Love is the heart of harmony, the connecting chain that links the whole frame of being; it is the glory of nature, and the very perfection of human kind. There are a myriad of reasons why each of us takes the same time we do to finally change our unhappiness in our relationships. It does not matter if you are sixteen or sixty—you can change your patterns if you want to. Something of the things we may want to change about ourselves comes from our own personalities, while others may have come from bad advice and incomplete solutions to solving the dilemma of intimacy. There might be a more miserable torture than to be solitary forever. Ever wonder why people hold hands of a loved one when they are in the hospital, in recovery, or getting over a break up? Think of having a single companion in eternity, and instead of having any consolation, or at all events variety of torture, to see your own weary, weary sin repeated in that inseparable soul.

There was a series of interviews conducted with people who had recently ended their relationships or become ill, and they had premonitions that they were going to die imminently. All the participants in the study succumbed almost precisely when they predicted they would. Although they differed widely in the seriousness of their conditions (some were not even in critical condition) all had one thing in common: they were lonely and isolated. Death held more appeal for these patients than did life because it promised either reunion with lost love, resolution of long conflict, or respite from anguish. Each patient was emotionally isolated during the final admission. Their loneliness was of several different kinds: one businessman had never known emotional intimacy; another man had exiled himself from his family. One woman had suffered successive deaths of her husband and members of her family; another woman had repudiated all but the most formal relationships throughout her life; a young girl had not only lost a close friend by death but was deserted by her physicians and family. So these people lost their will to live and they are no more as a result of the loss of loving relationships and contacts.

Human contact seemed to be all the more important to people in very intense environments, and it seems to be the factor that keeps them alive. A 40-year-old single man, called Ben Crawford, survived a heart attack said that he could not recognize a single familiar person on his street, where he had lived for several years. While Ben claimed to be only slightly lonely, he could only list a single person we were able to contact in case he suddenly moved. You always remember your love, but Ben did not seem to know anyone else who would be even slightly interested in him. However, Ben expressed that it made him feel very good to know someone was concerned about him, expressed the will to live, and that will is fueled by human concern and human companionship.