Sometimes in life, we all require a Superman. Being an adult is not easy, you have responsibilities, limitations, and there is no one you can turn to for help. People do you wrong, they might seriously hurt, and walk away free as a bird, while you suffer the consequences and financial losses. Then you have others compound your injuries by putting you through unreasonable stress, and irrational deadlines, and you are doing the absolute best you can. And on top of that, you have to keep your face and body in picture perfect shape, not that a relationship would change this, but being in a relationship, you know someone will love you unconditionally. Whereas when you are single, people want perfection.

And on top of that, you have been working so hard to achieve a career, and after ten years, you know you are burnt out and tired, and if and when it does come along will you even be able to handle it? These are the fears that real adults face, life is not easy, and when you see others faking injuries, or walking around making life hard for others, it really upsets you.

Some people cannot even take pain medication or anti-anxiety medication because of the side effects, and are not making enough money and have no idea how they are going to get by in the future. Sometimes people have injuries you cannot see, other time people are perfectly fine and just want a free ride, and they fly under the radar, and it really upsets some that they are trying so hard and facing so much scrutiny. I know you hear this all the time, “Life is not fair,” but that is an incorrect statement. God created the World and we all have equal opportunities, life is very fair, we are born alive, what is not fair is the way people treat us.

There is this lady, and I am really not a big fan of hers, but as expected, if you are vulnerable, and people know it, they will prey on you, so put forth the strongest outlook you can and never complain, and never let too many people know your business, not even your siblings, trust me on that. So back to this lady, she worked hard all her life, and did some very questionable things, and quite possibly illegal things to advance. Then she had a side relationship going on for about 14 years, while she was married, and no one knew about it.

Anyway, this guy really took hold of her and turned her out, until she became a totally different person. She still pretends to be kind and innocent, but truth be told she is a cold hearted thug. Anyway, I guess she fell in love with this guy old enough to be her father, while she was married, she even introduced her husband to him, as he was her “boss” then a year later, out of the blue she divorced him, and married just weeks after her divorce. It was a shock to everyone. The man is pretty well off financially. However, all along the women was still playing the role of a good Christian lady, and everyone feared she was in some kind of trouble, or that he had something on her and forced her into a marriage, but that was not the case.

As time went on, it became clear she had changed and was happy with the decisions she made in life. And she told everyone, “I have worked so hard all of my life, and I want to be taken care of for once.” And I can understand that, I can even relate to that, but I will never forget the things she did and keeps doing to her loved one’s behind their backs to take them down. So, I am sure her first marriage was rough, she got beat a lot and cheated on all the time, and I suppose it changed the way she viewed love.

She saw love as nothing more than a business deal, and saw certain male family members and even the matriarch of family as her competition and as Automatic Teller Machines. She pretends to still love them, and I am sure she does, but at the same time she wants nothing more to break them down and make them pay for the life she decided to live. Other people have problems they cannot escape from. So, never turn your back on your family, never set your family up to fall just because you hitched your ghetto booty to a new financial resource.

I understand love, in this era has changes, and most people are out to see what they can get, and those who actually feel real love are often left hurting or being preyed on. However, also never become like the people who hurt you. You may not be famous, you might be and love, but want to cut someone off because you do not understand what they are doing and have been hurt in the past, but that person you are in love with might just be one of your biggest fans, and think about how much it would hurt you, if for example, Paris Hilton was your role model and she totally disrespected you, and would not let you look at her pictures or see her work.

So, just take it for what it is and someday, the right person will come along, but in the meanwhile, let your fan enjoy you, you are not going to lose anything by allowing them to admire you. And as for everything else, keep trying, use your time well, and as my mother always tells me, “Walk in faith, not by sight. Appreciate the few things you have and God will make you ruler over many.” At times, we all betray someone, for whatever reason, and it does not feel good. Hopefully you fan will forgive you and that bond will be sealed by a plasticizer called love and respect.

And just like some have people in their ears telling them what is bad for their career and image, others do, too. What you have to understand is some are just apprentices and it really bothers their superiors when they get involved in any kind of relationship because it the past, the heart has been what people used to truly hurt that person, and it really embarrasses the network. And I know you sometimes see disfigured people walking around with a good looking partner, and think to yourself, “Are you Fing serious?” Well, some love imperfections. Hang in there. It could be all these rejects feel it is unfair that you have the American privilege of being so beautiful, smart, and coveted.