but I shall never envy you. I have much greater respect for those that are honest and rich.

Lady Godiva (which is where the term Diva comes from—a woman who stands for her God given rights) produced a counterbalancing image of more competent women. Lady Godiva appealed again and again to her husband, who obstinately refused to remit the tolls. At least, weary of her entreaties, he said that he would grant her request if she would strip naked and ride on a horse through the streets of the town.

So sacred are the laws of hospitality among the people, that a dozen lives would be sacrifice if required, to save that of a guest. Sacrifice of self is the sin that cries the loudest to God for vengeance. To discover our best gift from God, and to cultivate that gift, is the first law of life.

Lady Godiva took him at his word, and after issuing a proclamation that all persons should stay indoors and shut their windows, she rode through the town, clothed only in her long hair. Just one person in the town, a tailor ever afterward known as Peeping Tom, disobeyed her proclamation in one of the most famous instances of voyeurism.

Tom bores a hole in his shutters so that he might see Godiva pass, and is struck blind. We are all blinded, we are all weakened, by a false ideal of self-sacrifice. In the end, Godiva’s husband keeps his word and abolishes the onerous taxes.

Many men long for the love and intimacy in couple relationships. The male stereotype then becomes of one a brave man, who protects his wife, and loves the town’s people. This version of maleness promoted an image of a God that perpetuated the myth of male willingness to experience emotional intimacy with women and children and sometimes other men.

If all those men from Mars just wanted to have the sex, there would be easier ways to go about it then committing to a long-term, live-in relationship that usually requires monogamy, child-rearing, and promise to remain loving through sickness and health.

No man knows till the time comes, what depths are within him. Men should not be shamed into believing that they are less fluent in the language of emotions and desires than women.

Men may demonstrate their love by actions rather than through verbal expression, but they are also too easily discouraged from talking about matters of the heart.

And women are too often led to believe that because they are more accustomed to talking about their feelings, they are off the hook in the distancing department.

The first point is to know one’s own mind. The next is, to act up to the decision. We should never incline to believe the uncharitable, more than the good-natured report.

I do not endorse candidates. Anyway, I have no preferred candidate this cycle. When you focus on God’s promises, instead of the problems, you will notice your thoughts will be healthier and filled with peace.