We grow up expecting to be enthralled by true love. We grow up watching fairy tales, listening to popular songs, watching romantic movies like “Sleepless in Seattle,” and looking at advertisements such as Eharmony and learn that love is exciting and glamorous, but it often ends up breaking your heart. Some people ask, if love hurts so much, why do I risk deepening relational vulnerability?

Glimmering pictures of blissful love is too often followed by bitter disillusionment and heartache, leaving one feeling like, “How can I get through to you?” Paris feels like she is doomed, never to experience the fairy-tale rapture of true love, and even if she does experience it, she fears that love might vanish instantly like a dream.

The first year of your relationship is supposed to be the best, it is supposed to be full of romance, passion, and good memories. However, I sat down with a couple who has a bad romance, and this is what I discovered. This young lady called Paris was very in love with this guy.

She would go out of her way to write him love letters every day and go out of her way to do things for him, but the first year of their relationship, he allegedly cheated on her several times, and his friends just totally disrespected her, and her husband called Will still hung out with them and made them a priority, over their relationship. And Paris still was still willing to do anything for him.

As their one year anniversary approach, Paris now feels like her marriage to Will is more of a business because he does not really do much for her, and they go months without seeing each other, and he always needs help with his job, so she has to work every day just to make him happy.

Paris says that her marriage and the thing his friends and her friend have done will forever change the way see feels about the people in her life. She still loves her friends, but someone of them said some cruel things, which made her back away from them, and she does not feel the same towards them. Paris also complains that there is no romance in her marriage, it just seems to mechanical.

Nonetheless, Paris sticks with her husband, and loves him, but admits the romance is gone and it seems more like a business deal. As if she is an employee, and he is her boss. Paris and Will fight a lot because their friends are extremely jealous and keep trying to do things to break them up.

This is Paris’s first relationship and it is not at all what she expected. She used to day dream about what her future with Will would be like, but now the focus is looking happy and taking it day by day, unsure of what to expect. Will is often working and constantly taking trips out of town, so they sometimes go a long while without seeing each other.

Many of the obstacles to happiness in loving relationships arise from friends or incomplete solutions. Since people first began pursuing and rejecting their mates, other people have probably been giving them advice about love. Yet with all this attention that we humans give to love, animals seem to be much more successful than we are.

Why do we have such a hard time making love work for us? The most common thing to do to improve your relationship is to communicate and spend time together. Paris says she just want to walk into the sunset where she and Will can live happily ever after.

To improve your relationship, choose fifteen minutes from each day when you will not be interrupted by children, work, nor friends. Talk to each other about your feelings and be honest. Lovingly listen to each other, and find ways to communicate your support for each other.

Paris admits that she loves her husband and she would not leave him for the World and that being with him has made her smarter, stronger, and she looks better than ever. However, there are some deep-seated reasons why they are not as happy as they should be. Through excessive dedication to their jobs and life-styles, Paris and Will live in a state of complete psychological divorce.

She feels like the human companionship and source of love is missing from her life. Loneliness and grief often overwhelm her, and the toll take on their hearts can clearly be seen. As the mortality statistics indicate, this is no myth or romantic fairy tale—all available evidence suggests that people do indeed die of broken hearts.

Real cost of a deep personal love, for another human being, can only be seen in the shattering loss that is felt when that love is suddenly and permanently taken away. A few hundred years ago, grief was openly recognized as a cause of death. However, a broken hear would never be listed as a cause of death in any hospital. So be sure to express how much you love the person you are with.

I must admit that it is true, I go out of my way to do anything for you because baby I want you to know that I have gotten so close and I require you to show me a sign. When it is lobe that is on my mind, I would die for you. I have been dying just to feel you by my side. To know that you are mine. I believe that our love is something pure and true. I see your face every place that I walk in.

I look at other people with blonde hair and blue eyes and stare at the as if they are you. I hear your voice every time that I am talking, you will believe in me and I will believe in you. I will burn for you (like the Christmas roast and pizza), I will feel pain for you. Our love is one iconic like Angel and Buffy. Instead of pulling us apart, they pushed us closer together. I will never let go.