With rough grace, he becomes increasingly alive and present, embracing his strength even as he remains in touch on his impact on others and his environment. He realizes that expressing negativity can hurt others, even if it is not directed at them. A lot of men wake up in a great deal of pain every day, but they have responsibilities like a wife, the children, the mortgages, hair appointments, and car payments to satisfy. For many of these hardworking men, it takes an hour just for them to get out of bed because they have crippling pains in their backs and hands, but several of them do not complain, they just get through it. These strong men do not abuse their families, nor do they abuse drugs or alcohol. They remain sober so they do not become addicts. Being a man means supporting whatever stands necessary to sustain integrity, depth, and love. Boys often get a bad reputation. Many accuse immature men of being boys, and not growing up. However, if you look at the average boy, he is loving, sensitive, and kind. He likes to please others and loves attention. So these men that are not growing up are not boys either, they are deviant men. Real mean know that vulnerability is a source of power. It takes strength to have your reputation damaged, to learn to become more sensitive, to make room for miscalculations is a strength truly worthy of cultivating because its presence empowers us to stand our ground when we are emotionally shaken, without placing obstacles in our lives or hardening our hearts. Men remain rationally available. 

Power is the capacity to take action, and personal integrity is something a real man possesses. If they do not bring out the best in you, stay away from them. If they do not bring out the best in you, stay away from them. If they do not bring out the best in you, stay away from them. However, deviant men, who want to be popular, only get a secondhand sense of power because they place their responsibility for themselves and their choices onto others, just as they did in childhood when they submitted to parental expectations and regulations. The difference is boys did not know better, these men know they are wrong, for being so rude and immature, but choose to remain deviant. So in becoming a deviant man, they remain fully entrenched in dysfunction and will never really be a real man because they lack heart and empathy, they are unmanly because they do not embrace their sensitivity and vulnerability. People who participate in the mistreatment of others or watch as a bystander are disgusting. Nonetheless, just like groups of men who stone bear cubs, they will incur the wrath of a much greater force, and if you are watching, you could be caught up in the rapture as well. Be careful in the presence of appalling male displays of power. We expect ourselves and others to bear these sights without showing emotions, we could laugh or joke, but only to demonstrate mastery over the situation. While you watch each other for signs of shakiness or fear, beware of the consequences. An accomplice is someone who helps another person commit a serious crime.

Many times an accomplice is considered just as accountable for the crime as the person who actually committed it. The accomplice may or may not be present at the scene of the crime, and his or her assistance may be provided before, during, or after the crime itself. This person provides assistance before the crime, but is not at the scene while it is being committed. An accomplice who is present while a crime is being committed is usually referred to as an aider and abettor. Such a person, for instance, may serve as a lookout while an assault is taking place. Additionally, he or she may assist a mugger by watching for potential victims and signaling when one is near. However, it is important to note a person is not an accomplice simply because he or she witnesses a crime. Suppose you are browsing in a jewelry store and you see a stranger steal a watch. Even if you fail to report the crime, you are not an accomplice since you do not know the thief and have gained nothing from the crime. Conversely, if you sit back and watch a sexual assault, and do nothing to stop it, nor report it, you could be charged with a crime.  And it is all fine and well to be a nice guy, but do not let people take advantage of you or those you care about. Do not allow yourself to be intimidated. There is a lot of responsibility to being a real man, and may you have a great journey.

One more thing I would like to mention is the community of Sacramento, California feels like their values and way of life is under attack by Mayor Kevin Johnson, but there is power in being vulnerable. Many people are offended because the Mayor of Sacramento is having a parade on 11 September 2015, and using tax payer money. That day is sacred to so many, it is not a day to be celebrated, thousands of Americans lost their lives, people saw body parts falling out of the, and worried if their daughter would make it home from work. What we see is a World dominated by excessive self-control, harness, and unilluminated power. Power asks only for a discerning hand, a taking of the reins that is both free and firm, both fierce and gentle, both daring and tender, both muscular and sensitive. You can be disgusted by Mayor Johnson’s behavior, and let your heart go out to him. They loiter in darkness. While we may struggle to discard him, to finish with him, even to transcend him, reclaim your more tender feelings. Our winning only makes things worse. We are literally encircled by the situation, penned in by it, break free of it, stop paying attention to Mayor Johnson, and simply become fully present, bear cubs. You see what Mayor Kevin Johnson will not, his pain, his lovelessness, his isolation, his darkness.