Through immigration to the Sacramento region, many dreamed of bettering the life they had known in England. Only a minority could expect to marry and rear a family, because marriage had to be deferred until after college (indenture) was completed. In a society so numerically dominated by men, widowed were priced and remarried quickly. Such conditions produced complex families, full of stepchildren and stepparents, half-sisters and half-brothers.

In the common cases of marriage between a widow and a widower, each with children from a previous marriage, the web of family life becomes particularly complex, and the tensions attending child rearing unusually thick.  The household of Robert Beverley, of Midtown Sacramento, illustrates the tangled family relationships. Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater then these.

One day Robert Beverly came home to find bags and boxes brimming with garbage, littering the street of his charming, Sacramento house, alone with dog feces in his lawn, and flyers posted on the front doors of everyone’s house. There were also hand written notes, food cartons, and wrappers on the ground.

Robert says he picked up their trash and boxed up a sampling of it, with a phot of their dumping, and scolded his son and demanded that he and his childish friends clean up the mass they made.

Apparently, Robert’s son has some well-dressed, ritzy people from New York visiting. However, Robert never heard a word of denial or apology from them, but the experience underscored something. One of the best ways to stop feeling victimized is to refuse to roll over and take it like a good perpetrator.

“And I have to say it is hard to keep feeling victimized, while snickering about my son’s stoner friends, when I called up their parents and asked if people littered in Manhattan, New York,” says Robert Beverly. However, the woman lady looks so nice and charming.

You have probably experiences something similar to this piggy behavior in your neighborhood. Sure, there are laws against someone littering on public streets and defecating on your lawn, but the cold part about it is Robert’s son and their friends and girl friends were actually innocent of what they were accused of doing.

It turns out, the neighbor’s, who have the persistently yapping dogs, called themselves spreading holiday cheer, and took it upon themselves to litter all over the neighborhood.

This is not to say that the ladies should be arrested, but some good kids got blamed for something they did not do and they spent a lot of money to come to Sacramento, California, from Manhattan, New York, to be disturbed by some short boorish woman, with a cheap wig, and a smelly dog. It turns out that before Robert snapped at his son, some deranged woman was trying to kick their front door down on New Year’s Day and the police had been summoned.

This is not to say it should be the job of the police to bay sit adults, who are more than likely grandparents, and it does not have to be that if we just understand and accept an essential fact about human nature: Most people are fallible, faulty up, and full of frailty. And that is on a good day. We want what we want and we would like for other people to shut up and scurry out of our way so we can get it already.

As depressing as it may seem to see ourselves like this, being honest about our individuality and autonomy is the best way to personally not engage in dramas or conflict, and to decrease greenhouse admissions—and frankly maybe prevent blow ups and conflicts.

Frankly, if you get off on the wrong foot with one of your neighbors, a good fence will need to be pattered. Many of us make the mistake of keeping ourselves until a neighbor does something annoying. Bad idea. If your first contact with the guy next door is letting him know how rude he is, you encourage him to achieve his natural potential for doom and gloom and chaos.

However, better neighbor relations, instead, start with canny strategizing and proactive neighborliness. The truth is that scheming does not have to require anyone getting sued, beat up or arrested. In fact, you canpersuade your neighbors for the greater good, and it will have benefits for you also.

If you are sacrificing for somebody unrelated, you get an increase in your good reputation, as long as others see what you are truly caring and trying to help, and this will probably also increase yourself respect, as long as you do not hurt anyone.

In all ages, it hath been a favorite text that a potent love that the nature of an isolated fatality, whereto the mind’s opinions and wonted resolves are altogether alien. Yet love is not such, even though potent; nay, this passion hath as large scope as any for allying itself with every operation of the soul: so that it shall acknowledge an effect from the imagined light of unproven firmaments, and have its scale set to the grander orbits of what hath been and shall be. Yet for all this, his anger is not turned away, his hand they sought the LORD Almighty.

A little calculated generosity can also help you deter all sorts of ungodly behavior from those living around you. When a new neighbor moves in, buy them a plate of cupcakes, store bought, and give them to them. That way you know they are cooked in a certified kitchen and safe. Then if you have an unholy spirit, who gets sick, the blame is not on you. Just check the expiration date.  The brocks have fallen down, but we will rebuild them with dressed stone; the fig trees have been felled, but we will replace the, with cedars.

My nature varies: the mood of one hour is sometimes the mockery of the next. She had different moods for different people. People who go in for being consistent have just as many moods as others have.

And do not forget to look out for those who have been living around you for a while. Text them when they have forgotten to move their car on a street-cleaning day, instead of stealing the wheels, slashing the tires, and busting out the windows, and scratching the paint with stones.

When their package gets chucked in your bushes, bring it to their door. Do not knock at their door, unless you know them well, have coffee with them, or something very good happened or there is an emergency. However, never step foot on your neighbor’s property, without their permission, and never damage their property.

Respect your neighbor by trying to make your home look like it is out of Better Home and Gardens. It is not only nice to be nice, it is in your best self-interest. A lot of European Americans are very nice, professional and friendly, but it does not mean they like you, nor that they want to be your friend, they are just being civil.

Civilization is arbitrary, meaning one thing in France, another thing at Capitol Terrace, and still a third in South Sacramento (Oakland). Not all African Americans like other African Americans, nor do they see you as family. You are just the people next door, who they respect, but as far as being friends and hanging out, they are usually cool. They do not like gossip or drama or poverty and sad stories. Stay in your lane, be professional and mind your own business.

There is a growing body of research suggesting that doing kind acts for others gives you a helper’s high and makes you feel happier and more satisfied with your own life. Plus, in the time spent going to Nicky Hilton or Safeway, to purchase cupcakes for your new neighbor, you are putting good into the World: making them feel welcome and creating a community, and generating or reinforcing a social norm for neighborliness.

At the same time, you are also inoculating yourself against that person suddenly getting all ghetto and started a lifelong blood-feud on your because your sprinklers killed their nap.

The good law will come with a better civilization; but before society can be civilized, it has to be de-barbarized. A little preemptive gift-giving can have such a transformative effect, thanks to our powerful drive to reciprocate.

A couple of million years ago, in the harsh environment in which we evolved (concrete jungle), being seen as a mooch, a ticket holding friend of Dorothy, a snitch, or poor hygiene could mean getting evicted from your house—and a likely death sentence. If truth and justice, and the better principles of our nature, cannot exist unless enforced by the statue-book, how are we to account for the social conditions of Capitol Terrace?

Being an easy mark posed other survival and mating issues. To keep our giving in balance, humans developed a built-in social bookkeeping department called inventory cost flow methods in perpetual inventory systems. Each of the inventory cost flow methods will be used in their mind programs, prior to each interaction to evaluate how they feel about you. There is some voice in their heads, which alerts them when someone is hustling them or prying for information.

Just because Robert had time to chat with you on 15 September 2014, does not mean this will be consistent behavior on 1 January 2015, and when 15 April 2015 comes around, you may want to stay out of his way, as he is calculating how much the property damages and taxes cost him this year.

And on 25 August 2015, the inventory in the first-in, first-out, method of perpetual system is shown in illustration.

The results under first-in, first-out, in a perpetual system are the same as in a periodic system ( if the ending inventory is $5,800.00 and the cost of goods sold is $6,200.00) you already know how my day is going, now get out of my way. Regardless of the system, the first costs in are the cost assigned to cost of goods sold.

Wake up, Buffon! When someone is mooching off of us, we will get mad and try to even the score. When someone does something nice for us, our inner Certified Financial Accountant Matt Henderson, cranks up the feelings of obligation, and we feel more generous and loving.

However, if a TV soap actress moved in next door to me and started throwing all-night backyard boogies, complete with campfire-style guitar sing-alongs, asking her to be more considerate would be useless. They way see saw it, why should her neighbor’s silly design and sleeping hobby take precedence over her fliers and drunken friends and have smelly butt sex, this is her land, no matter if it is 3am, the street corner, or your house.

However, you may want to warn your neighborly neighbor, the next time she tries to kick down your front door again, that she is not very considerate of those who live around her, but do not think she should be robbed because of it.

“Hey, I just wanted to let you know some friends of mine were staying over New Year’s Day, and we were having Bible study when you tried to break in to my house. I have alerted the authorities, but do not want them to rob you of your freedom. They may be an APB issued for you.”

Sitting in a lawn chair, by your front door, with your twin hell hounds, and a shotgun is a highly effective way to keep passing dog walkers from letting their pooch violate your lawn, however, should you find this impractical, you might take advantage of our evolved concern for preserving our reputation and contact the city about the problem, possibly improving their behavior accordingly.

Confronting a neighbor can be tricky. A self-important ABC reporter, started walking his dog down my street at 5am—while shouting realbiz lingo into his phone at his colleagues, in different time zones. He stopped after I typed a note in big letters, printed it on hot pink paper, and posted it on my fence: “Hey, Barbara Walters, it is 5am and you are on your cell phone, the houses on this block are real, not a Hollywood set, but real home with real people trying to sleep in their bedrooms. Thank you.”

In the many conflicts, like when the guy next door leaves his trash cans in front of your property, the injury we feel is largely symbol. Sure, no one wants old trash cans just sitting in the streets, but that is not such a big deal. Deep down, we are all large, easily wounded children. More than anything, we want to be treated like we matter. Take the case of Carol. From time to time, her children’s balls would flew over the fence, and into my son’s bedroom.

The first time, I knocked on Carol’s door, gave her some wine and said we would chat soon. The lady seemed friendly, and she let them back into the backyard. But, the next few times, the balls were tossed back over the fence, slashed.

Creepy and really mean, this is not a horror movie abound in a nightmare of blood. Camp Crystal Lake has been shuttered for over 20 years due to the several vicious and unsolved murders.

And for some reason, the camp’s new owner and several young counselors are readying the property for re-opening despite the warnings of a death curse and its creative and horrifying murder sequences, by local residents.

However, in trying to resolve conflict—even when people act horror-movie ugly to your children—it helps to try to consider where they are coming from. For example, do the balls maybe bounce against the windows, startling the lady?

Is she infirm, making it hard for her to get to the backyard and throw the balls back over? It is possible that she is just an awful person, but by trying to call up empathy you will deflate some of your anger—improving your ability to approach the offending party in a calm, solution-optioned way.

The pen tends to be a far less inflammatory than face-to-face conversation. A handwritten note about an issues puts time and distance between you, your criticism, and the criticize person, giving them the chance to cool down and respond in a more reasoned way. And yes, it is best to handwrite your message rather than email it, which makes it too easy for you to dash off something rash and for your neighbor to dash back an angry reply.

I would suggest that this neighbor, who is causing all this conflicts and fights, write a card with an apology, expressing empathy for the neighbor and saying the kids were trying to do better. She might even include a $125 Starbucks card to make up for the flight one of Robert’s sons innocent friends missed as he was trying to avoid being sent to boarding school, for cutting up in Sacramento.

Those Chinamen knew what they were about when they refused to let in our Western civilization. Draw near God and He will draw near to you. It is essential that you give people the opportunity to act on the truth of God. The responsibility must be left with the individual—you cannot act for him. It must be his own deliberate mind program that wants to be good, but even the evangelical message should always lead him to action. Refusing to act leave a person paralyzed, exactly where he was previously.

However, once he acts, he is never the same. The moments I truly live are the moments when I act with my entire will. Let the savages be civilized, but civilize them with benefits, and not with evils; and let heathenism be destroyed, but not by destroying the heathen.

It is not until sometime later that Robert learned of the truth, and the story was pieced together. By the way, do NOT make drug deals over the phone nor email nor text message. Not even slang.

Visually, it clear that an important event was taking place. Everyone was carefully dressed in newly washed clothes. My son, extremely nervous, hardly talked to anyone, even though everyone else in their household was most attentive to his every movement. Before noon, two guests arrived.

One was an old, stocky, and quite savage woman of plain features, she was considerable older than my sex and her and her older male friends have been physically attacking him and trying to force themselves on him. As my son was done with his meal, he went to shower, and his two sisters prepared to leave.

The family was waiting to say good-bye when that short, dirty, foul smelling woman, Carol started kicking on the front door. The sister’s called their boyfriend and got my son out of the shower because they thought that someone was trying to break in. They are not his real sister’s, but friends from Vassar College. At that point, my son withdrew completely from the discussion and rested.

For every advantage she imparts, Civilization hold a hundred evils in reserve. Kind of like the way on drugs, which started in the late 1980s. Prior to the war on drugs, people bubbled on the drug game, but the war on drugs to the drugs and money, from the street dealers, and put it in the hands of corporations, and you are all now having trouble getting jobs because the drug bubble, tech bubble, and housing bubble got the air sucked out of them.